Ghosted
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LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
Basically...women can't win
Any guy who will do that? Not a prize worth winning.
Yeah, I know. I'm angry that it doesn't matter what women do, it's always the wrong choice. There aren't a whole lot of quality men looking for a relationship in my age group, that is for sure.
ya'll acting like women don't do the exact same thing. Swings and roundabouts folks.
Ya'll acting like I'm one of those women. Trust me, I know lots of quality women who find it impossible to date. Not so many guys. If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one. He doesn't even have to be good looking. All these guys act like we have so many options. Yeah, if you only want someone to have casual sex with. Good luck getting anything else.
anecdotal evidence is unreliable at best. I know plenty of guys and girls in the same situation. And I didn't act like you were or call you one of those women. At all.
"If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one"
this for one is utter bull imo.
There are good and bad on both sides, it's not skewed any which way. Find the right partner, weed out the losers. That's advice for both men and women.
It's always interesting when people talk about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then blatantly give their opinion which is not supported by any sort of study or facts.
So wait, anecdotal evidence and opinions are the same thing?
and you kinda missed my point, I stated anecdotal evidence is unreliable the showed you a conflicting statement to highlight how unreliable it is.
I didn't miss the point. I said that you were talking about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then you stated an opinion that is just as unreliable because it's not backed up by anything except your personal experience. Which is anecdotal evidence.
*sigh* so yes...you did miss the point then.
Ok I went back and read what you said. It was a completely unsubstantiated opinion. I'm not sure what point I was supposed to get?
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pretty sure everyone in my life has ghosted me. Feelsbadman.1
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I'm a introvert. Please ghost me. "I thought we were friends, why are you inviting me to this party?"6
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MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
Basically...women can't win
Any guy who will do that? Not a prize worth winning.
Yeah, I know. I'm angry that it doesn't matter what women do, it's always the wrong choice. There aren't a whole lot of quality men looking for a relationship in my age group, that is for sure.
ya'll acting like women don't do the exact same thing. Swings and roundabouts folks.
Ya'll acting like I'm one of those women. Trust me, I know lots of quality women who find it impossible to date. Not so many guys. If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one. He doesn't even have to be good looking. All these guys act like we have so many options. Yeah, if you only want someone to have casual sex with. Good luck getting anything else.
anecdotal evidence is unreliable at best. I know plenty of guys and girls in the same situation. And I didn't act like you were or call you one of those women. At all.
"If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one"
this for one is utter bull imo.
There are good and bad on both sides, it's not skewed any which way. Find the right partner, weed out the losers. That's advice for both men and women.
It's always interesting when people talk about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then blatantly give their opinion which is not supported by any sort of study or facts.
So wait, anecdotal evidence and opinions are the same thing?
and you kinda missed my point, I stated anecdotal evidence is unreliable the showed you a conflicting statement to highlight how unreliable it is.
I didn't miss the point. I said that you were talking about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then you stated an opinion that is just as unreliable because it's not backed up by anything except your personal experience. Which is anecdotal evidence.
*sigh* so yes...you did miss the point then.
Ok I went back and read what you said. It was a completely unsubstantiated opinion. I'm not sure what point I was supposed to get?
see above
I read it. This point you think you've proven is nonexistent. Hey, good luck to you though on future relationships.1 -
You two already sound like you're married.4
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LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
Basically...women can't win
Any guy who will do that? Not a prize worth winning.
Yeah, I know. I'm angry that it doesn't matter what women do, it's always the wrong choice. There aren't a whole lot of quality men looking for a relationship in my age group, that is for sure.
ya'll acting like women don't do the exact same thing. Swings and roundabouts folks.
Ya'll acting like I'm one of those women. Trust me, I know lots of quality women who find it impossible to date. Not so many guys. If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one. He doesn't even have to be good looking. All these guys act like we have so many options. Yeah, if you only want someone to have casual sex with. Good luck getting anything else.
anecdotal evidence is unreliable at best. I know plenty of guys and girls in the same situation. And I didn't act like you were or call you one of those women. At all.
