WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2017

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  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Barbara from S Oregon Coast: Finding a young doctor is excellent luck. We've found a young woman doctor and really appreciate all of her fine qualities. I hope that you're as happy with your new doctor as we are with ours. :star:

    Janetr: High protein and low carb is my best practice and keeps me feeling good and happy. Be warned that that particular combination is also higher in fat. Mine is often a little over the suggested goal, but not bad. I haven't had any health trouble because of it. :flowerforyou:

    Heather: I'm curious about your high tea of scrambled egg and smoked salmon. Is the salmon in the egg or on the side? :huh: I'm a protein lover and that would certainly have a lot of protein, and likely fat as well. Salmon fat is very healthful. :star:


    After yoga today we were talking about another yoga friend who moved to CA to be nearer her children and grandchildren. They lost their home in the fires, are insured and expect to rebuild according to what others said. I thought of my cousin & her daughter who both live near the area of the fires. I just checked on them & both of their homes survived. The daughter's home was in jeopardy for a while but my cousin's home was never at risk. I am so happy for them both and sad for those who will have to start over or rebuild.

    Katla in beautiful NW Oregon

    "The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." - William James

  • klanders30
    klanders30 Posts: 2,569 Member
    joyce maybe you need a checkup to see what’s going on with your sleep and your feeling so blue???

    Becca you are one insightful lady!!

    NYKAREN
  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
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  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,697 Member
    edited October 2017
    Becca, Felicia, all of you - thank you for your eloquent words about this group being a safe place and our relationships here being so rewarding. Agree 1000%. <3

    Some of you may remember I have mentioned a book "God's Hotel" by Dr. Victoria Sweet, who started her career in CA in a facility for the poor and chronically ill. Since the facility didn't have a lot of funding, she and the other docs had to depend on "slow medicine" - good nourishment, sunshine, fresh air, and social contacts which worked remarkably well!

    She has written a new book called "Slow Medicine: The Way to Healing". I just ordered it even though it's eating into my allowance for next month.

    Here's a quote from her: Since God’s Hotel, things in healthcare have gotten worse. My hope for Slow Medicine, therefore, is not simply that it be successful as a book but that it spark a change in our perspective, as we realize that healthcare is more than a commodity and a right; it is a relationship and a spiritual practice. I hope that you will read the book and spread the word about it, and I hope you will let me hear from you again.

    Karen in VA, I think you expressed some wise observations about healthcare several months ago.

    I can't wait to read this book!! I have always been interested in doing what I can to preserve my health in spite of insurance, busy doctors, tests tests and more tests, medicines with side effects..... I try to avoid all of these if I can. DH and I are grateful to have doctors who are OK with the "slow medicine" approach.

    Oh, here's Dr. Sweet's website: https://www.victoriasweet.com/

    Lanette
    Sunny and gorgeous SW WA State B)
  • okiewoman510
    okiewoman510 Posts: 1,319 Member
    Hugs to all who need them.

    As for girlfriends, I have been blessed. I have a core group of girlfriends that have been with me since kindergarten (or before). We still get together as often as we can, which sometimes is only once a year. We are doubly blessed because our husbands all get along too and enjoy spending time together. I picked up another good girlfriend when one of my husbands work friends introduced us to his new girlfriend. The four of us became good friends, and still are almost 30 years later. It was them we spent last weekend with. Another girlfriend came along when we were moving to Shanghai, her husband brought her along so I would have another female to apt hunt with me and we just clicked. We have nothing in common on the surface, but we still spend time together several times a year. She and her husband are going to Hawaii with us this winter. I consider myself very fortunate.

    My weigh-in this morning went well. I was down .4 lbs, which I will gladly take after a weekend away from my food scale. I realized this afternoon that I have done well with my travels since starting my weight loss journey. I have lost weight (sometimes just a few ounces, but it's still a loss) on all of our trips we have taken.

