WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2016

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  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,294 Member
    Love the cake!
  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
    Heather ~ The cake is lovely. That icing looks Yummy!

  • Poerava14
    Poerava14 Posts: 1,099 Member
    Beautiful work, Heather.

    -Rori
  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    <3

    Kate UK
  • ljdw99
    ljdw99 Posts: 360 Member
    Rita thank you for the reminder, happiness journal my new daily to do.

    Heather a Christmas cake is a lovely tradition & it looks yummy.

    Lois cooking up a storm on the sunny North Shore of Ma
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Heather: Too bad we can't persuade our husbands to take yoga. It would do good things for them. I love your attitude of gratitude mantra. I may need to adopt it. Congratulations on your lost pound! Your Christmas cake is darling. :flowerforyou:

    Rebecca: I open a word document on my computer desk top beside the Women 50+ thread and make comments as I read. Then I copy and paste the whole thing into the thread and scrupulously edit if for typos and goofs. I don't always catch them all. :noway:

    Rosie in So Cal: It is so good to hear from you again. :smiley:

    Rita: I love Spock. Thanks. :bigsmile:


    Yoga today! Yay!!! I got a surprise txt message from my riding instructor offering a lesson on Saturday. I grabbed it. I haven't had a lesson since November so I hope I remember a thing or two--such as the name of the horse. (He is Arrow & I haven't seen him in a month.) I wonder whether he'll be naughty or nice. His underlying mode has been naughty for a long time but he's been getting some work toward improvement. I wonder whether he's had much attention in the past few weeks. He could turn out to be a handful. I hope I"m up to the challenge.

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

    Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!" -Audrey Hepburn

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  • jmkmomm
    jmkmomm Posts: 3,247 Member
    Heather, love the cake. I don't blame your DH for wanting to eat it now. Wonderful that you have things from your own childhood on it. I just read a post on face book about making sure you talk to your older relatives about their ornaments. I hope your children will remember these.

    Love Spock sticking out his tongue but to him it would not be logical to do that.

    Charlie is pretty much back to normal. I think him being sick scared both of us. We didn't know how fast a person with an ileostomy could get so dehydrated and lose so much weight in two days. When I was in the hospital the same group of gastrenterologists that saw him saw me and scoped my stomach. The follow up appointment I have next month is with the same nurse practitioner that saw Charlie. I hope they remember him and see how healthy he looks. He sure fought that surgery but he is so much healthier now. The other night when he was so sick his bag was leaking and he didn't want me to have to change his bag because it might hurt my back. Yes, it might have but I just channeled my inner nurse to do is real quick. I knew that with the amount of diarrhea he was having, there would be very little clean up and I go do it in a snap. But that is how much he has grown. I'm proud of my man.

    Joyce, Indiana
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    :smiley:
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,789 Member
    Cheri - I just LOVE your photo! I made myself a flowery two piece too! How great to have that photo as a memory! <3

    I have just had a narrow escape! My younger son rang and said the family might like to stay for an extra night!!!! Well, normally I would be VERY glad to have them, but I have made no arrangements for food as that was one of the evenings I was taking my elder son, who is arriving after they had planned to leave, out to the pub to save work. I filibustered and said, of course they were welcome, but ....... I would have to cancel the pub and buy more food (DH said he would cook!) Rather late notice don't you think. Can't really take all the babies out for a meal! No takeaway deliveries here! He obviously caught the panic in my voice (we have a whole week of different guests staying) so he said he would think about it and ask his wife.
    I got a text a minute ago to say they are going home when originally arranged. PHEW!
    If he had told me even a few days ago I could have sorted it, but .......... Conjuring up an extra lunch, tea and dinner for 5 adults and three children out of nothing is a bit beyond even my capabilities. ;):o
    Anyway, they were trying to save themselves a long drive to my ex's on the Wednesday. I feel a bit bad for even hesitating, but......... :|

    Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxx

  • Annr
    Annr Posts: 2,765 Member
    Good morning! I'd appreciate some insight into how you reply to other posts. By that I mean the efficiency of responding to many people by name in a single post. How do you mange this? Do you make brief notes while reading posts and then write your post? Or open two screens and read posts in one while constructing your reply in another? As it is now, my posts dominate a thread because I'm trying to respond to several people. I want to encourage but not flood the thread with my posts. Thanks!

