WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2017

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  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
    :)
  • ryenday
    ryenday Posts: 1,540 Member
    1700 meter swim + aqua fit class today.
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    Question for those of you that are on maintenance. I have not weighed myself for over a month since I have been working in very busy and I have not eaten or drink properly, way, way too many carbs! I have also not exercised because actually, I am busy and moving every second of the day. I still fit into all of my clothes so haven't gained inches. But my question is why do I feel like I am so very fat again? Am I starting to create a body image disorder? I am afraid to get on the scale because of being off of my strict eating and exercise routine that I had prior to getting ready for our move. I feel it is going to say I weigh as much as I did prior to losing the 70 pounds and several several inches. I was hoping to go through maintenance by how my clothes fit rather than how much I weigh. And I am trying to tell myself that my clothes fit so I shouldn't worry but inside my mind I am freaking out. Does that happening to anyone else?

    We are still trying to settle down in our area and I will send pictures of our accomplishment when we finish. Probably in a couple days.

    <3

    Mary from Arizona (Minnesota)
  • GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS
    GRITSandSLUTSandWINOS Posts: 2,573 Member
    edited September 2017
    Karen from Virginia - No need to apologize about posting about soon-to-be grandbaby. I really think that I was terribly 'insensitive' to Will who had called me to tell me they did not find a heart beat (meaning that Tami has lost the baby). This was the last egg that got used for their IVF session and I asked him, 'if they were going to do this again'. He said, "I'll call you back!" I think when he said that, it just suddenly 'blew me back' 43 years to my own loss of a pregnancy. I am concerned about whether or not they are going to be checking her to make sure her HCG levels are going back down (and not staying where they are or going up). Before they found out what was actually going on with me; I had passed a big clot and we were having friends (co-worker & wife of Louis') and I screamed and they came back to see why. Grace told me not to flush the toilet and went and got something to 'fish it out' to take with us to the hospital. OB checked on me and the clot and said that I had not miscarried. So, I went along for 5 months thinking I was pregnant. When they asked if I had felt the baby move after they could not find the baby's heartbeat, I got upset; because I did not 'know' what it would have felt like to know if it had moved. That is when my OB told me to go to the hospital and he'd order an x-ray of my abdomen and I was to wait there and bring it back to his office. I was at the hospital for a couple of hours and got back to his office after their closing time (although they still had patients waiting). When I walked in the door they immediately took me back to his office. This was a 2 OB/GYN practice and the older OB had sort of 'passed me off' to his new associate (who minced no words and at the time I really did not like him). I went in the door and he told me to 'close it' and when I turned to do so, saw the other one sitting in a chair. I totally 'freaked'. Then, he told me that there was no fetal skeleton and they needed to immediately put me in the hospital to run more tests to find out why my belly had grown like I would have if I had been pregnant and the x-rays showed nothing. Louis was working; and, I told him that 'he' would have to call Louis and tell him what and why this was going to happen.

    Then, he went on to explain that they were going to inject a dye into my uterus and see what was going on. I was bawling by this time. Louis brought clothes/gowns and they put me in the hospital that afternoon. The next morning they took me down to the x-ray department and stuck a long needle through my stomach and put dye in. What it literally looked like was a 'mass of grapes'. Then they took me up to the OB ward and I was put into a room - right across from the nursery - with a woman (who had apparently also lost her baby) and she had about 15 family members on her side of the room. My red blood count was something like under 11 (I don't know if that is exactly what they were talking about); but, I do remember them saying they had to get it up over 11 ASAP, so I got a blood transfusion (and had an allergic reaction to it). That was only the 2nd time in my marriage that I had ever seen Louis 'cry' and 'beg me NOT to die'. At that point, I did not care if I did. Nothing could console me. I begged Louis to tell the MDs to 'move me out of that room' because I could not stand listening to the wailing of the people on the other side of the curtain in a semi-private room and definitely could not stand hearing the babies crying in the nursery. The moved me down to the surgical floor almost immediately.

