WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR APRIL 2017
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"Oh to be in England
Now that April's here!"
I was saying that quote to DH as we drove to Selborne yesterday, in beautiful spring sunshine, through the lanes of Hampshire. It's by Robert Browning. Glorious weather, everything budding green and blossoming and the birdsong is the best I've ever heard it!
Downside - ants are fighting to get into the house by every crevice! :laugh: Guess Penny doesn't have an ant problem!
KJ - I feel your pain as you prepare to leave. Gorgeous!
Karen - I rejoice to see Olivia looking so strong and alert. One of the things I put high in my gratitude list is modern medicine. I would have died with the baby I lost if I hadn't been minutes away from a major hospital. We are living in amazing times.
My Portsmouth friend texted me this morning to invite me to tea at her local store. She gets a free offer for her birthday with her store card. I had a light lunch in preparation. :laugh: I always enjoy seeing her. Must remember to take the sunglasses of hers that I had to retrieve from the pub and a tiny present I bought her and forgot last time.
Having sea bass for dinner, with Korean paste on it.. Served with skinnytaste.com Baked Eggplant Sticks. Messy to make (I've done them and they're in the fridge) but delicious. Serving them with rouille, but not tooooo much!
Our friend from Colombia is en route to Washington DC, but is currently grounded in Atlanta because of bad weather. Sorry about all the rain etc some of you are having. Hope there are no floods.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx1 -
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what a way to start the morning - riding to work, felt extra sluggish. 1/2 there, kirby stold me to stop. my bike had a flat.! he kept going, i walked the bike back home and drove to work. :0( this day is shot1
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Re: I'll send many good thoughts that you find your lovely ring. (((hugs)))
pitegny: There were a couple of items on the French Grandmother's List that might be helpful, and some that were definitely hilarious. Thanks for sharing. :laugh:
Sharon in Lethbridge: I'm sorry to hear that you've been in an unpleasant work situation. :flowerforyou:
Sarah: I'm sorry about the loss of your dad. While I was at the cemetery where most of my family is buried to take Mother's Day flowers to Mom & my aunties, I found her mom's grave & gave my grandmother a piece of my mind for the way she treated mom all those years ago. It certainly didn't fix anything but I had my say and it made ME feel like I'd stuck up for mom. I felt better. This grandmother passed away when I was about 2. I'm still sad for my poor mom. She was a surprise late baby. I can't count the number of times she said, "My mother didn't love me."
Penny: I am so happy to hear what a tight-knit and lovely community you have. :bigsmile:
KJ: Where were the photos of the Long Horn Cattle drive taken? I enjoyed seeing them.
We have a rainy day today and I can see a fishing boat out my window. I'm so glad to be warm and cozy in my house rather than sitting in an unheated boat in the cold rain.
Katla in beautiful NW Oregon
"The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." - William James
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Happy National Teflon Day!
May all of your troubles (and any extra pounds!) slide right off...
Michele - Oh, I sympathize with your shopping challenges! I've tried and tried to train Philip to put things on the shopping list when we're almost out, but he still forgets.
Sarah - Hope you got some sleep and that the rain gave you a break.
Karen - Olivia is looking great! I love her adorable little jumper... "With every blossom comes a bee."
Allie - Sorry to hear about your troubles with your dad and the hassle at Walgreen's. Wishing you a quick resolution to both problems.
Beth - I can't wait to hear how your kimchi comes out!
Becca - Happy happy happy is great news! Glad you and that man have each other.
Ginger - "Hanging baskets!" I sympathize, mine have never been perky, and now... well... a friend refers to this situation as National Geographic boobs. Hoping that if I reach my goal weight I'll at least be able to shop in regular department stores for my bras.
Re - Oh, I do hope your anniversary ring turns up!
Sarah - You have my sympathies. I hope you're able to find peace today.
Kelly - What a great score at the garage sale! I'll bet handsome Joaquin will be getting a kick out of his wagon and bike before you know it.
ChevyChey and any newcomers I missed - Welcome!
Yesterday I used the exercise bike for my workout, but I decided to try it with the interval timer I downloaded for the phone. I got a timer without music, so it just gives cues when it's time to switch intensity so I can still watch TV or read while I'm pedaling. Seemed to work - I sure felt like I'd worked hard by the time I was done! And I had a great weigh-in this morning.
