Less alcohol- January 2018- one day at a time
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There are so many beautiful women here I'm so confused who i should stay loyal with.0
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So last night we went to dinner I had two Cabernets. I was tempted to get a third because my husband had a third drink and I was ready to go after the bill was settled. So he goes have another drink while he was still drinking his. I told him "No I'm done. One more drink then I will want more and then some smokes." He goes "Awwwww have a splurge day and get your wine and smokes!!!" Really way to be supportive honey!!!! I see I am on my own on this journey!!!!
Thank God for you all!!!!
he needs to go
Or at least a serious talking to....2 -
I cannot stop laughing at this!So last night we went to dinner I had two Cabernets. I was tempted to get a third because my husband had a third drink and I was ready to go after the bill was settled. So he goes have another drink while he was still drinking his. I told him "No I'm done. One more drink then I will want more and then some smokes." He goes "Awwwww have a splurge day and get your wine and smokes!!!" Really way to be supportive honey!!!! I see I am on my own on this journey!!!!
Thank God for you all!!!!
he needs to go
Or at least a serious talking to....
Just a reminder of the need for him to be supportive. No sense throwing away a perfectly good husband ;-)
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I basically was trying to quit for about a half century. "One drink is too many and 10 is not enough." A few here and there was like smoking: you either ARE or you AREN'T.
August 17th the day after my birthday 2016 ....... 521 days ago....... I decided after all the health issues, and the usual other issues.......to stop alcohol. done, bam boom. finished.
BEST thing I have ever done. (went Whole Food Plant Based as well - that has been awesome)
Training for the next 1/2 century!!!!13 -
Finishing my 10th day alcohol free. Still experiencing the anxiety. Hope it gets better. I’ve learned that I can’t moderate.10
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Navigated my Saturday pretty well! Had a glass of rosé - first time I’ve tried it, was really yummy! And a skinny marg, and a light beer all day. My husband and I explored some new places, and ended up home for din and a movie. Happy Saturday everybody!8
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Finishing my 10th day alcohol free. Still experiencing the anxiety. Hope it gets better. I’ve learned that I can’t moderate.
Congrats! 10 days feels like a year, I'm sure. Hang in there. I imagine the rewards will outweigh the angst. As for anxiety, maybe try meditation. Anytime I've done that, I have always felt better. I just go on youtube and search for Deepak Chopra or someone like that. I'm like you- I simply cannot moderate. So, I'm trying my best to keep it simple, and just not have any alcohol at all.2 -
Good night all! 20 days sober. All is well. Went out with friends. They each had four drinks over four hours of time. I had club soda and drove. I felt no inclination to drink at all. On the way home, my friend said "I think I"m getting a headache. Must have been cheap wine." And I thought to myself how happy I will be tomorrow to just wake up, clear headed, and energetic.12
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SanDiegofitmom wrote: »So last night we went to dinner I had two Cabernets. I was tempted to get a third because my husband had a third drink and I was ready to go after the bill was settled. So he goes have another drink while he was still drinking his. I told him "No I'm done. One more drink then I will want more and then some smokes." He goes "Awwwww have a splurge day and get your wine and smokes!!!" Really way to be supportive honey!!!! I see I am on my own on this journey!!!!
Thank God for you all!!!!
That would be sooo hard. Good for you for staying strong! My hubby is drinking too but he’s definitely not drinking as much. And luckily he likes beer which doesn’t tempt me as much.
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thomasjohnlynch wrote: »I basically was trying to quit for about a half century. "One drink is too many and 10 is not enough." A few here and there was like smoking: you either ARE or you AREN'T.
August 17th the day after my birthday 2016 ....... 521 days ago....... I decided after all the health issues, and the usual other issues.......to stop alcohol. done, bam boom. finished.
BEST thing I have ever done. (went Whole Food Plant Based as well - that has been awesome)
Training for the next 1/2 century!!!!
I agree. I went on it for a 28 day detox. ( Kris Carr) it was a good experience.
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »Good night all! 20 days sober. All is well. Went out with friends. They each had four drinks over four hours of time. I had club soda and drove. I felt no inclination to drink at all. On the way home, my friend said "I think I"m getting a headache. Must have been cheap wine." And I thought to myself how happy I will be tomorrow to just wake up, clear headed, and energetic.
Good on u Julie, your awesome!!. Top leader!!
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »crazykatlady820 wrote: »My list of things I've noticed since I've stopped binge drinking/smoking. I am typing this out so I can reflect back on it when the temptation to binge drink occurs.
