WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2019
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Hello Ladies,
OK, long epistle here of my last couple days. Working outside, Master Gardener stuff, Computer stuff. Feel free to skip.Kind of a busy week here. In prep for the HVAC guy to come clean/tune up heating/cooling system and install new thermostat, I helped DH trim back the camelia that was threatening to take over the outside unit and lift the corner of the roof, lol. DH cut, I loaded the branches into my wagon and hauled them to the brush pile at the back of the property. Half a dozen trips. Wednesday morning.Have been skimming. I see everyone has been busy, hope to comment this weekend.
A year ago, it would have been impossible to do this with my frozen shoulder AND painful midsection. (undiagnosed hernia). I was so, so grateful to be active again.
Then on Wednesday afternoon, I decided to thin out the crocosmia which has been taking over the flower bed for 9 years. It was like digging in cement, but managed to tear out about half of the corms with the aid of the potato fork. I have 4 buckets full of sod and corms, will sift through them this coming week and plop them into pots and dirt and see if any survive for the Master Gardener plant sale next May.
Another item for the gratitude list – digging, bending, lifting…. Again, things I was unable to do last year. Did them fine, no worse for wear.
I’ve been assigned additional duties with the Master Gardeners, under faint protest, which is overseeing one of their tiny Demonstration Gardens. The gal who’s been doing is has to take a year off per policy and I’ve been her helper, so I was the logical choice. I don’t foresee it being a hardship.
Today, I’ve been the computer queen. Decided to see if I could download Firefox onto one of the old computers – the spare in our office. But first, needed to make sure everything was backed up. I found a few family photos on DH’s user account, so pulled out the “big mama” backup thumb drive with all of the historical photos and documents we’ve collected over the years. Copied his photos on to it, then went to eject… and got the message that something was still open, if I took out the thumbdrive I might lose data. 20 gigs. There was nothing open, and it wasn’t changing its mind.
Gulp. So, I decided to back up the whole she-bang onto the PC, and then download THAT onto a new, clean thumbdrive. So, if “big mama” was corrupted, no problem, I had a spare. Each download took over 2 hours.
After all was said and done, “big mama” appears to be OK, and now I have a spare backup which is probably a good idea anyhow.
Some of you would recommend backing up to the cloud, but we don’t have cloud access, nor do we want it. And we are on the low end of “high speed internet” so one back-up could take all day. We’ve had large downloads time out.
If I was file sharing with someone remotely, it would make sense. And, it might in the future. But for now, I’ll store the #2 backup off premises.
My brain is too tired to deal with downloading Firefox, will attempt that on another day.
Have a great evening!
Lanette
SW WA State
I backup onto 2TB external harddrives these days. I've got one for photos and two (duplicates) for the rest of my stuff. One of the "rest of my stuff" harddrives is stored offsite.
I also kind of backup photos onto Flickr. https://www.flickr.com/photos/machka-bb/
And I use both OneDrive and Google Drive for my Uni stuff and a few other things (which are also backed up in the external harddrive backups).
Oh and I just recently backed up our "classical" music onto a 64GB usb drive!!
A little bit of everything.
I love camellias. We've got a bush with large dark pinky-red flowers and our neighbours have a bush about twice the size with smaller pink flowers. It flows over the fence into our yard.
Machka in Oz3 -
I'm a day ahead on the grateful chart. I love so many colours.
I tend to dress in jewel colours with a base of black. But for furnishings I love blue as a base and I'm using pops of pink a lot. So I guess blue is the colour I am most grateful for.
Lanette - What great news on the physical abilities front. Isn't it great to be mobile, active and strong at our age! It makes all the difference to our every day lives. Mind you, I really admire the 'pioneer spirit ' of so many of you women. My days of hard physical labour are over. I'm sure I would hurt my back, or knee, or something. That's what young men are for. :laugh:
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx5 -
morning ladies~
I am up enjoying my tea, checking in with you all, and have Alfie on my lap, he likes the vantage point so he can look for squirrels.
Ended up working until after last night as Dr P started a post core and crown 15 minutes before we were supposed to leave, I was the one that came in later so I had to stay..
my dear friend who is a recreation assistant is looking for a job at the hospital, so I told her if she gets it let me know because I will apply for her job at the nursing home..you know how much I would love that..
today my DD and I were supposed to go to the spa, got a call last night that the massage therapist called out sick, so we will have to reschedule.. oh well we have waited this long .3 -
Did a lot of skimming to catch up. Been busy this week and off now to town a bit of shopping then a couple of hours at my knitting group
Kate UK 3 -
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Saturday --
We were up at 5:30 am. Not easy for me!! I'm not fond of mornings at the best of times, but the 6th "early" morning in a row, and a really, really, really early morning at that ...