"If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one"
this for one is utter bull imo.
There are good and bad on both sides, it's not skewed any which way. Find the right partner, weed out the losers. That's advice for both men and women.
It's always interesting when people talk about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then blatantly give their opinion which is not supported by any sort of study or facts.
So wait, anecdotal evidence and opinions are the same thing?
and you kinda missed my point, I stated anecdotal evidence is unreliable the showed you a conflicting statement to highlight how unreliable it is.
I didn't miss the point. I said that you were talking about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then you stated an opinion that is just as unreliable because it's not backed up by anything except your personal experience. Which is anecdotal evidence.
*sigh* so yes...you did miss the point then.
Ok I went back and read what you said. It was a completely unsubstantiated opinion. I'm not sure what point I was supposed to get?
see above
I read it. This point you think you've proven is nonexistent. Hey, good luck to you though on future relationships.
So my original point that anecdotal evidence is unreliable, the same point you tried to use against me...is nonexistent.
also thanks but im married so I'm all good on the relationship front.0 -
MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
Basically...women can't win
Any guy who will do that? Not a prize worth winning.
Yeah, I know. I'm angry that it doesn't matter what women do, it's always the wrong choice. There aren't a whole lot of quality men looking for a relationship in my age group, that is for sure.
ya'll acting like women don't do the exact same thing. Swings and roundabouts folks.
Ya'll acting like I'm one of those women. Trust me, I know lots of quality women who find it impossible to date. Not so many guys. If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one. He doesn't even have to be good looking. All these guys act like we have so many options. Yeah, if you only want someone to have casual sex with. Good luck getting anything else.
anecdotal evidence is unreliable at best. I know plenty of guys and girls in the same situation. And I didn't act like you were or call you one of those women. At all.
"If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one"
this for one is utter bull imo.
There are good and bad on both sides, it's not skewed any which way. Find the right partner, weed out the losers. That's advice for both men and women.
It's always interesting when people talk about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then blatantly give their opinion which is not supported by any sort of study or facts.
So wait, anecdotal evidence and opinions are the same thing?
and you kinda missed my point, I stated anecdotal evidence is unreliable the showed you a conflicting statement to highlight how unreliable it is.
I didn't miss the point. I said that you were talking about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then you stated an opinion that is just as unreliable because it's not backed up by anything except your personal experience. Which is anecdotal evidence.
*sigh* so yes...you did miss the point then.
Ok I went back and read what you said. It was a completely unsubstantiated opinion. I'm not sure what point I was supposed to get?
see above
I read it. This point you think you've proven is nonexistent. Hey, good luck to you though on future relationships.
So my original point that anecdotal evidence is unreliable, the same point you tried to use against me...is nonexistent.
also thanks but im married so I'm all good on the relationship front.
Oh good! I'm sure she loves listening to you pontificate over nothing.2 -
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arcornell09 wrote: »You two already sound like you're married.
Too bad he's taken. These two have a lot in common, personality wise.
nothing wrong with a debate every now and then! I get bored on here otherwise.0 -
MrStabbems wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »You two already sound like you're married.
Too bad he's taken. These two have a lot in common, personality wise.
nothing wrong with a debate every now and then! I get bored on here otherwise.
I honestly don't take any of this seriously. It's a public forum ffs. It was fun sparring with you though
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LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
Basically...women can't win
Any guy who will do that? Not a prize worth winning.
Yeah, I know. I'm angry that it doesn't matter what women do, it's always the wrong choice. There aren't a whole lot of quality men looking for a relationship in my age group, that is for sure.
ya'll acting like women don't do the exact same thing. Swings and roundabouts folks.
