WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR FEBRUARY 2018
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Hi Gals,
Barbie – thanks for keeping us going!
So goal for January was participate in logging and this forum on a semi-regular basis, and I did it..
Feb goal is January + I want to log my food 20 + days…when I log I lose… so I need to log.
Janetr – excellent !!!!
Allie – thinking of you.
Rye - I have found quite a few I love that are part of NPR; TED talks; Stuff you missed in history class; Stuff you should know; Food Stuff; Ridiculous History; The food Programme (BBC)
Barbie and Jake – glad you are figuring out the health issues! Take care
Karen Virginia – what great pictures of Olivia
Lisa – so glad to hear about John
Heather – sending hugs to you and good thoughts to him!!! *** Later *** oh good he’s back to work, now the long hard work begins; your DIL is especially suited to handle this.
Becca - ((((((hugs)))))
So I’ve written bits and pieces over many a day as I try to catch up…
I will be short of my goal as there are not enough days in Feb to make it, but I have been in a whirl wind, and have made some good choices and of course some not-so- good ones ….
I have a once a year catering job for a super bowl party, this year there were 36 people; so I did that and this year I made chicken rollups – you pound skinless boneless chicken breasts then spread a filling on roll up like a pinwheel, wrap with bacon and then bake. Slice into “pinwheels” and serve, a very pretty presentation - I made 3 kinds of filling, cheddar with caramelized onion; spinach, mushroom and ricotta; and Kalamata olive and cream cheese.
They were tons of work, everyone loved them, but too much work for that many people.
Then tonight I had 6 folks I work with as a gardener at camp to dinner, and did a vegan Shepard’s pie, beer bread, and cherry/blueberry pie…
Things with my housemate are not going as I had hoped, we have had one conversation, and may need another – I am better at stewing on something than facing it head on.. I have learned she is a bit of a slob and not patient at all, so has broken glasses, the blender, run spoons through the garbage disposal – she’s replaced everything she has broken, but good grief! This semester is over in late May, and she doesn’t know it yet but she’ll be moving on after that. Our agreement was for a month or two, but it is clear to me that her plan is longer. I’ll make it clear the beginning of April, probably even put it in writing.
Smiles
Kim from N. California
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Hi all,
I'm up early and letting DH sleep on. I've had 7 hrs sleep and feel refreshed.
I will take him up a cup of tea very soon.
Please can all the new people put their NAME or NICKNAME at the end of EVERY post with a vague LOCATION, so that we can remember who you are. Some of us are quite elderly. :laugh:
Kim - Wow! That does sound like a lot of work! Tasty though! Personally, I would make your intentions clear with your housemate as soon as possible. If it was just short term then she should already be making plans. I'm the kind of person who can't stand ambiguity, so I would have to have the boundaries and timetable well set out beforehand. I'm always clear, whether I'm a guest or a host, when is arrival and when is going. Sometimes you just need to take a deep breath, open your mouth and discuss it. It's never easy, but it's so worth it for peace of mind. 
My DDIL is very well placed to handle my son, but I also know that she won't take any more nonsense from him. I'm sure he is in Last Chance Saloon. She will put her sanity and the children's first. Good for her! She has been tolerant of his drinking and allowed the occasional excess, but this latest episode has abused her trust and put the family's well being in jeopardy. I know she is strong enough not to allow that and will take the hard decisions. He has sooooooo much to lose. But, as we all know, seeing it and doing it are two different things. As he works in the drinks industry, and his job involves entertaining and schmoozing, I don't think the chances are very high. He would be better to change his job. DDIL may be suggesting that.
I am not interfering as I don't think it would be helpful. He is 38 and an intelligent person who knows the score. He just has that streak in him that needs to push too hard and go too far. He is competitive and a risk taker. Finding something to take the place of his beloved wines, which are now in the shed, and his carefully curated spirits, ditto, will be tough. Perhaps he ought to take up running, like me! :laugh:
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx6 -
Kelly - those kids and Moms are so lucky to have you. I hope you did get a chance to elevate your leg.