Nevertheless 5:30 am it was, and we were on the road by 6:20 am. We hosted/ran/organised another cycling event today.
Our soul rider set off at 7 am - chilly morning with a mix of rain clouds and sun. Several riders had indicated an interest in doing the ride, but the weather this past weeks was not good and the prediction for today was actually quite awful! I think it scared them off.
Once he was on his way, we drove out to the first control (checkpoint) and, as we were there early, we wandered around the tiny little town and I took photos of the old churches and animals. Our rider came through about half an hour before anticipated. He was riding well and the weather was quite decent.
Off we went to the next control, in a slightly larger town. Again, we were there early so we went for a walk and I took more photos. We weren't sure when our rider would get there ... he was faced with a couple decent climbs and a headwind for part of the way. I thin he struggled a little with that segment but still arrived about half an hour before expected. We had a brunch all set up for him and sent him on his way well fuelled.
Off to the next control, and when we got there it was raining, very windy and tiredness was setting in. My husband took a nap for about an hour while I read some documents for my uni class. All of a sudden our rider appeared!! He had a roaring tailwind for about half that distance and was making really good time.
And we were off again to the finish. We had made ourselves a cup of coffee and I was about half way through drinking it when our rider arrived. He covered that last 36 km in no time at all with that tailwind!
Well done to him! 209.5 km in 9 hours on the dot.
My husband and I returned home and got there about 5 pm ... and I went right to bed to sleep for about 1.5 hours.
We relaxed this evening ... I needed that!
Machka in Oz2 -
🎄🤶 Gratitude for Christmas 🎅🏻🎄
#1: Scents: loved the smell of the roses I put into my Floral arrangement
#2: Technology: Glad that I had my car and didn’t have to stand in the cold waiting for a bus
#3: Colour: the colour of the beautiful sunset as I walked home in the late afternoon
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Good morning Ladies -
It's been a pretty uneventful week around here. Work is plugging along. Job 2 looks like our technology issues are about to be solved, I hope.
Hubs is getting a day off tomorrow, his first one in 3 weeks. He is going to put the ficus tree in the shop and get the big Christmas tree down for me and get it set up on the back porch. I will decorate it and plug it in later. I think. I have been watching all the Hallmark and Lifetime Christmas movies so it has me in the Christmas spirit extra early. The lights are up on the house thanks to our handy man. I won't plug them in until Thanksgiving day. I may have already told you that, if so, I apologize for repeating myself.
I better get my day started. Have a great weekend ladies!
Okie in the TX Hill Country2 -
Trying out a new sport ... see the last 7 photos in this album: https://www.flickr.com/photos/machka-bb/albums/72157633363634858/page4
A couple samples ...
These are the sorts of things I get up to when I'm waiting around in a random town for riders to come in.
Machka in Oz
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Happy Saturday ladies!
Machka - what a fun way to spend Saturday, even though it was a long day. Sounds like your soul rider did a fine job.
Lisa - I'm happy your meeting went well, what a nice boost to be recognized and admired by others for doing a job you love to do.
On the topic of a loaded pantry, I aim to keep a few month's worth of non-perishable food items we use a lot, and even products like laundry soap and cleaners. So I do shop sales when I can find them. I've discovered there are times the stores decide to no longer carry the brand or product we like, or that item remains sold out when I'm in the store, so that's even more incentive to load up. Wish they'd all stop carrying candy and Twinkies!
Heather - that pink vase is lovely! Hope your DH can work out the loan/gift to his daughter. Good idea letting the rest of the kids know what's up with that and making it a legal transaction.
Kelly - I'm amused that Tim is a "night" shopper - tho I know many folks who prefer to shop after dinner as the stores are less crowded.
Kim - crossing fingers you and your pie have a great Thanksgiving.
Although I admit the lift I got from cleaning out the garage and shelves in preparation for the HVAC guy is ongoing. Can't wait to get at more boxes. It's making my DH nervous tho, I think he's afraid there's a treasure out there I'm going to toss.
I've been over-indulging a LOT this past week, so looks like today will be a fast day, at least for most of the day.
OK, time to feed dog #2.
Make it a wonderful day, ladies!
Lanette
SW WA State2 -
IrishTerri Lovely sunset. I was born & raised in Nebraska where the sunrises & sunsets are routinely breathtaking. I love seeing beautiful sunset photos.
Luci Aaaahhh, what nice photos! Warms my heart.
Rant ahead about family:First, let me say that my son loves his wife & children intensely, and takes his job as husband & father very seriously. It's the most important thing in his life; the center of his life.
My 13-year-old grandson is autistic. He was just diagnosed this year. He had a number of misdiagnoses prior to this time. His dad accepts the diagnosis of autism but can't quite seem to "get" that grandson's behavior/emotions have to be managed differently because of autism.
