WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2020

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  • SuziQ113
    SuziQ113 Posts: 1,520 Member
    Hello lovely ladies.

    It’s official. I have been logging in to MFP for one year! I know I am a newbie in comparison to many of us among this group, but it feels good to have one year under my belt.

    I will say the past two months have been difficult for me. I have gotten out of some of my healthy habits and need to reign myself back in. It is very different working remote. When I was going to the office I had to make sure my meals were planned and packed. At home I have free reign. So I have decided I will dedicate an area in my refrigerator as my “lunch box” and will go back to packing up my next day’s work meals and snacks in that area. I am also committing to taking two 15-minute breaks during my workday and getting some additional steps in.

    I got the bill for my “big” (lol) electrical repair. I wish I would have checked things out, but it was worth the $65 to have someone check everything out for me. Especially since I have an “experimental” circuit breaker. I am not looking forward to the day I have to replace it. For now, it’s fine and should be ok for the next year or two.

    Barbara – So sorry to hear about Joe’s eye! And, the stress of coordinating care and prescriptions. As Karen stated, it is good to have a good cry. I think that’s why women live longer than men – we allow ourselves to release both positive and negative feelings through our eyes. I have been known to cry over a heart-felt commercial!

    Faye – Regarding the moth being a friend or a foe, I believe all things have both natures in them. The moth is a friend when it’s outside. It’s a pollinator, it eats smaller bugs, and it’s beautiful to look at. That same moth, if it were to come inside and lay eggs, would be foe.

    Kim – Every time I read a story about those in charge at the camp I just shake my head. I would never ask someone to do something I would not do myself.

    Lisa – I am so glad you have found your retirement rhythm.

    Heather – Edie is adorable in her football uniform! She is growing up so quickly!

    Beth – I chuckled over “fall is in the air”. Here in SFL fall does not arrive until the end of October! Which means we will be in the high 70’s to low 80s. I will say I miss fall and spring the most. I certainly do not miss Old Man Winter!!

    Yvonne – I so agree with your Uncle Mike. I am also very glad Charlie and I took trips and vacations and did not wait for retirement. Since he passed when I was 45 (there was a 19-year gap between us) I would not have had all of those fond memories and experiences. I still laugh over some of our escapades!

    Tina – I have been baking too much too! For me it’s a soothing and predictable process. I am lucky because I have a neighbor who will take my baking off of my hands. I am now baking healthier things. I made a nice batch of Molasses Bran muffins this past week.

    Michele – It sounds like you are enjoying your job. It’s my thought I will need to find something to keep me busy when I retire. I want to travel the country and I am looking into various crafts I can sell while on the road. I have know a few people in my past who traveled the fair circuit and were able to finance their travels from the selling of various crafts and products.

    Masks – I have 15 masks! Yes, 15 of them. I always carry at least two and have a back up in the car. As mentioned earlier in the month people are now developing mask mouth (gum disease). The professionals believe it’s because those who wear masks, especially for long periods, are not hydrating enough and thereby have a back up of bacteria in their mouths. I would think, based upon their findings, masks have a build up of that bacteria which causes them to smell. I change mine frequently, if I have to wear for a period of time. I am also making sure I hydrate whenever I can.

    Tracey – HR, at least in the States, has been in the business of protecting the company from lawsuits. Yes, I can go to them for benefits assistance, but would never go to them for any management-type of issue. I usually deal with those on my own and or work with a manager as best as I can. I left one of my jobs because I tried to go through the ranks and when nothing was done – I started my own business which was something I had wanted to do. Eventually decided working for myself wasn’t what I wanted and I dove back in to the corporate world where I will remain until I retire. I just keep telling myself it’s work, it’s not life. What happens there stays there. I am thankful I am currently employed by a decent group, but always remember it’s a business and a business is not going to cry over me.

    Katla – Reading about your challenges with the RV has me thinking about my own retirement. I do want to travel the country and have thought about purchasing an RV when that time comes. But I waver back and forth between an RV or a travel van. I think the van would be easier to handle but comes at a price with lack of space. It is an ever going back and forth with me. We plan, G laughs. I have quite a bit of time to decide and resided in the fact I will make that decision when the time comes.

    Gloves and such – Due to the high level of cases all of our stores have people cleaning and sanitizing every cart and high touch area such as doors constantly. Every store has someone sanitizing carts as they come into the store. Even Costco. I keep sanitizer clipped to a belt loop and no longer carry a purse. My purse is a small reusable bag that can be sanitized. My hands are sanitized before I open the car, after the bags are placed in my car, etc. My hands are washed as soon as I walk in the door. It’s funny I do not think about it anymore – it’s just part of my being. But, I am also one who has had a bottle of sanitizer clipped to the outside of her purse for about 20 years plus. I have always been a little neurotic when it comes to my hands and public places.

