WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2020

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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,696 Member
    edited June 2020
    Karen - thank you for sharing the article on white privilege.
    My friend Ros successfully walked a tightrope between her black and white identity. And her black and white friends. I am in awe of how she did that. It makes me squirm now about the advice I gave her on how to manage her teenage boys, based on my experience with my hyper privileged white, middle class, sons. She listened. Sometimes she had a wry smile on her face, but she never said, "YOU HAVE NO F...... IDEA!" I meant well and I tried to understand, but I truly did have no idea why she had to be a Tiger Mum over those boys. What a great job she did.
    Almost every conversation we had was weighted with my white privilege, but she negotiated it all with a smile and a chuckle, and only occasionally exasperation. I am in awe. RIP my best friend.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Katla That's what it will take. Grassroots efforts supported by local police. How lovely and inspiring.

    >>>

    Al Sharpton is an exhilarating orator.

    >>>

    Karen in Virginia
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
    B)
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    <3
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,000 Member
    edited June 2020
    Margaret:
    A Personal Ulster perspective
    I am not qualified to walk in the shoes of someone of a different colour. However, the place I call home has a long record of a similar bias towards ‘people of the other sort’. The differences are not visible but just as destructive, hence our long history of sectarian strife, exacerbated by an intransigence on both sides.

    I was raised on one side of the divide, but had the advantage that my father did not buy into the whole ‘us and them’ scenario. He raised us to live and let live. I knew first hand what it was like as we had family friends and relatives of both persuasions.

    I can honestly say that I have no desire to know what religion most people profess as it is irrelevant to me. It’s not for me to judge which of us follows God in the ‘right’ way.

    As a teacher I was actively involved in cross border initiatives to educate children on both sides about the similarities between them rather than the differences.

    As a humanitarian Christian I became very disenchanted with organised religion, and emancipated myself from them a long time ago.

    Although things here seem to have improved since the Good Friday Agreement, sectarianism still holds considerable sway, and many people still vote along sectarian lines, which means we effectively live in the dark ages in many respects, as our assembly is set up so that both main parties can veto any national legislation which would bring us into the modern world.

    There are thriving ethnic communities in the Province but people of colour are not that common, except in the cities and around the university. It pains me to say that we have had a few incidences of racism, mostly against Eastern Europeans and orientals, but I’m heartened by the fact that they get much support from people in their localities. Most of it is due to ignorance and a fear of the unknown.

    As someone from a working class background, I have suffered some degree of deprivation, and social and educational inequality in my younger days. I am happy to say that it did not deter me in the long run. On the contrary, it has contributed to me becoming a strong independent woman.

    It is my belief that ALL lives matter, and that everyone deserves the same treatment and opportunities, irrespective of race colour or creed.

    I am a bit of an anomaly in that I am a British citizen with a thoroughly Celtic soul.

    ☘️ Irish Terri.
  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    MFP recording imaginary food calories for me again. Grrr using paper y a calculator it shows me 500calorie or more over I’ll only be 35cal over in truth but it recorded an imaginary item which I cannot erase or see. So my nutrition info off too which throws off my estimates on salt even to vitamins . Come on MFP work! My stuffs not showing up in other spots no clue why. Any way to fix it ? I got no clue.