    Rebecca

    Like I did with your post, I just click on the (Quote) and it puts the comment in the body of your typing. Sometimes I also just answer people page by page, then I type their name and highlight it blue then click the "B" button and you get Rebecca. By the way I am a Rebecca too, but presently I am going by Becca in the world these days. Change is good.... Welcome!
    Becca
    Oregon
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    Heather, if I send my address, will you please mail me just a little sliver of that gorgeous cake. :)

    Cheri, love the picture of your family. I attended the majority of my school years with a large population of Jewish students. I once went with a couple of my good friends to Synagogue on a Saturday, I was in awe. In school we learned a little about Jewish holiday celebrations and even a little song about playing with dreidles. We loved Jewish holidays because so many students were gone we didn't do much in class those days. Fond memories. Thank you so much for sharing. :)

    Janetr OKC
  • Annr
    Annr Posts: 2,765 Member
    Heather~ my nose hit the computer screen....trying to look closely at that deeeelightful cake!!!! Good job! Mentally I put my finger in the icing....hope ya don't mind!!!

    So son is coming today not last night as I thought he was. I was patiently waiting, playing some silly game on FB when he posted some pictures entitled, "cleaning garage".... So I typed on his wall asking when he was renting the car to come down. I guess today at noon. So he called me and we had a nice chat. They really worked him hard on the ship, getting ready for deployment after the holidays.

    I looked at the rolled up sleeping bag that I was going to have him use on the couch while he is here, (as well as middle son when he comes). It looked awful, and needs to get thrown in the huge washing machine at the laundromat! So I am just using sheets and one of our Hong Kong "mink blankets" we got years ago. Really warm, but really heavy. Figured he would enjoy sleeping in the living room with the Christmas tree, than on the floor or in youngest sons bed. If he was here in the summer I wouldn't mind sons sleeping on the floor with blankets, but not in the winter.

    After hearing Sherry's comment about how she will never put up her Christmas tree, or celebrate the season got me thinking... I know for me, I have to constantly tell myself that I will not put so much emotional stress into the holidays. That I am not recreating my childhood past Christmas's, nor am I required to bake my childhood treats. Nor am I the "event planner" of everyone else's vision of what Christmas means to them. So a lot of what I try to do is just "take in" the holidays. Appreciate getting together with people that mean a lot to me. Simply put, it is what it is. Not what I want it to be, or what I remember what is was.

    I was blessed during my childhood to have amazing Christmas's. My Mom was a seamstress and so every Christmas there were 3 dresses made. There was the "Granny Dress" year, the "velvet dress"year, and many others. My sisters and I helped my Mom make lemon bars, divinity (and my Mom swore during the whole divinity making process), sugar cookies, fudge, and snowball cookies. When you have a great cook as a Mom, the holidays seem punctuated by food. Food becomes as important as the holiday event. Over the years I have made some treats but have let much of the baking go by the weigh side. (a Freudian slip there hahah).

    Finally, I hope each and every one of you ladies have a nice holiday. That you are with people that love ya. That you feel special. Because for me you all are! I value you your opinions, your support, and your friendship!

    (((((((((group hugs))))))
    Becca
    Oregon

  • ljdw99
    ljdw99 Posts: 360 Member
    Cheri I too went to elimentary school with a majority of Jewish children. My two best friends were Jewish, one family kept kosher the other didn't but oh the food! I loved being invited for dinner. We had a neighborhood deli that made the best potato knish, chopped liver & bagels & lox it was a magic time in the Bronx in the 50's. Very fond memories being one of a few Gentiles who got to share in a rich heritage that I otherwise wouldn't know.

