WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2022
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Tracey - That is a lovely thing to say.
I'll take it. 
I also think that you have a way with words and should write up your memories of your childhood. To me, your experience is fascinating. Don't gloss it, your parents did the best they could at the time, but what you went through amounts to what is now called cptsd - complex post traumatic shock disorder. Historically, it is important as well, along with the family diaries you are putting together. I will read it! Much love to you.
Kylia, KJ - Delighted that SELF and SELF-CARE are going on the top of your list.
It can take a while to pull that ship around, but every one degree turn you make will bring you closer. KJ - Love your saying NO resolution.
Gorgeous grandchildren by the way. Oh, how miss having a baby to cuddle. 
May we all develop strong BOUNDARIES this year.
I highly recommend a book that Margaret put me onto, Set Boundaries, Find Peace. Nedra Glover Tawwab. It's very cheap to buy on Kindle.
Huge love to all on this thread and big thanks to Barbie for keeping us all going.
Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Here is a quote for all of us.
Here is one for Tracey, Lisa, and I'm sure for many others.
And here is one for all of us who doubt our unique contribution to the world.
Plus one I tell myself every day and used to tell my students.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Hey all! Another night of pretty good sleep (yea!). Woke up this morning to snow (looks like about four inches) on the driveway! Our first snow of the season! Thank God! The kids will be returning to care tomorrow and it is so nice to have snow to play in! My exercise today will be shoveling, cleaning house, taking down Christmas deco, and a short trip to the store to pick up what my son forgot. DH and DYS did the shopping and laundry before I got home, so that I could just take it easy this weekend. I am so grateful! It gave me all of yesterday to do nothing but rest. Technically, I could leave my Christmas deco up longer; but it is just another thing to have to get after the little ones for (because they can't NOT touch stuff).
NOW...for the new year introduction:
My name is Kelly, but am called KJ by many. I am 55, 5'8 tall and weigh 260. This is the heaviest I have ever been. I am an "emotional" eater who never had a weight issue prior to menopause. Then the weight really started hanging around. At about age 45, I began to gain weight. In the past ten years, I have gained over 100 pounds. Yikes! My DH and I have been married for almost 33 years. We have three children. Our DOS will be 35 in February and lives locally, our DD is 32, married with three sons and lives in Texas, our DYS is 28 and currently living with us. I am a childcare provider (27 years) and care for up to 12 children each day (Monday-Friday) from 7:30 am -5:30 pm. My husband helps me with this career. He took his retirement/buy out six years ago, when his job was outsourced. I am not naturally an athletic person. My favorite past time is reading. If I had my way, I would read to the detriment of everything else; so, I don't read much. Activities that I enjoy, that I have to actually make myself do, lately, is walking/hiking outside, swimming, paddleboarding/kayaking. At one time I was a regular rollerskater. I am thinking of getting on skates again. DH thinks this is a bad idea due to my "advancing age". lol When he (or others) says things like that to me, it makes me set my jaw and do it just to spite them. So...we shall see...
WOTY 2022 is SELF-CARE
Goals for 2022
*Achieve better emotional status
* Achieve better health through more physical activity and less garbage going into my body
Goals for January
*Do not add extra tasks/volunteer work to my day
*Commit to work, during work hours
*Commit to me fourteen hours a week (two hours a day of "me" time)
*Commit to 30 minutes of physical/cardio per day
Sending love, strength and peace to all of you wonderful women today! Time for me to put my gear on and spend some quality time with my shovel! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly) 6 -
cityjaneLondon wrote: »Here is one for Tracey, Lisa, and I'm sure for many others.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
Ah, yes, that feels exactly right. And I love Le Guin - she was easily 50 years ahead of her time, with the most famous being "The Left Hand of Darkness." She built a truly genderless society and explored the outcomes of that, as well as the temporary and periodic fluidity of gender in order to procreate. She published that particular book when I was 16, and was very definitely an influence on my creative process. And, in the end, until I was able to kill my father off in my first novel, I couldn't write anything else.
