WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR DECEMBER 2019
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Looked back at what I wrote yesterday, and realized it was quite vague. My CEO called me late yesterday afternoon and let me down easy about the job, which was given to someone else at the organization with more tenure. It was the most graceful rejection I've ever gotten - she's kind of an amazing person.
I am both relieved and saddened, but honestly, either I'm completely deluding myself (not impossible by any means) or my sense of relief strongly outweighs the sadness. Now that I've got the grants structure streamlined and working well, I have what is possibly the LEAST stressful job in the organization... I go hunt down the money and someone else does the work. The move into the chief-level position would have put me at the corner of stress and overwork.
So, I'll put it behind me, and move on to my next challenge, a grant presentation on Monday, arm-in-arm with the same CEO, to a foundation in Dallas that funds 33 Arkansas counties. We're only asking for $1 million!
Corey's driving me down tomorrow, and then we'll be back Monday night.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
Hi Lisa - I completely understood what you were saying. I say we must have the same type of bosses and for that I am thankful.
Your story yesterday made me think of Garth Brooks song, "Unanswered Prayers". Although about a relationship I often think of the words.
ExcerptRemember when you're talkin' to the man upstairs
That just because he doesn't answer doesn't mean he don't care
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered
Some of God's greatest gifts are all too often unanswered
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers
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Christmas Decorations ... I know Janetr goes full throttle and I too would like to see Sue's if she's up to decorating. I fluctuate between going overboard or not much at all. At times I've had as many as 4 trees decorated. This year it's two trees. Purchased a new artificial one last weekend for the family room .. 7ft. Neither my husband and I are too good on the floor anymore so these pre-lit 1,2,3 assembly things are ideal! Today we'll fix the outside wreath that is only partially lighting and put on some bows and we'll call it good for this year.
Holiday dinner last night went well. I extended my fasting period so that I could enjoy the meal. As the hostess had individually portioned much of the meal (and I rarely overindulge in front of others), I did not overdo!
It's been a stressful week, mostly with worry about my younger son, and I need to let it go. To keep from overcompensating with food, I'll need to plan and be very mindful this weekend.
Have a restful day!
Beth near Buffalo
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The exceedingly verbose Machka is having difficulty getting the first assignment of her current course down to 800 words. 🤨🤪
How do the expect me to explain all they want explained in 800 words? Without even trying, I waved my hands over the keyboard and had over 2000 words.
Machka in Oz5 -
Did a Strong Body Ageless Body DVD today. The plan for tomorrow is to do some training games on the Wii.
Rori – if we were in CO, you can bet we’d be at the snowcats in nothing flat. Sounds really really cool. I subscribed to their newsletter, maybe there’s a time when we can go, looks like they tour other areas so we shall see
M – three gifts for each person. In order to do it the other way, we’d have to somehow get people to pick the name of the person they were to buy for and we had enough trouble getting Denise to commit to when she’d be here, I can’t imagine getting her to commit to which people she’d buy for! Out of 8 people, I only have to buy (so far) 10 gifts, and for them I really need their list. See, we send a list of what we’d like.
LuciNC – don’t worry, we’ll get together. This is such a hectic time of year, I totally understand. We’ll do it! You know, when MIL was pg with Vince, his father told the MD “if this baby isn’t born before the end of the year, you aren’t getting paid”. He was
Do you know that one doctor cancelled an appointment that I need to have for next year because, of course, by then the insurance that I have will be over and Medicare will take over. So instead of asking me, they just arbitrarily cancelled my appointment. This medical practice is being taken over by this group so the practice is closed until Monday. On Tuesday I plan to call and complain that my appt was cancelled without them talking to me. I know nothing’s going to get done, they’ll probably reinstate my appt. But it’ll make me feel good to chew them out for cancelling an appointment
SuziQ – aren’t those types of comments frustrating? Vince and Jess used to make them to me. Finally, one day I got so fed up that I yelled at them “why don’t you just leave me alone? I don’t comment on what you eat!” When we were in Iowa, I could see that Jess is trying to lose weight, but she still has a way to go. But at least she’s trying. I noticed some of the foods in her house, there weren’t chips and cakes, etc. But going out to eat, she did have a beer and a drink. Colby was there and I know he likes his beer, so I don’t know if the beer that was there was his or not. I suspect it was. When she went out there I did make her some rum balls. She had them in the refrigerator. I suggested she take them to her study group, but they study on campus and she doesn’t want to bring liquor on campus. I suspect what the campus means is really open bottles of beer, wine, etc., not cookies. Besides, you can say that they have rum flavoring. But she’s supposed to go to some sort of party when classes are over so I suggested she take some with her since the party is going to be at someone’s apt.
