WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2018
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Son is sleeping upstairs. Husband put son's big @$$ tv on our stand, and to be honest it was just too big for our eyeballs! Also his new tv wasn't cooperating with our old vhs/ DVD player. We have a huge cabinet of vhs tapes and ends so we want to still use them. So we traded back. It was nice of son to offer though eh? He's such a great kid, a thoughtful young man, and as his momma, I just don't see why women don't snag him up! Haahaa! Now I've noticed that his Naval job of being an aircraft mechanic has taken a toll on him. His hands and arms are riddled with scars from hot parts, scrapes, by working on her engines. It's a physically demanding job. I am not sure if he's accident prone, or really gets in there to get the job done!
Bought some Kelloggs protein cinnamon crunch cereal. It's really good, for snacking, or putting on yogurt. I just have to use the measuring cup when I do eat it! .75 of a cup! No taking the box to the couch and munching!
Son is working to pack up his garage today, moving his non-working scooters to our garage. Plus all the tools! My job today is moving all the Christmas boxes from the garage to the closet under the stairs. Also moving from our garage the 3 plastic bins of family history stuff! My dear husband inherited books and photo albums of his Maternal grandmother, from his Mom. But really all his research was on his side, The Gossetts. I had told him to give that all to his sister. State to his family that he was concentrating on his father's side, and that she could concentrate on the Moms side. He stated that everyone has delivered him the historian of the family. Oye!
Well time to get busy!
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Felica - I am not sure that you probably took what I had to say in the manner that I meant it. I agree that no man should ever hold back a woman by using having 'sex' with him is right. What I don't understand is why wait 15 or 20 years to bring it up? I'm also sorry that you took what I said about 'short' skirts as well. When I am talking 'short skirts' I am talking about the ones that barely cover their @$$. I 'think' they are asking for comments or more by dressing that provocatively. Just as much as wearing sequins on a see-through dress that only cover their nipples. It is like 'let's see just how far I can go pushing the edge'. I guess that is why I seem to no longer wear dresses unless I have a slip that fits under it. I don't like my legs and crotch (albeit just an outline) to show through my dress/skirt. What I am tired of is the "Me, too!" movement. I think it has run its course and now the women coming up saying "Me, too!" seems to be just for 'attention'. But, it also works both ways. Women in position can make a man's life miserable by holding her power over him and not allowing him due credit for how he is doing his job. I've worked with both men and women; never had a 'female boss'; but, I really do not think I would have ever wanted one after having a senior partner's secretary crawl my @$$ in front of him. That backfired on her … he called me into his office and handed a one line letter that she had typed and sent out and it had 7 mistakes in it (including his name). But, after a really bad experience with a 'female' MD - I hope I never have to have another one. I was about 19 when I had my first adult seizure and the Greek older gentleman who was treating me - I loved him, then a female gynecologist came in - with the longest bright red nails and said she was going to examine me. "OH HELL-O KITTY, no you aren't!"
But, I am so comfortable with the 'male' MDs I go to and because of my 'bad experience' with a female MD, I can be very vocal. Last time I went to my gynecologist of 43 years; I was told to strip down from the waist. I got wrapped up in a sheet as always and told the nurse that I 'hoped' they never went to gowns or paper gowns. She said, 'oh no, Dr. G would never allow that to occur'. Then he came in and sat on the stool and was about to lift the sheet up and I yelled, 'WAIT, I did not take my panties off!" The nurse pulled the sheet off my right leg and held it up between me and the MD and I could hear him mumbling, 'Gee, Lenora, as long as you have been coming to me, do you really think when you are told to strip down it meant 'down to your panties'? I told him they were 'lace' and I could not even tell I had them on. They got a good laugh out of that one. Even when I go to my GP; after he has finished examining me, the nurse will leave the room so that I can talk to him - about anything. My GYN exams me and then I am taking into his office to talk to him. I've been to MDs that give you paper pants and gowns. I feel more exposed in that situation.
Michelle - Tell Denise to go to the liquor stores and get boxes from them. They cannot be overpacked and they are much stronger than other boxes because they usually have an extra piece of cardboard in the bottom of them. She might be told they get their deliveries on a certain day and that she would just need to come by a certain time on that day - they usually do not have any space to 'hold' boxes for anyone.
Rebecca - I would not expect for your son's sorry roommate to do anything to help him, if he would not even pay his part of the rent.
