JUST FOR TODAY ....... One day at a time ..... Daily Commitment Thread for 2018
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JFT, Monday
1. try and go to the gym ... but if I don't, I need the sleep. Not nearly enough sleep last nite, so I may sleep in.
2. log all food
3. concentrate on water
4. call disability office and make appt
5. try to work a little more on my quilt so I can clean up the dining room
6. get back on here - be accountable.
Awe --- not even going to mark stuff - gee - this was from Monday!
I called the disability office monday morning - and they know my daughter was making over the amount that is allowed. They told me it would be best to bring in all her paystubs ASAP.
So monday afternoon, I gathered everything together, and went in. The lady did tell me there is a very high possibility our daughter will lose her disability. The government thinks that $1000 is over the poverty level - even when she is trying to live along- so that will cause her to lose disability.
I tried to point out that she had FIVE W2s, because the jobs only last about 2-3 months, but apparently that does not matter.
Today I went in with more paperwork, bank statements showing overdrafts and excessive, compulsive behavior, etc.
Last nite was hard, because my hubby and I again are on the blame game. He blaming me because I didn't teach her about money, buying her too many things, doing everything for her. Me blaming him for working so much and not being around, etc etc. SO both of us were still awake at 5am this morning - I think we were talking off and on until 4 am. finally we both realized that we could not have done this - as 6 doctors told us - this is genetic.
So very tired today. Our daughter also is scared and worried. She will have to probably move back home with us again, which for her again, is losing her independence. So ... we are praying for a miracle, and that they will allow her to stay on disability.
But we also found out that for the rest of her life, either she never works, or she always have to stay below the minimum she can work. If she goes over just for one month, regardless of how little she makes the following month, she loses disability completely.
SO maybe this is a blessing. My husband and I are still alive and living to give her a home. She can try working, and not worry about how many hours she works, or how much she makes. We can be around to help with paying the bills, making sure life essentials are taken care of. Then she will either realize that either she can work, and make more than she was getting disability, or stop being in denial and realize that she needs disability.
but through it all, I have done OK. I think because I have been so buy with letters, etc. that I am not eating, and also stress --- usually I eat with stress.
But it was so hard to hear my daughter tonite in the other room crying. She is still our precious little girl, and I just want to fix things, and I can't -- except to be there for her.
so, onto tomorrow - hoping for a calmer, more relaxed day
JFT, Wed
1. log all food = healthy choices
2. concentrate on water
3. think of all the positives. Try to be that encouragement my daughter needs
4. work some
5. get back on here5 -
JFT, Monday
1. try and go to the gym ... but if I don't, I need the sleep. Not nearly enough sleep last nite, so I may sleep in.
2. log all food
3. concentrate on water
4. call disability office and make appt
5. try to work a little more on my quilt so I can clean up the dining room
6. get back on here - be accountable.
Awe --- not even going to mark stuff - gee - this was from Monday!
I called the disability office monday morning - and they know my daughter was making over the amount that is allowed. They told me it would be best to bring in all her paystubs ASAP.
So monday afternoon, I gathered everything together, and went in. The lady did tell me there is a very high possibility our daughter will lose her disability. The government thinks that $1000 is over the poverty level - even when she is trying to live along- so that will cause her to lose disability.
I tried to point out that she had FIVE W2s, because the jobs only last about 2-3 months, but apparently that does not matter.
Today I went in with more paperwork, bank statements showing overdrafts and excessive, compulsive behavior, etc.
Last nite was hard, because my hubby and I again are on the blame game. He blaming me because I didn't teach her about money, buying her too many things, doing everything for her. Me blaming him for working so much and not being around, etc etc. SO both of us were still awake at 5am this morning - I think we were talking off and on until 4 am. finally we both realized that we could not have done this - as 6 doctors told us - this is genetic.