We go to see TSO today (Tran Siberian Orchestra). The couple we go to it with every year (you’ve heard of me talking about Ken & Lynette – them) are going to be here at 12 (natch they’d come here, she doesn’t like company in her house but has no problem going somewhere else which I know bothers Ken, he’d like to reciprocate sometimes)so that means I really need to at least clean the floor in the kitchen. I’ve already cleaned the microwave & refrig. I just don’t like people coming in to see it all dirty.
Michele in NC
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The strategy I use most often is to eat nothing at parties. I eat the foods I've planned for my day and eat at the time of day I've planned to eat and then have only water. If people don't know what I eat, they can't make comments about it. If the biggest reason for being at an event is the food, then I don't belong there.
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SuziQ - I don't find your gratitudes self-centered at all. You've created a life you obviously love, and are to be congratulated for the strength to do so. I utterly agree that loving and respecting yourself draws the same from others. When we have no regard for ourselves, we get the same disregard from others.
This hit me hard! I always try to see that everyone in my family has a happy birthday, Christmas, etc. and this year my birthday came around and no one remembered!
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Michelle - If there are 8 people and you have to buy each one 3 gifts (assuming you are one of the 8 and don’t buy for yourself), wouldn’t everyone have to buy 21 gifts? 7 people X 3 gifts? Where does the 10 come in? Further assuming Vince doesn’t shop for his own 21 gifts he has to give, wouldn’t you have to shop for 42 gifts, your 21 and his 21?
Okie in the TX Hill Country3 -
Carol, my dear friend, I'm sorry it hit you hard, I really am. I was enormously pleased to see you get past your fears and get your knee replaced this year. I think that's the beginning of regarding yourself as someone who is worth caring for, of getting healthy for, of someone who matters. Perhaps, as SuziQ did, maybe it's time to make of your birthday something special for you and by you, because you are certainly worth it.
Allie - much good luck with the receptionist job - I hope it's the right time and the right place for you. It would certainly be well deserved, and I know it's a place you love.
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okie - yes, that would be 21 gifts. However, I have some that I made and some that I've already bought. We have to shop for 7 possibly 8 people. That would be 21 (or 24) gifts all together. I made 7 of those, I bought 3, I had 4 (need to fill one) of them already. So that's where the 10 comes in. To me, 10 isn't bad at all
Michele NC
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today, no workout, just walking around once we get to Seattle. our yearly weekend trip. gonna drop off yogi at the sitters, go to the gym, take a shower, go to Seattle, staying at the mayflower hotel, eat drink and walk, then do the jingle bell run tomorrow, hopefully with not too bad of a hangover, then go have breakfast at the Doc in Fremont where we met then home to pick up our son...6
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1948Peachy wrote: »SuziQ - I don't find your gratitudes self-centered at all. You've created a life you obviously love, and are to be congratulated for the strength to do so. I utterly agree that loving and respecting yourself draws the same from others. When we have no regard for ourselves, we get the same disregard from others.
This hit me hard! I always try to see that everyone in my family has a happy birthday, Christmas, etc. and this year my birthday came around and no one remembered!
