WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2016

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  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,711 Member
    edited October 2016
    Hi Gals,
    Heather – the Spanish chicken turned out great!!!! I love it and will do it again. I understand the joy of being able to walk to get milk or other “staple” it is hard to find in CA, I am lucky enough to be a 6-7 min walk to a decent grocery.
    Oh what a wonderful cake!

    Stress at work is at an all time high here – granted I left corporate about 5 years ago, but most of my clients are in corporate America – and they are finding the stress crazy, threats of layoffs, requirements to be available via cell 24 hours a day… one of my clients is off on stress leave her boss regularly called her will work to be done by 8 or 9 am, and the calls would come in around midnight…. So she have to work through the night….


    Glo – I know we are not the local support system to take the kids for a bit, but please turn to us when virtual support will help.

    Lisa – I want to come live near you, and help with the garden, smoking, canning!
    - I don’t know cost or availably in TX but here there are things called pods, it’s kinda like the back of a 16 wheeler truck, you pack it up, they take it away and then deliver it where and when you want…


    Karen – hang in – I managed to have ½ of a piece of French toast without syrup yesterday, which was a win for me….

    Katie – great pic of your family
    Rori – what a beautiful picture, the reflection is beautiful.

    Unlike the PNW in the SF bay area we have just had 3 days of beautiful rain! It rained and rained yesterday and a good part of today… I loved it… I did go to my favorite thrift store today and got a new slicker, as mine was a woman’s XXlg - way too big, so I found one it is a men’s medium and long in the sleeves but fits the rest of me well, and just $8 so I felt like that was a win. Tomorrow is a day in the garden with the Park Rangers – there are 12 rangers coming from other parks to trim the trees, I’ve made coffee cake and will brew coffee… maybe there will be a cute single one (or two – LOL)

    I’ve bought tickets for the Harry Potter symphony – it is Halloween weekend, and I talked to my god son’s girl friend to take the two of them as a birthday surprise for him, there was some sort of work conflict, so she ended up telling him, WELL he worked it out with his boss, and they are flying in before the symphony then home after… They live in Seattle. They’ll have a long day, I hope it is worth it… it will be fun to see them.


    October Goals:
    2 fun things a week, Lunch with friends 2 times….
    Read and report on a book
    Log everyday to the best I can, over if need be.
    11,000 + steps everyday
    Work on water consumption -


    Smiles.

    Kim from N. California
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Rori: I love your picture with Diamond Head in the background. I was there when I was 17, and have never had the chance to go back. :ohwell: It is a memory I treasure. :bigsmile:

    Barbie: It sounds as though the storm in your area was quite intense. Im glad you're fine. It hammered parts of the Oregon coast and Portland, but we had no serious problems. It was a bit windy, but not destructive here. :bigsmile:

    Pip: Yay for the replacement phone! :smiley: I'm sorry it was a long day. :ohwell:


    I just had a long chat with my former neighbor and plan to see her on a regular basis. We'll be meeting for walks on Tuesday's and Thursdays. Three cheers! I may have time for one or two walks before I go to Illinois to be with my daughter for the birth of her baby. Yay!


    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon


    “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,797 Member
    Karen - Your airplane breakfast reminds me of the one we were presented with in our hotel in Cordoba. I could hardly believe it! I went to the desk and asked if they could at least get me wholemeal rolls and cheese for the next morning. They did. :)

    Rori - What fabulous photos. B) It all looks sooooooo sophisticated and lovely. Nice to see you and your DH. <3

    I am awake in the night - again. :'( Having a bit of worry about DOS. My ex and I chatted about him a bit, which must have set me off worrying. My ex knew a lot more than I did about what has been going on at his work. My son is a designer and very good at it, but his mental health is vulnerable. My ex seems to think he can find another high powered job, or sue the company he used to work for. I think he doesn't need the stress and would do better to take a lower stress job for less money. At the moment he is living on the three months salary they gave him. Plus he now has the two dogs to consider.
    You just want them to be happy don't you, or, at least, happy-ish. He is going to be 40 in November. At his age I was in turmoil over my marriage.

