Less alcohol- January 2018- one day at a time

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  • MonkeyMel21
    MonkeyMel21 Posts: 2,396 Member
    I x-rayed my problem knee and I think I see something. I will find out on Monday if I need an MRI or anything else. If it stops me from working out for a while it's going to make this month much harder :/
  • MonkeyMel21
    MonkeyMel21 Posts: 2,396 Member
    My first big challenge is this weekend. We have a wedding reception at a brewery! Luckily beer isn’t my weakness - but it will still be weird to not drink at a wedding. My husband is thrilled I’m the DD since it’s a two hour drive from us. I’m actually curious about how I’ll feel and the conversations I’ll have without a buzz

    My brother is a non-drinker (just never liked it) and does not enjoy being around people that are drinking. I think that's a big reason he doesn't have many friends and he doesn't stick around very long at family gatherings cause most of us like to get tipsy-drunk when we get together, lol.
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    Alcohol-free day for me yesterday again and feeling great every single day!

    @MaryBethHempel You are doing amazing! I think you may have mentioned you are your hubby are going to be reading This Naked Mind together? Have you started the book yet? I finished it yesterday and it’s truly helpful for anyone wanting to abstain from any alcohol. I started out just wanting to moderate, but as each day passes I don’t envision drinking again. I’m feeling too good, both mentally and physically, without it.

    Hi, No..neither of us has started. I was going to read it on my stationary bike and before bed, but have had some life interruptions and fell right asleep at night. I am really looking forward to reading it. I also purchased-
    " Blackout-Remembering The The Things I Drank To Forget".

    I am feeling the same about drinking again. I'm feeling so much better, mentally and physically, also. I am much more productive and remember things better.

    We make our own Red and White Wine and I have an opened full bottle in the refrigerator which has been sitting there for about 2 weeks. I have an unopened box of Chardonnay in the refrigerator and about 8 unopened bottles of Chardonnay that we made in the basement refrigerator also. Then we have around 90 bottles all corked of more red and white. I used to drink daily and even with it all around me, I don't even get tempted. I feel that if I have one glass, that I will just drink the bottle...so it is better to just avoid at this time. My husband keeps saying that he is going to cut down, but he hasn't yet.

    Invite me over!!!! LOL! That is awesome that you make your own wine. Even better that you can abstain from it. I would be drinking the bottles as soon as I make it!!!
  • SanDiegofitmom
    SanDiegofitmom Posts: 303 Member
    @kimkimcoleman do you have a night guard for your teeth? I used to get headaches too from grinding - mine helps a ton.
  • SanDiegofitmom
    SanDiegofitmom Posts: 303 Member
    I x-rayed my problem knee and I think I see something. I will find out on Monday if I need an MRI or anything else. If it stops me from working out for a while it's going to make this month much harder :/

    Injuries are the worst. I broke my foot in several places a few years ago and it was horrible. Do you have access to a pool? That’s a workout that’s easy on the bones and joints.
  • SanDiegofitmom
    SanDiegofitmom Posts: 303 Member
    becky3695 wrote: »
    I had a glass last night.... Didn't even enjoy it :(
    I’ve done this so many times - don’t beat yourself up. You’ve got this.

  • kimkimcoleman
    kimkimcoleman Posts: 105 Member
    @kimkimcoleman do you have a night guard for your teeth? I used to get headaches too from grinding - mine helps a ton.

    Yep, I wear it every night, it protects my teeth but my jaw pain still gives me headaches unfortunately.
  • Nessiechickie
    Nessiechickie Posts: 1,392 Member
    edited January 2018
    Well that was a disappointment. Got home yesterday and boyfriend and his youngest brother were already drinking and I had an itch driving home. So I caved and drank 6 Palm Bay Vodka Sodas- The first drink I was so disappointed in myself. So now I am at work with a sugar hangover but I made sure to pack a healthy lunch because I over eat when I am like this.

