JUST FOR TODAY ....... One day at a time ..... Daily Commitment Thread for 2018
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Okay so not done the best today either, but also not done bad.
Up until after dinner I had everything logged and I have about 150 calories left
Then a went on a snacking spree, sooooo probably a couple hundred over now, but I have spend a lot of the day cleaning. Oh and PUTTING THE LAUNDRY AWAY *crowd cheers*
So even if I AM over, i won’t be massively over.
I’m just so tired, I feel run down.
Here’s my problem.
I go to sleep late, I know I do. Between 11pm and 1am. Normally just after midnight though.
So then I’m up six with the girls. All 3 of them.
On nursery days I stay up. On non nursery days I probably get another nap on the sofa whilst they watch tv, a disturbed nap but a nap at least.
The day goes on, we either go out or if we’re in I do try keep the place tidy. The kitchen really is my nemesis. Our dishwasher is being poop and I can’t figure out why. It does clean things but then one random item will be completely dirty still and sometimes there’s just “grit” on most of the other stuff especially the glasses.
So I feel defeated, I have to take it out, hand wash the things that didn’t quite get clean enough, then yesterday I go so fed up of it happening I pulled out all the drawers, re did the salt, the rinse aid, cleaned the filter, cleaned the spinners. Scrubbed the walls of the dishwasher and the seals. Sparkling. Loaded the dishwasher stuck it on. Same thing this morning.
So the day goes, as it goes, dinner comes along, this is where it gets tricky. I get pestered the whole time I’m doing tea, mostly by the girls. So then when I’m getting pestered I’m not cleaning as I’m going, it’s also sometimes the exact time Casey wants feeding so I’ll put tea on a low heat, feed her bottle, go back and whack the heat up and continue as normal. Anyway so after tea the kitchen is a mess. There’s food on the floor from the girls pots everywhere. Still not emptied the dishwasher because I just couldn’t face the dirty pots when I spent so long cleaning the damn thing last night.
Then it’s shower and bed for the girls. CNt even do baths anymore because they take too long!
Hair brushed, teeth brushed, cream on for eczema, PJs, hugs and kisses, no time for a story, like ever. And by the time I’m so worn out I haven’t got it in me. I feel awful about this but what can I do.
By the time I’ve done that I just want to get in bed. But instead I come down stairs. Look at the mess, feel overwhelmed and just sit down. I feel tired looking at it! Like “hit by a train” kind of tired.
Now seeing as I’m the “baby” of this group, please can some give me some wisdom on where I’m messing up here lol!!
Where am I going wrong to make my life easier?
My OH does help sometimes but it’s not something I want to ask him to help with because he does so much for me!
Soooo yeah. What can I do to make this easier and so I can get the kitchen clean without dying of exhaustion.
Boy o boy, I remember those days! With four children and the fact that we homeschooled we were together quite a bit, lol!
First let me say You are doing so fantabulously well. Being a mom has lovely moments but in between those times it is a time of chaos, tears, frustration, feeling completely inadequate, not liking your kids very much, to feeling guilty because you're not liking your kids very much, to thinking as my Mom jokingly asked me one day when she had come out to help me, "Shall I just put a broom up my rear and sweep while I cook?!!" We laughed so hard. It's hard; you've got to be on call and at the ready.
Also, this is long...well what did you expect, coming from me. Why write it in three words when you can write it in 103?, lolol
So be at your healthiest (a regret of mine---and one that you are slaying big time). Get into a bedtime routine for yourself. Get the kids in a good bedtime routine so that you have a bit of time to yourself. Make dates with your partner if your folks are willing to watch the kiddos. And get your kids in a daily routine. And be ready to be flexible when necessary yet stay on the routine as much as possible. I will repeat this throughout I'm sure, but children need routine, boundaries, and to know what is expected of them.
When I implemented the following life was so much smoother and more joyful for everyone. Of course there will be circumstances that blow a big ol nasty hole in your plans but you can't modify a plan if you don't have one, right?
Be consistent. If it's not allowed today, it's not allowed tomorrow.
I tried to implement things that would lead to a peaceful environment such as...
I would give our kids pep talks before entering a place in public (store, church, etc). I would tell them how I expected them to behave. If we were going to a store they were trained (yes it's training) to not ask for anything at the check out line. They knew that they were not getting a toy when we went to the store...those dollar toys add up and they create clutter. (If there were free cookies at the bakery we would go by there last if they had been cooperative. Or sometimes I'd buy a small box of cookies to share amongst themselves...but not all the time...so then it was a huge treat)
No begging. If they asked for something or to do something and the answer was no, that was it. I tried to ask questions before saying no, when feasible, or if there was a possibility of it being a yes then I would say let me consider it. But if they begged "pleeeeeease....pleeeease" they knew it was an automatic no. I recall a friend of my daughter's asking me if A could spend the night with her. She looked up at me with her puppy dog eyes and started with a "pleee" and A just about knocked her to the ground trying to get her to stop,lol!
A consistent bedtime...I failed at this too much and I think it's so important. It's a routine. Children do better with routines and boundaries. But it would fluctuate between one hour to the next.
I never played games with being disobedient. If I asked them to come to me and they started to run (as you see little children do with big smiles on their faces as mom is dashing after them) they would get a leg swatted. I never played chased with them (unless they knew it was "tag".) Why? Because if I saw danger (a car, etc) headed their way I wanted them trained to hear my voice (or whomever was in authority) and obey. You rarely get do-overs when a bus runs over you. (I recall a bee landing on my child's cheek. I calmly but with a serious voice said, "Do not move." And he was like a statue. He didn't get stung and I was able to gently get the bee moving on.