Grandson's behavioral therapist made her once-a-week in-home visit yesterday, and I was invited to attend. There were two major topics of discussion, both with my son (Dad) as the lynchpin.
Tuesday my son was getting dinner ready as the family was gathering from running chores, swim practice, school, etc. Grandson had gone over his allowed time on screens. Instead of just letting it go for 10 more minutes, my son escalated the situation. So with food threatening to burn on the stove & the chaos level rising in the household, my son, getting no response from my grandson about putting down the screens and "joining the family", went up behind my grandson and plucked his Kindle & his phone out of his hands/off the couch. My grandson reacted violently, trying to hit & kick his father (who was behind him). They struggled & my son physically restrained my grandson & of course, there was the inevitable total meltdown. Then my son badgered my grandson & finally ended up crying & telling him he feels guilty every day because one time when grandson was one year old, he yelled at him in his face because he wouldn't be still while he was trying to change his diaper, and he wonders if that "made (grandson) the way he is". (My son is highly intelligent and knows better.)
As if that's not enough, there was a major discussion about an Xbox One that is coming for Christmas. Grandson has wanted & asked for one for over 5 years & is now very leery & anxious about what conditions will be placed on its use. He says his dad will "lord it over him" to try to control & manipulate his behavior and that there will be shifting goalposts. He says it will be used to punish him. This has been a topic of discussion for years, and now that they are getting one, my grandson is asking, "Why? Why now?" My son won't answer this and just tries to brush off this line of questioning. So the therapist was trying to negotiate the conditions governing the use of the Xbox & my son kept interrupting and patronizing my grandson when he was asking why they were getting one now. I couldn't stand it anymore and I said loudly, "Be quiet! (Grandson) is trying to talk!" OMG. I doubt that my son will ever speak to me again. When my son tried to counter me, my poor grandson said, "No! She (Grammy) understands me. I can't take this anymore." And he disintegrated into wrenching, uncontrollable sobbing. His mom tried to comfort him. He was inconsolable. I had asked my grandson earlier in the day if he would be more miserable with or without the Xbox. It took him a very long time to answer that he still wanted the Xbox. The therapist did say to my son that it's important to listen to Griffin without interrupting him, but my son was defensive by then. I apologized for hurting his feelings or making him mad, but he rebuffed me with, "My feelings aren't hurt & I'm not mad; it had to do with decorum." (He was really mad.)
Right now I am so angry at my son, who is supposed to be the grown-up. He will not solicit further discussion. His fatal flaw is that he thinks he knows. He won't get therapy because he already knows. He won't solicit opinions from other knowledgable adults because he already knows. And, problematically, he often really DOES know. He's so smart but pedantic & he lectures instead of discusses. And he inappropriately unloads confessions like the diaper incident onto his son who has autism - instead of scrutinizing his current behavior for harmful content. Sometimes my daughter-in-law can get through to him. I hope she can this time, for the sake of my grandson.
I'm dreading dinner tonight with the family for my daughter-in-law's birthday. It will be fine, but I'm apprehensive anyway.
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Today I hoped to sleep late. On Thursday and Friday I meet my friend half an hour earlier than usual so we can walk and I can get home early enough to get ready for line dance. I looked forward to sleeping later today. Instead, Jake woke up extra early and an hour before I needed to get up, Sasha jumped in bed and started tapping me with her paw and licking me which means she is desperate to go out. Jake took the dogs out for a quick walk but my sleep was completely disturbed. Thus I am up with extra time on my hands til my friend gets here. I've walked the dogs for their before breakfast walk--today it was 45 minutes---and we've all eaten breakfast, but my friend won't be here for more than 30 minutes. I am so fortunate that waking up too early is the biggest complaint that I have.Heather, reading your plans for your son's visit for dinner is like reading an article in a fancy food magazine. You do amazing things with such ease and grace.Kim, bravo for your courage in speaking up about being interested in a place to go for Thanksgiving. Today I will shop for a turkey. So far, our plans are to cook the turkey for ourselves and make a huge pot of soup to freeze for future meals. Barbie from NW WA 5
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Oh Karen ... family dynamics are so very hard when special needs are involved. Hugs.2
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Karen- My heart goes out to you. My moms family wasn’t understanding but my Dads side was. Mom survived it became a sweet soul in spite of it all. Your grandson is more lucky than she was he has an understanding mom y grandma he will draw strength from that. Your Son may actually blame himself deep inside even with intelligence no telling what he read or why a Parent blames themself. His suppressed feelings are coming out wrong y he may actually think he’s punishing correct he too hard headed not to tune everyone out. Of he’s not willing to listen especially to Women (If can find a guy who has a kid with it willing to come for dinner! Or hang out with son he may be more willing to listen) might need a Guys view on things who’s not related has experience because their kid has it (not a person without a kid with it). As a Woman when Daughter was born she had muscles that took exercise for a year to loosen (my inside out uterus was the cause no room to stretch like other babies have) I thought it was caused by my medication I had took in the 1st trimester with no one knowing the true cause of it back then I rationalized that it was my fault. I luckily had the cuddle y teach more knowledge book wise to her to make up for it response. Your sons having a it’s my fault now I must correct the autistic behaviors to make him fit the mold of normal response (more common then you’d think). Why even a smart rational person can have such a irrational response is more primal can’t be explained by rationality. Just find a guy willing to talk to him with kids in the same boat who I bet started out the same way. Late diagnosis hasn’t helped the situation. Theirs also Youtube channels with Dads talking about their experiences. https://www.youtube.com/user/FatheringAutism
Just push play on a laptop watch it few seconds then walk away without it on loudest setting go to the bathroom 🚽 for awhile. So he glances or looks secretly then jumps away pretending he didn’t when you come back then finish watching like it wasn’t the plan.
