WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2021
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August 24 (Canada)/August 25 (Australia) is Rowan's and my anniversary.
We've known each other 18 years, been married 13 years, and have lived together 12 years.
My husband is Australian and I am Canadian.
So how did it all happen?My husband and I "met" online, on a cycling forum, in early 2003. I had posted a question about the Paris-Brest-Paris, a 1200 km bicycle ride with a 90-hour time limit coming up later that year, in August in France, and he replied indicating he was going. That was that. We made no plans to meet or anything.
In late August 2003, on the Paris-Brest-Paris, I was walking through the last rest stop when someone called, "Machka". I wondered who would know that name, and it was him. We chatted for a little while then went our separate ways. He continued cycling and I found a table to crawl under to nap for about 10 minutes before continuing. But over the next year we got to know each other on cycling forums.
In October 2004, I went to Australia with a friend and spent 3 months cycling around Australia. My husband and I met again at the Great Southern Randonnee, another 1200 km, 90-hour cycling event, and then my friend and I stayed with my husband in Hobart for a few days. My friend and I went our separate ways after that trip, and my husband and I got to know each other better online, and through emails and phone calls.
He came to North America in 2005 and 2006, and of course we did cycling events and cycling tours together. We spent a month in Europe in 2007. I went to Australia in early 2008 for a couple weeks. Later in 2008 he was planning to come visit me again, and asked me to marry him when he got there. I said, "Yes".
There's a campground on Goldeye Lake in Alberta, just in the Rockies that I'll never forget ... we stayed there a few days before we got married! We floated on the lake in a blow-up dingy. I ended up with wicked food poisoning from a Wendy's in Edmonton the day before. A massive storm came up in the night and a bolt of lightning struck really close by ... as in practically next to the tent. I had been lying there debating about making another dash to the outhouse when this bolt from above descended!! Lit up the tent and the immediate "CRACK" had us both sitting up and hugging each other!!!
A few days later we travelled to Jasper to look around where we would get married. We chose a dock on Lake Annette as the location, and we decided to include cycling. So we cycled a century (100 miles) first, then cleaned up a bit, and were married by my cousin (then mayor of Banff), with his wife and my parents in attendance. And our bicycles.
My husband returned to Australia 10 days later, and 9 months later, I moved to Australia. During that time, I finished my Bachelor of Education ... and the area where he lived was destroyed by Australia's most devastating bushfire.
February 2009, his place, and the whole surrounding area were wiped out in the Victorian 2009 bushfires. He had set the place up in preparation for me coming, but it was all gone, and he just barely escaped himself. Drove out through the flames.
For a while, he was living in a tent trailer on the property where he worked, and I thought that might be where I would be living too ... but his employer offered us a very rustic cabin on the back of the property about 2 km from "the grid". It had, somehow, survived the bushfire. I came to Australia in June that year, and that's where I spent my first year in Australia ... living off the grid in a remote and rustic cabin!
We heated the place with a large fireplace at one end, and I learned to cook over an open fire with a dutch oven. Water came from the rain. What little electricity we used came from a generator and later solar panels.
When I was able to get a job, it was in bushfire recovery.
We lived there a year before places started opening up in a nearby town, and we found a place with luxuries like hot running water and electricity!
When the area had more or less "recovered", we were a bit burnt out, so to speak, so we popped everything into storage and did a Round-The-World trip for 8 months in 2012. Then in 2013 we moved to Tasmania where we've been since.
Unfortunately, 3.5 years ago, my husband had a workplace accident which resulted in a severe traumatic brain injury. He has made some recovery but will never fully recover. As a result of the brain injury, he suffers from cognitive issues, memory loss, disabling fatigue, loss of smell and taste, double vision, weakness in his right arm and left leg and epilepsy. Then in May, he suffered a heart attack.
So I am married to a somewhat different person from the one I married back in 2008, and I've been plunged into the world of "carer" a role I have never felt I was cut out for.
Fortunately we still love each other and we're together.
Wedding Photos:
The whole wedding album: https://www.flickr.com/photos/machka-bb/albums/72157607097344648
Machka in Oz
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Machka thanks for reminding us of your lovely meeting story and unique path. It's great that you had those lovely years. I'm sorry that life has given some unexpected turns and big responsibilities. It's great that you still love one another.
That gets me thinking about what it means to be or not be "in love" in a couple
Ithink of
-some friends in relationships where they say they are not "in love" and never were, but they are compatible with their SO and have had kids with them- and yet they feel torn somehow for this not feeling "in love", 3 or 20 years later.
