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  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    KickassAmazon76 wrote: »
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    My daughter talks so much. And about random things. With extreme detail. I now know what it’s like to talk to me, I get it loud and clear. And I’m sorry if I’ve ever talked to you in this way. I love talking to her, I really do. But sometimes it’s a lot.

    Mine too! Sometimes I zone out and then feel so guilty. 🙄🤪

    I do that with my dh. But without the guilt. :blush:
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    @KickassAmazon76
    I just read your story from Dec. 30-now. Wow, you've been through some major life adjustments and still see the good, see tomorrow as a better brighter day. I so admire your strength and courage!!
    As difficult as everything has been, it has brought you here, to these moments with your kids. To being grateful for the good things happening in your life. <3
    You sound like a true fighter, just like your dad.
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,677 Member
    slimgirljo15 wrote: »
    KickassAmazon76 wrote: »
    You know... This is going to be long, so I'll throw it into a spoiler so people can skip if they want.

    Summary... Kids, conflict, covid, and the silver lining.
    Some of you may know that I've been a bit of an emotional wreck. The other day the burden of everything seemed especially heavy and I started listing in my brain everything I was struggling with, to justify why I felt so broken...

    Dec 30 - my fiancé broke up with me and my kids.. By text message. I never saw him again, and his kids dropped my stuff off in the yard. January my dad was critically ill and almost didn't make it. March covid hit, my dad became ill again and almost didn't make it, again. My youngest daughter came out as non binary, changed pronouns, and changed their name. That wasn't bad, but it was a shock and a huge adjustment. They were also being bullied relentlessly, and becoming increasingly anxious and suicidal. April and May I was trying to figure out how to manage homeschool AND work from home and both kids were beggng me to get them out of their dad's home permanently (we currently share 50/50).

    Summer was full of drama, kids begging for move, anxiety, tears, stress and me trying to figure out what to do and how to do it.

    Fast forward to now... Lawyers are now involved, family therapy, third party (unwelcome family) intervention... And a whole lotta tears and emotion. It's not been easy.

    BUT...

    When I look at all those things... I realize... The breakup was the best thing that could have happened to me and my kids. We're closer than ever and I think covid and lockdown would have been a nightmare in his home (with his 5 kids and my 2). Plus I hadn't sold mine yet, so I got to stay in the place I love!

    My dad survived BOTH times and is still going strong.

    Covid and school cancellation stopped the bullying and brought me and my kids so much closer to each other. Coming out eased some of my youngest child's internal struggle. And the drama with the ex has led to my kids finally getting the therapy they needed... And as of yesterday, being with me full time - on the recommendation of the therapist. (it's only temporary right now, but it's a huge start, and the kids are so relieved).

    Plus I've saved a tonne in gas money and had 8 months of snuggles with my senior cat (who has new life) and her irritating (and wonderful) younger cat brother.

    Every bad / stressful thing has resulted in some really good things. And as long as I can keep my head up, and my form solid... I can handle the weight of all these burdens.

    It was a tough day today... But my kids stood up to some bullies in their family, and even that was a win.

    Anyhoo, sorry for the novel, but I needed to share it somewhere to remind myself that I'm not falling apart... Things are coming together.

    #silverlining

    So many silver linings.. love this post and the biggest of hugs to you. 🤗

    Thank you! 😊 ❤️
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    @KickassAmazon76
    I just read your story from Dec. 30-now. Wow, you've been through some major life adjustments and still see the good, see tomorrow as a better brighter day. I so admire your strength and courage!!
    As difficult as everything has been, it has brought you here, to these moments with your kids. To being grateful for the good things happening in your life. <3
    You sound like a true fighter, just like your dad.

    Thank you! I can't say I've held it together well as these things have happened. There have been soooooo many tears and breakdowns.

    But I'm still here, and alive, and all things considered, life is pretty freaking good still! ❤️
  • MelG7777
    MelG7777 Posts: 14,230 Member
    KosmosKitten wrote: »
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    My daughter talks so much. And about random things. With extreme detail. I now know what it’s like to talk to me, I get it loud and clear. And I’m sorry if I’ve ever talked to you in this way. I love talking to her, I really do. But sometimes it’s a lot.

    My son does this and he's only 8. And yes, it's a lot. Also, he does not get it from me as I am not a chatterbox and don't talk to everyone like I am an infinite repository of knowledge. :grimace:

    Lol. My daughter is 8 as well. I am only a chatterbox with certain people. Otherwise the chatter is contained to my own head. I definitely know I’m not in intimate repository of knowledge too. Does your son FaceTime? Maybe they can talk each other’s ear off. 😂
  • MelG7777
    MelG7777 Posts: 14,230 Member
    KickassAmazon76 wrote: »
    You know... This is going to be long, so I'll throw it into a spoiler so people can skip if they want.

    Summary... Kids, conflict, covid, and the silver lining.
    Some of you may know that I've been a bit of an emotional wreck. The other day the burden of everything seemed especially heavy and I started listing in my brain everything I was struggling with, to justify why I felt so broken...

