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honey_honey_12 wrote: »I need some advice.
Context: I am gunshy to say anything to anyone, especially a woman, because my assumption is that it will be misconstrued in some way, and come off as unwelcomed and/or inappropriate.
I work on a college campus that employs some 5000 people, so most of work relationships I have are just that: cursory work relationships -- very few actual friendships, and very little contact with anyone outside of work. I found out yesterday that someone from another department, that I've worked with a handful of times, is leaving. We know each other through work, are friendly, but certainly not friends, and we've never spoken outside the context of work/meetings.
I'd like to send her an email and (1) congratulate her on the new job, and (2) let her know that she had an impact on me and part of my career (inspired me, if that's not too much / over the top).
I've drafted the email a couple of times and it feels awkward. Should I trust my gut or am I overthinking it? Email is along the lines of...
Hey, heard you were leaving. Good luck, hope it shapes up to be all that you want it to be.
I wanted to thank you for your help over the last few years. You've helped take a part of my job that I just kind of did and turned it into something I enjoy and am considering making a larger part of my career path.
Good luck with everything, and thank you.
Thoughts? Advice?
TIA.
I agree ^
I think it sounds great, I would be flattered and feel good if a co worker gave this to me.
It’s very nice. 😊
Yes! Everyone wants and needs to know they mattered in someone else's life. Your short non-crazy email says that and it comes off as a friend thing not like a crazed maniac.
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I need some advice.
Context: I am gunshy to say anything to anyone, especially a woman, because my assumption is that it will be misconstrued in some way, and come off as unwelcomed and/or inappropriate.
I work on a college campus that employs some 5000 people, so most of work relationships I have are just that: cursory work relationships -- very few actual friendships, and very little contact with anyone outside of work. I found out yesterday that someone from another department, that I've worked with a handful of times, is leaving. We know each other through work, are friendly, but certainly not friends, and we've never spoken outside the context of work/meetings.
I'd like to send her an email and (1) congratulate her on the new job, and (2) let her know that she had an impact on me and part of my career (inspired me, if that's not too much / over the top).
I've drafted the email a couple of times and it feels awkward. Should I trust my gut or am I overthinking it? Email is along the lines of...
Hey, heard you were leaving. Good luck, hope it shapes up to be all that you want it to be.
I wanted to thank you for your help over the last few years. You've helped take a part of my job that I just kind of did and turned it into something I enjoy and am considering making a larger part of my career path.
Good luck with everything, and thank you.
Thoughts? Advice?
TIA.
I think it’s highly appropriate and nice. Not awkward at all.0 -
honey_honey_12 wrote: »I need some advice.
Context: I am gunshy to say anything to anyone, especially a woman, because my assumption is that it will be misconstrued in some way, and come off as unwelcomed and/or inappropriate.
I work on a college campus that employs some 5000 people, so most of work relationships I have are just that: cursory work relationships -- very few actual friendships, and very little contact with anyone outside of work. I found out yesterday that someone from another department, that I've worked with a handful of times, is leaving. We know each other through work, are friendly, but certainly not friends, and we've never spoken outside the context of work/meetings.
I'd like to send her an email and (1) congratulate her on the new job, and (2) let her know that she had an impact on me and part of my career (inspired me, if that's not too much / over the top).
I've drafted the email a couple of times and it feels awkward. Should I trust my gut or am I overthinking it? Email is along the lines of...
Hey, heard you were leaving. Good luck, hope it shapes up to be all that you want it to be.
I wanted to thank you for your help over the last few years. You've helped take a part of my job that I just kind of did and turned it into something I enjoy and am considering making a larger part of my career path.
Good luck with everything, and thank you.
Thoughts? Advice?
TIA.
I agree ^
I think it sounds great, I would be flattered and feel good if a co worker gave this to me.
It’s very nice. 😊
Yes! Everyone wants and needs to know they mattered in someone else's life. Your short non-crazy email says that and it comes off as a friend thing not like a crazed maniac.
I swear, I was thinking about you yesterday.
Thinking it’s been a while.
Nice to see you! 👋😊🌻2 -
@ReenieHJ Hi!🙋🏽♀️ I was wondering where you’d gone too? I hadn’t seen you here since mid September and I missed reading your comments. I hope you’re okay. 🌸1
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honey_honey_12 wrote: »honey_honey_12 wrote: »I need some advice.