No hot flashes or night sweats
No mood swings
I'm more patient
No depression
Sleep better and deeper
Wake up refreshed
My workouts are more efficient
My digestive system is better
No bloated belly
Weight loss
No conviction and beating myself up because of a binge
More conscious of my eating and making healthier choices
Not wasting the day away by sleeping because of a hangover
Yes to all of this!
I made it to day 100!!! I've lost 35 pounds in those 100 days. I sleep soooo much better. I have energy from no hangovers. No more mood swings. I don't binge eat without the binge drinking, so my food intake is under control. My anxiety is manageable. I get out of the house more! I'm active now! And craziest of all is just how upbeat and positive I feel all the time. I feel like myself again. This is the best thing I've ever done for myself.
This thread is so helpful to me. I love the list of positive effects of no alcohol. And I"m inspired also by @crazykatlady820 . You give me such motivation to continue.
Wow! You have summed it up and so so positive. I am so happy for you. I have also found so so many positives from being freed from the addiction to alcohol. What are your thoughts or plans for future days? Are you going to have a drink occasionally, or are you going to not have any more?2 -
Goal — January under 7 drinks a week- for my health.....my mind.....my body....Freedom from alcohol ruling my life!
1/1 =alcohol free
1/2 = 4 wine spritzers
1/3 =alcohol free
1/4 =alcohol free
1/5 =alcohol free while my husband must of drank almost 2 bottles of wine....I wasn't tempted, which was great!
1/6 =alcohol free while my husband must of drank almost 2 bottles of wine
1/7 =alcohol free while my husband must of drank almost 2 bottles of wine-I copy and paste! Rerun!
I feel that now I don't even want one drink as it is never enough...I always want more! I will see how long I can be FREE from alcohol. Losing weight and feeling great!
1/8 =DITTO...I slept better last night--had an Atkins bar around 8...maybe that was it...I also had to go to my guest room again for my husbands snoring started again!
1/9 =DITTO and lost another pound---Wow! 7 days alcohol FREE!! This is the longest I have gone for years!
1/10 =8 days freedom
1/11 =9 days freedom- looking forward to reading my new books...This Naked Mind and Blackout-Remembering The Things I Drank to Forget...
1/12 =10 days clean! My hubby only drank during the day, not last night. He didn't snore last night, so I didn't have to go to our guest room to sleep. Read the first 2 1/2 chapters of This Naked Mind and finding it interesting.
1/13 =11 Days freedom! It is actually getting easier at this point...I just ordered some liver detox....
1/14 =12 Days freedom! It really helps to have all you on MFP for support! Thank you all!!
1/15 =13 days---Wow! I am finally sleeping in my own bed now because my husband cuts off his drinking at night and he doesn't snore so loud to make me go into our guest room! LOL! He didn't like me going into the guest room, so he cut down...
1/16 =14 days freedom! 2 weeks!! YAY! I have to note how yesterday was a bit interesting when my hubby just bottle a bunch of wine and said to me, "Taste this, it is better than the usual Concord that we make". I told him immediately that I was just drinking green tea and it wouldn't taste good. I was so glad that I was drinking tea, as I would have been tempted to taste it. I feel that if it happens again that I am prepared now and will decline. I am going to tell him today not even to ask me to taste.
1/17 =15th day freedom! Had another great morning of working out...ready to play some music!
1/18 =16th day freedom! I am going for a month!! I joined the "Alcohol Experiment" Super informational...I have been just reading and listening..this weekend I am going to start writing in the journal. I recommend this to you all, if just to read and listen to all the interesting information.
1/19 =17th day- my husband drank through the day until bedtime and I had to go to the guest room to sleep because he snored again. A definite pattern of loud snoring when he drinks wine at night. I caught up in the "Alcohol Experiment" yesterday and started writing in it. It really is helping me in so many ways. I feel blessed to have the opportunity to be able to go through it, and I highly recommend it. There is no pressure about your alcohol intake.
1/20 =18th day of freedom from alcohol addiction. My mind and body are really loving it. Yesterday was my first social event to go to. I had no problem in saying that I wasn't having any wine, when asked twice. I said I was on a cleanse and I have to stay away from the sugar. My doctor did say that I have to stay away from sugar last year, as I have a hereditary condition called GSID-Genetic Sucrase-Isomaltase Deficiency. I have been following the diet fine, except for the alcohol, until now. I have even another reason to stay away from it.
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A chellenge question,....
What do people drink in stead of alcohol.. ?