Have pick up times before meals and bedtime. "It's time for lunch. Please pick up your toys and put them where they belong. Then wash your hands and come to the table." We usually had 4pm pick up time. All of us would scurry around and pick up, put away, straighten pillows on the couch, and just tidy. It would have to be done again before bedtime, but it wasn't as much.
At dinner (tea) time, you might consider setting them around the table and color and listen to a story on your computer (not watch, but listen). Tell them ahead of time what they are going to do and that you expect them to sit at the table while you prepare dinner. You know where they are. They are calming down a bit. And you can tend to the meal and Casey. But again give them your expectations of behavior and then thank them profusely when they do what you ask...smile smile smile...maybe have a game in mind and say, "Since you helped me by sitting quietly we will play a game after dinner." Brag on them to your partner at the dinner table.
(btw, it helps me to have a sink of sudsy water when I cook, then i wash and rinse and put on the towel to dry as I go a long...this makes for less clean up--or rinse and put in dishwasher----)
We made it the norm to eat meals at the table. This was when manners were gently taught (sometimes with a game whomever says please and thank you, or keeps elbows off the table, etc., gets to choose a silly song we shall all sing while marching around the table after dinner (which is fun to see Dad do, eh!) Sometimes I'd read a chapter in a book after eating. Craig read stories about Paul Bunyan (a fabled logger with a blue ox!) and the kids still refer to those stories to this day.
Practice kindness and joy and respect, etc. This is so hard to do when you're frazzled and at wits end. But I think having the above in practice does help. Routine and boundaries help the frazzled mom.
Every child had a job from the time they could crawl...("Put the blocks a way with Mom, A, you are in charge of getting J's clothes for tomorrow" ) Our two year old would help move the clothes from the dryer to the washer by handing them to me (here's your yellow shirt. Here's A's blue sock, etc.) A 1 year old can put plastic containers in a drawer (I didn't care how they looked, lol) A young one can sort the silverware from the dishwasher to the drawers. Your oldest can set the table, etc. They were taught that a family works together...it takes every one. I would tell them the baby helps gives us smiles and laughs.
By the age of 4 the children would take their plate to the sink, toss the napkins in the trash, and help clear the table. If they went to a friend's home, I would remind them to do this and to say thank you. It teaches them to help others. Later they would put the dishes in the dishwasher.
There are age appropriate chore charts on google. We didn't pay our children for the basic chores but we had jobs that they could earn a bit of money for. I did praise praise praise them when they did the chore. BUT one thing I greatly regret is I think I sometimes took the fun out of the chore, wanting it done "just so." A child needs to learn to do his best but there's a balance that I think I too often missed. There were times when we'd make a game out of it...let's see if we can beat the clock, or matching all the socks and folding them up into each other and then everyone hide behind a couch or chair and have a sock war before putting them away. But I just as clearly remember showing dissatisfaction when the bathroom counter had a smudge of toothpaste and asking them to clean it again. If it's blatant and sloppy that's different. I guess I'm saying I should have shown more grace.
But, I do recall, when we lived in Belgium, the youngest was 11. We had three living with us (oldest was in the US attending school). It was a small home and another family visiting us...there were 11 of us in a 1.5 bathroom/ 3 bedroom house, for ten days lol! I was cooking supper and looked out and saw that the house really needed some attention. I called out, "I need you to stop what you are doing and do a fifteen minute clean up. I need bathrooms cleaned, floors swept, towels washed, and items put away, please." Our friend's mouth literally fell open as my kids immediately began calling out the chores they wanted and then of course the other kids paired up with them." He said, "How'd you do that?" I just laughed...I think it again goes back to being consistent and they knew that as soon as they were done they could resume their fun. They didn't always do this when they were younger...but by the time they were all older it was just routine. (we still battled messy rooms, dishes out, etc...I'm just saying the training when they were younger paid off as they were older)
It's exhausting work. Notice I said at the beginning, "when I implemented the following." Some days were utter failures. I cried. I'm sad to say I yelled. But when I did my job of being the trainer, the mominator, it was a joyful, albeit tiring day. (and I was quick to say, "I'm sorry." I'm sorry I yelled, I shouldn't have done that." "I'm sorry, I have not kept to our routine. That's my fault, but we are going to start back up right now."
I will tell you another regret I had...being on the computer too much of the day. I am so grateful I just now got a smart phone. It would have been horrible to have had one back them. Engage. engage. engage. When you are at the park, or at the grocery store, or during bath time, or at the dinner table, or going for a walk, put the darn electronic away. Life is so short. And my kids were so much more important than a stupid news story, or an email I just had to get out right then and there, or even looking online for school related stuff. It could have all waited until they were in bed, or to set a time during the day when I would have a look...how many times did I say, "I'll just have a quick look and then get off...and an hour later..." That is probably my biggest regret, because it threw off the rest of the day. Because I wasn't teaching my kids discipline and moderation. Because at too often I put a chunk of plastic before my kids. UGH
They are all grown now. They are enjoyable to be around (mostly!). They are their own person. They don't always do what we think they should be but that's their choice to make now. Our job was to teach/train our children to be respectful, considerate, helpful citizens of the world. And it truly starts at home. I'm visiting one of them right now while he and his dad build a deck together. Late Saturday another child picked us up at the airport and he and I stayed up until 2am chatting and sharing. Lovely time. And despite all the mistakes I made, my kids still turned out okay.
