Less Alcohol - JULY 2019 - One Day at a Time

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  • Alzzi_2
    Alzzi_2 Posts: 2,149 Member
    eminater wrote: »
    It's Friday, I am on holiday's. My goal today is to be AF.

    Good plan!

    Its day 3 since I've been on here. So far I have had a mouth full of my sons vodka and lemon drink on his birthday bc he wanted me to.
    I am hoping to keep dry over the weekend. But if I do have something, I wont be hard on myself. I have found being disapointed only leads to giving up so I'll do my exercise and take measures to avoid it.

    Wish you all here the best and keep safe over the weekend. <3
  • Womona
    Womona Posts: 1,596 Member
    Happy Friday everyone!
    @AbandondedKSCharger glad to hear it’s getting easier. Such a victory to get to that point!
  • Womona
    Womona Posts: 1,596 Member
    Today is 2 weeks AF. Night before last cooking in the kitchen I wanted a glass of wine SOOOO bad. But it passed. Last night I went to a Kombucha bar (kegs and taps and everything) with friends and it was yummy and "grown-up." Then we went to dinner, sat at the bar, and I thought about having a drink, but had already told these 2 that I was on a break. I had an AF beer while they had cocktails and it was FUN! Then I came home to my ambulance and ER bill from 2 weeks ago. Not fun.

    That’s like going to a wedding and a funeral on the same day!
  • dawnbgethealthy
    dawnbgethealthy Posts: 7,549 Member
    I am going to continue into July with a goal of 4-5 AF days per week. It is great to be able to check in here each day. Thank you for looking after us @MissMay : - )

    May - 18 AF days
    June - 16 AF days - Really had to backload that one! It was nearing the end of the month and I was only at 12 AF days. Maybe going to try to get more in at the beginning of the month this time, so if invited for wine or a cocktail party with gfs later in the month I can actually go.

    July 01 - AF
    July 02 - AF - Guess that I will start my tally at the bottom : - ) I realize now that 16AF days (4 per week) in a 31 day month is like having drinks every second day!
    July 03 - AF - Today was no problem to be AF, but yesterday was a long hard day and I really felt like kicking back and having a couple of drinks - I just didn't. I even bought some of that fake beer that I have heard some of you talking about (I got Grolsch) - but it didn't occur to me to go to the fridge and have it. I am not a beer drinker, so I guess that it wouldn't have really been a substitute for a brandy or a glass of red wine : - P
    July 04 - 3 drinks
    July 05 - AF
    July 06 - 3 drinks
    July 07 - AF
    July 08 - AF - Um, I saw Kombucha being made on a TV show, sorry y'all that like it, but whoa, ick! : - P
    July 09 - AF
    July 10 - AF - I had a nice steak for dinner and wanted a glass of Merlot or Cab with it, but didn't want to open a whole bottle (partially to prevent having drinks 2 days in a row) to have a glass or two. So I remembered the fake beer that I bought, the Grolsch and thought that might be a different thing to have. Firstly, it is 150 calories for one! I don't really drink beer anyway, but a light beer has like half of the calories of that. I figured maybe I would just drink half of it to save calories. Anyway, I poured out a bit in a glass and tasted it. Oh my, it was a Radler! I didn't like it, so didn't drink it. I may buy some more fake beer, but will be more careful at looking at the label. is there fake wine? Lol, I know that there can't be fake brandy, which is what I really prefer.
    July 11 - 3 drinks

    Running total: 8 AF days out of 11 days so far.
  • looneycatblue
    looneycatblue Posts: 1,304 Member
    Alzzi_2 wrote: »
    eminater wrote: »
    It's Friday, I am on holiday's. My goal today is to be AF.

    Good plan!

    Its day 3 since I've been on here. So far I have had a mouth full of my sons vodka and lemon drink on his birthday bc he wanted me to.
    I am hoping to keep dry over the weekend. But if I do have something, I wont be hard on myself. I have found being disapointed only leads to giving up so I'll do my exercise and take measures to avoid it.

    Wish you all here the best and keep safe over the weekend. <3

    I really like your attitude! :smiley:
  • MissMay
    MissMay Posts: 3,547 Member
    Any ideas on how to break through this?

    @globalhiker I had the same issue in my beginning of trying to cut back with AF days thrown in. My drinking brain would say "HEY you have been good...you DESERVE A REWARD."
    And then I would go off the rails again.

    What I managed to figure out for myself was start with an AF day and keep adding an AF day each time I would have a drinking day.
    Like as follows:
    AF
    driink
    AF
    AF
    Drink
    AF
    AF
    AF
    Drink
    AF
    AF
    AF
    AF
    etc.....

    I made it all the way to 42 straight AF days, then something lit up in my head and I was able to not get thrown out of then run over by the drinking bus again.
    Try different senerios. What works for one may not work for another since we are all chemically different.
    Hope it helps in some small way.