I have so far been able to help my self with the drinking social group i live with by buying drinks with the alcohol taken out of it. They think and i feel im having it at the time. Im just better off.. that all im finding out. ☺
I have to avoid sugar, so I mix diet gingerale and bottled water with ice in my large drink bottle. I think it is 28oz. I add juice from a lime sometimes. I also will mix Sprite Zero with water. If I go out to a restaurant, I will probably drink diet coke with a lime, ice tea, hot tea, diet gingerale with a lime, and extra glass of water.3 -
MaryBethHempel wrote: »JulieAL1969 wrote: »crazykatlady820 wrote: »My list of things I've noticed since I've stopped binge drinking/smoking. I am typing this out so I can reflect back on it when the temptation to binge drink occurs.
No hot flashes or night sweats
No mood swings
I'm more patient
No depression
Sleep better and deeper
Wake up refreshed
My workouts are more efficient
My digestive system is better
No bloated belly
Weight loss
No conviction and beating myself up because of a binge
More conscious of my eating and making healthier choices
Not wasting the day away by sleeping because of a hangover
Yes to all of this!
I made it to day 100!!! I've lost 35 pounds in those 100 days. I sleep soooo much better. I have energy from no hangovers. No more mood swings. I don't binge eat without the binge drinking, so my food intake is under control. My anxiety is manageable. I get out of the house more! I'm active now! And craziest of all is just how upbeat and positive I feel all the time. I feel like myself again. This is the best thing I've ever done for myself.
This thread is so helpful to me. I love the list of positive effects of no alcohol. And I"m inspired also by @crazykatlady820 . You give me such motivation to continue.
Wow! You have summed it up and so so positive. I am so happy for you. I have also found so so many positives from being freed from the addiction to alcohol. What are your thoughts or plans for future days? Are you going to have a drink occasionally, or are you going to not have any more?
I've been thinking about that: whether I will have occassional drinks. For me, I think I will abstain totally. I cannot moderate. I have worked so hard to quit, and I dont want to put in all this work again. I feel liberated and so free, like you. It is freedom. I do not plan on having any. Maybe on St. Patrick's Day, I might have a few glasses of wine, because my friends and I go out.2 -
islandbeez wrote: »Today is the day! It was going to be tomorrow, but I feel great because I have cut back so much so why drink more wine? I have one baby bottle of Pinot Grigio left and I can use that for a dinner I commonly make. I just joined the Alcohol Experiment site and it's very encouraging. @JulieAL1969 THANK YOU SO MUCH for starting this and to everyone else who has been so helpful!
I would like to join the Alcohol Experiment. I looked it up and saw it's Annie Grace's program. I'm so happy you feel great. I love being on this deeply personal journey with you and the others. I don't think I would have done so well all on my own. I also love the people who come on and tell us how it feels months later without alcohol, or years later. Like John Mayer said, "Alcohol is a great con man."3 -
DCRunnerGirl78 wrote: »I had planned on shooting for a full Dry January, but that lasted through the 2nd. It really didn't get any better from there. I even downloaded the "Dry January and Beyond" app. I've been faithfully using it, but it wasn't the motivation I thought it would be. Then I remembered this group (I've been trying and failing to cut back with you all since August...a few good runs...8 days I think was my best...but it was a while ago now), so I've been trolling for a few weeks. I think I may have turned a corner though. Yesterday it hit me that I had two black tea cups in a row (the mark you get on your calendar for Dry days), and if I stayed alcohol free all of yesterday, I would have three cups in a row. That would be a so-far-record for my month. It was more of a struggle than I care to admit, but I did it! I had to really fight when my 13yo daughter got off the bus dripping with teenage angst over her crush moving away. And fought it again when dinner was ready, but my husband chose that time to stay out in the workshop talking to a neighbor who dropped by. Then fought it once more just because it was Friday, and that's my normal thing. But I got through it all, and actually felt really great this morning. A full nights sleep, some yoga this morning for a challenge group I'm in, and now I'm getting ready to start on some housework. I'm hoping it will get easier, but I guess every small victory is a stepping stone.
Looks Like Tuesdays are challenging for you. Maybe commit to your yoga or an exercise class Tuesday evening. It just dawned on me when you said "black tea cups"; I didn't realize their were cups. I have this app, too. I do like seeing those black marks in a row. Did you get four in a row this week?3 -
@thomasjohnlynch Well said! It was becoming the same with me, there was never enough drinks to make me feel better. And then, I would be the crying drunk at the end of a stressful evening. Not a good thing at all.2
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I survived the party last night and I was the only person there not drinking. I drank water all not long. A few people tried to play the you can have just one card, but I never gave in. We can do this!!6
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I survived the party last night and I was the only person there not drinking. I drank water all not long. A few people tried to play the you can have just one card, but I never gave in. We can do this!!