BTW, When life was hectic, I made a two week meal chart. And I'd rotate back and forth, from week one to week 2 back to week one, etc. Grocery shopping was easier as I could pretty much use the same list, I could actually double amounts sometimes and freeze food for two weeks later, etc. I just couldn't deal with much more than that and a list/plan was so helpful.
Again, you are doing great...some of these tips may be beneficial and most may not, what I struggled with, may very well be a breeze for you. Don't forget what the end goal is with your kids---besides coming out of this alive, lol. Sometimes it takes a lot of effort to find/obtain peace and joy at your season..but it's there. You bring a lot of joy and encouragement to this group. You make such a tremendous effort with your children. I marvel at how you get the kids to the nursery---on foot. Wowie zowie woman. And you get supper done. And baths. And the laundry
And you spend fun time with them. You labored over that poopy patio last year so that your kids could be kids and have a place to play outside. You are the MOMINATOR!
Okay my book is done, lol! Onward!
I love reading your posts! I actually did some of the same things you did as well. Raising children is the hardest, most frustrating, most rewarding challenge you will ever face!
I am enjoying being a Grammie now so much because it's not my job to discipline, set the rules, etc. I told my daughter they will always be safe in my house and with me, and I will follow the majority of the rules, but my Grandchildren will know that I am for fun and very rarely will say no! That's not my job now, I am here for cuddles, fun, and love. It's my reward for surviving the pre-teen years. I loved the 1-8 or 9 year old stage, hated the 9-12 or 13, then absolutely loved the teen years.
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PackerFanInGB wrote: »My refrigerator reminders today. Can you tell I’m a very visual person?
I love this! My friend made a vision board last year for the goals she wanted to meet. She used a large poster board and hung it where she would see it every single day. It had quotes, pictures, bible verses, it was awesome. I should look at posting my goals on my fridge! Maybe that will help me stay out of it!4 -
This is my girls and I at the fireworks last night. The bottom one is my youngest Kaitlyn and the middle is my eldest Lauryn.
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Jft Sunday Recap
1. Be kind
2. Log all food
3. Chores
Did some dishes, made a bigger mess food prepping - meh.
4. Grocery list, shop - eat first
5. Laundry
So hot outside meant even hotter inside laundromat, couldn't bring myself to do it - Going to look for a washing machine on consignment. So this week I'm wearing "the alternative wardrobe" aka things that have not fit and have been sitting in drawers - some of it fits now!
6. Consider 6 month goals, December
What a weekend! I am so grateful for where I am in life. So happy I crawled out of the dark place I was this past winter. I think I really need to consider that seasonal affective disorder DOES play a role in my life. I was thinking about six month goals...the holidays, what life is like in the winter, what road blocks I face. Despite having a loving family, a safe warm house, and winter hobbies like snowboarding and hiking - I still tend to use comfort foods as a crutch and really hunker down from January-March. One of my long term goals has been to be more comfortable on my snowboard again this winter - I was out of breath bending over to strap in! My snowpants didnt fit anymore and I'd need to rest after only 3 runs. It turned a hobby I LOVE into something I dreaded doing because I was embarrassed by what my fitness level had dwindled to. So that's a huge six month goal - fit into old snowpants and shred like a boss! Another broader goal will be to stick to my new ways - not fall back into old habits. I hope to be down around 175 lbs. by December. In the meantime I will continue to grow my relationship with myself and my loved ones and nurture the habits it will take me to get there.
My weight has been hovering around the same number for over a week - I'm due for aunt flow to show up, but she's currently late. I think that is why I'm holding the weight. I've had steady losses up until this week so I started to panic a little bit. But thats life isnt it? You start getting comfortable in your habits, things seem to be falling into place, you get a nice rhythm going - and then BAM - life hits you with, well, LIFE! My hip/lower back started killing me yesterday and is worse today - not sure what it is, feels like nerve pain - slighly different than sciatic nerve pain but in the same general vicinity that wraps around from my lower back, around my hip, to my groin. Taking it easy at work today, and dinner is already prepped so an easy evening, yay!
JFT Monday
1. Actually track water today - report back with final tally tomorrow
2. Easy on the hip
3. Log all food
4. Stay in the green
5. Hard boil eggs
6. Straighten out kitchen if hip allows
7. Meds AM and PM
8. Pack more RX to bring in to work tomorrow4 -
July 2nd Goals:
- Make sure I'm set with my July 3rd meal plan (July Challenge)
- Cook the breakfast I planned for Tues-Fri as well as the Korean spinach side dish I'll be eating with dinners this week + a crock pot chicken meal!
- Get back on track with my daily exercise after being useless the last couple days with a migraine. Today's workout: 1) Suzanne Bowen Lower Body Mixed Cardio + Foldover Target for Week 4: Monday of the Summer Sizzler Challenge. 2) Jessica Smith 30-Day Walk Day 4: 40-Minute Mega Burn (+10-minute Ballet Beautiful arms video)
- Lights out by 11 PM. Laying in bed most of the weekend due to my migraine didn't do me any favors for getting to sleep at a decent hour last night. Will sleep earlier tonight! It's now 10:45 PM. It was tough to get everything needed done on time- meant having to tell a few friends I couldn't message/chat tonight just to keep to my schedule. But I'm all showered with a cup of nighttime tea and lights out before 11 PM yay!
Okay I'm new to this... but I'll plan on checking in here before 10:59 PM Korea time tonight bc of my lights out goal lol. And I'll just edit the post and put an as yet undecided mark next to the tasks I accomplish. Sound right?
