WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2019

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  • LyndaBSS
    LyndaBSS Posts: 6,964 Member
    Karen I loved reading about your grandfather. I could picture him with the kittens. Thanks for the story and making me smile. ☺
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,243 Member
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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,690 Member
    The grandchildren are arriving at 8.15 tomorrow and leaving at 5.45. :o
    I will have to channel KJ!
    I think we will have to take a trip out and have lunch out. Aaaaarrrrggghhh!

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxx
  • Workoutahloic50
    Workoutahloic50 Posts: 391 Member
    Michelle In NC-are you going to be alright if Dorian hits land??
    Debby In Va
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,251 Member
    Talked to friend today about setting up wills and trusts. She gave suggestions about home in trust, and I like her idea of taking pictures of the heirlooms to put in how we want personal property distributed and then give history on the back. The later idea is now on the list but admit it will take awhile to get to that one. Her suggestion for our home was look at our property tax bill. Unfortunately it showed me proof the other law firm did not do their job to get this done and I did not do my part to double check that is was done.

    Without giving too much personal info away because this is a open site. If any of you have gone through this process and found ways to make it easier I am open to suggestions. If so speak in generalities and not specifics. Thanks.
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    LyndaBSS: I am sorry to hear about the loss of your husband to ALS. :broken_heart: Medications can affect your system with bad and good outcomes. Fixing what is wrong is good, but side effects can be brutal. I wish you best luck with keeping things in balance so that you feel good. :flowerforyou:

    Barbara: It is great to see you posting again! :bigsmile:

    Penny: It is great to hear from you!!!! :heart:

    Marianne: Welcome to a great group. Post often! :star:

    Margaret: We’re getting ready to create new wills. Our first step will be to get an appointment with our attorney. This is long overdue. :embarassed:

    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
  • LyndaBSS
    LyndaBSS Posts: 6,964 Member
    edited September 2019
    Katla Thank you for your kind words.

    If you're having estate planning documents done, think about having Medical Directives done, too. It's important that your wishes be known should a medical emergency arise.

    Of course, when Michael was diagnosed, we also needed a Power of Attorney.

    Michael and I had our M.D.s done before he got ALS and they've come in very handy. We had also gone through the necessary steps to have our bodies donated to an anatomical donation program.

    Hope this information helps someone. ☺

    Janetr What joyous news about your great grandchild. I just became a great aunt for the first time. Very exciting!
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,190 Member
    <3Lynda, I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you will stay connected with us and let us be part of your life as you build this new chapter.

    <3 Barbie
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,243 Member
    didn't think about it by bike I mean bicycle not motor bike rider
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,251 Member
    We did medical directive the first time we met with estate lawyer. Power of attorney was part of it both times too. You are giving that person tremendous power to make decisions for you. Husband is not a problem it is who to give it to if and when spouse dies. If you any of you are going in to do this think through this part carefully ahead of time.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,243 Member
    margaretturk wrote: »
    We did medical directive the first time we met with estate lawyer. Power of attorney was part of it both times too. You are giving that person tremendous power to make decisions for you. Husband is not a problem it is who to give it to if and when spouse dies. If you any of you are going in to do this think through this part carefully ahead of time.

    we already had done that awhile ago. pull the plug
  • LyndaBSS
    LyndaBSS Posts: 6,964 Member
    Ginny I'm sorry for your loss. I can relate to the birthday memory.

    I've had both knees and one hip replaced due to osteoarthritis.

    We carry on though, don't we. 💟
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,243 Member
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  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    Here! Just tired JR (post menopause baby 2 1/2yrs in 9th!) his growth spurt y age change has made him not sleep much y hyper y won’t sit on the potty for 3days now! Waiting for him to find his middle ground fingers crossed 🤞. Just exhausted so hubby bought meal trays .Eating healthy y walking still.Lost 35lbs so far. Just tired gonna keep going pass out with JR jumping on me. Looking for a tall item for JR to play on since he can’t be in the sun for his skin condition must be indoors.So figuring it out found 5ft tall y wide length y width item but price is making us question whether to or not.All baby slides most stuffs too small for gigantism. Just too tired to think so left it up to hubby. Glad holidays over! Was up till 1am Checking on family in Odessa (I was born Ector County Odessa) my 90 yr old grandma y Uncle are fine we’re still checking on distant to 1st cousins y Aunt/Uncles their spouses (some died years ago so spouses rely on us in old age). Watching news to make sure I don’t see any of Daughter 1st cousins on list of dead/injured. So tired .Stay strong everyone keep in keeping on.
    Amber Tx

    Aprendí a vivir
    I learned to Live
    Adios mi amigas.Buenos noches ⛈ storm rolling in so internet will be bad till it passes. JR wants to walk ttyl
  • coastalgosgal
    coastalgosgal Posts: 2,900 Member
    Thank you Barbie, for doing all that you do.💖. I can't remember how long I have been posting. Long time! Not too long after husband had lived transplant, and that was in 2014. I consider you ladies all family.👍
    💖Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,588 Member
    auntiebk wrote: »
    The good news is that our dance gals PERFORMED at the Slam'n Salmon derby down at the port of Brookings/Harbor. We danced an hour, took a 10 minute break, then danced another 20 minutes, all on a wobbly, trailer mounted plywood stage. It was hot but fun. Even got a few kids and gals up front to dance with us. Now THAT made me feel good! Note to self... ;)

    Well done!