    Lois still cooking :)
  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
    Cheri ~ Thanks for sharing your photo. What a great memory you must have.

    Becca ~ Hoping that you and your sons have a wonderful visit during this time. I also grew up in a family where the most important part of the holiday was the food. My mom made wonderful cakes and especially fruit cakes. I have not made any special treats for the Season but know that when we get together with our extended family there will be great food and a good time. Also, a sad time as my mom has been put on Comfort Care and we do not expect her to live beyond the weekend or soon next week. I have cried off and on all day.

    Carol
  • megblair1
    megblair1 Posts: 1,226 Member
    Hi ladies I apologize for being AWOL. I have been running like a mad woman but it is ending Sunday! No more! Lots to tell you but no time for now. I have a brand new Jetta thanks to the very generous VW buyback program for their TDI diesel cars. They practically gave it to me.

    Carol: (((hugs))) to you my friend. I hope you and mom have only gentle times remaining.

    Cheri: the photo is amazing. Thank you for sharing. Makes me feel nostalgic for those simpler times.

    Take care all. Hugs and high fives all around. Meg in rainy Omaha
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    carol sending <3 and peace to you as your mom is in comfort care. So sad and bittersweet, I hope you hold all the good times close to you and let any guilt go by the wayside. Cry all you need and want to, I know I still do. NYKAREN
  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
    GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS Posts: 2,573 Member
    Sherry – If you are still here … I did not mean to ‘insult’ you. I don’t know what you are going through, I was merely suggesting things to look at. There was NO way for any of us to know what you are truly going through. Please don’t leave this site because of things I have said. I already have some people on this site who have ‘suggested that I am mean-spirited’, which has also be hurtful. I had a member post a PM that I sent to her, on this site … now, which was truly ‘mean-spirited’ on her part. If I had wanted to say what I did to her ‘on this thread’ I would not have sent her a PM. I just felt like I had a point to make about something she posted here, that was ‘offensive’ to me, maybe not to anybody else. I still don’t get responses from some of the people who took her side on something I disagreed with. We are here for encouragement, and if making a suggestion is taken the wrong way, then there isn’t anything I can do to make you see it any differently than you do. I’m sorry. Apology given; but, I cannot make you accept it.

    Lenora

    TO ALL OF YOU THAT THINK THAT IF I MEAN TO APOLOGIZE TO SHERRY FOR WHATEVER I POSTED THAT “INSULTED” HER; I SHOULD HAVE SENT IT TO HER EMAIL ADDRESS BECAUSE SHE SAID THAT SHE WAS GETTING OFF THIS THREAD AS WELL AS MFP ALTOGETHER. I HAVE SENT HER THE ABOVE POST TO HER EMAIL ADDRESS. BUT, I DOUBT THAT SHE WILL EVEN OPEN ANYTHING THAT WILL CLEARLY SHOW THAT IT IS COMING FROM ME.

    I ALSO KNOW THAT MANY OF YOU BLAME ME FOR “MAKING” MIRIAM GET OFF THE SITE BECAUSE YOU ENJOYED HER COMMENTS. EVEN IF MIRIAM SHOULD RETURN; I WILL NOT APOLOGIZE TO HER BECAUSE I SENT HER A PRIVATE MESSAGE (THAT SHOULD HAVE REMAINED SO, IF SHE WANTED TO RESPOND TO IT, SHE SHOULD HAVE ALSO DONE IT BY PRIVATE MESSAGE). HOWEVER, INSTEAD, SHE CHOSE TO POST IT TO THIS ‘THREAD’, AND SUGGESTED THAT YOU SHOULD NOT READ MY POSTINGS. HAVING IT POSTED ON THIS THREAD AND HAVING HER SUGGEST THAT YOU [INDIVIDUALLY OR GENERALLY] SHOULD NOT READ MY POSTS … THEN, I GUESS YOU WON’T BE READING THIS ONE EITHER, PROBABLY. YOUR OPINION OF ME, WILL REMAIN WHAT IT IS. I THOUGHT BY HER POSTED IT HERE, SHE WAS TRYING TO GET ME ‘BLACKBALLED’ AND I DEFINITELY DO NOT APPRECIATE THAT. I THOUGHT HER SUGGESTION OF NOT READING MY POST WAS A 'DIVISIVE' DECISION TO "TRY" TO HURT OR GET EVEN WITH ME.

