WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2016

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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,367 Member
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  • trisH_7183
    trisH_7183 Posts: 1,486 Member
    There is a thread under Motivation & Support called "Biggest advice from people who have lost 50+lbs". Very interesting.
  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
    GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS Posts: 2,573 Member
    edited October 2016
    Carol – Sorry your Mom did not want to go ‘out’. She looked very pretty; but, when they get older, their immediate surroundings are a very safe place to be; she might have felt that if you took her out, she wouldn’t be brought back to the same place. When we took Mother ‘out’ of the A.L.F., we always took her up to “Ted’s” (BBQ place up near the Police Academy). She felt safe because she knew the owners, and she knew that we were going to take her back; however, we NEVER rode by her house (which had been sold, although they did not tear it down until after she passed away. They were trying to decide if it would be cost-effective or cost-prohibitive to keep it for offices and a place to hold small weddings and receptions in the back yard. After they tore it down and extended the church, someone asked if I wanted to take a tour of the ‘new’ part. I did not want to because it felt too much like ‘walking over somebody’s grave’. That was the house I grew up in from the age of 4 through 12th grade (many years of memories). Very good ones, at that.


    Allie – It is a shame that they don’t put couples together in a room, or in together until one gets to the point they are not aware of the other. I had a friend, whose both parents were in a ‘nursing home’, I think they still are; and, they are in the same room, with only a curtain separating them for when a nurse comes in to check on them.


    Katla – Why did you say that? I certainly have not feed her any foods, nor would I deliberately do so, that she is allergic to. So, why am I the 2nd on the list right behind your MnL on the worst list of mean-people? That was pretty 'mean-spirited’ on your part to say that. I don’t ‘think’ I have EVER done anything to you. Maybe you did not like that I had anything to do with ‘saying what is on my mind’ like others do when they ‘vent’ here. So tell me, please. Maybe do it in a PM (and then don’t go and post it here on this thread for all to see). I don’t plan on getting off the site. And the correct spelling of my name is “LENORA”.


    tammylee83 – Thanks for telling me all that. I just wondered. The few times I have had someone from the store that we have bought a few pieces from (they give you one session with their store decorator); the first thing they tell me is to paint the walls (which are “Pecky Cypress” and is hard to find and very expensive when you do. Next thing they tell me is to get rid of all the mounted animals that my DH and DSs have killed over the years. It is not like they just shoot a deer and throw away the meat; it is a staple in our homes. We have ducks, deer, a turkey, a bobcat and (my contribution) a Diamondback Rattler; that I ran over with my car. My DH and DOS said, ‘nah, you don’t know what you are talking about, that is probably a Timber Rattler'. When they went up to see it, I was correct. Showed them that I do know the difference. My grands won’t sit on that side of the table. I would just like to have someone come tell me what I need to do with my 3-cushion sofa and my 2 club chairs that I inherited from my grandmother. I think I will have to have them bring out samples of upholstery and figure out what goes with my Oriental rug; and, the pieces I will keep no matter what. The sofa and the chairs have been recovered twice; and my DYS used to ‘plop down’ on them. DDnL#2 says he does the same there as well. She rearranged the furniture so that he is not as tempted to do it as he was before.

    I was just very disappointed with one house when they ripped out the paneling in the MBR (which looked a lot like ‘painted’ Pecky Cypress). If they had let Clint plane the paint off, they might have liked to use it somewhere else. But, I could understand the buyers not liking it painted. It was pretty hideous looking with the markings in it black compared to the white paint.

    I know that she has a ‘signature’ of decorating, using a lot of very neutral colors in whites and grays. My house is decorated in the gold, wine, rust, and greens. I think I have only seen the show once when she actually used another paint color other than ‘medium gray’. One thing is for sure, nobody else’s house looks like ours. It is sort of ‘city-come-to-country-hunting-cabin’. After 15+ years of living here, I would like to upgrade my kitchen and MBR bath.


    Debbie – Do you do any exercise to up your metabolism? Walking is one of the best exercise you can do. Some of the ladies here do ‘extreme’ exercise, and some don’t do anything other than to ‘track’ everything that passes over their lips. You’ve got the right idea about setting small goals and not being overwhelmed by the total you need to lose. Welcome to the best support group you will probably ever find. Some ladies have been her for years and others are just peeking in. So come often and post whenever you do.