    DH has been having backache in the night, so I suggested he buy a new mattress. We currently have a zip-and-link superking bed, but his side is a softer one. Too soft. I have given him some money towards a really good one as his birthday present. It arrives next week and they are taking away the old one for a fee. His birthday is today and I have got him presents to open. He wants to go to the zoo, which is near here, and I will get some fillet steak out of the freezer for his dinner. <3

    Love to all. Back to bed now. It was nice to hear the names at the christening - Beatrice Heather Molly. :D<3

    Heather UK
  • Annr
    Annr Posts: 2,765 Member
    Aw Carol....Sorry your husband was a "negative Nancy" on your drive there and back... I would call him out on it. If it were me, (and I know most aren't thank Goodness) I would have just said in a neutral tone, "Well there are many out in the world that would love to ride in a car, travel places but they are homebound". Maybe that might put some realistic perspective in his negativities! I'm just saying.... (((((((hugs)))))) I try to focus on the positive, and when I think negative I keep my mouth shut when I am the passenger. There was a time when I could not say anything driving related, because I was a non-driver. Now I can comment on this driver or that. I still catch myself in a deep inhale when he parallel parks because TO ME he looks like he is going to hit the left side bumper of the car we are parking in front of. He hates that. I can't help it!
    Becca
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
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  • dreamwriter
    dreamwriter Posts: 610 Member
    Okay, Ladies. Just spent the last hour and a half reading through. There is so much happening with all of you that there is no way to comment on it all.
    Liz in Ohio - Praying for the best possible outcome for you. It is always a good plan to educate yourself as much as possible.
    Heather - I always enjoy travelling via your photos. Being a parent never stops no matter how old our children are, we love them and want only the best.
    Vicki Grand Island - I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Mom. It is amazing how much that hurts us.
    Joyce - I'm not scared of snakes but I don't really like handling them. Good for you and the granddaughter though!
    Katla- Wouldn't that be perfect if you could exercise someone's horse? My cousin just brought her new horse home. Piccola aka Pixie is being naughty at the boarding stable (she decided to eat some of the boards). I would love to take her for a run but the doctors say they still (as in forever) want me to stay away from that. I grew up riding and I miss it.
    Mary from Minnesota - Now that's the Corn Maze I should have done. A group of us did the local Corn Maze a few weeks back. We finally bungled our way out after many wrong turns and much laughter. Not sure which of us is planning the November adventure or if any of us will have time running up to Christmas.
    Gloria - Tough love is so hard on us. Our son has now been clean and sober for 12 years.
    DrKatiebug - Love your photo with the grandkids. I see Batman is there with you.

    Went to Jesus Christ SuperStar last night. Quite enjoyed it. We were supposed to go out for supper beforehand but DH ran late so we ended up going to A&W because we didn't have time for a "real" restaurant. I was okay with it but wondered if it was a plan when he pulled out a coupon. The show was very good but it was soured for me a little when DH decided to share with me that his ex had the album and then the fact that she used to sing some of the songs. Me too but did I really need that tidbit of information? I know that we have all been in touch since the suicide of her 3rd husband and then her youngest son in less than a year. I am okay with that but these walks down their memory lane? Am I being petty that it bothers me a bit?
    Today in an effort to make up for the lack of proper dinner last night DH took me to Denny's for brunch. It was terrible and so was the service but the thought was there. We went out to our friend's farm to gather up some barnwood that our talented daughter is going to make into a funny chicken sign for said friend's 70th birthday.
    Stopped at my sister's and for whatever reason we were very snappish with each other. I am not proud of myself. DBIL is on his four days off and looking forward to spring and the end of his Texas days. We went to the Magnificent Seven with our friends followed by left over chili and biscuits at our house. It was too windy to walk.
    oh, my, I should have checked the time. Off to bed for me, work comes too early
    -Sharon in Lethbridge.
  • lhannon062709
    lhannon062709 Posts: 1,140 Member
    Morning, ladies...

    Loving all the pics!