Lisa - My granddaughter has the diagnosis of borderline personality disorder also. It is a difficult thing. Courtney asked me for money. I am sending her a gift card for groceries and suggested that she supplement with the food bank.
Rita - Yes, it has become more difficult with the Spanish. I haven't used the Tinycards app. I just go back and do the weakest words on each and then do the strengthening last. My daughter and I try to text each other a few sentences in Spanish daily.
Becca - I'll have to snap some photos of my living room. I think you would like the colours. Can't take credit though. I have a bit of an idea and Jheri runs with it. I do have to restrict her with the budget but she is very good at upcycling things.
Sending you lots of hugs. Your poor hubby has sure been through it. He has a strong spirit. Praying they move up the operation and that it gives him relief.
Joyce - Beautiful photo of the girls. Love that red dress.
Terry - You need to post a photo with the helmet on. Let me know how it works. I would do almost anything to help my poor balding head .(caused mostly by my body's reaction to anaesthetic so they say)
Allie - Wishing you luck in locating a will.
I loved the movie Sing. My granddaughters can't resist dancing through it.
Kim- Sorry you are having roommate trouble but at least you know it is short term.
Yesterday I didn't leave the house. I didn't even poke my nose outside, just stayed inside, puttered around, cooked, watched Olympics and did my duo lingo. So nice to be warm for the whole day. Larry returned home around 1:30 and then went to the auto swap meet. Usually his brothers come for this but not this year. He spent 3 hrs. there catching up with his car buddies.
Today was spent in more cleaning, laundry. Keira wanted me to watch her while her Mom worked because her big brother is "too boring and too bossy". We had planned on getting groceries so picked her up and took her to Costco. We got busted for her riding with me on the scooter. "Can you read? It says that isn't allowed right there." Keira wondered if we would get a ticket or be arrested. She wanted a dress that I refused to buy because she has lots. She had her own money and said she would pay for it. We went way over my budget so I had a look of shock when I heard the total. Larry decided to pay it. He did just sell one of our many trucks so he had cash. We were over because he was shopping. He bought meat we didn't need. He has decided he wants to grind his own coffee beans so that was an extra $20 when we have 2 full cans of coffee at home. In the end Grandpa decided to buy the dress. It does look great on her.
Back to work tomorrow and it is going to be a cold one. Reading about Mary in Arizona I was reminded of our vacation years ago in the Apache Junction/Mesa area. We were the crazy Canadians in shorts while everyone else was wearing jackets. I got one heck of a sunburn.
Had a great visit with a friend via phone. It was amusing listening to her story of adopting a feral kitten. Brought it in on a very cold day. Toby isn't pretty but definitely has her heart.
Have enjoyed watching snippets of the Olympics. I always enjoy watching the figure skaters.
-Sharon in Lethbridge where it is still white and COLD4 -
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Wendy Take back your power...no more visits from these people....no more....I know that your DH is friends with the husband, but the description of his wife is the opposite of friend....no. more. visits....take back your home, your time, your money, your peace
Kim I agree with Heather tell her sooner, ambiguity is just going to prolong the process and looking for a new rental takes time for folks.
Speaking of ambiguity, I took this extra gig of conducting a youth orchestra, instead of being hired for the year, me and one other conductor (a young guy with a doctorate and oodles of talent) were hired to prepare a concert, he did the fall concert and currently I'm working on the Winter concert (which is in early March). The director/board really haven't been communicating about who is going to get the job more permanently (a contract for the spring concert and a signing bonus for next year's full contract). A board member and the director took me out to lunch to discuss the position and I was very blunt telling them that their indecisiveness and lack of communication was worrying me, I was also frank about the program and things I would like to improve. Meanwhile I am not so sure I want this position, it is kind of just like my day job, in other words one more extra responsibility. Without telling me, they pretty much hinted that I am their first choice and kind of wanted me to tell them right away if I wanted the job, without telling me they were offering it to me.........confusing right???? I am so lucky that I don't need to take this job for the money, it is purely for my ego, it does challenge me a bit, not a lot, a bit. It isn't really the STRETCH I was looking for. The ambiguity of the process is still ticking me off, but I am gratefuly I had the chance to express that to them. Also, since they hinted heavily about wanting me, I need to stop feeling so insecure about it. It's funny, I want them to want me, so I can be the one to walk away from them, twisted thinking
I suppose that is why I'm drawn to this, I've got to work something out internally. DH is a lot simpler about this, do you want the extra income and extra work or not? Ladies, thanks for letting me vent. You all provide such insight and wisdom.
