Breastfeeding in Public....
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I have to be honest. I gave zero f!@$s when my kid was hungry. I should really explain to a 6 month old baby that he has to eat under a hot blanket because other adult humans may be uncomfortable with him continuing to have food to live?
I shouldn't go to the grocery store or the doctor or anyplace else because there is a chance my kid might get hungry?
Screw anyone that thinks that. They aren't worth me doing anything for their comfort.
You know what I don't like? Watching fat people eat. Or handicapped people. That's gross.
Now of course I don't actually think that but why is it anymore acceptable to criticize a woman for feeding her kid.0 -
Is it just me or is all this milk talk making you hungry!?
Guess it is just me.
haha. It's cool, TrueRay.
And the word milk makes me go straight to coffee.
because for me, everything revolves around coffee..
and yes, I did put my breastmilk in my coffee
Speaking of coffee, I heard breast milk taste like puke. I definitely need to sample it for myself with my future wife ahaha. Purely for scientific purposes only.
Well, ok. I will get technical here.
When it first comes out, it is more watery and full of antibodies and stuff. Later it becomes more creamy.
I only ever tasted the watery stuff and it didn't taste too good. I also think, rather ironically, that I had a food allergy to it because it made my throat scratchy.
ETA: I could tell you some other fun stuff about it. For example, I could squirt it about 5 feet.0 -
I say yay, with an asterisk. It is wonderful as long as you are discrete about it. I once saw a woman breastfeeding in the food court at the mall with absolutely no concern for her modesty, absolutely everything was out there. Which is whatever I guess, except that this woman then made a HUGE scene because she caught a boy(11- 13 or so yrs old) eating with his parents glancing at her. It was shameful, she embarrassed this kid and his parents to death. I twas terrible, and I cant help but think if she was so concerned about that she should perhaps cover up a bit.0
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ETA: I could tell you some other fun stuff about it. For example, I could squirt it about 5 feet.
Now that would be a sight to see.0 -
I don't mind. I've done it. But I will laugh if a woman just whips it out without a cover-up. As we respect a woman's need to feed her child she should also be aware and respectful of her surroundings. I just think it should be done with finesse (and most women do). If ever possible, use a nursing room. I did just because they're so peaceful and relaxing.0
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Is it just me or is all this milk talk making you hungry!?
Guess it is just me.
haha. It's cool, TrueRay.
And the word milk makes me go straight to coffee.
because for me, everything revolves around coffee..
and yes, I did put my breastmilk in my coffee
Speaking of coffee, I heard breast milk taste like puke. I definitely need to sample it for myself with my future wife ahaha. Purely for scientific purposes only.
Well, ok. I will get technical here.
When it first comes out, it is more watery and full of antibodies and stuff. Later it becomes more creamy.
I only ever tasted the watery stuff and it didn't taste too good. I also think, rather ironically, that I had a food allergy to it because it made my throat scratchy.
ETA: I could tell you some other fun stuff about it. For example, I could squirt it about 5 feet.
Okay, thank you for this but some odd reason I don't feel like sampling it anymore ahaha but watching you squirt it 5 feet especially in a bowl or something would be interesting ahaha.0 -
Just in case there are young people here lurking who are genuinely open to understanding how this works, let's talk seriously about it for a minute:
Breasts produce milk based upon how much a child suckles. If a mother feeds a baby formula, her breasts will produce less milk in the future based upon the lack of demand, leading to a need to supplement with more formula. This doesn't mean the occasional bottle when a mom is out on a rare date night is going to mean that breastfeeding is over forever, but it's not a good idea as a general policy, unless you are trying to ween.
With very young babies, bottles can sometimes cause "nipple confusion," the baby adjusts to the easier flow of a synthetic nipple and has a difficult time latching on and nursing properly. When babies are first born they need to learn to latch onto a nipple and nurse, this can be a more complicated process than you might imagine.