    Make sure you track what you eat and drink in the Food Diary. One of the things that really made a difference for me, was cutting out sodas and drinking water instead. That is something that if you don’t already do, will also take some getting used to and working up slowly. I , now, usually drink anywhere from 11 8-ounces glasses to 14+ glasses per day. Next time you go to your MD, find out what you BMI should be; and, what it is now and work towards getting that into a ‘normal’ range when deciding what you should lose; also find out what type of caloric intake you should be doing in order to ‘lose’ weight and not just ‘maintain’ weight. I think some charts show that maintenance calories are 1100-1300 and others are 1300-1500 (all depending on your CI/CO – calories in/calories out and you age, exercise, and other factors). Asking your MD or their PA is the best person to tell you this. I go to a MD for my diet program and I am taking it off slowly; but, today I had gone up 1.5lbs and it upset me more today than it has [normally] when it has gone up. Nurse/MD says that I need to up my protein when I am exercising … things like ‘boiled eggs’, ‘bananas’, ‘peanut butter’, ‘almonds’ and things like that.

    To make it easy to find us; make sure you ‘bookmark’ the page by clicking on the outline of a star so that it will turn yellow; then after that all you will have to do is click on the gray star between the gray bell and gear. Every end of the month barbiecat will post a link to the next month; and, you will have to go through the process of bookmarking that next month. Also, when posting you cannot go ‘back’ a page, unless you save your post (post it); some of us open up a word processing program so we can respond to others because when you post and come back, the site will take you back to the last post you typed. I do a ‘cut and paste’ from my WPP and then paste it to the MFP page. Then close out my WPP and not save it. You’ll get the hang of it quickly.


    Heather – Hope you get to feeling 'perky' real soon; not ‘peaky’.


    Gloria – I ‘love’ corned beef; had a Reuben for lunch today (well, ½ of it today; the other ½ tomorrow).

    I've got to make a cream cheese pecan pie for "Fall Festival" which is Thursday; DH just asked if I was going to make us/him one. No problem, just have to go back to the store for a few more items.


    Lenora
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Becca There is a big Christmas store in Michigan. Here is the website, might be worth looking at for the apple ornament: https://www.bronners.com/home.do

    Karen in Virginia
  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    Hi ladies, weather in my part of UK turned nasty today, wind and rain Nowhere near as bad as some of the stuff parts of US have to suffer.

    Bought a can of edamame beans, keen to try them but no idea what to do with them, ideas please, I like spicy stuff.

    Been out with DH today few wines and good chat with friends. Off to bed now

    Kate UK
  • oceanmelody
    oceanmelody Posts: 502 Member
    Just checking in to say I am still breathing but life is hectic and I cannot post much...I AM trying to keep up with your posts, though...hugs to those who need them.
    Betty
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
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  • pipcd34
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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,367 Member
    stats for the day - jogging is estimate, :0(
    ride hm 2 gym- 13.53min, 12.7amph, 2.9mi= 70c
    JOG- 35min, 6.5sp, hrm not working, est. 2.5mi = 200c est.
    ride gym 2 dome- 7.58min, 10.9amph, 1.4mi = 86c
    ride dome 2 hm- 21.02min, 7.3amph, 155mhr, 128ahr, 2.5mi = 214c
    total cal 570
  • IremiaRe
    IremiaRe Posts: 801 Member
    Hello Foxy Females!

    Such a lot of lovely pictures... so much going on! I am no exception. Today, the HVAC guys came and replaced our system – so the last three days were a frenzy of cleaning – something I don’t generally find much time for in my day.

    I am hoping that the HVAC guy – who does fences in the off season – can give me a miraculously low quote on the cost of replacing my fence... since, I would MUCH prefer to spend the winter working on little tasks inside the house, rather than digging post holes...*sigh* But, at this point, it would have to be incredibly low – so, keep your fingers crossed! Once the new fence is up – that’s a major hurdle to selling the house, so, if I can get it done NOW – then I can start really working toward the little stuff inside – and maybe get the place sold in the spring. Still dreaming of my postage-stamp condo...

    I lost no weight this week – so, must be about time for another round of the Puffy Princess. I know for sure it isn’t because I have been doing anything bad. Still getting up every day and going to the gym – with only the very rare exception for when I mow the lawn instead, or simply CANNOT get there due to time issues. I haven’t been over in CICO – so, I am sure that it will all resolve itself, in short order.

    My pants are loose, today – some of the newer ones that my co-worker sent me – so that is all good... and when I went to the dentist this morning, to get my teeth cleaned, every single person in the place mentioned my loss... I go in quarterly – so, the last time they saw me I had lost some – but this time, they all gushed about it. It was kind of nice, after not losing any weight, yesterday, on the Christmas Challenge Weigh in.

