Why did you get married?
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I got married because I had so many friends who had kids without being married and still behaved like single people even though they had partners, it seemed that they felt because they weren’t married they were available. I felt that if someone couldn’t commit to marriage then they couldn’t commit to sticking around for 18 years to raise a child, plus I wanted any children I had to have the same last name as myself. My family weren’t totally supportive when we decided to get married as I was 19 and he was 24 but 18 years later we’re still happily in love and have 4 gorgeous kids.6
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Tell me something-
If your man or woman -cheats on you with someone-who's to blame ? the person who was able to seduce them or your partner who succumbed down to that level? What if the seducer was single ? What if seducer wasn't?
The person in the relationship is mostly to blame but if the person they cheat with knows the other person is married, they are wrong too.2 -
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I got married because I wanted to. Plain and simple. My reasons are my own and probably different (if only slightly) from some other person who decided to marry.4
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Because we love each other and want to be together for life.
People say you can do that without getting married, and YES, you can! But that's not how we roll.1 -
I'm pretty sure I was drunk...4
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For use of the carpool lane.1
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While we were dating I suggested we move in together. She said, "not without a ring on my finger." Soooo we got engaged, lived together and got married. In retrospect, I was kinda pressured. Don't do it ladies!4
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Motorsheen wrote: »For use of the carpool lane.
you could have just gotten a giant teddy bear0 -
I'm pretty sure that I temporarily lost my mind in a mid-life crisis....... worst idea ever!2
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »For use of the carpool lane.
you could have just gotten a giant teddy bear
I tried the ol' Teddy Bear in the car seat trick.....
Carpool lane violation citations start at $365.00.
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Basically what I posted in the first post.
I guess I was looking for something which doesn't exist. All the posted answers suggest that it's just a very simple thing. You either do it or not. I just assumed there was something beyond which I didn't understand because I am not married and never had a relationship in a conventional sense. I've had "encounters" and "dates" they were both good and bad. I have memories from them which I cherish. I've had friends good and bad as well. I do not hate anyone or dislike anything- I forgive and move on because I get to learn from everything. After all a situation is good or bad depending on how we perceive it.
Marriage is stupid to me and makes no logical sense but even tho that's how I feel, I know how important it is to women so I married my ex wife to make her happy.
I will never marry again.3 -
He was the part of me that had always been missing. I was put on this earth to love him and care for him during his battle with ALS. I was blessed to be able to call him my partner, my best friend, my lover and my husband. 💙9
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In my family, I was raised to believe that someone would come into my life and love me for who I am. Not true. He preferred the company of other women. Thankfully I never had any kids with him. I no longer support the concept of marriage.5
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Today is my 26th wedding anniversary. I've been thinking about this thread since I first saw it yesterday. There is a wide variety of reasons to get married, as varied as the personalities of the people getting married.
For me the marriage is a promise, the wedding itself was our way of letting our family and friends be a part of our promise. The vows that we took and the witnesses that were there with us when we took those vows had a much deeper meaning than "just a piece of paper". Over the last 26 years we have come very close to calling it quits more than once, but we have always managed to remember that we made a promise to one another to love each other for better or worse and we are just as happy today as we were on this day 26 years ago!
Does this answer the OP's many questions? probably not, but as I read through this thread I realized that the OP didn't really want an answer and honestly, alot of people have a very cynical attitude concerning marriage that would take way more than my little post to overcome.5 -
I thought everyone on mfp was single?
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Because I wanted the fairy tale - marriage, house, kids
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I've never been married but I only ever see people getting married because of circumstance. Usually they already have a kid together so why not.0
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He seemed like he would make a good ally if the zombie apocalypse does happen. And he doesn't snore, so that's nice....5
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InspectorRed wrote: »Today is my 26th wedding anniversary. I've been thinking about this thread since I first saw it yesterday. There is a wide variety of reasons to get married, as varied as the personalities of the people getting married.