I'm going to try to stick with with the July challenge each day and have 1 food, 1 exercise, and 1 personal/health/well-being/possibly sometimes not even fitness-related goal each day. I look forward to getting to know everyone here a little better!
EDIT: Decided I'll post my daily intention in the morning and then quote it later on rather than going back and editing so I can separate morning and nighttime thoughts more easily. I have tomorrow's food and workouts planned out, so I'll check in in the morning. Have a great day!
P.S. At least for today, I went with the to mean CHECK! ACCOMPLISHED! DONE!
Wonderful effort---a big win for today, I'd say. So sorry about the migrain---I've had friends who had them and they are so debilitating. Hopefully your week will be on track. Very exciting to see all the hearts---makes me think of how happy our individual hearts are as we become more healthy and ease the burden on it 2 - Make sure I'm set with my July 3rd meal plan (July Challenge)
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JFT Monday
1. Actually track water today - report back with final tally tomorrow
2. Easy on the hip
3. Log all food
4. Stay in the green
5. Hard boil eggs
6. Straighten out kitchen if hip allows
7. Meds AM and PM
8. Pack more RX to bring in to work tomorrow
Been forgetting my bathroom exercises so a reminder to self
9. 15 wall push ups/bathroom trip2 -
Might have to have a little break from this. Just got too much stress going on. I’m still gonna stay within my goals just not post them and be so strict. Just need to get past these next couple of weeks and then I’ll be alright.
I need sleep. I need rest. I need to reset!
But I’m gonna do my best to atleast be in the green every day. And drink water. I’m still coming back to read the posts lol I’m not going anywhere lol
But just need to chill out a bit x8 -
Hugs @Bex953172 - my kids have driven me absolutely nuts this evening. I know it’s because I’m tired (briefly nodded off working at my computer after the school day was done and my class of kids had left!) but knowing that doesn’t make it any easier!
Anyway, I have at last washed their hair, heard their many stories, dropped more cash on things that i didn’t know they needed that their school are demanding (dress up as a flag day for charity anyone? Amazon prime to the rescue...). Taking stock, an ok day..
Goals for Monday
- morning workout ✅
- April challenge ✅
- May challenge ✅
- June challenge ✅- ate a pear that was unplanned in anger and frustration! But just a pear
- July challenge ✅
- Message V ✅
- Email to J ✅ and F’s Mum ✅
- New joiner at 9am - don’t forget!! ✅
- Groceries ✅
- Check in with P’s street dance teacher ✅
- Birthday presents x4
tomorrow?
Goals for Tuesday
- morning workout
- April challenge
- May challenge
- June challenge
- July challenge
- Maybe hot yoga after work but it’s pretty scorching here so not really feeling it at the moment.
Early night for me. Plan to take a shower and do my nails then have protein shake snack before bed.
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Just for Sunday
Went for two short walks
Stayed within my calorie limit. I was over by 139 calories so I did fairly well.
Drank water 7 glasses
Logged all food
Stayed away from junk food still working on it
Need to do for Monday. I woke up half an hour ago.
clean the car out
bring in the new barbeque grill from the car
pre-logged most of my food, leaving 500 calories for any mishaps during my night shift
taking garbage out
drink water
walk during my break at work? the office is in a mall. So doing a few laps around the mall maybe we'll see3 -
Might have to have a little break from this. Just got too much stress going on. I’m still gonna stay within my goals just not post them and be so strict. Just need to get past these next couple of weeks and then I’ll be alright.
I need sleep. I need rest. I need to reset!
But I’m gonna do my best to atleast be in the green every day. And drink water. I’m still coming back to read the posts lol I’m not going anywhere lol
But just need to chill out a bit x
Good for you! It's important to do what is best for you and your family.
May you gain an abundance of peace and joy as you rest and reset. Water, eating well, and rest does a body good!
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J
What a weekend! I am so grateful for where I am in life. So happy I crawled out of the dark place I was this past winter. I think I really need to consider that seasonal affective disorder DOES play a role in my life. I was thinking about six month goals...the holidays, what life is like in the winter, what road blocks I face. Despite having a loving family, a safe warm house, and winter hobbies like snowboarding and hiking - I still tend to use comfort foods as a crutch and really hunker down from January-March. One of my long term goals has been to be more comfortable on my snowboard again this winter - I was out of breath bending over to strap in! My snowpants didnt fit anymore and I'd need to rest after only 3 runs. It turned a hobby I LOVE into something I dreaded doing because I was embarrassed by what my fitness level had dwindled to. So that's a huge six month goal - fit into old snowpants and shred like a boss! Another broader goal will be to stick to my new ways - not fall back into old habits. I hope to be down around 175 lbs. by December. In the meantime I will continue to grow my relationship with myself and my loved ones and nurture the habits it will take me to get there.
My weight has been hovering around the same number for over a week - I'm due for aunt flow to show up, but she's currently late. I think that is why I'm holding the weight. I've had steady losses up until this week so I started to panic a little bit. But thats life isnt it? You start getting comfortable in your habits, things seem to be falling into place, you get a nice rhythm going - and then BAM - life hits you with, well, LIFE! My hip/lower back started killing me yesterday and is worse today - not sure what it is, feels like nerve pain - slighly different than sciatic nerve pain but in the same general vicinity that wraps around from my lower back, around my hip, to my groin. Taking it easy at work today, and dinner is already prepped so an easy evening, yay!