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Morning, all,
Becca - thinking of you and Lee, and hope all comes out very well.
Kim - gotcha on the housemate thing, more below on our own.
Grnwdtree - we've all been heartily tired of that hamster wheel, we're glad you're here. Lots of support, and sympathy with despair.
On our side, word from son John remains positive.
Small kerfuffle, though, (in retrospect) with our living situation. For those who haven't been with us too long, we came to live with our daughter to take care of the grandkids while our son-in-law is deployed to a war zone in the Middle East. Our daughter, also Army, was in a bit of a pickle for childcare for her two-year-old daughter and six-year-old son. To say her hours are erratic is really underestimating the situation. We've been here since Nov. 4. My husband is the primary caregiver (unpaid), and I work from the house.
Kels (our daughter) asked almost two weeks ago if her dad would mind if she went to a concert Saturday night with a girlfriend up in Raleigh. We knew she'd be home late on Saturday night, and he said sure. Then it morphed into staying the night up in Raleigh (about an hour away). Then she had to leave on Saturday morning at 11 a.m., as they were going to walk around and see some of Raleigh. Then, Sunday morning, her dad gets a text saying she wouldn't be home until late afternoon, as they were going to have brunch before they left Raleigh.
She didn't text me, because she knew I'd be angry. I was. I planned to confront her when she got home about how much she's taking advantage of her dad's good nature, but he convinced me not to. The litany of little stuff is far too long to go into--but not worth a blow-up. He was right (he always is), and the brunt falls on him, not me. It just kills me that he cooks, he cleans, he washes dishes, he takes care of her kids, and then she has the nerve to manipulate it so he doesn't even get time to take a few hours to himself on the weekend.
When she got home, we just grabbed our stuff and left to get out of the house--had I said even one word, I was going to blow up. I had cooled down by the time we got back. And her dad was right--had I braced her with it, she would have simply gotten defensive, blamed it all on the friend, who was driving, and so on and so on. Useless to get into and would resolve nothing. That said - there will be no more of those incidents. The weekends are important to us - and the only time she spends with her kids. She often gets home between 6 and 7 p.m., and their bedtime is at 7:30. This week, she'll be working until 9 p.m. every night, and then she'll be out in the field from the 1st to the 15th of March, and not see them at all.
And again--we still have three months left until her husband returns, and we made a commitment. Took Heather's advice and made it plain that, when her husband comes back, we're headed out. And there is a small chance that he'll be back a month earlier than expected. Pardon me while I get down on my knees and beg for that small chance of early deliverance to come true.
The rational part of me understands that no human being is capable of being grateful for six solid months. The rest of me remains annoyed. Guess which part's bigger at the moment? Anyway - we've made our bed, and we will deal with it for the hundred days or so that remain, and try not to allow the situation to boil over into active acrimony. We'll live up to our commitment, and enjoy what time we have with these kids to make their lives peaceful and loving. Then we'll leave.
Sorry to have written a book - thanks for the space to vent.
And the weight loss is going fine. Lost nine pounds since Jan. 24, and actually trying to eat a vegetable or two.
Love y'all,
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Hello ladies! I'm back.. moving in the right direction, but it's SO SLOW! I want to be 139 next weekend - but at this rate, I'll be six feet under by the time that happens! Anyway - hope to keep up with this group - great bunch of ladies over 50 here :-) thanks for being here for all of us!
Marlene, Ontario Canada5 -
If you can get CBC (canadian broadcasting) search for "Someone Knows Something" - great podcastcityjaneLondon wrote: »We've decided to go to our nearby town and have a pub lunch. They do a delicious fennel and spinach salad. Yum!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
My two favourite veg! Wish I could have some too.