    Our DD and her little family went on a road trip yesterday and checked out a couple places for us--the one that we actually liked the placement of geography-wise was too far down a dirt road for our comfort. We want to have the choice to put up a farmstand if we choose, and that's going to mean being somewhere near a paved highway... It was a very Goldilocks kind of day... because the other was right on a paved road, just a bar ditch between the front porch and the highway. The more we look at (or get them to look at), the more we know what we want, as well as what we don't want.

    However, we think we can both get an extra day on the Thanksgiving holiday weekend and go up and stay with her, do some exploring on the Friday and Saturday before heading back Saturday afternoon. The paper usually goes to press on Wednesday, but it will be Tuesday that week, so I should be able (hopefully) to take Wednesday off, and Corey thinks he will be able to talk them into it at his work as well. It may well be an unpaid day or two for both of us, but worth it. Her husband tested for airborne, and will be in training in North Carolina over the holiday, so she's happy to know she'll have family there for the holiday. We haven't seen the grandkids in more than a year, so it's about time! It's about a 14-hour drive, so we'll be driving all day Wednesday, but can split the drive into two days on the way back. Fingers crossed for no snow!

    Got all the tables up in the warehouse, now it's just a matter of getting everything sorted into like kinds on the tables, then pricing. Hundreds of items--and my husband has said he wants to sell his mechanic tools - something I never thought I would see... I'm going to put a steep price on them, though--the toolbox, which is five feet tall and nearly four feet wide, is worth $500 empty. The tools are easily worth $1,000. I think he wants to be done with mechanic work, and I can't blame him in the slightest. Not having to try to get a ton (literally) of tools moved isn't breaking my heart any, either!

    Off to the races, my chickens...
    Lisa in West Texas
  • GloworminWA
    GloworminWA Posts: 704 Member
    So much change going on with everyone! Sent a message to miriamwithcats yesterday as I've been wondering what she and the girls are up to - hope she posts back soon so I don't have to worry about them.

    Finished the book I had been reading and worked on a afghan I have been crocheting off and on for about 3 years - ok so it was way more off than on . . . Lol.

    All the worry over that big storm was for nothing - I think it was worse up north. Our power blinked off and on a couple of times just long enough to have to reset all the blinking clocks.

    I think I said my interview is Monday but it's actualTuesday.

    Thanks Kim for your kind words.

    My DD#2 celebrated her 48th birthday today. I called her and told her I had been thinking about when they brought her in to me in the hospital and then I just got choked up and started crying (on the phone not in the hospital). What's with that? Jeesh!

    Off to bed for me - <3
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    So proud of myself for posting this pic from my phone. That is us outside a theater (was an old church repurposed as a theater). Had a great day, salad at brunch and no dessert! Lots of conversation and a great Bernard Shaw play "Mrs Warren's Profession". The long drive to Philadelphia was worth it! I even checked out my OS's new flooring in her apt. She still has lots to do and has asked for my help in renovating her kitchen next summer!!! If you all remember how difficult the past summers bathroom Reno you might think I screamed noooo but honestly, she needs so much help, I told her I would absolutely help her!!! NYKAREN
  • lhannon062709
    lhannon062709 Posts: 1,140 Member
    Marcelyn - just thought I'd post these because you said you had the connection to Tell City. The chairs don't match the table... but I did get them cleaned up and recovered. Someone had fastened the old cushions, all ripped up and in bad shape, to the chairs with strapping tape, which took some major and careful cleaning.

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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,797 Member
    NY Karen - Love the sis pics! <3

    Well, the zoo is a washout as the showers keep on coming. :s Don't want to trail around a very big area in the rain, plus it's chilly. I got a last minute booking to our favourite gastro pub and we are splurging on a taxi so we can celebrate with a glass or two. B)
    Don't know if we will have the steak tonight now. Guess it depends how we feel.
    Unfortunately I only did half my exercises this morning as I anticipated a lot of walking around today. Hmmmmmmmm! If I can drag myself onto a machine later then I will. ;)
    DB and DSIL got DH a lovely walking map of the Brighton area. He was delighted with that. Looking at it I realise how tiny an area we are actually interested in! Prices are sky high there.