For me the marriage is a promise, the wedding itself was our way of letting our family and friends be a part of our promise. The vows that we took and the witnesses that were there with us when we took those vows had a much deeper meaning than "just a piece of paper". Over the last 26 years we have come very close to calling it quits more than once, but we have always managed to remember that we made a promise to one another to love each other for better or worse and we are just as happy today as we were on this day 26 years ago!
Does this answer the OP's many questions? probably not, but as I read through this thread I realized that the OP didn't really want an answer and honestly, alot of people have a very cynical attitude concerning marriage that would take way more than my little post to overcome.
congratulations! ❤️
i wonder though, if you'd responded to the question during one of those difficult times would your answer be different.1 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »InspectorRed wrote: »Today is my 26th wedding anniversary. I've been thinking about this thread since I first saw it yesterday. There is a wide variety of reasons to get married, as varied as the personalities of the people getting married.
For me the marriage is a promise, the wedding itself was our way of letting our family and friends be a part of our promise. The vows that we took and the witnesses that were there with us when we took those vows had a much deeper meaning than "just a piece of paper". Over the last 26 years we have come very close to calling it quits more than once, but we have always managed to remember that we made a promise to one another to love each other for better or worse and we are just as happy today as we were on this day 26 years ago!
Does this answer the OP's many questions? probably not, but as I read through this thread I realized that the OP didn't really want an answer and honestly, alot of people have a very cynical attitude concerning marriage that would take way more than my little post to overcome.
congratulations! ❤️
i wonder though, if you'd responded to the question during one of those difficult times would your answer be different.
I don't think so. We have never separated, we have yelled and said hurtful things and even done things that were hurtful. There have definitely been times when we weren't as happy as we were on our wedding day, but we chose each other to fight through this crazy life with and we have learned a LOT as we basically grew up together from 19 years old to now. I think the reason we didn't call it quits, even when it seemed inevitable, is because we did make that promise to each other and we truly love one another enough to fight through the *kitten*! Even as the word "divorce" crossed our lips (thankfully never coming to fruition), that day 26 years ago was about the love and the promise we made to each other and all the bad times cannot erase the much more prevalent good times!
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InspectorRed wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »InspectorRed wrote: »Today is my 26th wedding anniversary. I've been thinking about this thread since I first saw it yesterday. There is a wide variety of reasons to get married, as varied as the personalities of the people getting married.
For me the marriage is a promise, the wedding itself was our way of letting our family and friends be a part of our promise. The vows that we took and the witnesses that were there with us when we took those vows had a much deeper meaning than "just a piece of paper". Over the last 26 years we have come very close to calling it quits more than once, but we have always managed to remember that we made a promise to one another to love each other for better or worse and we are just as happy today as we were on this day 26 years ago!
Does this answer the OP's many questions? probably not, but as I read through this thread I realized that the OP didn't really want an answer and honestly, alot of people have a very cynical attitude concerning marriage that would take way more than my little post to overcome.
congratulations! ❤️
i wonder though, if you'd responded to the question during one of those difficult times would your answer be different.
I don't think so. We have never separated, we have yelled and said hurtful things and even done things that were hurtful. There have definitely been times when we weren't as happy as we were on our wedding day, but we chose each other to fight through this crazy life with and we have learned a LOT as we basically grew up together from 19 years old to now. I think the reason we didn't call it quits, even when it seemed inevitable, is because we did make that promise to each other and we truly love one another enough to fight through the *kitten*! Even as the word "divorce" crossed our lips (thankfully never coming to fruition), that day 26 years ago was about the love and the promise we made to each other and all the bad times cannot erase the much more prevalent good times!
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I liked being married the first time around, to someone I (in hindsight) just liked & was compatible with.
So when I met someone I truly & deeply loved, I felt like I definitely "had to". I don't regret it for a second!
Originally, I wanted to get married because I am monogamous by nature & like feeling accepted by my community as a family unit despite not having kids or being religious.
Marriage ticks that box for a lot of people and made my life easier (in my twenties & at work especially).
I also think my amicable divorce made me less gunshy about a second marriage.
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