    Lanette – Sorry to hear about Rosie’s teeth. The groomer should have known better……even our own dentists tell us to use “soft” brushes.

    Vicki – Glad to hear the hives are sleeping.

    Allie – I am glad you had a good time with Homer. You gave him a good day.

    Kylia – It almost sounds like there needs to be a family meeting and expectations need to be laid out. I think Machka has a great idea….maybe it’s time to hire outside of the family.


    Great news on the storms front (there were two). Florida is officially out of the cones of concern. We will get some wind and rain from Laura. We will not see any effects from Marco. It’s sad because both are expected to land around Louisiana. Those poor folks cannot catch a break!

    It’s off to the races for me. So many things to do around the house. I really do not feel like doing any of them! I did schedule next Thursday and Friday off. I want to get ahead of things so I can enjoy the long weekend!

    Hugs to all and prayers for those in need.
    SuziQ – SFL
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,255 Member
    (((Barbara)))
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    Allie – I hope the news is good with Homer, and the situation gets better with Faith.

    Kylia – I’m sorry people are letting you down, it’s so stressful when they’re also family. Is it possible for you to get a job elsewhere and let them deal with it without you? Might change a few minds as to what’s important. Just a thought. No worries about venting, sometimes we must.

    Barbara – the business with Joe’s eye sounds horribly stressful. Hope he’s more comfortable now, and well done for him getting seen—it must have hurt like stink.

    Tina – Baking is a stress-reliever for me, as well. In February and then March, as the virus was ramping up and work was getting more and more stressful, I was baking every weekend—mostly cookies. That would be one of the reasons my highest weight ever showed up on the scale by the end of March. Corey’s co-workers enjoyed every Monday for weeks on end, as I sent whatever survived to work with him.

    SuziQ – Loved the frogs and the sunrise… Your statement was quite profound regarding business – “always remember it’s a business and a business is not going to cry over me.” I’ve also always been a little neurotic about hands – I never push open a public bathroom door with my hands, I always use a paper towel – and HATE bathrooms with no paper, only air dryers. I use one foot to flush any non-automatic toilet, etc. etc. I can’t use hand sanitizer, as the ingredients crack my skin open, but I wash my hands a lot. Corey and I tried living in a pull-behind camper/trailer (neither one of us was willing to drive a large RV) and hated it, even with it parked and plugged in. It was OK for a little while, but long-term wasn’t a good thing. Survived over a winter in the desert living in it and gave up. Tiny house living is not in our future.

    Love,
    Lisa
  • LisaInAR
    LisaInAR Posts: 2,020 Member
    edited August 2020
    Re: Traveling and when – I’m so done with travel in general that I’m more than happy to be here at home. I travel in different ways now. There is so much to build, to change, to explore in this place we've found, I’m not sure I’ll ever get it all built, changed, and seen.

    Re: My own rhythms in retirement - Corey seems to feel the same way about just being here, but I also see the tiredness in his eyes as he knows that it’s going to be another 11 years until he can stop working for good. He’s nine years younger than I am, for those who don’t know.

    I could not be “retired” if it wasn’t for his complete support, and look forward to getting my Social Security benefit at the first possible moment (15 months from now) so that there is some other funding coming in and some of the pressure is off for him. I ran the figures, and if I waited until full benefit at age 67, I would even out at 77, and then would receive significantly more, of course, over the remainder of my life. However, since no one in my family has yet survived that long, it makes little sense to wait. With my benefit, we should be able to pay off the house in 2023, and that will take even more pressure off him.

    Taking care of him and this place (and myself, so I can do those things) is my job now, as far as I’m concerned. He deserves to have as few worries as possible.

    He had to work today, bless him. He deserves both weekend days off, but they will keep breaking stuff that he then has to fix, and sometimes it just can't get fixed on a weekday. It's time and a half, which is great for our budget, but means he'll have to get a lot of relaxing in tomorrow. Can't believe Labor Day is around the corner! It's not a holiday for him - they get only four paid holidays off - July 4, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's Day. Hard to argue with people who appreciate what he does, pay him well, and give him a truck to drive. We are exceedingly fortunate people and do not take these things for granted.

    Beautiful cool morning, another harbinger of Fall, and am looking forward to the season changing.

