Less Alcohol- May 2018- One Day at a Time

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  • Ericabayer
    Ericabayer Posts: 1 Member
    Yes I need this too.
  • janejellyroll
    janejellyroll Posts: 25,763 Member
    NovusDies wrote: »
    Yay for May.

    First goal is to skip my scheduled allowance on the 6th. As some of you know I have not been loving the almost commitment I have felt towards my allowance days. My second goal is no hard liquor this month at all. On the 20th I plan to stick with wine which I have never had more than 2 glasses in one sitting in the history of my drinking. Now that I say that I hope that is true on the 20th. Ah well... have to live and learn... right?

    I see @janejellyroll is here. I can't trust anyone who likes cake more than pie. :tongue:

    We all have our flaws! :p
  • SpanishFusion
    SpanishFusion Posts: 261 Member
    DX2JX2 wrote: »

    Either way, my main mechanism to reduce alcohol has been to not let myself have a drink until after dinner. Whereas I really feel like I want a drink before I eat (or while I'm preparing dinner), that desire tends to go away after I've eaten. I'm not sure I understand it, but I'm sure it has something to do with 'depriving' myself on multiple fronts at the same time (smoking, food, and alcohol).

    For me, the reason is because I'm hungry and I sooth hunger with drink. The earlier I eat dinner, the more successful I am in moderation. :smiley:
  • NovusDies
    NovusDies Posts: 8,940 Member
    nrwilhelm wrote: »
    I'd love to hear advice on how to move away from the feeling of needing alcohol to unwind on the weekend. It's caused some unneeded rifts in my relationship as well as help stalled my weight loss!

    If you are like me, which you probably are not. You might ask yourself if that is a convenient lie to justify drinking or if you really need it to unwind? I never liked my own reason so this was a lie I would tell myself. For instance my family can be stressful and after they visited I might say "after that I need a drink" but the truth was I was going to drink anyway.

    If I were being really honest with myself I would say that there have been less than a dozen times over the years (I am counting 4 right now) that I actually self-medicated due to super high anxiety.

    That is not to say you are lying to yourself. Different people have different situations. I am just voicing my experience.
  • NovusDies
    NovusDies Posts: 8,940 Member
    @donimfp Crap. I am close to tearing up.
  • NovusDies
    NovusDies Posts: 8,940 Member
    JonCo1980 wrote: »
    I'm in on an alcohol-free May.

    I've been wanting to cut down for a while, and now that I'm back on MFP again, I see all the extra calories I've been drinking. Plus, I always feel better when I give myself a break.

    Welcome! Somehow it is easier to hit a goal when you put it out there like you have. Sounds like you have experience skipping a month but if you want to talk about it you will find this thread very supportive and understanding. After all, they haven't kicked me out yet.
  • fitinitin
    fitinitin Posts: 16 Member
    rsclause wrote: »
    I have been stuck in a rut. My routine when I get home is two glasses of scotch on the rocks. Then a half bottle of wine and a craft beer to finish. I have started getting up at 4:30 to run now that the weather has improved. That in turn will hopefully decrease my intake. I guess I am not really trying yet but I am thinking about it.

    Think the morning run will only help with reducing alcohol dependence if for no other reason than you’ll run further, faster, harder. That will motivate you to keep at it. More NAD+ going to good use and not to metabolizing alcohol.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,371 Member
    edited May 2018
    https://www.alcoholexperiment.com/home

    For those of you who like a specific plan or need some structure for your May , here is the link to the 30 day challenge with Annie Grace, the author of This Naked Mind.
    For anyone trying to cut back, best wishes. I think there's only 2 percent of the population who simply cannot moderate (hey , that's me! ). So, most of you can moderate successfully. I love how you're all writing down your goals on this thread or even write it on paper. Moderation is a great way to cut calories and reduce that belly bloat. Keep us updated. We love hearing from all of you. Xo
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,371 Member
    Here's a guy I listen to when I need motivation. His name is Kevin O'Hara and he is always hiking and breathing hard (LOL) when he speaks, but he has some good wisdom.
    https://youtu.be/Qiueo1nVyF8
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 4,371 Member
    One more video. This is Craig Beck , the Stop Drinking Expert and author of Alcohol Lied to Me.
    He's a straight talker and this is more for people who cannot moderate. But if you want some motivation, listen to some of these videos.
    https://youtu.be/T3eIiS-Rl4k
  • donimfp
    donimfp Posts: 795 Member
    @kpsyche, thanks for that insight. I can’t imagine not thinking about alcohol fairly regularly but apparently there’s hope!
  • Orphia
    Orphia Posts: 7,097 Member
    I haven't drunk alcohol since January 31. Three months or more, and I forgot to commemorate it till now!