I can totally relate! I get really depressed in the winter. I have to take Vitamin D and make sure I get sunlight or I might as well crawl into a cave and hibernate all winter. I can't fit into any of my hunting or ice fishing clothes either and that makes me even more depressed because I buy them larger so I can layer clothing under them! OMG. It seriously makes me want to curl up in a fetal position and cry. So, yes, I need to get busy too. I want to go ice fishing this year and I WILL fit into my snow gear.
What did you do to your hip/back? I've got a physical therapy appointment tonight for the same thing. My SI joint was stuck and 3 of my lower disks were rotated. So painful I can't lift my left leg some days. Because of the way the pain radiates from lower back, around hip and to groin area, they are sending me for consult at Ortho Surgeon to make sure I don't have a labrum tear in my left hip. Just sucks when you are trying to get on track and as soon as you start getting the activity in, to burn the calories and get healthy, and then BAM....you're in pain and back at square one.
xoxoxo Good luck with resting it. I sure hope it helps!
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Might have to have a little break from this. Just got too much stress going on. I’m still gonna stay within my goals just not post them and be so strict. Just need to get past these next couple of weeks and then I’ll be alright.
I need sleep. I need rest. I need to reset!
But I’m gonna do my best to atleast be in the green every day. And drink water. I’m still coming back to read the posts lol I’m not going anywhere lol
But just need to chill out a bit x
You take all the time you need! We all need breaks and we all need to reset at times! Just don't disappear from us forever! We'd miss our little Bex! 2 -
PackerFanInGB wrote: »Might have to have a little break from this. Just got too much stress going on. I’m still gonna stay within my goals just not post them and be so strict. Just need to get past these next couple of weeks and then I’ll be alright.
I need sleep. I need rest. I need to reset!
But I’m gonna do my best to atleast be in the green every day. And drink water. I’m still coming back to read the posts lol I’m not going anywhere lol
But just need to chill out a bit x
You take all the time you need! We all need breaks and we all need to reset at times! Just don't disappear from us forever! We'd miss our little Bex!
LOL I don’t think I ever could!!!
I would so visit if I could afford it lol!
Also, I’ve realised why I feel so off.
A cold. The dreaded British cold lol 😂
But on another note, I’ve made something, it’s crazy simple but that’s good right?
So if me and my daughter walk a certain way home from nursery, we go past a carpet shop, a lot of the time they have spare carpet samples for free outside. And it says take as many as you like etc. For craft/pets etc.
And every time we walk that way she chooses one. God knows why she wants a bit of carpet but it’s free so I’m not going to be a killjoy.
Anyway!
Bit of duct tape later and voila! Door mat 😁
Im loving how you’d think my house was clean, I literally just kicked all the girls clutter out of range of the photo LOL!
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PackerFanInGB wrote: »Just for Sunday:
1. Log every bite & stay in the green
2. Finish top of Bex's quilt.Picked up a bit more material today to add a few more blocks! I'm really getting into this. Husband had to come get me to go upstairs and eat again last night! LOL
3. July Budgeting
Tonight instead.
4. July bullet journal update
5. Begin studying for Epic Inpatient Procedure Orders certification - spend 1 hour today.I'm going to pay for it too, I have a feeling. Was having too much fun quilting!
6. Laundry / ironing / pick out week's outfits
7. Prep veggies and fruit
8. Body, Mind & Spirit:Netflix documentaries about nutrition, read Simple Abundance chapters, outside for 15 minutes watering flowers and garden.
Just for Monday
1. Eat only pre-logged breakfast, lunch and snack at work.
2. Begin studying Epic IP Proc Orders certification materials.
3. Start working on July budget
4. Pack tomorrow's lunchbox, tonight and pick out tomorrow's clothes tonight.
5. Finish quilt top by adding new rows
6. Do something for the Body, Mind & Spirit
July 1: Water / Walk/Move / Mindful Eating / Planning
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PackerFanInGB wrote: »J
What a weekend! I am so grateful for where I am in life. So happy I crawled out of the dark place I was this past winter. I think I really need to consider that seasonal affective disorder DOES play a role in my life. I was thinking about six month goals...the holidays, what life is like in the winter, what road blocks I face. Despite having a loving family, a safe warm house, and winter hobbies like snowboarding and hiking - I still tend to use comfort foods as a crutch and really hunker down from January-March. One of my long term goals has been to be more comfortable on my snowboard again this winter - I was out of breath bending over to strap in! My snowpants didnt fit anymore and I'd need to rest after only 3 runs. It turned a hobby I LOVE into something I dreaded doing because I was embarrassed by what my fitness level had dwindled to. So that's a huge six month goal - fit into old snowpants and shred like a boss! Another broader goal will be to stick to my new ways - not fall back into old habits. I hope to be down around 175 lbs. by December. In the meantime I will continue to grow my relationship with myself and my loved ones and nurture the habits it will take me to get there.
My weight has been hovering around the same number for over a week - I'm due for aunt flow to show up, but she's currently late. I think that is why I'm holding the weight. I've had steady losses up until this week so I started to panic a little bit. But thats life isnt it? You start getting comfortable in your habits, things seem to be falling into place, you get a nice rhythm going - and then BAM - life hits you with, well, LIFE! My hip/lower back started killing me yesterday and is worse today - not sure what it is, feels like nerve pain - slighly different than sciatic nerve pain but in the same general vicinity that wraps around from my lower back, around my hip, to my groin. Taking it easy at work today, and dinner is already prepped so an easy evening, yay!
