Less Alcohol- May 2018- One Day at a Time
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islandbeez wrote: »@JulieAL1969 Good job sticking to your limit and avoiding the stop on the way home. I am the exact same way, one equals 15 for me, or at least the desire for 15 more! It's not worth the work, it is so much easier for me to just not have the one right now...maybe forever....but I will deal with that later ;-) I remember what that woman said on the AE FB page, "It's easier to stay out than to get back out." She had been AF for 17 years when she let her guard down. I am tired of letting my guard down!
I just read a quote that said, "Don't let the weekend be your weak end." I hope we all get through this weekend with our goals met!
I felt almost like a shark in a frenzy. In my mind on the way home, I was almost panicking. Thinking - I should get more alcohol and that was the only thing on my mind.
Thanks for your kind words. IT is so much easier to set a hard limit. No drinking. Like you said.
17 years of sobriety is an eternity. Don't you always feel so badly when someone says they're back to drinking after years without. It crushes me to hear that. I feel so sorry for them.
Great quote! Xo5 -
Yeah... phone... except I post on a 65 inch tv connected to a computer. I give everyone permission to laugh at me now.
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Hang in there everyone!!! So nice to see people sharing and supporting each other.
I find it challenging to not replace booze with food, especially sweets...sugar withdrawal!!!
On a positive note, I'm clear headed and more focused at work despite the sleepless nights.
Let's just get through today!4 -
I have a white noise machine to sleep with. It really helps me. My sleep is so much better one week AF. I woke up on my own at 5 am and was wide awake. I had already given myself permission to sleep in and work out post work but I was so awake, I got up and went to the gym.
@JulieAL1969 great job on sticking to your limit. I can so relate to having one drink out and wanting more.
Hugs @JenT304. I lost my dad a few years ago but luckily my mom did not want to get rid of their house.4 -
57ish hours until I am tested. About 61 hours until I am clear of the draw. I wish I were more confident but I would not bet money on this outcome. The day is coming that I break this rule I am just not sure it will be on the 6th.[/quote]
@NovusDies I must have missed something, what are you getting tested for?0 -
looneycatblue wrote: »@NovusDies I must have missed something, what are you getting tested for?
It is kind of convoluted but my moderation protocols allow me to drink on the 6th which I really don't want to do this time. It should be simple but it won't be. So the test is can I break out of this routine in favor of one I like better?
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Two drinks last night, which is one more than I wanted to have on week nights.
I didn't even really want the second, I was just feeling . . . petulant and rebellious against myself (if that makes sense?). I got my head together and didn't have a third. I felt like a teenager deliberately breaking the rules to provoke a showdown with a parent, except I was also the parent. It was dumb and I felt dumb so my goal is to remember that it doesn't feel good to be petty.
What was I going to do, ground myself?
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Is anyone drinking for Cinco De Mayo?? I plan on having just 2 glasses of wine and that is it. How about everyone else?1
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I've been doing better than expected this week. For May my limit is 5 a night, sounds like a lot. Anyway, I am stopping at 4 most nights. Since I was drinking double that last year, I'm feeling pretty good about it.7
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@ErikNJ, I recognized your kitty from the get-go because I have his/her twin black cat! I love him dearly, but my husband is ridiculous. He literally heats up a little mahi-mahi for him every evening. I've warned the cat that if something happens to my husband not to expect me to continue that routine!
@JulieAL, I can totally relate. I'm not saying "forever" because that just creates mental gymnastics I'd rather avoid. But, one drink leads to such cravings that it becomes not worth it. I'm not sure what the answer is, either, but today is Day 12 AF and it's so much easier than dabbling.
@NovusDies, please don't take this as a criticism. It's not. But the mental anguish you're going through with that countdown sounds exhausting. I hope you get the outcome you want!
I was up until 3 a.m. again this morning but I'm kind of happy about it. I got a call yesterday offering me an interview for a job that feels like it would be my dream job. Monday morning at 9 a.m. My present job ends May 31. It would be pretty awesome to step right into something I like just as much or better. I'm so glad I'll be clear-headed Monday morning at 9 a.m.--even if I've been up til 3! Please send good thoughts.
