Things people say when you lose weight

AlaskaSusan

My absolute favorite was when I went to lunch alone (pre-covid)...

I asked the fit little waitress what she recommended and she said, "Well, for tiny people LIKE US, I say go for the fresh halibut..." LIKE US....wow did that make my day (I've lost 110 pounds and work out several times a week).

AnnPT77

AlexandraFindsHerself1971 wrote: »

Sand_TIger wrote: »

CameronWhittaker wrote: »

I hear most of the comments you guys have said, one in particular that confuses me.
When they ask what I have done I explain "stopped eating junk food, exercise more, and log every meal on an app.:

Then they say "oh you count calories???"

Like its a bad thing.. iv had some pretty significant results since I started logging, It's not the only thing iv been doing and I don't count super accurate, more like just to keep track...

But I don't get why people think counting calories is a bad thing.

Oh goodness that's so true! I wonder that too. Yet, so many books/sites/ads/signs/commercials say "lose x pounds a month without counting calories" or things like that, as if counting calories is the biggest heap of drudgery imaginable. I think of some hungry person counting calories individually like beans. Really it's freeing - once I know what I'm putting in, I know how much more I can put in, and I can enjoy my food without that worry "did I eat too much? Did I not exercise enough?" It's all about information! Information is good!

I think before apps like this one it really was problematic and difficult, and that's what people are imagining.

Having (briefly) tried in (if I remember correctly) the 1970s, when one used a little book with pathetically little calorie info in it, and looked stuff up there . . . yes, it was problematic and difficult. Not the easiest way to lose weight, back in the day.

AlexandraFindsHerself1971

missblondi2u wrote: »

I just got a "you make me sick" from someone whose scale went the other way during lockdown

Jealous much??

I've felt a little bad admitting I lost fifty pounds this year. I always say that I'd already started and seen loss by February when we started locking things down, and it was one thing I could control so I did. But I try really hard not to imply superiority at all.

amart4224

AlexandraFindsHerself1971 wrote: »

missblondi2u wrote: »

I just got a "you make me sick" from someone whose scale went the other way during lockdown

Jealous much??

I've felt a little bad admitting I lost fifty pounds this year. I always say that I'd already started and seen loss by February when we started locking things down, and it was one thing I could control so I did. But I try really hard not to imply superiority at all.

This is something I'm concerned about if/when I go back to work at the office. I'm proud of the weight loss I've accomplished and would be happy if my coworkers noticed, but I also know that several employees in my group struggle with their weight as well and wouldn't want to make them feel bad if they've had a different quarantine experience.

Lolinloggen

amart4224 wrote: »

AlexandraFindsHerself1971 wrote: »

missblondi2u wrote: »

I just got a "you make me sick" from someone whose scale went the other way during lockdown

Jealous much??

I've felt a little bad admitting I lost fifty pounds this year. I always say that I'd already started and seen loss by February when we started locking things down, and it was one thing I could control so I did. But I try really hard not to imply superiority at all.

This is something I'm concerned about if/when I go back to work at the office. I'm proud of the weight loss I've accomplished and would be happy if my coworkers noticed, but I also know that several employees in my group struggle with their weight as well and wouldn't want to make them feel bad if they've had a different quarantine experience.

Them feeling bad is a feeling that is theirs, not the result of your achievement. Don't worry too much about it. You did well and that is what matters. Maybe your weightloss will inspire them

breefoshee

One time someone was looking at an old picture of me and said "Wow, you look so great! You used to look like a big mean bully."

