Women 200lb+, Let's Be Fang-tastic This October!!!
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Thanks @KMC55, @iloveeggnog @KeriA and @remedieigotcha for your messages! A supportive community makes such a big difference!
@MuttiNM Holy cow! As someone who started at over 400 pounds, reading your post was very inspirational for me. The thought of me getting to onederland is pretty much outside of reality for me (I'm currently 372), but seeing that someone can actually do makes a big difference in how I think about things. I once got down to 250, but it wasn't sustainable what I was doing, and ended up heavier than when I started that journey.
@torih941 , that sounds so tough. It's so easy for those overwhelming feelings to overtake us, and send us down a path we don't want to be on. I think though, it's ok to not be ok, and to have bad times. It doesn't mean forever. I just went through a really tough time personally as well, and I met with my psychologist who gave me some really great advice. In person I'd ask you if I can share that with you, but since this is online I'll offer it and you can decide whether to read it! LOL
100% recovery from where you are today is a big step and thinking about how you're gonna get there can add to feeling overwhelmed. She described being 100% recovered as 'Better' with a capital B, and capital B Better takes some time to get to. So, in those moments you feel angst, anger, frustration, despair, whatever, think about what can make you feel 1% better. This is 'better' with lower case b. She gave the example of someone uncontrollably falling to the ground in the middle of the kitchen out of grief, and crying their eyes out. Getting up and dusting off from the kitchen ground is probably not realistic in that moment, but what would make it 1% better? Maybe a pillow and a blanket to make the floor a little more comfortable when they find themselves there.
This is what I did. I didn't focus on Better with the capital B. In those tough moments, I thought about what would make me feel 1% better in that moment, and it really helped. I remember once in a really tough moment, I couldn't think straight and didn't know what to do with myself. I decided if I did something that also checked off some thing from my to-do list would make me feel 1% better, so I cleaned my bathroom. LOL And what do you know, it did make me feel a tad better.
Take care. I hope some others will benefit from this information too!9 -
Lately I've been trying to figure out different ways/recipes for veggie sides. What does everyone have?...and go...
I make vegetables for my partners. One thing I do a lot is to do pan-seared yellow squash or zucchini. I cut top and bottom off the zucchini, cut it in half, then in quarters, and cut the quarters about a half inch thick. This goes onto a hot iron skillet with a drop of good high-temp oil. (I use grapeseed, but peanut would work too.) I stir them around on the skillet periodically and get the cut sides nicely browned, until they are soft, and then add a little sea salt and cracked black pepper and serve. You can toss with a little butter, but it's not necessary.
My boyfriend had weight loss surgery and so can't have pasta. His version of "fettucini alfredo" is the pan-seared zucchini with alfredo sauce and grilled chicken over it. He says he would rather have that than pasta.
This also works with summer squash.
I steam green beans and broccoli often, and Brussel sprouts, which are good if they are just lightly steamed and then tossed in a little bacon drippings with cracked black pepper.
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@heatherbluebell It's been a long journey (and hopefully one that never really ends--maintenance is forever, right?). To be honest, I kind of doubted I could get below 300 when I started. Getting to onederland still doesn't feel real. Some days I get down because I still have a ways to go to get to goal (not really sure what my goal weight is because I can't envision a lower weight; it's been so long since I was a healthy weight). Sometimes it's hard to handle the fact that I've lost over 200 pounds and I'm still technically obese. Those days I try to focus on all the positive changes in my life because of the weight loss. I literally could not walk 100 feet without feeling like I was going to die. Now everyday life is easier in all aspects. I can hike with my adult children and ride a bike! I just keep at it because I want to be able to do longer hikes and longer bike rides and maybe try some other activities or sports that I couldn't dream of doing at 435 pounds. Life feels full of possibilities now. Thanks for sharing the advice from your psychologist. I'm going to remember that for the next time life throws me a curve ball. It sounds very helpful--a good way to handle those overwhelming, negative feelings. Good luck as you continue on your journey!6
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Love the 1% better thing!2
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heatherbluebell wrote: »Thanks @KMC55, @iloveeggnog @KeriA and @remedieigotcha for your messages! A supportive community makes such a big difference!