Carol in GA
Carol I think that was very thoughtless of your family and husband, Many times my girls could not afford to do anything but always sent beautiful cards, this year was a real full blown celebration for my 70th. Personally I would have let them all know my feelings were hurt. I may be a very needy person
Much love
Janetr OKC
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Janetr - I'm so sorry about your eldest daughter. My separation/divorce hit me very, very hard. I could hardly get out of bed and cried all the time. And Iwas the one who instigated it! As you know, I am now happier than I have ever been. We can't know the future when we are going through the present, but I'm sure the counsellor will help her. I had to go for grief counselling from the Marriage Guidance. This time of year was the worst.
Carol - My elder son, who I've just been up to visit, never even sends me a card for my birthday. No text even.
It doesn't mean he doesn't love me. Having said that, I always let everyone know it is my birthday and organize my celebration myself. This year I booked the cruise. Most years I book a short holiday and a meal. I don't expect anyone else to remember and DH would never book anything off his own bat. I'm booker in chief!
My mother had her faults, but she always "You have to blow your own trumpet, because no one else is going to blow it for you"
My DDIL says that people are not mind readers, if you want something you have to ask. (This is because I was upset that no one had taken a photo of me finishing my first Parkrun. No one was even at the finish.
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Good advice!
Today I heard back from a cousin I was worrying about. He used to send me an email Christmas card every year, but last year he didn't and his email address was defunct. I sent a card to his old address, asking for information about him. He has just been in touch and said he will write and explain his silence.. We used to be great friends as children. I haven't seen him for years, but it's good to know he hasn't died.
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Yesterday did the list except light the tree. Did a little shopping and veg prep, did nothing for holiday decorating or baking. Had to drag myself kicking and screaming to line dancing but was very glad I did. Learned a new dance, started to seem familiar, then when the music started I laughed. Was Bullfrog on a Log, choreographed by our Idaho line dance teacher. Tagged him in the video I posted to FB.
Today it's pouring down rain. Must run a few errands in town without dog in car. Will drag myself (and Tumble) to dog group unless its really blustery. Will play in kitchen, light the tree and abstain from alcohol.
KJ your post made me smile so many times, “bubble of happiness”, the image of your grandma feeding a cloud of chickadees, and finly Ninja and ugly Chrismas sweater cookie kits. Wondrous!
Margaret “if you pick up they know they have a live number “ that's it. Unknown callers go to voicemail and usually the scammers and roboballs just click off. Like Lanette and Barbie I keep the phone on vibe and almost always let whoever it is go to voicemail.
Heather Your son's invented job, sounds like he got your creativity and persuasiveness. Will he be promoting and marketing for the AF company too? Would you let him know that Amazon US could use some AF wines that taste halfway decent? All the ones I've tried... don't :(P :sick: Could you upload Bea's video to YouTube, published it as “unlisted” instead of public, and post the link here?
Suebdew really hope no long term damage due the hit and run.
Rita “untether yourself from the world”... ahhh
pip pooch pics. Happy tradition/Seattle weekend. Hope it's dry for the Jingle Bell run. Safe travels.
Machka it was completely dark here by 4:45, really makes the lights beautiful. But if I had a choice, I'd choose longer daylight year 'round Thanks for the Salamanca info, was intrigued. A pillow fixed sore shoulder and arm? Hmm! Food for thought!
Kim Love and admire your coping skills, embroidery machine mechanic, indoor camping activities director. You are one resilient gal!
Michele, maybe Denise needs some time as a parent to grow emotionally, to be considerate of other's need for time to schedule, prepare, etc. ((hugs)) wii did not register yesterday's weigh in, so I've lost my days-in-a-row sequence. Grr. It's a silly thing, I know, but watching those weeks build up lifted my spirits. Now I'm back to 1. Foo. “3 gifts for each person” :noway: Hope your MD didn't cancel because they do not accept Medicare? Happened to me with a dermatologist. Double foo.