Every time I've put on weight since then, I've made sure to smile more so that people don't think I'm mean lol.

mrmota70

I've gotten the I'm proud of you followed in same breath with you use to be a fat fu$%##R ... Or your tiny(230lb 6ft man tiny!? ) or your disappearing(230lb 6ft man disappearing!!?? ) according to BMI #s I'm still clinically obese... awe my dream to only be plain old overweight...

joyanna2016

A favorite in-law who I hadn't seen in a few months (during which that time I had lost 30 lbs) complimented me on my weight loss and then ask me if I was happy where I was at or if I was going to try to lose more. This came as an interesting thought to me, since I was still officially obese. I really liked that comment. It implied that my journey is very personal and she did not assume to know my goals. Also, it made me entertain the idea that someone might be content with the weight I currently am. Overall,just one of the most encouraging, simple questions I've ever been asked on this journey.

thetreekat

I recently lost about 10lb quickly (I had my tonsils out and couldn't really eat for over a week). I am 5'6" and went from 170lb to 160lb. Someone commented on how I was looking "skinny" and then continued on to give me suggestions on how they lost weight and what I should be doing to "lose the rest". What if I don't want to lose any more???

Speakeasy76

I don't really like people commenting on weight loss, but I DO want them to recognize it (weird, right?).

One thing people will ask is "What you'd do?" or "What's your secret?" It's really not that big of a secret or some mystery: I just started tracking my food and tried to eat more protein and fiber. Weight loss really doesn't have to be that complicated, but for some reason people think there's some "secret."

willboywonder

oooh. You're too skinny.

BahstenB10

"You need to eat a cheeseburger."

Well, 1. I don't eat mammals so no thank you.
and 2. you need to eat less cheeseburgers.

eels4peels00

"That used to be you?!"
Nahhhh, it's still me and I can still put a hurting on some pizza

VanVanDiane

“Watch out you don’t gain it back, you don’t want to go through all that again.” Thanks a lot 😆. The annoying thing is that I have gained half of it back over the last 2 lockdowns...

FABRICWOMAN

Kaitie9399 wrote: »

My MIL sucks. She’s a nasty piece of work and has absolutely no clue that what she just said to me was utterly hurtful and offensive. The stupid *kitten* had the nerve to say “You know, you should start doing face exercises so that you don’t look so gaunt”. The *kitten* nerve!!!! This coming from the morbidly obese women who hasn’t been able to conquer her food addiction has the bloody gall to say anything about anyone else!

I’m pissed.

Just consider the source. Probably jealous. I had a "close" friend tell me I was never going to reach goal (140 lbs.) I had lost 90 lbs. at the time. A little evil voice in my head said "JUST WATCH ME". You know what you want to do for your own body and how. We all will just show those doubters. It really is not any of their business anyway. Don't let your MIL get your blood pressure up. When you let her bother you, she wins. When you ignore the nasty comments and continue your journey, you win. Best wishes on your healthier lifestyle journey. Don't let anyone sway you from the course you have set for yourself!

penguinmama87

One of the things that's hard for me is at first, people I know IRL seem very encouraging, telling me I look good, happier, etc. Which is probably all true. But then it turns nasty from a few of them once I lose a little more (insecurity? jealousy? I have no idea). I have been burned a couple times with this because the nice comments and questions made me be willing to share, only to have it turned on me later. I probably seem standoffish, but I mostly try to avoid it as a topic now. If someone says I look good, I say "thank you" and then try to change the subject.

TeshaRamer

"I can tell you've lost weight in your face!" This is the going compliment. I could lost 80 pounds and people would notice my face first.

DarlaJL82

I had a close friend recently told me that I didn't need to lose anymore weight and I better stop before I'm too thin. I was briefly annoyed but quickly remembered that people aren't used to seeing normal BMI. So I laughed and told her thank you. I said I was glad that I'm able to hide my extra weight so well but my doctor and I have a weight we agree on that is within the normal BMI range and I have some more weight to lose. Somehow the idea that a professional is in on my plan seemed to back her off pretty quickly.

yweight2020

ItsyBitsy246 wrote: »

Nothing. Not a peep, good or bad after losing 35-40 pounds. I'm pretty sure there was a noticeable difference between my weight of 185 and my weight of 145!

