WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR APRIL 2017

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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,678 Member
    "Oh to be in England
    Now that April's here!"

    I was saying that quote to DH as we drove to Selborne yesterday, in beautiful spring sunshine, through the lanes of Hampshire. It's by Robert Browning. Glorious weather, everything budding green and blossoming and the birdsong is the best I've ever heard it! B)<3
    Downside - ants are fighting to get into the house by every crevice! :laugh: Guess Penny doesn't have an ant problem! :D

    KJ - I feel your pain as you prepare to leave. <3 Gorgeous!

    Karen - I rejoice to see Olivia looking so strong and alert. One of the things I put high in my gratitude list is modern medicine. :D I would have died with the baby I lost if I hadn't been minutes away from a major hospital. We are living in amazing times.

    My Portsmouth friend texted me this morning to invite me to tea at her local store. She gets a free offer for her birthday with her store card. I had a light lunch in preparation. :laugh: I always enjoy seeing her. Must remember to take the sunglasses of hers that I had to retrieve from the pub and a tiny present I bought her and forgot last time. :o

    Having sea bass for dinner, with Korean paste on it.. Served with skinnytaste.com Baked Eggplant Sticks. Messy to make (I've done them and they're in the fridge) but delicious. Serving them with rouille, but not tooooo much! >:)

    Our friend from Colombia is en route to Washington DC, but is currently grounded in Atlanta because of bad weather. Sorry about all the rain etc some of you are having. Hope there are no floods. <3

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,209 Member
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,209 Member
    what a way to start the morning - riding to work, felt extra sluggish. 1/2 there, kirby stold me to stop. my bike had a flat.! he kept going, i walked the bike back home and drove to work. :0( this day is shot
  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
    GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS Posts: 2,573 Member
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  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    edited April 2017
    Re: I'll send many good thoughts that you find your lovely ring. (((hugs)))

    pitegny: There were a couple of items on the French Grandmother's List that might be helpful, and some that were definitely hilarious. Thanks for sharing. :laugh:

    Sharon in Lethbridge: I'm sorry to hear that you've been in an unpleasant work situation. :flowerforyou:

    Sarah: I'm sorry about the loss of your dad. While I was at the cemetery where most of my family is buried to take Mother's Day flowers to Mom & my aunties, I found her mom's grave & gave my grandmother a piece of my mind for the way she treated mom all those years ago. It certainly didn't fix anything but I had my say and it made ME feel like I'd stuck up for mom. I felt better. This grandmother passed away when I was about 2. I'm still sad for my poor mom. She was a surprise late baby. I can't count the number of times she said, "My mother didn't love me." :heart: :broken_heart::heart:

    Penny: I am so happy to hear what a tight-knit and lovely community you have. :bigsmile:

    KJ: Where were the photos of the Long Horn Cattle drive taken? I enjoyed seeing them. :smiley:


    We have a rainy day today and I can see a fishing boat out my window. I'm so glad to be warm and cozy in my house rather than sitting in an unheated boat in the cold rain.


    Katla in beautiful NW Oregon

    "The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." - William James

  • ydailey
    ydailey Posts: 516 Member
    Happy National Teflon Day!

    May all of your troubles (and any extra pounds!) slide right off...

    Michele - Oh, I sympathize with your shopping challenges! I've tried and tried to train Philip to put things on the shopping list when we're almost out, but he still forgets.

    Sarah - Hope you got some sleep and that the rain gave you a break.

    Karen - Olivia is looking great! I love her adorable little jumper... "With every blossom comes a bee."

    Allie - Sorry to hear about your troubles with your dad and the hassle at Walgreen's. Wishing you a quick resolution to both problems.

    Beth - I can't wait to hear how your kimchi comes out!

    Becca - Happy happy happy is great news! Glad you and that man have each other.

    Ginger - "Hanging baskets!" I sympathize, mine have never been perky, and now... well... a friend refers to this situation as National Geographic boobs. Hoping that if I reach my goal weight I'll at least be able to shop in regular department stores for my bras.

    Re - Oh, I do hope your anniversary ring turns up!

    Sarah - You have my sympathies. I hope you're able to find peace today.

    Kelly - What a great score at the garage sale! I'll bet handsome Joaquin will be getting a kick out of his wagon and bike before you know it.

    ChevyChey and any newcomers I missed - Welcome!


    Yesterday I used the exercise bike for my workout, but I decided to try it with the interval timer I downloaded for the phone. I got a timer without music, so it just gives cues when it's time to switch intensity so I can still watch TV or read while I'm pedaling. Seemed to work - I sure felt like I'd worked hard by the time I was done! And I had a great weigh-in this morning.