Rori wow that cat convention has a lot to offer. Great plan for DH and DB while master bath gets lighting upgrade. Decorating for your own fun sounds just right. Can you see your “found” outside tree from inside?
Luci “...in time to be a tax deduction” LOL! Sending “Hurry up!” vibes.
Rebecca envelopes made from calendar pics, brilliant!
SueK and Cherie good to see you checking in..
Allie Glad you and Trudy will finish resume and cover letter Sunday. Hand deliver it soonest! They know you are perfect for that job, you have already demonstrated all the needed skills, personality and reliabililty. You've GOT this gal!
Karen in VA, please double check with your benefits administrator... BUT... it's my understanding that you must sign up for Part A to be effective as soon as you turn 65, whether covered by an employer's plan or not. Employer's plan then substitutes for Part B. Need to have Medicare Plan B and Medigap in place for when employer's plan terminates (your retirement date?) Likewise employer's rx coverage substitutes for Plan D until you retire, need to enroll in a Plan D to be effective on your retirement date. That's why my Mediare card shows Hospital (Part A) coverage start date 2/1/15. Medical (Part coverage start date 6/1/16. I worked for over a year after turning 65. Good luck!
SuziQ “I still feel there is a little jealousy mixed in to the comments I have been receiving. “ True that, or even more than a little. It's hard for me not to answer, as Mama required a response to every pause in her conversation. Trying to learn that sometimes the best response is a Mona Lisa smile...
NYKaren great strategies. Even better “I'm in charge of my choices” reminder.
Lisa congrats on your relief, your CEO and your Million dollar presentation. Yes!
Beth calming energy to your son and you. ((hugs))
Macha 2000 words to 800? Quite a distillation and simplification job. You can do this!
Carol, when is your birthday? We'd like to remember it! And AMEN! To Lisa's comments to SuziQ loving ourselves. Sometimes that's the hardest thing to do.
Okie your pragmatism (and attention to math) makes me smile BIG
pip
Janetr agree with your comments about Carol's family. If she doesn't tell them how hurt she was, they'll continue to ignore her feelings. Sending light and energy to your daughter and to you. ((hugs))
#23 tradition: playing Christmas records (yes really!) while trimming tree, baking Christmas cookies and making Chrismas candies.
Well this has been a lovely way to ease into my rainy day, but its time to get up and get OUT!
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
Word for 2019: "GOOD" good attitude, good food, good times, good choices, good enough, feel good, GOOD! Word for December: get up and go outside EVERY day!
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wkly: BBBorTC=3/3 rx=1 dance=1 pack walk=1
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Hi everyone Id like to join your community. I am a 54 (55 in January) lady. I am British but live in the west of France
With my husband and my two English setters. I teach English in high school, have two grown up children a son and a daughter.
My son is at university, My daughter lives in the States in Texas Hence my pseudo! I have been on MFP for 30 days about and was doing really well, had lost 3.5 kilos, was exercising regularly (I’ve always been active) and walking up to an hour a day with my dogs depending on my schedule when disaster struck.......I fell at home tore the tendon in my foot, damaged my ligament etc etc have to have my plaster cast for 3 weeks until 17th December. Obviously it has slowed my weight loss progress however, I have found some really good seated workouts on line which is better than nothing. Also moving about on crutches must, I feel, burn some serious calories????
Anyway I’d love to exchange with other people on this community and look forward to “meeting” new friends from around the world LONDONPARISTEXAS xxxx😃9 -
okie - yes, that would be 21 gifts. However, I have some that I made and some that I've already bought. We have to shop for 7 possibly 8 people. That would be 21 (or 24) gifts all together. I made 7 of those, I bought 3, I had 4 (need to fill one) of them already. So that's where the 10 comes in. To me, 10 isn't bad at all
Michele NC
But doesn’t Vince have to give everyone three gifts too? If everyone is expected to buy you and Vince each 3 gifts, don’t you each then have to get everyone 3 gifts? Sorry, I’m confused.