So very tired today. Our daughter also is scared and worried. She will have to probably move back home with us again, which for her again, is losing her independence. So ... we are praying for a miracle, and that they will allow her to stay on disability.
But we also found out that for the rest of her life, either she never works, or she always have to stay below the minimum she can work. If she goes over just for one month, regardless of how little she makes the following month, she loses disability completely.
SO maybe this is a blessing. My husband and I are still alive and living to give her a home. She can try working, and not worry about how many hours she works, or how much she makes. We can be around to help with paying the bills, making sure life essentials are taken care of. Then she will either realize that either she can work, and make more than she was getting disability, or stop being in denial and realize that she needs disability.
but through it all, I have done OK. I think because I have been so buy with letters, etc. that I am not eating, and also stress --- usually I eat with stress.
But it was so hard to hear my daughter tonite in the other room crying. She is still our precious little girl, and I just want to fix things, and I can't -- except to be there for her.
so, onto tomorrow - hoping for a calmer, more relaxed day
JFT, Wed
1. log all food = healthy choices
2. concentrate on water
3. think of all the positives. Try to be that encouragement my daughter needs
4. work some
5. get back on here
Oh Joan I’m so sorry about your daughter, it’s so easy to blame yourself and wondering if you had done things differently would she be okay but like you say, it’s genetic, I don’t know how old she is but as you know my partner is off for mental health, for good and he’s only 26!
And yeah he wishes he could work, he’d like to be “normal” but it just simply wouldn’t work.
They’ve tried that working thing with him too, he can get jobs, and go to jobs, but in a matter of a couple of weeks it starts to derail and then he’s back at square one. He realised that he just couldn’t do it when his own Mum had to sack him from his job.
There is no shame in being disabled, we get plenty of money from our disability benefits, like a full working-persons wage, and it works for him and us, he’s less stressed since he realised he probably won’t work again apart from the odd thing here and there, like one off jobs (handyman work etc) and he can focus on managing his disorder so he can live a happy life
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@joan6630 Oh honey, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. You guys can get through this, again. We love you.
@OConnell5483 It sounds like back to work has gone pretty well and you kicked those germs to the curb. Woo hoo!
@mcbeef29 You've made a fantastic addition to this thread, all upbeat and everything.
@missheidi How was the intermediate yoga?
@creofan Welcome to the JFT thread. We're a very busy ( just in case you didn't notice), and supportive group of people. I hope you find what you need here.
@HGSmith0920 I may have missed it but, what's up with the new job? We've been sitting here all nervous and antsy for you sweetie.
@Bex953172 Pumping doesn't work for everyone hon, and if you're dealing with ppdepression as well it just makes everything harder. Are you taking a prenatal vitamin? My daughter's doctor had her on them until her daughter was 1 yr. It really did help.
@clicketykeys I noticed a couple of little notations in your posts that led me to jump to a, very possibly wrong, conclusion. Do you have plans for a new play?2 -
@Bex953172 Pumping doesn't work for everyone hon, and if you're dealing with ppdepression as well it just makes everything harder. Are you taking a prenatal vitamin? My daughter's doctor had her on them until her daughter was 1 yr. It really did help.
Ah I didn’t realise! I’ve got new attachments for the pump which should make it a bit more easier but will have to see how it goes when I try.
I don’t have ppd now, I had it reaaaaally bad with my first daughter. Which then turned to general depression for four years. It’s just the things the midwives are saying are really triggering and making me feel like I did previously. But decided not going to let anyone make me ill again!5 -
Yesterday's commitments:
- Log everything I eat
- Stick to food plan including keeping lunch under 400 kcals
Think lunch was actually around 700 and I couldn't have what I wanted for dinner as shop was very low on food - ended up having something higher calorie than plabbed. BUT am very pleased with how I did, actually. I was at a conference and managed to resist biscuits all day and didn't have dessert. Plus, even though my lunch was 700 (I think) I did actually take fairly small portions. So good progress!
