The iMago Relationship Advice thread

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  • ermengarde22
    ermengarde22 Posts: 2,116 Member
    edited September 2020
    iMago wrote: »
    @iMago

    there’s this guy who expects me to clean up after him all the time while he just lays around all day. worse he has no job and always interrupts me while i’m working because he’s bored and like super needy. i do all the cooking and cleaning and shopping and he never leaves the house bc of severe agoraphobia and he’s not vaccinated. just last night he woke me up at like 3 am to ask some question (he doesn’t speak English so i’m not sure what he was asking but it was probably something stupid that could’ve waited until morning). anyways he’s really cute, so what can i do to make our relationship better?

    is he a cat
    he sounds like a cat

    you cant trust them they'll steal* your breath while you're sleeping everyone knows that

    no youre confused, its “they eat your face when u die”

    anyways i’m thinking a lavender scented “calming collar”
  • GymGoddessGoals
    GymGoddessGoals Posts: 2,146 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    @iMago

    there’s this guy who expects me to clean up after him all the time while he just lays around all day. worse he has no job and always interrupts me while i’m working because he’s bored and like super needy. i do all the cooking and cleaning and shopping and he never leaves the house bc of severe agoraphobia and he’s not vaccinated. just last night he woke me up at like 3 am to ask some question (he doesn’t speak English so i’m not sure what he was asking but it was probably something stupid that could’ve waited until morning). anyways he’s really cute, so what can i do to make our relationship better?

    is he a cat
    he sounds like a cat

    you cant trust them they'll steal* your breath while you're sleeping everyone knows that

    no youre confused, its “they eat your face when u die”

    anyways i’m thinking a lavender scented “calming collar”

    It's an old wives tale to explain SIDS. Been around since.... 1600's?
  • ermengarde22
    ermengarde22 Posts: 2,116 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    @iMago

    there’s this guy who expects me to clean up after him all the time while he just lays around all day. worse he has no job and always interrupts me while i’m working because he’s bored and like super needy. i do all the cooking and cleaning and shopping and he never leaves the house bc of severe agoraphobia and he’s not vaccinated. just last night he woke me up at like 3 am to ask some question (he doesn’t speak English so i’m not sure what he was asking but it was probably something stupid that could’ve waited until morning). anyways he’s really cute, so what can i do to make our relationship better?

    is he a cat
    he sounds like a cat

    you cant trust them they'll steal* your breath while you're sleeping everyone knows that

    no youre confused, its “they eat your face when u die”

    anyways i’m thinking a lavender scented “calming collar”

    It's an old wives tale to explain SIDS. Been around since.... 1600's?

    yes but the face eating thing is a true story
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    @iMago

    there’s this guy who expects me to clean up after him all the time while he just lays around all day. worse he has no job and always interrupts me while i’m working because he’s bored and like super needy. i do all the cooking and cleaning and shopping and he never leaves the house bc of severe agoraphobia and he’s not vaccinated. just last night he woke me up at like 3 am to ask some question (he doesn’t speak English so i’m not sure what he was asking but it was probably something stupid that could’ve waited until morning). anyways he’s really cute, so what can i do to make our relationship better?

    is he a cat
    he sounds like a cat

    you cant trust them they'll steal* your breath while you're sleeping everyone knows that

    no youre confused, its “they eat your face when u die”

    anyways i’m thinking a lavender scented “calming collar”

    It's an old wives tale to explain SIDS. Been around since.... 1600's?

    yes but the face eating thing is a true story

    well tbf most animals would eat your face after death if they got hungry enough. except geese- they're vegan.

    also cockroaches love the taste of eyelashes. heck they don't even have to wait until you're a goner to get a taste. so just think about that the next time you feel something tickling your face in the middle of the night.
  • ermengarde22
    ermengarde22 Posts: 2,116 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    @iMago

    there’s this guy who expects me to clean up after him all the time while he just lays around all day. worse he has no job and always interrupts me while i’m working because he’s bored and like super needy. i do all the cooking and cleaning and shopping and he never leaves the house bc of severe agoraphobia and he’s not vaccinated. just last night he woke me up at like 3 am to ask some question (he doesn’t speak English so i’m not sure what he was asking but it was probably something stupid that could’ve waited until morning). anyways he’s really cute, so what can i do to make our relationship better?

    is he a cat
    he sounds like a cat

    you cant trust them they'll steal* your breath while you're sleeping everyone knows that

    no youre confused, its “they eat your face when u die”

    anyways i’m thinking a lavender scented “calming collar”