    Dawn is breaking, time to get the clothes out on the line, and then get on the elliptical. Then more brush cutting--that was yesterday's yard work and I got maybe a quarter of the trees trimmed. Lots more to do this morning. Had to wait on the brush cutting until I could get an elbow strap--couldn't lift the battery chain saw with my elbow pinging. If I played tennis, it would be tennis elbow, but I actually did the minor damage while I was hoeing grass out around the hibiscus. After a couple months of ouch, it was time to support that elbow a bit so it can heal. I haven't let it stop me, but it is annoying.

    Later y'all,
    Love,
    Lisa
  • Faetta
    Faetta Posts: 1,059 Member
    Kylia Glad you didn't delete your post. Relieving stress by sharing with others is healthy, not whinny. Thank you for sharing.
  • Faetta
    Faetta Posts: 1,059 Member
    SuzieQ Glad that moth is a good one helping nature. We have moths that kill trees and other vegetation. I am not disturbed about spiders building webs around my doors. My bestie gets all crazy about spider webs. I showed her one of my webs that was filled with dead flies. "Better in the web than my house," I say. She is a homewrecker in a spider's opinion.
  • Faetta
    Faetta Posts: 1,059 Member
    Barbara Sorry to hear about Joe's eyes. I occasionally have pain and it helps to hold a warm bag on it. You can buy those microwaveable bags just made for the eyes. I use my regular buckwheat filled bag and the heat helps get the nerves soothed.
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,195 Member
    :)Barbara,what a traumatic day for you. We, too, live in a beautiful rural community which is perfect except in the case of needing the medical specialty that can be found only in the city. Hugs to you and Joe. What a scary time for both of you.

    :) Our big adventure today will be going to get flu shots. I have a small shopping list for the drug store so I can get some things that aren't available in the grocery store. It takes so little to entertain us.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA
  • Faetta
    Faetta Posts: 1,059 Member
    edited August 2020
    CoffeeandHumblePie wrote: »
    Wow! This thread moves at lighting speed! :D Headed up north (we live in Minnesota) to check on father-in-law today - 93 yrs young and always getting into trouble. Bringing his favorite lunch along including his new favorite, key lime pie. Hoping to get a walk in on his lovely country lane!

    We may be old, but we are quick! Hahaha! The F in L has good taste. I am a bit partial to key lime pie also.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    It's nice when I can check in daily. that way I can really read all posts! thank you!

    yesterday I DID do these 3 things on my list yesterday
    1) go for a walk done
    2) clean/tidy for an hourdone
    3) contact friend who invited me for a weekend visit and probably reserve transport

    Today I :
    1) went for a walk done
    Remaining
    2) clean/tidy/file for an hour
    3) meeting a friend and her significant other at 6pm for coffee or something

    Keeping bar low at present.

  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    B)
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,018 Member
    Machka: That weather sounds like what we are having today, and it’s supposed to be our summer!!! 😂
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,253 Member
    Iiiii
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,018 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Not wanting to be a "party pooper" but ...

    If you go to the bottom of the page you'll see this:

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    Click on Community Guidelines.

    Have a skim over the Community Guidelines, but especially number 12.


    We welcome all sorts of topics, but we do try to heed Community Guideline number 12 so that this thread can stay in business and we can all continue to participate. :):)

    Is this in the website? I can’t find it anywhere on the app pages.
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,946 Member
    Machka - I enjoyed that article, I’m going to share it with my daughter.

    Barbara - I’m so sorry Joe is not having an easy recovery. Hopefully these pills do the trick.
    A good cry is a great stress relief.

    Kylia - I think a family/business meeting is in order. If your SIL is no longer interested she should say so. I admire you, there is no way in a million years I would try to work with my family, especially in-laws. I might with my daughters. I don’t think you were whining, I think you needed to vent and get your thoughts out. We all need that from time to time.
    We have been eating out too much too, it’s pure laziness in my part. The days I work I just find it so hard to come home and cook.

    Suzi - thank you! I have been doing pretty well at leaving work at work and since I’ve stopped trying to do anything extra or offering to help I have been staying out of her way. I have signed up for job alerts on a couple of job postings sites and am keeping my eyes open. It would be tough to give up parts of this job though.

    Lisa - we live in a 770 sq foot mobile home. It is too small at times and I watch these shows where families are building tiny homes and wonder if they’ve ever tried living in anything small. Our place works for us 90% of the time, it’s when the girls and Grands visit that it feels small. I have an idea on how to make it feel like we have more room but I’m still mulling it in my head before starting the conversation with Rodger.

    It is raining very heavily for the last half hour or so. The wind is blowing and it seems like the tips of hurricanes we used to get in NB. Of course, that’s not what it is here in Alberta.