    Love you all, Heather UK

  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,154 Member
    Morning all~
    well I was up 3 times with Chester.. Tom put him out before he left and I got about 3 more hrs of sleep
    this interupted sleep is doing a number, hopefully his bladder is healing a little quicker
  • KJLaMore
    KJLaMore Posts: 2,847 Member
    Good morning all! Happy MOnday! Beginning week four of the crud, but it feels like it's on it's way out. Just left with a nagging cough. I have a dentist appt. scheduled for this afternoon, but I think I am going to call and reschedule. I don't want to begin coughing while the dentist/hygenist is working on me.
    Lisa- the furniture is beautiful! I am sure it looks MUCH better than it did when you found it. I am sure you will find the perfect place for you and dh to roost. It is good that you can take some time and check out each piece of property.
    Heather-Yea for Bea! Yea for you and your extreme decorating talent! The cake was beautiful and I am sure the ceremony was just as lovely. I think it is so great that you and your ex are on good terms. I see so many families that can't function that way. So hard for the kids.
    Penny--Being busy is a blessing and a curse. May you find joy in all those days. Hurts my heart to think about global warming and what it does to our earth! So much that I want to see and do; but worrying and wondering how much longer I will have to experience things due to global warming. So glad no one was hurt in the land slides.
    Karen-- Love the pic of you and your sisters! You all have such beautiful smiles!
    Gloria-So happy to hear that the boys gave you a hug and I think they can really feel the difference in some one having them do something that they don't want to do (like home work) and making them do it, because they love and care about them. Your love shows and the kids can feel it. Glad you are getting some counseling or even just some time to vent and problem solve. Kids are hard, especially when they have been raised by some one else. Love and hugs to you! <3
    Pip- - 12.5 miles! I bet you are sore! When is the big race?
    Rori- Love the pics! It looks like you had a great time!
    Kim and Sharon- Love hearing about the musical nights you had/will be having! I love all of the music to Harry Potter and JCS is one of my favorite musicals!
    Well, the first of my kiddos has just arrived, so my work day is starting. Hope your day/week goes well! KJ
  • ilikegardens
    ilikegardens Posts: 134 Member
    edited October 2016
    Good morning to all!

    I must confess. I'm procrastinating this morning, which I did all weekend, which is why I need to work--not procrastinate--this a.m. But admitting this things to you has a tendency to put me back on track.

    Now that I've said that...

    Penny , I'm sad with you over the changes in your climate. :'(

    Heather, What a gorgeous cake! I'm so glad you enjoyed the day. And so sorry your DS is struggling. And when I go to Spain I'll definitely plan far enough in advance that DH and I can see the Alhambra.

    Rori, Karen in NY (recently Philadelphia), Kay, Beautiful pictures! Adorable grandchildren, Kay! I second the comment about lovely smiles, Karen! Which one is you? And Rori, you--and Hawaii--look fabulous!

    Re, it's been so long since I've posted that I haven't said welcome back from your vacation! I'm glad it was wonderful and relaxing. You have a very hectic life!

    Becca, I'm with you on the positivity.

    Mary, I don't know if you need more kettlebells, but I saw yesterday that Walmart had CAP kettlebells on a good price reduction online. I needed to get a heavier one for my deadlifts, and the 60 pounder was less than $45. The Kettlebell swings are making a huge difference in my ability to walk uphill! I've got much more power in my hips.

    More later...

    KarenE
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,296 Member
    Sister day great picture!
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
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  • Lilymay2
    Lilymay2 Posts: 2,525 Member
    well another day and its 1/2 over..
    Honest to Goodness .. I am going to ask Tom if there is anything he likes about me anymore.. cause all he does is nit pick and bi#ch, he also treat me like I am stupid and says I never listen..
    He Is going down to Florida on the 28th and will be home on the 5th, now I was supposed to watch Faith on 4th,5th and they would be coming home the 6th. well I can't help them this time unless it is overnight saterday.. as Tom will not be here and I have to be here for the dogs...

    I would send my DH with your Tom to somewhere to learn respect!! It is making retirement a little hard here :(
  • Lilymay2
    Lilymay2 Posts: 2,525 Member
    Good morning all - have a great day!!