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Just wondering; does it give you nervous knots in your belly to know that people are getting this glimpse into your personal life? I think I would have them. Just reading seems almost like an intrusion. Sending much love to your heart so generous to share with others.
KJ (Kelly)
I wondered about that too .... I get nervous knowing people are able to look at my life through this thread ... although I don't share anything truly personal here.
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OregonMother wrote: »Just to clarify. No one is going to jail or losing his job and family for telling a woman she looks pretty. We are talking about people who are actively trying to look under a woman's skirt -- I don't care how short it is. Forcing women to perform oral sex. Raping women. Threatening to destroy careers if sex acts are not performed. People who *kitten* in front of others to show power and to intimidate. I don't feel sorry for any of them. Enough is never enough. Until all men decide to treat all people with respect and stop trying to retain power by threatening us with their penis, victims need to speak out. I am not going to get into the psychology of intimidation that happens against women who rebuff harassment and sexual advances. I am sure there are many of us here who have been called a b@tch more times then we can count. And how many of us have been told that "boys will be boys," or told that we are somehow asking for it because we are women. For no other reason than that. All of those accusations drive victims to silence and in turn create more victims. Where is the sympathy and compassion for us?
Felicia, a victim of workplace, school, construction, and truck driver harassment
I agree with you. As a mother of a daughter who has encountered harassment in the workplace, the damage it causes the victim effects all areas of their lives. It will never be enough until it stops.1 -
Nurse Karen, welcome. Both my mom and dad were nurses. My dad was in the Air Force for 20years and my mom’s last nursing job was as an intensive care nurse. I applaud you.
Picked up a journal for my DD and I to record our 251VT travels. Going to get some stickers to decorate the pages. We thought we could take a picture in front of the sign of each of the 251 towns and cities we visit and put them in our journal. Can’t wait to get started and see how long it takes us to complete all the towns.
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Hi Gals,
Machka – One time you mentioned that DH didn’t seem like the same personality, with his physical and memory coming back is his personality too?
Allie – I’m with Barbie I don’t remember the photos of ZenDen Patio –
Katla – I would ask the price of running a trail ride for a couple of you, and then just pass that info on, and if the other gal is not comfortable with that cost she could negotiate for herself.
Felicia - well said.
Terry – what a great idea to see all 251 towns in VT… I wonder about doing something like that in CA I’ll have to see if there is something for the towns even in my county… CA has way more than 251 towns….
Smiles
Kim from N. California
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my county has 20, and the neighboring county 30 towns... My house is 2 blocks from the county border...
What a fun project.
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this is before1 -
this is after without the umbrella up
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some of my neighbors enjoys the patio yesterday
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Lenora,
We are hoping today that the roommate realizes that he has an opportunity to get his stuff moved via my son's uhaul, but he has to work for it! Meaning he needs to help my son move the washer and dryer! My husband nor I are really physically up for it!0 -
My moving boxes are gone! Yeah!!!
Gotta love virtual garage sale sites!
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Why didn’t I speak up at the time? My livelihood was on the line. And I was ashamed. I know I had nothing to feel ashamed of, but I felt shame anyway.
Why might I be tempted to talk up now, years and years later, if I saw other people doing so and outing the harrssers? To add my voice, hopefully make the current victim’s complaint more credible. And to quench my current shame at being silent so long and the unfortunate circumstance that made it necessary for me to be silent while my job would have been at stake if I had spoken up.
To be clear, there was no touching/rape involved. But there was a nightmare of continual harassment. But I saw what was happening to Anita Hill at the time, no way was I strong enough to say anything to anyone.
And changing the way I dressed from skirts to pants (when pants were barely professional in a law firm for women) helped me not one whit. And I’ve never been comfortable in a short skirt or low neck top - I was routinely in suit jackets with turtleneck wool sweaters and knee length skirts to begin with. It seemed to me that any young, single female was a potential target at that time.
My heart goes out to the victims, whether their victimization was yesterday or 50 years ago.
While the harassers are still allowed to flourish and get new victims with out any reprisals: well while that is still true, I think that metoo is important and relevant.
My .02. Obviously subjectively colored by my personal history and biases.
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Allie - love your patio! Looks like you had a very nice get-together!
Rebecca - glad your son is making good headway with the move. Do they have to be out of the place by the end of the month?
Good day here. Have so many blessings I can't begin to count them all.
Lanette
Sunny & cool SW WA State1 -
Sue ... glad to hear that your grandson's surgery went well. Continued prayers that he heals completely.