I can totally relate! I get really depressed in the winter. I have to take Vitamin D and make sure I get sunlight or I might as well crawl into a cave and hibernate all winter. I can't fit into any of my hunting or ice fishing clothes either and that makes me even more depressed because I buy them larger so I can layer clothing under them! OMG. It seriously makes me want to curl up in a fetal position and cry. So, yes, I need to get busy too. I want to go ice fishing this year and I WILL fit into my snow gear.
What did you do to your hip/back? I've got a physical therapy appointment tonight for the same thing. My SI joint was stuck and 3 of my lower disks were rotated. So painful I can't lift my left leg some days. Because of the way the pain radiates from lower back, around hip and to groin area, they are sending me for consult at Ortho Surgeon to make sure I don't have a labrum tear in my left hip. Just sucks when you are trying to get on track and as soon as you start getting the activity in, to burn the calories and get healthy, and then BAM....you're in pain and back at square one.
xoxoxo Good luck with resting it. I sure hope it helps!
I completely agree about the winter, no sunlight means my energy levels drop. I just want to sleep all day instead.
vitamin D isn't a bad idea. I notice when I drink milk during the winter my energy perks up quite a bit. Then drops when I don't drink any milk.
I just finished taking out the trash and cleaned out the evidence of constantly eating wendy's out of the car. Sigh
Time to make some breakfast3 -
Just for Today (July 3rd):
- July challenge- Pre-plan meals for July 4th
- Food challenge- Don't eat/drink ANY snacks from the teachers' office today, not even an instant coffee stick. (Don't need it today after the full night of sleep I got last night.)
- Exercise challenge- Do today's Suzanne Bowen and Jessica Smith workout challenge videos
- Personal challenge- Last night I did "lights out by 11:00" with a nighttime shower so I could sleep in a little longer today, meaning I got a full 8 hours of sleep last night. Feel amazing today! So, same goal today
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July 1 JFT
Stay in the green
Water challenge
Walk challenge
Emotional eating challenge
Planning meals challenge
Thank you! @Faebert Its so cool here, appreciate your welcome
July 2 JFT
Stay in the green
Go to dance class
Go for a run
Water/walk/mindful eating/meal planning
Hi everyone! Reading your posts & sending peace and love your way. Xoxo3 -
Rough Monday guys. Just a tough work day and it kicked up some depression so I've been in a bit of a funk today. (also may be getting sick as a coworker went home-eek I hope not!) Emotional eating urges were pretty fierce which was my first day since I started my meal plan. Typical MO for me, I excel at the start but start to struggle with the maintaining. Reached out to a couple friends and even texted one my plan to exercise and eat healthy to make me stick to it tonight. Ended up doing a little emotional over-eating and went over calories today, but not terrible. I've found that speaking out to my supports, admitting to the tough days, lets me face my mental health head-on. So I will be prioritizing some self-care over the next few days to make sure I'm taking care of myself emotionally. As always thanks for *listening*
Checkin' in:
House chores-nah
30 minutes exercise ✅
Meet 1200 net calories, counting exercise ✅-went over by 4 cals, but doing better at compensating for exercise which is what this goal is all about
Track food and exercise ✅
Water challenge-80 oz. ✅
BED BY 10! ✅-about to tuck in with some tea, a good book, and hopefully a kitty or two
Post here for accountability ✅
For tomorrow (late day so I'm keeping it simple):
Be kind to myself
Reach out to supports
Self-care
House chores
30 minutes exercise
Meet 1200 net calories, counting exercise
Track food and exercise
Water challenge-80 oz.
BED BY 10!
Post here for accountability4 -
Jft Sunday Recap
1. Be kind
2. Log all food
3. Chores Did some dishes, made a bigger mess food prepping - meh.
4. Grocery list, shop - eat first
5. Laundry So hot outside meant even hotter inside laundromat, couldn't bring myself to do it - Going to look for a washing machine on consignment. So this week I'm wearing "the alternative wardrobe" aka things that have not fit and have been sitting in drawers - some of it fits now!
6. Consider 6 month goals, December
What a weekend! I am so grateful for where I am in life. So happy I crawled out of the dark place I was this past winter. I think I really need to consider that seasonal affective disorder DOES play a role in my life. I was thinking about six month goals...the holidays, what life is like in the winter, what road blocks I face. Despite having a loving family, a safe warm house, and winter hobbies like snowboarding and hiking - I still tend to use comfort foods as a crutch and really hunker down from January-March. One of my long term goals has been to be more comfortable on my snowboard again this winter - I was out of breath bending over to strap in! My snowpants didnt fit anymore and I'd need to rest after only 3 runs. It turned a hobby I LOVE into something I dreaded doing because I was embarrassed by what my fitness level had dwindled to. So that's a huge six month goal - fit into old snowpants and shred like a boss! Another broader goal will be to stick to my new ways - not fall back into old habits. I hope to be down around 175 lbs. by December. In the meantime I will continue to grow my relationship with myself and my loved ones and nurture the habits it will take me to get there.
I struggle a bit in the Winter, but my husband gets severely depressed. The last two winters he has been a bit better but I think it’d because we moved. Our place now has lots of windows and his computer sits right beside one. In our two previous ones he spent 90% of his time in the basement and worked in a cubby in the middle of a building. I think the little bit of light he gets now made an improvement at least.3 -
Might have to have a little break from this. Just got too much stress going on. I’m still gonna stay within my goals just not post them and be so strict. Just need to get past these next couple of weeks and then I’ll be alright.
I need sleep. I need rest. I need to reset!