@MuttiNM Holy cow! As someone who started at over 400 pounds, reading your post was very inspirational for me. The thought of me getting to onederland is pretty much outside of reality for me (I'm currently 372), but seeing that someone can actually do makes a big difference in how I think about things. I once got down to 250, but it wasn't sustainable what I was doing, and ended up heavier than when I started that journey.
@torih941 , that sounds so tough. It's so easy for those overwhelming feelings to overtake us, and send us down a path we don't want to be on. I think though, it's ok to not be ok, and to have bad times. It doesn't mean forever. I just went through a really tough time personally as well, and I met with my psychologist who gave me some really great advice. In person I'd ask you if I can share that with you, but since this is online I'll offer it and you can decide whether to read it! LOL
100% recovery from where you are today is a big step and thinking about how you're gonna get there can add to feeling overwhelmed. She described being 100% recovered as 'Better' with a capital B, and capital B Better takes some time to get to. So, in those moments you feel angst, anger, frustration, despair, whatever, think about what can make you feel 1% better. This is 'better' with lower case b. She gave the example of someone uncontrollably falling to the ground in the middle of the kitchen out of grief, and crying their eyes out. Getting up and dusting off from the kitchen ground is probably not realistic in that moment, but what would make it 1% better? Maybe a pillow and a blanket to make the floor a little more comfortable when they find themselves there.
This is what I did. I didn't focus on Better with the capital B. In those tough moments, I thought about what would make me feel 1% better in that moment, and it really helped. I remember once in a really tough moment, I couldn't think straight and didn't know what to do with myself. I decided if I did something that also checked off some thing from my to-do list would make me feel 1% better, so I cleaned my bathroom. LOL And what do you know, it did make me feel a tad better.
Take care. I hope some others will benefit from this information too!
@heatherbluebell Thank you thank you for this post. I think it probably resonated with a lot of us. There are days I am almost completely overwhelmed with life for a lot of reasons and days I can pretty much handle it but I think I can always muster up 1%, even on those dark days when anxiety is high. 💕👊🏻3 -
I kept trying to weigh myself this morning and every time I got on the scale it read 34 instead of my real weight. The dog was barking her head off to go out and I had stripped down to get the lowest possible weight, so I couldn’t keep standing there trying in case someone went by the house and saw me in all my nakedness through the window! I took the 34 as a sign that today was not my day to weigh and I’ll try again tomorrow when I am relaxed and Gracie has already gone out, and I can give myself the time I need. I have just made the decision to put my home on the market and it will go live on MLS on Nov. 18 so I have time to fix a few things. I am going to have to be really mindful of stress and food and drink choices so I don’t go off like a house on fire during this process. I’m going to try to make it as stress-free as possible.
@micwrites UPDATE: I weighed myself this morning when I was relaxed and the scale had gone down. I’m drinking lots of water, cutting back on my favorite vodka and tonic treat and trying to meditate to relieve my total stress. I’m writing two papers this weekend but my goal is to try to get in 5,000 steps.5 -
Age: 55
Height: 5' 9''
SW: 286.5 (6/3/19)
9/30 weight: 166.1
Maintenance Weight Range:162-168
Weekly tracking:
10/3: 167.6
10/10: 162.4
10/17: 163.5
10/24: 161.5 !!
10/31:
October Goals goals:
Maintain my weight between 162 and 168 🎃 - Slightly below target, so much the better.
Log food daily 🎃
Row or Run at least 6x's a week 🎃
Get at least 45 "active" minutes a day 🎃
Get at least 10,000 steps/day 🎃
I had one day last week where I only got 40 active minutes. I still call that a win. I continue to be really, really busy. I've been doing GOTV work, so between now and Nov 3rd life will be busy. On a sad note, this week was the last week of week day rowing. It's too dark and cold to row in the mornings. I'll still be rowing on Sundays for a bit longer. I am really enjoying it and can't believe how much I've progressed since I started in July.
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Had a rather exciting and emotional day because Boyfriend and I went to a jewelry store and looked at engagement rings. As he said, now he just needs one of these places that's interested in him to go ahead and actually hire him.