    Rori - beautiful picture, you look great!

    Lillian in West Central Saskatchewan

    Goal for today - don't focus on the outside yucky weather!!
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    Hey! I am the sister wearing the red sweater. Notice how most of us keep our glasses on our heads, learned that one from our mom. I am told I look the most like her, but I am nowhere near how gorgeous she was. Pics of my mom from the 50s she looks like a movie star!

    Anyway, I am plowing through the tough 2 days of the work week (monday and tuesday) by planning good food choices and logging in that I go to the gym, that way I know I will go to the gym!!!

    Times are indeed challenging, I hope everyone of us continues to support, share, laugh and encourage one another, what a difference you all make in my life! <3

    NYKAREN
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Heather: What a lovely compliment to have your name included as a middle name for Bea. :heart:

    Mary: You sure did arrive in Oregon in time for dramatic weather. Too bad it has been so wet. I hope you get to see some pretty weather, too. (((HUGS)))

    Gloria: I'm so glad that you sent a message to Miriam. It hurts my heart that she was made to feel unwelcome here. :broken_heart: The storm track here was odd, in my view. There was quite a bit of storm damage in Portland but none where I live and we're between the coast and Portland. We did have one 50 mph gust according to our home weather station. Perhaps that was the one that knocked Ghosty over. I didn't see tree litter on the streets around here or on the way to my riding lesson yesterday. :huh:

    Karen in NY: I love the sister pic, but couldn't tell which one is you because my screen isn't big enough. :grumble: You'll have to tell us. :smiley:

    Alison: Sleep deprivation can get to a danger zone. I hope you're not anywhere near that point. (((hugs)))


    Yoga today! Yay! Other than that, I haven't got much going on. Tomorrow DH and I will be going to Longview, WA to get a new foot brace to help him walk. He has foot drop as a result of his MS. The one he's been using slips into his shoe on top of his foot. The new one will slip in under his foot. I think it will be more comfortable and more effective. I sure hope so. Thursday I hope to go walking with my former neighbor. She and another friend are walking in our neighborhood on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I can't make it tomorrow because of the appointment in Longview. I haven't seen much of my former neighbor at all since she moved and I've been missing her.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

    “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,365 Member
    Kjlamore - the 6th of nov -I am so under trained, it's gonna hurt!
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,797 Member
    edited October 2016
    Pip - You've still got a while to train. Even if you have to crawl it, I'm sure you will still do it! <3

    Katla - It's so nice to see girlfriends, isn't it. I am booked in to today's restaurant next week for lunch with a girlfriend. Like today, I won't eat much, but will enjoy the chat.
    Today I just had a few slices of home smoked salmon with cockles and then a baked crab. No bread and just a smear of sauces. I enjoyed mine, but DH sent his potted shrimp back and he wasn't charged. He loved his pork belly with scallops. We had a bottle of sparkling rosé English wine. Well, it is his birthday! Came back home for a "nap". :blushing:

    Must download the pics of the christening. <3

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

    PS - NY Karen - I thought that was you, but you are so YOUNG! :o
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,296 Member
    edited October 2016
    Thanks for the Bea fix!

    (((Kim))) What I see almost everywhere is a disregard for healthy boundaries. (The boss calling at midnight)
    That is one of my long term goals it to reclaim my boundaries. What I am working on is how to best clarify my limits and if someone steps over the line how to stand my ground. Every situation is different. I find sometimes it is best to be direct while other times it is best to walk away to give it some space. When I do not honor my boundaries it is difficult for me have contentment, and I feel off.

    :heart: Margaret
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,365 Member
    cityhanelondon - actually I don't. U should train for this kind of a run at LEAST 3-4 months in advance. My workouts during the weekday won't allow food r long runs. I will do it but it's gonna hurt
  • DamitJanit
    DamitJanit Posts: 1,315 Member
    Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

    Good Afternoon Ladies,

    Kelly, I hope you get over your cold soon.

    Barbie, glad you have your knitting and are okay with starting over. You have such patience for some things.