Wow! That is awesome. With each challenge , you get stronger and more determined. So proud of you!2 -
Thank you Julie 1
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »And I thought to myself how happy I will be tomorrow to just wake up, clear headed, and energetic.
@JulieAL1969 You are such an inspiration! I woke up clear headed and energetic this a.m. and went for a gorgeous walk along the water, something I wouldn't do if I were hung over. Because I haven't been hungover in weeks, I'm getting more exercise. Also eating better because I have more calories to spend. Day 21 is here. Best of luck to everyone!
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JulieAL1969 wrote: »And I thought to myself how happy I will be tomorrow to just wake up, clear headed, and energetic.
@JulieAL1969 You are such an inspiration! I woke up clear headed and energetic this a.m. and went for a gorgeous walk along the water, something I wouldn't do if I were hung over. Because I haven't been hungover in weeks, I'm getting more exercise. Also eating better because I have more calories to spend. Day 21 is here. Best of luck to everyone!
Thanks so much. We inspire each other. I think no hangover is the absolute best feeling in the world! That is my primary motivation. So happy you are doing well! I think the rest of the month will be pretty easy for us. Xo3 -
https://www.theguardian.com/books/2017/dec/20/unexpected-joy-being-sober-short-history-drunkenness-review
Just saw this book mentioned on Annie Grace's (This Naked Mind author's email). I am going to read it.
Here are some excerpts from the review that touched me:
"An air of cool hovers around sobriety at the moment, just as it does over veganism and clean eating; Gray points to the rise of sober club nights such as Morning Gloryville, and the proliferation of sober blogs such as Hip Sobriety (hipsobriety.com) and Girl and Tonic (girlandtonic.co.uk).
And really, was it ever that much fun? The appealing pitch of Gray’s book is that sober life is not just good for you, it’s actually better fun, too. Sobriety has had a bad rap, being equated since time immemorial with seriousness and dull, muted colours.
In fact, sober life offers you the whole rainbow: rather than spending all day sleeping off your hangover, you can leap out of bed at seven and go for a 10-mile run, join your friends for a jolly brunch, before spending the afternoon “deep diving into Aladdin’s Cave vintage shops for bargains”. You can still date, and dance and have sex. You can go to parties and weddings. You can do anything a drunk person can do – with the added bonus that you are unlikely to make an idiot of yourself while you’re at it.
It is impossible to disagree with her argument that our society is a booze-pusher, or that there are many health benefits to drinking less. Where there is room for disagreement is on whether 100% sobriety is really the answer for everyone. Clearly, there are many people, such as Gray, for whom moderation will never be an option. But her case is still extreme; many of us will have managed to drink alcohol, even drink too much alcohol, for much of our lives without waking up in a police cell or becoming suicidal"5 -
Morning guys! Sounds like everyone had a pretty great and successful Saturday! Here’s to a peaceful and mellow Sunday! 6
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Went out for Mexican last night, normally I would have had a few Margarita's and then came home and slammed 3 more vodka's on the rocks. Last night I didn't even think about it. Hubby even said look at the money we are saving and calories(As I wolfed down a bowl of chips and salsa). I do get tired of all the restrictions, I am okay now with no alcohol but I did think I would lose weight quicker, now I am needing to start restriction calories of food more, Since being dry I have a tendency to reward myself in the evening with a treat since I am not drinking. Ordering me an electric tea pot today so I can have more tea in the evening instead of food.5
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Went out for Mexican last night, normally I would have had a few Margarita's and then came home and slammed 3 more vodka's on the rocks. Last night I didn't even think about it. Hubby even said look at the money we are saving and calories(As I wolfed down a bowl of chips and salsa). I do get tired of all the restrictions, I am okay now with no alcohol but I did think I would lose weight quicker, now I am needing to start restriction calories of food more, Since being dry I have a tendency to reward myself in the evening with a treat since I am not drinking. Ordering me an electric tea pot today so I can have more tea in the evening instead of food.
We did Mexican last night as well. I stuck to water but as that Margarita was served to the table next to me I did have a moment of envy
It was my first day so I was nervous how I would do. It helps that my hubby is a non-drinker of almost 2 years. I came home and had tea....I have an electric kettle but now I want the one that has LED lights! 5
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