I'm excited about going to the Wendish Museum this Saturday with a bunch of girlfriends. I've probably driven past there a thousand times on my way back and forth to Houston, but never stopped. I'm interested to learn about the Wends and their migration to Texas. We're hoping to see some beautiful Wendish Easter eggs. It's been too long since I got to spend much time (in real space, anyway) with women friends! So I'll plan ahead a little to account for a pre-museum visit to a local barbeque joint and then enjoy it without guilt.
Wishing you all a lovely day.
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No, Heather, no ant problems here. But snow!
Remember last week I wrote that we spent hours digging out our snowmobile? And yesterday it was snowy and windy? Going to the hospital this morning, I noted that drifts had built up again around the snowmobile. So this afternoon I figured I'd better move it out on top of the snow again.
The situation didn't look too hopeless close up. I turned the thing on and let the motor warm while I brushed the snow off the seat, dashboard, footrests and windshield. When the low-temperature warning light went off I flipped the hand brake and squeezed the gas. And nothing happened. I gave a bit more gas. Still nothing.
On the road below, a young man was walking by with a big Samoyed on a leash attached to his belt. He appeared to be in his upper teens, young enough to still have acne. I don't recall ever having seen him before. The moment I gave up and turned off the motor, he came over and said it sounded as though I had "snow on the variomatic". Uh-huh. He transferred the dog's leash to a nearby utility sled, then told me to stand beside the snowmobile and hit the gas once he'd got the drive belt free. He lifted the back of the snowmobile into the air (that thing weighs about 600 lbs!) and I revved the engine. The belt turned, throwing big hunks of snow at his legs. He went around to the front of the snowmobile and lifted each ski in turn. Then he grabbed his dog and was off with a cheery wave.
I drove the snowmobile two little circles on the hillside, then parked it a few feet east of where it had been.
Did I mention I love living in this town?
/Penny, grateful for my neighbors at the North Pole6 -
afternoon ladies~ cold and rainy here in Connecticut.. my brother tends to dramatize stuff, I did go speak with my dad, he did get scammed, he knows it, he is working with the banks to rectify it and has learned a lesson.
did go over to Walgreens and asked to speak to a manager, he came out and showed him the letter I got from passport processing, took it again , and didnt charge me, and gave me 20,000 points in balance rewards for my trouble , which I can use at any Walgreens which is worth 20.00. also went to the bank and took out money from saving that I got from tax return and and have bought myself a fireproof lock box and have it in there.. going to resend out passport , and drop off stuff to the guy working on our android boxes5 -
Oooooohhhh, I had the free tea with my friend. :laugh: So the tea came to around 550 calories.Half an egg sandwich and a scone, jam and .......wait for it ..........CLOTTED CREAM. 40g of the deadly stuff is 234 calories.
Lucky I had a slimming dinner ready!!!! I will still scrape in over 100 cals left over tonight.
Clotted cream is one of my favourite things in all the world and a very, very rare treat.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx6 -
Heather: Sometimes I wish I could eat cream and butter. You have a gift with words, and your description of scone, jam & clotted cream gave me a little jolt of dairy envy. :grumble: :ohwell: :flowerforyou:
Katla the jealous2 -
Checking in. Skimmed over 100 posts. Ginger, I need pictures of your organization. It is a hobby if mine as well, but I think I can only aspire to be as organized as you.
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Accountability Post
Wednesday's Progress (4/5)
✔1. Carbs 50-75g (limit 25g/meal)
(B6, L24, D7, MS0, AS14, BBS15=68)
✔2. Fiber 30g (31g)
✔3. Track/complete entry daily
✔4. Vegetables - big salad daily
5. Exercise - log 30 Fitbit minutes, 2 miles, 5000 steps. And the elliptical 5 days a week. (Tues)
✔6. No eating after 9pm.
✔7. In bed by midnight.
8. Declutter: Electronics, Craft Supplies, Pantry, ✔Fridge, Cooking and Baking, Dishes and Serving, ✔Linen Closet, Laundry Closet, ✔Medicine Cabinets, ✔Personal Care.
✔9. Digital Detox. Track daily timeouts.
• Exercise. Took a rest day.
• Declutter. Took a break from decluttering.
• Digital Detox. I continued putting devices in time-out. But... still going to sleep with it. Woke up early at 7am for bathroom and eye drops - then back to bed to another show on my Kindle - then fell back to sleep.
