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Scared at what I am reading

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  • BrettWithPKU
    BrettWithPKU Posts: 575 Member
    To me, there's nothing wrong with the word "diet"; it's a prescribed (self-prescribed or doctor-prescribed) pattern of eating, for some purpose. For most of us, that purpose is weight loss. It's the single word that best explains "why I won't be having seconds."

    But for some people, "diet" = "sadness." And weight management is a mental war game we all fight with ourselves, so for those who want to call it something else, I say "do what you have to do to win."

    My one disagreement with those who use the particular phrase "lifestyle change," implying a permanent change, is that they omit the fact that a calorie deficit ought not be permanent. So I'm personally not a fan of that phrase, but who am I to judge?

    The word "diet," outside of its stigma, also lacks the exercise component. You'll hear these people say "diet and exercise." I'm sure there's a single word that escapes me at the moment that accurately captures both. If not, and anyone can tell me of such a word in another language, I'll gladly use it from this moment forward.
  • enterdanger
    enterdanger Posts: 2,447 Member
    d4_54 wrote: »
    BreezeDoveal I appreciate you saying that about that point.

    I just read in another debate someone saying that they had to "run 10 miles to eat 1 donut".

    I was too coward to say anything. I was thinking what kind horrible existence is that? To enjoy a the occasional donut I have to run almost half a marathon. Wow

    Which point? There are just so many gems to choose from..

    Can you post the link to the donut thread. Having to run 10 miles for 1 donut does sound rather depressing and a tad over the top.

    ETA: Never mind, found the donut thread

    And some of us might have clearly said they didn't need an excuse to eat a donut. HA!

    Kidding. At any rate, I get what you are saying OP. You seem to feel that losing weight should be intuitive. That all this counting calories and restricting foods is stupid. I agree with that.

    Unfortunately, my intuition fails me on a regular basis. It says "You ran today....go ahead and drink all the beer you want." The whole 1200 calories thing is because we are all people who want instant gratification so we pick to lose 2lbs a week...As a woman, that is almost always going to boot your *kitten* to 1200 calories. Heck, I'm short so it puts me there even when I pick to lose 1.5lbs a week.

    Yes, we do probably make weight loss harder than it has to be, but it's such a personal thing. You have to let people figure out what works for them. MFP's guidelines are just that. Suggestions.

    @BreezeDoveal who put you behind bars? lol.
  • Sabine_Stroehm
    Sabine_Stroehm Posts: 19,263 Member
    cwolfman13 wrote: »
    BDonjon wrote: »
    To me, there's nothing wrong with the word "diet"; it's a prescribed (self-prescribed or doctor-prescribed) pattern of eating, for some purpose. For most of us, that purpose is weight loss. It's the single word that best explains "why I won't be having seconds."

    But for some people, "diet" = "sadness." And weight management is a mental war game we all fight with ourselves, so for those who want to call it something else, I say "do what you have to do to win."

    My one disagreement with those who use the particular phrase "lifestyle change," implying a permanent change, is that they omit the fact that a calorie deficit ought not be permanent. So I'm personally not a fan of that phrase, but who am I to judge?

    The word "diet," outside of its stigma, also lacks the exercise component. You'll hear these people say "diet and exercise." I'm sure there's a single word that escapes me at the moment that accurately captures both. If not, and anyone can tell me of such a word in another language, I'll gladly use it from this moment forward.

    I don't think people are talking about calories when they are talking about lifestyle change...they're talking about living life differently into perpetuity...making nutrition a priority...adopting healthy habits and making better overall decisions...making exercise a priority, etc. I don't think anyone is implying that a calorie deficit is the lifestyle change.

    Four years ago I was 40 Lbs overweight...I was sedentary and could barely walk around the block due in large part to the fact that I was also a 2-3 PAD smoker...my diet (noun) was pretty shabby and substantially lacking in nutrition due in large part to a lack of fruits and vegetables and eating quite a bit of highly processed refined food goods.

    Fast forward four years +...I'm a lean and fit 180 Lbs @ 12% BF...I lift 2-3x per week and cycle on average about 80-90 miles per week (except when I'm training for time trials) and participate in various races and other cycling events. I no longer smoke cigarettes (though I do enjoy a cigar most evenings on the patio) and my diet at large is on point and consists largely of whole foods and minimally processed food goods...usually around 6 servings of veg daily and a couple of servings of fruit...whole grains, legumes, and whole food starches, lean sourced protein and good fats from things like avocados and nuts and good cooking oils.