    I don’t recall who it was asking about job stress – but, I can tell you – there is a MASSIVE amount of job stress – even for people who work at good, stable companies. It’s not like the 50’s – when you went to work for a place and stayed there til you retired... where each individual was valued for their contribution to the company... Now-a-days, we are all just cogs... each of us is an interchangeable part – and if the part is too much trouble, or more expensive to keep than another – just switch it out! And let’s not even talk about “Out Sourcing” to places like India... a whole population of English speakers, who are THRILLED to make a ridiculously low hourly wage – for them it’s a massive improvement.

    My company has been laying off en masse for the last several years – I wonder every week whether I will still be employed after Wednesday Walk-Out... seriously – it has a name. Nobody has any real expectation of continued employment – and it is like that at most places now. JUST THAT is enough to make anybody stressed out if they think about it too much... and if you add a less than stellar boss, or a job that you just don’t like doing – that adds to the burden. Think of poor Chris – being worked half to death and expected to just suck it up because there are 25 people in line who will... it majorly bites.

    And I am no flake, either. My boss likes me and appreciates my work – but – he has zero control. I shudder at what it must be like at less stable companies – or for less stable people - or for people with any of the conditions noted above. I just figure, Que Sera, Sera – I will just play the hand the cosmos deals me – but MAN – some days it’s hard to be philosophical. And it scares the *kitten* out of me to think of trying to find another job... even at the tender age of almost 52 – I am still older than the average bear... and still fatter, too – so, it would be an unpleasant task to find a new job.

    Well, that’s my soap box moment. Alas, there is no going back to the 1950’s – and there are so many reasons why that is a good thing – but, it would be INCREDIBLE if we could at least feel secure in our employment – say 50% of the time – just that would make me happy.... that or selling my albatross of a house... :D

    Welcome to all the new folks... pull up a keyboard and set a spell... Check in often!

    Well, my Dears, I am off – Fast food for dinner, tonight – DH’s choice – because by ten am this morning I had:

    1) Spot cleaned the bathroom
    2) Had my teeth cleaned
    3) Done 30 minutes on the elliptical
    4) Met with the HVAC man

    Clearly there was no time for any dinner prep in there, and I am not feeling Top Ramen and Tuna, tonight. Maybe tomorrow.

    I will try to check in more regularly, now that the cleaning frenzy is over...

    Hugs for Everybody!

    Re in TX
  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,982 Member
    Re, we just had to have our HVAC replaced as well. Ouch, that hurt the old bank account. I could have had beautiful new floors with that money. But DH said not freezing in the winter was more important than having pretty floors. I know he's right, but my inner child is pouting.

    Three groups of arm work today with cardio bursts in between. My legs are sore from yesterday. Babysat the grands this afternoon. Took me two hours to get home through Atlanta traffic. Today marks one week with no diet soda, but my resolve is caving.

    Welcome, newbs!
  • jmkmomm
    jmkmomm Posts: 3,247 Member
    Heather, if my grand kids looked like that I would want to live nearby also. Not to say my grand kids aren't the best looking around. I believe they are. But my life is here. As I have said before, I do have this fear of going through all of the sorting through and packing up my life, which is my house, and moving. We also do not want to have another mortgage. But when I look at your other grand daughter I see that Bea will be just as beautiful

    Lisa, did I ever say that the 'Tell City' of Tell City furniture is right up the road from us?

    DJ, love, love that picture. I don't know why I have never seen one like that when I have been there.

    Got my new CPAP today. I can't believe how much smaller they are now. I had two items of criteria that I went in with as my head gear. I didn't want one that would give me CPAP hair or CPAP face. well I think this might still give me some degree of CPAP hair but not the face. the strap that will go on the top of my head is so much lighter in weight and size. I also can't believe it is totally cellular. Kind of like Big Brother is watching a little to much. He set it up that I needed to put it on as soon as I turn in on but I have my pillows in such a way that when I get in bed with my sleeping medicine in my system, I don't want to have to turn my machine on which is on the floor. My blankets get all messed up, my sleepiness is messed up, etc. So he changed the settings that all I have to do is to put it to my nose and inhale and it turns itself on. that way when I take it off to go potty in the middle of the night the computer doesn't think I am not wearing it. And everything is more washable. It's one of the 'pillow' type head gear. That's the one I have had for years and I think any other would be claustrophobic to me. But that is just me.

