The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living

lorrainequiche59

Hi Y'all GREAT comments...37 days...100 days...WOOHOO to you two

SallyLuvsFitness

I am happy to be AF! I was a little surprised by cutting out ALL my wine calories and really watching what I am eating the scale did not go down as far as I would have thought. Half a pound. I know it’s not just the number and very happy I am making the choice for overall better health! Has anyone else been surprised?

RubyRed427

Fitness327wk wrote: »

I am happy to be AF! I was a little surprised by cutting out ALL my wine calories and really watching what I am eating the scale did not go down as far as I would have thought. Half a pound. I know it’s not just the number and very happy I am making the choice for overall better health! Has anyone else been surprised?

I didn’t really lose much weight for the first month. Then, I stopped eating sugar to substitute the alcohol. And that’s when I lost some weight. So, give it time. It will all work out... .or off.

MrSunshinez

I don't think I'm going to make it through tonight much less the week. Someone said something to me that hurt so deeply that it shook me to my core. It hurt because they said it. It hurt because it seems like an honest assessment and it hurts most that there's nothing I can do to change it. Right now as I write I'm bingeing on rocky road ice cream. We'll see what happens after the sugar rush sets in.

Lastchancetochange

Hi, I'm on day 3. I actually lost almost all the weight 4 years ago and one key was being one year and a half sober. It's tough, I lost many friends, not really lost them but I was not cool anymore. And in any dinner they were all trying to get me drunk. So I had to pass on many social plans. It was very tough from that perspective. I didn't miss it, my body surely didn't but socially it was a disaster. Anyway here we are again.

After a christmas of a couple of bad binges, really feeling destroyed for a couple of days after I feel not worth it for the time being. Day by day.

Cheers to everyone.

Phirrgus

Lastchancetochange wrote: »

Hi, I'm on day 3. I actually lost almost all the weight 4 years ago and one key was being one year and a half sober. It's tough, I lost many friends, not really lost them but I was not cool anymore. And in any dinner they were all trying to get me drunk. So I had to pass on many social plans. It was very tough from that perspective. I didn't miss it, my body surely didn't but socially it was a disaster. Anyway here we are again.

After a christmas of a couple of bad binges, really feeling destroyed for a couple of days after I feel not worth it for the time being. Day by day.

Cheers to everyone.

You'll eventually start getting "friends" who support your sobriety. Worth having. And it does get easier. For what it's worth I needed help getting away from the bottle and took up a friends offer to go to an AA meeting on December 8th, 1986. I haven't had a drink since and the desire to drink isn't even there any more. But, just like you, I only have today. Hang in there, you can do this.

salleewins

Lastchancetochange wrote: »

Hi, I'm on day 3. I actually lost almost all the weight 4 years ago and one key was being one year and a half sober. It's tough, I lost many friends, not really lost them but I was not cool anymore. And in any dinner they were all trying to get me drunk. So I had to pass on many social plans. It was very tough from that perspective. I didn't miss it, my body surely didn't but socially it was a disaster. Anyway here we are again.

After a christmas of a couple of bad binges, really feeling destroyed for a couple of days after I feel not worth it for the time being. Day by day.

Cheers to everyone.

Hi. Welcome. Glad you are working on changing this vicious cycle for more peace. I have been there and tried to stop many times. Finally have strung enough days together that it is almost a year. I never want to go back. You are so worth a better life. Trying to figure out your username?? Great to meet you here!

salleewins

MrSunshinez wrote: »

I don't think I'm going to make it through tonight much less the week. Someone said something to me that hurt so deeply that it shook me to my core. It hurt because they said it. It hurt because it seems like an honest assessment and it hurts most that there's nothing I can do to change it. Right now as I write I'm bingeing on rocky road ice cream. We'll see what happens after the sugar rush sets in.

I AM SO SORRY that has happened. Remember when we are vulnerable we often get kicked. In this case shoved, kicked and beaten. Here's hoping the ice cream helped in some way to avoid the temptation and you went to sleep as best as you could. Remember as bad as it has hurt and I have had PLENTY, too, nothing is worth drinking over. Stick close and let us know how you are doing.

salleewins

Fitness327wk wrote: »

I am happy to be AF! I was a little surprised by cutting out ALL my wine calories and really watching what I am eating the scale did not go down as far as I would have thought. Half a pound. I know it’s not just the number and very happy I am making the choice for overall better health! Has anyone else been surprised?

Well maybe. You see I was gaining while drinking and that is what changed the most. I wasn't gaining like I was. While I was drinking so many calories, I was eating loads of junk, whatever I wanted, every day. You are benefiting in so many ways by cutting alcohol. How long have you cut out the wine?

RubyRed427

MrSunshinez wrote: »

I don't think I'm going to make it through tonight much less the week. Someone said something to me that hurt so deeply that it shook me to my core. It hurt because they said it. It hurt because it seems like an honest assessment and it hurts most that there's nothing I can do to change it. Right now as I write I'm bingeing on rocky road ice cream. We'll see what happens after the sugar rush sets in.

There is a good quote i like to remember: “There are 7 billion people on the planet. And you’re going to let one idiot ruin your day.”
Keep perspective , I know it’s hard. But this is ONE person’s opinion and reality. It may be right and it may be wrong. You can only change you not others. Look up Don Miguel Ruiz The Four Agreements. I love his videos on. Youtube.