    Okie in the TX Hill Country

  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,290 Member
    (((Heather))) so sorry about your friend.
  • langman22
    langman22 Posts: 786 Member
    Becca, count me in on the bead project. What a wonderful way to remember the progress you have made. I’m going to put on my thinking cap and come up with something. I think I want to start with 35 beads to represent the 35 lbs I’ve lost so far.

    Heather, what a painful time for you. Write down all the memories that you can think of that will remind you of your friend. (((Hugs)))

    Allie, hope you feel better soon and you hear from your dad’s dr. I hate it when people don’t return your call. Especially since with a dr they know how important it is.

    Joyce, so glad to hear that you are staying with us. Sounds like you may be suffering from depression. Take it from someone who has depression, don’t wait. Go to your dr. Depression is a chemical imbalance and there is treatment if this is what you have.

    For some reason, in this area it is hard to find someone to do things with. My husband and I have tried to find another couple to do things with or just to get together with for dinner and we have given up at this point. When you ask someone to go out after work or on the weekend it’s always “maybe in a couple of weeks”. We hear the same thing from others new to the area. It’s become a joke. The only couple we go out with we only see on Saturday for lunch when they are in town. They are both from Spain. He works here and she lives in Spain and goes back and forth. I love them both but they only want to go to lunch at the same place at the same time. They are younger than me but I feel like they are older. Thank goodness DH and I get along so well. We are best friends, but it would be nice to have a close girlfriend too.

    Well to bed and book.

    Terry in VT
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    Katla wrote

    "Janetr: High protein and low carb is my best practice and keeps me feeling good and happy. Be warned that that particular combination is also higher in fat. Mine is often a little over the suggested goal, but not bad. I haven't had any health trouble because of it.

    I'm not changing anything about my daily eating, this is what I've followed for four years since my gastric bypass. MINUS the late night snacking. Lol. Due to having bypass surgery, 50% of my daily intake is to be protein, 30% fat, 20% carbs.

    Janetr okc
  • DamitJanit
    DamitJanit Posts: 1,315 Member
    Call me crazy but I love to see other people happy and succeeding .

    Good Evening Friends,

    Mary, when you started with the kettle bells what weight did you start with? Then what increments did you increase your weight each time? They finally got some at my gym so I need to get started with them.

    MicheleNC, I love your joke about the “eye rolls”. I’d think mine are in pretty good shape too, if you look at it that way. Lol

    Wendy, beautiful flowers. Thanks for sharing.

    Lisa, where are you going to be in NC? I somehow missed the story about your move there when I was so far behind. You know moving is a very stressful situation for everyone so please take care.

    Heather, my back is a long time problem. Had spinal fusion in 2004 and now it’s mostly arthritis there. My hips are a relatively new problem which is some arthritis and some bursitis. Some days they are fine and others, well….what can I say? I’m 70 years old and these old bones carried too much weight for a long time. Lol I have been so lax with my exercising lately and know it helps. Glad to hear yours I better.

    Kelly, my mother used to make fruitcakes at Christmas every year also. She soaked hers in bourbon and kept them wrapped in a dish towel. I never liked fruitcake and probably because of the booze. Now I love a good fruitcake cookie, that we used to call “Lizzies”. But no booze on them…drunk-smiley-emoticon.gif

    CarolGA, your granddaughter is an absolute doll.

    Penny, interesting info on spinach. I agree that the benefits out way the down side so I’ll keep eating it. I’m not so crazy about it raw but just love cooked spinach.

    Kay, I have also read several things about Joanna Gaines not having anything to do with the face cream. It’s amazing that people are so deceitful and also all the fake news that is out there.

    NYKaren, I hope you get some resolution to your rash soon. My DD has had a rash on her face and eyelids for about 3 weeks now and refuses to go to the doctor. It gets a bit better then really bad again. She thinks its hives but I’ve never heard of hives just on the face and no other part of the body.

    Beth, I hope your DH gets better real soon!!!