    Yes...I lost weight while being in an energy deficiency just like anyone else...but that's not the lifestyle change...the above is the lifestyle change...I've maintained my weight loss going on 3.5 years and I don't log...because I adopted a new normal and substantially changed the way I was living my life.

    Pretty much this. Yes. I'm at 14 years maintaining. By adopting a new normal.
  • AnvilHead
    AnvilHead Posts: 18,343 Member
    BDonjon wrote: »
    To me, there's nothing wrong with the word "diet"; it's a prescribed (self-prescribed or doctor-prescribed) pattern of eating, for some purpose. For most of us, that purpose is weight loss. It's the single word that best explains "why I won't be having seconds."

    But for some people, "diet" = "sadness." And weight management is a mental war game we all fight with ourselves, so for those who want to call it something else, I say "do what you have to do to win."

    My one disagreement with those who use the particular phrase "lifestyle change," implying a permanent change, is that they omit the fact that a calorie deficit ought not be permanent. So I'm personally not a fan of that phrase, but who am I to judge?

    The word "diet," outside of its stigma, also lacks the exercise component. You'll hear these people say "diet and exercise." I'm sure there's a single word that escapes me at the moment that accurately captures both. If not, and anyone can tell me of such a word in another language, I'll gladly use it from this moment forward.

    Lifestyle change.
  • diannethegeek
    diannethegeek Posts: 14,776 Member
    AnvilHead wrote: »
    BDonjon wrote: »
    To me, there's nothing wrong with the word "diet"; it's a prescribed (self-prescribed or doctor-prescribed) pattern of eating, for some purpose. For most of us, that purpose is weight loss. It's the single word that best explains "why I won't be having seconds."

    But for some people, "diet" = "sadness." And weight management is a mental war game we all fight with ourselves, so for those who want to call it something else, I say "do what you have to do to win."

    My one disagreement with those who use the particular phrase "lifestyle change," implying a permanent change, is that they omit the fact that a calorie deficit ought not be permanent. So I'm personally not a fan of that phrase, but who am I to judge?

    The word "diet," outside of its stigma, also lacks the exercise component. You'll hear these people say "diet and exercise." I'm sure there's a single word that escapes me at the moment that accurately captures both. If not, and anyone can tell me of such a word in another language, I'll gladly use it from this moment forward.

    Lifestyle change.

    That's two words.
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    selina884 wrote: »
    Appreciating.

    Overtime you will notice its the same few posters who are

    a)easily offended
    b)will argue for the sake of being PC
    c)least openminded and stuck in the processed food + CICO bubble


    Ignore them and don't let those few stop you from voicing your opinions

    You and the OP seem to be saying you see people posting different things. The OP is complaining that people suggest huge calorie deficits, overexercising, and eliminating sugar/carbs, etc. You're saying you see people post about CICO and being ok with eating processed foods. So I'm confused if you're agreeing or disagreeing with the original point.

    Also, are these the same few posters who advocate for a moderate deficit appropriate for your goals? The same few posters who advocate exercising for health and muscle preservation, but making sure you eat enough calories to fuel your exercise? The same few posters who advocate for people eating diets they can adhere to, which can include ultra-processed food if they wish, because at the end of the day the laws of thermodynamics will determine if you lose weight and not the macro breakdown of your food? The same few posters who can back their points of view up with peer-reviewed studies and do so when asked?

    What are your issues with the information you see posted? I've seen you complain quite a few times but have not seen you contribute in a positive fashion, so I'd really like to know what you think people SHOULD be advocating for.

    For the record: not offended, and not arguing for the sake of being PC. Genuinely confused, because I'm not seeing what the OP or this quoted post are seeing.

    I'm glad I'm not the only one wondering about this.
  • nutmegoreo
    nutmegoreo Posts: 15,532 Member
    PamWOhio wrote: »
    Am I doing it wrong? I am not eating 1200 calories but would if I wanted more food. I am still fitting in a fast food burger or a processed frozen meal now and then along with all the healthier fresh lean meats. Unfortunately, I am not a fruit and veggie person so it makes it a little more difficult to "eat right" but what I am doing is working for me. I am not exercising a lot because I sat on my butt for 6 years..hardly leaving the house. I walk some but with the lower calorie intake I am not concerned with making sure I am doing a lot of it at this point. I used to eat ONLY processed food and take out and snacked ALL day. I have only been at this for 19 days and feel great. I started off being able to eat more calories but since then when I eat I am completely satisfied for long periods of time so I usually only eat 2 meals. I plan on incorporating more exercise once I get a bit more weight off but I would like to know if I am way off base here. Should we force ourselves to eat to get to a certain calorie amount even if we aren't hungry. I am only 5'3" tall and was 204.5lbs. I am down to 193. Oh...and I'm 47