    LyndaBSS wrote: »
    I lost my husband last year to ALS. I had stopped working a few years prior when it was apparent that he needed 24 hour care. I had no training in caregiving but rather learned "on the job".

    After Michael died, I plumetted into severe anxiety and depression. He was the love of my life, my soul mate, my person. My emotional overeating skyrocketed and the weight piled on. I got to 218.6.

    I somehow lost 10 pounds by June of this year, when I joined mfp. I've lost another 20 since June. Within the last month, I've had normal range bloodwork results and great visits with both my endocrinologist and GP.

    Last week, I gained 6 pounds due to medication changes. I ate over calories due to stressing about it. Yesterday, I refocused and got my head straight. September is a new month and a new chance.

    Today, I will focus on mindful eating. I will stay in a calorie deficit. I am worth it. 💙

    {{Hugs}}


    Machka in Oz
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,251 Member
    Amber prayers
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,588 Member
    margaretturk wrote: »
    Talked to friend today about setting up wills and trusts. She gave suggestions about home in trust, and I like her idea of taking pictures of the heirlooms to put in how we want personal property distributed and then give history on the back. The later idea is now on the list but admit it will take awhile to get to that one. Her suggestion for our home was look at our property tax bill. Unfortunately it showed me proof the other law firm did not do their job to get this done and I did not do my part to double check that is was done.

    Without giving too much personal info away because this is a open site. If any of you have gone through this process and found ways to make it easier I am open to suggestions. If so speak in generalities and not specifics. Thanks.

    Personally, if I were going to do this, I'd create a Word document with a photo inserted and a typed description of item and the history etc.

    Also Google 'Tips for Creating a Will' and skim through some of the sites that come up to create your own list of what's important to you.

    Ours was fairly straightforward because we don't have much, and I doubt anyone would be happy if I bequeathed them the china or my collection of teddy bear, bicycle or cat ornaments. I figure all that stuff will end up in OP shops after I'm gone. That was one thing I discovered as I looked round the house to see if there was anything someone else would actually want ... and the answer was "probably not". It means something to me ... but I doubt it would mean anything to anyone else.

    M in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,588 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Aside from exercise, this month will include ...

    -- work full time

    -- attending uni part time, working toward my Master's degree

    -- doing my last 2 assignments for my current course

    -- doing several things for my cycling club, of which I'm president now ... I've got a conference call on Wed plus routes to check

    -- attending a whole pile of different physio appointments and other medical appointments. I really need to make a dentist appointment!!! There is not a single week without a medical appointment of some sort.

    -- and continuing to organise stuff

    I should also add ...

    -- caring for my husband. For those who may not know, he suffered a severe traumatic brain injury as the result of a fall at work in March 2018. He was in coma for 2.5 weeks, post traumatic amnesia for 7 weeks, and in hospital for 102 days. He has made a "remarkable" recovery given the severity of the injury but it is a permanent injury - he will never fully recover. Then in March 2019, he had a tonic clonic (grand mal) seizure as a result of the brain injury and was diagnosed with post-traumatic generalise epilepsy. He's on medication for that which should help, but the medication itself is a bit of a challenge. He continues to see doctors at least once a month, and we have physiotherapy pilates once a week.

    -- trying to get in as much exercise as I can.

    We were long, long, long distance cyclists. Our club (mentioned above) is the local branch of Audax Australia. Two weeks before his accident, my husband and I cycled one of the events we were to host ... we cycled it in advance to ensure the course was all right. It was a 300 km randonnee which we completed in 18 hours and 18 minutes, including all breaks. Unfortunately since the accident, the longest he has managed was 40 km on a day when he was feeling pretty good. Most of our rides are around the 10-20 km range.

    I also got into running when I was 49 and completed a 10K event in January 2017 and a half marathon in January 2018. I was hoping to do a full marathon this coming January, but my right hip decided enough was enough and packed it in with 3 km to go during that half marathon. I walked the last 3 km. So I've been attending the physiotherapy pilates classes with my husband to try to rebuild the use of that hip. I think those classes and also my sessions with my podiatrist have helped ... I've managed to run a whole 5 minutes on my treadmill!