    White Privilege- I have no clue started out my life being told I’m not white enough because I’m mixed having racist relatives on 1 side of my family I didn’t need to go out to be attacked. Hubby likes to joke tho cause I look white can pass as one if I don’t speak so He says I should become a Mute 🤐 .Once I speak cats out of the bag lol they ask what race I am. Or if their a hairstylist they get confused by me y Daughters hair. I gasp if you do not clean a babies shoes with rubbing alcohol!! So dirty but not how white culture does things sometimes I forget say something get a baffling expression on their faces. They mention foods I’ve never heard of...Hubby took me out for my 1st chicken fried steak 🥩 after marriage he found out I didn’t know what one was at all until I worked in restaurants but still had never ate one. I hated it was gross to me what a weird combination but I’m not big on gravy I can make it cause mom did for herself but I cannot handle the flavor hubby either.I had trouble liking moms cooking as a kid but lived Dads families cooking from gazpacho to nacho soups huge tortilla goat meat tacos with goat cheese on top y goat milk candies. I find myself cringing 😬 a lot around many folks who say things against another race I don’t say anything because I don’t want them to feel bad since they just insulted me unknowingly or my family members race or part of their races. Like when one stated Native Americans are all theives she went on y on them walked off. Friends of mine (Pure bred 100% Native American his kids are 1/2 white) he leaned over said breathe Dont let her steal your breath. We laughed cried y said that was nuts went to the fair grounds together with our families (my 3rd cousin used to host the pow wows). I then got on stage I was given the microphone to do stand up comedy. The powwow y fair were same day same park some we’re getting angry with each other over race (white against Native vice versa) so I started. My jokes were about what it’s like to be mixed race. To bring awareness yet laugh y learn at the same time.How I can’t be mad at either side because I stole my OWN blanket gave it back took it away gave it back took it away then gave it back. The laughter erupted they stopped arguing they came up had peace for the whole day. Yes that would be an Indian giver joke (White in me fighting with the red side).
    Another was more serious by the end folks understood shook hands were more understanding the mixed race kids y adults joined in to my jokes with their own . How our hearts are brown ,red,Blk,yellow,or white but our skin is not (mixed race truth). What it’s like trying to convince someone that your not just the outside skin color that your also your other parents race too. Then I turned into what stereotypes have you heard about the other race then to a person of that color to answer if it’s true ,false,or in the middle. It definitely showed them who each other was when folks wouldn’t ask one I did since I’m neutral (the benefit of being mixed or mixed privilege we can call it the gift of eyes open). A friend of mine half Native American half Black also joined in on fighting with ones self is like he is head of Native American Black league. Then we ended in prayer for our families y praise for those Native Americans y any other races who served in the armed forces. Some find what they see on the protests strange. Prayer is not strange ,understanding one another is not a bad thing,but there is a fine line that can be crossed such as over reaching like asking another to bow 🙇‍♀️ 🙇 🙇 🙇‍♀️ at your feet to apologize. Preserving the dignity of all being on equal ground is the goal 🥅 - not for another to take the spot of the other to be the new Lord of the land. Breaking bread 🥖 forgive y become equals that should be the goal. Took alot for Women to be equal as much as we are now. With time change will come for All it’s where the river of life is flowing -just don’t paddle against the currents.

    Amber Tx

    Hubby arrived from seeing the streets with McDonald’s we still got pizza.Im slowly eating on my meal so I don’t go over y feel full. 1/3rd -2/3rd of the burger got to save for tomorrow so I stay in my budget.
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,087 Member
    Well i am home and very tired...
    But have the next 5 days off
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,946 Member
    Katla49 wrote: »
    Trying to use a spoiler for the first time and I'm not doing too well so far:


    Yesterday I witnessed a wonderful event in our local town. The senior class in our high school is graduating tomorrow, but yesterday they wanted to weigh in on the events in Minnesota. They received help in setting up a public gathering in our town square from the County Sheriff’s office. I went to the event. Our County Sheriff personally helped them organize a march to the park and stood by watching them present their comments on the tragedy in Minnesota.

    Two senior girls collaborated on setting up a vigil in the county courthouse park. The first speaker identified herself as a Native American. She had many powerful thoughts about policing to share and introduced the second speaker. The second speaker, also a graduating senior, identified herself as mixed race including African American, White and Native American. They each talked about quality policing and fairness. It was a moving presentation.

    Tomorrow these girls and their classmates will be receiving their high school diplomas in the same park where they talked about equality and fairness yesterday evening.

    I am proud of the girls who led, and our County Sheriff, who helped them organize a safe and respectful protest.


    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

    Katla - I truly hope that the youth of today makes some serious changes to our world.
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Rocky Mountain National Park opens tomorrow; this photo is from yesterday:

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  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,975 Member
    Amber, you are too kind to worry about racist commentor’s feelings. I think you should call them out on their BS.
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Heather I wish I would have known Ros. Such a rare and wonderful human being she was.
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Thinking about Luci grieving over Rocky... :'(
  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    DrKatie-Easier said than done speaking up comes backlash in some cases it’s hard to gauge the scale of how badly they’ll over react. Some it’s shock face with an apology a little angry a few days out of embarrassment. Others go into total hysterics (good example what happened to hubby or the guy in the park over dog leash law you won’t believe it but that crazy woman got the poor dog back! ). Sad to say hysterics usually the response even in males. You learn young from relatives how to react for safety.Calm response is the best one. Of course that means sooner or later it swallowed by that members of society until it boils over like we’re seeing now in many countries.