Ya'll acting like I'm one of those women. Trust me, I know lots of quality women who find it impossible to date. Not so many guys. If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one. He doesn't even have to be good looking. All these guys act like we have so many options. Yeah, if you only want someone to have casual sex with. Good luck getting anything else.
anecdotal evidence is unreliable at best. I know plenty of guys and girls in the same situation. And I didn't act like you were or call you one of those women. At all.
"If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one"
this for one is utter bull imo.
There are good and bad on both sides, it's not skewed any which way. Find the right partner, weed out the losers. That's advice for both men and women.
It's always interesting when people talk about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then blatantly give their opinion which is not supported by any sort of study or facts.
So wait, anecdotal evidence and opinions are the same thing?
and you kinda missed my point, I stated anecdotal evidence is unreliable the showed you a conflicting statement to highlight how unreliable it is.
I didn't miss the point. I said that you were talking about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then you stated an opinion that is just as unreliable because it's not backed up by anything except your personal experience. Which is anecdotal evidence.
*sigh* so yes...you did miss the point then.
Ok I went back and read what you said. It was a completely unsubstantiated opinion. I'm not sure what point I was supposed to get?
see above
I read it. This point you think you've proven is nonexistent. Hey, good luck to you though on future relationships.
So my original point that anecdotal evidence is unreliable, the same point you tried to use against me...is nonexistent.
also thanks but im married so I'm all good on the relationship front.
Oh good! I'm sure she loves listening to you pontificate over nothing.
awww cmon no need to start insulting and skipping perfectly valid arguments.LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »You two already sound like you're married.
Too bad he's taken. These two have a lot in common, personality wise.
nothing wrong with a debate every now and then! I get bored on here otherwise.
I honestly don't take any of this seriously. It's a public forum ffs. It was fun sparring with you though
Neither do I, it's always fun. I think I had two on at the same time tonight!1 -
MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
Basically...women can't win
Any guy who will do that? Not a prize worth winning.
Yeah, I know. I'm angry that it doesn't matter what women do, it's always the wrong choice. There aren't a whole lot of quality men looking for a relationship in my age group, that is for sure.
ya'll acting like women don't do the exact same thing. Swings and roundabouts folks.
Ya'll acting like I'm one of those women. Trust me, I know lots of quality women who find it impossible to date. Not so many guys. If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one. He doesn't even have to be good looking. All these guys act like we have so many options. Yeah, if you only want someone to have casual sex with. Good luck getting anything else.
anecdotal evidence is unreliable at best. I know plenty of guys and girls in the same situation. And I didn't act like you were or call you one of those women. At all.
"If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one"
this for one is utter bull imo.
There are good and bad on both sides, it's not skewed any which way. Find the right partner, weed out the losers. That's advice for both men and women.
It's always interesting when people talk about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then blatantly give their opinion which is not supported by any sort of study or facts.
So wait, anecdotal evidence and opinions are the same thing?
and you kinda missed my point, I stated anecdotal evidence is unreliable the showed you a conflicting statement to highlight how unreliable it is.
I didn't miss the point. I said that you were talking about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then you stated an opinion that is just as unreliable because it's not backed up by anything except your personal experience. Which is anecdotal evidence.
*sigh* so yes...you did miss the point then.
Ok I went back and read what you said. It was a completely unsubstantiated opinion. I'm not sure what point I was supposed to get?
see above
I read it. This point you think you've proven is nonexistent. Hey, good luck to you though on future relationships.
So my original point that anecdotal evidence is unreliable, the same point you tried to use against me...is nonexistent.
also thanks but im married so I'm all good on the relationship front.
Oh good! I'm sure she loves listening to you pontificate over nothing.
awww cmon no need to start insulting and skipping perfectly valid arguments.
I had hoped for a bit more. Ah well.
You said you were giving up and going to bed. I respect people's boundaries. Good night.
I was also joking since you said the whole conversation was about nothing. I hate text. It's impossible to tell tone.2 -
LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
Basically...women can't win
Any guy who will do that? Not a prize worth winning.