But I’m gonna do my best to atleast be in the green every day. And drink water. I’m still coming back to read the posts lol I’m not going anywhere lol
But just need to chill out a bit x
I think that is a wise decision. Too much at once an be overwhelming and then you find yourself not happy with anything. Just remember us!2 -
PackerFanInGB wrote: »Might have to have a little break from this. Just got too much stress going on. I’m still gonna stay within my goals just not post them and be so strict. Just need to get past these next couple of weeks and then I’ll be alright.
I need sleep. I need rest. I need to reset!
But I’m gonna do my best to atleast be in the green every day. And drink water. I’m still coming back to read the posts lol I’m not going anywhere lol
But just need to chill out a bit x
You take all the time you need! We all need breaks and we all need to reset at times! Just don't disappear from us forever! We'd miss our little Bex!
LOL I don’t think I ever could!!!
I would so visit if I could afford it lol!
Also, I’ve realised why I feel so off.
A cold. The dreaded British cold lol 😂
But on another note, I’ve made something, it’s crazy simple but that’s good right?
So if me and my daughter walk a certain way home from nursery, we go past a carpet shop, a lot of the time they have spare carpet samples for free outside. And it says take as many as you like etc. For craft/pets etc.
And every time we walk that way she chooses one. God knows why she wants a bit of carpet but it’s free so I’m not going to be a killjoy.
Anyway!
Bit of duct tape later and voila! Door mat 😁
Im loving how you’d think my house was clean, I literally just kicked all the girls clutter out of range of the photo LOL!
Awesome mat!3 -
PackerFanInGB wrote: »J
What a weekend! I am so grateful for where I am in life. So happy I crawled out of the dark place I was this past winter. I think I really need to consider that seasonal affective disorder DOES play a role in my life. I was thinking about six month goals...the holidays, what life is like in the winter, what road blocks I face. Despite having a loving family, a safe warm house, and winter hobbies like snowboarding and hiking - I still tend to use comfort foods as a crutch and really hunker down from January-March. One of my long term goals has been to be more comfortable on my snowboard again this winter - I was out of breath bending over to strap in! My snowpants didnt fit anymore and I'd need to rest after only 3 runs. It turned a hobby I LOVE into something I dreaded doing because I was embarrassed by what my fitness level had dwindled to. So that's a huge six month goal - fit into old snowpants and shred like a boss! Another broader goal will be to stick to my new ways - not fall back into old habits. I hope to be down around 175 lbs. by December. In the meantime I will continue to grow my relationship with myself and my loved ones and nurture the habits it will take me to get there.
My weight has been hovering around the same number for over a week - I'm due for aunt flow to show up, but she's currently late. I think that is why I'm holding the weight. I've had steady losses up until this week so I started to panic a little bit. But thats life isnt it? You start getting comfortable in your habits, things seem to be falling into place, you get a nice rhythm going - and then BAM - life hits you with, well, LIFE! My hip/lower back started killing me yesterday and is worse today - not sure what it is, feels like nerve pain - slighly different than sciatic nerve pain but in the same general vicinity that wraps around from my lower back, around my hip, to my groin. Taking it easy at work today, and dinner is already prepped so an easy evening, yay!
I can totally relate! I get really depressed in the winter. I have to take Vitamin D and make sure I get sunlight or I might as well crawl into a cave and hibernate all winter. I can't fit into any of my hunting or ice fishing clothes either and that makes me even more depressed because I buy them larger so I can layer clothing under them! OMG. It seriously makes me want to curl up in a fetal position and cry. So, yes, I need to get busy too. I want to go ice fishing this year and I WILL fit into my snow gear.
What did you do to your hip/back? I've got a physical therapy appointment tonight for the same thing. My SI joint was stuck and 3 of my lower disks were rotated. So painful I can't lift my left leg some days. Because of the way the pain radiates from lower back, around hip and to groin area, they are sending me for consult at Ortho Surgeon to make sure I don't have a labrum tear in my left hip. Just sucks when you are trying to get on track and as soon as you start getting the activity in, to burn the calories and get healthy, and then BAM....you're in pain and back at square one.
xoxoxo Good luck with resting it. I sure hope it helps!
I completely agree about the winter, no sunlight means my energy levels drop. I just want to sleep all day instead.
vitamin D isn't a bad idea. I notice when I drink milk during the winter my energy perks up quite a bit. Then drops when I don't drink any milk.
I just finished taking out the trash and cleaned out the evidence of constantly eating wendy's out of the car. Sigh
Time to make some breakfast
My doctor says everyone that lives in the North has a vitamin D deficiency and there isn’t enough sun in a year to make up for ir. She tells me to take it year round.4 -
Rough Monday guys. Just a tough work day and it kicked up some depression so I've been in a bit of a funk today. (also may be getting sick as a coworker went home-eek I hope not!) Emotional eating urges were pretty fierce which was my first day since I started my meal plan. Typical MO for me, I excel at the start but start to struggle with the maintaining. Reached out to a couple friends and even texted one my plan to exercise and eat healthy to make me stick to it tonight. Ended up doing a little emotional over-eating and went over calories today, but not terrible. I've found that speaking out to my supports, admitting to the tough days, lets me face my mental health head-on. So I will be prioritizing some self-care over the next few days to make sure I'm taking care of myself emotionally. As always thanks for *listening*
Checkin' in:
House chores-nah
30 minutes exercise ✅
Meet 1200 net calories, counting exercise ✅-went over by 4 cals, but doing better at compensating for exercise which is what this goal is all about
Track food and exercise ✅
Water challenge-80 oz. ✅
BED BY 10! ✅-about to tuck in with some tea, a good book, and hopefully a kitty or two
Post here for accountability ✅
For tomorrow (late day so I'm keeping it simple):
Be kind to myself
Reach out to supports
Self-care
House chores
30 minutes exercise
Meet 1200 net calories, counting exercise
Track food and exercise
Water challenge-80 oz.
