WHY do people CHEAT?
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People cheat because they can (some can't, due to lack of an available partner) and they have a desire which is unfulfilled in their current relationship.
I think that men are more polygamous than women. You can see that when you look at gay male relationships, many have an open relationship, where you can bring home a new guy if you follow certain rules. We're talking 40% vs 4% for men vs women (after a cursory Google search). Certainly if I were gay (I'm a guy) I would not marry or shack up with someone unless it were open to some degree.
This would imply that men like sexual variety. This is not surprising since some gay men have 500+ lifetime sexual partners.
Heterosexual women aren't left behind however, DNA testing has shown that 5-10% of the poorest families the mother has been seeking attention elsewhere and ended up getting pregnant. I think that is a risky strategy in a world of 23andMe DNA testing websites. There's probably a lot more women who strayed and didn't get pregnant.2 -
It sucks but we aren't made to be monogamous. Divorce and cheating rates prove that humans suck at monogamy.4
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I think it's because they are extremely lonely, the passion that once existed died out. Lack of communication and intimacy can really damage a relationship.3
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This thread is like the million dollar question? I’ve always thought because they (the cheaters) were unfulfilled in their relationships but I actually now look at that and regret thinking in that way as it takes away from the feelings and actions of the person they are cheating on, as it assumes that partner isn’t doing something right but I don’t think it’s fair to say that.2
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Finishiitnow wrote: »According to an article I just read...
We cheat to feel alive and to expand our sense of self desire....your thoughts???!!
Never cheated, only talked. Was in love with all my exes. Cheating/cheater, are bored with the relationship, an to scared to talk about . Im guessing.
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I thought this was gonna be about eating a whole pizza in bed on a frisky Sunday afternoon.
Thats dirty! I thought everyone was going off topic and kept reading to find out why I am cheating my mfp diary out of knowing about girl scout cookies. This is obviously a slippery slope that I must stop, I’m so afraid to hurt my husband I must tell him right away!
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Confused, lonely, desperate to feel excitement, wanting to feel wanted, etc. No one really knows. They’re all different reasons. The only one thing is we all have a choice. Do it or don’t do it. It’s your choice.2
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Because they are selfish and don't know what they have.1
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I cheat usually because I haven't meal prepped. It is a quick easy fix. Sometimes a burger is willing to do the things my chicken and rice isnt10
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People seek different sexual partners for a million reasons. They cheat (commit to monogamy and the lie about it) because they’re weak. Too weak to be monogamous which is not easy or too weak to leave the monogamous relationship that they’re not committed to.2
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People seek different sexual partners for a million reasons. They cheat (commit to monogamy and the lie about it) because they’re weak.
1. Too weak to be monogamous which is not easy or
2. too weak to leave the monogamous relationship that they’re not committed to.
3. Renegotiate the terms of the relationship4 -
TwitchyMacGee wrote: »People seek different sexual partners for a million reasons. They cheat (commit to monogamy and the lie about it) because they’re weak.
1. Too weak to be monogamous which is not easy or
2. too weak to leave the monogamous relationship that they’re not committed to.
3. Renegotiate the terms of the relationship
4. procure sisterwives8 -
TwitchyMacGee wrote: »People seek different sexual partners for a million reasons. They cheat (commit to monogamy and the lie about it) because they’re weak.
1. Too weak to be monogamous which is not easy or
2. too weak to leave the monogamous relationship that they’re not committed to.
3. Renegotiate the terms of the relationship
Absolutely true. Third and probably the most difficult of the options.TwitchyMacGee wrote: »People seek different sexual partners for a million reasons. They cheat (commit to monogamy and the lie about it) because they’re weak.
1. Too weak to be monogamous which is not easy or
2. too weak to leave the monogamous relationship that they’re not committed to.
3. Renegotiate the terms of the relationship
4. procure sisterwives
Lol. And that would be one very difficult negotiation.2 -
TwitchyMacGee wrote: »People seek different sexual partners for a million reasons. They cheat (commit to monogamy and the lie about it) because they’re weak.
1. Too weak to be monogamous which is not easy or
2. too weak to leave the monogamous relationship that they’re not committed to.
3. Renegotiate the terms of the relationship
4. procure sisterwives
I was thinking the other way but sure, that could work2 -
TwitchyMacGee wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »People seek different sexual partners for a million reasons. They cheat (commit to monogamy and the lie about it) because they’re weak.
1. Too weak to be monogamous which is not easy or
2. too weak to leave the monogamous relationship that they’re not committed to.
3. Renegotiate the terms of the relationship
4. procure sisterwives
I was thinking the other way but sure, that could work
Brother husbands ... 😅😄🤣😂😀😃3 -
Polyandry just makes so much sense 😂777Gemma888 wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »People seek different sexual partners for a million reasons. They cheat (commit to monogamy and the lie about it) because they’re weak.
1. Too weak to be monogamous which is not easy or
2. too weak to leave the monogamous relationship that they’re not committed to.
3. Renegotiate the terms of the relationship
4. procure sisterwives
I was thinking the other way but sure, that could work
Brother husbands ... 😅😄🤣😂😀😃
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TwitchyMacGee wrote: »
Polyandry just makes so much sense 😂777Gemma888 wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »People seek different sexual partners for a million reasons. They cheat (commit to monogamy and the lie about it) because they’re weak.
1. Too weak to be monogamous which is not easy or
2. too weak to leave the monogamous relationship that they’re not committed to.
3. Renegotiate the terms of the relationship
4. procure sisterwives
I was thinking the other way but sure, that could work
Brother husbands ... 😅😄🤣😂😀😃
No argument here.2 -
TwitchyMacGee wrote: »People seek different sexual partners for a million reasons. They cheat (commit to monogamy and the lie about it) because they’re weak.
1. Too weak to be monogamous which is not easy or
2. too weak to leave the monogamous relationship that they’re not committed to.
3. Renegotiate the terms of the relationship
Absolutely true. Third and probably the most difficult of the options.TwitchyMacGee wrote: »People seek different sexual partners for a million reasons. They cheat (commit to monogamy and the lie about it) because they’re weak.
1. Too weak to be monogamous which is not easy or
2. too weak to leave the monogamous relationship that they’re not committed to.
3. Renegotiate the terms of the relationship
4. procure sisterwives
Lol. And that would be one very difficult negotiation.
Still. Honesty is the best policy.2 -
i only ever cheated that time my girl was sleep in the bedroom but her best friend was staying over and she got stuck in the dryer in the laundry room and i tried to help pull her out it was crazy5
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Because the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence, what they don't realise is it just has more fertiliser on it
Or
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Cheating on a diet. Is because you miss that orange chicken Chinese an you want it. O i miss Chinese. Crab wonton. Egg roll an orange chicken was my order. So yummy, but heart burn when sleeping.1
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Because they feel empty or incomplete?2
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They value self over intimacy. They're willing to risk everything for self-gratification vs. intimacy. That might never change over the course of an entire lifetime so know what you're getting yourself into. The willingness to leave or not leave is a choice. There's only choices and consequences.1
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Because the relationship is over already and whoever is cheating doesn’t have morals or respect for themselves or the person they are hurting! Dont do things you wouldn’t want done to yourself, your mother, sister!3
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