    It's an old wives tale to explain SIDS. Been around since.... 1600's?

    yes but the face eating thing is a true story

    well tbf most animals would eat your face after death if they got hungry enough. except geese- they're vegan.

    also cockroaches love the taste of eyelashes. heck they don't even have to wait until you're a goner to get a taste. so just think about that the next time you feel something tickling your face in the middle of the night.

    never forget tho, the cat ate his face and there was still binkies in his kibble bowl
  • ermengarde22
    ermengarde22 Posts: 2,116 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    @iMago

    there’s this guy who expects me to clean up after him all the time while he just lays around all day. worse he has no job and always interrupts me while i’m working because he’s bored and like super needy. i do all the cooking and cleaning and shopping and he never leaves the house bc of severe agoraphobia and he’s not vaccinated. just last night he woke me up at like 3 am to ask some question (he doesn’t speak English so i’m not sure what he was asking but it was probably something stupid that could’ve waited until morning). anyways he’s really cute, so what can i do to make our relationship better?

    is he a cat
    he sounds like a cat

    you cant trust them they'll steal* your breath while you're sleeping everyone knows that

    no youre confused, its “they eat your face when u die”

    anyways i’m thinking a lavender scented “calming collar”

    It's an old wives tale to explain SIDS. Been around since.... 1600's?

    yes but the face eating thing is a true story

    well tbf most animals would eat your face after death if they got hungry enough. except geese- they're vegan.

    also cockroaches love the taste of eyelashes. heck they don't even have to wait until you're a goner to get a taste. so just think about that the next time you feel something tickling your face in the middle of the night.

    and a goose would kill a man for fun so
  • GymGoddessGoals
    GymGoddessGoals Posts: 2,146 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    @iMago

    there’s this guy who expects me to clean up after him all the time while he just lays around all day. worse he has no job and always interrupts me while i’m working because he’s bored and like super needy. i do all the cooking and cleaning and shopping and he never leaves the house bc of severe agoraphobia and he’s not vaccinated. just last night he woke me up at like 3 am to ask some question (he doesn’t speak English so i’m not sure what he was asking but it was probably something stupid that could’ve waited until morning). anyways he’s really cute, so what can i do to make our relationship better?

    is he a cat
    he sounds like a cat

    you cant trust them they'll steal* your breath while you're sleeping everyone knows that

    no youre confused, its “they eat your face when u die”

    anyways i’m thinking a lavender scented “calming collar”

    It's an old wives tale to explain SIDS. Been around since.... 1600's?

    yes but the face eating thing is a true story

    Facts
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    @iMago

    there’s this guy who expects me to clean up after him all the time while he just lays around all day. worse he has no job and always interrupts me while i’m working because he’s bored and like super needy. i do all the cooking and cleaning and shopping and he never leaves the house bc of severe agoraphobia and he’s not vaccinated. just last night he woke me up at like 3 am to ask some question (he doesn’t speak English so i’m not sure what he was asking but it was probably something stupid that could’ve waited until morning). anyways he’s really cute, so what can i do to make our relationship better?

    is he a cat
    he sounds like a cat

    you cant trust them they'll steal* your breath while you're sleeping everyone knows that

    no youre confused, its “they eat your face when u die”

    anyways i’m thinking a lavender scented “calming collar”

    It's an old wives tale to explain SIDS. Been around since.... 1600's?

    yes but the face eating thing is a true story

    well tbf most animals would eat your face after death if they got hungry enough. except geese- they're vegan.

    also cockroaches love the taste of eyelashes. heck they don't even have to wait until you're a goner to get a taste. so just think about that the next time you feel something tickling your face in the middle of the night.

    😳 you're evil
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    @iMago

    there’s this guy who expects me to clean up after him all the time while he just lays around all day. worse he has no job and always interrupts me while i’m working because he’s bored and like super needy. i do all the cooking and cleaning and shopping and he never leaves the house bc of severe agoraphobia and he’s not vaccinated. just last night he woke me up at like 3 am to ask some question (he doesn’t speak English so i’m not sure what he was asking but it was probably something stupid that could’ve waited until morning). anyways he’s really cute, so what can i do to make our relationship better?

    is he a cat
    he sounds like a cat

    you cant trust them they'll steal* your breath while you're sleeping everyone knows that

    no youre confused, its “they eat your face when u die”

    anyways i’m thinking a lavender scented “calming collar”