    I APOLOGIZE TO ALL OF YOU IF WHAT I HAVE POSTED HERE HAS INSULTED ANY OF YOU. SOME OF YOU HAVE MADE IT CLEAR THAT YOU WON’T READ MY POSTINGS, EITHER BECAUSE THEY ARE LONG, OR THAT I AM TO BLAME FOR TWO (2) PEOPLE GETTING OFF THIS THREAD BECAUSE OF WHAT I HAVE POSTED THAT ‘INSULTED’ THEM. I’VE ALSO BEEN TOLD BY SOME OF YOU OR READ IT IN SOME OF YOUR POSTINGS THAT YOU ONLY ‘SKIM’ THROUGH POSTINGS, SO DO I, ESPECIALLY IF I HAVE BEEN GONE FROM MY COMPUTER FOR A FEW DAYS. I DON’T READ OVER THE PAST 100 POSTINGS, ANY MORE THAN THAT, I WILL JUST HAVE TO MISS WHAT GOT POSTED.

    I ALSO KNOW THAT SOME OF YOU DO POST THINGS FROM TIME-TO-TIME THAT I HAVEN’T POSTED SOMETHING BACK EITHER. NOT BECAUSE I DON’T CARE; I DO. I’VE ALSO APOLOGIZED TO BARBIECAT SINCE SHE IS THE THREAD MASTER WHO MAKES SURE THAT A LINK IS POSTED SO WE CAN STAY CURRENT.

    I’M TRULY SORRY FOR SOME OF THE THINGS I HAVE POSTED. I CAN’T SAY THAT I WON’T DO IT AGAIN … BECAUSE I MIGHT. I HAD READ ALL OF MIRIAM’S POSTINGS ABOUT HOW HER GRANDSON COULD NO IDENTIFY WITH THE SEX TO WHICH HE WAS BORN. I READ IT, I DISMISSED IT; BUT, WHEN SHE POSTED PICTURES OF HIM DRESSED AS A GIRL AND REQUESTED THAT SOMEONE/ANYONE SEND HER A SITE SHE COULD GO TO IN ORDER TO BUY A NEW WIG FOR HIM … I THOUGHT THAT WAS A VERY “POLITICAL STATEMENT AND PICTURE”. I WAS HIGHLY OFFENDED BY IT. I THOUGHT HER DOING THIS TO A 7- OR 8-YEAR-OLD CHILD WAS USURPING HIS PARENT'S PARENTAL CONTROLS WHEN THEY DID NOT UNDERSTAND IT. IF THE PARENTS WERE HAVING DIFFICULTY WITH IT, THEN “THEY” SHOULD HAVE TRIED TO FIND HELP FOR HIM. IF IT HAD BEEN MY CHILD; I PROBABLY WOULD NOT HAVE ALLOWED HIM TO STAY WITH HER - UNSUPERVISED. I KNOW SHE ALSO HAD ISSUES OF NOT HAVING A LOT OF MONEY. SHE HAD ADOPTED HER SISTER’S TWO (2) GRANDDAUGHTERS AND ALSO HAD A SON WHO ALSO HAD A DISABILITY … BUT, IN MY OPINION, THAT WAS HER CHOICE AND THAT MAKES HER FINANCIALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THEM. I’M SURE SHE DID IT OUT OF “LOVE.”