• Binge. I'm doing well managing my urge to get out of bed to snack. Last night - I had an urge. Thinking cookies. Mini chocolate bites. (DH just bought a bag for my DM.) Then thought... I could make something more healthy... Greek yogurt with walnuts. But... I remembered "Pause. What am I feeling?" Decided I was feeling anxious about handing Dad's business - income tax return, etc. Vowed to take action Thursday and Friday. Also feeling I wanted to treat myself for having the eye procedure. Like when I was a kid getting a sucker after a shot. Reminded myself that I passed on the urge for ice cream and donuts on the way home from the procedure. I had a good, filling supper of fresh salad greens, avocado and grilled beef patty. Snuggled down in my bed and went back to sleep. This morning wrote a note in my journal about it.
Have a great day folks.
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Ginger - brilliant coping strategies. Well done! :flowerforyou:
Katla - Sorry to make you jealous. Clotted cream is THE most fattening food stuff ever!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
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Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .
Good Evening My Dear Friends
MicheleNC, for the bowling luncheon are you saying they ate the store bought stuff over your home made goodies? At the Moose some ladies buy things to bring and they are normally what is left over.
Janetr, I was thinking the same thing about missing Gloria. Hugs to both of you.
Gloria, you have your hands full so don’t worry about “giving” to us. Just please come here when you can so you can feel our love and support. There is no way I could be raising children at this age. You are doing great.
Ginger, you are so lucky to have a handy DH. Mine just isn’t and when he does try to do something it is always such an ordeal just trying to find the right tools.
Re, so glad you aren’t retaining “anything” and I think you will be at Onederland before you know it. Goooooooooooooooooo, RE!!!!!!
Penny, that is one interesting place you live. Who would even think about the baptism water freezing. I love all your stories.
Sarah, good grief woman it sounds like you have your hands full. Do take time for yourself.
Lora, welcome. This is a great place for support and information so do come often. What part of WI are you in? We lived in Milwaukee for 10 long, cold years then moved back south.
Susie, welcome. I trust that you are under a doctor’s guidance for that 800 calorie a day diet? Wow that is low. Good luck.
Barbie, so sorry to hear that Jake isn’t well enough to make his weekend trip. I hope you can have a good time.
Mia, you are just beginning and I think you are doing GREAT. Keep it up and it will become a breeze.
Lisa, congrats on the new job.
Cheri, a huge CONGRATS to you. Way to go.
Had severe rain and wind last night but nothing more at our house. Lots worse all around us but by mid-day the sun was shining and it’s like a spring/fall day. A cool air and pretty heavy winds blowing but what a beautiful day it turned out to be. We are still hard at getting things down stairs for the garage sale so I simply don’t have time to catch up. I am thinking of all you lovely ladies and sending good thoughts your way.
to any Newbies. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.
Sending love, good thoughts and sunshine to all of you.
I Love you
DJ
Myrtle Beach, SC
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Katia Thanks for sharing the story about your grandmother. This was meaningful to me.
Thanks to everyone for their kind words regarding my dad, and everything else.
Here's what's so hard. My father was very famous. In fact, he was just in the paper again. As a family, we lived in his shadow. He did great things for many people while his family was neglected in the background. He and my mother had a very unhealthy relationship. She was extremely abusive verbally and psychologically and he was physically violent. For as long as I can remember, home was a scary place. When I was older, I had to take my mom to the emergency after a beating and hear her lie about what happened. It is hard to live my whole life being told how wonderful my father was when I had a different experience. Now he is wonderful and did so many great things for many people but he was also abusive. That is what makes it complicated. It would be easier if he was all bad or all good. I look at his picture and I am simultaneously sad and mad. He received the Order of Canada which is a very prestigious honour, a book was written about him and now a huge donation to the University he worked at has been made. So again his wonderfulness is thrust in my face. And of course, I know the secret and if I ever went public, it would just turn on me so I haven't. And also, I love him and have no interest in hurting him but I don't want to be complicit in a lie. So I don't lie or protect him but I don't go out of my way to blast a newsflash either. And sadly, the pain is always there even though I feel I have worked it all through, there always seems to be more.
So that is my rant for today. I'm ok if you didn't read it, I probably wouldn't either but it was good for me to write it.
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Sarah ~ My father was not famous, but, he was well respected in the community, held public offices, and ran several businesses that were very profitable for him and (when he passed) his three sons. We had exactly the same home life that you described. I was always so afraid that someone would know about the fights and physical abuse that resulted. I never invited any one to my home because you never knew what would result. I think the thing that has always bothered me the most was that I loved him dearly. I really think all 5 of us children did. I have come to realize lately that he must have suffered greatly from PTSD after returning from WWII. He was on planes that flew over the Himalayas to deliver cargo supplies to troops. My mom said he almost got sucked out of the plane during one trip. After the war, he refused to fly home and returned by boat.