Pumping is a great option for breastfeeding women who work outside of the house, if it works for them. Pumping does not work for all women, however (did not work for me, at all), the equipment is expensive, the same concerns about nipple confusion apply, and you are still missing nursing sessions which throws the milk production schedule out of whack.
Also, babies who are exclusively or almost exclusively breastfed may freak mightily when unexpectedly offered a bottle in public, which is a lot more disturbing than a quiet nurse.
For all of the above reasons, "just give the baby a bottle" is not a great option for a breastfeeding mom when she is out in public, when the simplest, most economical and healthiest solution is really obvious and only requires that the rest of the world mind its own business.
WELL SAID! Another point about pumping is that it's not as easy as it sounds when it comes to the amount of milk. My daughter will draw more from the breast than the pump and if I try to pump a bottle she needs 4 oz, which is not easy to get. It's hard enough to keep up with a supply while I'm at work, never mind pumping just to make others comfortable. I also have to say to the ignorant people that say to feed the baby in the bathroom - why don't you take your dinner to the bathroom? That is disgusting and rude to suggest.0 -
Is it just me or is all this milk talk making you hungry!?
Guess it is just me.
haha. It's cool, TrueRay.
And the word milk makes me go straight to coffee.
because for me, everything revolves around coffee..
and yes, I did put my breastmilk in my coffee
Speaking of coffee, I heard breast milk taste like puke. I definitely need to sample it for myself with my future wife ahaha. Purely for scientific purposes only.
Well, ok. I will get technical here.
When it first comes out, it is more watery and full of antibodies and stuff. Later it becomes more creamy.
I only ever tasted the watery stuff and it didn't taste too good. I also think, rather ironically, that I had a food allergy to it because it made my throat scratchy.
ETA: I could tell you some other fun stuff about it. For example, I could squirt it about 5 feet.
Okay, thank you for this but some odd reason I don't feel like sampling it anymore ahaha but watching you squirt it 5 feet especially in a bowl or something would be interesting ahaha.
when it's your wife, you should try just to try.
also, I could squirt 5 feet, but the aim is a little weird. It comes out more like a five way spray hose than like a water gun.0 -
Breastfeeding is natural and has been around since the beginning of time , what s unnatural is the reaction to it, as in oh my look a breast excuse me but women have breasts so what, I have seen more naked breasts on tv than in public, I breastfeed both my daughters but was not able for long but I do support it . Get over it its not going anywhere , breastfeeding isn't sexual its food for a baby and would you want someone telling you , you can only eat a in a bathroom ? than don't expect a woman breastfeeding too. end of argument.0
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If you have to feed your kid you have to feed your kid. But is it really that hard to throw your kids blanket over you?0
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If you have to feed your kid you have to feed your kid. But is it really that hard to throw your kids blanket over you?
I'm guessing that in 100+ degree weather, that is quite uncomfortable.
Is it really that hard for others to simply look away?0 -
When my DIL brought my granddaughter down to visit, I took her out for lunch. She just whipped it out and fed the baby. It wouldn't have made me uncomfortable except all of the male servers kept walking by and glancing over.
I breastfed my kids in public but I was discreet. I used nursing bras and no one could tell if I was nursing or just holding them.0 -
If you have to feed your kid you have to feed your kid. But is it really that hard to throw your kids blanket over you?
Do you eat with a blanket over your head?0 -
Is it just me or is all this milk talk making you hungry!?
Guess it is just me.
haha. It's cool, TrueRay.
And the word milk makes me go straight to coffee.
because for me, everything revolves around coffee..
and yes, I did put my breastmilk in my coffee
Speaking of coffee, I heard breast milk taste like puke. I definitely need to sample it for myself with my future wife ahaha. Purely for scientific purposes only.
Well, ok. I will get technical here.
When it first comes out, it is more watery and full of antibodies and stuff. Later it becomes more creamy.
I only ever tasted the watery stuff and it didn't taste too good. I also think, rather ironically, that I had a food allergy to it because it made my throat scratchy.
