WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2019
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I know that she finds this embarrassing, but beyond that I know my heart was/is in the right place. That this will limit the quality of her life, and maybe the length of her life. But that it is her choice. She is choosing to not consider the options, not to admit it is a choice, and to blame. She may be scared, angry? But that is not my fault or responsibility. Still I feel sad.
Kim from N. California
So sorry your mom is being unreasonable. She is probably both embarrassed and scared. Your heart is in the right place.
I hope the lunch with your friends was the break you needed.2 -
Thought I'd pop in......don't know if I am posting a reply or just making a comment in the group😂
StArted a new job as a career and need to lose weight so I am fit enough to do it, have had a great first week (again)
I have had thousands of first weeks.........need the motivation and will power to get on top of this overeating lark😡4 -
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Janetr- Love the decorations. How nice to celebrate the Fall. Autumn. Whatever.
Kim - You are so much more than a dutiful daughter. She is not going to change now, you know that. Yes, be sad, but our selfhood requires us to separate our identity from those we love, but who cannot see the truth. We cannot save people who won't be saved. Big hugs for you.
When I first knew you your 'handle' referred to your mother. Now your handle is about something much more positive in your life. I hope you will be able to tread that difficult line between caring and sacrificing. Everyone has to work out for themselves where they stand on that line.
Enjoy your lunch tomorrow.
Relaxing now on the sofa. Easy TV tonight. Oh joy!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx5 -
I know that she finds this embarrassing, but beyond that I know my heart was/is in the right place. That this will limit the quality of her life, and maybe the length of her life. But that it is her choice. She is choosing to not consider the options, not to admit it is a choice, and to blame. She may be scared, angry? But that is not my fault or responsibility. Still I feel sad.
Kim from N. California
So sorry your mom is being unreasonable. She is probably both embarrassed and scared. Your heart is in the right place.
I hope the lunch with your friends was the break you needed.
KIM - ditto. Hopefully you have planted a seed with your mom. Does she have a medical/financial power of attorney and if so, are you the person in charge and executor?
I am so glad she is still able to be independent and drive at her age.
(((((hugs))))💓
Lanette2 -
Kim, Everyone's said all the right things, won't repeat them... and you said the right things to your mother, too. She deserves the ability to make her own decisions, at her age. You deserve the ability to make yours, too, and not to allow her decisions to have a negative impact on your life. I give people all the information I can, give them the places where I draw my own lines, and leave them alone to get on with their choices. I don't have to agree with their choices. You don't have to agree with her choices in order to let her go ahead and make them. It may sound cold - but I hope when I'm 90, I'm still able to drive and make my own decisions about what I choose to do with my body and my life.
Busy morning - got one of the grands' quilts prepped for sewing, but it was too beautiful a day to resist going out and helping Corey gather up all the brush and get it burned. Yesterday, we took down one of the old sheds that was leaking and smelled of mold, saved what was usable and built a lean-to on one of the other, dry sheds, to store the equipment that was in the one we destroyed. Burned all the unusable wood from the shed we took down, as well as the equivalent of about four pick-up loads of brush, so it was quite a bonfire!
Corey's canning salsa and getting dinner in the crockpot... I'm going to go lay down and read, I think (for which you can substitute "take a nap," most likely.)
Later,
Lisa in AR6 -
Some quick answers before I run out to lunch with the gals! Yes I have all the legal things needed to take care of her and her affairs, executor etc... I can only hope I have planted a seed, 3 months is a long time but I'm going to see if I can get her doctors name and call, and my mom lives independently and does all her own cleaning, laundry, scrubs floors, in a 4 bedroom 2.5 bath 2700 sq ft home... I am hoping to get her to something smaller, but that will have to wait until after my brother who lives with her dies (which was expected 18 months ago) She is also his primary care giver.
Thanks for all the understanding and support, sometimes just knowing you all are there gets me through a day.
Love ya!
Kim in N. California8 -
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Kim~ all I can do is send hugs, my dad had nothing in place... lived independently and still drove, he wouldnt tell me anything because he thought I would chuck him in a nursing home..which I wouldnt do.. he died less then a month from diagnosis of colon cancer of a heart attack as he had congestive heart failure which he failed to let me know he had, and only by the grace of God did we have the advance directive signed and notarized 2 weeks before his death..
DFIL that was all taken care of when he was admitted to the Nursing Home..
I have had a hell of a week , but so has Tom and I am glad it all worked out the way it did so that he and Elena have time to rest and relax.. sometime I would like to go rest and relax but that wont be anytime soon..5 -
Lanette - I do love the job and I love that I am being challenged. We are a privately owned nursing home that has hired a bigger corporation to manage some of our business. Procedures, payroll, payables and receivables. That company owns and manages over 1000 nursing homes and unless they change their system what we have is what we can work with. I think once I have done a few pay periods on my own I’ll feel more confident.