Reverse psychology
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC1e4LX2OCN3x1azKURaqKLQ
There’s lots of Dads same boat learning best they can
https://www.youtube.com/user/Kimock7
Amber Tx
Soup day. Didn’t weigh skip weigh day. Walking still upping it.4 -
https://youtu.be/oSU9570V5D4
Dads discussing how they felt realizing something wasn’t right confused,complexed,guilt ,can’t understand it, can’t do anything right,was it our fault it must be us,ect lets you see through the Male perspectives which is zero like ours
Turn it on walk away
They had your son’s response in the beginning they admit that in the video4 -
Good morning/afternoon all! Happy Saturday! I slept in until 8am! (I was awake until after midnight though) I do feel a bit "blah" from being off schedule. But I am on my second cup of coffee, my dishwasher and washing machine are humming away, and I have started my yogurt. It is a beautiful day outside, so I will try to get out and do some outdoor things for a while; but I will also be doing some baking of squashes and some other food prep as I go along. My butternut squashes, I will bake and freeze to make soup for Thanksgiving. My spaghetti squash I will bake to refrigerate for meals this week. I am also going to make another pot of vegetarian chili. That was yummy and made for easy lunches.
Thank you all for your kind words of wisdom on my fellow provider. Like myself and a very few others in our group, she has 25+ years of providing care. She has a different style of teaching/caring than I do, so maybe I am just taking things that she says wrong. She is a very "tough love" kind of provider. Anyway, I got a very nice email from the trainer that was at our meeting. She is a teacher of early childhood care at one of our local community colleges, and asked if she could visit my home and see the things that we do. She likes my "energy". Of course I said, "yes". Our training was called : Music Boxes and personal bias. It was an interesting look at how our own personal bias affects how we care for our children. Such as: How do we think children should behave? What behaviour do we expect from them in public? With parents? With strangers? Should they be required to greet strangers? Should they be required to hug relatives? Should they be required to act with the same respect with their parents that we demand as providers? It was very interesting to see how our own upbringing brought different biases to the table.
This week in my daycare, we will be making bread on Monday to celebrate National Homemade Bread Day (that is either today or tomorrow, I think). We will make a loaf to share, and also mini loaves to take home. We will also make a soft pretzel like breadstick to eat with our soup on the following day. We will be reading the book making Stone Soup on Tuesday. These two are annual activities that I like to do with the kids. The Stone Soup story is perfect for teaching them about sharing, compassion and working together to make something wonderful. We always make enough for lunch and then there is always enough so that each child can take a pint or two home with them. Good stuff.
Lanette- I have three laptops downstairs that I need to charge and remove photos from. I think, if I get them charged, I will first go through and get rid of the photos that I don't really want. I am sure there are a LOT of football ones on there from games my hubby went to. Who needs hundreds of random photos of a football game? Good luck getting Firefox up and running again. AND my hubby is a night owl. Always has been. Now, he tends to head to the 24 hour grocery and walk and look around and maybe shop a bit. He used to clean at night. Like, do dishes, laundry, etc. I loved that part of it! It was like having a good fairy pop in and clean while I slept. He doesn't do that anymore. lol (I must have been a bad girl and lost cleaning fairy privileges )
Barbie- Sometimes having that extra time in the morning to yourself is a wonderful thing! We are not big turkey eaters in my house; but our local grocery had turkeys on sale for $.33/pound! So, last night, I bought a turkey and it only cost me $5. I will cook it up and use the meat for meals for my family and kids. I made thanksgiving sliders for my inlaws last year with their leftovers and they (and my family) really enjoyed them.
Heather- The meals and nibbles that you come up with, make my mouth water. Your DH and family are very lucky to have you cooking/fussing for them! I LOVE that Edie is a Rainbow girl/scout/guide, and that she is enjoying her time involved in it!