    Pip, glad those beautiful legs are feeling a bit better.

    Heather, the christening sounds like a big hit. How could it not be with that beautiful Bea at the center of the celebration.

    Kay, I did certainly enjoy seeing the picture of you, DH and the cute grands. Thanks for sharing!

    Allie, I wish Tom would learn to treat you right. I just have a feeling he loves you in his own way but it is so unfair to treat you the way he does. And you do so much for him! I’d probably never cook the man another meal. He is so lucky and yet tortures you with insults all the time. ((((Hugs))))

    Penny, I hate to hear that you aren’t enjoying your frozen tundra that you normally have this time of year. Hopefully you will get it soon. And golly gee it sounds like you have been busy!!!! Take a breath, my friend.

    Pat, it was good to hear from you. Sorry to hear you got the crud. Enjoy your time in the Smokey’s.

    Rori, Great pictures of you and Hawaii. Congrats on the decluttering. Doesn’t it feel great when it’s done!

    Heather, I hope your DH had a good Birthday. A new mattress sounds like what the doctor ordered.

    NYKaren, great picture!! So glad you enjoyed the play. What a fun time.

    Heather, thanks for the Bea fix. The other two are darling kids, but there is something about her that just touches my heart!!!
    I’m glad all you ladies in the PNW weathered the storms okay. My DD down near Medford said all they’ve had is rain, rain and more rain.

    The Moose convention was good this year. Lots of great information. The weather was beautiful and we got to the beach two different times. Woo Hoo!!! The sunrise the first morning was fantastic and I tried to post a picture but don’t think it worked. Now that I’m home on my desk top I should be able to. I have a Moose meeting tonight and it’s the last night for our Tailgate Raffle, so we have the drawing after our meeting.f4bvffrap5a3.jpg


    Sending love and good thoughts to all of you and I hope you all have a Happy and Healthy Day! rainbow-smiley-emoticon.gif

    Words I live by:
    Savor. I have to slow down and savor every bite.
    and
    Opportunity. Each day offers new opportunities for good health and happiness if we just look for them and choose them.
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    DJ
    Myrtle Beach, SC
  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,982 Member
    Karen, cute picture. You all look like you're having a great time.

    Heather, the christening pictures are adorable.

    Legs today at the gym. I love the leg machines but hate the step routines. Glad it's over.

    I'm taking a vacation from diet soda and and sugar. It's been almost a week. I keep expecting a miracle burst of feeling more energetic, but so far it hasn't happened.
  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
    GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS Posts: 2,573 Member
    Margaret – Yeah, when the phone rings at midnight – I ‘think’ the worst. Maybe your boss was well on his way to getting ‘plastered’ and did not ‘think’ before he called anybody at that hour. If he called you for something that could wait until morning; I think, asap, that maybe he did not realize it was that late when he called and that he woke you up (thinking something bad had happened to a family member – or something like that). IF he had called saying it was an ‘emergency’ … I definitely would have asked if it could wait until morning and that you’d ‘jump right on it’. That was just ‘rude’ of him. Tell him you don’t answer the phone after a certain time; and put the phone in a different room or turn the ringer off. This might take a while to get used to; but, our DYS’s calls ‘always’ goes to his ‘voice mail’; but, he checks every 15 – 20 minutes to see who has called. He expects for his bosses to tell him they want him to do something before nightfall; or to check their houses for them being ready for them to come in on the weekend. Now that it is ‘hunting season’, DDnL#2 goes to each of them and puts fresh linens on the bed and checks their baths and refrigerators for ‘out-of-date’ food they might have left the last time they were there. Since they paid DYS for the ‘maid’ to come in; DDnL#2 said that it might as well come to them; unless they can get the ‘maid’; if she is busy doing something when she could not do it.