    1/1-drank
    1/2-no-hungover (at work)- over ate
    1/3-no
    1/4-no
    1/5-drank
    1/6-no
    1/7-drank
    1/8 no
    1/9 no
    1/10 no
    1/11 drank

    Did a percentage just for fun of it and came up with 36.4% bet you before I started this it was probably closer to 80%.
    Amazing job everyone else and love this thread so much help and motivation :smile:
  • MonkeyMel21
    MonkeyMel21 Posts: 2,396 Member
    I x-rayed my problem knee and I think I see something. I will find out on Monday if I need an MRI or anything else. If it stops me from working out for a while it's going to make this month much harder :/

    Injuries are the worst. I broke my foot in several places a few years ago and it was horrible. Do you have access to a pool? That’s a workout that’s easy on the bones and joints.

    I injured it in 2012, the PA I work for thought it was just runners knee. So when it flares up I just back off a bit. I did start swimming for a few years but I just quit my gym to work out at home. I’m now thinking I tore something and it needs fixed. I’ve been really taking it slowly lately so when it flared up again yesterday from just barely running two slow miles (I usually run 3-5 miles fast) I thought I would xray it at work today. I want it fixed, I don’t want to just keep having to coddle it anymore. I will find out more on Monday when the more qualified person looks at my x-ray (that being said I took perfectly positioned x-rays on myself today, lol!).
  • SanDiegofitmom
    SanDiegofitmom Posts: 303 Member
    I x-rayed my problem knee and I think I see something. I will find out on Monday if I need an MRI or anything else. If it stops me from working out for a while it's going to make this month much harder :/

    Injuries are the worst. I broke my foot in several places a few years ago and it was horrible. Do you have access to a pool? That’s a workout that’s easy on the bones and joints.

    I injured it in 2012, the PA I work for thought it was just runners knee. So when it flares up I just back off a bit. I did start swimming for a few years but I just quit my gym to work out at home. I’m now thinking I tore something and it needs fixed. I’ve been really taking it slowly lately so when it flared up again yesterday from just barely running two slow miles (I usually run 3-5 miles fast) I thought I would xray it at work today. I want it fixed, I don’t want to just keep having to coddle it anymore. I will find out more on Monday when the more qualified person looks at my x-ray (that being said I took perfectly positioned x-rays on myself today, lol!).

    Ugh that sucks. I’m a runner too. When I ran a marathon my knee hasn’t been the same. I too back off when it flares and usually it’s fine. I can’t run more than a half marathon now though. I hope you get some answers. I need to get one of those rollers for my IT band
  • SanDiegofitmom
    SanDiegofitmom Posts: 303 Member
    @kimkimcoleman do you have a night guard for your teeth? I used to get headaches too from grinding - mine helps a ton.

    Yep, I wear it every night, it protects my teeth but my jaw pain still gives me headaches unfortunately.

    Darn - no fun. Hope tonight is better!

  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    Moxie42 wrote: »
    I let pool league get the best of me and I had 3 drinks. I guess that's better than the 4-5 I would usually have on a pool league night though, seeing as we're at a bar for 4+ hours. But why is this so hard??? The longest I've gone this month is only 2 days! I've stuck with my eating goals at least, and have been losing weight...but I horrible about the drinking. And the smoking. I was supposed to quit both but instead I've quit neither...

    Girl you can do this!!!! Instead of staying at the bar for 4+ hours stay couple hours and leave.
  • MaryBethHempel
    MaryBethHempel Posts: 513 Member
    dbanks80 wrote: »
    Alcohol-free day for me yesterday again and feeling great every single day!

    @MaryBethHempel You are doing amazing! I think you may have mentioned you are your hubby are going to be reading This Naked Mind together? Have you started the book yet? I finished it yesterday and it’s truly helpful for anyone wanting to abstain from any alcohol. I started out just wanting to moderate, but as each day passes I don’t envision drinking again. I’m feeling too good, both mentally and physically, without it.

    Hi, No..neither of us has started. I was going to read it on my stationary bike and before bed, but have had some life interruptions and fell right asleep at night. I am really looking forward to reading it. I also purchased-
    " Blackout-Remembering The The Things I Drank To Forget".

    I am feeling the same about drinking again. I'm feeling so much better, mentally and physically, also. I am much more productive and remember things better.

    We make our own Red and White Wine and I have an opened full bottle in the refrigerator which has been sitting there for about 2 weeks. I have an unopened box of Chardonnay in the refrigerator and about 8 unopened bottles of Chardonnay that we made in the basement refrigerator also. Then we have around 90 bottles all corked of more red and white. I used to drink daily and even with it all around me, I don't even get tempted. I feel that if I have one glass, that I will just drink the bottle...so it is better to just avoid at this time. My husband keeps saying that he is going to cut down, but he hasn't yet.