Machka- Love the gratitude calendar and the photos of you on the "big kid" playground! lol
Pip- Love your commemorative tattoo! When did you get it? Where did you get it placed? (if not too personal) It is very sweet!
More of you I wanted to respond to, but my brain is too fuzzy this morning. Love and hugs to you all! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)3 -
Karen VA- Sending so many hugs your way! I am sure your son KNOWS. As you say, he is very intelligent, and when our children are given a diagnosis of something like autism, intelligent parents tend to learn and glean information regarding the issues our children face and struggle with. BUT as adults/parents there is still that part of us that wants the control. WE want things the way we want them and in those moments forget the "roads" we have to take to even get close to that place. Screen time, family time, father-son time CAN be the way he want it to be; he just has to travel the right path with his son to get there. Sending so much love your way. If I see or hear of anything that may be a help to your son, I will send it your way. I realize it would be unsolicited; so you can do with it as you wish. Hard stuff, right here.
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Hi everyone. Hope you are having a great Saturday. I have gone to the health center for my weekly weigh in and scale said I was DOWN .4 lbs. I'll take it as I've come down with the barking cough again and so this coming week I amm on extra prednisone and antibiotics along with new medicine for the nebulizer. Just going to stick with salads and what is in the freezer.
I've got to find the time to clean the freezer and the pantry to see what I got
Today I am going to watch my 9 yr. old granddaughter play basketball. She's also involved in a play that happens Thanksgiving weekend.
My elbow is still the same. Dr. said the xrays showed there were NO breaks, which we already knew but he has to go according to Medicare rules.
Have a nice weekend!
Marianne-WV3 -
Good morning/afternoon all! Happy Saturday! I slept in until 8am! (I was awake until after midnight though) I do feel a bit "blah" from being off schedule. But I am on my second cup of coffee, my dishwasher and washing machine are humming away, and I have started my yogurt. It is a beautiful day outside, so I will try to get out and do some outdoor things for a while; but I will also be doing some baking of squashes and some other food prep as I go along. My butternut squashes, I will bake and freeze to make soup for Thanksgiving. My spaghetti squash I will bake to refrigerate for meals this week. I am also going to make another pot of vegetarian chili. That was yummy and made for easy lunches.
Thank you all for your kind words of wisdom on my fellow provider. Like myself and a very few others in our group, she has 25+ years of providing care. She has a different style of teaching/caring than I do, so maybe I am just taking things that she says wrong. She is a very "tough love" kind of provider. Anyway, I got a very nice email from the trainer that was at our meeting. She is a teacher of early childhood care at one of our local community colleges, and asked if she could visit my home and see the things that we do. She likes my "energy". Of course I said, "yes". Our training was called : Music Boxes and personal bias. It was an interesting look at how our own personal bias affects how we care for our children. Such as: How do we think children should behave? What behaviour do we expect from them in public? With parents? With strangers? Should they be required to greet strangers? Should they be required to hug relatives? Should they be required to act with the same respect with their parents that we demand as providers? It was very interesting to see how our own upbringing brought different biases to the table.
This week in my daycare, we will be making bread on Monday to celebrate National Homemade Bread Day (that is either today or tomorrow, I think). We will make a loaf to share, and also mini loaves to take home. We will also make a soft pretzel like breadstick to eat with our soup on the following day. We will be reading the book making Stone Soup on Tuesday. These two are annual activities that I like to do with the kids. The Stone Soup story is perfect for teaching them about sharing, compassion and working together to make something wonderful. We always make enough for lunch and then there is always enough so that each child can take a pint or two home with them. Good stuff.
Lanette- I have three laptops downstairs that I need to charge and remove photos from. I think, if I get them charged, I will first go through and get rid of the photos that I don't really want. I am sure there are a LOT of football ones on there from games my hubby went to. Who needs hundreds of random photos of a football game? Good luck getting Firefox up and running again. AND my hubby is a night owl. Always has been. Now, he tends to head to the 24 hour grocery and walk and look around and maybe shop a bit. He used to clean at night. Like, do dishes, laundry, etc. I loved that part of it! It was like having a good fairy pop in and clean while I slept. He doesn't do that anymore. lol (I must have been a bad girl and lost cleaning fairy privileges )
Barbie- Sometimes having that extra time in the morning to yourself is a wonderful thing! We are not big turkey eaters in my house; but our local grocery had turkeys on sale for $.33/pound! So, last night, I bought a turkey and it only cost me $5. I will cook it up and use the meat for meals for my family and kids. I made thanksgiving sliders for my inlaws last year with their leftovers and they (and my family) really enjoyed them.
Heather- The meals and nibbles that you come up with, make my mouth water. Your DH and family are very lucky to have you cooking/fussing for them! I LOVE that Edie is a Rainbow girl/scout/guide, and that she is enjoying her time involved in it!