Podcasts: Any recommendations? I get impatient and frustrated with audio books, but enjoy listening to conversational style podcasts. Looking for some good ones to load in my phone so I have company on my walks to work.
It looks like we will take a mini trip to visit friends in San Antonio this month. I do love San Antonio, so I’m going to have to make some plans. Obviously an afternoon or evening on the River Walk, but I might have to excuse myself while they all have a drink or something because I’m the only one who will want to WALK. Lol. There are way too many good food options in S.A. So that will be easy. And if the weather is good, maybe I can convince them to go to the Botanic Gardens. I’m excited.
Husband is feeling better now that he’s seen the otolaryngologist, so life is returning to more normal. Thank heavens. I don’t much like grumpy sicky DH and have limited patience with him.
Mr Mustachios has not been around to visit Sweetheart lately, but a new kitty has - I call him Applesauce. All three are feral, but somewhat acclimated to people. They don’t run away, but don’t actually let us get too close either.
A picture of Applesauce:
Rye
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Good morning all! Happy Monday! Sore, sore SORE!!! Did a fair amount of shoveling this weekend (about three hours worth). I am just a bit on the stiff and sore side this morning. Went to bed last night and just built a cocoon of blankets and pillows around me and longed to just seal myself in for a couple of days. lol I made it out of bed this morning, though. Hopped on the scale to zero pounds lost. Maybe I am building muscle mass with all of the shoveling?! Oh well, tomorrow is another week.
Becca- Sending good vibes, prayers for strength and peace to you and your DH!
Wendy- Hang in there, for the remainder of their visit; but I think you need to step up to the plate and let this couple know that you will not host them again. Maybe the reason they keep coming back is that you and your DH are the only couple that they know, who hasn't banned them from visiting! Not fair the way they are treating you and your family. Shameful!
Lisa- I don't envy you, your position, right now. My DH thinks I am crazy, because I have said quite a few times, that I don't think I could handle it if my daughter and family lived with us. Personally, I think something happens when parents and kids are in the same home together. I think, more often than not, we take on the parent/child roles again. Even though Kelsey is a grown woman and mama; I think she subconsciously is leaning on daddy to take care of things. I imagine, it is a relief for her for this short time, to have some one else carry the load. Anyway, sending you lots of love and support! Glad your son is doing better!
Heather- Speaking of sons, happy your son is able to keep his position and sending all kinds of love and support to the both of you, as well!
New girls- Welcome! Don't forget to bookmark our site so you can come back each day. Most of us read and chat for that mental boost/kick in the butt that we all need. We also glean a lot of good advice from this wonderful group. My name is KJ or Kelly, I am 51 and post menopausal, and I have been with these ladies for two years, now. I found this group as I was realizing that my younger workout partners had no idea of the struggles that I was dealing with.
More of you that I wanted to respond to; but my brain is a fog this morning. Definitely Monday Brain. ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)4 -
Good thoughts for your guy,you & Drs. My DH had yellow skin.....which led to his surgery,so know what you mean. So glad you can be with him & get your Zzzzs at night.Hope you have someone with you thru the wait.Chin up,Becca.coastalgosgal wrote: »Hugs everyone! ERCP planned for tomorrow afternoon. Probably staying overnight tomorrow. At the hospital here now. I have a roll away bed for me! He is doing well. Wanted me to help him wash his nawty bawdy bits! Haha! His eyeballs are still so yellow!
Becca
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Becky - feel better fast.
Thinking of Becca and her husband
Clarity - welcome! Yea for being under 140
Hydrogurl - welcome! What is the Wild Rose cleanse? I don't think I've ever heard of it
Rye - and the cats don't put holes in the screen?
richfieldgirl - welcome
pip - I totally agree with you that things happen for a reason. It took me 30 years, but I think I finally figured out why my mother was taken from me when I was so young. Glad it didn't take you 30 years!
Becca - my heart goes out to your dh and you. Will be praying
grnwoodtree - welcome! You sure have a lot on your plate. Comraderie is so very important, so keep coming back. Welcome to the hamster wheel!