    Dec 30 - my fiancé broke up with me and my kids.. By text message. I never saw him again, and his kids dropped my stuff off in the yard. January my dad was critically ill and almost didn't make it. March covid hit, my dad became ill again and almost didn't make it, again. My youngest daughter came out as non binary, changed pronouns, and changed their name. That wasn't bad, but it was a shock and a huge adjustment. They were also being bullied relentlessly, and becoming increasingly anxious and suicidal. April and May I was trying to figure out how to manage homeschool AND work from home and both kids were beggng me to get them out of their dad's home permanently (we currently share 50/50).

    Summer was full of drama, kids begging for move, anxiety, tears, stress and me trying to figure out what to do and how to do it.

    Fast forward to now... Lawyers are now involved, family therapy, third party (unwelcome family) intervention... And a whole lotta tears and emotion. It's not been easy.

    BUT...

    When I look at all those things... I realize... The breakup was the best thing that could have happened to me and my kids. We're closer than ever and I think covid and lockdown would have been a nightmare in his home (with his 5 kids and my 2). Plus I hadn't sold mine yet, so I got to stay in the place I love!

    My dad survived BOTH times and is still going strong.

    Covid and school cancellation stopped the bullying and brought me and my kids so much closer to each other. Coming out eased some of my youngest child's internal struggle. And the drama with the ex has led to my kids finally getting the therapy they needed... And as of yesterday, being with me full time - on the recommendation of the therapist. (it's only temporary right now, but it's a huge start, and the kids are so relieved).

    Plus I've saved a tonne in gas money and had 8 months of snuggles with my senior cat (who has new life) and her irritating (and wonderful) younger cat brother.

    Every bad / stressful thing has resulted in some really good things. And as long as I can keep my head up, and my form solid... I can handle the weight of all these burdens.

    It was a tough day today... But my kids stood up to some bullies in their family, and even that was a win.

    Anyhoo, sorry for the novel, but I needed to share it somewhere to remind myself that I'm not falling apart... Things are coming together.

    #silverlining

    Wow. I’m sorry you’ve gone through so much. That’s a lot! But what a great outlook you have, that’s amazing! Thanks for sharing.
    KickassAmazon76 wrote: »
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    My daughter talks so much. And about random things. With extreme detail. I now know what it’s like to talk to me, I get it loud and clear. And I’m sorry if I’ve ever talked to you in this way. I love talking to her, I really do. But sometimes it’s a lot.

    Mine too! Sometimes I zone out and then feel so guilty. 🙄🤪

    It happens! I’m sure they zone out on me all the time too. Lol
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    edited November 2020
    Why are mouse traps called mouse traps when all some of them appear to do is serve them dinner. I can almost hear them chuckling at me behind the walls, waiting for me to serve their next meal. :/
    Mouse traps used to completely disappear on me, couldn't find them anywhere. I think the mice ate them just to put the fear of rodents in me.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    did you have a hitch in your step when you walked home ??
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    I love Mfp dreams, especially the ones where I wake up feeling romantically attached to someone and it takes like half the morning to fade and it only does so because his posts make me jealous and hurt that he can’t and will never be the literal guy of my dreams whose lap i sat on in the hot tub that was then a pool and then a torrential flood in the basement and we can’t go down there to fix it because we might get electrocuted but he bravely tries anyway and I scream as I realize that I’m still holding his hand and that I’ll be electrocuted too but then it’s fine because we’re in a van and it’s snowing and i’m coming down from the loft in his shirt and it smells like coffee and bacon

    Edit: this is totally just an example

    wait.

    Bacon ?
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    I love Mfp dreams, especially the ones where I wake up feeling romantically attached to someone and it takes like half the morning to fade and it only does so because his posts make me jealous and hurt that he can’t and will never be the literal guy of my dreams whose lap i sat on in the hot tub that was then a pool and then a torrential flood in the basement and we can’t go down there to fix it because we might get electrocuted but he bravely tries anyway and I scream as I realize that I’m still holding his hand and that I’ll be electrocuted too but then it’s fine because we’re in a van and it’s snowing and i’m coming down from the loft in his shirt and it smells like coffee and bacon

    Edit: this is totally just an example

    wait.

    Bacon ?

    I know, that part was weird
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,677 Member
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    Why are mouse traps called mouse traps when all some of them appear to do is serve them dinner. I can almost hear them chuckling at me behind the walls, waiting for me to serve their next meal. :/
    Mouse traps used to completely disappear on me, couldn't find them anywhere. I think the mice ate them just to put the fear of rodents in me.

    If they disappear... It's usually cause it caught a leg 😔. Look in fall areas near the trap. I found one in a box on the shelf (alive) and the other one flipped off the back and was hanging over the electrical cord (also alive). 😭

    I hate killing them, but can't have them in my home... So when the trap misfires, my heart breaks for the cute little critter.