- Prepare key feedback points about my boss (mwah ha ha) Didn't have time in end
- Read sector recommendations
Got partway through but didn't finish, will finish today
- Read internal vacancies job descriptions and decide whether to apply for any Read them but not quite made decision, think probably not though
- Read some of line management guide Didn't have time
Today's commitments:
- Log everything I eat
- Stick to food plan
- Finish sector recommendations
- Decide whether to apply for any internal vacancies
- 30+ minute lunch break
- Leave work by 6pm
- Exercise DVD after work
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JFY (Tuesday)
1. Drink 8 glasses of water
2. Log all the food I eat
3. Stay in the green with my food intake
4. Complete 4 orders from my shop
5. Go to the gym (30 min circuit, 30 min treadmill)
JFT (Wednesday)
1. Drink 8 glasses of water
2. Log all the food I eat
3. Stay in the green with my food intake
4. Complete 4 orders from my shop
5. Shovel the driveway (AGAIN, this is getting really old!!!! LOL)3 -
@bcTRAI I'm waiting with anticipation too! I haven't heard anything yet. I feel like I'm being strung along. I'm going to contact them this morning and see what is happening. I need to know if I need to keep looking or if things will move along soon. Who knows! I sure dont. Lol.2
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@joan6630 Oh sheesh! The only thing I can say is to keep that head up and keep on praying! Something will happen. This could be a blessing in disguise. We are all praying for you and love you!
@slittlemeister I can't wait to hear what you tell them about your manager! I know that is totally incompetent. Lol. Great job staying away from all the treats at the conference. I'm still having a bit of trouble saying no to things like that!3 -
@HGSmith0920 It's going to be awesome! Me and three other (female) colleagues are all providing (negative) feedback on our (male) boss. it's a total #metoo #timesup moment... It's not like there is sexual harassment or anything going on, but he is exceptionally rubbish, unsupportive and also possibly a bit sexist. The fight-back starts now... (I have my points all planned now - and coordinated with others)
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@clicketykeys I noticed a couple of little notations in your posts that led me to jump to a, very possibly wrong, conclusion. Do you have plans for a new play?
@bcTRAI - Sorrrrt of? There are a couple of ones coming up this summer that I want to audition for. Nothing at the moment, though.2 -
@slittlemeister That's awesome! I've had a couple #metoo moments. One of them in a work environment. I'm so excited for you! I hope it helps.1
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@joan6630 Oh honey, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. You guys can get through this, again. We love you.
@OConnell5483 It sounds like back to work has gone pretty well and you kicked those germs to the curb. Woo hoo!
@mcbeef29 You've made a fantastic addition to this thread, all upbeat and everything.
@missheidi How was the intermediate yoga?
@creofan Welcome to the JFT thread. We're a very busy ( just in case you didn't notice), and supportive group of people. I hope you find what you need here.
@HGSmith0920 I may have missed it but, what's up with the new job? We've been sitting here all nervous and antsy for you sweetie.
@Bex953172 Pumping doesn't work for everyone hon, and if you're dealing with ppdepression as well it just makes everything harder. Are you taking a prenatal vitamin? My daughter's doctor had her on them until her daughter was 1 yr. It really did help.
@clicketykeys I noticed a couple of little notations in your posts that led me to jump to a, very possibly wrong, conclusion. Do you have plans for a new play?
it was REALLY HARD2 -
So I ended up going back to bed for another hour and a half. I think DST is really screwing me up this year. Usually, it's not too bad. I think that might be because this is the first time in recent memory that I am not working. It didn't put me back too badly to-do list wise because I have all evening to do things. The rest of the DH's presents should be here today. I'm really excited. I've been waiting a week for them. I was following the tracking and they sent it all over my state(granted it's a very small state). I'm hoping it comes before he goes to work so he can open them and have a great day at work. But I kind of also want them to come after him so that I can torture him(in good fun) that they are here and he is there. Plus if he has a bad day at work it will cheer him up immensely. Lol.