Did a load of laundry yesterday. Didn't really need to, but the washer was available (probably since it was Sunday), so did it.
Friends of ours are coming down Sat. Her hubby and Vince will go to the 500, I'm trying to get a game that we can play while they're gone. They're planning to leave here at 5 Mon morning to go to this place in GA where you take a ferry to an island. Boy, we usually don't get back from the 500 until late, and I think they're starting later this year. Then to get up so early, I give them credit. They wanted to know if we wanted to go with them, but we have to give the cats the medication. Besides, I know Vince isn't keen on getting up so early.
I had this spring float down here but decided I was going to take it back to NC and just donate it, it's just too much of a hassle to take it to the pool. Well, Vince broke it. That's one less thing we need to take to NC! Called Publix since the Publix down here has discontinued the bread crumbs that I want. If they can get them in the Publix by me, I have to buy a full case of 12. I was hoping to just buy 4. But looks like I'll have to get 12. Well....that'll last me for about 4 years! Need to call the people who signed up to bring a snack to the Newcomer general meeting this Wed to remind them.
Lisa - your daughter sure is taking advantage of Cory. I'm so sorry for you. I just find it so hard to relate to a mother who would choose not to spend time with her children
Marlene - welcome
Michele now in FL who is off to the gym4 -
Morning ladies
Becca I am praying for a wonderful outcome for hubbys surgery and you will have us all in your pocket..
I slept pretty well and will be working in hartford...so have to walk the dogs ,get gas and get my lunch together..
worried about the pup being left alone, but he should be just fine..
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Michele - that's part of my struggle, as well... But as Kelly said, when you have parents in the house with grown children, everyone seems to try to fit themselves back in their old roles. This weekend seemed like she was trying to be 17 and single again instead of 27 and a mom. Including the whole "pushing the limits," thing. Understanding it doesn't mean I'm happy with it.
Part of it is that I also struggle with a lot of her parenting style. She says herself that she's trying to be less of a military sergeant and more of a mom when she's with the kids, but it's hard to turn if off. I get that. But she veers wildly from yelling to allowing absolute chaos without a word.
*sigh*
I knew this wouldn't be easy, and honestly, to go three months without any major upset was pretty good. Six or seven months with someone living in your house, or vice versa, for us to be living in someone else's house, may not be possible to get through without someone getting upset.
Reminder to self: Time to use my communication skills and education on her, and sit down and have the conversation--when THIS happens, it makes ME feel this. Don't gang up on her. Avoid the "you" sentences, no "never," no "always" sentences, use calm tones to make sure it's not a confrontation. Since we largely won't see her until this weekend (she's working 6 a.m. to 9 p.m. all week), and the kids won't see her at all, everything will be calmer by that time.
Lisa in NC6 -
Good morning and welcome to the new ladies!
Becca ... praying for your husband and you...
grnwoodtree ... probably the biggest reason I come back to this group of ladies is that I can vent, complain, whine and no-one tells me to suck it up ... well except Pip who straps on a boot ... instead I get support, suggestions, empathy. No one in my physical world is interested, but these ladies understand. I'm with the others ... eat a pizza. And keep coming back. Someone here may say something that makes all the difference to you.
Mondays are "reset" days for me and that's just what I'm doing.
Beth near Buffalo6 -
I know that the path to spiritual growth is paved with huge challenges. Right now, the challenges in my family are health related. It helps me to read about the challenges that the others of you face (houseguests, housemates, caring for grandchildren, concerns about children, finances, etc.). It helps me to read how you find the strength and wisdom to deal with these challenges and how you come out better for having dealt with your life. Thank you for what you have added to my life. 9
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Becca: Thinking of you and your DH today and hoping all goes well.
Wendy: What’s up with that lady? My heart goes out to you. I have a widowed BnL that expects us to pay every time we go out. I have entertained him for the last 25 yrs every time we had a family dinner. My husband gives him a very expensive bottle of scotch every Christmas. He gives us a fruit cake. Ugh!