BED BY 10!
Post here for accountability
You recognize it and are taking steps to alleviate the damage that’s wonderful!!!2 -
Yesterday's commitments:
- Log everything I eat
- Stick to food plan Pretty much, though had gin when wasn't necessarily intending to. Need to swap alcohol-free days again...
- 4 bottles water
- Go to gym
- French podcast, article, Duolingo, book
- Talk to boyfriend in French A bit, not for that long as was very tired
- Sort emails
- Do weekly food shop
- Do washing
- Buy friend's birthday present
- Do French revision Some, not as much as I wanted. Took me longer than I thought to find the present
- Quick check on finances
- Plan when to do other items on to-do
July challenge: For me it works better to plan in the morning - I've got into the habit of doing it on my morning commute as it's reliable free time (whereas my evenings vary quite a lot). So let's say I have to do this by the end of breakfast every day.
July 1st: Done
July 2nd: Done
July 3rd: Done
Today's commitments:
- Log everything I eat
- Stick to food plan
- 3 bottles water
- 45 minute lunch break
- French podcast, article, Duolingo, book
- Talk to boyfriend in French
- Send 2 emails2 -
JFT Monday, Recap: This was NOT a successful day for me.
1. Adhere to food plan.
2. No fast food!
3. Physical therapy morning and evening.
4. Drink 10 glasses of water
5. Yoga routine
Did great on food until about 3 pm...when I was starving and wanted to eat everything in sight. I didn't...but I did overshoot my calories and I didn't weigh my pasta so I don't even know by how much. I still feel hungry today, in fact, which is unusual for me in a day when I go over calories. I just have to dial it back and have some self-control.
JFT Tuesday
1. Stay UNDER calorie goal
2. No fast food!
3. Physical therapy appointment and morning and evening physical therapy.
4. Drink 10 glasses of water.
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Just for Today (July 3rd):
- July challenge- Pre-plan meals for July 4th **SEE NOTE BELOW
- Food challenge- Don't eat/drink ANY snacks from the teachers' office today, not even an instant coffee stick. (Don't need it today after the full night of sleep I got last night.)
- Exercise challenge- Do today's Suzanne Bowen and Jessica Smith workout challenge videos
- Personal challenge- Last night I did "lights out by 11:00" with a nighttime shower so I could sleep in a little longer today, meaning I got a full 8 hours of sleep last night. Feel amazing today! So, same goal today
**NOTE: I'm meeting a friend for dinner tomorrow after work. She's coming in from out of town to have one last dinner/meeting before she moves to Canada. I don't know where we're going for dinner, but I'll try to make a healthy choice wherever she decides to eat. Breakfast and lunch are planned and prepped for tomorrow at least!
Resisted teachers' office snacks haha. Don't know why they've been such a struggle lately, but it's something I need to be conscious about.
Today's workout: Suzanne Bowen Day 22 Feel Good Cardio and Arms; Ballet Beautiful Bridal Bridge Blast; Jessica Smith Day 6 Chair Stretch
Lights Out- Well the lights are technically already out here at 10:44, but I'm wrapping up a few things here before the computer shuts down with them. 11 PM is a struggle since Tuesdays are my busy day- I'm out of the house for 13-14 hours. So I didn't get everything done that I wanted to tonight, but I'm putting sleep as a priority over things like studying "just for today"
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JFY (Monday, 7/2/18)
1) Log all my food
2) Stay "in the green" with my calories
3) Stay "in the green" with my sodium intake
4) Drink all my water before having a Diet Coke
5) Get back to the gym (after a week away on vacation)
6) Complete 2 orders from my shop
JFT (Tuesday, 7/3/18)
1) Log all my food
2) Stay "in the green" with my calories
3) Stay "in the green" with my sodium intake
4) Drink all my water before having a Diet Coke
5) Go to the gym3 -
JFT Monday
Garbage has been taken out
removed the barbeque from the car into my apartment
car was cleaned out
did a short walk around at work for 9 minutes
stayed under the calorie goal
drank my water4 -
nickssweetheart wrote: »JFT Monday, Recap: This was NOT a successful day for me.
1. Adhere to food plan.
2. No fast food!
3. Physical therapy morning and evening.
4. Drink 10 glasses of water
5. Yoga routine
Did great on food until about 3 pm...when I was starving and wanted to eat everything in sight. I didn't...but I did overshoot my calories and I didn't weigh my pasta so I don't even know by how much. I still feel hungry today, in fact, which is unusual for me in a day when I go over calories. I just have to dial it back and have some self-control.
JFT Tuesday
1. Stay UNDER calorie goal
2. No fast food!
3. Physical therapy appointment and morning and evening physical therapy.
4. Drink 10 glasses of water.
I have days like that too, where it doesn't seem to matter what I eat I'm still starving. I haven't figured out the pattern to it at all yet and I've been trying to figure it out. It's very frustrating.1 -
For those planning and prepping July 4 food I thought I'd share some pics of delicious and healthy ideas.
The first picture comes with a link for the recipe. This is one of my favorite eats in the summer. It's watermelon, blueberries, feta, and mint with a light honey citrus glaze. The recipe calls for lime but I've used lemon or a combo of the two before. I've also used a balsalmic glaze.
Recipe for Watermelon, blueberries, feta, mint salad
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