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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »@KosmosKitten @honeybee__12 it saddens me that you both think like that. I adore you two. Big hugs to you both 🤗
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I'm mostly curious what fresh "hell" my dentist will tell me after examining my teeth (again) tomorrow. I've been having low grade, persistent sensitivity in or near a tooth he worked on in Jan. Comes and goes. Mostly praying to the dental gods that I don't need a root canal, despite him not mentioning any problem areas or concerns when we finished up my fillings in Jan.
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KosmosKitten wrote: »KosmosKitten wrote: »It is very obvious (to me) that I belong nowhere. Anywhere I go, offline or on I never feel as though I truly fit in. I end up feeling overlooked either because I am too old.. or too young.. or not attractive enough. This has been a problem my entire life. Always playing second fiddle or always attracting the attention of the wrong type of folk.
I am unsure how to change this at this point as it is not a problem of having a lack of confidence.. or "faking it until I make it" or any of the other suggestions that have been made over the years. Neither of those things have brought a change to how I feel; that is.. of being a mediocre female with no discernible or appealing attributes that interest others.
It is a leading reason as to why I no longer have many actual friends. I was either attracting selfish, self-centered or narcissistic people... or people who were transient in how they themselves approached friendships.
I dunno, just something I think about a lot.
I feel like this could come out very very wrong in text format. But......I feel like maybe you’re overlooking some things. I feel like I’ve seen so many people reach out to you here on mfp. All the time! I don’t know how it is in your “real life” but here on mfp people seem to be genuinely interested in you and always rooting for you. But I don’t often see you respond to it or give it back (maybe I’m wrong! I’m going off of my bad memory here). I don’t mean that in a rude way. Please believe that. I’m just making an observation. I’ve had people tell me “so many people comment on your wall”......well it’s USUALLY because I comment something to them first. People tend to forget about other people pretty quickly I find. I come to places like this to give others support and try to be a positive person. Without any expectations of getting anything back. And when I do get it back I’m always blown away. Blown away that anyone would take the time to say nice things or encourage me in any way. I don’t feel like I “fit in” totally ANYWHERE. But I can fit in a little bit in a lot of places. Fitting in is overrated anyway.
I hope this comes across in a nice way because my intentions are genuine.
Hmm, I wasn't necessarily meaning here, honestly. I was thinking more about my actual interactions with people (remember when that used to be a thing?) as well as some other online communities that are very specific to interests I have (music, art, etc.). While I have those interests in common with other users, I often feel very erm.. invisible. Even when I try to interact or participate in those groups (or in groups irl), I often end up being overlooked, overtalked, overshadowed by someone who is younger, prettier or more bubbly. There's nothing wrong with those personality traits or anything wrong with a person who is more outgoing than I am, but it does tend to further my feelings of isolation and feeling like I don't fit in or I am simply an imposter existing in a group.
Here (Chit-Chat specifically), is probably the only place I feel I've been genuinely accepted as who I am (even if I don't contribute a lot anymore to image heavy threads). I like the people here and the personalities... and I like that there's a good combination of younger and older users all with the same general goals (to varying degrees, that is). And I know the good people here genuinely care about the other people here (I read uplifting responses in here nearly every day or goofy teasing between users). I brought it up here because it's the only place I felt comfortable bringing it up. I figured some of you would understand what I was feeling and trying to convey.
I totally get what you are saying -I often feel the same way. I feel like I get overlooked in social settings a lot - I tend to be quiet around people I am not familiar with and sometimes even with those I do know. My sister's brother-in-law (we've been having holiday get togethers for years) told me once (when he actually shut up and listened to what I had to say) "you're more interesting than I thought you were." Well, jeez, thanks bud.
I have no problems in my professional life getting people to listen to me and respect my opinions, but for some reason in social situations I kind of just disappear.
I find all too many people do NOT stop to listen and I have a hard time to get a word in because I'm not one to leap into conversations. I've always been the listener, the shoulder, for others. So when I do feel like I have something to add to a conversation, must be my personality comes across as 'not worth listening to'. IDK.
Must be why I like participating in forums. Nobody to ignore me or talk over me.