Grnwoodtree: You sound very depressed. Prayers going out for you.
Kim: The chicken roll ups sound delicious. I am sorry the roommate is not working out but I am glad you are acknowledging it and taking a stand.
Heather: Good thoughts for you and son and his family. We have been going through the same with our son (42) and I just keep praying that he stands strong. As far as I know, I think he has been sober for going on 6 months. He is attending AA and it has been a God send.
Sharon: Waving at you!
NY Karen: Hope the confusion with the orchestra gets worked out to your satisfaction.
Lisa: Hugs! What in the world would your daughter do without you and her dad?
We have to meet the grand kids at their bus stop today and bring them to our house. Then we have to get them to their church where they are getting classes to get ready to be baptized.
My DH and I have decided that we will start having our big meal of the day at lunch time. In the evening, it will be up to each of us if we need something more. I think this will be good because I have gotten where I dread planning and cooking each evening.
Carol in GA
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I cannot keep up with the posts especially as I am trying to go more social media free on the weekends. But I agree with everybody who said Wendy, no more visits with these people! There is no law that says you have to endure this kind of treatment. You sound like such a great person and your decency and kindness is wasted on them.
I feel for you Lisa, about the grown children in the same house as I have had that since August with no real end in sight. Love her to pieces and she needs the support for now, but Father Time is looking over our shoulders every single day. A lot of progress but so far to go! And a daily struggle to say the right thing and not say the wrong thing. And the next time I lose her I want it to be for all the right reasons, and that we will both be stronger and more secure.
I am facing one of those milestone birthday years next month and am trying very hard to be grateful that the fact I have made it this far is a gift denied to so many, but it is still a bit unsettling to think about having my days of pensioning in that side view mirror much closer than they appear. Not much for parties but feel I need to commemorate it by doing something positive and fun.
Hugs to all suffering with health and financial and family problems and early Valentine's wishes to everybody!
Betty ROC 3 -
Hello and Happy Monday! I am not new to MFP, but just found this group. You all seem so nice and concerned about each other, I would love to join in when I can. I am turning 65 this year - what happened to the years..... my kids are grown and out of the house but not married yet and no grands. I still work full-time because financially I have to but I am feeling somewhat unfulfilled and even bored at times. I hope to get to know you all better. Feel free to add me as a friend.
Ellen in NJ5 -
We have a sunny day here....glad the windows are clean.
PIP,wish that was my meal on the grill.....
KIM,I also agree with Heather.....She has great advice to offer.
Years ago DD got stuck with an electric bill while sharing an apt with 3 “good”friends at college.Her Dad gave her a real talking to.No one takes him where $$ is concerned & she knew that. It turned into a great lesson learned for her & the used to be friends.
HEATHER. I’m not qualified to comment on your problem.You know your family well & are there
to help. After that,we all choose our own path & what will be,will be.Doesn’t keep us from worry
ALLIE,best of luck tomorrow.
LISA,you wouldn’t be Lisa..... if you did not like your guy being taken advantage of.Nobody does it better than a DD.
Just leaves a bad taste in your mouth.After a while,maybe you can tell her she needs a baby sitter for wk ends ?
After all,she will be needing almost a full time sitter or in home care in just 3 mos.Does she have someone in mind?
Well,DH is tired of me b***hing at him & has Dr appt today.When I went 4 wks ago,it cost $148 for him to listen to my lungs & said it was a virus.Prob same with him,but please Lord,not 4 wks worth.
Time for my early lunch.Had a fresh pear for breakfast,was so good.Have golf taped,so gonna watch that.
Enjoying my lazy day.
Been buying yarn to crochet a scarf,but have managed to forget it......several times.
Pat in Ohio3 -
Wendy I agree it sounds like these people are not true friends by they way they treat you. Sounds like they live in entitlement land.
Next time they try to impose themselves on you just say this is not a good time for a visit. (No explanation.) No that date won't work either. Sorry busy then too! It is our turn to visit you! You get the idea. If they press for details just say that is our business. The less said the less they can worm their way in uninvited. I have a feeling they have heard this routine from others they have tried to get a free vacation. They may not be as well off as you think. Some know how to put on a good show. They may be spending beyond their means on their lifestyle. That is their problem not yours.
