How did you meet your SO?

Timshel_

scottyp65 wrote: »

At a bar called The Hitching Post...

Is that the one in Arizona?

bobshuckleberry

At work I was his boss. We dated secretly and then one day announced we were getting married. He took a job in another division.

gamerbabe14

Tinder...duh.

mattdhall

We played in a band together.

Butts_Boys_and_Burgers_ohmy

We met on AOL in a chat room. I was surfing profiles, thought he might be interesting and he didn't live too far from me. I was just looking for friends. Met in person the next day at his work, we sat on a skid of potatoes and talked for 2 hours. Been together 18 years and married for over 16

crazyycatlady1

Church HS youth group. Dated for 4 years, engaged for 1 year, will be married 15 years this fall

serenityfrye

In college. A few of us all drove to church together every week, but they were older boys and I was too shy to get to know them well. Actually my best friend had a crush on him for ages so it took me a while to stop considering him "off limits" and agree to go out with him when he asked

ValleyHooper

We met online, but he had some friends in the same town I was in. He drove all the way from Montana to California to see me. He never went back. We got married pretty fast (felt right, but we were young and stupid). Anyways it will be 13 years next month. I am surprised someone could put up with me for that long. He deserves a damn award or something.

Roobyzooby

Set up unknowingly on a blind date, married 19 years...

Motorsheen

My wife married me so she could use the carpool lane on the 405 Freeway.

HealthierRayne

On a dating site - my profile said "collar-poppers need not apply" and "top 40 makes me want to stab myself in the ear with a rusty spoon"
He sent me a message asking if I had heard of Skeletonwitch (which I hadn't) and that got us chatting - every day for a month. We went to meet up at the cliche coffee shop, when he got there he thought I was someone else and almost bailed, until I caught him at the door nearly in tears I was laughing so hard. He was relieved to say the least. The rest is history - 9 years of love this July!

LittleHearseDriver

opheliaphoenix wrote: »

Note: Skip to the end for a much quicker "too long; didn't read" overview...lol.

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I had a really close friend who used to date my cousin back when I was like 15 when we all hung out together in a tight-knit group of friends. We'll give him a code name of Z...lol. He ended up moving away and eventually joining the Army a few years down the road. Well, apparently, Z had harbored some kind of romantic/nostalgic feelings for me all those years and ended up telling one of his best friends in the military all about me. They would talk about all the good memories we'd had and whatever else I'm sure guys talk about...lol. Well, his friend thought - since Z was stuck in a loveless marriage at the time, and he'd been waxing poetic about some hometown girl so much - that he should grow some balls and end things with the aforementioned now ex-wife and confess his feelings for me. Z hesitated, but ended up deciding to stop back by my mother's house when he came back home for a visit and figured he would confess said feelings. However, I was 19-20 by that time, so I obviously didn't live there anymore. I get a call from my mom that Z randomly stopped in after several years and to get in touch with him.

So, I did. And, he confessed. It was awkward, because he was more like a brother to me and I was also in a relationship at the time. Not a happy one, but I don't stray on anyone for any reason. So, I was polite and jovial about it so I didn't hurt his feelings too much, but you could tell he started to pull away a little from reigniting a friendship at that point. So, his friend from the military steps in on his behalf to give him a good word and tell me that Z was in love with me, and that I should give it a chance. Doesn't help, because I obviously don't have romantic feelings for him. But, me and Z's friend become friends over the whole ordeal -- we actually end up being a lot closer than Z and I ever were, even back in the day.

But, it's all long distance friendship over the internet, because they were stationed in Colorado and I was bouncing back and forth between AZ and CA at the time. (That aforementioned bad relationship had me moving back home to CA over the course of that time.) So, jumping forward a few years because this is already long enough...I am officially broken up with my ex for the last time for many reasons and am back in California permanently. Z's friend had also ended his relationship around the same time, because she kept cheating on him. We commiserated with one another for having survived horrible relationships, and it was becoming clear that we would have been much happier all along with people like one another, since we had so much in common and had the same values for relationships. However, we remained just friends. Then, my best friend and I were planning a trip to a brewery out in Colorado, and I mentioned maybe stopping by to see him. My best friend must have known all along that she wanted us together, because she quickly dropped out of the plans and said that I should still go without her. Definitely a wink-wink there, but I was still clueless at the time...lol. He found out and agreed that I should still go and could stay with him instead of having to pay for a hotel. So, I thought -- "Awesome! It's good to have friends! Maybe I will."

And, then a few weeks later - before I decided if I was going to go or not, we were talking on the phone, and he started telling me about this girl he really liked but that they were friends and he was afraid to tell her and ruin things between them because they were really close. I was happy for him because he deserved someone who finally made him happy, and I urged him to bite the bullet and just tell her! So, he did...and, that "friend" was actually me. And, up until that point, I had never given romantic feelings a thought, because we were pretty much best friends and thought I just really cared for him -- but, it was like a light switched on when he told me, and my heart stopped. I didn't just care for him, I loved him. And, it clicked. I decided to go see him under the pretenses of still going as friends and then we'd see if there was chemistry, but no pressure if there wasn't. I didn't want to lose his friendship either. Well, that was almost 10 years ago, and we're married with kids now. The chemistry was undeniable then and still is to this day!