    Michele wrote, ” Allie - how do you know what time Tom woke up. More importantly, why do you care? And how do you know that he washed the floors, and why would you care anyway unless they were your floors?” and I was thinking the same thing. Lol

    Joyce, I have noticed that you don’t post as often but don’t you dare stop posting! I often feel like a failure too, so I do understand. I think the support here is wonderful weather it’s about our weight or anything else. I feel like I can tell you things I’d never discuss with anyone else. I also get inspired by many of you and will get my act together one of these days. I know that my DH doesn’t always listen when I tell him things but by golly he won’t stop talking and wants me to listen to him. (((Hugs)))

    Katla, I do wish you luck on selecting the right paint color. There are too many choices and it is so expensive these days that we sure don’t want to make a mistake. (later) I love the blue/grey tones.

    Yvonne, I love your pictures. Thanks for sharing.

    Chris, I would think AZ would be a great place to live unless you just love the NE winters. And the cost of living has to be so much lower. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you. It sounds like a great adventure.


    pretty-pink-welcome-smiley-emoticon.gifto all the Newbies. Come often and join in the chat. This thing works!! Please sign your post with what you want to be called. It makes it easier for us to respond to you. Also a location is great, be it specific or general. We are happy to have you join us.

    The front that went from the Gulf Coast up to the great lakes has finally come east. It is raining cats and dogs and expected to last most of the night. It will cool things off a bit and lower the humidity, which is good.

    Sending love, good thoughts and cool sunshine to all of you.

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    DJ
    Myrtle Beach, SC
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,550 Member
    Did a segment of a 15 Minute Results Yoga DVD, held my plank for 2 min 53 sec, then the extremepump class. The plan for tomorrow is to do a DVD on the rebounder.

    Tomorrow a friend of mine is scheduled for a colonoscopy and she asked if I'd take her to the hosp. We still don't know what time it'll be. The only thing I have definitely scheduled is that I'll get a mani/pedi before the wedding, but the time for that can certainly be changed. Update: she needs to be there by 11

    M - if someone ever looked at my history, they'd only find things like recipes, food related items, nothing interesting. I'm honestly not too worried.

    Joyce - why do you feel like a failure regarding MFP? You have so much on your plate. you are NOT a failure. Getting things off your chest (aches and pains) certainly helps. We need you. Lisa is right -- we are here for your emotional and well as physical health. And sometimes you just need to put the physical aside for a while. But you still need the emotional, and in that respect you are definitely not a failure. I'm always impressed with your feelings about marriage and family.

    Rye - what beautiful cats!

    Barbara - let me know when and if you get out you Wii. I have this CD for it that I'd be willing to give you. It has about 6 different types of exercise, all different lengths of time. I really wish our pool offered aqua zumba. I think I could handle that, but zumba on land is just too much impact.

    So many times during the day do I think of you gals "oh, pip would like that" "oh, that's something Joyce would do" "Charlie likes his karoke, too (hope I spelled that right...probably not)", things like that. So many times I think of things you've all said like "you're only lying to yourself if you don't log everything".

    Heather - (((HUG)))

    Joyce - Lately I have a love affair with cheese -- extra sharp cheddar to be exact. Went to Aldi today and bought a chunk, cut it up and am probably going to take it to PA when we go up for the wedding.

    Exercised, picked up more of Loki's med. Just want to make sure we have enough for while we're gone. Then went to the Salvation Army. Found a silver pullover. Unfortunately, it has a turtleneck, but for $4 I can't really complain. Also, I'll probably only use it for the holidays. Then took donations from the church to the soup kitchen, then bowling. We usually go to ceramics but there was a tornado in or around Hickory, so we didn't go. Not going to mahjongg, either.

    I usually start my day here, too. Then check in a few times during the day.