    My plan for today is to clean and maybe get some groceries. I may wait until tomorrow for that.
    My nephew turned 16 in July and has an appointment on Sept 4th to go for his drivers test for his learners. He bought a truck today using his own money as he found a great deal. He will be itching to drive it I’m sure. He was raised in the country so like most farm boys has been driving since he could reach the peddles. My brother was raised the same and failed his drivers test the first time as he was too over confident.

    Tracey in Edmonton
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,598 Member
    TerriRichardson112 wrote: »
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Not wanting to be a "party pooper" but ...

    If you go to the bottom of the page you'll see this:

    4dsbwbjkyavy.png


    Click on Community Guidelines.

    Have a skim over the Community Guidelines, but especially number 12.


    We welcome all sorts of topics, but we do try to heed Community Guideline number 12 so that this thread can stay in business and we can all continue to participate. :):)

    Is this in the website? I can’t find it anywhere on the app pages.

    Yes ... you'll see it if you use a laptop.

    But you can go to myfitnesspal/welcome/guidelines ... or to News and Announcements and scroll down to the first post there.

    M in Oz
  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,975 Member
    Coffee, welcome! My husband is from northern Minnesota. We haven’t been back since his mom passed in 2010.

    Barbara, so scary about your husband’s eyes. Mine has had that procedure to lower his pressure. He’s having cataract surgery on Tuesday with some kind of fancy lens implant. I’m nervous about that, but he doesn’t seem to be.
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,018 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    TerriRichardson112 wrote: »
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Not wanting to be a "party pooper" but ...

    If you go to the bottom of the page you'll see this:

    4dsbwbjkyavy.png


    Click on Community Guidelines.

    Have a skim over the Community Guidelines, but especially number 12.


    We welcome all sorts of topics, but we do try to heed Community Guideline number 12 so that this thread can stay in business and we can all continue to participate. :):)

    Is this in the website? I can’t find it anywhere on the app pages.

    Yes ... you'll see it if you use a laptop.

    But you can go to myfitnesspal/welcome/guidelines ... or to News and Announcements and scroll down to the first post there.

    M in Oz

    Thanks, Machka. I went looking for it after I posted that last question, and that is indeed where I found it. 😂

    I had read them when I first joined, so knew the ghist of them, just wanted to refresh my memory.
  • Faetta
    Faetta Posts: 1,059 Member
    Margaret Thank you! I am glad you understand but sorry you had to experience it with your son. I wish others could understand, but sadly it seems personal experience is the best teacher. Hugs!
    Faye
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    edited August 2020
    Dr. Katie: I hope your DH’s cataract surgery goes very well. :flowerforyou:

    Rita: I have been my own science project. I was on “the pill” in the early days of our marriage. It was a disaster for me. DH & I had a fight over it. He threw the pills into the toilet and I flushed it. After that I used barrier methods of birth control until the blessing of “the change” came along. That wasn’t much fun. I am not a fan of hormone replacement therapy. :noway: After “the change,” I had some bone density problems—two broken wrists caused by separate falls on unseen ice. It was then that I was put on alondrate for bone health support. So far, it is a good strategy for me. I take the once a week version rather than the daily version. Good luck working through things until you find your comfortable spot. :heart:

    Rita—new subject.: I’d like your advice about an extended RV trip. Our son wants us to drive across the country to visit his family. He thinks we can do it in the Bounder. DH refuses to fly anywhere and he is not inclined toward driving the Bounder across the country. Our Bounder is a near twin to yours. Do you think it is a sensible idea to drive it that far? I am developing a plan B and I doubt DH will be a fan of that either. My plan B is to drive to his sister’s place in Eastern Oregon in the Bounder, and DH could stay in the Bounder with the dog while I fly to VA to see our DS and his wonderful family. Would you drive your Bounder across the country & back? It would be a VERY long roundtrip in my thinking.



    Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,803 Member
    SuziQ113 wrote: »
    What a productive morning. I vacuumed the ceilings downstairs, cleaned and organized the large kitchen cabinet, wiped down the rest of the cabinets, cleaned the refrigerator, cleaned the powder room, washed the downstairs floor, and cleaned up the courtyard.
    I have been dying to try the organic vanilla bean infused maple syrup i bought at Costco so made a delicious brunch of French toast. The syrup was so darn good I'm happy I purchased it.
    Taking a break and there may be a nap in my very near future.

    Suziq, when you typed vacuumed the ceilings ya lost me friend!!!😁. Is that actually a thing? If so, I must have the dirtiest popcorn ceiling EVER!💖
    You are a domestic rockstar! That made me tired reading all ya did. I will take that nap for ya!
    💖Rebecca
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,803 Member
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