    Allie – Sometimes we ‘allow them to start mistreatment; and sometimes it takes a long time to break him (and you as well) of it or allowing it. To say something back to him, in the same tone he talks to you or asking him ‘what he is so pissed about that he has to take it out on you’; will surprise them. I know DH can be ‘very grumpy’ in the afternoons after a really hot day out in the sun painting houses; they do work on the shady side of the houses, or they try to; but, in the afternoons, if they have to paint the south side, it is hot almost all day. That is usually the side of the house they start on, just to be able to stay as much out of the heat as possible. He has gotten to the point that he will clean his brushes as soon as he gets home, sits down for a little while, then takes his shower. That improves his day greatly; and, then we can talk it out. Hopefully, the only thing that Tom is doing is ‘verbal’ and not anything else. I agree with DJ, maybe you need to ‘go on strike’ … wear a sign pinned to you top that says: “I on strike until Tom can talk to me without criticizing me.” If you let them be ‘abusive’ to you; then, you have to find a way to change his ‘ways’ or ‘tune him out’. Apparently, y’all have been together for quite a few years. DH and I have been married 44; and, he rarely ever ‘yells’ at me, I am a ‘door slammer’. When he, mostly, designed this house, he made sure that none of the doors would ‘slam shut’. Cabinet doors just do not have the same effect. LOL!

    DJ – Your DD can send some of the rain to SWGA. We are having drought conditions; but, they have not rationed water or had ‘watering days’; or told the farmers that they could only irrigate at night. We have a deep well, so hopefully it will never go dry. I had a friend, whose well after 60-something years went dry; they had to come in and drill it deeper. She spent a week walking across the street to one of her daughters to get water to drink, cook with, and would take a bath/shower while she was there. Our aquafers are dependent on rain to keep them full. Bad thing about a ‘drought’ type condition is ‘when it rains’ quite often it forms a ‘lime sink’. Nice if you want a pond; but, most of the time; they go dry again when the weather is hot. There is a nice lake in Albany that drains to another pond-like area; but, it won’t hold water. You can see the crack down the middle of it, and there are signs all the way down it to ‘stay away’ when it grasses over. I am sure that the people whose houses are around it have hoped that it did hold water.

    They've started digging for the Sable Gas Line in our area; they should be digging soon, if not this week. I guess that means that 'hunting season' on our land, this year is a 'bust'. So DOS thinks that he really needs to get one when he and DH go out to hunt with DYS this December. Or else, get one at one of his friend's property. Said they did not have but a few packages of ground venison and they are not looking forward to having to buy meat at the store. DH and I were talking on our way for our 'date night' and I wondered if the right-of-way actually went through someone's house./yard. He said, 'of course it has; some guy tried to sue them, lost, had to pay their attorneys' fees, and lost his house by 'imminent domain'. I would have never done that; I would have had my house appraised and told them, 'this is what I need to get out of my house, fair enough for me to be able to buy another house of equal value'. Or taken what I have it insured for, including the $$ % for replacing the inside furniture and moved, in a heartbeat. They probably would have paid it, too. They gave us a price and we countered them by about $5000 and they did not hesitate paying it. We told them, that they would mess up our hunting for a minimum of 2 years; and, we depend on the meat we get when we kill a deer or a pig. When they came out here, they did all types of testing, ground water, wetland, certain animals (birds, fish, other) and we got a good price for the land; it already had an easement for another gas line; and, we were able to cut timber (hardwoods mostly) and sell it; when they finish we can plant on that area that will not be on the easement that they cut in order to bring in the machines to dig the ditches. It barely missed a huge grain barn down on the main highway; they had just built it; but, maybe they already knew where the easement would go. They also either bought or leased about 6 square acres from the same man who own/owned the land to park their trucks. I bet they have over 50 big tractor trailer trucks and no telling how many digging, grading, and other large machinery on it. They had to bring in a whole lot of fill dirt and gravel. I bet when they are finished in this area; they will have to put it back as it was before they came in.

    Lenora
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    ilikegardens Posts: 134 Member
    Well, I got my work done this morning and then went to pilates. I also noticed a typo in my post this morning...ugh

    Heather, love the photos of your family. My favorite is the one of you and Bea.

    Barbie, I hope you have been able to get outside. And Katla, did you get a riding lesson in yesterday?

    Janetokc, I'm glad your rash is clearing up. Where are you now?

    KarenE
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