What irks you today?

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  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    KickassAmazon76 wrote: »
    Curious... for those who aren't huggers... when someone online says *sending you hugs* - does that feel offensive/intrusive? Or are virtual hugs different?

    No, because they aren't actually touching me and I know they mean well.
    Same with an actual hug; I don't find it offensive, it just makes me massively uncomfortable (and intrusive), but I know they mean well (aren't getting into my personal space to *make* me uncomfortable).

    Like, find a way that doesn't involve touching me or being in my personal space to tell me you love/care for me.
  • CaptainFantastic01
    CaptainFantastic01 Posts: 9,558 Member
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    I'm a hugger but usually with specific people. I also give VERY good hugs when i'm about it. ALSO i've definately hugged a person or two in here that have said they're not huggers

    with consent that is.
  • OpheliaCooter
    OpheliaCooter Posts: 1,635 Member
    internationalplayboy wrote: »
    OpheliaCooter wrote: »
    I’m not a hugger because it’s too intimate. My SOs get drowned in hugs. Everyone else, it just seems weird.

    Please tell me you hug your cats

    Please tell me you have cats

    I’m the most sickening cat lady. They are hugged too much and against their will. I tell them I bought them cash money and they’re on my property so they have to pay taxes (tolerate kisses and hugs)
  • OpheliaCooter
    OpheliaCooter Posts: 1,635 Member
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    OpheliaCooter wrote: »
    I’m not a hugger because it’s too intimate. My SOs get drowned in hugs. Everyone else, it just seems weird.

    😘🤗

    😱<- scared of hugs


  • internationalplayboy
    internationalplayboy Posts: 188 Member
    OpheliaCooter wrote: »
    internationalplayboy wrote: »
    OpheliaCooter wrote: »
    I’m not a hugger because it’s too intimate. My SOs get drowned in hugs. Everyone else, it just seems weird.

    Please tell me you hug your cats

    Please tell me you have cats

    I’m the most sickening cat lady. They are hugged too much and against their will. I tell them I bought them cash money and they’re on my property so they have to pay taxes (tolerate kisses and hugs)
    “Come let me love you!” as I hurl myself across the room at my favorite people who aren’t people
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    KickassAmazon76 wrote: »
    Curious... for those who aren't huggers... when someone online says *sending you hugs* - does that feel offensive/intrusive? Or are virtual hugs different?

    Completely different. <3

    I feel RL hugs have an expectation following the act or maybe it's just the people I know. And growing up, my family weren't really huggers. My sister and I love each other and are close but hardly ever hug. I hug my kids. My dogs. Dh. The list is short. :)
  • Sofiapilla
    Sofiapilla Posts: 284 Member
    edited November 2021
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    I'm a hugger but usually with specific people. I also give VERY good hugs when i'm about it. ALSO i've definately hugged a person or two in here that have said they're not huggers
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    I'm a hugger but usually with specific people. I also give VERY good hugs when i'm about it. ALSO i've definately hugged a person or two in here that have said they're not huggers

    with consent that is.

    Its true

    Edit: you’re uniquely huggable 🤔
  • CaptainFantastic01
    CaptainFantastic01 Posts: 9,558 Member
    Shakashakara wrote: »
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    I'm a hugger but usually with specific people. I also give VERY good hugs when i'm about it. ALSO i've definately hugged a person or two in here that have said they're not huggers
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    I'm a hugger but usually with specific people. I also give VERY good hugs when i'm about it. ALSO i've definately hugged a person or two in here that have said they're not huggers

    with consent that is.

    Its true

    Edit: you’re uniquely huggable 🤔

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  • MelG7777
    MelG7777 Posts: 14,243 Member
    OpheliaCooter wrote: »
    MelG7777 wrote: »
    OpheliaCooter wrote: »
    I’m not a hugger because it’s too intimate. My SOs get drowned in hugs. Everyone else, it just seems weird.

    😘🤗

    😱<- scared of hugs


    You’ll learn to love them.🤗🤗
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,758 Member
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    KickassAmazon76 wrote: »
    Curious... for those who aren't huggers... when someone online says *sending you hugs* - does that feel offensive/intrusive? Or are virtual hugs different?

    Completely different. <3

    I feel RL hugs have an expectation following the act or maybe it's just the people I know. And growing up, my family weren't really huggers. My sister and I love each other and are close but hardly ever hug. I hug my kids. My dogs. Dh. The list is short. :)

    What kind of expectation?