    The reviews of the hotel we're staying at for Denise's wedding weren't all that great so I probably won't take my laptop. Which means that I won't be able to post until I get back. At the rate we go, I'll probably have to REALLY skim and maybe even skip some

    Folded all of Denise's programs. I hate that Vince waits until the absolute last minute to do things. There are things that I need to do tomorrow and he's putting things off. AHHHH....things that I'll need to help him with. Like today we took the donations to the soup kitchen. After exercise I had to pick up Loki's med, needed to go to the Salvation Army then Aldi. We were a bit tight on time. Do you think the night before he put the donations in the car? Of course not. He was waiting for me to help him and I didn't have all that much time. He actually wound up putting one of the heavy boxes into the car himself. I would have helped him if I could

    Michele in NC
  • ryenday
    ryenday Posts: 1,540 Member
    edited October 2017
    exermom wrote: »

    I really wish our pool offered aqua zumba. I think I could handle that, but zumba on land is just too much impact.

    Oh, I wish this too!! I guess my gym did about a year ago but lost the instructor. :( Do you have access to a rebounder? (Mini trampoline?). Sometimes I modify land Zumba moves to do on that for less impact.

    Also, I keep forgetting to as you about your bowling! I love bowling, but am absolutely horrible at it. Usually I bowl about a 65 to 75 (my motor coordination just isn’t up to the task). But it is so much fun! I have not been bowling in years tho, since my husband lost interest. I can’t drive myself, and never found any friends interested either.

    Rye
  • Poerava14
    Poerava14 Posts: 1,097 Member
    On friendships: I don't currently have a BFF, and am okay with that. You all do fill that void, and even if you don't hear from me consistently, I read all posts and think of you often. Due to DH's dementia, I have cut waaaaay back on business trips, and may not make it around the country to meet up with any of you, like I used to. So, if you are ever in the Denver area, I certainly would make every effort to meet you for a coffee, lunch, walk or whatever. :smiley: I really do treasure your stories, pictures, support and sisterhood. Oh, and the weight loss support rocks, too!

    Lanette: I've got 'Gods Hotel' on my reading wish list. Thanks.

    Mary: I've taken a 'before' picture of my tummy and started doing more pushups in anticipation of working out for better ab definition. I can't do squats down low like the Russians, so that's another goal. I HATE, HATE, HATE squats and lunges, but it's time to hug the monster and challenge myself. Thank you for being one of the voices and models for what dedication can do.

    Drama of the day...my little brother is back in the hospital 17 months after his scary episode with bleeding in his stomach. At least this time he walked in and didn't have to call paramedics. Now, he is seriously anemic and they are pumping fluids into him today. Tomorrow or next day they will scope him to try to find where the source of the bleeding is. Alcohol use is killing him, yet up to now he has resisted any referrals to rehab in a residential facility. SMH, and feeling so sad to see someone so sweet and talented go through a slow, painful and ugly decline. He lives in Northern California, and if I can get a caregiver scheduled to come in and check on DH, I'll head over there in a few days and see what, if anything, I can offer by way of support. BTW: I had a beer and a glass of wine while on holiday. Now back to not drinking and really don't miss it.

    Stay well, friends. We can do this.

    Rori
    Colorado Foothills





  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,247 Member
    :) Jake has an appointment for a CT myelogram on his back tomorrow. The appointment is in Seattle so we have to get up early to get there on time. It could take a long time so we'll stay overnight and drive home Wednesday morning. Thus, we had to board the pets and I'll have to miss my Wednesday morning line dance class. He has to fast after midnight and the the test is likely to be painful so compared to him, my part is easy. I'm bringing stuff to keep me busy--books to read if I have to sit and an audio book and podcasts to listen to if I am able to walk while I wait.

    <3 Barbie
  • jmkmomm
    jmkmomm Posts: 3,247 Member
    Why domi feel like a failure here on MFP? Well I started it years ago as a weight loss tool like everyone else did. I lost 60 pounds with it, went off my cholesterol and diabetes medicine and was able to cut back on my B/P medicine. I regained 40 of those pounds, back on all the medicine and even added a 5th B/P medicine. All the clothes I looked wonderful in is gone. That face that looked so nice is gone. I have grown back into my done chin if that is a positive! I have encouraged so many people in eating more healthily but at the same time eating terribly. That pretty well sums it up.