Yeah, I know. I'm angry that it doesn't matter what women do, it's always the wrong choice. There aren't a whole lot of quality men looking for a relationship in my age group, that is for sure.
ya'll acting like women don't do the exact same thing. Swings and roundabouts folks.
Ya'll acting like I'm one of those women. Trust me, I know lots of quality women who find it impossible to date. Not so many guys. If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one. He doesn't even have to be good looking. All these guys act like we have so many options. Yeah, if you only want someone to have casual sex with. Good luck getting anything else.
anecdotal evidence is unreliable at best. I know plenty of guys and girls in the same situation. And I didn't act like you were or call you one of those women. At all.
"If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one"
this for one is utter bull imo.
There are good and bad on both sides, it's not skewed any which way. Find the right partner, weed out the losers. That's advice for both men and women.
It's always interesting when people talk about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then blatantly give their opinion which is not supported by any sort of study or facts.
So wait, anecdotal evidence and opinions are the same thing?
and you kinda missed my point, I stated anecdotal evidence is unreliable the showed you a conflicting statement to highlight how unreliable it is.
I didn't miss the point. I said that you were talking about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then you stated an opinion that is just as unreliable because it's not backed up by anything except your personal experience. Which is anecdotal evidence.
*sigh* so yes...you did miss the point then.
Ok I went back and read what you said. It was a completely unsubstantiated opinion. I'm not sure what point I was supposed to get?
see above
I read it. This point you think you've proven is nonexistent. Hey, good luck to you though on future relationships.
So my original point that anecdotal evidence is unreliable, the same point you tried to use against me...is nonexistent.
also thanks but im married so I'm all good on the relationship front.
Oh good! I'm sure she loves listening to you pontificate over nothing.
awww cmon no need to start insulting and skipping perfectly valid arguments.
I had hoped for a bit more. Ah well.
You said you were giving up and going to bed. I respect people's boundaries. Good night.
I was also joking since you said the whole conversation was about nothing. I hate text. It's impossible to tell tone.
No worries
this is where I sleep in the spare room tonight right?2 -
MrStabbems wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »You two already sound like you're married.
Too bad he's taken. These two have a lot in common, personality wise.
nothing wrong with a debate every now and then! I get bored on here otherwise.
You did spice it up a bit and I thank you. Serious question though, in the spirit of civil debate: Who do you think benefits most from the societal acceptance and proliferation of - what's been called on this thread - casual sex? Women or men?
I'm in a FWB situation right now so I might be able to answer that. I'm not ready to commit to anyone at this point, I couldn't give it everything I have. She's a young busy mother. We netflix and chill, we both vent then relive some stress and thats the agreement. We both were pretty honest with each other on what we wanted at the time and so far so good.0 -
MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
Basically...women can't win
Any guy who will do that? Not a prize worth winning.
Yeah, I know. I'm angry that it doesn't matter what women do, it's always the wrong choice. There aren't a whole lot of quality men looking for a relationship in my age group, that is for sure.
ya'll acting like women don't do the exact same thing. Swings and roundabouts folks.
Ya'll acting like I'm one of those women. Trust me, I know lots of quality women who find it impossible to date. Not so many guys. If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one. He doesn't even have to be good looking. All these guys act like we have so many options. Yeah, if you only want someone to have casual sex with. Good luck getting anything else.
anecdotal evidence is unreliable at best. I know plenty of guys and girls in the same situation. And I didn't act like you were or call you one of those women. At all.
"If a good guy wants a relationship, he almost immediately gets into one"
this for one is utter bull imo.
There are good and bad on both sides, it's not skewed any which way. Find the right partner, weed out the losers. That's advice for both men and women.
It's always interesting when people talk about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then blatantly give their opinion which is not supported by any sort of study or facts.
So wait, anecdotal evidence and opinions are the same thing?
and you kinda missed my point, I stated anecdotal evidence is unreliable the showed you a conflicting statement to highlight how unreliable it is.