    To those giving advice to Allie about how to act when Tom puts her down, I have always said I will not allow myself to stoop to the level of Charlie when he does the same to me. I keep cool, calm on the outside, may not be on the inside. But I will not act like that. Plus I have always tried to reflect God in my heart to him. There are times that I have been ashamed of how I have responded to him. When he is calm, i do let him know how it makes me feel. From the way he looks, it seems he is like he is shutting me out but who knows if he is or not.. Sometimes he says he is sorry, sometimes he comes home from his walk and has brought me a candy bar. Yeah, that's not the healthiest thing but he doesn't know anything else to say he is sorry. It takes our daughter to get him to buy me a gift, jewelry is just against what he is, flowers die so that isn't what he would do. Chocolate is how he speaks.

    Love you all. Welcome to the new ladies. You guys don't know the special family you are now in. These ladies will fight with you, cry with you, rejoice with you. Your realm of friendship is now international.

    Joyce, Indiana where it is now finally going to be like October tomorrow. It is weird having 88 degrees.
  • 17761776
    17761776 Posts: 1,070 Member
    Gayle good to see you. Hope things are going better with your mom. DS#1 has needed extra help right now and that is why I haven't pushed to meet lately.

    :heart: Margaret

    We have to get together! Miss you and mary❤️
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    Does anyone know how Michele in NC is doing, where has she been?

    Janetr okc
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    edited October 2016
    Katla, when do you leave to go to your daughter's, what is her due date. Tiny new babies ar e just the sweetest and such a blessing.

    Janetr okc
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Becca: I am so sorry you are sick. I've tasted eye drops after putting them in my eyes before, and didn't care for the taste at all. I think we all have some connections inside our heads between eyes and throat. I know when my nose gets stuffy my ears feel full of pressure, too. I hope you feel better soon. :flowerforyou:

    Lenora: I just reread my post, and I owe you an apology. I got my words mixed up. My MIL was mean spirited and I don't think that of you. I am sorry I didn't proof read better. :embarassed:

    janetr: I leave to go see my daughter Oct 26. I'm excited to be able to go, but worry about leaving DH home alone. :ohwell:


    DH got a new brace to help with his dropfoot and I think it is a huge improvement over the previous one. He was moving much better, but wore himself out. We looked at a motor home on the way back from getting the new brace. I wound up getting sick sitting in it with the motor on. I think the exhaust fumes were seeping up inside of it. He wants a motor home, and I don't, but I absolutely don't want that one.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

    “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,799 Member
    I'm having a wobble moment about moving. Maybe it's the season - you just want to hunker down, not go rushing around looking at houses. Not that there are any. Nothing new coming up on the websites that we can afford.
    Last night I had a kind of fluey, rheumaticky flare up, which is probably stress related. :'(
    If the perfect house came up in the perfect place, I might feel better.
    It's not as if we have to move. Yes, Joyce, we would like to be nearer to the grandchildren, who give us great joy with their love and spirit, but we also want a more fun lifestyle. Our house is so nice though and our countryside views are so lovely, that, when you are about to lose them, you know the alternative has to give you something really special. Ours is the kind of house that, when you walk in, makes you breathe out and relax. Except when the b****y neighbours are making a horrible noise, which they often are. My friends often walk in and say, "Oh, it's so lovely here!"
    But I am often in the house for days on end. Yoga is the highlight of my life here. I like looking at the scenery, but I am not comfortable walking about in it by myself. I have lost interest in much gardening - it's become a chore now.
    But I am just feeling defeated by the whole idea of finding somewhere we like. :( Plus my knee and joints hurt. :(

    Thanks for listening everyone. It really helps to think on the screen. <3

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • IremiaRe
    IremiaRe Posts: 801 Member
    janetr7476 wrote: »
    Does anyone know how Michele in NC is doing, where has she been?

    Janetr okc

    Michele has been in my newsfeed - she repeats that she is busy, a lot - but, she is logging in and seems to be doing all right... her usual news - just not here. Not sure, why.
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    heather take a day and don't think about selling or buying, just heal up. <3

    Re love reading your posts, the fact that your clothes feel looser is better than the number on the scale. It will keep falling if you keep doing what you're doing! I hear you about work life, it ain't what it used to be! I keep thinking about how tough my father had it in the 70s with manufacturing plants closing down, the stress killed him at the age of 63! I try not to think about it too obsessively, just taking it one step at a time.