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DJ - DH amazes me with his ability to learn and tackle anything. He would go to the library and read about how to do something - or seek out people who could tell him. He's always been this way even as a child. We had the frame built for our home. Together we finished out the inside... while living in it. I don't recommend that. But we got it done. Now - he raises chickens, geese and ducks. Built a duck pond last year. He has a big vegetable garden. And enjoys wood working projects.
Organtization... I love being organized. It's been a work in progress. One thing that really helped was to write it down. I created a home management binder. Something I resisted doing for years. But one day DH said "I hoe I die before you - because I'll never understand how to pay our bills - or manage Mom's care." And - I thought the same thing - I wouldnt know how to maintain certain things here at home. So... I wrote it down. I need to include a section on how I'm managing Dad's business. But I actually have that all in a spreadsheet that I send to my older brother once a month. It has a list of all the actions we needed to take, important documents and shows bills paid, etc.
--Ginger in Texas
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Sarah, Carol - Oh gosh, I don't know what to say. I just feel very sad for you. Sending great big hugs! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
Glad you could share it with us.
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Ginger I love your binder system. I have one for our fixer upper--I call it the big book of everything and it helped me cope with the purchase of the foreclosed property, the inspections, the architect, the contractors, all the way down to the receipts from Home Depot.
Currently working on the big book of death which will help either my husband or daughter if I should kick it first and will tell them where everything is, and even the cello sonata I want DD to play at the service
Just got out of job interview screening - first round--I feel for every nervous candidate and wish I could reassure them, you can hear the effort behind every jittery response. Job hunting is hard!!!! I give anyone going through it a lot of credit!!!
Now onto to a string festival concert tonight--fiddle fest for kids from 5th through 12th grade---200 kids -- yeeeeehaaaaaaa
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Carol thank you so much for your story. I know there are many of us with this or similar stories. It is hard, we have nothing to be ashamed for and we understand each other. So happy to know you!
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(((Sarah and Carol))) I do believe the trauma that our parents went through does have an effect on us. I have a friend whose father went through the Bataan Death March in the Pacific and I could see the repercussions that had in her family. They are finally addressing how working with traumatized students effects the teachers who are trying to help them. Of course those who are directly effected by trauma have the hardest time. I just find it heartening that we live in an age that acknowledges traumas repercussions for us all. Healing from trauma is a process and there is no right or wrong way to go about it.
Sarah it so sad your mother wasn't able to stand up to your father and your father took advantage. It left you incredibly vulnerable. I want to clarify your mother was a victim in no way deserved that treatment. The price tag to stand up to him was and may still be too high. Loving your father is not the issue. His behavior and the effect it has on your family is the issue. If you feel it is important to confront this I would recommend getting a good therapist to help you. I also think the book Dance of Anger also has some helpful ideas. I wrote about this book last year starting in March or April last year if you want to get some idea what is in the book. Take care you are carrying a heavy load that is not of your making.
Margaret
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Re, I don't know if you believe in prayer but sometimes when I loose something, I sit and pray about it and ask God to tell me where it it. I have never got an immediate answer but I do get it.
Katla, when we moved out where we are now, we were in an established neighborhood with a school across the street. But not far from us it was all corn fields and a road between, Not there is an interstate with a bypass, major shopping centers and major name hotels. Where it once was a two lane small road it is now a 8 lane road with numerous stoplights. I avoid the road as often as I can.
Organization????? What is that word. I do have place that I put every manual I have ever had regarding this house. I recently went through it and threw away a lot of them. I think that is the only thing that is even close to being organized. But just that little bit has come in handy when Charlie will be stuck on not knowing how to fix something and have no idea where the manual is, but I do!!!! Super Joyce to the rescue!!!!!
We now have a new garage door AND a garage door opener. So Charlie does not have to work so hard to open the door to get the lawnmower out. I think that is the only useful thing in the garage. No, sadly it is not organized. We had no idea how deep into the garage they needed clearance to do their thing. So we did a quick move of all the junk. I wish this had happened before we had a our heavy trash pick up day. But Michelle said we can take them over there. But it would have been so nice just to drag this stuff from our garage down the driveway to the place to put them for pick up. Now we will have to put them in our car and then unload them at her house. Tomorrow her and I will go out and pick up stuff to take down with us to see her sister. She turns 40 on Saturday and Michelle wants to do a big thing to celebrate that terrible occasion. So we need to clean my wheelchair, buy a bunch of 'over the hill' stuff, and we have everything coordinated with her husband where to meet. But Michelle will turn 40 in just 3 short years. I don't know if Christina will do the same for her. I don't know how in the world I got old enough to have a 40 year old child???????