    It's an old wives tale to explain SIDS. Been around since.... 1600's?

    yes but the face eating thing is a true story

    well tbf most animals would eat your face after death if they got hungry enough. except geese- they're vegan.

    also cockroaches love the taste of eyelashes. heck they don't even have to wait until you're a goner to get a taste. so just think about that the next time you feel something tickling your face in the middle of the night.

    eeeewww...now ill never sleep normally
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females
  • GymGoddessGoals
    GymGoddessGoals Posts: 2,146 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    Step 1: Do you have any progress pics?
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so

    prob best to just be mysterious until the intrigue gets the best of them then idk

    or just straight up ask without any guile, but that's usually best if you do it in a funny way or send a meme (i have my own personal fave for this but can't post it here sorry)
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so

    prob best to just be mysterious until the intrigue gets the best of them then idk

    or just straight up ask without any guile, but that's usually best if you do it in a funny way or send a meme (i have my own personal fave for this but can't post it here sorry)

    Yall really have your work cut out for you, have you ever tried just laying it all out on a ruler and seeing what she wants to send back?
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so

    prob best to just be mysterious until the intrigue gets the best of them then idk

    or just straight up ask without any guile, but that's usually best if you do it in a funny way or send a meme (i have my own personal fave for this but can't post it here sorry)

    Yall really have your work cut out for you, have you ever tried just laying it all out on a ruler and seeing what she wants to send back?

    no cause if you're a guy you never send the first anything. otherwise you're going into her chat group and getting roasted.
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so

    prob best to just be mysterious until the intrigue gets the best of them then idk

    or just straight up ask without any guile, but that's usually best if you do it in a funny way or send a meme (i have my own personal fave for this but can't post it here sorry)

    Yall really have your work cut out for you, have you ever tried just laying it all out on a ruler and seeing what she wants to send back?

    no cause if you're a guy you never send the first anything. otherwise you're going into her chat group and getting roasted.

    Can confirm
    I really did get the ol unsolicited sausage on a ruler pic in my early mfp days, delivered with a completely unironic tale about how his wife took the pic and thought it would be funny for him to show me
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so

    prob best to just be mysterious until the intrigue gets the best of them then idk

    or just straight up ask without any guile, but that's usually best if you do it in a funny way or send a meme (i have my own personal fave for this but can't post it here sorry)

    Yall really have your work cut out for you, have you ever tried just laying it all out on a ruler and seeing what she wants to send back?

    no cause if you're a guy you never send the first anything. otherwise you're going into her chat group and getting roasted.

    Can confirm
    I really did get the ol unsolicited sausage on a ruler pic in my early mfp days, delivered with a completely unironic tale about how his wife took the pic and thought it would be funny for him to show me

    haha everybody knows, no matter what the pic is, no matter how obvious it is, you're supposed to "sorry dropped my phone". in fact the more obvious that's a lie, the better and more hilarious it is.
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so

    prob best to just be mysterious until the intrigue gets the best of them then idk

    or just straight up ask without any guile, but that's usually best if you do it in a funny way or send a meme (i have my own personal fave for this but can't post it here sorry)

    Yall really have your work cut out for you, have you ever tried just laying it all out on a ruler and seeing what she wants to send back?

    no cause if you're a guy you never send the first anything. otherwise you're going into her chat group and getting roasted.

    Can confirm
    I really did get the ol unsolicited sausage on a ruler pic in my early mfp days, delivered with a completely unironic tale about how his wife took the pic and thought it would be funny for him to show me

    haha everybody knows, no matter what the pic is, no matter how obvious it is, you're supposed to "sorry dropped my phone". in fact the more obvious that's a lie, the better and more hilarious it is.

    See now that i could respect
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so

    prob best to just be mysterious until the intrigue gets the best of them then idk

    or just straight up ask without any guile, but that's usually best if you do it in a funny way or send a meme (i have my own personal fave for this but can't post it here sorry)

    Yall really have your work cut out for you, have you ever tried just laying it all out on a ruler and seeing what she wants to send back?

    no cause if you're a guy you never send the first anything. otherwise you're going into her chat group and getting roasted.

    Can confirm
    I really did get the ol unsolicited sausage on a ruler pic in my early mfp days, delivered with a completely unironic tale about how his wife took the pic and thought it would be funny for him to show me

    haha everybody knows, no matter what the pic is, no matter how obvious it is, you're supposed to "sorry dropped my phone". in fact the more obvious that's a lie, the better and more hilarious it is.