    We've all got a lot of folks depending on us in so many ways, not just financially, but emotionally, caretaking, etc. we've got to take good care of us , don't we!!! :#

    Okay, shaking off the serious. Gotta go plan some good food for the day and bring lots of tea wherever I go today--scratchy throat just starting to get my attention.
    NYKAREN
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,156 Member
    Morning Ladies~
    Re~ you aren't kidding about work.. we are the first dental office that Dr HO and Patel bought, they went on to partner in about 15 other offices in the last 8 yrs, then they broke off with one of the partners so they are down to 8.. Dr Ho's wife has taken over about 4 of them and she is a "B" they have a nanny and she doesn't spend time with her daughter,she wears the pants in the family and bosses Dr Ho around and he doesn't want to rock the boat.. so now it is starting to effect us
    all of us women in the office are in our 50's except one she is 47, and both other drs that are associates are in there 30's ,Dr Ho is nit picking about when we punch in by the minute and alot of other stuff..things are getting very stressful ..
    Tom works for United Technologies which is a huge company and they are doing the same thing.. he will not get laid off because they need him to much he plans on working until his 66th birthday which is august of 2018 then retire..
    with us it all about insurance and it is one of the only things keeping him at work..
    Homer went back to the vet yesterday, more blood work ,and we will know better today what they found and what kind of antibiotic he will be on now..Chester has gotten over the hump and is feeling better. have to take him back to vet next week to have staples taken out..
    spoke with Tom and will call Ruth today and judge on if I will be making an overnight trip to Cape this weekend or not.. I have to work until noon on saterday and it is a 4 hr ride out.. so we will see, I might get a motel for overnight on saterday if I do... Ruth and Ray found each other later in life so no children ,so they sorta feel like I am part of the family, and if it is his time, I couldn't live with myself not to say goodbye.. Ruth was on Hospice care but she is a trooper and at 89 she doesn't seem to be going anywhere..
    Have to stay overnight tomorrow with Faith as Sean and Jean need to go up to N.H. to turn water off and put bubbler in at lake house
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,799 Member
    Thanks NY Karen. :flowerforyou: I do feel better for having voiced my worries. The sun is actually shining and I talked it all over with DH. Luckily we are very supportive of each other. <3
    The painter came and repaired a damaged ceiling in the utility room that was there when we bought the house, plus he painted some sticky white stuff over an old leak stain in the family bathroom. Don't want to arouse anyone's suspicions.

    I managed to complete my exercises, despite my stiff knee, and felt better for it. I'm giving the kettlebell a rest for now as my knee isn't happy with it. Did my dumbbells instead. Got to keep those muscles trim! :laugh:

    I've got the tax form out of the filing cabinet. :noway:

    Hairy Bikers Spanish Chicken tonight, Kim. :D

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
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    1948CWB Posts: 1,663 Member

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  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
    GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS Posts: 2,573 Member
    Katla – Thank you! I accept your apology. I was ‘thinking’ … maybe I am wrong in how I have treated my DnL#1; but, I really do not think I have. She brings ‘drama’ into my home; and, I just will not accept it. Last night, they came over to sleep because it was 87° in their house at 9:00PM and their ‘air’ had gone out again. Guess we will have them until their air is fixed. If they replace just the cooling coils only; and, put in Freon ... it will cost them about $1000. With the money they have spent ‘fixing’ it; they could have paid for a new one. I ‘thought’ they had gotten a new one; but, I was wrong. DnL#1 did not say much last night; when I asked about the job, in Dawson, DOS let me know very quickly that he had said, that ‘it will close’ today and that she was only working here to get some experience in what she will be doing, provided she gets the job; they are both hoping she does because it will pay her significantly more. I’m praying that she does get it, it will be a great boost to her self-esteem and will make having had walked off her previous job ‘well worth it’. Like DOS told her, she now has her foot in the door and she will be able to continue getting better positions and pay. I just hope there are not 4 people ahead of her who have more experience.

    Maybe, I should have chosen my words more carefully, when I was ‘venting and ranting’ and thought about what I was saying about this DnL#1. Sometimes, I guess my DnL#1 ‘thinks’ I am ‘mean-spirited’; but, there is NOTHING I can do to ever change her mind. I just hate that she has to continue feeling like I could ever love one child over the other. Even DsnL … they are part of my family as well. But, if there is an apology, it will have to be ‘in front of DH and DOS’. Because she will not ‘let go’ of the past, and I never know when she will dredge it up again. I cannot change the past; but, must ‘move on’. She has to have the last word, even if it is to say, ‘we’re getting nowhere’. I do not think I should have to ‘grovel’ to ‘make her feel better about herself’. Only SHE has that control; but, doesn’t have enough ‘self-discipline’ to ‘let it go, and move on herself. As DH says, she doesn’t seem to realize just how much we have helped them ‘financially’ and it is like we are having our hands bitten off, which you should not do when someone is helping you out, in any manner.