I WANTED to eat all the food to deal with having a lot of feelings about it. Instead, I made an alternate dinner, ate a rational portion of it, and had my usual evening snacks in their order, and now I'm going to bed, only about an hour late and only cause I wanted to finish the book. This is a very good thing. I didn't even have to work very hard at resisting temptation. I really am reworking myself.
There are a lot of feelings because thinking about making the engagement official brings up feelings about the former marriage for both of us. (It is a second marriage for both of us.) But we'll be good.6 -
Sunday Check-in
SW 230.78 lbs (16/03/2020) 104.9 Kgs
28/09 75.8 Kg 166.76 (-1Kgs) (-2.2lbs)
5/10 75.7 kg 166.54 (-0.1kg) (-0.22lbs)
11/10 74.9 kg 164.78 (-0.8kg) (-1.98lbs)
19/10 74.2 kg 163.24lbs (-0.7kg) (-1.54lbs)
25/10 72,8 kg 160.16 lbs (-1.4kg) (-3.08lbs)
I'm logging a day early because it's a whoosh!! The first time in more than a month and I'm chuffed. Yesterday I completed week 7 of the couch 2 5k run, tomorrow is the beginning of week 8. Yesterday I ran to the river mouth it's slightly hilly with an off-trail at the end, I felt amazing and absolutely loved it. I'm slowish my pace is 9.47 per km, I still can't believe this is me, running, and I can't wait for my next one! Don't be discouraged by losing tiny bits, the whoosh will come and it just motivates you for the next one!7 -
SW: 237
CW: 235.7
GW: 180
Goal for the rest of October: I'm proactively not bringing the Halloween sweets into the house. A few bites when we're out is always better than bringing a 1lb bag into the house (followed by eating a 1lb bag of chocolate in the house...).
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We started keeping the chocolate in the house in the freezer in the summer for obvious reasons. As we have a fridge in the garage (we inherited it when we bought the house) the fun-size candy bars live out there. I have discovered two things:
Often when I want one since it's not handy I can't be bothered to get up and go to the other side of the house for it. Secondly, I'm now very fond of having my chocolate cold, and there's only certain sorts one can eat straight from the freezer. If I have to thaw it so I don't break a tooth, apparently I'm not interested. I am still continuing my fondness for small frozen KitKat bars, though.5 -
Well, my car broke down yesterday with a loud and emphatic bang when I went to start it after my part time job. Had to have it towed but the repair shop doesn't open until tomorrow. Had to walk to and from the part time job today, about 1.5 miles each way. Did I mention that a snow storm hit last night and is continuing through tomorrow? 15 degrees and snowing but I have good layers and snow boots so it wasn't too bad really. Got a ton of cardio in today with that and the activity of the part time job for six hours straight.
Fingers crossed the repair won't be too expensive... should find out tomorrow. Back to the normal seasonal temps after tomorrow also. Sometimes I think I'm cursed with things happening at the worst possible moments. LOL11 -
I’m happy the information I learned from my psychologist was helpful for some of you!
Well, last week I made it to the pool 3/3 days I had planned. It was sooooo good to go swimming before work. The alarm at 5:15AM was tough, but I’ve never done a pre-work workout, and it was great. I made it to 2/3 days I planned to go to Zumba, but I didn’t do any strength training (I had planned 3 days). I think I added maybe a bit too much last week, but I’m going to keep the same goals again this week. I have 2 days off this coming week, so I only work Monday-Wednesday. I already have a good list of things I’m doing on my days off - all for organizing my life and my mind! One thing I’m doing is seeing my doctor to get a referral to a nutritionist! I saw one once before, but I don’t think I was ready to make changes. I’m excited to see what I’ll learn this time!
I’m supposed to do a weigh in this week. I sneaked a peek today, and I gained a pound from my last weigh in. Sigh... I did have a lot of salt yesterday, so I’m super, super hoping it was an off day and that overall I’m down... but we’ll see. If I am down, it’ll probably not be a lot given what I saw this morning. But that’s ok.
I’ll let you guys know how my weigh in goes, and how my exercise goals go this week.
I hope everyone here has a great week!
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Hi lovely ladies! I just found this thread but I’m a bit late to the party this month. Will look out for a November thread and join in.