    Like cronuts?

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  • nossmf
    nossmf Posts: 12,067 Member
    I fully enjoy massages of the shoulders, such as you can get at a mall kiosk. Full-body massages don't creep me out, but I can never fully relax during them, so their intended purpose is lost on me.

    Back to the question of "what irks you today," I was quite bummed to get done with my leg workout and discover the hot tub was down for maintenance. At my age, time spent soaking in hot water is an essential part to any post- exercise recovery, especially on leg day. Hot showers help, but aren't the same.
  • KickassAmazon76
    KickassAmazon76 Posts: 4,678 Member
    Still have DOMS from Monday. This is getting old because it's soon going to overlap with doms from yesterday and then I might as well stay in bed. 😂😭
  • nossmf
    nossmf Posts: 12,067 Member
    tams_89 wrote: »
    I'm just about ok today, managed to walk downstairs normally instead of sideways 🤣

    I still have a vivid memory of my high school days, one gym class spent introducing everybody to weight lifting (hated it at the time, who knew I'd grow to love it fifteen years later). Whoever designed the high school should be dragged out into the street and smacked with a limp spaghetti noodle, because they put the weight room on the second floor, while the locker rooms were in the basement. Everyone (other than the jocks) were a little wobbly going down the stairs after working legs, crowded together as high school students are wont to do, when my legs completely gave way beneath me and I collapsed forward into the person in front of me. Their weakened legs were unable to cope with the unexpected weight, so they in turn fell forward into the next person in line, and so on. Within moments a dozen kids were all sprawled across the stairs, wondering what on Earth just happened, while I wanted to crawl into my backpack and die of shame.
  • Sophisticatted_Gentlemanz
    Sophisticatted_Gentlemanz Posts: 513 Member
    KickassAmazon76 wrote: »
    Still have DOMS from Monday. This is getting old because it's soon going to overlap with doms from yesterday and then I might as well stay in bed. 😂😭

    I feel that I came to this conversation with a different understanding of the word "DOMS" and it's been a very confusing time
  • Jthanmyfitnesspal
    Jthanmyfitnesspal Posts: 3,522 Member
    Colleagues who add little but demand much.
  • Ironwoman1111
    Ironwoman1111 Posts: 3,913 Member
    @MargaretYakoda wrote: »
    Ironwoman1111 wrote: »
    @jjpptt2 wrote: »
    Huggers

    Is that why some people tense up when you cuddle them? I mean hug them against their will?😬😔 I thought if I kept hugging them, they would eventually learn to like it? Oh well, most people don’t seem to mind.😁🥰

    Yes. It is exactly why some people tense up.
    If people don’t like being hugged it is polite not to hug them without consent. And even with consent some people will still tense up when hugged.

    There are many reasons for this reaction. And no, most of us don’t “eventually learn to like it” What we learn to do it put up with it until it’s over (this is a type of masking). But it really truly is not wanted by more people than you might expect. And for some of us physical pain is part of the issue.

    Anyhow. Consent. It’s a really good idea.

    I was joking around! I’ve never hugged anyone that didn’t open up their arms. Most of the things I post here are meant to be taken lightly. Except when I post the food I prepare or my garden pics. Alright?😉👍🏽
  • Tigg_er
    Tigg_er Posts: 22,001 Member
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  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,758 Member
    edited November 2021
    If this thread wasn't (weren't?) 79 pages long, I'd go back and hug every last one of ya!

    And I'm irked because I was on a website earlier today and decided not to go through the signing up process but now I need to and I can't find it again.
  • nossmf
    nossmf Posts: 12,067 Member
    Browser history to the rescue!
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    8am and absolutely nothing yet 😃
  • CaptainFantastic01
    CaptainFantastic01 Posts: 9,558 Member
    Medication side effects
  • MargaretYakoda
    MargaretYakoda Posts: 2,997 Member
    Ironwoman1111 wrote: »
    @MargaretYakoda wrote: »
    Ironwoman1111 wrote: »
    @jjpptt2 wrote: »
    Huggers

    Is that why some people tense up when you cuddle them? I mean hug them against their will?😬😔 I thought if I kept hugging them, they would eventually learn to like it? Oh well, most people don’t seem to mind.😁🥰

    Yes. It is exactly why some people tense up.
    If people don’t like being hugged it is polite not to hug them without consent. And even with consent some people will still tense up when hugged.