    Janetr7476 – I have heard from Michele in NC; they live further north in the state of NC and were not affected by the storm. I’m sure she has just been busy doing other things; but, she will be back.


    Allie – Dr. Ho sounds like my DOS, who doesn’t want to rock the boat with DnL#1. She wears the pants in their family as well. She starts (or tries to) arguments around and among people (even family) and then gets her ‘fanny’ on her shoulders when they get ‘angry or say something to her about her actions or words’ that she takes it as a personal affront. She has to get in the ‘last jab’ instead of just ‘letting it go’; so I just don't keep at it, I just stop answering her comments. I have often thought about just 'blocking' her or sending all her emails to my 'junk' folder after I have read them. She is quite jealous of DDnL#2. For those of you who might have questions; I just cannot put the extra “D” in front of her name at this point; because it is not a “D” as in “Dear”. I don’t curse her because ‘if’ I do, then I do the same to my family, ... all of them. It just ‘hurts’ when she says things that make me ‘wonder’ if she even knows what an apology is; or how it sounds to have her always be so negative. Her actions really affect all of us and we have all taken a few steps back, and letting her have a ‘wide’ berth; but, then, she just gets worse as if that extra space around her gives her more ammunition to operate with. I was taught that ‘slapping someone’ was almost as ‘bad as spitting at them’; but, when DOS grabbed my arm and would not let go, so I could go to my computer area [I’m sure he thought I was headed out the door, after DnL#1]; I told him to let go, I only wanted to get on my desktop. He kept a hold on me; but, when he let go … I was SO mad, that I took both hands and slapped him ‘hard’ on both cheeks at the same time. Needless to say, that made him ‘mad’ and he told me ‘don’t ever slap me again’. Since I was in my own home, I asked him what he was going to do about it, if I did ... hit me back? He backed off, I think he ‘knew’ he had gotten into my space and that I did not appreciate it. DH was coming into the room, so I think that is one reason he backed off. But, he and the girls stayed for supper; then, we sent home enough BBQ so that DnL#1 could have some.

    I think I have set my bar too high to expect that this DnL#1 will ‘ever’ let us have the same type of ‘relationship’ that I had with my DMnL; and, it could be so much better for both of us, if we could. I’ve made a few remarks (to DH mostly) that I would ‘bite his @$$’ if she isn’t ‘bipolar’ or something. Her moods change light a flick of the light switch. We can just be talking and suddenly her demeanor just changes. DOS has told his Dad that he 'thinks' she has some 'mental issues'. "Ya Thunk?" I'm just concerned that something will send her off the edge into that dark abyss. Like when her Granny dies.

    Lenora
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  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,663 Member
    Carey ~ Glad your eyes are feeling better!

    Virginia ~ Awesome exercise! As I walked the Pom this morning, I wondered if I could run if something was chasing me. The answer was definitely, NO WAY! Think I'm going to have to do something about my knees sometimes soon.

    Penny - I just printed a shipping label to Finland for a handbag I sold on Etsy. I had only charged $15 for shipping and the shipping to there was $21. :'( I need to start using calculated shipping instead of flat rates I guess.

    It's still unusually hot in GA! Just turned the AC down to 74 trying to cool off the house. DH and I both woke up sweating last night. Even the Pom wanted down off the bed.

    Carol
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,799 Member
    Haven't done my taxes. :'( Tomorrow for sure. Hold me to that, ladies. >:)

    What we did do was take a whole lot of stuff to the dump. How I love that. :D The garage looks a whole lot emptier. :D Plus we took a big bag of cookery books and unwanted gifts to the charity shop. Feels sooooooo good. :bigsmile:
    We are now debating whether we can declutter and downsize enough to fit ourselves into a small ultra modern house that is on the market. DH is keen, but I feel the need to hang on to some things. :* Would be nice to make a whole new start. Fabulous position near the sea, with parking. But tiny. I love the idea of pared down living, but the reality involves some difficult choices.

    Anyway, I got a real boost from getting rid of stuff. Does anyone else feel like that?

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
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