ETA: I could tell you some other fun stuff about it. For example, I could squirt it about 5 feet.
Okay, thank you for this but some odd reason I don't feel like sampling it anymore ahaha but watching you squirt it 5 feet especially in a bowl or something would be interesting ahaha.
when it's your wife, you should try just to try.
also, I could squirt 5 feet, but the aim is a little weird. It comes out more like a five way spray hose than like a water gun.
My doctor said that was because I was pierced0 -
As long as you are OK with letting me observe............. for science.0
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My daughter hated the nursing cover -she didn't want anything covering her when she ate because she got super hot and also probably because she just didn't want her head to be covered. I'm discreet but I'm not hiding what I'm doing. We're way too hung up on breasts, if it bothers you look away. You be discreet and I'll be discreet then we'll sing cumbyaah and call it a day. I'm much more bothered by people making out and dry humping in public then I am about breastfeeding.0
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Is it just me or is all this milk talk making you hungry!?
Guess it is just me.
haha. It's cool, TrueRay.
And the word milk makes me go straight to coffee.
because for me, everything revolves around coffee..
and yes, I did put my breastmilk in my coffee
Speaking of coffee, I heard breast milk taste like puke. I definitely need to sample it for myself with my future wife ahaha. Purely for scientific purposes only.
Well, ok. I will get technical here.
When it first comes out, it is more watery and full of antibodies and stuff. Later it becomes more creamy.
I only ever tasted the watery stuff and it didn't taste too good. I also think, rather ironically, that I had a food allergy to it because it made my throat scratchy.
ETA: I could tell you some other fun stuff about it. For example, I could squirt it about 5 feet.
Okay, thank you for this but some odd reason I don't feel like sampling it anymore ahaha but watching you squirt it 5 feet especially in a bowl or something would be interesting ahaha.
when it's your wife, you should try just to try.
also, I could squirt 5 feet, but the aim is a little weird. It comes out more like a five way spray hose than like a water gun.
My doctor said that was because I was pierced
I doubt it but I am not a woman so... maybe someone can speak on this.0 -
OP: What's to discuss? I breastfed four babies through the late 80s and through the 90s. I was discreet; i.e. I didn't flash any unsuspecting "audience" my breasts, and only once did anyone ever complain. That was in a restaurant, of all things, and boy, did THEY get an earful! I refused to leave, spoke to the manager, showing exactly what I was doing and that there was nothing wrong with it, nor was I showing any "inappropriate" body parts while doing so. I think that manager learned something valuable that evening. I also made sure to tell all my nursing mother friends.
The convenience of having food always on hand, so to speak, when out and about with a breastfed baby is wonderful. If you're a soon to be new mother, or contemplating breastfeeding, you can be sure that at least in America there is almost 100% acceptance of public breastfeeding. You have MY support! :-)0 -
If you have to feed your kid you have to feed your kid. But is it really that hard to throw your kids blanket over you?
Do you eat with a blanket over your head?
No but I also eat sitting up at a table with a fork and knife. I am also not instantaneously fed the second I get hungry. Comparing the way a baby eats to an older human is pointless. The simple fact of the matter is as natural as breast feeding is not everyone wants to see it. There are plenty of other human acts are natural too that people typically don't do in public, because not everyone wants to see it.0 -
If you have to feed your kid you have to feed your kid. But is it really that hard to throw your kids blanket over you?
Do you eat with a blanket over your head?
Only if I'm eating an entire pizza and don't want to share0 -
If you have to feed your kid you have to feed your kid. But is it really that hard to throw your kids blanket over you?
Do you eat with a blanket over your head?
No but I also eat sitting up at a table with a fork and knife. I am also not instantaneously fed the second I get hungry. Comparing the way a baby eats to an older human is pointless. The simple fact of the matter is as natural as breast feeding is not everyone wants to see it. There are plenty of other human acts are natural too that people typically don't do in public, because not everyone wants to see it.
