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Behindblue_eyes wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
Why is this a recurring theme in my life?Reckoner68 wrote: »Should telling someone they're beautiful be a tool to improve their self esteem, or should it be an honest expression of emotion? Is there a difference? Is one more/less valuable than the other? Do I still care to know an answer to this after typing it all out? Probably not, now my brain is tired, if anyone needs me I'll be imagining bicycles made out of licorice and how frustrating they'd be to try and ride
If it is anything, it should be a simple statement of appreciation.
Most of us are created to appreciate beauty.
But beauty in the form of human appearance isn’t something a person has a lot of control over. Neither is innate intelligence for that matter.
To help self-esteem, recognize genuine accomplishment, struggle, perseverance, unusual applications of possessed skills.
IMO
Then tell me I’m pretty and buy me a beer.
You're pretty, can I buy you a beer?
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Reckoner68 wrote: »Seriously though, imagine the whole bike just being this limp mass of slightly ropey grossness. You’d just be standing there holding it up by the handlebars as it sags beneath you and the frustration of “how am I supposed to ride this?” would be very real
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Behindblue_eyes wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »getting compliments like “youre pretty” can make my whole day better if it’s from the right person tbh
from the wrong person it can be creepy af
if any random grown up man told my 10 year old daughter she was pretty i would tell him to back the *kitten* off
so yknow, context is important
What inspired me to write that was a few threads on here regarding self confidence bc of weight issues. It seems most people's responses are to say - "you're beautiful!" Yadda, yadda...
George_of_the_Jungle did a good job doing that.
I love a good compliment as well as anyone. 😆
P.S. You're hot 😍
Seldom do I see these words in such close proximity. Danke0 -
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Behindblue_eyes wrote: »George_of_the_Jungle wrote: »Behindblue_eyes wrote: »tinkerhellraiser wrote: »getting compliments like “youre pretty” can make my whole day better if it’s from the right person tbh
from the wrong person it can be creepy af
if any random grown up man told my 10 year old daughter she was pretty i would tell him to back the *kitten* off
so yknow, context is important
What inspired me to write that was a few threads on here regarding self confidence bc of weight issues. It seems most people's responses are to say - "you're beautiful!" Yadda, yadda...
George_of_the_Jungle did a good job doing that.
I love a good compliment as well as anyone. 😆
P.S. You're hot 😍
Seldom do I see these words in such close proximity. Danke
Don't get used to it 😆
never, then it would do nothing for my self esteem
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fairylover0092 wrote: »ive always found just tell me what you mean and mean what you say works wonders.. dont beat around the bush!! im an extremely blunt person myself so
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JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »Spotify is having a *kitten* of a time trying to figure me out and frankly it's annoying. Just play what I picked. Don't try to guess what I like and especially don't add *kitten* to my playlist on your own.
This is why I quit pandora and switched to YouTube premium. Everything I picked ended up on the Beetles.2 -
George_of_the_Jungle wrote: »All I'm saying is how you feel about yourself shouldn't be so dependent on what anyone else has to say, good bad or indifferent. If a single beautiful or ugly comment moves the needle too much for you, you've still got some self identification work to do.
#loveyoself
These are wise words.
However, (and i can only speak to what it’s like to be a girl so maybe it’s the same for boys) young girls are practically brainwashed by the media to believe that their appearance and other people’s approval of it = self worth. They’re all wrapped up together, and it’s hard to teach a girl not to care about other people’s words. That comes with time and maturity I think.
I feel like body positivity is trending though so it’s maybe not as bad as when i was a teen1 -
caco_ethes wrote: »George_of_the_Jungle wrote: »All I'm saying is how you feel about yourself shouldn't be so dependent on what anyone else has to say, good bad or indifferent. If a single beautiful or ugly comment moves the needle too much for you, you've still got some self identification work to do.
#loveyoself
These are wise words.