    OUR OWN GRANDDAUGHTER, AT THE AGE OF 18, WAS ASKED BY DFACS IF SHE COULD TAKE HER TWO YOUNGER SISTERS. SHE TOLD THEM, "NO, BECAUSE SHE WAS GOING OFF TO COLLEGE"; BUT, SHE WOULD CONTACT EACH CHILD’S RESPECTIVE BIOLOGICAL FATHERS, SO THAT THEY WOULD NOT BE PUT IN 'THE SYSTEM' AND SEPARATED TOTALLY. SHE DID SO, AND THEY ARE EACH LIVING WITH THEM. SHE TRIES TO SPEND SOME TIME WITH BOTH OF THEM TOGETHER SO THEY WILL NOT BE TOTALLY SEPARATED FROM EITHER OF THEM.

    MIRIAM ALWAYS HAD INFORMATION ON JUST ABOUT ANY SUBJECT THAT DEALT WITH “MENTAL DISORDERS” AND I FIND THAT I THINK THAT IS ‘IN HER HUMBLE OPINION’. I DISMISSED THAT AS WELL. BUT, AGAIN, WHAT I WRITE IN A PRIVATE MESSAGE TO ANY OF YOU SHOULD NOT BE POSTED HERE, UNLESS I GIVE YOU MY APPROVAL. IF YOU NEED TO SAY SOMETHING TO ME, DIRECTLY, PLEASE DO IT IN A PRIVATE MESSAGE AND I WON’T POST IT, I WILL RESPOND BACK TO YOU BY A PRIVATE MESSAGE. THAT OUGHT TO BE ANOTHER “RULE”, JUST LIKE TRYING NOT TO TALK ABOUT “POLITICS OR RELIGIOUS BELIEFS.” SINCE WE HAVE MANY PEOPLE FROM OTHER COUNTRIES AND OF DIFFERENT FAITHS, OR NONE AT ALL.


    Lenora

    Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukah, Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,357 Member
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  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,252 Member

    I am going to enjoy it. How lucky I am to have people to share time with <3 and enough money to be able to entertain them without strain. This past week I have been out of the house once and have only spoken to the cleaner (apart from DH). Next week will be non-stop gracious (!) hostess. I wouldn't want to do next week very often, but I can enjoy it while it lasts.
    Attitude of gratitude. :D

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

    <3Heather, thank you for sharing your attitude of gratitude....a great reminder for me and probably many others.

    <3 Barbie

  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    Lenora- (((hugs)))

    Sherry - (((hugs)))

    <3

    Mary from Minnesota
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,252 Member
    :) Today was the holiday dance class. I found holiday songs to go with ten dances that we do often. The Elks Club where we meet is decorated with lighted trees. Several people brought treats and everyone wore some festive clothing. It was a great morning. Once again I felt grateful to have all those people in my life.

    <3 I am also grateful for all of you....you add to my life and I learn from you.

    b0313.gif Barbie from briefly snowy NW Washington
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
    ljdw99 wrote: »
    Cheri I too went to elimentary school with a majority of Jewish children. My two best friends were Jewish, one family kept kosher the other didn't but oh the food! I loved being invited for dinner. We had a neighborhood deli that made the best potato knish, chopped liver & bagels & lox it was a magic time in the Bronx in the 50's. Very fond memories being one of a few Gentiles who got to share in a rich heritage that I otherwise wouldn't know.

    Lois still cooking :)

    Lois what beautiful memories! Oy the food is right! A different time, simpler times are truly missed in life nowadays. Thanks so much for sharing!

    Cheri
    still drizzling in TX
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
    janetr7476 wrote: »

    Cheri, love the picture of your family. I attended the majority of my school years with a large population of Jewish students. I once went with a couple of my good friends to Synagogue on a Saturday, I was in awe. In school we learned a little about Jewish holiday celebrations and even a little song about playing with dreidles. We loved Jewish holidays because so many students were gone we didn't do much in class those days. Fond memories. Thank you so much for sharing. :)

    Janetr OKC

    An advantage to having enough Jewish kids in the school system is more days off for sure. Growing up my sibs and I were typically the ONLY Jewish students. How wonderful you were able to share in our traditions.