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TL;DR: He was a friend-of-a-friend who tried to get me together with said friend, but he is a terrible wingman, and we ended up together instead!

This made me tear up That's straight up Nicholas Sparks material!

SomebodyWakeUpHIcks

Nicholas Sparks introduced me to my wife our first year at Rysner.

Hthrbee1978

RegaliTea_69 wrote: »

BowlingForHollars wrote: »

RegaliTea_69 wrote: »

He was my friend of 7 years. Pizza happened. Alcohol happened.

Others in the friend zone have heard the legend of this man

Don't get your hopes up. The 'friendzoned' usually stay that way, even with a hint of false promise.

**OFF TOPIC to a degree, but the term "friendzone" has always bothered me for the following reasons**


Because a girl (or guy) are not required to reciprocate ones feelings. "False promise" purports that someone is attempting to "fool you" into being their friend with a promise of something more being owed. However, nothing is owed to another person beside what that person desires to give.

SomebodyWakeUpHIcks

@Butts_Boys_and_Burgers_ohmy wrote: »

We met on AOL in a chat room. I was surfing profiles, thought he might be interesting and he didn't live too far from me. I was just looking for friends. Met in person the next day at his work, we sat on a skid of potatoes and talked for 2 hours. Been together 18 years and married for over 16

Dang, AOL has been dead for a long time! You just made me feel old!!

DonM46

Plane geometry class in hi school, 1964.
She sat in the adjacent row to my immediate right.
Didn't date until the following summer, even then, just a few times.
Engaged in 1966; married in 1968.
Will celebrate 49 years together this June.

Lucy1752

I had just moved to a town out west. Was 10 months post-divorce after an 18 year marriage and still in anti-man mode. Stopped for gas and went to pay and to ask directions. He was in line too.

Used his Irish accent when giving me the directions (the clerk was not very nice about it) and he had my
attention. We texted a few days and met up at the dog park (MUST love dogs) the next week.

Moved another 1200 miles together 6 months later. That was 4 years ago.

He is the love of my life and has seen me thru some of the darkest days I have known.

vespiquenn

He grabbed my butt while hanging out with friends at Oktoberfest. He was a friend of my then-boyfriend. We are now married and refer to that day as Grabaversary.

Seriously though, after my then boyfriend and I broke up, my SO invited me out to coffee. We ended up talking until the coffee shop closed, so we went to a 24 hour diner until like 3am. My 7am class was brutal the next day.

Beka3695

I had just divorced after a 15 year marriage. I had never lived alone, but moved into this cute little cabin with my two daughters. My best friend said to me "my brothers best friend lives next door. If you get scared, call him. He will come right over. And if you need anything, he loves homecooked meals."

I needed some electrical wiring moved and I knew he worked in a similar field. I txt him and offered dinner for his assistance. 6 months later and we had worn a trail between our houses. The trail was later dubbed "LOVERS LANE."

That was 6 years ago. We will be married 4 years next month.

slider728

After college, I got a job about 2 hours away from where I went to school and helped 2 of my classmates/friends get hired on as well. A mutual friend of the 3 of us had moved out toward the coast and in pre-FB times, we didn't see much of each other.

I was traveling for a living (anywhere from 2 weeks to 5 months at a time). I was in a relationship (not my wife) and I got a Dear John phone call when I was in SE Asia. I came back and we got together and the relationship had some good parts but was toxic. She dumped me right before New Years and a few days later, I grabbed an assignment in Puerto Rico to get away from my ex-gf.

After my assignment was about up, we (the 3 of us from college) found out that our friend from the coast was going to come back to the city we all went to school. We made arrangements to meet up at one of the bars we used to go to when we were in college on Thursday for $1 drink night.

I got back from PR on Tuesday and on Thursday we headed up a few hours away to the bar. It was a larger gathering as we had many friends/classmates that still lived in the area. A cleaning person from the school that we were all friends with brought this cute little brunette with her. At the time, I was pretty sour on the concept of love and sure as hell wasn't looking for a relationship, but the girl was cute so I started talking to her, just being friendly.

She was flirting with me, but being as dense as I am, I didn't pick up on anything. She went to the restroom and came back and gave me her phone number on the back of a business card. I wasn't expecting that and it really threw me off guard. By the time I got my bearings and decided to pursue this a bit more, two other guys had moved in on her. I made some comment about having competition and she got the two guys to leave somehow

We drank like the young 20 somethings we were and danced the night away on the dance floor. It was a night that I really didn't want to end. We spoke the next day and we got back together on Saturday (maybe Friday night). About a week later, I drew a 2 week assignment in the Orlando area, so I flew her out for the weekend and we had a great time again.

We were in a great relationship. However, every time I left town for awhile, I was expecting to get that phone call while I was overseas saying that she was moving on or one trip, I would come home and she'd say she found someone else. However, that phone call never came and she remained faithful and loyal to me. Time after time, when I came home, she was there to greet me.

About 3 years after we met, we got married in one of the most beautiful churches I had seen. We started our new life together and built a wonderful life and a wonderful family. Every day, I give thanks that I met her and I have her in my life. We've been married 15 years now.