    I started itching all over and looked at my Mother and told her "I itch; I can't breathe" and I had never seen that many people come rushing into my room, needles going in and being pulled out. I had a room that overlooked the parking lot and my OB's office. When the older OB came in, I told him that I 'hated' the other one and I really did not want to see him coming back in the door because he rarely came over to my bed. He pointed to his office window - which was on and told me 'watch' and see how late that light is on; it's been that way for a week. He is researching what might be wrong and typing to make sure that a hysterectomy is not going to have to be done. He also told me to 'tell him (new OB) how I felt and how scared I was'. So the next day he opened the door with the nurse on his heels and I told him to tell her to leave and shut the door. I railed him up one side and down the other. I told him that his 'bedside manner' really needed to change because I did not understand what was going on with me and he was barely coming inside the door - and, there was no reason for him to talk to the nurse and not to me.

    Then I did not see him over the weekend. Not sure if I was relieved or upset. When he came back in on Monday, he came over to my bed and sat at the foot and told me they thought they had figured out what was going on with me. I had what they call a "Hydatidiformole" pregnancy which meant that the cells that form the placenta had gone into overdrive and had choked out the baby (at about 2 months). They were going to be running me through a myriad of other tests to see if it had broken off into my blood stream and metastasized to other organs. I asked if I had 'cancer' and he told me they did not think so; but, they needed to find out what or where this problem had gone on in my body and I would probably be taking a series of chemotherapy. So the pregnancy was ended and I got put on 9 weeks of chemotherapy. Three weeks on; one week off. Then they drew blood (5 tubes) on Fridays to send to Duke University Medical College because they had an entire research group that did nothing but deal with that particular issue. I got a good lesson in how a fertilized egg implants and how this occurs (and, it ONLY occurs if the egg is fertilized). That is called the Trophoblastic cells which are formed on the outside of the egg and makes the placenta. This is what I 'knew' at the time. He told me that this only occurs in 1:2000 pregnancies, which was extremely rare - to compare that he used the number of 1:89 of 'naturally conceived twins' as an example. My HCG levels were 'off the charts'. I'd also have to wait until they went all the way down to Zero before I could try to get pregnant again and that there was no reason for me not to try; but, he was going to put me on BC so that I would not get pregnant again until the levels had gone back down. That was a long, long year.

    A few years ago, he told me that they had seen only their 2nd patient with the same condition (in 43 years). What is so strange is that the 'girlfriend' of my ex-HS boyfriend went through the same thing when she was pregnant; but, they had done a hysterectomy on her. She was also a child of a woman who had taken DEC - or something that begins with a "D" when she was pregnant to keep her from miscarrying. I think her mother had had 4 miscarriages prior to her being born; and 2 more between her and her younger sister. About a year ago, one of my first BF's growing up was talking about her daughter-in-law having issues with her pregnancy and that her HCG levels had risen and they did not know why. I called her and told her to get her DnL to ask her OB/GYN about the possibility of this issue. A week later she emailed me and told me that it was 'exactly' what was going on. They ended her pregnancy; but, they did not give her any chemo afterwards. She ended up with cancer and has gone through treatment ... she just finished it and they are hoping that it has worked. She was also someone that had been told that she'd never have a baby ... and she has 2 girls.

    I guess I want to know if Tami's IVF specialist is going to follow her all they way back to make sure her HCG levels go back to Zero and about asking him ... if this might have been the cause of her losing the baby. Of course, I do not want to upset her grieving period of time - I know she has been devastated by this. I'm sure the reason my son cut our conversation down was she was probably with him and the phone might have been on speaker. I could have 'kicked myself in the @$$' ... I knew it was 'wrong' the nano-second I said it, and I knew it was totally insensitive. I'm not sure he will 'forgive me' and I don't know if I can take that. I've already basically lost my DOS because of how his wife feels about me. She hasn't liked me since the day she came over and introduced herself to me as Trey's 'fiancée' and I did not react well to it.