    People gave you some very specific explanations about why eating too little is unhealthy in your thread. Perhaps reviewing those suggestions would answer your questions about why it isn't good to consistently eat too little.
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  • d4_54
    d4_54 Posts: 62 Member
    peleroja wrote: »
    I think it's kind of cute when men twice my size with twice the daily physical activity get all concerned about the intake of small women (especially older, more sedentary women.) 1200 calories a day for me and women like me is not a large cut at all - it's a very, very moderate reduction in calories and less than a pound a week of weight loss. It's a very far cry from "starvation."

    I know it's hard to realize for a person who maintains on 3000 calories a day that littler people just don't need that (and that the smaller you are, the fewer calories you burn from activity too - a 10K run for me might burn only 600 calories.) Like...I ride my bike to work, run 10-15K a few times a week (and 20+ once a week), and I still tend to maintain around 2000/day even with quite a bit of regular cardio. I'm just not very large and my body doesn't need as many calories as heavier people.

    1200 calories per day is a very aggressive cut for some people, but I think you need to adjust your perspective and realize that for a short, lightish woman, 1500/day might actually be maintenance...know what I mean?

    You do 50-65 kilometres every week and ride your bike to work every work day??
    That's far, very far from sedentary. Are you saying that with all that you average around 1200 cals?

    I do not have enough info based on what you have said but unless you are tiny (as in 3.7 feet then 1500 with all that activity sounds very low.

    If you read back all my comments, I do explain that my comments are not fixed and fits all.

    This app is taking up more of my time then Facebook
  • RelevantGains
    RelevantGains Posts: 83 Member
    d4_54 wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    I think it's kind of cute when men twice my size with twice the daily physical activity get all concerned about the intake of small women (especially older, more sedentary women.) 1200 calories a day for me and women like me is not a large cut at all - it's a very, very moderate reduction in calories and less than a pound a week of weight loss. It's a very far cry from "starvation."

    I know it's hard to realize for a person who maintains on 3000 calories a day that littler people just don't need that (and that the smaller you are, the fewer calories you burn from activity too - a 10K run for me might burn only 600 calories.) Like...I ride my bike to work, run 10-15K a few times a week (and 20+ once a week), and I still tend to maintain around 2000/day even with quite a bit of regular cardio. I'm just not very large and my body doesn't need as many calories as heavier people.

    1200 calories per day is a very aggressive cut for some people, but I think you need to adjust your perspective and realize that for a short, lightish woman, 1500/day might actually be maintenance...know what I mean?

    You do 50-65 kilometres every week and ride your bike to work every work day??
    That's far, very far from sedentary. Are you saying that with all that you average around 1200 cals?

    I do not have enough info based on what you have said but unless you are tiny (as in 3.7 feet then 1500 with all that activity sounds very low.

    If you read back all my comments, I do explain that my comments are not fixed and fits all.

    This app is taking up more of my time then Facebook

    You're not gonna be able to save them all, unfortunately haha!
  • d4_54
    d4_54 Posts: 62 Member
    d4_54 wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    I think it's kind of cute when men twice my size with twice the daily physical activity get all concerned about the intake of small women (especially older, more sedentary women.) 1200 calories a day for me and women like me is not a large cut at all - it's a very, very moderate reduction in calories and less than a pound a week of weight loss. It's a very far cry from "starvation."

    I know it's hard to realize for a person who maintains on 3000 calories a day that littler people just don't need that (and that the smaller you are, the fewer calories you burn from activity too - a 10K run for me might burn only 600 calories.) Like...I ride my bike to work, run 10-15K a few times a week (and 20+ once a week), and I still tend to maintain around 2000/day even with quite a bit of regular cardio. I'm just not very large and my body doesn't need as many calories as heavier people.

    1200 calories per day is a very aggressive cut for some people, but I think you need to adjust your perspective and realize that for a short, lightish woman, 1500/day might actually be maintenance...know what I mean?

    You do 50-65 kilometres every week and ride your bike to work every work day??
    That's far, very far from sedentary. Are you saying that with all that you average around 1200 cals?

    I do not have enough info based on what you have said but unless you are tiny (as in 3.7 feet then 1500 with all that activity sounds very low.

    If you read back all my comments, I do explain that my comments are not fixed and fits all.

    This app is taking up more of my time then Facebook

    You're not gonna be able to save them all, unfortunately haha!