    Invite me over!!!! LOL! That is awesome that you make your own wine. Even better that you can abstain from it. I would be drinking the bottles as soon as I make it!!!

    That is exactly what we did, well, my husband still does...We had to up the wine-making in order to keep up with our drinking...
  • slimbyjune18
    slimbyjune18 Posts: 101 Member
    A second Friday night successfully navigated. I think it’s getting much much easier. Good luck to you all this weekend whichever way you’re doing this.
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    dbanks80 wrote: »
    Alcohol-free day for me yesterday again and feeling great every single day!

    @MaryBethHempel You are doing amazing! I think you may have mentioned you are your hubby are going to be reading This Naked Mind together? Have you started the book yet? I finished it yesterday and it’s truly helpful for anyone wanting to abstain from any alcohol. I started out just wanting to moderate, but as each day passes I don’t envision drinking again. I’m feeling too good, both mentally and physically, without it.

    Hi, No..neither of us has started. I was going to read it on my stationary bike and before bed, but have had some life interruptions and fell right asleep at night. I am really looking forward to reading it. I also purchased-
    " Blackout-Remembering The The Things I Drank To Forget".

    I am feeling the same about drinking again. I'm feeling so much better, mentally and physically, also. I am much more productive and remember things better.

    We make our own Red and White Wine and I have an opened full bottle in the refrigerator which has been sitting there for about 2 weeks. I have an unopened box of Chardonnay in the refrigerator and about 8 unopened bottles of Chardonnay that we made in the basement refrigerator also. Then we have around 90 bottles all corked of more red and white. I used to drink daily and even with it all around me, I don't even get tempted. I feel that if I have one glass, that I will just drink the bottle...so it is better to just avoid at this time. My husband keeps saying that he is going to cut down, but he hasn't yet.

    Invite me over!!!! LOL! That is awesome that you make your own wine. Even better that you can abstain from it. I would be drinking the bottles as soon as I make it!!!

    That is exactly what we did, well, my husband still does...We had to up the wine-making in order to keep up with our drinking...

    LOL!!
  • Alpha12
    Alpha12 Posts: 251 Member
    Good for you, Julie! You can do it. Take if from someone who succumbed to temptation last night - IT'S NOT WORTH IT for all the reasons you've listed as well as being dissapointed with oneself. Good luck!

    No wine for me tonight. I'm starting over.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,346 Member
    Alpha12 wrote: »
    Good for you, Julie! You can do it. Take if from someone who succumbed to temptation last night - IT'S NOT WORTH IT for all the reasons you've listed as well as being dissapointed with oneself. Good luck!

    No wine for me tonight. I'm starting over.
    Thanks so much! I appreciate your encouragement! I'm rooting for you, too. Xoxo
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    Gotta say I am struggling tonight. However, I wont drink - this will be Day 12. BUT I started to feel grouchy that I "couldn't drink" tonight; what will I look forward to now? Negative self talk.
    So, I just had a little pep talk in my mind and said, "You can look forward to no hangover, more weight loss, no headache tomorrow, sleeping better, and working on a hobby you havent done in awhile..."

    So, I poured a La Croix in a wine glass. And will make a big pot of tea and chill. I will watch a movie or maybe journal or read. I have to continue to be strong. And read these posts. I look forward to them !
    Due to the blizzard, my plans were cancelled ; I was going to the bar to listen to a band. So, now there is no temptation which is good.

    I am looking forward to actually seeing what happens on Jan 31, and secondly enjoying a cold beer in February. I am seeing the differences....stay with it
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,346 Member
    NormInv wrote: »
    Day 12 in the bag....Friday evening, did not feel any urge to drink. I must be dead inside eh

    Bravo! Well done!
  • NormInv
    NormInv Posts: 3,303 Member
    NormInv wrote: »
    Day 12 in the bag....Friday evening, did not feel any urge to drink. I must be dead inside eh

    Bravo! Well done!

    Thank you, stay strong, get excited about seeing what is to come
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,346 Member
    ku1980rose wrote: »
    At a spa party tonight. Wine availablr. Oh my goodness, it is so hard to not have a relaxing glass of wine. But I want to stick to my goal and not drink this month. It's so hard!!!!