    I've taken this extremely hard and Louis was upset last night because I became 'hysterical' ... could not breathe through my stopped up nose, and could not get to sleep. I finally took some migraine medication, and made sure I had taken my evening meds, and a couple of Skelaxin (muscle relaxant). Then I also took an 'out-of-date' Tessalon pearl to calm the hacking cough I am developing. MD ordered the nose spray and Tessalon pearls for me to take. I slept to 11:45 this morning.

    Oh, and by the way - the OB/GYN that I had 'hated' so much; I absolutely 'love' him now. He spends a lot of time with me and yesterday when I broke down he gave me a lot of comfort. Some of it I 'knew'; but, it is still difficult to hear.

    Lenora
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    Lisa wrote "Janet - I love those ornaments--especially the blue & white ones. And I think I've said before, you and I are in the headspace, and for the same reasons. I keep telling myself they operated on my stomach, not my head, but it's very frustrating--like an acidic taste in your mouth that you can't wash away."

    This is so, so true. It's so nice to have someone who understands exactly where you are coming from, but ugh, that reminds me of misery loves company and I so hate that saying. Thanks for keeping me trucking along, slowly but surely I'll get there. Definitely the "honeymoon" is over.

    Thanks so much for the compliment on the ornaments. The blue and white/silver are Jack's favorites too. I broke down and sold one this morning to the sister-in-law of my ex step daughter-in-law. Ha!! How's that for shirt tail relations? I had made her one for Christmas probably 8 years or ago, she wanted this one for her new daughter-in-law.

    Janetr OKC
  • wildhorsewendy
    wildhorsewendy Posts: 563 Member
    KetoneKaren wrote: »
    Are talismans and pocket people the same as pocket angels?

    YES! Love all the Pocket Angels here. It is raining cats and dogs outside. I have to go out in it and feed all the horses, dogs, cats, and chickens. Won't be going for my run with the dog. Have decided to work out with weights this morning for awhile and hope the rain eases off so I can feed out without getting soaked. (Faint hope.) Then I am going to indulge myself in some painting and artwork with the view of making some Christmas presents.
    <3 Wendy
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    Terry I'm working on a light lavender one right now. It has draped bead work and I'm struggling with the beads lol It has silver trim on it. I think it will be pretty if I can get all the dang beads on it

    Thank you.

    Janetr OKC
  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
    :)
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    Karen in VA - Thank you, I'm keeping my hands busy, busy, busy :)

    Janetr OKC
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    Yvonne thank you so much, not sure about patient but have nothing but time to work on them. :

    Janetr OKC
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    Heather - lol I understand and I'll probably never in my life make yogurt, but I love it. If we were close we could barter, I'd exchange ornaments with you for home made yogurt :)

    Isn't it nice how we all have our "own" things. Makes us who we are.

    Janetr OKC
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    micki48 wrote: »
    Hi. I'm new here. Michele from North Carolina too. I see you already have one. And her name is one L like mine too. Thought I'd join you all since I am a woman over 50. 53 to be exact. Was a teacher for 21+ years, but I am not working now for the first time in a very long time. Not my choice, but learning to enjoy it. My hubby has been a great support getting me through this. I have two grown children. A son about to graduate from college and my daughter is pregnant with my first grandchild. I think my age has caught up with me and can't seem to make my weight budge. So my September goals are:

    - Log all foods
    - Exercise 3x a week for 30 minutes
    - Drink water throughout day 6-8 cups.
    - Get in 5,000 steps more days than not.
    - Lose 5 pounds??? (Way more than that to go, but I'd just like something. )

    Nice to join you all.

    Michele L from NC

    Welcome to a great group. Perhaps we could call you Micki? Would that work?

    Janetr OKC
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,643 Member
    Pip - is Kirby standing in the RAIN in that picture? Looks like puddles on the street. I am jealous. Our sprinkles were just that yesterday afternoon.

    Getting started early with some Mike's lemonade sounds fun, lol.

    DH and I had a conversation about building a house last night... turns out he really wants to stay in this place until he takes his final breath. So will table it for now.... who knows, he might change his mind. He said it would be too stressful on him to move and I tend to agree.