    I think being a preachers kid has a lot to do with me not having close friends. All of us knew our home was not our home but e churches and that we had no control over how long we would stay there. My sister went to 4 different high schools! I know for those of you that were in the military, you say you have friends all over, we have never kept up with those times in our lives. Now Dad did have a church a few miles from us and I have some friends from there. But usually when Dad moved, he moved far enough away that we had to break contact with them. I never wanted to be a member in one of Dads churches when I grew up because I wanted to be me. We were always known as Don and Grace's kids. Or if I went to my sister's church I was known as Norma's sister. I wanted my own identity.

    As far as friends as a couple, Charlie never encouraged me or the girls to have friends in the neighborhood. He said that if they did something for us that we would feel we needed to reciprocate and do something for them. Now you can't prevent your kids from having the neighbor kids from being friends and they did have good friends. Because of his attitude,mourn house was pretty much known as the house the neighbor kids played at. But they didn't go to other houses that much. Our relationship with our neighbors is to wave and make small talk. I am friends with one next door neighbor. Our girls knew they could always go to their house if they forgot their key. Her husband was retired railroad and his entire single car garage was miniature railroad set up. He had his engineers seat in the middle and the kids loved going over there. Also after we got our Shelty, tjey loved him enough they got one and they dogs loved to play.

    If we do go out socially so some one he will try To turn the conversation to politics or how incompetent the world is. He will interrupt them when they are speaking. And as he talk just get louder and louder and talk faster and faster. At holidays my family are masters in making sure he doesn't get he conversation or if he does they get it turned around real quick. It was difficult for both son in laws. Christina loves her boss because she said his personality is just like her Dads but he accepts criticism real well. So she will not hesitate to tell him he is ring a jerk about something. Since his office is in his office, hers also, his wife loves her. Christina will always give suggestions about how he could have said something differently or show him how something he said can make a person feel bad.

    Krevit, Mary and anyone else in Arizona can you go out to see the Grand Canyon for me?????? Pretty please????? That was one of our favorite vacations. Christina and her then fiancé worked there for an entire summer when they were in college so everything they paid for like our reservations and food was 1/2 price. Plus it is just so beautiful.

    OK, I guess you all know my life now. Am feeling better today. Am I depressed? Probably but when I feel,like this I usually get right back up.

    I talked to Charlie again tonight about trick or treating. My suggestion was to keep the
    Itut turned off and close the curtains. He said it is important to him that the kids in our neighborhood know that our house is a safe house. Parents should never worry that candy will be tainted, that we are weird and may do anything. He loves to answer the door and see the costumes. He tells the kids what kind of candy and asks them what they want,

    He has changed a lot from the man he was when our girls were at home. He realizes a lot of the mistakes he did and tried to make it up wit the grand kids and even our own girls with monetary things. Sometimes just time. When we go on vacation, he really doesn't enjoy the place we are, he is enjoying watching the family having fun on his money. I think that is wh Halloween is important also. He wants other st see he is a good guy. And basically he is. He just has some hang ups. Like he is right and if you don't agree with him then you are an idiot. Je isn't like that as much but occasionally that man will still come out. I know now he is just pushing my buttons because he knows it will get a rise out of me.

    OK, that is enough about me tonight, love you guys Joyce, Indiana
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,682 Member
    jmkmomm wrote: »
    Why domi feel like a failure here on MFP? Well I started it years ago as a weight loss tool like everyone else did. I lost 60 pounds with it, went off my cholesterol and diabetes medicine and was able to cut back on my B/P medicine. I regained 40 of those pounds, back on all the medicine and even added a 5th B/P medicine. All the clothes I looked wonderful in is gone. That face that looked so nice is gone. I have grown back into my done chin if that is a positive! I have encouraged so many people in eating more healthily but at the same time eating terribly. That pretty well sums it up.