Machka- Love the gratitude calendar and the photos of you on the "big kid" playground! lol
Pip- Love your commemorative tattoo! When did you get it? Where did you get it placed? (if not too personal) It is very sweet!
More of you I wanted to respond to, but my brain is too fuzzy this morning. Love and hugs to you all! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)
I got that on my 50th bday on my left side of my hip. can't see it with underwear on but can with a bathing suit. I should have lied and said I got it on my v...... lolol3 -
Hi Gals,
Thanks for the compliments on the embroidery, much of what I do is names on items, or school names/logos so when a client wants something more creative it is great fun. A small part of my day is the gardening even though I probably mention it more as there are more people in that part of my days.
Pip – doing the embroidery is how I make my living (a very small percent comes from the gardening). I would be delighted to embroider for you – there are thousands of designs out there for art work, but sometimes names are just what you need. Private message me and I can help, after Christmas, as I am already almost fully booked.
Kelly – crazy sour puss, that lady is not worth a bottle of wine. The great thing about folks like her is she shows off her true colors in front of everyone!
Heather – well mixing up the Edie date is a drag but so much better that you were ready days early instead of the reverse.
Yesterday was my garden club meeting and I do some of the announcements. I am comfortable in front of a group and can get my voice to carry to the far reaches of the room. We are a club of 200 gardeners. So I may not know you, but most members know who I am as I am up front every meeting. Well one of the gals stopped me at a break and asked about my plans for Thanksgiving I told her cleaning the garage, a number of others were gathered around, and I said I didn’t have family plans so was cleaning the garage and putting up holiday decorations, but I could make a great pie if someone wanted to invite me to dinner…. I pulled it off with a light but hopeful tone, the gal I like best from the group did say, I’ll get back to you. I realized in saying it there that I am really looking forward to getting that chore done.
I read and write while eating dinner, and I am done, with a few more embroidery jobs to finish tonight.
Kim from N. California
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KJ - maybe you could gift one of the wine bottles to your grumpy puss person, and she'd lighten up, and you wouldn't have it in your calorie allotment.
Pip - I recognized Kirby's knees, and it took me a while to figure out why he was looking at the name "Michelle Schafer."
That kind of day today.
just saw his pic..his knees aren't showing but his awesome calves are
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Did the “I Want That Body” DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do Leslie Sansone’s Walk it Off and Tone It Up DVD. That’s a new one for me so we shall see.
As I was going to the bathroom this morning, my watchband broke. Guess I have to go today and buy a new one. Update: Vince said that I should probably get a new battery, too.
SuziQ – oh you poor dear! Looks like the tomatoes are the only decent thing. Guess you can’t even claim an upset stomach because then it’ll be “you shouldn’t be at work”. Are you maybe able to have just half a cookie or whatever? That’s what I do lots of times, just enough for a taste and not to hurt someone’s feeling – at least I tried it
KJ – there must be a reason why she would hurt you so. Maybe years ago she was always put down and so she feels that’s the way it should be
Lanette – Vince is in total agreement with you. He NEVER backs anything up to the cloud. It’s just unpredictable. Great how you are able to do things now that you couldn’t last year. Doesn’t it feel good?
Luci in NC – welcome back! I’m taking prolia (injection once every 6 mos). I know katla takes a biphonesanate (not sure how that’s spelled), but I’m not sure which one. I have a problem with them probably because they go thru the digestive tract first. Actually, I like the prolia since I get it once and then don’t have to think about it for 6 months. What a lovely family you have. What is the ring bearer holding in his hand?
Lisa – we have a membership to Sam’s mainly for the gas. You get 5 cents off per gallon, and they’re usually the lowest price. I very seldom buy anything in the store. I will if I need a large quantity of something like for a party or whatever, but it’s mainly for the gas.
M – a “table map” like you suggested is a good idea. The problem comes in that they also have some – how do I put this gently – mentally challenged people. The one time they just served and never asked anyone if they wanted seconds. Well, they just didn’t think of something like that so I would jump in and just give someone what they needed. Also, many times they start to eat while there are still people coming in. For the most part, the kids are very sweet, I’ve gotten to know quite a few of them. They never get upset if someone helps them. It’s only that one sourpuss lady who gets bent out of shape. I personally don’t care, I just would like to know so that I don’t get the same thing. Plus, many times they have to change things because a table broke or something.