    One at a time my friend...one at a time
  • Shadowmf023
    Shadowmf023 Posts: 812 Member
    I guess exercising for 2.5 hours a day could be considered too much. But as a short woman, I enjoy eating 1600 calories while losing weight. All be it only at a 350calorie deficit p/day.

    But then, lifting weights and walking long, long distances is really fun, and it's more of an activity than exercise, if that makes sense. Especially considering I sit on my butt studying the rest of the day, Lol.
  • ogmomma2012
    ogmomma2012 Posts: 1,520 Member
    I am not here to diet, I am here to change my life. It includes low carb, high fat *sarcastic gasp* and a calorie deficit of 1400 or so. It's a struggle because of how I was raised and how I see food, but if I can have only 4 problem days out of 30, I think I'm doing something right.
  • cerise_noir
    cerise_noir Posts: 5,468 Member
    You do you, everyone else can do themselves. Why worry yourself ever what others do. It's unnecessary stress and anger.
  • psuLemon
    psuLemon Posts: 38,427 MFP Moderator
    usmcmp wrote: »
    d4_54 wrote: »

    This app is taking up more of my time then Facebook

    So you come on here to lecture people about giving bad information (without providing links to examples) and the one thread you post in a couple of times per day takes up too much of your time? I'm all for improving the quality of information on here and providing useful/realistic steps to help others achieve their goals. I know several people in this thread who have adopted noobs, created informational threads that were pinned by the site as references, and who spend hours every day giving solid resources on how to create sustainable plans. I created one of the top referenced threads on here and I know I've changed many lives over the 2,000 days I have been here.

    Well you certainly aren't talking about me. So i will just keep on moving.

  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    psulemon wrote: »
    usmcmp wrote: »
    d4_54 wrote: »

    This app is taking up more of my time then Facebook

    So you come on here to lecture people about giving bad information (without providing links to examples) and the one thread you post in a couple of times per day takes up too much of your time? I'm all for improving the quality of information on here and providing useful/realistic steps to help others achieve their goals. I know several people in this thread who have adopted noobs, created informational threads that were pinned by the site as references, and who spend hours every day giving solid resources on how to create sustainable plans. I created one of the top referenced threads on here and I know I've changed many lives over the 2,000 days I have been here.

    Well you certainly aren't talking about me. So i will just keep on moving.

    @psulemon definitely not talking about mods. Especially not ones who put up with the broscience in the gaining weight section. :laugh:
  • d4_54
    d4_54 Posts: 62 Member
    usmcmp wrote: »
    psulemon wrote: »
    usmcmp wrote: »
    d4_54 wrote: »

    This app is taking up more of my time then Facebook

    So you come on here to lecture people about giving bad information (without providing links to examples) and the one thread you post in a couple of times per day takes up too much of your time? I'm all for improving the quality of information on here and providing useful/realistic steps to help others achieve their goals. I know several people in this thread who have adopted noobs, created informational threads that were pinned by the site as references, and who spend hours every day giving solid resources on how to create sustainable plans. I created one of the top referenced threads on here and I know I've changed many lives over the 2,000 days I have been here.

    Well you certainly aren't talking about me. So i will just keep on moving.

    @psulemon definitely not talking about mods. Especially not ones who put up with the broscience in the gaining weight section. :laugh:

    Am I missing something here?
  • GaleHawkins
    GaleHawkins Posts: 8,159 Member
    selina884 wrote: »
    Appreciating.

    Overtime you will notice its the same few posters who are

    a)easily offended
    b)will argue for the sake of being PC
    c)least openminded and stuck in the processed food + CICO bubble


    Ignore them and don't let those few stop you from voicing your opinions

    So true based what I have seen over the past two years but their numbers seem to be dropping.
  • snickerscharlie
    snickerscharlie Posts: 8,578 Member
    selina884 wrote: »
    Appreciating.

    Overtime you will notice its the same few posters who are

    a)easily offended
    b)will argue for the sake of being PC
    c)least openminded and stuck in the processed food + CICO bubble


    Ignore them and don't let those few stop you from voicing your opinions

    Are you suggesting that:

    a) CICO doesn't work, and

    b) those who choose to include a moderate amount of 'processed food' (whatever that means) in their overall diet while successfully remaining in a deficit are somehow close-minded, easily offended and should be ignored simply because their methods don't match yours?


  • AnabolicMind2011
    AnabolicMind2011 Posts: 211 Member
    Some people will never make life style change because they don't have the cents for it.

    How many cents does it cost?
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