I didn't miss the point. I said that you were talking about how unreliable anecdotal evidence is and then you stated an opinion that is just as unreliable because it's not backed up by anything except your personal experience. Which is anecdotal evidence.
*sigh* so yes...you did miss the point then.
Ok I went back and read what you said. It was a completely unsubstantiated opinion. I'm not sure what point I was supposed to get?
see above
I read it. This point you think you've proven is nonexistent. Hey, good luck to you though on future relationships.
So my original point that anecdotal evidence is unreliable, the same point you tried to use against me...is nonexistent.
also thanks but im married so I'm all good on the relationship front.
Oh good! I'm sure she loves listening to you pontificate over nothing.
awww cmon no need to start insulting and skipping perfectly valid arguments.
I had hoped for a bit more. Ah well.
You said you were giving up and going to bed. I respect people's boundaries. Good night.
I was also joking since you said the whole conversation was about nothing. I hate text. It's impossible to tell tone.
No worries
this is where I sleep in the spare room tonight right?
lol hey, that's up to your wife
In the interest of full disclosure, I'm not dating because I just got burned badly with my last two relationships. I personally know that my judgment is not the best right now, so it's just me and my cat for the moment 2 -
barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
This sounds to me like a catch 22.0 -
MrStabbems wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »You two already sound like you're married.
Too bad he's taken. These two have a lot in common, personality wise.
nothing wrong with a debate every now and then! I get bored on here otherwise.
You did spice it up a bit and I thank you. Serious question though, in the spirit of civil debate: Who do you think benefits most from the societal acceptance and proliferation of - what's been called on this thread - casual sex? Women or men?
Acceptance. Men. Although It is getting much better.
The way in which people go about getting sex is what seems to be bone of contention. If one person wants causal and the other a relationship then those stances should be respected regardless of gender. This is where I think the pain and hurt comes from. Disrespectful ill-disciplined selfish idiots lying or taking advantage of someone else for their own gain.3 -
barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
This sounds to me like a catch 22.
If the person cares enough they will wait for the right time and if they care enough they will only think of you.2 -
arcornell09 wrote: »barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
This sounds to me like a catch 22.
If the person cares enough they will wait for the right time and if they care enough they will only think of you.
No argument there. But in this case we are talking about someone honorable. As opposed to a guy who randomly disappears and only wants sex then vanishes.1 -
arcornell09 wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »You two already sound like you're married.
Too bad he's taken. These two have a lot in common, personality wise.
nothing wrong with a debate every now and then! I get bored on here otherwise.
You did spice it up a bit and I thank you. Serious question though, in the spirit of civil debate: Who do you think benefits most from the societal acceptance and proliferation of - what's been called on this thread - casual sex? Women or men?
I'm in a FWB situation right now so I might be able to answer that. I'm not ready to commit to anyone at this point, I couldn't give it everything I have. She's a young busy mother. We netflix and chill, we both vent then relive some stress and thats the agreement. We both were pretty honest with each other on what we wanted at the time and so far so good.
Common enough and mutually agreed upon.
But 5 years from now, when this arrangement has run its course - who will be in a better position to negotiate leverage and favorable outcome in the sexual marketplace? A nice looking woman with kids in her mid to late 30s? Or a single, nice looking, gainfully employed man of the same age?
I think it really comes down to honesty. I'm 38 and she's 22 and I know there are women older than me that are with younger men. The problem seems to arise when people aren't honest about what they are looking for at certain points in their life. I prefer to be in a monogamous committed relationship but I just simply can't right now in my life. So, I wouldn't go out into the dating scene and pretend I was looking to be committed just for my own selfish needs. But finding someone who is on the same page as you is the most important. So, I guess there is nothing you can do about people who aren't honest about what they're looking for and you can't blame yourself if you get used or rejected.1 -
arcornell09 wrote: »barefoot_xoxo wrote: »grayblackmfp wrote: »I was dating a man who I met on a dating website a month ago. We had seven dates over four weeks with daily texts in-between. He always texted me first. Then one day he didn't reply to me. And I've heard nothing from him since. Unless he's had some kind of emergency he obviously doesn't want to see me again. I know I'm better off without someone who can be so cruel but the bit of hope that I have left hurts. It doesn't feel quite over because I'm still waiting for a text or call. I'm surprised how much it hurts after such a brief time with him. It doesn't make me want to open up to anyone else. Has this happened to you and how did you get past it without losing faith in humanity?