- and others who are "in love" and pretty happy at least on that level, and it contributes to living together and going through the whole things, they still feel very happy to be together years on down the road.
-people who find their SO a bit difficult finally - for what every reason (health, mood, other) but still are "in love" and committed and it works overall.
-people who were very much "in love", but not so much after 20 years and much experience of this and that (not horrible stuff, just regular couple, family stuff - dealing with kids, money, responsibility, little spats over this and that, maybe some imbalance in responsibility...or something)
-people who are or were very much "in love" but it not working out very long term, due to incompatibility, or immaturity or lack of communication skills or something else.
- and probably many other ways of interacting in a couple around "in love"2 -
Sister and I sent thru some tea sets that were her husbands ex wife's. I took 2 that have larger saucers/small plates and circles for the cup. When I get them home I will take photos of them. I think they're really sweet.
Today heading into town to make copies of photos we picked out from the bunches we each had. One particular one is of my paternal grandmothers childhood home in Seattle. Very opulent, and stately.π
My middle sister isn't joining us because her boyfriend (that's marriedπ) has COVID. She didn't seem driven to get tested, but my eldest sis here and I told her she needed to get officially tested before coming. That, of course, gave her an out and not attend. She has a bunch of photos both of us wish to get copies of, but it will have to be another time.
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I got my biopsy results by mail but they are not totally clear.They were supposed to remove the hypodermis (the part under the skin, which is 2mm max I think). I asked the dr who operated me after and he said he just removed the dermis. and only removed 2mm, which is unusual and not what was planned. I asked about this. The results only say the width but not the depth. Every other thing I received specified the depth. The reason they needed to go back in was "biopsy incomplete in depth".
In biopsy of June 25th there was definitely some remaining cancer below skin. Here they didn't say they went below skin and said they only went laterally which was really not a problem.
Since depth is specifically in every analysis to date and omitted here, whereas I asked specifically about it, I get the feeling that they messed up the depth. I would be happy to find out otherwise.
My guess is that I am going to get the run-around and they say: well it says they were to do depth so they surely did it", but with no documentation of that. I would be happy to find out otherwise.
Unfortunately I have seen too many hospital mistakes to not think they are possible.
My mom had her carotid artery totally blocked and so had an operation to have it cleaned. But they cleaned the unblocked artery rather than the blocked one. She died a few months later. I can't say it was surely due to that as she was had been in a nursing home in poor physical health for at least 4 years (but remained very sharp). It surely didn't help.
I was to have 3 little polyps removed, about 10 or 15 years ago, by a very good surgeon. But she didn't have the images on operation day and only removed one, whereas it would have been so easy to remove all 3! She forgot to check or something like that.
When I was ill with something about 15 years ago, they gave me a massive antibiotic (horse pill we called them) for something else which made me massively more sick and put me into the hospital, and contributed to making me quite ill for months.
In general, when they mess up they cover for one another in the medical field, and don't admit it, for the most part.
I would be very happy to get a written document that says they removed the hypodermis, but I am not counting on that it was done or ever getting it. I hope to be happily surprised. That can happen.4 -
Oops post cut off!
Me in all my spots from the sun! I swear, the outline of my jaw is always getting or healing from one bump or another! Then the bridge of my nose from these glasses. Last Monday we had gone swimming and sunning, and I seem to be healing from that too. My lips seem to be trying to create a cold sore, so that's been fun.π
Still not eating breakfast, nor have put sugar in my coffee since here. Though sometimes I want to.
I am eating lunch and dinner with a 8 hour eating window. When I arrive at son's this Sunday, I will get back to a sleep schedule that's more like home. Might even get down to eating my normal one meal a day, but I will not, not eat, if son makes something awesome.π
Hugs ladies!
Rebecca
Still in Shedd OR
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KNACKERED!
Wonderful afternoon, but very chaotic. We started with skittles in the hall, then 5 second rule game, then Art. The art turned into snow jars with glitter and coloured water. Then making planes and boats. Then ......Edie and Bea both managed to upend their snow jars. Aaaarrrrgggghhhhh! A lot of clearing up and lost tempers. DH takes most of the strain.
Football in the garden followed, while I had some deep chat with Max. Showed him videos and Wikipedia. Then I showed him and Edie photos of my grandad, who lost his leg in WW1. Stories about him. I think they were quite moved. I explained that if he hadn't made the decision to survive, none of us would be here. WOW!