Sure will be glad when this weather system passes.
Lenora, one time when Christina went with the church youth group to an ice skating rink. She didn't know how to skate so she knew she would be falling on her butt a lot. I also don't know why in the world she wore white jeans except that they looked good in her. But she was going to a sleep over with several of the girls after. So she called me in a panic, she had started her period, note the white jeans and knowing she would be falling a lot. She was so humiliated, After that her nick name was Strawberry shortcake. After I had my kids and was on birth control pills, I knew exactly what day of the week I would have my period. And it would only last 18 hours.
Karen, I am in love with Olivia. You all are going to have to watch that girl!
Joyce, Indiana2 -
Yvonne in Texas I hadn't heard of the Wends, so I looked them up. I would love seeing that Wendish Heritage Museum now that I know who they are, LOL! http://texaswendish.org/2010/01/who-are-the-wends/
Heather I had to look up rouille: "a super garlicky mayonnaise, usually served with fish" - sounds yummy!
I also love clotted cream which I learned about while in England in 2000 while there with my Mom one year before she died. It was her last bucket list trip before the final great adventure. I have bought clotted cream only once here, as it is pricey. It evokes memories of when I was a kid and my mom would send me to buy some cream from a local woman who kept a dairy cow and would sell the cream, which was so rich you could easily churn it into butter just walking home with it in the jar. I can still remember her telling me to carry it carefully so as not to jiggle it too much. I was SO CAREFUL with it, I nearly tiptoed home. We very rarely had desserts, but the occasional homemade ice cream or whipped cream on pie she would make from that high fat cream was to die for.
Sarah Ontario I read your rant and found it interesting and worth reading. (((Hugs))) to you and (((Carol)))
Ginger You are inspiring me. I know I would be happier if I was organized. I just need to start somewhere simple and go from there...
Joyce Olivia is a pistol, isn't she? We can't wait to see her again, but the pictures are great!
Karen in Virginia
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Hello Everyone! New to this. Not quite sure how to post replies to certain people's posts. Really appreciate that there is a group for 50+.
-Rae Anne2 -
Kate UK1
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Sarah and Carol, thank you for sharing your stories ((( )))) The fear and helplessness sticks around a long time. So glad you and others who have shared similar stories are in this group.
RE - sorry to hear about your ring! It HAS to be there someplace. We've lost important things like rings, keys, DH's wallet while he was mowing hay (that's 20 acres)....eventually everything seemed to show up. I'm still looking for my high school class ring, however. Haven't seen it in 50 years and the last time I remember it was in Indiana. Think that one IS a lost cause!
Heather, clotted cream sounds heavenly. Is it like sweetened whipped cream with added love and lusciousness?
NYKaren, I would love to attend the fiddlefest! I adore fiddle music of all kinds. There's a family in our area that gives lots of concerts - imagine 8 kids growing up playing fiddles. I can't remember - is your family musical?
Penny, you DO live in the best small town!! Neat feeling of safety and friendship in knowing nearly everyone you meet in the street or in places of business. The last town we lived in was like that. Adults and seniors loved it - the teens getting into mischief didn't.
Kelly, so glad you and DH are enjoying your trip so much and get to babysit! Cool cattle too!
Anita, good luck with the next MRI go-around. Those "tubes" can become quite close. Hope the med relaxes you and you can get that task wrapped up.
Waving HI to everbody!
Lanette
SW WA State - with some sunshine peeking thru right now.
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Kelly, Jake has heart problems but not RA. This bronchitis is a rarity. He gets occasional colds and makes a big production out of them.
Anita, I suffered with terrible pain for months last year because I was terrified of an MRI, then by chance I found out that I could get meds to relax me. My doctor prescribed lorazepam and I sailed through the MRI, found out what caused the pain, had surgery, and am a new woman today. Good luck with your MRI.
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Sarah and Caroll, thank you for sharing your stories. I have a similar story. Us 5 kids have never spoken of our growing up in the environment that we did. Snippets here and there only. It made me think that I was imagining my upbringing. So it took forever to believe what happened happened and to move beyond its impact on me. I'm glad to have this forum where we all feel comfortable sharing these life impacting stories.
Cheri
nursing a day long headache on day six of this head cold in TX1
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