    I'm excited about going to the Wendish Museum this Saturday with a bunch of girlfriends. I've probably driven past there a thousand times on my way back and forth to Houston, but never stopped. I'm interested to learn about the Wends and their migration to Texas. We're hoping to see some beautiful Wendish Easter eggs. It's been too long since I got to spend much time (in real space, anyway) with women friends! So I'll plan ahead a little to account for a pre-museum visit to a local barbeque joint and then enjoy it without guilt.

    Wishing you all a lovely day.

    -Yvonne in TX
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Heather: Sometimes I wish I could eat cream and butter. You have a gift with words, and your description of scone, jam & clotted cream gave me a little jolt of dairy envy. :grumble: :ohwell: :flowerforyou:

    Katla the jealous
  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,974 Member
    Checking in. Skimmed over 100 posts. Ginger, I need pictures of your organization. It is a hobby if mine as well, but I think I can only aspire to be as organized as you.

  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,209 Member
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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,678 Member
    edited April 2017
    Ginger - brilliant coping strategies. Well done! :flowerforyou:

    Katla - Sorry to make you jealous. Clotted cream is THE most fattening food stuff ever! :'(

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

  • DamitJanit
    DamitJanit Posts: 1,329 Member
    Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

    Good Evening My Dear Friends

    MicheleNC, for the bowling luncheon are you saying they ate the store bought stuff over your home made goodies? At the Moose some ladies buy things to bring and they are normally what is left over.

    Janetr, I was thinking the same thing about missing Gloria. Hugs to both of you.

    Gloria, you have your hands full so don’t worry about “giving” to us. Just please come here when you can so you can feel our love and support. There is no way I could be raising children at this age. You are doing great.

    Ginger, you are so lucky to have a handy DH. Mine just isn’t and when he does try to do something it is always such an ordeal just trying to find the right tools.

    Re, so glad you aren’t retaining “anything” and I think you will be at Onederland before you know it. Goooooooooooooooooo, RE!!!!!!

    Penny, that is one interesting place you live. Who would even think about the baptism water freezing. I love all your stories.

    Sarah, good grief woman it sounds like you have your hands full. Do take time for yourself.

    Lora, welcome. This is a great place for support and information so do come often. What part of WI are you in? We lived in Milwaukee for 10 long, cold years then moved back south.

    Susie, welcome. I trust that you are under a doctor’s guidance for that 800 calorie a day diet? Wow that is low. Good luck.

    Barbie, so sorry to hear that Jake isn’t well enough to make his weekend trip. I hope you can have a good time.

    Mia, you are just beginning and I think you are doing GREAT. Keep it up and it will become a breeze.

    Lisa, congrats on the new job.

    Cheri, a huge CONGRATS to you. Way to go.

    Had severe rain and wind last night but nothing more at our house. Lots worse all around us but by mid-day the sun was shining and it’s like a spring/fall day. A cool air and pretty heavy winds blowing but what a beautiful day it turned out to be. We are still hard at getting things down stairs for the garage sale so I simply don’t have time to catch up. I am thinking of all you lovely ladies and sending good thoughts your way.
    pretty-pink-welcome-smiley-emoticon.gifto any Newbies. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.

    Sending love, good thoughts and sunshine to all of you.
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    DJ
    Myrtle Beach, SC
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
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  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
    Sarah ~ My father was not famous, but, he was well respected in the community, held public offices, and ran several businesses that were very profitable for him and (when he passed) his three sons. We had exactly the same home life that you described. I was always so afraid that someone would know about the fights and physical abuse that resulted. I never invited any one to my home because you never knew what would result. I think the thing that has always bothered me the most was that I loved him dearly. I really think all 5 of us children did. I have come to realize lately that he must have suffered greatly from PTSD after returning from WWII. He was on planes that flew over the Himalayas to deliver cargo supplies to troops. My mom said he almost got sucked out of the plane during one trip. After the war, he refused to fly home and returned by boat.

    Carol in GA
  • grogers511
    grogers511 Posts: 477 Member
    edited April 2017
    DJ - DH amazes me with his ability to learn and tackle anything. He would go to the library and read about how to do something - or seek out people who could tell him. He's always been this way even as a child. We had the frame built for our home. Together we finished out the inside... while living in it. I don't recommend that. But we got it done. Now - he raises chickens, geese and ducks. Built a duck pond last year. He has a big vegetable garden. And enjoys wood working projects.