ItsyBitsy246 wrote: »

Nothing. Not a peep, good or bad after losing 35-40 pounds. I'm pretty sure there was a noticeable difference between my weight of 185 and my weight of 145!

I'd rather they say nothing, because most people don't know what to say or how to say it and that's usually negative.

Congratulations on meeting your goal, keep up the good work.

ExistingFish

How weird it is when you get to a place where most the people in your life only know you how you are now.

I've started my job, started going to a new church, started going to a new gym - all since losing weight. No one in my life knows I was ever overweight. In my mind, it's a "recent development", but to everyone else, it's just how they know me.

I guess its a good thing, but it's also kind of weird.

AnnPT77

ExistingFish wrote: »

How weird it is when you get to a place where most the people in your life only know you how you are now.

I've started my job, started going to a new church, started going to a new gym - all since losing weight. No one in my life knows I was ever overweight. In my mind, it's a "recent development", but to everyone else, it's just how they know me.

I guess its a good thing, but it's also kind of weird.

Yes. This.

I haven't changed all those things in my life, but I do meet new people . . . the disbelief, among people who didn't know me when I was fat, when they learn I was obese only a few years back: It's startling, and weird.

DiscusTank5

After birthing 3 kids in 4 years, I went on to lose 50 lbs. My MIL said that she and her sister had been talking and were wondering if I was planning to leave my husband / her son! Nope. Just wanted my body back, thanks.

wunderkindking

My HUSBAND briefly got weird when I lost weight. He got over it and it was never a mean thing because he's a good guy but he DEFINITELY got kind of...scared.

DiscipleOfChrist29

It's always "You are getting too skinny".... Or "you are lucky, you can eat anything" lol. Like bruh don't discount all the hard work I've put in by saying I was born with a "high metabolism".

Kaitie9399

DiscipleOfChrist29 wrote: »

It's always "don't discount all the hard work I've put in by saying I was born with a "high metabolism".

Love this!

Kaitie9399

DiscusTank5 wrote: »

My MIL said that she and her sister had been talking and were wondering if I was planning to leave my husband / her son!

MIL's...... smh.

normdaley

ExistingFish wrote: »

How weird it is when you get to a place where most the people in your life only know you how you are now.

I've started my job, started going to a new church, started going to a new gym - all since losing weight. No one in my life knows I was ever overweight. In my mind, it's a "recent development", but to everyone else, it's just how they know me.

I guess its a good thing, but it's also kind of weird.

I had the opposite thing happen. I had gained weight after I was married, had my first daughter, and retired from semi-pro soccer. We had joined a new church two years after that. When I finally got motivated to do something about it, people were coming up to my wife and asking her if I had cancer, because I had dropped 70 pounds in 7 months. They only knew me as the fat person. But I was the exact same weight as before I gained it all. The questions really got more frequent after I started training for a marathon and dropped another 10 pounds.

People are weird.

seekingdaintiness

My favorite after losing about 100 lbs was running into someone I hadn't seen for a long time at the store. And she knew she knew me and DIDN'T RECOGNIZE ME, and was making those confused faces and saying "Wait, wait, I'll get it" and when she realized who I was her jaw dropped. No better feeling!

Sand_TIger

I love it when people don't recognize me! I had just barely started losing weight when a coworker of mine retired. Several months later I met up with that same coworker and because he'd never been to my house before I stood out in front so he would know which house it was - our mailbox is a little hard to see. He drove by like three times because I'd lost around 60 pounds in the interim and he didn't recognize me. Was fun!

penguinmama87

wunderkindking wrote: »

My HUSBAND briefly got weird when I lost weight. He got over it and it was never a mean thing because he's a good guy but he DEFINITELY got kind of...scared.

Ha, I think if this is a stage we're entering it now too. He's not mean about it at all, but definitely "uhhhh this is new and what are you doing, exactly?" and I can tell he's a *little* worried. Of course I'm not leaving! But our marriage is changing a little bit. For the better, I think, but it's still a little different and change is hard.