    Amber Tx
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,595 Member
    Joyful June Calendar ...

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    https://www.actionforhappiness.org/joyful-june
    1. Look for what's good ... lots of things!!

    Cycling outside
    Rhody
    Jam

    Things I've liked since being at home from the end of March ...

    Being home all day with my husband. I've got a better understanding of how his day goes.
    Spending time with Rhody, getting to know him and getting him settled into our home.
    Being able to go outside to walk, run or cycle in daylight, despite the fact that the daylight hours are getting shorter.
    Having the energy to exercise regularly.
    Seeing more people outside exercising. :)
    Being able to sleep at least half an hour more each night than I was.
    Being able to go for a nap in the afternoon occasionally.
    Not having to spend 9-10 hours a week commuting!!!
    Spending my days with a 180° view of the bay and trees and outside instead of a wall.
    Being in an environment that rarely gives me sore, itchy eyes, sore throat, cough, and the sneezes.
    Being able to clean this and that.
    Wearing casual, comfy clothes.
    Not having as much stuff vying for my time.
    More time to work on my two courses at uni.
    Working remotely at my own pace ... which might lead to continued remote work ... maybe ... hopefully!
    Being able to attend church online.
    Feeling much more relaxed and less stressed!

    Just to name a few. :)


    2. Reframe a worry and try to find a positive ...

    A worry?
    Well, one of my many worries is that I won't pass my courses. So I'll use that as motivation to start studying for my final exam tonight!! :)


    3. Think of 3 Things to be Grateful For

    The COVID-19 shutdown.
    Working from home.
    Rhody.
    I could go on and on!


    4. Show Appreciation to Those Who are Helping Others

    I think of people like Rori, Tracey, Allie and the others here who are caregivers and especially caregivers to those with brain-related issues. :heart: :heart: :heart:

    Also, co-incidentally, June 2 was Thank A First Responder day. My husband and I have been fortunate to be able to thank those who have helped him. Wonderful people!

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    Machka in Oz
  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    Machka-You’ll pass the exams for sure don’t stress it.

    Amber Tx

    Thinking tomorrow walking,pizza 2 slices y a bowl of onion 🧅,broccoli,y cheddar soup.
    Crystal light tea ☕️ to go with it. Of course the 1/3rd burger 🍔 left over from today.
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,518 Member
    Did Paul Katemi Boot Camp DVD. This has a lot of plyo and I don’t want to do a lot of jumping so I wound up modifying a lot of things. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Dressed Up Drills DVD.

    Soup kitchen tomorrow!!!! First have to stop at the sheriff's dept to drop off some expired medications then give Lynette some coupons

    Oh, the lady across the street who went on vacation just called me. She came home early. If they’d come home when they were going to, they’d encounter the riots in Atlanta. She said they were ready to come home. When we go to the condo, I’d like to stay as long as possible.

    I just e-mailed the lady who owns the gym that I go to that’s really really clean and asked her if when the gyms reopen, would I be able to use the room where the bar and weights are, not at a class time. I’m thinking that I’ll be able to. I would be the only person in the room. I also asked her if I would be able to use the spinning bike but not at a class time. There may be one other person in the room with me. Update: she said yes

    I’m thinking that the gym where I take the extremepump class is opening sooner more for financial reasons than anything else. They were always moderately clean. They say that they’ve contracted with a company to be sure the place is clean, but I wonder if they really have. Truthfully, since I’m at somewhat of a higher risk being 65, is it REALLY needed? The governor just put us on phase 2 and we won’t be going to phase 3 until the end of June when gyms are supposed to open. Maybe I can just use the weights at the other gym so I’d be by myself. Update: I pretty well decided that I wasn’t going to go. Then the girl who teaches the class sent an email asking how everyone felt. I told her that we just went to Phase 2. Let’s see how this all works out. Plus, this is all new territory, and there are going to be “blips”, things that weren’t anticipated. I would rather they get those taken care of first. She understood

    Ran to Food Lion and got Vince his milk, then went to Aldi. Didn’t get much at all. Habitat for Humanity is open on Thurs, Fri and Sat so I stopped in there. Did they ever raise their prices! I got 3 exercise DVD’s, they’re $3 each. They used to be $2. They advertised a used Instant Pot mini for $55. Brand new it’s $60. So I just came home. Will probably go in the pool. If that Instant Pot is still there (and I doubt it) the next time I go there, I may consider it. Update: went in the pool and strung a bit of popcorn. See, if I get hot stringing, I just jump into the pool. Works

    Karen VA – thanks so much for clearing this up. Now we know!