    (I used to drink a beer and one or two glasses of wine every day.)

    Enjoying my streak, and not worrying about if/when I will end it.

    Canuk2015 wrote: »
    I've been pretty much drinking a bottle of wine every night for the last 4 years. The most I've gone is 2 nights of no alcohol. Every morning I regret it and try to recall what I binge ate after the bottle is gone and I go to bed. I'm disgusted with myself and the weight I have gained as a result. I'm joining this group for motivation and inspiration because I feel like I'm ready and need to change. I'm 43. widowed, mom to 3 kids

    @Canuk2015 Hugs, and welcome. Your post jumped out at me.

    One of the main things that got me to really start thinking about having a break from alcohol was something a friend on MFP said, which I've mentioned in earlier threads.

    Be kind to "Tomorrow You".

    Don't lumber yourself with feeling terrible or feeling guilty in the morning.

    The same person who is having another, and another, and another drink, is the same person who will wake up feeling like crap.

    Pay it forward to yourself. You'd be kind to a stranger. Be kind to Tomorrow You.

    cammeer wrote: »
    As someone whose hobbies are growing hops, brewing, winemaking, cidermaking (cider and beer always on tap in the house), drinking in moderation is a lifestyle and a daily challenge for me. I don't like the feeling of being drunk, so I'm rarely there...but alcohol calories are still too many calories, and hard on all of your body's systems. I try my best to look at what moderation behaviors look like on a daily basis, and I thought I'd share some of the things that trip me up and/or help me:
    • Alternative drinks like tea: I try to always have some kind of tasty decaf herbal tea in a pitcher in the fridge. This helps with wine cravings, or just wanting to have something in hand if people are over. It can also be mixed into a weaker cocktail or wine spritzer if the flavors are right.
    • Sparkling water: Always have it on your shopping list. Or on tap. Maybe it sounds gross to you, but I mix sparkling water with cider or wine so I can feel like I'm still having something.
    • Challenge -- Idle drinking while performing chores, hobbies, reading a book, or on a long distance phone call. This is something I've been trying to overcome. Do I seriously need a glass of wine while I garden, stack wood, or play the piano? Absolutely not. I should be completely present. Do I need a glass of wine while talking to my mom? Maybe...but I shouldn't. I can do laundry, take a walk, or have a glass of herbal tea during these phone calls.
    • Challenge -- Friends over. This is a hard one. This house is known for its cocktails and beer, so there is always drinking when people are over. I'm not quite sure yet how to temper this other than putting something else in my hand, or focusing on being a good host and making sure food and music is on point.
    • Challenge -- Remembering that alcohol doesn't really enhance social interactions or cool experiences. Sometimes it does smooth awkward interactions or grease the wheels, but only in moderation; it's a fine line between fun and even more awkward. I never regret being sober or feeling great during those times when good memories get made. But I always regret being the drunk person. Plus, alcohol always complicates getting home from the thing.
    • Drinking should not = relax. I used to have a drink right when I got home from work. And then a couple more either while cooking, while eating dinner, while reading a book before bed. It wouldn't feel like the day was complete unless I finished the drink routine. I've cut this back to one or less than one, and realized how much I was self-medicating from my workday and escaping from the things I wasn't handling in life in general. Now I'm trying to incorporate a hobby, yoga, or music in place of the drink. Idle hands.........


    @cammeer Wow, fantastic insights! Needed quoting again for latecomers. Great to have you in here.
  • salleewins
    salleewins Posts: 2,308 Member
    Thank you and that is inspiring to me, too @Orphia I like "Pay it forward to yourself. You'd be kind to a stranger. Be kind to Tomorrow You." I have been trying to treat myself better. Treating others better than myself has helped get me to drinking like I was.

    Congratulations to everyone on making May goals!