    Machka in Oz
  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,975 Member
    Today was weird, but I stayed out of the Chex mix. I had to leave at 8:30 a.m. to drive an hour to do pulpit supply in a small country church, so I ate breakfast about 2 hours earlier than normal. I was starved at lunch time so I had leftovers instead of my usual smoothie. Then Dave and I went to the mall and walked 3 miles. He got Zaxby’s for supper. I had my smoothie, so I was hungry again at 8. Instead of getting in the Chex mix, I had almond butter on Ezekiel toast. I came in 300 calories under goal, so I’ll call that a win.

    To answer bananas, I have ingredients to make healthy snacks. I do not have them prepped. I need to get that done. The calories don’t matter as much as the contents. My goal for tomorrow is to get some protein balls made, as well as some healthy cookies. I also want to prep some raw veggies and try my hand at homemade hummus. For tonight, I’m thankful for Ezekiel toast.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,588 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    margaretturk wrote: »
    Talked to friend today about setting up wills and trusts. She gave suggestions about home in trust, and I like her idea of taking pictures of the heirlooms to put in how we want personal property distributed and then give history on the back. The later idea is now on the list but admit it will take awhile to get to that one. Her suggestion for our home was look at our property tax bill. Unfortunately it showed me proof the other law firm did not do their job to get this done and I did not do my part to double check that is was done.

    Without giving too much personal info away because this is a open site. If any of you have gone through this process and found ways to make it easier I am open to suggestions. If so speak in generalities and not specifics. Thanks.

    Personally, if I were going to do this, I'd create a Word document with a photo inserted and a typed description of item and the history etc.

    Also Google 'Tips for Creating a Will' and skim through some of the sites that come up to create your own list of what's important to you.

    Ours was fairly straightforward because we don't have much, and I doubt anyone would be happy if I bequeathed them the china or my collection of teddy bear, bicycle or cat ornaments. I figure all that stuff will end up in OP shops after I'm gone. That was one thing I discovered as I looked round the house to see if there was anything someone else would actually want ... and the answer was "probably not". It means something to me ... but I doubt it would mean anything to anyone else.

    M in Oz

    Also, one of the ways to simplify this process is ... if there's something a family member really likes and wants you could give it to them now. Then you don't have to worry about including it in the will. Although, if it is something that several family members want, you might want to note down somewhere who you gave it to and why to reduce conflict.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,588 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Aside from exercise, this month will include ...

    -- work full time

    -- attending uni part time, working toward my Master's degree

    -- doing my last 2 assignments for my current course

    -- doing several things for my cycling club, of which I'm president now ... I've got a conference call on Wed plus routes to check

    -- attending a whole pile of different physio appointments and other medical appointments. I really need to make a dentist appointment!!! There is not a single week without a medical appointment of some sort.

    -- and continuing to organise stuff

    I should also add ...

    -- caring for my husband. For those who may not know, he suffered a severe traumatic brain injury as the result of a fall at work in March 2018. He was in coma for 2.5 weeks, post traumatic amnesia for 7 weeks, and in hospital for 102 days. He has made a "remarkable" recovery given the severity of the injury but it is a permanent injury - he will never fully recover. Then in March 2019, he had a tonic clonic (grand mal) seizure as a result of the brain injury and was diagnosed with post-traumatic generalise epilepsy. He's on medication for that which should help, but the medication itself is a bit of a challenge. He continues to see doctors at least once a month, and we have physiotherapy pilates once a week.

    -- trying to get in as much exercise as I can.

    We were long, long, long distance cyclists. Our club (mentioned above) is the local branch of Audax Australia. Two weeks before his accident, my husband and I cycled one of the events we were to host ... we cycled it in advance to ensure the course was all right. It was a 300 km randonnee which we completed in 18 hours and 18 minutes, including all breaks. Unfortunately since the accident, the longest he has managed was 40 km on a day when he was feeling pretty good. Most of our rides are around the 10-20 km range.

    I also got into running when I was 49 and completed a 10K event in January 2017 and a half marathon in January 2018. I was hoping to do a full marathon this coming January, but my right hip decided enough was enough and packed it in with 3 km to go during that half marathon. I walked the last 3 km. So I've been attending the physiotherapy pilates classes with my husband to try to rebuild the use of that hip. I think those classes and also my sessions with my podiatrist have helped ... I've managed to run a whole 5 minutes on my treadmill!


    Machka in Oz

    One more thing ... like some of the other women here, I am not a natural carer. I didn't even want children and wasn't disappointed when I was informed, years later, that I couldn't have had them anyway.

    I've had to learn all about brain injury, and learn to be a carer, and learn patience, and even with my best efforts, there are times when I lose the plot. It's not easy.

    However, my Master's degree is in IT and I've casually considered that if I do decide to pursue a PhD, I might try to do it in some combination of brain injury and IT ... because I've learned so much about brain injury in the last 18 months!! :p But that would be down the road a way ... I need to finish my Master's first and then take an education break.


    M in Oz

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