A couple of pictures of the football.
Edie had bashed the bridge of her nose yesterday and had been to the ER. It was very swollen and blue! They had told her she couldn't swim on her holiday next week! She had been bouncing on the furniture and fallen onto the piano stool.
By the time my son came to collect them, we were really looking forward to our Friday wine night. Meatballs.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Heather looks like a good time was had by all,but I bet your knackered,thats why we have kids when we are young lol..
Texted with Tracy.. she told the people at work and her dad and i though her dad doesnt want to know the gender..
And she asked Kyle who he told and he said everyone lol. I said if he isnt the proud poppa.. lol.. i had a dream about a name last night now I know how the kids now a days like all these odd names but Caden James has a nice ring to it but told her they could spell it Kayden so a bit different and would have Kyles first initial too.4 -
Stats for the day-
1/2 walk 1/2jog- 46.37min, 24elev, 99ahr, 156mhr, 4.06ap, 3.18mi= 315c
Zwift home spin bike- 1hr 32min 32sec, 255elev, 113ahr, 131mhr, 32.1mi
Zwift app= 743c
Zwift home spin bike- 33.05min, 92elev, 11.1mi
Zwift app = 266c
Both spin bike rides= 837c
Total cal 1152
I was knocked off my 4th place already, this is going to be hard to keep my place. I got back to 4th again. Ughhhh3 -
Our patio before
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Patio is being worked on, they came today
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Hi,
I got a raise at work! Really! My DH asked me if I had looked at my check as we were leaving work. I told him no, SIL dropped it in my purse this morning. I don't usually look at it until I deposit it. I haven't had a raise in about 5 years. I got a RAISE! I would rather have help and more days off, but I will take it. Otherwise have two folks coming in for interviews tomorrow for two positions. Both DH and SIL asked me yesterday to post ads on Facebook. I did, and they left me to do it. I wasn't doing anything until they asked. Is it passive aggressive to put the bank hours on her desk? She rushed out at 4:45 cause she had to get to the bank which doesn't close until 6 on Fridays.....SMH! Oh well, she was there until then.
One of my friends got Covid. Her husband was sick for 2 days, then she got sick. It has been a little over a week. They just admitted her as her pulse ox was 86. With oxygen, it is 98, so that is why they are keeping her. Also to give her fluids. Lungs clear, no bowel or belly issues, no cough, just exhausted she said. I am continuing the Zinc and vitamin D regimen for DH and I. We are going on VACATION!
Our anniversary is in 9 days. We met when I waited on his table a little over 27 years ago. Have lived together for 27 years. Been married for 12 years. "In Love".......Julie I think all your examples are applicable depending on where you are at any given time. Yes, he still makes my heart flutter. Sometimes I have to slow down and look for the caring things (like buying me bottled beer instead of cans cause I like bottles better). I have learned that I can be angry with him, yet still love him. There is commitment that goes with being "in love". It isn't easy, but at the same time even family (ie siblings or parents) isn't always smooth and easy.
Need to cook us some food and clean up my kitchen. Maybe even throw some laundry in the washer. Blacktop project began today. More mud, gravel, and mess, but sometimes you have to make a mess to get to the beautiful.
Kylia in Ohio6 -
Hanging with the pup and watching TV.. did take a little snooze but the alert came over my phone and i woke up and it scared the bejesus out of me .so I was wide awake..
Didnt feel like going to the movie tonight...2 -
Did 30 Minutes to Fitness Plateau Buster DVD then took my walk. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Cathe X-Train DVD.
Anne DE β you go girl!!! Awesome!
M β happy anniversary
Rebecca β canβt wait to see pictures of those teacups
Heather β poor Edie! Hope she heals soon
pip β I know you, and you can stay in 4th place. You have the determination
Soup kitchen today then the green Room. Came home and made more fudge for Vince. I need to try getting the consistency down. Got the flavor. I think Iβm pretty close now. Then went in the pool. Went for my evening walk now will probably work some more on the puzzle.
Kylia β congrats on the raise. You deserve it. Sorry about your friend. Happy Anniversary
Michele NC
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My ex SIL texted me a bit ago after I was awoken by another alert for the hurricane π that my in laws dear neighbor died tragically in a workplace accident on the 12th. He was a sweetheart and they were the best neighbors to Buddy and Cliffeen..well that woke me right rhe heck up om hoping i can get back to sleep5
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Busy sorting and shredding notes, but now ...
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