Husband cheated on me here
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I could see signing up right when you found out, but then realizing there wasn't much for you to do other than to try to find the women, and then finally posting about it.
What's the goal of the therapy? Are you trying to get back together, end it, or still figuring it out?
BTW, I'm sorry he broke your trust. People are debating the semantics of cheating in this thread, but I don't know if it matters so much as your trust was broken.4 -
Jackie0Marie wrote: »We getting names or nah?
(Ps. I'm in just for my two cents on the lab advice. Go to a pound or a lab rescue. I have two lab-pit mixes. They are the best.
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3 labs here.. I can third on the lab advice..
I have been wating on names too.. sigh
Excellent.
I have a dream. One day this forum will have a lab thread where all the poor little puppies can back and run riot.
That would be sweet!
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adamgoleafs87 wrote: »A lot of men are dogs... and they don't think that virtual sexting or nude videos are even cheating. Does he know what he did was wrong? Is he sorry or just sorry that he got caught? So what can you do? Can you spring for the nuclear option and leave? (I worked outside the home and that's what I did. It took me years to recover financially, from the divorce, but I did. A lot of women are scared to leave, and, think they can't make it -- but they can and they do.) In the old days when this happened, women "went home to mother" for a while. Is that an option? Will he go to marriage counseling? Is it worth it? Do you have kids? Ann Landers / Dear Abby would say, "Can you live without him?" So sorry that this happened to you.
I wouldn't say only men, it goes both ways.
In THIS cast it is a man. So "A lot of men are dogs definitely applies. Had it been a man posting about a cheating wife the sentiment would be transposed.3 -
Jackie0Marie wrote: »We getting names or nah?
(Ps. I'm in just for my two cents on the lab advice. Go to a pound or a lab rescue. I have two lab-pit mixes. They are the best. )
3 labs here.. I can third on the lab advice..
I have been wating on names too.. sigh
Excellent.
I have a dream. One day this forum will have a lab thread where all the poor little puppies can back and run riot.
Start a lab cafe. Much better than a cat cafe.1 -
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ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken wrote: »adamgoleafs87 wrote: »A lot of men are dogs... and they don't think that virtual sexting or nude videos are even cheating. Does he know what he did was wrong? Is he sorry or just sorry that he got caught? So what can you do? Can you spring for the nuclear option and leave? (I worked outside the home and that's what I did. It took me years to recover financially, from the divorce, but I did. A lot of women are scared to leave, and, think they can't make it -- but they can and they do.) In the old days when this happened, women "went home to mother" for a while. Is that an option? Will he go to marriage counseling? Is it worth it? Do you have kids? Ann Landers / Dear Abby would say, "Can you live without him?" So sorry that this happened to you.
I wouldn't say only men, it goes both ways.
In THIS cast it is a man. So "A lot of men are dogs definitely applies. Had it been a man posting about a cheating wife the sentiment would be transposed.
What about those he was cheating with? Don't they get included in this cast?
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Tacklewasher wrote: »ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken wrote: »adamgoleafs87 wrote: »A lot of men are dogs... and they don't think that virtual sexting or nude videos are even cheating. Does he know what he did was wrong? Is he sorry or just sorry that he got caught? So what can you do? Can you spring for the nuclear option and leave? (I worked outside the home and that's what I did. It took me years to recover financially, from the divorce, but I did. A lot of women are scared to leave, and, think they can't make it -- but they can and they do.) In the old days when this happened, women "went home to mother" for a while. Is that an option? Will he go to marriage counseling? Is it worth it? Do you have kids? Ann Landers / Dear Abby would say, "Can you live without him?" So sorry that this happened to you.
I wouldn't say only men, it goes both ways.
In THIS cast it is a man. So "A lot of men are dogs definitely applies. Had it been a man posting about a cheating wife the sentiment would be transposed.
What about those he was cheating with? Don't they get included in this cast?
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So, I'm confused. Are you looking for action now?1
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Once trust is broken, it becomes almost impossible to get it back. Especially if it has been broken repeatedly.