Not drinking for Cinco de Mayo even though I'm going to San Antonio!! Yay!8 -
@JulieAL1969 - I'd count last night as a huge victory. You practiced moderation successfully, so many kudos. You did it and you definitely strengthened that control muscle. It's got to give you at least a little confidence that you are getting a handle on these situations. I absolutely know that feeling of one isn't enough and we're off to the races with three or beyond. I'm not the biggest mixed drink person, but, man, I adore a good cosmo. I could easily drink three.2
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@NovusDies - oh I totally get the scheduling of the moderation. I've stopped because it was turning into a requirement that I drink X on X days. I'm now shooting for "occasion" drinking, which mostly means away from home. I've had, I believe, two glasses of wine in the last three weeks, and they've all been away from home. Right now that plan is working pretty well for me.4
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Is anyone drinking for Cinco De Mayo?? I plan on having just 2 glasses of wine and that is it. How about everyone else?
Not only is it Cinco de Mayo it's Derby Day! Tacos and Mint Juleps!
We have friends that have a big party every year for the Derby but we decided to pass this year, we are going to hang out with the kids as it is my youngest's birthday weekend. So I will probably have a couple glasses of wine or a beer with our tacos, but still practicing my mindful moderation. Sunday we have our annual carnival at church which includes lots of beer, wine and yummy foods (Catholic Church in an all Italian neighborhood!) and since it is my son's actual birthday we are taking the extended family and making that his "party". So I'm sure I will have a couple of beers at that as well.
I may skip drinking tonight even though my "plan" allows for drinking on the weekend - I've not felt too tempted this week and I'm really trying to get in a better habit of longer stretches of no drinking than with drinking. M-Th so far this week has been no problem, it would be good to throw in an alcohol free Friday just for good measure!
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janejellyroll wrote: »Two drinks last night, which is one more than I wanted to have on week nights.
I didn't even really want the second, I was just feeling . . . petulant and rebellious against myself (if that makes sense?). I got my head together and didn't have a third. I felt like a teenager deliberately breaking the rules to provoke a showdown with a parent, except I was also the parent. It was dumb and I felt dumb so my goal is to remember that it doesn't feel good to be petty.
What was I going to do, ground myself?
That makes too much sense to me. I wish it didn't. Where do I get off telling ME what to do? I am not the boss of me!
Good job getting back before the third drink. It may not be the victory you were hoping for but still a victory.
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WinoGelato wrote: »Is anyone drinking for Cinco De Mayo?? I plan on having just 2 glasses of wine and that is it. How about everyone else?
Not only is it Cinco de Mayo it's Derby Day! Tacos and Mint Juleps!
We have friends that have a big party every year for the Derby but we decided to pass this year, we are going to hang out with the kids as it is my youngest's birthday weekend. So I will probably have a couple glasses of wine or a beer with our tacos, but still practicing my mindful moderation. Sunday we have our annual carnival at church which includes lots of beer, wine and yummy foods (Catholic Church in an all Italian neighborhood!) and since it is my son's actual birthday we are taking the extended family and making that his "party". So I'm sure I will have a couple of beers at that as well.
I may skip drinking tonight even though my "plan" allows for drinking on the weekend - I've not felt too tempted this week and I'm really trying to get in a better habit of longer stretches of no drinking than with drinking. M-Th so far this week has been no problem, it would be good to throw in an alcohol free Friday just for good measure!
Sounds like a good plan. I was thrown at first when u said lots of drinking at church until i saw Catholic LMAO! 1 -
@donimfp It is really not as bad as it seems. I am trying to remind myself so it doesn't sneak up on me. That will probably sound totally ridiculous and stupid but I don't want my auto-pilot to engage. I won't do the countdown here anymore though if it is bothering anyone.