My SIL wants to take me and the DH out for dinner with the whole family to celebrate his and my FIL's birthday. I'm a bit hesitant to tell her that we are really tight on money this week. I'll talk to the DH about it when he wakes up and see what he says. I really want us to go for my MIL's sake but I dont know if it will work this weekend or not. I hate to make them think that we are that tight on money but I think that that is just my pride getting in the way. I'm not sure what to do. I guess I'll let my DH make the decision. It is his family and his birthday after all.2 -
@missheidi Oh no! That's sucky! I've been doing yoga for a few months now and I'm a bit hesitant to try an intermediate class/video. I hope you didn't hurt yourself.0
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he had a great time.JFT 3/13
log everything
stay green green on calories, way over on carbs
drink 80
yoga class--i have to go the the later class, which is intermediate instead of my usual beginner. hope i can keep up.
Kristian has a full day today. this afternoon he is coming to shadow at high school, going with a friend of ours to his elective classes. then his p/t conferences.
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@missheidi Yay for Kristian! That's awesome! I'm glad it is all working out for him and for you.0
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Well, I emailed my potential Branch Manager about the progress of my application. So we'll see what happens. Hopefully, everything is alright and the process moves along quicker then it has been.
I decided to weigh myself this morning, just for Haha, to see how much weight I had left to wash out of my system. I found out that I actually lost weight! I'm down .8oz from when I last weighed myself! I'm at 152.0! I've hit this once before last week but it completely amazes me that I may actually be able to meet my weight goal by the end of the month!2 -
Recap T 3/13 ~ Didn't even hit the snooze alarm...I shut off alarm in my sleep. No treadmill before work, guess this is a rest day. I hate DST.
1) Move hourly / stairs breaks at work = Fitbit 8,268 steps, 250+ steps 13/14 & 35 floors
2) Usual breakfast & snacks / leftovers for lunch & supper / net calories green / monitor usual = Net calories -27, sugar -7, sodium / protein / fiber all good, & 14c water
3) Figure out CPE templates & surveys for next week's seminar (new "smart" dashboard & I'm confused) = figured out if I copy my other customized templates and edit, that works & all email blasts tested & scheduled / contact support if necessary = not necessary!
4) Evening: organize tax docs for preparer & contact preparer = done just as MJSW texted me about docs, so have meeting set up too / wash dishes except for leftover containers / maybe 1 more to-do started Easter dinner list and reviewing what I already in pantry
5) Unplug 9:00
40 min. later / floss / retainers / bed & TV off 10:15 = nope 
JFT W 3/14 ~ Happy Pi Day!
1) Snooze alarmed a little too much, but still walked treadmill before work / 2.5 mi 40:33 / stretched
2) Move hourly / stairs breaks at work
3) Remember NP appt / leave office at 3 p.m. / pick up bread on way there
4) Evening: soup supper / Lenten service / 1 to-do
5) Usual breakfast & snacks / leftovers for lunch (defrosting) / choose wisely for supper, limit bread & dessert / net calories green / monitor usual
6) Unplug 9:00 / floss / retainers / bed & TV off 10:152 -
JFT 3/14
log everything
stay green. just looking at calories mostly today
drink 80
swim a mile
crochet group tonight3 -
I missed a day at work this week, still had to do all the same in less time. Didn't drink as much as normal for two of the days and I'm considering that could contribute to less loss. At least it wasn't a gain. I also started back with some physical activity this week.
1992 240 lb
2000 200ish
Mar 15, 2017 199 get serious
Weekly weigh-in
This years starting weight Jan 3, 2018: 176.0
Aiming at 150ish
Progress so far:
Mar 14 168.4
Mar 7 168.4
Feb 28 169.8 Woo hoo! Clawed back some lost ground and a bit!