    Good news, it's been over a week since any of the 4 I put out were triggered!
  • Miss_Chiev0us
    Miss_Chiev0us Posts: 1,592 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    who passed out first and did anybody draw on their face with a sharpie?

    I didn't get to find out who passed out first because you all ditched me before. I'm over it now 😜😂
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    did you have a hitch in your step when you walked home ??

    If I remember correctly, I couldn't walk. The helicopter came to get me.
  • Miss_Chiev0us
    Miss_Chiev0us Posts: 1,592 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    I love Mfp dreams, especially the ones where I wake up feeling romantically attached to someone and it takes like half the morning to fade and it only does so because his posts make me jealous and hurt that he can’t and will never be the literal guy of my dreams whose lap i sat on in the hot tub that was then a pool and then a torrential flood in the basement and we can’t go down there to fix it because we might get electrocuted but he bravely tries anyway and I scream as I realize that I’m still holding his hand and that I’ll be electrocuted too but then it’s fine because we’re in a van and it’s snowing and i’m coming down from the loft in his shirt and it smells like coffee and bacon

    Edit: this is totally just an example

    😂😅
  • will_it_go_round_in_circles
    will_it_go_round_in_circles Posts: 985 Member
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    who passed out first and did anybody draw on their face with a sharpie?

    I didn't get to find out who passed out first because you all ditched me before. I'm over it now 😜😂
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    did you have a hitch in your step when you walked home ??

    If I remember correctly, I couldn't walk. The helicopter came to get me.

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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    who passed out first and did anybody draw on their face with a sharpie?

    I didn't get to find out who passed out first because you all ditched me before. I'm over it now 😜😂
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    did you have a hitch in your step when you walked home ??

    If I remember correctly, I couldn't walk. The helicopter came to get me.


    so the camp-out was a success ?
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    yknow i haven't actually hated this year all that much

    like sure there's the rona zombies, that *kitten* carole baskin, the murder hornets, lockdowns, mask orders when you're walking by yourself, food/supply shortages, burning cities, aliens on venus (🤞), brain eating amoebas in the water supply, and now election strife/"civil" war happenings, and two months left to go!

    but tbh its really all kept me pretty busy with doomsday prepping and learning new things, so that my annual november depression hasn't really set in too horrifically yet and that's a big victory for me

    so honestly, thank you 2020.

    just give us proof of bigfoot now

    ☺️
  • Miss_Chiev0us
    Miss_Chiev0us Posts: 1,592 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    who passed out first and did anybody draw on their face with a sharpie?

    I didn't get to find out who passed out first because you all ditched me before. I'm over it now 😜😂
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    I had a dream last night that I went camping with @iMago @sweet_ermengarde @Motorsheen and @PlentyofProtein00 and y'all left me alone in the woods in the U.S and I'm not sure about how I feel about you guys this morning 😂

    did you have a hitch in your step when you walked home ??

    If I remember correctly, I couldn't walk. The helicopter came to get me.


    so the camp-out was a success ?

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  • Miss_Chiev0us
    Miss_Chiev0us Posts: 1,592 Member
    honeybee__12 wrote: »
    Tonight is night 12 with no power for my son and his family.

    He lives in a busy part of the city.
    I can hardly believe that the power company seems so inept.
    We have storms all the time with outages, they need to seriously up their game.
    Generator sales skyrocket!

    That is a long time 😔 I hope they don't have to wait much longer.
  • honeybee__12
    honeybee__12 Posts: 15,688 Member
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    honeybee__12 wrote: »
    Tonight is night 12 with no power for my son and his family.

    He lives in a busy part of the city.
    I can hardly believe that the power company seems so inept.
    We have storms all the time with outages, they need to seriously up their game.
    Generator sales skyrocket!

    That is a long time 😔 I hope they don't have to wait much longer.

    Thank you!
    His dad had a generator on a trailer he hooked up but he hooked up one of his neighbors as well so they only have heat, some lights and TV.
    The 3 kids are going crazy, making mom and dad crazy.
    He said the worst has been having to eat out every meal.
    It has been beautiful weather, thankfully.
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,677 Member
    Miss_Chiev0us wrote: »
    honeybee__12 wrote: »
    Tonight is night 12 with no power for my son and his family.

    He lives in a busy part of the city.
    I can hardly believe that the power company seems so inept.
    We have storms all the time with outages, they need to seriously up their game.
    Generator sales skyrocket!

    That is a long time 😔 I hope they don't have to wait much longer.

    My kids would drive me crazy! I would go crazy because of them! Poor guy!
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    https://youtu.be/lgHwDGXz55I
  • Sophisticatted_Gentlemanz
    Sophisticatted_Gentlemanz Posts: 513 Member
    vampires suck
  • Vikka_V
    Vikka_V Posts: 9,563 Member
    Sophisticatted_Gentlemanz wrote: »
    vampires suck

    cats rule
    werewolves drool

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