Love,
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NOW...for the new year introduction:My name is Kelly, but am called KJ by many. I am 55, 5'8 tall and weigh 260. This is the heaviest I have ever been. I am an "emotional" eater who never had a weight issue prior to menopause. Then the weight really started hanging around. At about age 45, I began to gain weight. In the past ten years, I have gained over 100 pounds. Yikes! My DH and I have been married for almost 33 years. We have three children. Our DOS will be 35 in February and lives locally, our DD is 32, married with three sons and lives in Texas, our DYS is 28 and currently living with us. I am a childcare provider (27 years) and care for up to 12 children each day (Monday-Friday) from 7:30 am -5:30 pm. My husband helps me with this career. He took his retirement/buy out six years ago, when his job was outsourced. I am not naturally an athletic person. My favorite past time is reading. If I had my way, I would read to the detriment of everything else; so, I don't read much. Activities that I enjoy, that I have to actually make myself do, lately, is walking/hiking outside, swimming, paddleboarding/kayaking. At one time I was a regular rollerskater. I am thinking of getting on skates again. DH thinks this is a bad idea due to my "advancing age". lol When he (or others) says things like that to me, it makes me set my jaw and do it just to spite them. So...we shall see...
Thanks Kelly!
My New Year Introduction:
My online name for 2 decades now is Machka. It is the Serbo-Croatian word for female cat. One portion of my family is Serbian and I love cats. I'm 54, 5'6" tall and now weigh 4 kg lighter than my highest weight.
I have been slim, somewhat muscular and fit most of my life. I have edged up toward the top end of my normal BMI range 2 or 3 times throughout the years, but then in 2014 I edged over the top end of my normal BMI range into overweight. In February 2015, I joined MFP and by Christmas I had lost 25 kg dropping to my late-teens and early-30s weight.
My main sport is cycling, especially long distance cycling. My husband and I met while cycling a 1200 km event in France with a 90 hour time limit (including all breaks) in 2003 called the Paris-Brest-Paris. We developed our relationship while cycling long distance events around the world and finally married in 2008 in Canada. I'm Canadian and he's Australian. In 2009 I moved to Australia. That's a story in itself which I may tell later.
Once I had lost the weight in 2015, my husband and I started making plans to cycle the 2019 Paris-Brest-Paris. We were cycling all sorts of long distance events in training, and in March 2018 had cycled a 300 km distance as a pre-qualifier.
2 weeks later my husband had a workplace accident which resulted in a severe traumatic brain injury. He was in a coma for 3 weeks and in hospital for a total of 100 days, then in rehab for another 4 months. He has made a "remarkable" recovery given the severity of the injury, but he'll never fully recover.
During the early months and even into years after his injury, I gained weight because my focus was on working full time (in data), finishing my Master's degree, and of course, caring for my husband.
By the end of 2020, I had graduated with my Master's degree and I had hit new heights with my weight! But I'm happy to say I have lost 4 kg in 2021 and have been more active.
In fact, both my husband and I were more active in 2021. Various things I've read, including the current book I'm reading which I've mentioned earlier in this thread, emphasise the importance of exercise to the brain.
2021 was kind of a regrouping year for me. Figuring out where I was after all the intensity. We'll see how 2022 goes. So far, it's a combination of relaxing and exercise ... perfect!
Machka in Oz4 -
Good day everyone!
Tracey- No I haven't spoken to my doctor yet. I am more good at taking meds. I pass their depression quiz every time. I think I will try myself by concentrating on "SELF" first. I promise I will seek help if it gets worse. Maybe I will use my calendar and rate my days.....I may see that they are better when I do certain things....just a thought. I do know that too many grey days effect me. Welcome to Ohio....
Barbara- So my ex and I were high school sweethearts, married right out of school, and have always been friends. His wife we met while in the Philippines when she was also married. Fast forward...he and I divorced but remained in communication because of our girls. My parents were enemies when they divorced and missed so many things because they both wouldn't be there near each other. Less than 8 months after divorce, ex married old friend. We have never missed any firsts or important event with our girls or grands because of the other. So this Christmas the ex and wife came into town to spend holiday with girls. They stayed with our oldest daughter in KY. Youngest daughter was being a b!#$h and wouldn't drive to older sister's. There is a lot of animosity between YD and step mom as well as son in law and my ex. Anyway....my house is neutral ground, so I hosted Christmas eve. We all had a great time even if I didnt get a picture of us with both my girls families and not them.
Sheets changed, last load of laundry in washer, in hot tub, caught up with my ladies. Time to move for today.
Back to normal work week tomorrow. Ugh. I have really liked 2 full day weekends!