    In the meantime, I'm going to get the property surveyed as it never has been and the parcel overlay on the county map shows us owning half of the neighbor's lane and driveway all the way to the back of the lot. I don't think that's right... would be nice if it was... so a licensed surveyor can solve the mystery and pound some stakes and get it recorded.

    There are a lot of parcels in our county (and probably all over the USA) that were never surveyed. Someone just wrote down what they thought the frontage of a parcel was and the dividing lines. When someone finally got around to surveying it, they found driveways on the wrong parcels, houses and garages split, you name it. Easily fixed by a boundary line adjustment if both parties are willing.

    Lanette
    SW WA State
  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    Mary congratulations on your new AZ relocation! Could it be that all this tumult of moving and stress is bringing back some old body image issues? You are in a new place and are hanging on to something familiar, like being 70 pounds heavier. Because no way you've gained back that much yes?

    There are lots of ladies living on maintenance longer than me on this forum, but here's how I've managed so far:

    • I weigh in once a week.
    • I meal prep non trigger foods for snacking, never let myself get really hungry. Don't eat out very much anymore and when I do, I cut servings in half to take home
    • I exercise regularly
    • If I fall off the wagon and stress eat or punish myself by bingeing, I just start
    Back to healthy the next day.

    Good luck with settling in Mary :)

    NYKAREN


  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,313 Member
    Good afternoon ladies! It's been a long short week for me. We spent last weekend away and as expected, my weight was up Monday. It was down today to a new low (for this round of weight loss :) . We are driving to have lunch with some lifelong friends to kick off my birthday celebrations. Two of us have been friends since we were 2, a third joined us in kindergarten and the forth moved to our hometown and joined us in 8th grade. We will stay with one of them tonight and another one tomorrow night. Luckily our husbands have all become friends too! My eating will NOT be on point this weekend, I'm having Mexican tonight at my fav place and will be eating chips. I'll enjoy every one!! Have a great weekend!

    Okie in the TX Hill Country
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,188 Member
    edited September 2017
    :)Mary, I have been at my goal weight for years and continue to log food and exercise every day with very rare exceptions. When I eat food that is not usual to me (like pizza or ice cream ) I feel different enough to spur me to return to my healthy plan. I will never again be a "normal eater " Instead, I am grateful to have a solution that keeps me healthy.

    <3 Barbie
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,249 Member
    (((Mary))) you may feel this way because of the carbs and stress. Is it hot down there? Heat also can make you retain extra fluids. Give yourself a week or two to get back on track. If there is a weight gain you know you will get yourself back in routine quickly and off goes those pounds.

    :heart: Margaret
  • DamitJanit
    DamitJanit Posts: 1,329 Member
    Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

    Good Evening Friends,

    KarenVA, another baby on the way???? Wooo hoooo

    Wendy, so glad your family in PR is safe.
    Joyce, I don’t think you have a split personality, I think you are possessed. ewwwwwwwwwwwhalloween-ghost.gif

    Allie, I would think it’s normal to have every emotion in the book but you are doing GREAT! Just think of us there with you every step of the way. I’m excited for you and the great life ahead.

    Heather, I know the BD cake will be darling. I trust you will share a picture.

    Elaine, congrats on the loss. Keep up the great work.

    MichelL, welcome. Where in NC? We have ladies around Charlotte area and that is where I moved from 10 years ago.

    Pip, glad you and Kirby made the trip fine. Enjoy the run.

    pretty-pink-welcome-smiley-emoticon.gifto all the Newbies. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.

    This morning when we got up the weather channel said that Irma has turned slightly to the west so it looks like it will miss us. I’m sure we will get some wind and rain but will only be a tropical storm by the time it passes us to the west. I’m so sorry for all those in its path but happy we don’t have to hit the road with three dogs. Just praying for Florida to get through it with minimum damage. MicheleNC, I hope you don't get much wind. CarolGA, Kay and others, please stay safe.

    Sending love, good thoughts and cool sunshine to all of you.