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Barbara - Hugs! You make me feel special. Thank you.
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Suebdew I sure hope you are doing okay! I hate accidents and the pain they cause!! I have had you in my prayers and am hoping you are improving each day!! Luci in WNC 2
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Home after a lovely walk in the cold air with DH, he is very focussed on recovering from his knee surgery and eating better. Walked 3 miles outdoors and will still walk the treadmill later today. Woohoo!
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Heather
Janetr - I'm so sorry about your eldest daughter. My separation/divorce hit me very, very hard. I could hardly get out of bed and cried all the time. And Iwas the one who instigated it! As you know, I am now happier than I have ever been. We can't know the future when we are going through the present, but I'm sure the counsellor will help her. I had to go for grief counselling from the Marriage Guidance. This time of year was the worst.
Thank you, Heather. This is her second divore. She too initiated the divorce, but it's hard as you know.. What worries me most is she has no friends/family there to reach out to, don't think she would anyway. She's gone so far as to talk about ending her life. She won't respond to me at all so I'm in the dark. I'm not sure she even went to her counseling appointment yesterday. I'm very concerned for her well being.
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Janet - I’m so sorry. Hugs!!
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Machka Love the indoor exercise photo! I need to work out an indoor exercise program for the winter!
Janet So sorry you have to go through the worry of being away from your daughter during this tough time! Depression is a terrible disease! I hope she has gone for counseling as she had planned. I am a firm believer in good counseling. Will you have an opportunity to see her anytime soon? (I don’t remember where she is in relation to where you live.) So tough when you reach out and don’t get any response! Praying!!
Rebecca Beautiful envelopes!! Such a great idea!
Michele Enjoy the concert! I’m sure it will be amazing!
Carol I want to cry for you with your birthday being forgotten…Makes me want to give them all a piece of my mind! People forget how blessed they are with the people in their lives. One day, when we are all gone, they will have major regrets for not appreciating what they had while you were here!
LondonParisTexas Welcome! I feel for you with your injury. Impressed that you are finding ways to continue exercise despite your injury. I went through a ten-year recovery from injury that found me completely sedentary. My cardiologist friend turned me on to chair exercise and I have slowly worked up to being able to walk without a cane or walker, have even had one hour walks occasionally. I agree that crutches must burn a lot more calories! Hang in there! December 17 is right around the corner!! Luci in WNC
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Carol It hurts my heart to think of no one remembering your birthday. I like Heather's idea of taking charge of it because it removes your vulnerability. (((Hugs)))
Janetr (((Hugs)))
Barbara Thanks! Appreciate the information.
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Pip - Oh I do like a nice big hotel bed! :bigsmile:
Janetr - How hard it must be for you. When I was at my worst I rang The Samaritans (suicide prevention) They were incredibly helpful. Just to have a voice at the other end of the phone in the night.
Love and best wishes to all. Welcome LPT.
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Husband and I went to the CPO Club for a holiday craft on today. As husband calls it the crap fair, so cheeky! It was mostly fru-fru items, soaps, Mary Kay, nail polish and tee shirts with sayings on them. We walked around, and came home. Haahaa! But we went and supported the cause.👍
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janetr - sending good thoughts to you and your eldest daughter-2
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Heather and all that sent good thoughts, thank you so much
Janetr - How hard it must be for you. When I was at my worst I rang The Samaritans (suicide prevention) They were incredibly helpful. Just to have a voice at the other end of the phone in the night.
She did finally answer a message said she was not ok, I asked if she went to her counseling appointment yesterday, she said no. I asked her to please go to ER and tell them she was is this state. She has gone to hospital (ALL ALONE) and texted that they will do a medical exam and a psych evaluation and go from there. They may admit her for a while but I don't know anything yet. Last she texted she was still waiting. At least she is there for help.
Thank you my friends, my heart hurts that I can't be there with her.
Janetr OKC
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