    Cheri
    walking inside due to drizzling outside and multi tasking to get my steps in for today
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
    Cheri - I just LOVE your photo! I made myself a flowery two piece too! How great to have that photo as a memory! <3

    I have just had a narrow escape! My younger son rang and said the family might like to stay for an extra night!!!! Well, normally I would be VERY glad to have them, but I have made no arrangements for food as that was one of the evenings I was taking my elder son, who is arriving after they had planned to leave, out to the pub to save work. I filibustered and said, of course they were welcome, but ....... I would have to cancel the pub and buy more food (DH said he would cook!) Rather late notice don't you think. Can't really take all the babies out for a meal! No takeaway deliveries here! He obviously caught the panic in my voice (we have a whole week of different guests staying) so he said he would think about it and ask his wife.
    I got a text a minute ago to say they are going home when originally arranged. PHEW!
    If he had told me even a few days ago I could have sorted it, but .......... Conjuring up an extra lunch, tea and dinner for 5 adults and three children out of nothing is a bit beyond even my capabilities. ;):o
    Anyway, they were trying to save themselves a long drive to my ex's on the Wednesday. I feel a bit bad for even hesitating, but......... :|

    Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxx

    Thanks Heather! Dodged a bullet there! Enjoy your holiday.

    Cheri
    in wet TX
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    Peach1948 wrote: »
    Cheri ~ Thanks for sharing your photo. What a great memory you must have.

    Becca ~ Hoping that you and your sons have a wonderful visit during this time. I also grew up in a family where the most important part of the holiday was the food. My mom made wonderful cakes and especially fruit cakes. I have not made any special treats for the Season but know that when we get together with our extended family there will be great food and a good time. Also, a sad time as my mom has been put on Comfort Care and we do not expect her to live beyond the weekend or soon next week. I have cried off and on all day.

    Carol[/quote

    I am so sorry, even tho we know they will be out of pain, it is never easy to let them go (((Hugs)))

    Janetr OKC
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,789 Member
    edited December 2016
    Cheri - I am writing my memoir at the moment about the first nine years of my life. My father was in hospital with TB for six months when I was 6 and we had a Jewish lodger who became an important family friend and a kind of second mum to me. I learnt so much from her, including a bit of Yiddish which i still remember. I always make a point, when I'm in a strange city abroad, of seeking out the Jewish sites, including synagogues, ancient baths and museums. <3:D
    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

    And yes, I feel a bit guilty about dodging that bullet, but the mere thought of it brought me out in a panic attack! In Britain everything shuts down for Christmas, no shops open, no transportation - zilch. We live in the middle of the countryside, miles from the nearest shop.
  • JJsGirl2014
    JJsGirl2014 Posts: 20 Member
    I've been logging my food/water intake since September. I turned 56 in November!! Yea for me!! I am in southwest Georgia, just a hop, skip and a slow 45-60 minute range walk from the Alabama state line. My goal is to lose 50-60 pounds, increase my water intake, continue to add more fruit and veggies to my meals and stay motivated to exercise consistently!! I had both knees replaced 3 years ago so I am not into high impact moves, not able to do deep squats, lunges or running. I use my membership at Planet Fitness as well as my home equipment at least 3 days per week. I enjoy walking and playing outside with my dogs.

    I have lost B) and gained :/ the same 12 pounds since I started tracking. I'm encouraged to keep at it for personal reasons. This 5'5" frame was never meant to carry 227 pounds, especially not with these new knees. When I emerge from this 227 pound cocoon I will be transformed into a majestic Butterfly.

    When I drop the first 50 pounds, I will have reached a milestone, those other ten pounds are just sugar-free icing on a diet cake.

    Working Through Transformation

    JJ's Girl
  • JJsGirl2014
    JJsGirl2014 Posts: 20 Member
    Oops, I forgot to list my January goals:

    lose 5 pounds and keep them off
    post my progress and set backs
    encourage myself daily
    exercise regularly
    seek advice and support when I need it

    Have a Merry Christmas everyone....

    I am an Unstoppable Woman, Working Through Transformation

    JJ's Girl
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