Kim - hugs to you that was a very difficult conversation to have and unfortunately it wasn’t a good response. I hope you have at least made her think and that hopefully she sees a doctor sooner. I’m glad you had a break today.
Lisa - that was a busy day, I think going to lay down and “read” is what I would do too.
Allie - hugs to you, I hope you get some rest soon too. You have had an emotional rollercoaster for far too long.
Tracey6 -
One of the most difficult things we have to do as adults is allow the other adults in our lives to live their own lives even if their choices are ones that we think are unwise or unhealthy. That is true whether the other adult is your parent, spouse, or child.9
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stat for the day:
0 runner- 50min= 50min, 119ahr, 151mhr, 106c, 10h, 41l, 9.39min mi, 8-9lvl, 5.19mi= 441c
Apple Watch- 371c
total cal 4413 -
One of the most difficult things we have to do as adults is allow the other adults in our lives to live their own lives even if their choices are ones that we think are unwise or unhealthy. That is true whether the other adult is your parent, spouse, or child.
Barbie: May I add sibling to that list? My brother who lives with us is back to drinking, and I am trying to practice spiritual principles. He knows it bothers me, but I "let it go" because it's not something I can control.
Kim: At her age, your mom has undoubtedly endured alot and come out okay. I think you are wise to have said your peace, and I hope you find comfort in knowing you planted the seed. ((hugs))
Winds have been wild all night and all day. All the beautiful, colorful leaves have blown right into the alcove of our front door. Fortunately, DH loves to sweep, so he bundled up and tackled the piles, even as the winds continued to swirl around. 💨💨💨
Make it a great week, friends. We can do this.
Rori
Colorado Foothills
SMILING from lips, eyes and heart6 -
On catchup again. Very busy last few days. Up to p53. Skimming so possibly no comments. Until caught up. 💕💖💕
☘️ Terri
Later: caught up, but too bushed to remember comments. Off to bed. 💤💤💤4 -
Machka in Oz - Looking at that picture of the ferry makes me nearly seasick.
I don't understand people who eat out for lunch every day. I know many people don't have to "worry" about money, but there are so many reasons not to do that beyond saving money. The mister has discovered weight gain since he started working again. They feed him 2 times per week via catering, usually more often due to leftovers, and he is complaining about gaining weight.4 -
KIM + ALLIE Hugs to you both
Been staying with DD for a few days. Bit of a traumatic weekend her oldest dog had a tooth extracted. So we worried about her most of Friday. She was really wobbly when she came home, she has arthritis too. Then late Fri evening grand who has EDS started with severe chest pain . We called out of hours service and they ordered an ambulance which came very quickly and carted her off to hospital. Anyway it wasn't a heart attack but Pericarditis caused by a virus
Going home to DH tomorrow, peace, no drama hopefully
Kate UK5 -
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M – it’s been a long time since I’ve had fast food. No, I take that back. When we went to visit Denise, do you know that around there isn’t one place that serves breakfast like a Perkins Pancake House or Bob Evans? So I had to go to a McDonalds and have one of their egg sandwiches. But it’s been a very long time since I’ve had a fast food burger. Update: we stopped at a McD’s and I just had the fruit & yogurt parfait. Then had a fruit strip that I had in my pocketbook
Heather – you’re such a good cook. Do you make cutout cookies with the grands? Admitted that doesn’t take 6 hours, but it could easily take up 2 or 3. What about making bread? Things that they can take home with them….lol
We went to this place in South Carolina and got some bisq for ceramics
Rishi – welcome. Really, 7 pounds isn’t all that much. Enough, but it could be worse. You’ll get it off, I’m sure of that. Just keep coming in here.
Vince just grilled the pork chops and the pork tenderloin and the salmon. I must have made the pork tenderloin medallions pretty big because there aren’t as many servings as I would have expected. Was in the 70’s
SuziQ – that’s just great that you were continually losing. I tend to lose, gain, lose, gain the same pound or two.
Janetr – lovely decorations
Heather – sounds like you had a lovely day. Lovely AND exhausting!
Kim – (((BIG HUG))) Everyone said what was in my mind so I won’t repeat it
Michele in NC
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I turned around and my spoon rest was broken. I really liked it. It's of a cat made by Boston Warehouse. Only I don't see it on their website. I do hope they still make it. I've written to the company to see if they make it and I just don't see it.
Michele in NC3
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