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Ben_there_done_that wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »kclewis416 wrote: »1000% have plan b, c, or d.. when do you not do that in life...?
And lets face it... when a person likes you.. and wants to date you or see you.. and its mutual.. and you there are no issues like baby mama/baby daddy/wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend etc.. things usually go quite smoothly...
Do not settle.. do not accept excuses why they couldn't call, didn't call, stopped calling, had to cancel plans, didn't show up. If someone wants to see you - they will make the time - every time!
That's very true. I'm putting it behind me. Not tough enough for internet dating. It was good while it lasted.
Fortunately I already have some cats. Cats are awesome.
Please no, with the cats. Don't give up. I'm hoping you're tougher than you think.
Dear Ben_there: I realize not everyone is a cat person. However, for those who are, this is not a "settling for less" situation. Their psychology and body language communication is not difficult to understand for those who desire to. Regardless of stereotypes and funny movies and sitcoms, many people find true peace and happiness with them.
I consider myself lucky. I have a good husband AND two cats. We're all happy together. Were something to happen to him, though, at age 48 (and postmenopausal) I have no desire to relaunch myself into this bizarro world of one night stands, multiple people "on the hook," ghosting, etc. It just isn't my way. You've heard of MGTOW right? Men going their own way? Perhaps for some ladies, it is time for WGTOW. There's no moral imperative to mate and remate if it only brings you stress and pain.
Lol. Hey, I'm not judging. If that's what the OP wants. But this thread wasn't started because of her avid love of felines. Also, stereotypes exist for a reason.2 -
LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »Send him a *kitten* you text and move on. Even if he doesn't respond you've given yourself some closure. Sorry
I know how frustrating it is.
I love getting kitten texts. He might respond to that.
Lmao MFP wouldn't let me say what I really wanted to say
And know I don't know what you mean and I'm googling but no good! LOL ROFL what's a kitten?
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Am I married to the only man on the planet who also likes cats?3
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MommyStixx wrote: »MOVE ON. I've seen my friend experience this multiple times. Online dating makes it incredibly easy for a jerk of a guy to find "the next best thing" and just completely disappear. He doesn't deserve you, and he's NOT the type of guy you're looking for.
Now that's a solid first post to join date ratio.1 -
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this made me think of @GnothiSeauton23 come back, cat lovers need you.Am I married to the only man on the planet who also likes cats?
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KimbersNewLife wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »Send him a *kitten* you text and move on. Even if he doesn't respond you've given yourself some closure. Sorry I know how frustrating it is.
I love getting kitten texts. He might respond to that.
Lmao MFP wouldn't let me say what I really wanted to say
And know I don't know what you mean and I'm googling but no good! LOL ROFL what's a kitten?
They replace cuss words with the word "kitten."0 -
I always think it's weird when people tell you to just "let it go" and pretend like you're not pissed off. You are pissed off, and that's ok. Nothing wrong with a good *kitten* you text. Why would you even care if he thinks you're psycho? He's a *kitten* jerk, and I swear to the gods guys keep doing this because they keep getting away with it. Call him on his behavior.
Disclaimer: do not do anything illegal. A strongly worded text is ok. Slashing his tires and setting things on fire is not. lol.0 -
ghosting = they found someone they like better. OR they're hiding something. This is an expected part of online dating and there is nothing you can do to prevent or stop it.0
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SoulRadiation wrote: »Don't send him another text. Just forget about him and move on...delete his contact info, and go out dancing with your friends.
I agree with this! 100%!!!!0 -
I'm just curious...did you meet him on MFP?0
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My best friend of 7 years ghosted me. We talked every day and then one day he was just gone without a word. Multiple texts and emails went unanswered and my heart truly broke. It took me a long time to get over it. The history is what I struggled with most, but I finally realized than only a coward would walk away without saying a word, it made it much easier to move on. People these days are insensitive, and I think you dodged a bullet. Be happy that his true colors came out and move forward. It was only a month, and it shouldn't take you long to move on.
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OutOfUserName wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I don't think he's married. I've been to his house and it looked like the house of a man and his children. Doesn't mean he doesn't have a non live in significant other though.
I looked him up on the dating website. He hasn't been online lately although his profile is still up.
Anyway I sent a letter asking if he is ok and to communicate with me. I'm going to have to let it go now so I don't descend into psychoness or bunny boiler mode. Bit worried I look like a stalker as it's only been a few days. Feels like the uncertainty is making me nuts.
he got what he wanted.....game over
This is what I was thinking.0 -
I do like cats for themselves. I was in a long term relationship for many years and have children. We've been split up for five years now..Although I'd like a relationship again I don't think I'm desperate for one. I had got used to being single again. I'm just disappointed because I was having an awesome time with Mr ghost. Reminded me of the upsides to being with someone.1
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AmberSpamber wrote: »My best friend of 7 years ghosted me. We talked every day and then one day he was just gone without a word. Multiple texts and emails went unanswered and my heart truly broke. It took me a long time to get over it. The history is what I struggled with most, but I finally realized than only a coward would walk away without saying a word, it made it much easier to move on. People these days are insensitive, and I think you dodged a bullet. Be happy that his true colors came out and move forward. It was only a month, and it shouldn't take you long to move on.
He met someone who would blow him....0 -
LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »I always think it's weird when people tell you to just "let it go" and pretend like you're not pissed off. You are pissed off, and that's ok. Nothing wrong with a good *kitten* you text. Why would you even care if he thinks you're psycho? He's a *kitten* jerk, and I swear to the gods guys keep doing this because they keep getting away with it. Call him on his behavior.
Disclaimer: do not do anything illegal. A strongly worded text is ok. Slashing his tires and setting things on fire is not. lol.
I do agree with most of what you said but don't forget women do ghost too, in fact they ghost at a higher rate than men do because you women have way more options than us men and if another guy (a better looking guy or something like that) comes along and captures her interest, she's gone. This is something that plagues the online dating sites.1 -
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LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »I always think it's weird when people tell you to just "let it go" and pretend like you're not pissed off. You are pissed off, and that's ok. Nothing wrong with a good *kitten* you text. Why would you even care if he thinks you're psycho? He's a *kitten* jerk, and I swear to the gods guys keep doing this because they keep getting away with it. Call him on his behavior.
Disclaimer: do not do anything illegal. A strongly worded text is ok. Slashing his tires and setting things on fire is not. lol.
women do the same dude. Not to me personally but they still do it.
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DasItMan91 wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »I always think it's weird when people tell you to just "let it go" and pretend like you're not pissed off. You are pissed off, and that's ok. Nothing wrong with a good *kitten* you text. Why would you even care if he thinks you're psycho? He's a *kitten* jerk, and I swear to the gods guys keep doing this because they keep getting away with it. Call him on his behavior.
Disclaimer: do not do anything illegal. A strongly worded text is ok. Slashing his tires and setting things on fire is not. lol.
I do agree with most of what you said but don't forget women do ghost too, in fact they ghost at a higher rate than men do because you women have way more options than us men and if another guy (a better looking guy or something like that) comes along and captures her interest, she's gone. This is something that plagues the online dating sites.
Well yeah, I don't date women, so I don't speak from that experience. I think ghosting is *kitten* regardless of gender. If you've met up once and you're not feeling it, then fine. If you've established a dating pattern and just disappear, that's total crap.1
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