M – that looks like so much fun and and great way to spend some time
Making some more of those “owl” cookies for the gals at majongg and the gals at ceramics Monday. I’m sure they’re not going to be as good as yours, Kelly. After they came out of the oven I realized that I’d put the nose and eyes sideways. I should have put the two pieces together to look like “wings” only I put them the other way. Well, people are just going to have to use their imaginations. I know I’m going to go over on calories today. Now I’m making chocolate chip cookies for Vince. Mainly to use up the rest of the chocolate chips so they aren’t tempting me. Raw cookie dough is my downfall, I always have to taste to be sure it’s OK. Oh well….. But to my credit, I am making those cookies larger so that the dough isn’t tempting me as much. But I don’t know how much it’s helping. I'll give the rest of the Hugs to one gal at ceramics who said she liked them.
Karen VA – your grandson is very so lucky to have you in his life. And he knows it.
About Newcomers: I just have to laugh inside. One of the responsibilities is to secure the board room for the board meeting. So far, since I’m longer in charge of hospitality three times they’ve had to have their board meeting at people’s homes I know what’s happening, the gal in charge of hospitality isn’t doing it. Another gal is, and she doesn’t get to the library always in time. This is exactly what happened before I started doing it. The gal who is doing it went away and probably didn’t do it in enough time. Isn’t that a shame??? I wonder if they got a new president yet. Should be interesting if they do. It’s so easy to say “let someone else do it”. Well, at least I know that they won’t approach Vince or I – we’ve done our duty.
I love spaghetti squash. Wish you could freeze it. I also love butternut squash but at least that you can freeze
KJ – when you make bread, will you be using a bread machine?
Started a C2C blanket. I know there'll be mistakes since it's the first time I've made one. I'll probably donate this one. But I did see that I have some pink, blue and white yarn so after I get the hang of this I'll probably make another.
Michele in NC
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Heather: You sound BUSY! Tell us about the vase when you open it. We used to get the Hairy Bikers on our cable channel. We made some changes in our cable provider and they disappeared. I liked their program. :ohwell:
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Lisa: You seem to have found the right career for your skills and abilities. YAY! :bigsmile:
KJ: Your provider meeting doesn’t sound like fun. Ms Sarcastic is not a nice woman. Not your fault. If she’s busy and stressed, she is in the company of millions of women, most of whom are positive and pleasant. :grumble:
Anniesquats: I love your thoughts on being thankful.
Lucy: The medication I’ve been taking for bone density is alondrate. The version I take is taken once a week. Another version is daily & I didn’t like that. After you take your med with water, you have to sit upright for 30 minutes before eating or drinking anything else. Easy enough once a week, but intrusive, in my opinion, if you take the daily version. Both get the job done.
Machka: I have a camelia that is winter blooming and I love it. It is Camelia Sasanqua Jingle Bells. It is a single with red petals and a yellow center. It usually blooms around Christmas or New Years but is in bloom early this year.
Yesterday was mammogram day. It wasn’t awful. I saw the pictures and although I’m no doctor, I’m also able to see what is to be seen. Things looked very healthy to me. I’ll think I'll be happy when I get the official results.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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Oh Karen ... family dynamics are so very hard when special needs are involved. Hugs.
I can so relate Karen. Daughter and husband on spectrum and its so hard for them to communicate. Its been years of me playing referee and sometimes that's not enough. Now that she lives here I have insisted they do not put me in the middle anymore. So far so good. All we can do as nuerotypicals (normal) is wade thru and hope for the best!
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well ran my errands and repotted some plants, so far I have been able to keep the plants I have alive..by the grace of God because I dont have a green thumb for sure... the bigger ones came from my dads funeral and the smaller ones from my Father in laws ,so even though there bodies arent here there memories and plants are..
I got the laundry done too.. I am having a heck of a time trying to get the light fixture hook up.. and will leave it for another day..
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Amber- THAT is a great video! I will definitely be sharing that with my daycare families and fellow providers. Thank you!
Michele- No bread machine.3 -
Does anyone know if there is a way to find out who is a member of this group?
Michele in NC2 -
Hello everyone.
As all can tell from my last post the holidays have certainly started at the office. This is mostly due to our holiday party is this evening. I am not going as it really isn’t my cup of tea.
This morning is a little chilly for us fair weather folks. It’s a cool 67 degrees. While getting early morning chores done I missed a step, grabbed the handrail, and popped something between the angel wings. I suffer with a very slight scoliotic curve. My very trusted chiropractor is out of the office until Tuesday so I will wait until then for an adjustment. It has been almost three years since my last one so counting myself very fortunate, but there will be no yoga today.
Lisa – I always have a backup for long shelf-life items too. I usually take advantage of the BOGO offers stacked with a coupon. As far as bulk…..I keep a membership to Costco and find I save much more than the cost of the annual membership. I typically stock up on household goods like paper towels, laundry detergent, etc. Gas is much cheaper there too. Costco is only 5 miles away so it’s not an out of the way place and is now offering lots of organic items. It’s not my normal shopping place, but when I do a “stock up” I spend some time blanching vegetables and freezing meal-sized portions. As hurricane season approaches and during the beginning of the season I make sure everything is used up, because I dislike throwing out food too. I am so glad the drive was worth it. It is wonderful to feel valued at work.