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    DJ
    Myrtle Beach, SC
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,687 Member
    edited September 2017
    I have been at maintenance now for three years 9 months. I still log food and exercise every day. (Apart from on this latest cruise when I did not log food) Like Barbie I do not have a "normal". I am a food addict. I will never be normal. Only calorie counting works for me. I have found that a lower carb strategy works best as I am not eating too many empty calories, but I am not too rigorous about that and I don't worry about macros and micros. Just healthy eating. Lots of veggies. Cooking from scratch. Rare meals out. I consider myself very lucky in that I am retired and able to have a routine. Upheavals, tiredness, illness, injury, working full time, caring duties, all make it so much harder to stick to a routine. Then strategy and planning come into play. Plus it is important not to have unrealistic expectations - like trying to stick to 1200 calories or hoping to lose pounds too quickly. :noway: Slow but sure is the way to go.
    Lisa, Janetr, Mary - Yes, it is all in the head and we must be kind to ourselves. Stress is always the biggest stumbling block. Figuring out what is stressing us and taking steps to deal with it is the key. Often we expect far too much of ourselves and soldier on regardless. We can always see what other people are doing wrong, it's obvious, but it is so much harder to look at our own lives with clarity.

    Watching the news and hoping for the best.
    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • wildhorsewendy
    wildhorsewendy Posts: 563 Member
    Mary, I can feel "fat" if I haven't weighed myself or if I eat something off-diet. I can't just look at my own body and tell whether or not I have gained weight and my clothes will still fit even if I am ten pounds over my goal. (then all of a sudden they are too tight!) That's why I try to weigh myself daily so that I have my finger 'on the pulse of my fat'. LOL I know some people would think I'm obsessed or have a body image disorder, but I think of it like I am piloting the plane of my body. Pilots constantly check their instruments and make little adjustments to stay on course. If you don't have that feedback, you might end up in tenbukto. LOL. I need scale weight feedback to know if I need to cutback, workout more, or just keep on doing what I'm doing. I track my period so I know when my two pounds water weight are going to jump onto the scales, and I mentally adjust for them. I also am aware that if I eat a lot of carbs or salt, my body will hold onto water to compensate. I actually find "maintaining" near impossible. I am always either gaining or losing! How do you maintain Barbie? <3 Wendy
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,081 Member
    Evening ladies~
    got home a bit ago and stress ate... they are changing things up a bit at work, which always rattles me, and then look at Hurricane Irma that has moved , and the eye of the storm will be going right over our place in Florida, which is a double wide.I can only pray by some miracle it gets spared.. but it is highly unlikely..hoping all my friends down there are safe.... working tomorrow...
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    Thanks ladies for the feedback on my question! I bit the bullet and weighed myself and was pleased to see I was still at maintenance level! I know I was paranoid because of not being able to exercise and drinking a lot of Mountain Dew and eating a lot of carbs. I agree that I do better when I do enter everything into my diary.

    <3

    Mary from Arizona (Minnesota)
  • Vickil57
    Vickil57 Posts: 1,882 Member
    Beth--Sending good thought for DS's job.

    Terry--pray your foot feels better soon and that you get to enjoy your vacation.

    Barbie--New house color looks nice. Going to look very spring like.

    Janet--Beautiful.

    Allie--I know a lot of changes at one time can push you over the edge. But remember all the good things to look forward to. Sorry Irmma is heading towards your place, I pray everyone stays safe.

    So far have the weekend off and DH and I have plans so looking forward to that.
    Take care, Blessings, Vicki Grand Island, NE
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,235 Member
    lhscapil wrote: »
    Pip - is Kirby standing in the RAIN in that picture? Looks like puddles on the street. I am jealous. Our sprinkles were just that yesterday afternoon.

    Getting started early with some Mike's lemonade sounds fun, lol.

    DH and I had a conversation about building a house last night... turns out he really wants to stay in this place until he takes his final breath. So will table it for now.... who knows, he might change his mind. He said it would be too stressful on him to move and I tend to agree.


    Lanette
    SW WA State

    Nope, it's overcast tho

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