    See now that i could respect

    yeah its the logical extension of "felt cute might delete later"
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so

    prob best to just be mysterious until the intrigue gets the best of them then idk

    or just straight up ask without any guile, but that's usually best if you do it in a funny way or send a meme (i have my own personal fave for this but can't post it here sorry)

    Yall really have your work cut out for you, have you ever tried just laying it all out on a ruler and seeing what she wants to send back?

    no cause if you're a guy you never send the first anything. otherwise you're going into her chat group and getting roasted.

    Can confirm
    I really did get the ol unsolicited sausage on a ruler pic in my early mfp days, delivered with a completely unironic tale about how his wife took the pic and thought it would be funny for him to show me

    haha everybody knows, no matter what the pic is, no matter how obvious it is, you're supposed to "sorry dropped my phone". in fact the more obvious that's a lie, the better and more hilarious it is.

    See now that i could respect

    yeah its the logical extension of "felt cute might delete later"

    Thank you, you’ve been very helpful might drop my phone in the tub later idk
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so

    prob best to just be mysterious until the intrigue gets the best of them then idk

    or just straight up ask without any guile, but that's usually best if you do it in a funny way or send a meme (i have my own personal fave for this but can't post it here sorry)

    Yall really have your work cut out for you, have you ever tried just laying it all out on a ruler and seeing what she wants to send back?

    no cause if you're a guy you never send the first anything. otherwise you're going into her chat group and getting roasted.

    Can confirm
    I really did get the ol unsolicited sausage on a ruler pic in my early mfp days, delivered with a completely unironic tale about how his wife took the pic and thought it would be funny for him to show me

    haha everybody knows, no matter what the pic is, no matter how obvious it is, you're supposed to "sorry dropped my phone". in fact the more obvious that's a lie, the better and more hilarious it is.

    See now that i could respect

    yeah its the logical extension of "felt cute might delete later"

    Thank you, you’ve been very helpful might drop my phone in the tub later idk

    how much later ??

    giphy.gif
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so

    prob best to just be mysterious until the intrigue gets the best of them then idk

    or just straight up ask without any guile, but that's usually best if you do it in a funny way or send a meme (i have my own personal fave for this but can't post it here sorry)

    Yall really have your work cut out for you, have you ever tried just laying it all out on a ruler and seeing what she wants to send back?

    no cause if you're a guy you never send the first anything. otherwise you're going into her chat group and getting roasted.

    Can confirm
    I really did get the ol unsolicited sausage on a ruler pic in my early mfp days, delivered with a completely unironic tale about how his wife took the pic and thought it would be funny for him to show me

    haha everybody knows, no matter what the pic is, no matter how obvious it is, you're supposed to "sorry dropped my phone". in fact the more obvious that's a lie, the better and more hilarious it is.

    See now that i could respect

    yeah its the logical extension of "felt cute might delete later"

    Thank you, you’ve been very helpful might drop my phone in the tub later idk

    i think? you're supposed to use that eyes emoji when they say things like this...hold on i got it here somewhere. yeah this one: 👁️👁️

  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    CacoEther wrote: »
    @iMago i think a man is trying to manipulate me into giving revealing pics, how do i figure out if that’s what he’s doing, like how would he do it exactly in step-by-step directions please so that i can clearly tell if thats what he’s doing and not because i would ever use it against any hapless females

    the trick is to not ask

    He definitely didn’t do that right. Okay so

    prob best to just be mysterious until the intrigue gets the best of them then idk

    or just straight up ask without any guile, but that's usually best if you do it in a funny way or send a meme (i have my own personal fave for this but can't post it here sorry)

    Yall really have your work cut out for you, have you ever tried just laying it all out on a ruler and seeing what she wants to send back?

    no cause if you're a guy you never send the first anything. otherwise you're going into her chat group and getting roasted.

    Can confirm
    I really did get the ol unsolicited sausage on a ruler pic in my early mfp days, delivered with a completely unironic tale about how his wife took the pic and thought it would be funny for him to show me

    haha everybody knows, no matter what the pic is, no matter how obvious it is, you're supposed to "sorry dropped my phone". in fact the more obvious that's a lie, the better and more hilarious it is.

    See now that i could respect

    yeah its the logical extension of "felt cute might delete later"

    Thank you, you’ve been very helpful might drop my phone in the tub later idk

    how much later ??

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    All i know is i’m gonna be busy um spinning at 8pm est
    But i intend to be wide open the rest of the night