If your DH wants to be friends with husband he can find a way. If DH persist and wants them to visit be honest and say we cannot financially afford them.
We went to an exhibit on 1968 at our history center with friends. Our favorite was the music quiz. They were turbulent times too. The exhibit was well done.
Winter is colder than average this year. Snow not so much. I am ready for a warm up. Margaret
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I think I have body dysmorphic disorder (just kidding, I know I don't actually have the disorder). However, I just don't see myself as fat as I am. I pick up clothes that are way too small for me and think they look really too big. It's crazy. Here is my picture from this morning (trying to look as skinny as I can). I just don't think I look like I'm 194 pounds. But when I see how people react to me I realize that they see me as 194 pounds. Last year I asked a man for an extra large fleece coat. He brought me and XXL saying he thought it would be a better fit. I really need to drop 40 pounds. I've been doing the Mediterranean diet for over two weeks now (not to lose weight) and have kept my calories for the most part under my daily requirement (between 1200 and 1500 most days). I dropped 4 pounds the first couple of days and none since.
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Welcome to Startover Monday!!
Becca - so glad the ERCP is scheduled and they had a bed for you there. Happy to hear your DH is in good enough spirits to be on the naughty side, lol.
My DH is a little worried that he'll be "stripped down" when he goes in for an ultrasound next week and doesn't want a female tech doing it. I'll likely be in the room with him if they'll let me while it is being done. I told him they'll be discreet and keep him covered up.
Heather - now, that's a great idea about your DS taking up running. Do you think he'd go for it?
Carol - wonderful idea about making lunch your main meal and grabbing whatever for supper. I totally hear you on what to fix!!??!!. I kind of had supper planned yesterday but didn't feel that well so told DH I was running to McDonalds for a filet of fish! Picked up a couple for him. Thank goodness for "start over" Mondays.
Wendy - GGRR! If I was there I'd pretend I was a public health nurse and put a sign on your door that your house is quarantined because of some new flu! No visitors for the foreseeable future!! Stay away!!
Good that your DH was doing dishes. Does he know how you really feel about them? Any way you could make a plan/policy for the next time they/he visits? Sounds like the guys enjoy each other's company - they take off and fish and give YOU a vacation, lol.
I keep replaying your scenario in my head. Your visitors remind me of a work-acquaintance I'd go to lunch with. I'd normally have something cheap like a $2 bowl of soup and water (this was 30 years ago!) and she'd have a burger with everything, Pepsi, etc. She'd always insist we split the check. She was from a wealthy Seattle family. I wasn't good at standing up for myself very well back then so after a few times I was conveniently not available for lunch and the "friendship" went away.
These days, I'd have no qualms about telling her SHE was a cheapskate and she needs to pay her fair share, lol.
This past year, DH been getting calls from a childhood acquaintance on the east coast who evidently got our number from his brother. This fella keeps calling and wanting to "come visit". DH hasn't spoken to him in what - 60 years and really has nothing in common with him.
DH and I have agreed on a plan to deal with folks like this. If this fellow keeps pressing, tell him it would be nice to visit with him for AN AFTERNOON and we're NO LONGER SET UP FOR OVERNIGHT GUESTS. Period. There are many nice motels in the area that would love his business.
Oh - just read Margaret's thoughts. Great ideas.
Wessecg - now, you look terrific!
Before I forget - someone is having a birthday today! Terry? Sharon? Joyce? Was going to write it down. Drat!! Please confess so we can shower you with Happy Birthdays!!!
Lanette
Beautiful, sunny, and COLD (25f) SW WA State
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Back from a big shop. Of course, we only went out for a few bits!
We are having homemade blinis with faux caviar and creme fraiche for lunch on Valentine's Day and then fillet steak in the evening. I wanted some nice veggies to go with it, so now we've got baby fennel and spinach. I like my steak well peppered with garlic butter.