    Hang in there! Tomorrow morning, you'll wake up and feel sooooo good!
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,346 Member
    SuzJok85 wrote: »
    donimfp wrote: »
    @MaryBethHempel, I'm 60% through This Naked Mind. She recommends going through it slowly, and I'm going to do that when I finish this blitz through. There are so many insights I never thought of before. For me personally, I've always dreaded the idea of the AA-type approach. I figured if I have to be thinking about drinking every day for the rest of my life, I might as well be drinking. I know that doesn't make sense, and I do not mean to bash AA in any way; I know many people, including my best friend, who have really been helped in that program. However, Ms. Grace gives me hope that I can come to a place where I don't even think about alcohol much. And her rationale makes a great deal of sense to me. One insight is that alcohol doesn't make you feel good . . . it just gives you relief from the distress it, itself, has caused. Anyway, I'm glad others recommended it. She was a 2-bottle-a-night drinker, so she knows what we're going through in terms of struggling to moderate or quit.

    Hi, I just wanted to share my experience with AA. I think everyone you'd meet who you'd know well enough that they'd admit they're in the program is on a different part of their journey. I have to say that 3.5 years into sobriety, I don't worry about drinking much at all. I go to AA meetings to help other alcoholics find recovery, and to stay connected with the spiritual program that keeps me sane. (Quitting drinking is only the beginning. "Our drinking was but a symptom...") I have a parent who has been sober for 43 years and goes to meetings for the same reason. Although there's definitely talk of alcohol, I feel that most of the meetings I attend focus on how we cope with life's ups and downs and how we can help others. There are other programs out there that might work for you, I can only speak to my experience.

    Basically, I wanted to share this, because I see so much of my old self in some of these posts in this forum. (Please understand that I am not assuming everyone who is trying to reduce alcohol has a problem. I just have read a few things by some people that make my heart break a little.) I used to have to plan out my nights all the time. I promised myself I'd only have 2-3 drinks (and end up somewhere past 6), that I'd drink water between drinks, that I'd only drink out with friends, that I'd save money and only drink at home, that I'd make the wine bottle last all week (it was always gone in one night, save 1 cm I left behind to prove to myself I didn't have the whole thing), that I'd just buy mini single serve wines and have just one a week (I'd have the whole pack), that if I just switched to a hard liquor I didn't like, I'd drink less. I had all kinds of reasons for drinking, "It's Friday!" "It's Tuesday!" "I had a rough day," "I'm celebrating," "Classy people have wine with dinner," "A drink a day is healthy," "This wine is local and pairs well with ______" (I was a Yuppie Drunk...) I drank when I was happy, sad, stressed, bored, lonely, mad. Practically every night I had a reason. It wasn't until I would find myself drinking night after night, after I had promised myself I wouldn't, that I was losing control over my choice in drinking.

    I am ridiculously lucky that I had that moment of clarity. I was only 28, and I've met women who spent far more years drinking not for enjoyment, but to live. It's a progressive disease. If I start again, it will only take days before I'm back to where I left off.

    I first quit with the hope that if I stayed sober a few months, I could then drink normally again (like a sugar "detox" or something). It only took me a couple weeks of sobriety to realize how overcome with anxiety and anger I was. I was scared, and I felt like I was going to jump out of my skin. Going to the grocery store, or just driving to do my errands made me antsy. I worked very hard at sitting after work and trying to learn to unwind with hot cocoa and playing cell phone games. It was slowly dawning on me that something was seriously off. I finally worked up the courage to go to AA.

    Once I started going, I was welcomed with open arms, I met tons of people and connected with a bunch of women who understood what I was going through. Sometimes I wish I would have tried it years earlier, but that was realistically the first point in my life where I was ready to be honest with myself.

    I just joined MFP, so I'm not sure how private messaging works just yet, but if anyone just wants to talk about concerns they may have, don't feel shy. I'm not here to judge anyone, cause I've been there, and many people I now know and love have been there too.

    Thank you so much for sharing this and your experiences. I am learning so much these last few weeks. And I do agree that I am drinking to suppress other issues I am having in my life. I want to get to the root of them as well. I see a lot of myself in your first paragraph. Xoxo