OP.. My heart goes out to you. A betrayal on this scale is really devastating. I hope you are able to heal from it.1 -
competecompetecompete wrote: »I'm confused. Don't people have cheat days? Maybe he sent the D to the chicks on those days.
we might can find him with all the flirt posts on all the threads asking 'how do you deal with cheat days'?1 -
I don't understand why people are accusing her of lying or the time frame she posted this thread. People deal with stuff differently. Maybe she cried and was depressed the first couple of months. Maybe she is lying...it's still an engaging thread.3
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Anywho...hope everything falls where it may.
Best of luck and such.
Chits never fun.
I know.0 -
SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »Jackie0Marie wrote: »We getting names or nah?
(Ps. I'm in just for my two cents on the lab advice. Go to a pound or a lab rescue. I have two lab-pit mixes. They are the best. )
3 labs here.. I can third on the lab advice..
I have been wating on names too.. sigh
Excellent.
I have a dream. One day this forum will have a lab thread where all the poor little puppies can back and run riot.
Start a lab cafe. Much better than a cat cafe.
LOL. It'd have to be drunk through straws and lidded but that could be a good idea, you know 0 -
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STLBADGIRL wrote: »I don't understand why people are accusing her of lying or the time frame she posted this thread. People deal with stuff differently. Maybe she cried and was depressed the first couple of months. Maybe she is lying...it's still an engaging thread.
Agreed. Makes for interesting reading at least.
Might be a good way for her to vent and get her feelings out there as well.
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Your husband flirted via an electronic medium. It's a betrayal of sorts, but hardly cheating.
And what right would you have to tell the other participants - alleged - husband (assuming you could do so)? She is responsible for operating within the parameters of her own relationship. That's hardly your responsibility.
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Your husband flirted via an electronic medium. It's a betrayal of sorts, but hardly cheating.
And what right would you have to tell the other participants - alleged - husband (assuming you could do so)? She is responsible for operating within the parameters of her own relationship. That's hardly your responsibility.
pretty sure if I send pictures of my old junk to other women that my wife would consider it cheating too.17 -
Your husband flirted via an electronic medium. It's a betrayal of sorts, but hardly cheating.
And what right would you have to tell the other participants - alleged - husband (assuming you could do so)? She is responsible for operating within the parameters of her own relationship. That's hardly your responsibility.
I would say DP's and naked video's is more then flirting..
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Your husband flirted via an electronic medium. It's a betrayal of sorts, but hardly cheating.
I disagree. Sending pics and videos definitely crosses a line and is cheating.And what right would you have to tell the other participants - alleged - husband (assuming you could do so)? She is responsible for operating within the parameters of her own relationship. That's hardly your responsibility.
I agree. But I understand the desire to do so.
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Your husband flirted via an electronic medium. It's a betrayal of sorts, but hardly cheating.
And what right would you have to tell the other participants - alleged - husband (assuming you could do so)? She is responsible for operating within the parameters of her own relationship. That's hardly your responsibility.
I like your way of thinking…0 -
Someone on my FL acct unceremoniously disappeared recently and abruptly.Sooothathappened wrote: »She deleted her acct after that.
Hmm. . .?
Nah. . . .1 -
And what right would you have to tell the other participants - alleged - husband (assuming you could do so)? She is responsible for operating within the parameters of her own relationship. That's hardly your responsibility.
That's funny putting in a perspective of personal responsibility.
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Obviously hypothetical.
Like you get those.
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It's cheating to one spouse but not the other.
This is why I brought up the whole its good to have that conversation. Preferable before it happens. But then you have the "is viewing porn" cheating? Is "going to a strip club" cheating, is "going to lunch with a coworker of the opposite sex" cheating etc.
People have different opinions and when those two people are in a relationship it can get ugly.
By the way again I think its cheating but can acknowledge that others do not think it's cheating.
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hmm..I could go quite far with this..
but for context and the OP prolly any pic with any body parts showing like that and perhaps a flirty message to accompany that pic is not in a a grey area.1
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