I also bought three cards for friends who have birthdays soon. I need another for a niece. I've stopped a present now as she is 19 this year. Don't suppose she will be impressed with just a card, but rules is rules and we did the same with the others.
Tonight is fish soup.
I haven’t cooked pancakes in years for Pancake Day, but DH was taken by my idea of having them for lunch tomorrow. I will still have my usual amount of calories, but enjoy a pancake. A nice change.
This morning I did some editing - hooray! ! ! It is very painstaking and that is not my forte. :noway:
Wessecq - You look great. Probably, like I used to, you carry your weight well and scrub up well. A good frame. No way you are an XXL. But it's how you feel inside that counts. I'm bothering myself about my few pesky pounds, but no one else can see it. I can and that's the important thing. Only you can judge how you feel.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxx3 -
Good Morning Ladies,
Michele, my knee is better, but still a bit swollen. Because of that I'm going to stay off it as much as I can for today. It's cloudy, but cold. The rain has stopped and the dampness is all but gone. Grnwoodtree, Welcome. This is a great group to be in. Eat what makes you happy. That's not to say that you shouldn't eat healthy, but that you should also eat what you love. Becca, prayers for DH and (((hugs))) to you. Hope all is well soon. To all the other ladies, have a great Monday.
Becky2 -
margaretturk wrote: »Wendy I agree it sounds like these people are not true friends by they way they treat you. Sounds like they live in entitlement land.
Next time they try to impose themselves on you just say this is not a good time for a visit. (No explanation.) No that date won't work either. Sorry busy then too! It is our turn to visit you! You get the idea. If they press for details just say that is our business. The less said the less they can worm their way in uninvited. I have a feeling they have heard this routine from others they have tried to get a free vacation. They may not be as well off as you think. Some know how to put on a good show. They may be spending beyond their means on their lifestyle. That is their problem not yours. Margaret
Margaret - It is our turn to visit you. Priceless. Clapping, lol.
Lanette
Giggling in SW WA State2 -
wessecg: You look great. I am just the opposite. I buy everything to big and then give it away. Ugh! What shall we call you? Where are you from?
Heather: Had to look up faux caviar and blinis. At one point my son worked in a French restaurant and I had stuffed crepes for lunch. Delicious!
Wonderful advice to Wendy!
Carol in GA2 -
Have to drive 2 hrs to doc appointment for DH’s hernia. It has been really hurting him so I’m a bit worried about the outcome of the surgery. Will find out today when that will happen.
Walking going to be a challenge today with all the traveling.
RV Rita3 -
Wendy How rude. You indicated the guest husband was worse and my imagination is going wild.
I don’t have any sage advice, grew up VERY practically and quite frankly I’d have no problem saying, “I’m sorry I can’t afford to buy your “movie ticket, groceries, ____” and step away from the cashier. I’d flat out tell her I needed gas money if she wanted to go anywhere (unless it was somewhere I already intended to go). On the other hand, the cheese & house keeping comments would leave me raging and unable to defend myself. So I do empathize but don’t have anything to offer. I would certainly try talking to hubby again.
Michelle The screen is so beat up! Kidd Kirby is the only screen climber, but he’s a big heavy cat! It sounds like you are really enjoying FL, and I’m a bit envious. I’d so love a pool! As for body, I’ve decided at this age, if I look good in clothes, I’m doing well. Since I’ve had considerable cellulite since my early 20’s I have never been comfortable with how my body looked anyway.
Lanette I worry about the outdoor kitties, it has been cold again! But they do seem to be well. We see and feed Sweetheart at least once a day, and Applesauce is around several times s week. Mr Mustachios was here for a couple of weeks but I haven’t seen him lately
. How’s that foot?
Becca, Heather, Lisa, etc Hugs and wishes that the family troubles and travails smooth out happily and quickly.
Me, I’m getting better, will walk to work today. Wed and Thurs were in bed all day and I took it very easy through the weekend. Still some sinus irritation left and a pretty wicked sounding cough - but the leaky faucet that my eyes and nose were last week has mercifully stopped.
Rye
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