@kittybenn While I am not glad you had to go through this I am glad to have your experience as reinforcement.3 -
@NovusDies, your countdown isn't bothering anyone (certainly not me). We all have our own approaches. Counting down would drive me bananas, but it obviously fits your style. Whatever works!!3
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I only celebrate Cinco de Cuatro.3
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I will not be drinking for 5/5 - Kentucky Derby day. I will have to stay in and watch and enjoy the hats on TV. I don't dare go to any bar. That's day 13 of my 30 day challenge.6
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@NovusDies, your countdown isn't bothering anyone (certainly not me). We all have our own approaches. Counting down would drive me bananas, but it obviously fits your style. Whatever works!!
It is just a daily reminder. I don't dwell on it all day. Part of it too is trying to make a big deal out of it here so I can use that as added ammunition when the fight does come. If I am victorious then I can come in here and get several pats on the back for my effort.3 -
It is just a daily reminder. I don't dwell on it all day. Part of it too is trying to make a big deal out of it here so I can use that as added ammunition when the fight does come. If I am victorious then I can come in here and get several pats on the back for my effort.[/quote]
Brilliant!
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a friend and i were talking about how we feel regarding the mental freedom that accompanies drinking. personally i feel we are both kind of repressed by our personal surroundings LOL. be that as it may - i am doing the best i can - in my circumstances not to allow the bottle to get the better of me, as there is a familial history of alcohol abuse wayyyy back. *long long story!!*4
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HI Friends, I must admit I am failing myself. Since I"m a teacher, I'd give me a D+ in the area of being alcohol free. Yesterday was the one cosmo, and today is TWO cosmos. Crazy , I know. I'm away for the weekend. That's no excuse. But I am being careless in my choices.
Positive note: I brought my tea kettle and a nice mug and tea bags, so I will switch to that. I'm scrapbooking with friends, and we chat, drink and scrapbook. Now, I have to break that pattern and past practice.
Love this thread! I dont need any feedback, but I like that I can write freely and honestly. Win, draw or lose. Xo11 -
@JulieAL1969, you created this thread that is a wonderful outlet for us all to honestly post our “win, lose, or draw” experiences. And we all have plenty of all three. Thanks!7
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Good morning friends! A new day dawns here in the Midwest. We finally have high temperatures and a bright glowing orb in the sky has appeared.
The result of two days of drinking is staring at me in the mirror. Puffy eyes and ruddy skin. Great reminders to those of you abstaining for the month, alcohol sure does drain your appearance sometimes.
For my moderating friends, the weekend is here. Hope you're doing well within your goals. Xo6 -
Good morning, all!
It was a very busy day yesterday, so I didn't get to post. I'm still AF in May, going for Day 5. I have a wedding to attend today, but there won't be any alcohol served. But there will be plenty of calorie-laden cake and punch.
My weight was up this morning. However, my old scale quit midweek, so I hope the gain is the result of changing to the new scale. Either way, I'm recommitting to being mindful of my calories and not eating so close to maintenance. Maybe my next weigh-in will be better.
Have a great Saturday everyone!6 -
I am not a happy camper. So much for nothing hard this month. Instead of worrying about tomorrow maybe I should have been thinking about last night. I felt it creeping over the edges and then, ah well... I am sure you can figure out the rest.8
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Hello,.. i want to start clean life again. I have been a stranger but I've had this group in the back of my mind knowing i once made a committle that was the best and i shouldnt go back on it.
I know, i need to make a clear choice and stick with it. I want to start fresh again.
I have been contemplating closing up my account for a while to start a complete new start but i also feel i need to stay.
I have recently made a resolution abt a few things that i feel are important to me and this is one of them. I have been having the occasional one off drink. Like today i had a std drink size red wine with a roast. With the rest of the time filled out with soda water.
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I'd like to share one of the region's i have aquite drink to myself is i feel sad, or lonely. I have let go holding it in and want to share it incase others are a little bit the same.
There are other causes of me drinking but its not ' on the quite ' or alone..., they would be socially..
Anyhow this is something that i found
https://youtu.be/S5nAdEgH0Ms
This guy made me laugh
https://goo.gl/images/T2emLa
https://youtu.be/CjUJXJ3y4xM
This movie is the cutest kids movie
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