Did you sleep with him ?
If so then he got what he wanted
If not then he found someone who will sleep with him
This sounds to me like a catch 22.
If the person cares enough they will wait for the right time and if they care enough they will only think of you.
No argument there. But in this case we are talking about someone honorable. As opposed to a guy who randomly disappears and only wants sex then vanishes.
Yes! I think this is what frustrates women so much. An honorable guy isn't going to use a woman for sex and then disappear. Yet when it happens, we're told we'll find someone who cares enough about us someday to not do that. Idk about you, but I want a guy who is empathetic enough to not do that to somebody else no matter how little he genuinely feels for her.2 -
MrStabbems wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »You two already sound like you're married.
Too bad he's taken. These two have a lot in common, personality wise.
nothing wrong with a debate every now and then! I get bored on here otherwise.
You did spice it up a bit and I thank you. Serious question though, in the spirit of civil debate: Who do you think benefits most from the societal acceptance and proliferation of - what's been called on this thread - casual sex? Women or men?
Acceptance. Men. Although It is getting much better.
The way in which people go about getting sex is what seems to be bone of contention. If one person wants causal and the other a relationship then those stances should be respected regardless of gender. This is where I think the pain and hurt comes from. Disrespectful ill-disciplined selfish idiots lying or taking advantage of someone else for their own gain.
*kitten*, I agree with you 1 -
arcornell09 wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »You two already sound like you're married.
Too bad he's taken. These two have a lot in common, personality wise.
nothing wrong with a debate every now and then! I get bored on here otherwise.
You did spice it up a bit and I thank you. Serious question though, in the spirit of civil debate: Who do you think benefits most from the societal acceptance and proliferation of - what's been called on this thread - casual sex? Women or men?
I'm in a FWB situation right now so I might be able to answer that. I'm not ready to commit to anyone at this point, I couldn't give it everything I have. She's a young busy mother. We netflix and chill, we both vent then relive some stress and thats the agreement. We both were pretty honest with each other on what we wanted at the time and so far so good.
Common enough and mutually agreed upon.
But 5 years from now, when this arrangement has run its course - who will be in a better position to negotiate leverage and favorable outcome in the sexual marketplace? A nice looking woman with kids in her mid to late 30s? Or a single, nice looking, gainfully employed man of the same age?
I think it really comes down to honesty. I'm 38 and she's 22 and I know there are women older than me that are with younger men. The problem seems to arise when people aren't honest about what they are looking for at certain points in their life. I prefer to be in a monogamous committed relationship but I just simply can't right now in my life. So, I wouldn't go out into the dating scene and pretend I was looking to be committed just for my own selfish needs. But finding someone who is on the same page as you is the most important. So, I guess there is nothing you can do about people who aren't honest about what they're looking for and you can't blame yourself if you get used or rejected.
Oh God. Just as I was about to fall in love with you and woo your profile pic as I ate my dinner...
There is a age difference but I thought it was relevant to the question you asked about who could "leverage a favorable outcome in the sexual marketplace" so you do the math. She's a grown woman who lives on her own. Has a car and apartment with her child and works full time after moving from Puerto Rico, she's not a child.0 -
arcornell09 wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »You two already sound like you're married.
Too bad he's taken. These two have a lot in common, personality wise.
nothing wrong with a debate every now and then! I get bored on here otherwise.
You did spice it up a bit and I thank you. Serious question though, in the spirit of civil debate: Who do you think benefits most from the societal acceptance and proliferation of - what's been called on this thread - casual sex? Women or men?