NYKaren – For the love of mammos! I wish my current employer, like my last, would schedule the mammo bus. Hope all goes well with the ultrasound. Yes, agree, the disease is heartless. Great find within the carb-laden table. I wasn’t so strong yesterday!
Heather – I rolled through the BBC channels I get on this side of the pond and am disappointed Hairy Bikers is not offered on the line up. I have book marked the site and will check out their book. I love the view from your table. I would sit there all day!
Annie – I am thankful for all of the things you listed too. Although at times I think they are both a blessing and a curse.
Michelle – It’s not cheap, it’s “frugal”. I have made rules for clothes and shoes too. I will not buy something unless it’s to replace something. When I worked in software and the money was extremely good I looked in my closet one day and found I had 20 pairs of sneakers! Who needs 20 pairs!!!! As you can imagine I also found tons of other things too. On that day I went through my closet, put together many large bags of items and donated all to Women in Distress. From that day forward I followed the replacement rule. I am now to the point where all of my clothes, shoes, jackets, under garments, etc. fit in to one smallish closet. As far as lunch was concerned I tried everything and enjoyed the full brownie. Today I am back on track. Honestly, I did not feel well after lunch so my body did not like the over indulging.
Rebecca – I am so happy you are finding your inner joy! My weight is up a little too. Yesterday I lost my mind, but am now back on track.
Lanette – Even though I have access to the cloud I am not a generally trusting person and it is so easy for hackers and such to access our data. I invested in an external drive and have been able to very easily back up all of my devices. And, thank you for the reminder it has been some time since I last performed any type of back up and must put that on my to do list.
Most, if not All – Yes, I am not delusional and do realize so much of our live are on line despite the fact I am not a cloud user because we are all on the cloud (by the way it’s not really a cloud it’s a server somewhere in the world). Let’s look at MFP. Do we know who has access or could possibly gain access to our data? That said we have enough tracking in our lives (hm, all of those computer chips in our cars, cards, phones, health trackers, etc.). OK, I digress and really am not crazy with it, but privacy issues are something I think about often.
Barbie – You have such a way with words and hit the nail on the head. Intention – I love it.
Kim – Hug!
Luci – What a beautiful family you have. Love the pictures and happy you had a great trip.
Barbara – Oh, brownie season! How we love/hate you.
Karen – Big hug to you. The first thought I had when I was halfway through your story, was, wow, son needs counseling to put things into perspective. It is quite a challenge when someone is extremely intelligent and is not receptive to assistance.
KJ – I love the stone soup story. And, what a great way to reinforce its message with activities.
Pleasant thoughts to all.
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Karen triple hugs.
I unfortunately relate to your son in the sense I have acted just like him. I know how damaging this can be to your son, grandson, and family. Prayers!
I will compliment your son in acknowledging how damaging losing it on a child can be. That is a first step. The next step is not blame rather to heal the relationship. What is that magic word...LISTENING with your heart and following the lead of loved one. Easier said than done.
My sons and I are in family therapy. What came out of our last session is I do have to work hard and follow my son's lead when he gives me clues that he wants me to back off. I want to push the issues because I think it will solve the problems. Sounds like your son right. I want the problem to be fixed. It does not always work this way. I do not have all the answers. Sometimes I need help, too! Just like your son.
It sounds like your son gets triggered just like your grandson. When this happens both sides escalate. No one wins! Everyone loses.
If they can sit down together and come up with a reasonable plan to handle the X-box. If grandson does not follow the plan. The X-box goes into time out for a set amount of time. Not the grandson he can go to other choices. This way son has a plan to handle the situation that does not result in threats and worse. He can just calmly take the X-Box and put it in its time out spot where grandson knows where it is. I learned this technique from a special ed teacher. It does catch the students off guard. The main advantage is it keeps me from getting into the students power plays that escalate me. I can stay the adult.
I have worked with many autistic children through the years. They like structure and see things in black and white. Once they are set in their ways little can be done to change their minds. They tend to be hypersensitive too. This unfortunately adds to the escalation. It is very difficult to stay calm in the middle of a temper tantrum.
Another thing that might help in to create a safe spot for grandson to go when he is losing it. Just say safe spot. Once he is in his safe spot leave him alone. Let him know you will stay close in case he needs you but you will not invade his space.
I learned this in a class about how to handle temper tantrums. A child in a temper tantrum is very vulnerable they need space yet they are asking for love and patience at the same time. Sigh!
Much of what I have just written is a reminder for me. It is hard for me to follow my own advice because I get triggered too and then where did all those ideas of what to do go.
Perhaps your son and I need our safe spots too!
I love Amber's idea about playing the video so he hears parts of it.
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