Karen VA ...your grandson's situation is so wrong on so many levels. Thankful that he has you as an advocate!
Sexual Harassment ... I have experience with and very strong feelings about this subject ... and that's about all I'm comfortable saying.
May has been a rollercoaster month for me ... down in weight .. then up. I had a chocolate binge of all things last night but decided to go for my scheduled blood work this morning nonetheless. Should be interesting to see what my labs look like after a chocolate binge! At the very least, they can only get better from there.
Beth near Buffalo
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Machka, was so happy to come back to see that your DH was in rehab and doing so much better. Hang in there girl.
Allie, what a wonderful space your patio is. I can just see you beaming as you party with friends. Life is good and you deserve it.
Probably going to work on a fairy house flower pot for my cousins wife who has cancer and just graduated from college. She is in her 60s and was determined to finish. My cousin has created a nice small flower garden for her so I know she will love the pot.
DD is with her dad until Monday night. They have gone to Maine to spend some time together before he retires and moves out west in again few weeks. Seems strange to have the house to ourselves.
Terry in VT1 -
Morning everyone
It is a sunny but drizzly day here in Perth OZ. Hope to get out and pull some weeds. Need to do food shopping, ironing for work next week.
GD has auditioned for a part for shakespeare in a local reporitary - not sure if she will get it but said she would work as a backstage as well, so that might help in future productions
Trish1 -
Hi Gals,
Allie – great patio space!
Rye – hugs!!!
Beth – hugs !!!
Smiles
Kim from N. California
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Did Extreme Makeover Workout DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Caribbean Workout Abs, Buns & Thighs
Went and picked up the cutting board, went to Aldi since I forgot that I needed a pork roast for this week, then picked up Loki’s med. Now home, made salmon for later in the week, rice krispie bars for Vince (because I had marshmallows that I needed to use up since I’d opened the bag), made shrimp for later in the week (wanted to get the shrimp out of the freezer – didn’t realize that I didn’t have that much), now have the pork in the oven.
Heather – I put notes on as many of the pictures that I could. Some of them I had absolutely no idea who the people were so I had to throw the pictures out. If I don’t know who they are, my children surely won’t. How sad. When my father died, I tried to send one of those remembrance cards to people in his address book. Don’t know if the name was in the book for one small reason, but I went on the assumption that they were all friends of his.
Allie – your patio look so nice
Put down weedkiller then paversand since there aren't very many weeds on the front walk. Started to put down more of the mulch only it started to rain.
Michele in NC
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Allie - love your patio! Looks like you had a very nice get-together!
Rebecca - glad your son is making good headway with the move. Do they have to be out of the place by the end of the month?
Good day here. Have so many blessings I can't begin to count them all.
Lanette
Sunny & cool SW WA State
Yep out by end of month. My son is having it professionally cleaned the 30th, ( more money out of his pocket). Roommate is packing stuff today, and they're organizing the garage. I cleaned off the furniture in his living room here at our house. I have 5 black rags to prove it! When we moved we didn't feel like we needed a shower, but with his old place such a pig sty, our clothes were filthy!
Rebecca
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Feeling like I got a great deal. We got a huge Chuck roast for 21 dollars at Costco. We portioned it into quarters to freeze and I conservativly estimate 14 to 16 servings of pot roast will eventually come from it. I am loving having an extra freezer so that we can take advantage of these deals when we encounter them. And I do love pot roast.
We also got short ribs for peposo (like a pepper sauce stew) at Costco. John will make that for our anniversary dinner. He will have his with polenta, mine will go over steamed veggies. I’ll have a couple spoonfuls of that delicious polenta for a treat! We will have a glass or two of Chianti (which is prominent in the peposo recipe) to finish off so it will be quite the meal! I’ll make some fruit sorbet for desert if we want it because if we don’t, I can put it into the dehydrator to make some delicious fruit leathers for snacks.
We enjoy cooking together, but so rarely have time, especially since I now work from noon to 8pm. So this will be a fun event together.
Laters, best wishes for health and happiness to you and yours,
Rye
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Allie, your patio looks like such a happy comfortable place. You have earned the serenity after what you endured before.
I made great progress today planting my newly acquired iris. I worked for 90 minutes before lunch and will do the same again tomorrow.
