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  • George_of_the_Jungle
    George_of_the_Jungle Posts: 3,316 Member
    1976gemini wrote: »
    THERE'S GOING TO BE A NEW MATRIX OH EM GEE

    Whoa
  • Truvanessa
    Truvanessa Posts: 327 Member
    Hoping my coffee will wake me up. Lol!! 😴
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  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    Behindblue_eyes wrote: »
    Telling a woman they're beautiful does not help their self esteem at all. In fact, I find it can do more harm than good. The term beautiful has lost its value in today's world, it's time we value people for who they are and not necessarily what they look like.
    JUST had this conversation. Weird
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  • Reckoner68
    Reckoner68 Posts: 2,139 Member
    Should telling someone they're beautiful be a tool to improve their self esteem, or should it be an honest expression of emotion? Is there a difference? Is one more/less valuable than the other? Do I still care to know an answer to this after typing it all out? Probably not, now my brain is tired, if anyone needs me I'll be imagining bicycles made out of licorice and how frustrating they'd be to try and ride
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  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    edited August 2019
    Behindblue_eyes wrote: »
    your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
    Behindblue_eyes wrote: »
    Telling a woman they're beautiful does not help their self esteem at all. In fact, I find it can do more harm than good. The term beautiful has lost its value in today's world, it's time we value people for who they are and not necessarily what they look like.
    JUST had this conversation. Weird

    You can tell someone a thousand times they are beautiful, if they don't believe it, it does absolutely nothing for their confidence or self esteem.
    Yes. I think that comes from knowing you are a worthwhile human who is good at some things.

    As far as compliments go though, it’s a pretty superficial one.

    ETA: I still like to hear it however, for some complicated reasons
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  • George_of_the_Jungle
    George_of_the_Jungle Posts: 3,316 Member
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    Should telling someone they're beautiful be a tool to improve their self esteem,NO or should it be an honest expression of emotion?YES Is there a difference? Is one more/less valuable than the other? Do I still care to know an answer to this after typing it all out? Probably not, now my brain is tired, if anyone needs me I'll be imagining bicycles made out of licorice and how frustrating they'd be to try and ride

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  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    Behindblue_eyes wrote: »
    Telling a woman they're beautiful does not help their self esteem at all. In fact, I find it can do more harm than good. The term beautiful has lost its value in today's world, it's time we value people for who they are and not necessarily what they look like.

    I have no idea why this got woo’d, it’s completely accurate. I want to deck people who tell my 8 yr old daughter that she looks so ‘pretty’ like she ‘lost weight’, why do they hate my child? 😅
  • Reckoner68
    Reckoner68 Posts: 2,139 Member
    Seriously though, imagine the whole bike just being this limp mass of slightly ropey grossness. You’d just be standing there holding it up by the handlebars as it sags beneath you and the frustration of “how am I supposed to ride this?” would be very real
  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    edited August 2019
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    Should telling someone they're beautiful be a tool to improve their self esteem, or should it be an honest expression of emotion? Is there a difference? Is one more/less valuable than the other? Do I still care to know an answer to this after typing it all out? Probably not, now my brain is tired, if anyone needs me I'll be imagining bicycles made out of licorice and how frustrating they'd be to try and ride
    Why is this a recurring theme in my life?

    If it is anything, it should be a simple statement of appreciation.

    Most of us are created to appreciate beauty.

    But beauty in the form of human appearance isn’t something a person has a lot of control over. Neither is innate intelligence for that matter.

    To help self-esteem, recognize genuine accomplishment, struggle, perseverance, unusual applications of possessed skills.

    IMO

    Then tell me I’m pretty and buy me a beer.
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  • George_of_the_Jungle
    George_of_the_Jungle Posts: 3,316 Member
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    Seriously though, imagine the whole bike just being this limp mass of slightly ropey grossness. You’d just be standing there holding it up by the handlebars as it sags beneath you and the frustration of “how am I supposed to ride this?” would be very real

    you fool! eat it! :)
  • George_of_the_Jungle
    George_of_the_Jungle Posts: 3,316 Member
    All I'm saying is how you feel about yourself shouldn't be so dependent on what anyone else has to say, good bad or indifferent. If a single beautiful or ugly comment moves the needle too much for you, you've still got some self identification work to do.

    #loveyoself
  • Cowsfan1
    Cowsfan1 Posts: 7,937 Member
    Behindblue_eyes wrote: »
    Telling a woman they're beautiful does not help their self esteem at all. In fact, I find it can do more harm than good. The term beautiful has lost its value in today's world, it's time we value people for who they are and not necessarily what they look like.

    But it’s your mind I’m after, also what a beautiful post
  • George_of_the_Jungle
    George_of_the_Jungle Posts: 3,316 Member
    Cowsfan1 wrote: »
    Behindblue_eyes wrote: »
    Telling a woman they're beautiful does not help their self esteem at all. In fact, I find it can do more harm than good. The term beautiful has lost its value in today's world, it's time we value people for who they are and not necessarily what they look like.

    But it’s your behind I’m after, also what a beautiful post

    FIFY :smirk:

  • Keep_on_cardio
    Keep_on_cardio Posts: 4,166 Member
    Behindblue_eyes wrote: »
    Telling a woman they're beautiful does not help their self esteem at all. In fact, I find it can do more harm than good. The term beautiful has lost its value in today's world, it's time we value people for who they are and not necessarily what they look like.

    There’s a few ways I look at this, agree.

    I’ve watched females call one another beautiful and pick apart those same women to other females or men.

    I’ve also watched compliments be somewhat backhanded compliments. Like oooo so pretty, why don’t you do this?

    In today’s society, there’s a lack of sincerity. We have everyone going through their own set of life issues and projecting it onto others’. Self esteem issues are always going to be on the rise, when feeding into others’ projections and taking them on as your own self issues.

    When you hear something more than once, you begin to question, is this true? Today’s world, we need to get back to finding ourselves and not feel the need to be liked or living up to others opinions.

    ** I do agree with you with liking a person and to value them as who they are, VS. what they look like ❤️



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  • jiujitsudad15118
    jiujitsudad15118 Posts: 462 Member
    had a crazy dream
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  • your_future_ex_wife
    your_future_ex_wife Posts: 4,278 Member
    Behindblue_eyes wrote: »
    your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    Should telling someone they're beautiful be a tool to improve their self esteem, or should it be an honest expression of emotion? Is there a difference? Is one more/less valuable than the other? Do I still care to know an answer to this after typing it all out? Probably not, now my brain is tired, if anyone needs me I'll be imagining bicycles made out of licorice and how frustrating they'd be to try and ride
    Why is this a recurring theme in my life?

    If it is anything, it should be a simple statement of appreciation.

    Most of us are created to appreciate beauty.

    But beauty in the form of human appearance isn’t something a person has a lot of control over. Neither is innate intelligence for that matter.

    To help self-esteem, recognize genuine accomplishment, struggle, perseverance, unusual applications of possessed skills.

    IMO

    Then tell me I’m pretty and buy me a beer.

    You're pretty, can I buy you a beer?

    Yes please!
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    Reckoner68 wrote: »
    Seriously though, imagine the whole bike just being this limp mass of slightly ropey grossness. You’d just be standing there holding it up by the handlebars as it sags beneath you and the frustration of “how am I supposed to ride this?” would be very real

    sounds like something my ex wife would say
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