I'm in a FWB situation right now so I might be able to answer that. I'm not ready to commit to anyone at this point, I couldn't give it everything I have. She's a young busy mother. We netflix and chill, we both vent then relive some stress and thats the agreement. We both were pretty honest with each other on what we wanted at the time and so far so good.
Common enough and mutually agreed upon.
But 5 years from now, when this arrangement has run its course - who will be in a better position to negotiate leverage and favorable outcome in the sexual marketplace? A nice looking woman with kids in her mid to late 30s? Or a single, nice looking, gainfully employed man of the same age?
I think it really comes down to honesty. I'm 38 and she's 22 and I know there are women older than me that are with younger men. The problem seems to arise when people aren't honest about what they are looking for at certain points in their life. I prefer to be in a monogamous committed relationship but I just simply can't right now in my life. So, I wouldn't go out into the dating scene and pretend I was looking to be committed just for my own selfish needs. But finding someone who is on the same page as you is the most important. So, I guess there is nothing you can do about people who aren't honest about what they're looking for and you can't blame yourself if you get used or rejected.
Oh God. Just as I was about to fall in love with you and woo your profile pic as I ate my dinner...
There is a age difference but I thought it was relevant to the question you asked about who could "leverage a favorable outcome in the sexual marketplace" so you do the math. She's a grown woman who lives on her own. Has a car and apartment with her child and works full time after moving from Puerto Rico, she's not a child.
Age is just a number. I have dated guys almost 20 years older than me and guys almost ten years younger than me (cuz it would be illegal otherwise!) I don't get hung up on age differences. If you're in a situation where you both are happy and don't want anything more, than there is nothing wrong with it.3 -
LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »You two already sound like you're married.
Too bad he's taken. These two have a lot in common, personality wise.
nothing wrong with a debate every now and then! I get bored on here otherwise.
You did spice it up a bit and I thank you. Serious question though, in the spirit of civil debate: Who do you think benefits most from the societal acceptance and proliferation of - what's been called on this thread - casual sex? Women or men?
I'm in a FWB situation right now so I might be able to answer that. I'm not ready to commit to anyone at this point, I couldn't give it everything I have. She's a young busy mother. We netflix and chill, we both vent then relive some stress and thats the agreement. We both were pretty honest with each other on what we wanted at the time and so far so good.
Common enough and mutually agreed upon.
But 5 years from now, when this arrangement has run its course - who will be in a better position to negotiate leverage and favorable outcome in the sexual marketplace? A nice looking woman with kids in her mid to late 30s? Or a single, nice looking, gainfully employed man of the same age?
I think it really comes down to honesty. I'm 38 and she's 22 and I know there are women older than me that are with younger men. The problem seems to arise when people aren't honest about what they are looking for at certain points in their life. I prefer to be in a monogamous committed relationship but I just simply can't right now in my life. So, I wouldn't go out into the dating scene and pretend I was looking to be committed just for my own selfish needs. But finding someone who is on the same page as you is the most important. So, I guess there is nothing you can do about people who aren't honest about what they're looking for and you can't blame yourself if you get used or rejected.
Oh God. Just as I was about to fall in love with you and woo your profile pic as I ate my dinner...
There is a age difference but I thought it was relevant to the question you asked about who could "leverage a favorable outcome in the sexual marketplace" so you do the math. She's a grown woman who lives on her own. Has a car and apartment with her child and works full time after moving from Puerto Rico, she's not a child.
Age is just a number. I have dated guys almost 20 years older than me and guys almost ten years younger than me (cuz it would be illegal otherwise!) I don't get hung up on age differences. If you're in a situation where you both are happy and don't want anything more, than there is nothing wrong with it.