Context: I am gunshy to say anything to anyone, especially a woman, because my assumption is that it will be misconstrued in some way, and come off as unwelcomed and/or inappropriate.
I work on a college campus that employs some 5000 people, so most of work relationships I have are just that: cursory work relationships -- very few actual friendships, and very little contact with anyone outside of work. I found out yesterday that someone from another department, that I've worked with a handful of times, is leaving. We know each other through work, are friendly, but certainly not friends, and we've never spoken outside the context of work/meetings.
I'd like to send her an email and (1) congratulate her on the new job, and (2) let her know that she had an impact on me and part of my career (inspired me, if that's not too much / over the top).
I've drafted the email a couple of times and it feels awkward. Should I trust my gut or am I overthinking it? Email is along the lines of...
Hey, heard you were leaving. Good luck, hope it shapes up to be all that you want it to be.
I wanted to thank you for your help over the last few years. You've helped take a part of my job that I just kind of did and turned it into something I enjoy and am considering making a larger part of my career path.
Good luck with everything, and thank you.
Thoughts? Advice?
TIA.
I agree ^
I think it sounds great, I would be flattered and feel good if a co worker gave this to me.
It’s very nice. 😊
Yes! Everyone wants and needs to know they mattered in someone else's life. Your short non-crazy email says that and it comes off as a friend thing not like a crazed maniac.
I swear, I was thinking about you yesterday.
Thinking it’s been a while.
Nice to see you! 👋😊🌻
Lol me too. Which is weird because I tend to not notice someone's been gone until they come back. 😀1 -
honey_honey_12 wrote: »honey_honey_12 wrote: »I need some advice.
Context: I am gunshy to say anything to anyone, especially a woman, because my assumption is that it will be misconstrued in some way, and come off as unwelcomed and/or inappropriate.
I work on a college campus that employs some 5000 people, so most of work relationships I have are just that: cursory work relationships -- very few actual friendships, and very little contact with anyone outside of work. I found out yesterday that someone from another department, that I've worked with a handful of times, is leaving. We know each other through work, are friendly, but certainly not friends, and we've never spoken outside the context of work/meetings.
I'd like to send her an email and (1) congratulate her on the new job, and (2) let her know that she had an impact on me and part of my career (inspired me, if that's not too much / over the top).
I've drafted the email a couple of times and it feels awkward. Should I trust my gut or am I overthinking it? Email is along the lines of...
Hey, heard you were leaving. Good luck, hope it shapes up to be all that you want it to be.
I wanted to thank you for your help over the last few years. You've helped take a part of my job that I just kind of did and turned it into something I enjoy and am considering making a larger part of my career path.
Good luck with everything, and thank you.
Thoughts? Advice?
TIA.
I agree ^
I think it sounds great, I would be flattered and feel good if a co worker gave this to me.
It’s very nice. 😊
Yes! Everyone wants and needs to know they mattered in someone else's life. Your short non-crazy email says that and it comes off as a friend thing not like a crazed maniac.
I swear, I was thinking about you yesterday.
Thinking it’s been a while.
Nice to see you! 👋😊🌻
Aww you're sweet! It has been awhile.
My computer died. We had company for a few days. My kitchen is almost done(hopefully today!!). And the neighbor I help with was hospitalized with issues. Plus my diet has gone out the window for the past 4 weeks. So yeh, life has been a roller coaster for a bit and I've missed being on here.
But damn, I'm still in catch-up mode.
But thank you!!
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Ironwoman1111 wrote: »@ReenieHJ Hi!🙋🏽♀️ I was wondering where you’d gone too? I hadn’t seen you here since mid September and I missed reading your comments. I hope you’re okay. 🌸honey_honey_12 wrote: »honey_honey_12 wrote: »I need some advice.
Context: I am gunshy to say anything to anyone, especially a woman, because my assumption is that it will be misconstrued in some way, and come off as unwelcomed and/or inappropriate.
I work on a college campus that employs some 5000 people, so most of work relationships I have are just that: cursory work relationships -- very few actual friendships, and very little contact with anyone outside of work. I found out yesterday that someone from another department, that I've worked with a handful of times, is leaving. We know each other through work, are friendly, but certainly not friends, and we've never spoken outside the context of work/meetings.