Those that dont want to see it can easily avert their eyes, unless they have so little control over themselves.0 -
If you have to feed your kid you have to feed your kid. But is it really that hard to throw your kids blanket over you?
Do you eat with a blanket over your head?
No but I also eat sitting up at a table with a fork and knife. I am also not instantaneously fed the second I get hungry. Comparing the way a baby eats to an older human is pointless. The simple fact of the matter is as natural as breast feeding is not everyone wants to see it. There are plenty of other human acts are natural too that people typically don't do in public, because not everyone wants to see it.
Those that dont want to see it can easily avert their eyes, unless they have so little control over themselves.
This is my argument. Seriously, you don't want to see it, you can look away. FFS people...0 -
I breastfeed my babies in public but I usually use a thin nursing cover and try to be discreet. When I am in a place where there is just women then i dont bother with the cover. Babies need to eat and thats what breasts were created for.0
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I don't even understand this debate honestly. Babies need to eat. I don't eat in a bathroom and I wouldn't expect a mom to have to feed a baby in the bathroom. With that said, when I've done so, I've always been very discreet and covered as well as I could.
^^agreed!!!0 -
I have been with my husband for 4 years now, we have been married 1. As someone who wants a baby pretty badly but is trying to wait until we're a little more secure (i.e. have a house mostly) I will tell you that I often have dreams about breast feeding. Now I have been told that it hurts. But I'm willing to deal with it if it means having that connection with my son or daughter.
As far as breastfeeding in public... I don't know if it's something I could do. And I've actually never seen it myself. It probably wouldn't bother me, I just wouldn't look.0 -
We're way too hung up on breasts, if it bothers you look away. You be discreet and I'll be discreet then we'll sing cumbyaah and call it a day. I'm much more bothered by people making out and dry humping in public then I am about breastfeeding.
Amen.0 -
Yes, it can be difficult to put a blanket over a breastfeeding baby's head. I personally always wore clothing that allowed me to keep my body covered and then my baby's head covered my breast. And sometimes I breastfed my baby in a sling and once my baby was latched on, I could cover her with the sling wrap. But, I needed to see to get the baby latched on. And it was challenging with my first baby when she was just weeks old. But, I needed to get out of the house. Things are different when it is extremely hot out as well. I wish new moms had more support and understanding. And I wish we grew up seeing it more.0
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Is it just me or is all this milk talk making you hungry!?
Guess it is just me.
haha. It's cool, TrueRay.
And the word milk makes me go straight to coffee.
because for me, everything revolves around coffee..
and yes, I did put my breastmilk in my coffee
Speaking of coffee, I heard breast milk taste like puke. I definitely need to sample it for myself with my future wife ahaha. Purely for scientific purposes only.
Well, ok. I will get technical here.
When it first comes out, it is more watery and full of antibodies and stuff. Later it becomes more creamy.
I only ever tasted the watery stuff and it didn't taste too good. I also think, rather ironically, that I had a food allergy to it because it made my throat scratchy.
ETA: I could tell you some other fun stuff about it. For example, I could squirt it about 5 feet.
Okay, thank you for this but some odd reason I don't feel like sampling it anymore ahaha but watching you squirt it 5 feet especially in a bowl or something would be interesting ahaha.
when it's your wife, you should try just to try.
also, I could squirt 5 feet, but the aim is a little weird. It comes out more like a five way spray hose than like a water gun.
My doctor said that was because I was pierced
I doubt it but I am not a woman so... maybe someone can speak on this.
You doc was wrong. The milk comes out of multiple ducts.0 -
If you have to feed your kid you have to feed your kid. But is it really that hard to throw your kids blanket over you?
Some babies won't suckle if they're covered. It can be uncomfortable for them. How would you react if someone found your eating to be offensive and threw a blanket over you while you were eating? I don't think you would like it very much.0
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