    Tomorrow is another day.

    First thing in the morning, before breakfast ...

    Put your current numbers into MFP
    Select sedentary as your activity level
    Choose how much you'd like to lose (i.e. 1 lb/week)
    ... and start weighing and logging every bite. I presume you still have your food scales from before.


    A few extra things have helped me along the way:

    1) Exploring my grocery stores and markets to find delicious, filling low calorie foods. It's amazing what's out there.

    2) Exercising as much as possible. Exercise gives me extra calories to work with so that I can have things like pizza now and the ... but to keep my sanity and not wear myself out, my exercise quantity varies as does what I do for exercise.

    3) Eating how I want to eat. This is where everyone is different ... some people prefer to employ fasting, others like high protein diets, some like vegetarian diets, some like to eat 2 or 3 meals a day, others like to graze. Go with what works for you.

    Personally, if I had to define what I do, my diet is probably most similar to a Mediterranean diet with a vegetarian lean ... and I'm a grazer. I also have to adjust what I do depending on my cycling events ... they're tricky because I need the fuel without going overboard.


    And stick to it for 5 weeks, then reassess how things are going. :)


    Machka in Oz
  • teklawa1
    teklawa1 Posts: 678 Member
    Good evening gals,

    I don't know why, but I think we all get into slumps at times. I know I do. I feel better when I exercise and watch my food but sometimes life gets busy and I get off schedule. I've been party to a lawsuit for almost six years and the trial starts two weeks from today. My sister and I are on one side and my brother and cousin are on the other. When my Mom died she wanted her estate shared equally. I was the executor and I divided the assets and the cash. A year after Mom died, my brother and cousin presented a signed and notarized Transfer of Interest supposedly from 1991 that gave them all of land in Mom's estate.

    It's been a long complicated legal battle. I'm looking forward to trial and I hope the judge has common sense and wisdom. It will be good to put this behind me. My sister and her two sons and my two sons and myself have all built homes on this land. Trial will end November 22 and then I'll head home to Washington. Sorry I got to rambling tonight but I wanted to share.

    Barbie wishing you and your husband well on your trip to Seattle tomorrow.

    Betsy in Alaska until after trial and then back to NW Washington
  • wildhorsewendy
    wildhorsewendy Posts: 563 Member
    Bestsy that sounds like an absolute nightmare. Hope it is all sorted out soon. How incredibly stressful. Will say some prayers that it can be sorted out fairly. <3 Wendy
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,682 Member
    To me ... maintenance is ebb and flow. It's a constant process of gaining a bit of weight, stepping on the scale and saying "oops!", and then tightening up the logging for a bit. I can never relax ... I've always got to watch it.

    I have never been able to remain at the same weight for any length of time ... it's always up a little, down a little, up a little, down a little ...

    However, if I step into the overweight range, that's a big "oops" and requires immediate action. I've been overweight 3 times in my life, and not for very long each of those times.


    M in Oz
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,141 Member
    Morning ladies~
    have been up since before 5 ,Tom texted me about 3 times and I finally answered, seems poor Chester had a bad night,didnt know if it was bladder stones ,skin rash whatever, but he was biting scratching and fussing.. we have been through this before.. hoping it is not bladder stones as neither of us has the money right now for a $1,000 operation and it would be his 4th. so I went over there at 5 in the morning and gave him first a bath with doggy hydrocortizone shampoo and then flea and tick shampoo, will let him dry off get Taliah on the bus and then take them both for a walk..
    No I didnt do it for Tom as he was at work already I did it for poor Chester so he wont suffer poor baby, he didnt really eat this morning and for him not to eat, you know something is wrong...
    feeling much better this morning.... have an hr before I have to go to my DD house.. so will get my lunch together and wash my hair..
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