I'd like to send her an email and (1) congratulate her on the new job, and (2) let her know that she had an impact on me and part of my career (inspired me, if that's not too much / over the top).
I've drafted the email a couple of times and it feels awkward. Should I trust my gut or am I overthinking it? Email is along the lines of...
Hey, heard you were leaving. Good luck, hope it shapes up to be all that you want it to be.
I wanted to thank you for your help over the last few years. You've helped take a part of my job that I just kind of did and turned it into something I enjoy and am considering making a larger part of my career path.
Good luck with everything, and thank you.
Thoughts? Advice?
TIA.
I agree ^
I think it sounds great, I would be flattered and feel good if a co worker gave this to me.
It’s very nice. 😊
Yes! Everyone wants and needs to know they mattered in someone else's life. Your short non-crazy email says that and it comes off as a friend thing not like a crazed maniac.
I swear, I was thinking about you yesterday.
Thinking it’s been a while.
Nice to see you! 👋😊🌻
Lol me too. Which is weird because I tend to not notice someone's been gone until they come back. 😀
Thanks! The people here are very special! Some in kinda different ways. 
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I have accidentally taken the lunch seat of my coworker, (sits in the same spot every day but I got there first today) I feel like I’ve committed treason. If this was prison I’d be sure shanked at some point. We’ll see if I “accidentally” get a box cutter in the ‘gut’ter... hehe seewhatIdidthere3
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Shakashakara wrote: »I need some advice.
Context: I am gunshy to say anything to anyone, especially a woman, because my assumption is that it will be misconstrued in some way, and come off as unwelcomed and/or inappropriate.
I work on a college campus that employs some 5000 people, so most of work relationships I have are just that: cursory work relationships -- very few actual friendships, and very little contact with anyone outside of work. I found out yesterday that someone from another department, that I've worked with a handful of times, is leaving. We know each other through work, are friendly, but certainly not friends, and we've never spoken outside the context of work/meetings.
I'd like to send her an email and (1) congratulate her on the new job, and (2) let her know that she had an impact on me and part of my career (inspired me, if that's not too much / over the top).
I've drafted the email a couple of times and it feels awkward. Should I trust my gut or am I overthinking it? Email is along the lines of...
Hey, heard you were leaving. Good luck, hope it shapes up to be all that you want it to be.
I wanted to thank you for your help over the last few years. You've helped take a part of my job that I just kind of did and turned it into something I enjoy and am considering making a larger part of my career path.
Good luck with everything, and thank you.
Thoughts? Advice?
TIA.
I’ve seen you around here for several years and never once have I seen you come remotely close to hitting on someone. The fact that you worry enough to be cautious is proof you can trust your gut imo.
As a woman who has always kinda felt like I work in a man’s world, I’d be touched and flattered as hell to receive a message like that from someone at work.
Thanks. I have some baggage that makes this a bit more muddied for me, and thus difficult to evaluate how it is likely to come across.
It seems a little late for me to be weighing in, so I'll just say I hope you sent it. Everyone else articulated the "whys" very well. Non-crazy, congratulatory and flattering. Who wouldn't want to receive a nice note like that?1 -
Took my boy last night to a soccer game... The San Jose earthquake vs Cruz Azul from Mexico...
2 fights on the field resulting in 2 red cards
A crazy fan dressed as a lucha libra rushed out to the field and socked one of the players contributing to the brawl...
Fans throwing cups of beer out on the field while security dragged him off the field
5 fights broke out in the parking lot after the game
And a shooting took place near by after (no one killed thankfully)....
I love my people but damn 😂...
This was supposed to be a friendly you guys 😂...
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I need some advice.
Context: I am gunshy to say anything to anyone, especially a woman, because my assumption is that it will be misconstrued in some way, and come off as unwelcomed and/or inappropriate.
I work on a college campus that employs some 5000 people, so most of work relationships I have are just that: cursory work relationships -- very few actual friendships, and very little contact with anyone outside of work. I found out yesterday that someone from another department, that I've worked with a handful of times, is leaving. We know each other through work, are friendly, but certainly not friends, and we've never spoken outside the context of work/meetings.
I'd like to send her an email and (1) congratulate her on the new job, and (2) let her know that she had an impact on me and part of my career (inspired me, if that's not too much / over the top).