Thank you for backing me up. I'm still heartbroken from my divorce and I'm not using anyone to validate myself or rub anyting in my Ex's nose. Like anyone else I need a human connection sometimes. I hope to have a deep bond with someone again someday but I want to be fair to the future person and to do that I have a LOT of work to do emotionally, physically and financially to give that person everything they deserve.1 -
arcornell09 wrote: »LaPrincipessaFedele wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »MrStabbems wrote: »arcornell09 wrote: »You two already sound like you're married.
Too bad he's taken. These two have a lot in common, personality wise.
nothing wrong with a debate every now and then! I get bored on here otherwise.
You did spice it up a bit and I thank you. Serious question though, in the spirit of civil debate: Who do you think benefits most from the societal acceptance and proliferation of - what's been called on this thread - casual sex? Women or men?
I'm in a FWB situation right now so I might be able to answer that. I'm not ready to commit to anyone at this point, I couldn't give it everything I have. She's a young busy mother. We netflix and chill, we both vent then relive some stress and thats the agreement. We both were pretty honest with each other on what we wanted at the time and so far so good.
Common enough and mutually agreed upon.
But 5 years from now, when this arrangement has run its course - who will be in a better position to negotiate leverage and favorable outcome in the sexual marketplace? A nice looking woman with kids in her mid to late 30s? Or a single, nice looking, gainfully employed man of the same age?
I think it really comes down to honesty. I'm 38 and she's 22 and I know there are women older than me that are with younger men. The problem seems to arise when people aren't honest about what they are looking for at certain points in their life. I prefer to be in a monogamous committed relationship but I just simply can't right now in my life. So, I wouldn't go out into the dating scene and pretend I was looking to be committed just for my own selfish needs. But finding someone who is on the same page as you is the most important. So, I guess there is nothing you can do about people who aren't honest about what they're looking for and you can't blame yourself if you get used or rejected.
Oh God. Just as I was about to fall in love with you and woo your profile pic as I ate my dinner...
There is a age difference but I thought it was relevant to the question you asked about who could "leverage a favorable outcome in the sexual marketplace" so you do the math. She's a grown woman who lives on her own. Has a car and apartment with her child and works full time after moving from Puerto Rico, she's not a child.
Age is just a number. I have dated guys almost 20 years older than me and guys almost ten years younger than me (cuz it would be illegal otherwise!) I don't get hung up on age differences. If you're in a situation where you both are happy and don't want anything more, than there is nothing wrong with it.
Thank you for backing me up. I'm still heartbroken from my divorce and I'm not using anyone to validate myself or rub anyting in my Ex's nose. Like anyone else I need a human connection sometimes. I hope to have a deep bond with someone again someday but I want to be fair to the future person and to do that I have a LOT of work to do emotionally, physically and financially to give that person everything they deserve.
I'm so sorry. I know there are good men in the world, like you Hugs, and I truly hope you find happiness someday 
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_dracarys_ wrote: »Perhaps his wife found out.
Reminds me of the Ashley Madison site that got hacked and exposed the users, with some of them being congressmen, religious leaders, etc. I was curious and googled Ashley Madison and google asked me if I'm searching for "ashley madison hack list" because wives/husbands wanted to know if their significant other were on there. I assume the divorce rate went up after the hack. lol1 -
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rachelleahsmom wrote: »DasItMan91 wrote: »Yeah send him one more text, you got nothing to lose now and if he doesn't respond, just move on. If you're a decent-looking woman, it shouldn't be that hard to find another man anyway and how long has it been since he stopped responding to you?
What?!?!? Since when does it matter what someone looks like? This was a horrible response!
Looks matter especially with online dating. I even talked to multiple people about this in real life and they agree with me. Some ugly person is not gonna get alot of messages or matches if any at all. Tinder for example where people will swipe through hundreds of other people, all it takes is seconds for someone to decide if they find you attractive or not, if they do they swipe right, if they don't they swipe left. Even if you write a good bio and they look at it, it doesn't really matter if they don't find you attractive or if you have bad pictures or no pictures. That's how superficial online dating is now quit crying.3
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