    There are many reasons for this reaction. And no, most of us don’t “eventually learn to like it” What we learn to do it put up with it until it’s over (this is a type of masking). But it really truly is not wanted by more people than you might expect. And for some of us physical pain is part of the issue.

    Anyhow. Consent. It’s a really good idea.

    I was joking around! I’ve never hugged anyone that didn’t open up their arms. Most of the things I post here are meant to be taken lightly. Except when I post the food I prepare or my garden pics. Alright?😉👍🏽

    No worries.
    I do tend to be a touch pedantic sometimes.

    My brother in law and his wife are nonconsensual huggers. So sometimes I just get the “not everyone likes that, Karen…” mood going full speed.
  • watch_out_for_that_tree
    watch_out_for_that_tree Posts: 296 Member
    Shakashakara wrote: »
    KickassAmazon76 wrote: »
    These freaking doms. STILL gravity falling onto the toilet. 😒

    Someone should invent peeing while standing up

    Here I was thinking that I was evolved for sitting 🤷
  • Ironwoman1111
    Ironwoman1111 Posts: 3,913 Member
    @MargaretYakoda wrote: »
    Ironwoman1111 wrote: »
    @MargaretYakoda wrote: »
    Ironwoman1111 wrote: »
    @jjpptt2 wrote: »
    Huggers

    Is that why some people tense up when you cuddle them? I mean hug them against their will?😬😔 I thought if I kept hugging them, they would eventually learn to like it? Oh well, most people don’t seem to mind.😁🥰

    Yes. It is exactly why some people tense up.
    If people don’t like being hugged it is polite not to hug them without consent. And even with consent some people will still tense up when hugged.

    There are many reasons for this reaction. And no, most of us don’t “eventually learn to like it” What we learn to do it put up with it until it’s over (this is a type of masking). But it really truly is not wanted by more people than you might expect. And for some of us physical pain is part of the issue.

    Anyhow. Consent. It’s a really good idea.

    I was joking around! I’ve never hugged anyone that didn’t open up their arms. Most of the things I post here are meant to be taken lightly. Except when I post the food I prepare or my garden pics. Alright?😉👍🏽

    No worries.
    I do tend to be a touch pedantic sometimes.

    My brother in law and his wife are nonconsensual huggers. So sometimes I just get the “not everyone likes that, Karen…” mood going full speed.

    I hope you don’t mind my gif hug!😄🤗
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  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
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    Edit just under the report... Ugh.. when I hit edit . It goes to report . 😡
  • MargaretYakoda
    MargaretYakoda Posts: 2,997 Member
    Ironwoman1111 wrote: »
    @MargaretYakoda wrote: »
    Ironwoman1111 wrote: »
    @MargaretYakoda wrote: »
    Ironwoman1111 wrote: »
    @jjpptt2 wrote: »
    Huggers

    Is that why some people tense up when you cuddle them? I mean hug them against their will?😬😔 I thought if I kept hugging them, they would eventually learn to like it? Oh well, most people don’t seem to mind.😁🥰

    Yes. It is exactly why some people tense up.
    If people don’t like being hugged it is polite not to hug them without consent. And even with consent some people will still tense up when hugged.

    There are many reasons for this reaction. And no, most of us don’t “eventually learn to like it” What we learn to do it put up with it until it’s over (this is a type of masking). But it really truly is not wanted by more people than you might expect. And for some of us physical pain is part of the issue.

    Anyhow. Consent. It’s a really good idea.

    I was joking around! I’ve never hugged anyone that didn’t open up their arms. Most of the things I post here are meant to be taken lightly. Except when I post the food I prepare or my garden pics. Alright?😉👍🏽

    No worries.
    I do tend to be a touch pedantic sometimes.

    My brother in law and his wife are nonconsensual huggers. So sometimes I just get the “not everyone likes that, Karen…” mood going full speed.

    I hope you don’t mind my gif hug!😄🤗
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    Virtual hugs are always good.

    Also? This might be a good spot for this meme. Even though it doesn’t exactly mesh with your comment or mine. 😂
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  • MargaretYakoda
    MargaretYakoda Posts: 2,997 Member
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    :D:D:o:D
  • more_oomph
    more_oomph Posts: 112 Member
    I always expect/hope the drive-thru is empty when I'm in the mood for fast food, so when I see a long line of cars I get irked and start pouting "why are you guys eating this crap!!!" (like I'm not lining up to eat it too lol)

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