I've drafted the email a couple of times and it feels awkward. Should I trust my gut or am I overthinking it? Email is along the lines of...
Hey, heard you were leaving. Good luck, hope it shapes up to be all that you want it to be.
I wanted to thank you for your help over the last few years. You've helped take a part of my job that I just kind of did and turned it into something I enjoy and am considering making a larger part of my career path.
Good luck with everything, and thank you.
Thoughts? Advice?
TIA.
I sent it. By pure chance, there was a very natural opportunity to say something, so I did.8 -
They’ve completely come off the rails,
you can see that right?1 -
Got my Christmas shopping done early this year4 -
Shakashakara wrote: »
Got my Christmas shopping done early this year
Is that a threat or are you just unhappy to see me?2 -
watch_out_for_that_tree wrote: »Shakashakara wrote: »
Got my Christmas shopping done early this year
Is that a threat or are you just unhappy to see me?
Can’t wait to take them to the office christmas party0 -
Why do progress photos or other photos of people in a category I share make me feel like absolute garbage? I reach out and can congratulate those who have worked really, really hard to get where they are, but at the end of the day, looking at them always, always makes me feel like trash.
It's something I've struggled with all my life, even when I weighed substantially less. I'm not petty and I won't talk down or say negative things about someone else or how they appear (because I know too well what that feels like), but I hate that it makes me feel this way. And no amount of therapy has seemed to help with it, either. I just feel so... other.
Does that make sense?9 -
KosmosKitten wrote: »Why do progress photos or other photos of people in a category I share make me feel like absolute garbage? I reach out and can congratulate those who have worked really, really hard to get where they are, but at the end of the day, looking at them always, always makes me feel like trash.
It's something I've struggled with all my life, even when I weighed substantially less. I'm not petty and I won't talk down or say negative things about someone else or how they appear (because I know too well what that feels like), but I hate that it makes me feel this way. And no amount of therapy has seemed to help with it, either. I just feel so... other.
Does that make sense?
You explain it very well. I feel this way too, although less so the older I get. Girls seem to be hardwired at a fairly young age to compare themselves to each other. I distinctly remember a time in 3rd grade that I put my schoolbag over my legs because I was embarrassed of the way my legs jiggled when the bus was moving. What is an 8 year old doing worrying about jiggly thighs?!5 -
Shakashakara wrote: »
Got my Christmas shopping done early this year
I need some of these. Where may I procure my Christmas bag of threats?2 -
KosmosKitten wrote: »Why do progress photos or other photos of people in a category I share make me feel like absolute garbage? I reach out and can congratulate those who have worked really, really hard to get where they are, but at the end of the day, looking at them always, always makes me feel like trash.
It's something I've struggled with all my life, even when I weighed substantially less. I'm not petty and I won't talk down or say negative things about someone else or how they appear (because I know too well what that feels like), but I hate that it makes me feel this way. And no amount of therapy has seemed to help with it, either. I just feel so... other.
Does that make sense?
I understand. And you are not alone.
We need to bolster our own self-image and that's so much easier said than done.3 -
@KosmosKitten wrote: »Shakashakara wrote: »
Got my Christmas shopping done early this year
I need some of these. Where may I procure my Christmas bag of threats?
Found these for a steal in town but I think there are some diy ones you can make on pinterest2 -
Some people refuse to understand the words.
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honey_honey_12 wrote: »Some people refuse to understand the words.
Well, you know.. words are hard and all that.
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All good things come to an end.
It’s unfortunate, I was enjoying myself.
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Wondering if I have a higher view of death or a lower view of life than most...4
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Wondering if I have a higher view of death or a lower view of life than most...
Would love to hear your higher view of death.
It's something I'm struggling with lately, having just turned 68, watching my 88 yo neighbor wither away, worrying about my 77 yo sister and finding out I lost a dear former friend. Makes my life feel so daMn inconsequential.
But hey, maybe all I need is a good party.
Trying to keep the faith. 8 -
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honey_honey_12 wrote: »
spellbackwards dot com 😆3 -
I was talking with my daughter this morning.. we're gunna miss the gingerbread houses April made us each year 😔 gunna miss trying to get to the lolly bowl at nanny's before April gets the good ones 😔 the empty seat at Christmas lunch will hurt.. 🥺 today.. this is on my mind.16
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