    Organtization... I love being organized. It's been a work in progress. One thing that really helped was to write it down. I created a home management binder. Something I resisted doing for years. But one day DH said "I hoe I die before you - because I'll never understand how to pay our bills - or manage Mom's care." And - I thought the same thing - I wouldnt know how to maintain certain things here at home. So... I wrote it down. I need to include a section on how I'm managing Dad's business. But I actually have that all in a spreadsheet that I send to my older brother once a month. It has a list of all the actions we needed to take, important documents and shows bills paid, etc.

    --Ginger in Texas
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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,678 Member
    Sarah, Carol - Oh gosh, I don't know what to say. I just feel very sad for you. <3<3 Sending great big hugs! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
    Glad you could share it with us.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    Ginger I love your binder system. I have one for our fixer upper--I call it the big book of everything and it helped me cope with the purchase of the foreclosed property, the inspections, the architect, the contractors, all the way down to the receipts from Home Depot.

    Currently working on the big book of death which will help either my husband or daughter if I should kick it first and will tell them where everything is, and even the cello sonata I want DD to play at the service o:)

    Just got out of job interview screening - first round--I feel for every nervous candidate and wish I could reassure them, you can hear the effort behind every jittery response. Job hunting is hard!!!! I give anyone going through it a lot of credit!!!

    Now onto to a string festival concert tonight--fiddle fest for kids from 5th through 12th grade---200 kids -- yeeeeehaaaaaaa

    NYKAREN
  • gotu52
    gotu52 Posts: 315 Member
    Carol thank you so much for your story. I know there are many of us with this or similar stories. It is hard, we have nothing to be ashamed for and we understand each other. So happy to know you!

    Sarah
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,246 Member
    edited April 2017
    (((Sarah and Carol))) I do believe the trauma that our parents went through does have an effect on us. I have a friend whose father went through the Bataan Death March in the Pacific and I could see the repercussions that had in her family. They are finally addressing how working with traumatized students effects the teachers who are trying to help them. Of course those who are directly effected by trauma have the hardest time. I just find it heartening that we live in an age that acknowledges traumas repercussions for us all. Healing from trauma is a process and there is no right or wrong way to go about it.

    Sarah it so sad your mother wasn't able to stand up to your father and your father took advantage. It left you incredibly vulnerable. I want to clarify your mother was a victim in no way deserved that treatment. The price tag to stand up to him was and may still be too high. Loving your father is not the issue. His behavior and the effect it has on your family is the issue. If you feel it is important to confront this I would recommend getting a good therapist to help you. I also think the book Dance of Anger also has some helpful ideas. I wrote about this book last year starting in March or April last year if you want to get some idea what is in the book. Take care you are carrying a heavy load that is not of your making.

    :heart: Margaret


  • jmkmomm
    jmkmomm Posts: 3,247 Member
    Re, I don't know if you believe in prayer but sometimes when I loose something, I sit and pray about it and ask God to tell me where it it. I have never got an immediate answer but I do get it.

    Katla, when we moved out where we are now, we were in an established neighborhood with a school across the street. But not far from us it was all corn fields and a road between, Not there is an interstate with a bypass, major shopping centers and major name hotels. Where it once was a two lane small road it is now a 8 lane road with numerous stoplights. I avoid the road as often as I can.

    Organization????? What is that word. I do have place that I put every manual I have ever had regarding this house. I recently went through it and threw away a lot of them. I think that is the only thing that is even close to being organized. But just that little bit has come in handy when Charlie will be stuck on not knowing how to fix something and have no idea where the manual is, but I do!!!! Super Joyce to the rescue!!!!!

    We now have a new garage door AND a garage door opener. So Charlie does not have to work so hard to open the door to get the lawnmower out. I think that is the only useful thing in the garage. No, sadly it is not organized. We had no idea how deep into the garage they needed clearance to do their thing. So we did a quick move of all the junk. I wish this had happened before we had a our heavy trash pick up day. But Michelle said we can take them over there. But it would have been so nice just to drag this stuff from our garage down the driveway to the place to put them for pick up. Now we will have to put them in our car and then unload them at her house. Tomorrow her and I will go out and pick up stuff to take down with us to see her sister. She turns 40 on Saturday and Michelle wants to do a big thing to celebrate that terrible occasion. So we need to clean my wheelchair, buy a bunch of 'over the hill' stuff, and we have everything coordinated with her husband where to meet. But Michelle will turn 40 in just 3 short years. I don't know if Christina will do the same for her. I don't know how in the world I got old enough to have a 40 year old child???????