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Someone said something here not long ago that stuck with me. Something like “there’s not a food shortage problem, there’s a food distribution problem”. I know this probably isn’t true everywhere but I see it here in my city. There’s this church here that gets food all the time. Truckloads. They get it from organizations like Feeding America but also local grocery stores and stores like Whole Foods (which the closest one is like 20 miles away). They have a highly organized sign up/pick up process. They practically beg people to come and get it. As many times a week as you can. I have friends who do it mostly to help distribute it. They’ll give it to friends, group homes. Even fire departments and stuff like that. My one friend practically made it into a part time job over the summer when she had time. Sometimes she’ll ask me if I want certain things that nobody wanted. Like specially nut butter or bars or certain kinds of produce or something. I looked one up once and it was around $12 for a smallish size container of nut butter. Sometimes this stuff is very close to the expiration date and sometimes not. I’ve seen $6 chocolate bars. 😵 I’ve seen those massive round things of gourmet cheeses (sometimes I watch their FB lives because the lady is really entertaining). They’ve had problems with people taking stuff they want and throwing the rest away. Once she said someone threw it out on their front lawn? Crazy. I guess you pull up and they’ll give you cart fulls. Sometimes you’ll get several boxes of the same thing. Idk.....I wish there was a better way for people who needed it to get it. But they’re trying really hard to not let it go to waste. They’re hoping to get a building and have it more set up like a store so people can just come get what they need someday.3
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Someone said something here not long ago that stuck with me. Something like “there’s not a food shortage problem, there’s a food distribution problem”. I know this probably isn’t true everywhere but I see it here in my city. There’s this church here that gets food all the time. Truckloads. They get it from organizations like Feeding America but also local grocery stores and stores like Whole Foods (which the closest one is like 20 miles away). They have a highly organized sign up/pick up process. They practically beg people to come and get it. As many times a week as you can. I have friends who do it mostly to help distribute it. They’ll give it to friends, group homes. Even fire departments and stuff like that. My one friend practically made it into a part time job over the summer when she had time. Sometimes she’ll ask me if I want certain things that nobody wanted. Like specially nut butter or bars or certain kinds of produce or something. I looked one up once and it was around $12 for a smallish size container of nut butter. Sometimes this stuff is very close to the expiration date and sometimes not. I’ve seen $6 chocolate bars. 😵 I’ve seen those massive round things of gourmet cheeses (sometimes I watch their FB lives because the lady is really entertaining). They’ve had problems with people taking stuff they want and throwing the rest away. Once she said someone threw it out on their front lawn? Crazy. I guess you pull up and they’ll give you cart fulls. Sometimes you’ll get several boxes of the same thing. Idk.....I wish there was a better way for people who needed it to get it. But they’re trying really hard to not let it go to waste. They’re hoping to get a building and have it more set up like a store so people can just come get what they need someday.
No other food banks they can give to?0 -
Happy to be ambidextrous because I can't do nothing with my right arm and hand this morning.4
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Seeing my boys this weekend, finally after 3 months. 🙂13
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Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »Seeing my boys this weekend, finally after 3 months. 🙂
I'm so happy for you and your boys ❤1 -
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Not enough space on my calendar..😔
@Elcee2020
Why not buy a bigger calendar ?
* shrug
(I'm here to serve.)
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@Motorsheen do you have bigger clocks too? 🤔🤭
The Consonant Giveth, The Consonant Taketh Away.4 -
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Motorsheen wrote: »@Motorsheen do you have bigger clocks too? 🤔🤭
The Consonant Giveth, The Consonant Taketh Away.
Hah, I actually got that one.
No flying over my head this time.1 -
Deadman_Diggingup wrote: »Seeing my boys this weekend, finally after 3 months. 🙂
YES!! I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!
❤️ 🎉❤️🎉❤️🎉❤️2 -
I’m surprised MFP is allowing hate speech to go on.3
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I’ve been making homemade ice coffee using almond milk, thinking I’ve been cutting mad calories. Turns out nope still 316 calories.
Omg I could have a hamburger for that much calories.1 -
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Motorsheen wrote: »@Motorsheen do you have bigger clocks too? 🤔🤭
The Consonant Giveth, The Consonant Taketh Away.
Hah, I actually got that one.
No flying over my head this time.
I mean, helicopters are a thing.
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Motorsheen wrote: »@Motorsheen do you have bigger clocks too? 🤔🤭
The Consonant Giveth, The Consonant Taketh Away.
Hah, I actually got that one.
No flying over my head this time.
I mean, helicopters are a thing.
Yeh and apparently I've got them buzzing over me again this a.m. Geez, sleep for 8 hours and the world passes me by again. It just needs to stop.2 -
Motorsheen wrote: »@Motorsheen do you have bigger clocks too? 🤔🤭
The Consonant Giveth, The Consonant Taketh Away.
Hah, I actually got that one.
No flying over my head this time.
I mean, helicopters are a thing.
Yeh and apparently I've got them buzzing over me again this a.m. Geez, sleep for 8 hours and the world passes me by again. It just needs to stop.
I was totally visualizing a different kind of helicopter. 😂
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My daughter, she's curling her hair to go to the gym. She's clearly going there for the wrong reasons 😆😅7
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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, she's curling her hair to go to the gym. She's clearly going there for the wrong reasons 😆😅
😂🙈 This is all kindsa cute and relatable ❤️2 -
Peachesand_cream wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, she's curling her hair to go to the gym. She's clearly going there for the wrong reasons 😆😅
😂🙈 This is all kindsa cute and relatable ❤️
She also always asks me to turn my music down when I drop her off because there's people outside 😂 not tonight!2 -
KickassAmazon76 wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »@Motorsheen do you have bigger clocks too? 🤔🤭
The Consonant Giveth, The Consonant Taketh Away.
Hah, I actually got that one.
No flying over my head this time.
I mean, helicopters are a thing.
Yeh and apparently I've got them buzzing over me again this a.m. Geez, sleep for 8 hours and the world passes me by again. It just needs to stop.
I was totally visualizing a different kind of helicopter. 😂
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