  • Alzzi_2
    Alzzi_2 Posts: 2,149 Member
    MissMay wrote: »
    Any ideas on how to break through this?

    @globalhiker I had the same issue in my beginning of trying to cut back with AF days thrown in. My drinking brain would say "HEY you have been good...you DESERVE A REWARD."
    And then I would go off the rails again.

    What I managed to figure out for myself was start with an AF day and keep adding an AF day each time I would have a drinking day.
    Like as follows:
    AF
    driink
    AF
    AF
    Drink
    AF
    AF
    AF
    Drink
    AF
    AF
    AF
    AF
    etc.....

    I made it all the way to 42 straight AF days, then something lit up in my head and I was able to not get thrown out of then run over by the drinking bus again.
    Try different senerios. What works for one may not work for another since we are all chemically different.
    Hope it helps in some small way.

    That's awesome. Your doing a great job.

    Your right, everyone is different. Taking a day at a time , even a moment at a time really helps me. And if I decide to have a drink, not to beat myself up , just drink lots of water and keep active.

    One of my triggers is when I have a disappointment if some sort and I had that trigger last night.
    I knew I had just posted a message here but I was feeling so upset I was wanting to take it out on a martini somewhere..
    I was battling this for a while, driving past restaurants talking myself out each time.
    This happened until it got too late and then ended up going to bed and listening to a sleep meditation on 'insight timer' app.

    That was another win.. :) just lol
  • dawnbgethealthy
    dawnbgethealthy Posts: 7,549 Member
    I am going to continue into July with a goal of 4-5 AF days per week. It is great to be able to check in here each day. Thank you for looking after us @MissMay : - )

    May - 18 AF days
    June - 16 AF days - Really had to backload that one! It was nearing the end of the month and I was only at 12 AF days. Maybe going to try to get more in at the beginning of the month this time, so if invited for wine or a cocktail party with gfs later in the month I can actually go.

    July 01 - AF
    July 02 - AF - Guess that I will start my tally at the bottom : - ) I realize now that 16AF days (4 per week) in a 31 day month is like having drinks every second day!
    July 03 - AF - Today was no problem to be AF, but yesterday was a long hard day and I really felt like kicking back and having a couple of drinks - I just didn't. I even bought some of that fake beer that I have heard some of you talking about (I got Grolsch) - but it didn't occur to me to go to the fridge and have it. I am not a beer drinker, so I guess that it wouldn't have really been a substitute for a brandy or a glass of red wine : - P
    July 04 - 3 drinks
    July 05 - AF
    July 06 - 3 drinks
    July 07 - AF
    July 08 - AF - Um, I saw Kombucha being made on a TV show, sorry y'all that like it, but whoa, ick! : - P
    July 09 - AF
    July 10 - AF - I had a nice steak for dinner and wanted a glass of Merlot or Cab with it, but didn't want to open a whole bottle (partially to prevent having drinks 2 days in a row) to have a glass or two. So I remembered the fake beer that I bought, the Grolsch and thought that might be a different thing to have. Firstly, it is 150 calories for one! I don't really drink beer anyway, but a light beer has like half of the calories of that. I figured maybe I would just drink half of it to save calories. Anyway, I poured out a bit in a glass and tasted it. Oh my, it was a Radler! I didn't like it, so didn't drink it. I may buy some more fake beer, but will be more careful at looking at the label. is there fake wine? Lol, I know that there can't be fake brandy, which is what I really prefer.
    July 11 - 3 drinks
    July 12 - AF - Had a fake beer, Labbatt Blue. It was actually pretty good. 50 calories, so it didn't break the bank. Mojitos planned for tomrrow, my mint is perfect in my garden. By this time last year I had many many Mojitos. This will be the first for this summer.

    Running total: 9 AF days out of 12 days so far.
  • eminater
    eminater Posts: 2,477 Member
    Alzzi_2 wrote: »
    eminater wrote: »
    It's Friday, I am on holiday's. My goal today is to be AF.

    Good plan!

    Its day 3 since I've been on here. So far I have had a mouth full of my sons vodka and lemon drink on his birthday bc he wanted me to.
    I am hoping to keep dry over the weekend. But if I do have something, I wont be hard on myself. I have found being disapointed only leads to giving up so I'll do my exercise and take measures to avoid it.

    Wish you all here the best and keep safe over the weekend. <3

    I met yesterday's goal. It meant having to say no to friends wanting to go out for beers, but that's okay. That was my goal - to say no.

    It's Saturday today. I was meant to go to "wine tasting" this afternoon, but I feel a cold coming on so I have cancelled that. I felt relieved to have cancelled. My goal again for today is to remain AF.

    I am going to need to arrange more social events that don't involve alcohol!