I’ve been doing Slimming World but decided to move to calorie counting a few weeks ago. The one thing I’m missing from group is the support and having people understand the journey your on. This thread seems amazing and just what I’m missing5 -
laurajewalker wrote: »Hi lovely ladies! I just found this thread but I’m a bit late to the party this month. Will look out for a November thread and join in.
I’ve been doing Slimming World but decided to move to calorie counting a few weeks ago. The one thing I’m missing from group is the support and having people understand the journey your on. This thread seems amazing and just what I’m missing
These are amazing and supportive people. There's a lot of wisdom and help here, and they make it so much easier.4 -
heatherbluebell wrote: »I’m happy the information I learned from my psychologist was helpful for some of you!
Well, last week I made it to the pool 3/3 days I had planned. It was sooooo good to go swimming before work. The alarm at 5:15AM was tough, but I’ve never done a pre-work workout, and it was great. I made it to 2/3 days I planned to go to Zumba, but I didn’t do any strength training (I had planned 3 days). I think I added maybe a bit too much last week, but I’m going to keep the same goals again this week. I have 2 days off this coming week, so I only work Monday-Wednesday. I already have a good list of things I’m doing on my days off - all for organizing my life and my mind! One thing I’m doing is seeing my doctor to get a referral to a nutritionist! I saw one once before, but I don’t think I was ready to make changes. I’m excited to see what I’ll learn this time!
I’m supposed to do a weigh in this week. I sneaked a peek today, and I gained a pound from my last weigh in. Sigh... I did have a lot of salt yesterday, so I’m super, super hoping it was an off day and that overall I’m down... but we’ll see. If I am down, it’ll probably not be a lot given what I saw this morning. But that’s ok.
I’ll let you guys know how my weigh in goes, and how my exercise goals go this week.
I hope everyone here has a great week!
Keep at it, you are doing GREAT!! Don't let the stupid scale mess with your head. With all the exercise you are doing there is bound to be some muscle gain as well. You can do it.3 -
laurajewalker wrote: »Hi lovely ladies! I just found this thread but I’m a bit late to the party this month. Will look out for a November thread and join in.
I’ve been doing Slimming World but decided to move to calorie counting a few weeks ago. The one thing I’m missing from group is the support and having people understand the journey your on. This thread seems amazing and just what I’m missing
I completely agree, I have been doing various plans over the last year (or lifetime, whichever you like) and I just always seemed to stall out. I tried various coaching programs but only once a week or once a month just didn't seem to give me the support I needed to really keep moving. It seems that I need a place to send a SOS when I REALLY want to have that "junk" that will give me an almost immediate response of "Don't do it, look how far you have come", etc. I have been able to kick start my focus again by making reading and blogging on this site a priority. Even when "I don't wanna", reading through everyone's successes really helps push me past that so I can keep going.5 -
AlexandraFindsHerself1971 wrote: »Had a rather exciting and emotional day because Boyfriend and I went to a jewelry store and looked at engagement rings. As he said, now he just needs one of these places that's interested in him to go ahead and actually hire him. ... But we'll be good.
Congratulations! and you ARE good, enjoy your time together.
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I am struggling tremendously this month. I cannot seem to kick the sugar habit, and my sister in law who lives next door keeps sending me over cookies!! she loves to bake and my hubby loves her stuff. I keep trying to tell them not to give any so we don't have in the house but it seems to be a losing battle. I could use some suggestions on how to handle without hurting her feelings. The change in the light makes it hard for me too, so I am trying to get outside every day at lunch time, but it's been rainy and cold here making that tough. I did move my recumbent bike into the living room instead of the garage so now I can see it while I'm watching the news with hubby. that's a small victory!!3
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🎶It's a beautiful morning!🎶
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5'9"
SW: 270lbs (in Aug)
CW: 243.6lbs
UGW: 180-190lbs
10/02: 254.4lbs
10/11: 249.6lbs -4.8
10/18: 247.6lbs -2.0
10/25: 243.6lbs -4.0
10/31:
Total for Oct so far -10.8lbs
Total since SW -26.4lbs 😁
I'm going to see if i can get to -30lbs total (-3.6) by next week/the end of the month/1st of Nov5
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