I have been reading a great book ("Delancey") a memoir of early marriage and opening a pizza restaurant so when Jake came out after I'd been working so hard all morning and asked "What's for lunch?" I suggested going out for pizza (something we never do). It was great fun and the pizza was delicious (artichoke, green pepper, jalapeno, mushroom,onion, garlic).
Barbie from beautiful NW Washington3 -
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Allie - Great pics of the Zen Den. I do love a big umbrella. Nice placemats as well. May you have many, many happy times there.
Thunderstorms over the UK. Some spectacular ones. DH was hoping to spend the day at cricket and I was looking forward to a day on my own, but I'm not sure it's going to happen. He'll probably go and see how it unfolds, but they may cancel. His friend has to come a long way, so it may not be worth his while. I may dye my hair roots.
I think it's fish soup for dinner. I did think of steak, but the soup is easier on the timings with the day so uncertain. Maybe steak tomorrow for the Bank Holiday.
Feeling unsettled. Slept horribly with nasty dreams. Had to get up and compose myself. Might start packing - that usually helps. Got to wrap DSIL's present. It's huge!
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Morning, afternoon and evening all,
Heather - I do love a good thunderstorm, and may be dying my own roots today. They're sorely in need... Sorry about the dreams... I woke up dreaming I'd missed shaving a big patch of leg hair, and the hairy chunk was visible from ten feet away. Maybe because I wore capri pants yesterday for the first time in a long time. OK, I wore boot cut jeans rolled up to capri length. Capri pants always make me look like I bought pants that were too short, as they hit me just above the ankles. Short people problems.
Allie - LOVE your zen patio... it makes me happy just seeing your pictures of people laughing and talking at your house, in your space. You deserve to have this place that is peaceful, loving and joyful. It's been a tough couple of years.
I had an aMAYzing day yesterday. Corey and I went to a massive junkfest in Van Buren, across the river, walked many, many steps, and my knees did OK. Then we came back on our side of the river, and went to the farmer's market here in Fort Smith. We found the most amazing, hand-made cedar chest. Not old--we got to meet the maker, and it's lovely and solid. Great details, and something I've wanted for years. I bought a couple of Lane chests and sold them again in our many moves, but this is one of those pieces you keep forever. And the coin the maker embedded in the top is a silver dollar from 1910! I've put pictures below.
After that... we went house hunting. And there's an off chance we may have found the place. You know, THE place. We both had the same reaction--it's right at the end of a dirt & gravel road, and in fact, we would own the end of the road if we can make this happen. The price is right, the acreage is right, it's shady, it's sheltered, and beautiful, and just needs a good scrubbing, and some painting inside.
We're going to see if we can get the realtor to meet us there this coming Friday and look at the inside, make sure there's no damage, no leaks etc. It's amazing... it's far too early timing-wise we'll have to pay off quite a bit of lease on the place we're living... but we loved it, and it's the first time one of us wasn't saying, "No, I don't think so..." And it's only 20 minutes from work for Corey, and five minutes from the small town near it, with grocery stores for forgotten items, and only 20 minutes from a Walmart.
I'm not much for signs and omens ordinarily, but the place is at the end of Bluebird Lane, and as we were leaving, a couple birds were flitting around us and dancing around each other, and they were bluebirds! I haven't seen one of those in a long time--they don't live in West Texas.
And I got on the scale this morning and have lost the 25th pound... Crazy how well this is working.
Love y'all! Lisa in Arkansas
The cedar chest I'm so proud of...
Detail of the imbedded coin:
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Good morning!
Jenny from Northern Maine here. I have to admit I have not posted much but I do read everyone's post. It's cool to see what women at this stage of life are doing. I will be turning 60 in October. I can't say it does not bother me. (I don't know why, but it does.) I just ordered "Younger Next Year: Live Strong, Fit, and Sexy—Until You're 80 and Beyond" and "Younger Next Year: The Exercise Program: Use the Power of Exercise to Reverse Aging and Stay Strong, Fit, and Sexy". It might make me feel better about things.
I teach middle/high school students (Health and Business). The end of the year is always so busy. I have been stress eating and the scale has gone up a couple of pounds. So this morning I got up with the mind set that this is Memorial Day weekend and I need to set goals to reach for Labor Day weekend. So here they are (writing them down and sharing will make me more accountable):- Minimum of 10,000 steps a day--interval workouts 4X a week
- Track on MFP daily--1,200 cals a day
- No eating after 6 p.m.
- Goal is to lose 5 lbs.
Have a great Memorial Day Weekend!
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