    Heather – isn’t it amazing how much we don’t like not having electricity and can’t wait to get it back?

    All this talk of bread making makes me sad that I sold my breadmachine. Maybe if there’s a smaller one, I can put that on my Christmas list

    Terri – when I was looking for a new car, one thing that I absolutely insisted upon was Bluetooth. I like having the Sirius XM but if I didn’t have it, I would live. But I wouldn’t consider the car without the Bluetooth. I also wanted a backup camera. I thought it would be helpful down in FL but I find that it’s most helpful when I’m parallel parking. That’s something I didn’t think of. I don’t use it for much, but when parallel parking it does come in handy.

    Well, Vince just told me that Jess saw the owner of the dog and the dog didn’t make it. Evidently, the seizure went on for so long that his temperature rose and it destroyed some of the organs. He said she was very upset that it happened

    Hi Michelle

    Michele NC
    Who is feeling sad right now
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,194 Member
    <3
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Tracy,
    Congratulations on earning complements from the health authority for doing a great job managing the pandemic! You have a challenging time to deal with and earned every word of praise. ❤️🌹❤️🌹❤️🌹
    Katla
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
    B)
  • trucker743
    trucker743 Posts: 394 Member
    Lisa in AR, what a dear picture! Was it made in celebration of some event? Looks so festive!

    Glad to hear you are tracking again, BTW. I was given some fudge and I can’t not eat it. Fortunately my posts of shame should end tomorrow. I faithfully record every item that goes in my mouth and every weigh in, which is almost every day.

    The candy hasn’t even helped me gain from the surgery weight loss, darn it.

    Sharon Near Seattle
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,595 Member
    edited June 2020
    Coronavirus spreading faster than ever before
    Although some nations are seeing coronavirus cases starting to dip, the virus is spreading faster than ever on a global scale.

    https://www.news.com.au/world/coronavirus/global/coronavirus-spreading-faster-than-ever-before/news-story/bc5af8b71ef169b0f6fc2b25dd704596
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    Although Australia is starting to open, my husband and I are taking things slowly. I don't know how long it is since we've been out among people ... a week, maybe two. We go out for exercise and smile at the people we see across the road as we walk and cycle, but we're still definitely social distancing.

    I could get very used to a hermit-like lifestyle. As the state opens, I'm starting to think about where we might be able to go on a weekend (after my exam) that is far away from everywhere, but has decent cycling options. I'd even be tempted to go internet-free for that weekend or so. :)


    Machka in Oz
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Tracey I missed something. Why has it been 5 years since you've seen your mom? :'(
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,696 Member
    Cases in Brighton and Hove have suddenly increased by 7. We had none for a few days. Sometimes there's a blip and then it stops again, but I hope it's not all the tourists we had over the warm weekends. I should think they took their germs home with them after mixing on the beaches.
    The schools haven't opened in the city yet as the council don't think it's safe. My grandchildren are at school part time, because of their mother's job.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    Kate UK ❤️
  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,610 Member
    "Get to do"s and "chose well"s
    Chose well: follow up call for Joe’s cologard, cleaning: 10 mins Dining rm; carryover cleaning 12 mins Bedrooms, 10 mins Living Rm, 3 mins Guest Bth, 2 mins Master Bth.
    Bonus: casaba, beit alpha cucumber, haricot and pepper seeds into egg cartons, 8 mins misc vacuuming, 54 mins misc cleaning, BB&B info from community college, picked up paper at firehouse,,
    Get to do: bottle return, T’ai Chi, Grocery outlet for bottled water for GB SDA soup kitchen, Freddie’s for bday gift card, line dance in park, call library to schedule pickup Tuesday? invest 18 mins cleaning Master Bath, 26 mins decluttering and cleaning Office; mat work, BB&B, practice new dances (Here I Go Again/Mama Mia, Real Deal, Get it Right, Quarter after one, Half Past Tipsy, Senorita, Dance Monkey; transplant parsley, pineapple, rose geranium, Stinky; make garlic almonds for Barb and Dan; prep raised bed for carrots, parsley root, parsnips, radishes; finish weeding drive, continue weeding flower bed, mulch flowerbed; call stove repair guy to adjust kitchen flame and assess Aunt Elsie’s Stove to determine if finish cleaning and start de-rusting feasible; Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine, next week final? Follow up call for Joe’s Dr. appointment.
    Reward: inventory seeds, plan fall cool season garden, order replenishments.