RubyRed427

I went to AA last night. We read the chapter on “to wives”. It was relevant and could have been called “to husband” “ to friend”. This also influence how Alanon started. Anyway, reading a book about alcoholism is so enlightening. My real point is whenever I ask someone how many meetings do you go to? They usually says 4 or 5 a week. I have a feeling that is the key. To keep at it. To never let your guard down. I go once a week, and I think that’s why I am always teetering on the edge. I have to take this more seriously. And really immerse myself in staying sober.
*P.s. I’m not saying this to debate or promote AA but for me this is the only way I can get support besides this thread.

SunnyDays930

@RubyRed427 You are so inspiring and you are stronger than you know. We've got your back.

@MrSunshinez I hope you were able to let the craving wash over you then off your back like a duck. @Salleewins is wise. If you follow this thread you know she has been through the worst possible experience a parent can deal with. If she says nothing is worth drinking over, believe her. And if you did end up drinking, today is a new day. Please continue to come here for support.

I have not been sleeping well so I googled, "is there a difference between decaf and caffeine free tea?" Well, now I know.

"Decaffeinated tea is NOT caffeine-free. The decaffeination process leaves a minute amount of caffeine in the leaf. By law, tea labeled as “decaffeinated” must have less than 2.5 percent of its original caffeine level, which usually equates to less than 2 mg per cup."

So at night it will have to be CF.

RubyRed427

@JenT304 you and many others are so supportive of me and this thread❤️thank you !

I Bought sleepy time tea for evenings - maybe that would help. It's Celestial Seasonings brand 🌺

salleewins

@RubyRed427 you are taking care of yourself!! You are worth it!!

lorrainequiche59

MrSunshinez wrote: »

I don't think I'm going to make it through tonight much less the week. Someone said something to me that hurt so deeply that it shook me to my core. It hurt because they said it. It hurt because it seems like an honest assessment and it hurts most that there's nothing I can do to change it. Right now as I write I'm bingeing on rocky road ice cream. We'll see what happens after the sugar rush sets in.

I hope you made it through, but if you didn't that's ok...I wish I had seen your comment last eve and it looks like you were the last comment yesterday...Like has been said, if you did drink, today's a new day, a fresh start I love @RubyRed427's quote...I am going to try to remember that next time someone says something hurtful to me.

I'm wondering if the person's comment triggered something deeper in you...some past hurt that needs your attention. Please let us know you're ok

lorrainequiche59

Fitness327wk wrote: »

I am happy to be AF! I was a little surprised by cutting out ALL my wine calories and really watching what I am eating the scale did not go down as far as I would have thought. Half a pound. I know it’s not just the number and very happy I am making the choice for overall better health! Has anyone else been surprised?

I lost over 20 lbs the first couple of months I went AF, but I was pumped & being really consistent...& then somewhere along the line the wheels fell off the cart & I turned to food here & there to replace the alcohol drowning my feelings. I've managed to play around with 6 lbs lost & gained & lost & gained etc.... Food was my first love (addiction for lack of a better description) and it is my last hold out. SO, I have some issues that go beyond counting calories LOL.

Anyway, we're each unique & there are so many variables when it comes to losing weight as we all know. So, if you are being consistent in your efforts to eat healthy in proper portions with reasonable exercise, that's the formula that will work...it will come off.

lorrainequiche59

Lastchancetochange wrote: »

Hi, I'm on day 3. I actually lost almost all the weight 4 years ago and one key was being one year and a half sober. It's tough, I lost many friends, not really lost them but I was not cool anymore. And in any dinner they were all trying to get me drunk. So I had to pass on many social plans. It was very tough from that perspective. I didn't miss it, my body surely didn't but socially it was a disaster. Anyway here we are again.

After a christmas of a couple of bad binges, really feeling destroyed for a couple of days after I feel not worth it for the time being. Day by day.

Cheers to everyone.

Your in the right place to get some great support. Yes, the social aspect can be difficult. Sounds like it may be helpful to find a new group of friends...ones that will support you not sabotage you. Do you have hobbies? Maybe join a group that is based on that? Glad you're here.

whitpauly

Hello all,@MrSunshinez(hope I did that right) please check in and let us know how you are,had my 30 days AF yesterday again for the 800th time,all this starting/stopping is dumb and I read it messes our brain chemistry up to do that over and over,I always lost weight while drinking cuz I wouldn't (couldn't) eat most of the time,didnt want it interfering with my buzz! Very unhealthy relationship with booze thats for sure,wishing everyone a happy AF day

SallyLuvsFitness

RubyRed427 wrote: »

MrSunshinez wrote: »

I don't think I'm going to make it through tonight much less the week. Someone said something to me that hurt so deeply that it shook me to my core. It hurt because they said it. It hurt because it seems like an honest assessment and it hurts most that there's nothing I can do to change it. Right now as I write I'm bingeing on rocky road ice cream. We'll see what happens after the sugar rush sets in.

There is a good quote i like to remember: “There are 7 billion people on the planet. And you’re going to let one idiot ruin your day.”
Keep perspective , I know it’s hard. But this is ONE person’s opinion and reality. It may be right and it may be wrong. You can only change you not others. Look up Don Miguel Ruiz The Four Agreements. I love his videos on. Youtube.

I really like that quote, great! Support to all and @MrSunshinez I hope you are doing well.

Drummer913

@JenT304....De-Caffeinated tea labeling is deceiving similar to the labeling on Non-Alcoholic beer is. There is still a minute amount of alcohol in Non-Alcoholic beer (.05% in most as stated on the labels). So unless it says its 100% Alcohol Free on the label ....It probably isn't.