However, (and i can only speak to what it’s like to be a girl so maybe it’s the same for boys) young girls are practically brainwashed by the media to believe that their appearance and other people’s approval of it = self worth. They’re all wrapped up together, and it’s hard to teach a girl not to care about other people’s words. That comes with time and maturity I think.
I feel like body positivity is trending though so it’s maybe not as bad as when i was a teen
Hell it’s taken me damn near 40 years to not give a damn what others think - it comes with age for both men and women I think. There comes a time where maybe you’re too busy - or tired or whatever to really give two fuggs ya know - guess that’s a perk to being old - get off my damn lawn ya know2 -
its nearly the roaring twenties again and us men still out here not getting told WE are beautiful for once smh
ah well least we still got the height shaming6 -
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JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »George_of_the_Jungle wrote: »JustReadTheInstructions wrote: »Spotify is having a *kitten* of a time trying to figure me out and frankly it's annoying. Just play what I picked. Don't try to guess what I like and especially don't add *kitten* to my playlist on your own.
This is why I quit pandora and switched to YouTube premium. Everything I picked ended up on the Beetles.
Does it use a ton more data than pandora? I'm strongly considering it
you can turn the video off1 -
tinkerhellraiser wrote: »its nearly the roaring twenties again and us men still out here not getting told WE are beautiful for once smh
ah well least we still got the height shaming
there are many ways we tell u youre beautiful like
“hey
wyd”
or
“who is that girl who’s pic u liked???
”
or
“i’m fine, it’s nothing”
you just have to LISTEN
umm what's this?1 -
tinkerhellraiser wrote: »its nearly the roaring twenties again and us men still out here not getting told WE are beautiful for once smh
ah well least we still got the height shaming
there are many ways we tell u youre beautiful like
“hey wyd”
or
“who is that girl who’s pic u liked???”
or
“i’m fine, it’s nothing”
you just have to LISTEN
she knows stuff ❤️2 -
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Behindblue_eyes wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
JUST had this conversation. WeirdBehindblue_eyes wrote: »Telling a woman they're beautiful does not help their self esteem at all. In fact, I find it can do more harm than good. The term beautiful has lost its value in today's world, it's time we value people for who they are and not necessarily what they look like.
You can tell someone a thousand times they are beautiful, if they don't believe it, it does absolutely nothing for their confidence or self esteem.
this why i always start every text with "hey little ugly wyd"
And it's like a dagger to my cold ugly heart 😭 just once could you start with " hey not so ugly wyd"1 -
I just woke up from a nap and when I woke up I thought it was morning and it was Sunday, it took me a good 15 minutes to get back to reality. 😒🤣2
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College drop out is by far Kanye’s best album - also sting cheese is pure greatness- oh and I’m not really feeling leg day - but can’t be a sissy all my life I don’t guess - I’m going now - get off my back sheesh !2
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Beauty and getting compliments is a loaded thing. Our society rewards women who are those things and as much as one being confident is a good thing, it's the way of life. Too many studies and actual things that I have seen and experienced that could change my mind. It's such a layered cluster tho, as I know being overweight has barred alot of things and then couple race and skin color spectrum into the mix and it's a whole thing. I like giving compliments that are real as life isn't promised and I would rather hear things now vs at my funeral. But vanity and beauty is so much of a high commodity, it's the one way a woman has power in society. It's her bargaining chip for entry in higher society or a better life. Men kinda have that but for men unless he is young as long as he has some dollars he can be 79years old he can bag a 25 year old easily.
I like this thread interesting views on a wide variety of things.5 -
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People who pride themselves on ‘taking the high road’ when they’re really just being passive aggressive dillholes8
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caco_ethes wrote: »People who pride themselves on ‘taking the high road’ when they’re really just being passive aggressive dillholes
My experience with the high road is that if people are talking about taking it they’re not taking it4 -
caco_ethes wrote: »People who pride themselves on ‘taking the high road’ when they’re really just being passive aggressive dillholes
I insightfulled that because it’s insightful.3 -
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