    Joyful June 4: show appreciation to those helping others=emailed gold beach soup kitchen, will drop off a couple cases of bottled water Sunday.

    Joe’s labs update
    got an automated system voicemail yesterday. When I returned the call, the automated system asked me if I was Joe, I replied No, ended up going through some hoops but was finally put through to Pierre. Told him I was sorry he was unlucky enough to be stuck with my call, went through the history. He advised the automated call was to serve two purposes: 1-let us know the kit had been dispatched, we’d see it in 3-7 business days; and 2- to go over important information about the test. When he started to go over the info with me I asked if Joe could call him back later when he returns home. I think Joe will be more accepting of instructions that don’t come from me ;} Meanwhile, it’s on my calendar to follow up if the kit is not received by Friday June 12.

    Heather I’d love a pic of your herbal windowsill ;) Toffee popcorn topping and filling, salted caramel sauce, OH my mouth is watering. Bravo to your son for the 2 yrs AF and all that cycling. Sounds like he deserves a Mum-cooked meal soon as it’s safe. Your exercise habits and bonus calories have got me thinking… Walnut bread with strong blue cheese, savory! Is your cooktop gas?
    Allie what Karen in Va and Barbie said. Read it a third time. You ARE a heck of a woman and don’t deserve that crap.
    Karen, yes that is an excellent article. While I can never truly understand what people of color have gone through, so many of the those instances could as well have been “. . .because of your gender.”
    Looks like Rocky Mtn National Park won’t have much trouble maintaining social distancing :lol:
    Barbie Washington state’s Phase 2 gathering limits (5) are stricter than Oregon’s Phase 1 (25). Our Phase 2 looks like your Phase 3. Your Phase 4 will require continued social distancing even at large public events. Our Phase 3 won’t happen until “reliable treatment or preventative is available”. New socks?
    Welcome back CJ!
    Pip what is that gentler treatment called? Joe refuses to powerwash out of concern for the siding. And could you send us your guy and his crew? :laugh:
    Margaret wouldn’t it be great if the decision makers were required to use the systems for which they are responsible? Starting with public transportation. And send their kids to school in the public schools in their district? Like firemen and policemen used to be required to live in the neighborhoods they served? [sigh] but you’re right, morality cannot be legislated.
    Terri thanks for your perspective on growing up and living in N. Ireland. :love: your Celtic soul.
    Amber Humor and grace, well done!
    Tracey what you said to Katla about your hopes for the youth of today. :heart:
    Welcome @mira128180 Michelle in MS!
    Rebecca and Tracey :love: the pics. I confess to grandparent envy, mine passed before I was born.
    Michele in NC :cry:
    Machka that “everything is going to be all right” meme ((hugs)) Sometimes I just want my Mama or my Papa. :cry:

    Invested a good part of the day cleaning. Joe asked "Who's coming to visit?" He was surprised that no one is coming, I was just trying to catch up. All but the Office are in reasonable shape, good thing as tomorrow will be busy, no time for cleaning :lol:

    Lighter, lovelies!
    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    May: better than April.
    daily: steps=6647  vits=4 log=4 CI<CO=4 CI<250<CO=3 Tumble & Shadow 5=1 mfp=3 clean 10 mins=3 outside=2 up hill=2
    wkly: T’ai Chi or BB&B x3=1 rx= dance=1
    mnthly: board mtg= grant= review 20for20=
    bonus: AF=2 play=0 sew=0

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