    Sure will be glad when this weather system passes.

    Lenora, one time when Christina went with the church youth group to an ice skating rink. She didn't know how to skate so she knew she would be falling on her butt a lot. I also don't know why in the world she wore white jeans except that they looked good in her. But she was going to a sleep over with several of the girls after. So she called me in a panic, she had started her period, note the white jeans and knowing she would be falling a lot. She was so humiliated, After that her nick name was Strawberry shortcake. After I had my kids and was on birth control pills, I knew exactly what day of the week I would have my period. And it would only last 18 hours.

    Karen, I am in love with Olivia. You all are going to have to watch that girl!

    Joyce, Indiana
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    edited April 2017
    Yvonne in Texas I hadn't heard of the Wends, so I looked them up. I would love seeing that Wendish Heritage Museum now that I know who they are, LOL! http://texaswendish.org/2010/01/who-are-the-wends/

    Heather I had to look up rouille: "a super garlicky mayonnaise, usually served with fish" - sounds yummy!
    I also love clotted cream which I learned about while in England in 2000 while there with my Mom one year before she died. It was her last bucket list trip before the final great adventure. I have bought clotted cream only once here, as it is pricey. It evokes memories of when I was a kid and my mom would send me to buy some cream from a local woman who kept a dairy cow and would sell the cream, which was so rich you could easily churn it into butter just walking home with it in the jar. I can still remember her telling me to carry it carefully so as not to jiggle it too much. I was SO CAREFUL with it, I nearly tiptoed home. We very rarely had desserts, but the occasional homemade ice cream or whipped cream on pie she would make from that high fat cream was to die for.

    Sarah Ontario I read your rant and found it interesting and worth reading. (((Hugs))) to you and (((Carol)))

    Ginger You are inspiring me. I know I would be happier if I was organized. I just need to start somewhere simple and go from there...

    Joyce Olivia is a pistol, isn't she? We can't wait to see her again, but the pictures are great!

    Karen in Virginia

  • raeannelangdon
    raeannelangdon Posts: 2 Member
    edited April 2017
    Hello Everyone! New to this. Not quite sure how to post replies to certain people's posts. Really appreciate that there is a group for 50+. <3
    -Rae Anne
  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    Kate UK <3
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,634 Member
    Sarah and Carol, thank you for sharing your stories ((( <3 )))) The fear and helplessness sticks around a long time. So glad you and others who have shared similar stories are in this group.

    RE - sorry to hear about your ring! It HAS to be there someplace. We've lost important things like rings, keys, DH's wallet while he was mowing hay (that's 20 acres)....eventually everything seemed to show up. I'm still looking for my high school class ring, however. Haven't seen it in 50 years and the last time I remember it was in Indiana. Think that one IS a lost cause!

    Heather, clotted cream sounds heavenly. Is it like sweetened whipped cream with added love and lusciousness?

    NYKaren, I would love to attend the fiddlefest! I adore fiddle music of all kinds. There's a family in our area that gives lots of concerts - imagine 8 kids growing up playing fiddles. I can't remember - is your family musical?

    Penny, you DO live in the best small town!! Neat feeling of safety and friendship in knowing nearly everyone you meet in the street or in places of business. The last town we lived in was like that. Adults and seniors loved it - the teens getting into mischief didn't. :*

    Kelly, so glad you and DH are enjoying your trip so much and get to babysit! Cool cattle too!

    Anita, good luck with the next MRI go-around. Those "tubes" can become quite close. Hope the med relaxes you and you can get that task wrapped up.

    Waving HI to everbody!

    Lanette
    SW WA State - with some sunshine peeking thru right now.

  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,183 Member
    :)Kelly, Jake has heart problems but not RA. This bronchitis is a rarity. He gets occasional colds and makes a big production out of them.

    :)Anita, I suffered with terrible pain for months last year because I was terrified of an MRI, then by chance I found out that I could get meds to relax me. My doctor prescribed lorazepam and I sailed through the MRI, found out what caused the pain, had surgery, and am a new woman today. Good luck with your MRI.

    <3 Barbie
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
    Sarah and Caroll, thank you for sharing your stories. I have a similar story. Us 5 kids have never spoken of our growing up in the environment that we did. Snippets here and there only. It made me think that I was imagining my upbringing. So it took forever to believe what happened happened and to move beyond its impact on me. I'm glad to have this forum where we all feel comfortable sharing these life impacting stories.

    Cheri
    nursing a day long headache on day six of this head cold in TX

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