Feb 21 172.6
Feb 14 172.0
Feb 7 171.6
Jan 31 170.4
Jan 24 172.2
Jan 17 175.4
Jan 10: 174.8
Jan 3: 176.04 -
JFT 3/13
15000 steps - I'm over 8000 so far!
Weigh in and record
Follow up on job interview
Vacuum the living room
Move a desk to the garage and post for sale
Take a sauna before supper3 -
@Creofan I'm following up on a job interview as well. Prayers for both of us.1
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My partner signed us up for a gym membership today!
I’m unsure on whether to go just yet..
I would love to go for a swim but can’t for women’s reasons
(obviously)
But it means I can use the gym, but then I’m worried because since baby has been born I smell of milk, my tops always have milk on them and basically I’d hate for a milk incident to happen when I’m there. And I don’t like the thought of running up a sweat and I can’t even go in the steam room/sauna afterwards!
However my partner says it will do me good.
Also, the pump does work better!
Only managed 2oz but more than before. Going to have to start doing it more to stockpile so I won’t worry about going to the gym because OH can feed her
*sigh* I dunno4 -
HGSmith0920 wrote: »@missheidi Oh no! That's sucky! I've been doing yoga for a few months now and I'm a bit hesitant to try an intermediate class/video. I hope you didn't hurt yourself.
no, didn't hurt myself. i kept up ok, it was just challenging.3 -
HGSmith0920 wrote: »@missheidi Yay for Kristian! That's awesome! I'm glad it is all working out for him and for you.
we have to figure out how to get through the next 8 weeks. he has started pulling out his regular hair now, a big clump is gone.3 -
btw, did you know that if you are dehydrated, they can dig and dig in your arm, but no blood will come?2
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Good day today. Managed to hit most of my long list and still on track for a much-needed early night.
Goals14/3:
- exercise before kids get up ✅
- change worksheets! ✅
- Stay within calorie goal✅
- 15k+ steps ✅
- 2ltr+ water ✅
- Try to do enough steps during planning time managed 12/14 hours with 250+ steps so not too bad
- Final data input ✅ 3 hours of fun
- Parents eve appointment scheduling - check re sibs first thing ✅
- Flipchart for maths lesson before kids arrive ✅
- School council prep - room?? ✅
- Science week prep - ✅
- Money for daughter’s charity day ✅
- Contact dance school re next week ✅
- Research easter activity camps don’t have anything left tonight! Tomorrow!!
Goals/list for 15/3:
- exercise before kids wake up
- Leave early (remember taking assembly so bring books)
- 15k + steps
- Stay within calorie goal
- 2ltr+ water
- Parent talk at 1:45pm
- Appraisal update at 4:15pm
- email teachers re twinning School questions
- Print for next week
- Parent teacher meeting for younger daughter at 6pm
Hope you are al crushing it! I want to say hooray spring is here but they are forecasting another snow storm here this weekend!
Sleep well x4 -
*sigh* well today was just blah. I spent 3 hours doing a research report for an online side job I was trying to get and it all came to nothing. Oh well. At least it was only 3 hours. It was a stupid topic I had to research and write a report about. How many beauty salons in the US offer hair coloring services? Seriously? I knew the answer but I had to find proof and statistics to back up my answer. It was annoying.
I came back from the gym about 45 minutes ago. It is currently 5:45. I've eaten dinner already and have until 8 for the Pens game to start. I wish the DH opened this morning instead of closing. I get lonely when he isn't home. I get kind of tired of him when he is home for 4 days straight but I do really miss him when he's at work. It's easier to while away 9 hours in the morning then it is 9 hours in the afternoon/evening. By about 8 I run out of things to do. Lol. I know there are things I SHOULD be doing, but I just can't seem to make myself do them. At least I made it to the gym. I'm gonna try to psych myself up to get up and do a yoga video.
Idk. I guess I'm just kind of bummed tonight. Anyway, sorry for the rambling.3
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