Oh....ever since sister in law made some comment about how much time I was taking off one year, I have kept track of hours worked for her and I. I haven't told my husband why I keep track, but if she brings it up again I have written proof that I am entitled to it. Even with two weeks vacation, I am over 550 extra hours carried over. Over 250 was just this year. Percentage wise she has been there more since Donovan left, but still overall less than 70٪ of our work hours. On the flip side of that, maybe it shows that I need to be more productive at work......nope....I need to learn to delegate more!
Anyway, time to move while hips are loose.
Much love to all my inspirational and supportive ladies!
Kylia in Ohio where it is grey but not raining currently.5 -
Today is curbside pickup of groceries. My morning walking friend is still staying away from us because of a possible Covid connection. My Sunday walking friend is not walking because of the snow and ice. Jake will be on the phone with a friend for an hour or more this morning, so I have some time to myself. For anyone who loves to read and wants to do more walking, I highly recommend getting access to audio books or podcasts and a listening device (I use my smart phone) so you can listen to something interesting while you walk. Barbie in NW WA 7
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Happy New year to all, with best wishes!
Warm WELCOME to newcomers.
Barbie thanks for starting us off! Koodles for your good habits acquired and here's to their continuation!
Ginny nice to read you again. Congratulations on resisting smoking! I'm sorry about the UTI issues. I wish you healthy recovery whether by medical or complementary approaches. Can you go to part time work? That might make for a nice transition.
Barbara thank you for shout out around xmas and for your message which I just discovered ! You are amazing in personal individual giving shout outs to so many people.
Kylia hugs to you. the car sounds fun anyway!
Best of luck to all on your plans for 2022! C
Machka it's Nice though that for some years you had some great time travelling and biking with your SO. I have many old friends who - often because they had kids young- never got to travel- and then some of them are able to travel a bit later in life but not these years, and some are not due to health, health of SO, family issues, lack of funds. It's way easier to travel on a shoestring from ages 20 to 45 or so, than after 50 or 55 or so. (some health issues, sleep issues, dietary issues etc, seem to emerge or become more pronounced with age for many - not all!)
when I was 20 I could sleep anyway, eat anything pretty much, etc. it's nice to have experienced some relatively carefree moments of youth or late youth I find.
Rori is everyone around you, close to you okay? I read about the fires in Boulder county. Do you have smoke?
Tracey, connecting with less close relatives can be fascinating.
I skimmed end of 2021 posts and read all of 2022 I think.
If I missed something feel free to shout back out!
Lovely to read you.
Spent New Year's Eve with 3 adult neighbours + one young child (who went to bed by 9ish).
Lowkey nice little dinner and toasting and chatting, toasting at midnight, and then 3 of us went out to our usual café for an herb tea at 1:30 am on the way home. we all live within 5 minutes max walking distance from one another, so V walked 2 of us nearly home. I only had about 50 meters max to walk alone.
I ran into a few of them an hour or two ago at "our café".
Wishing you all a good day.
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Wow! I kind of like this going in later because I get to exercise, even started to get dinner ready, made the last of the ribs for tomorrow, cleaned up. The bad part is that I won’t get home until probably around 2. Oh well...it’s only this one time.
Worked, then helped Vince bring in about 80% of the decorations. Just the lights, extension cords, “fence” need to come in. We wanted to get them in before it started to rain which it’s predicted for today (and it is raining now). Went to church where I lectored.
Flea – happy anniversary!
Alexandra – welcome and happy belated birthday
Sue WA – I’m pretty sure there’s a book about hygge
M – my neighbor was in charge of the volunteers for their chili & pottery fundraiser. Just recently I spoke to her about Connections and she said that basically it is closed down. So, unfortunately, I can’t accompany Jerry to Connections.
Ginny OH – congrats on continuing the Nonsmoking
Paula – I like your feeling of “be kind, especially to yourself” Welcome!
Peterboro- welcome
Made more of the lime bars for tomorrow. I’ll probably send some home with Ken & Lynette. Ordered my new mahjongg card which will be sent in April. I’m getting sort-of tired of this card.
Sunday here: Oops, forgot to post last night. Oh well… Did Firm Complete Aerobics and Weight Training DVD (another new one). Work tomorrow but bowling in the afternoon then ceramics at night
kylia – lovely family
After exercise cut up the lime bars I made for tonight then made more chocolate bran muffins. Peeled the potatoes for tonight.
Allie – happy birthday to Dan. That was very nice of you to get him a car
barbie – when I would walk, I used to listen to a certain radio station. Then, when in early November they started with the Christmas music (it wasn’t even Thanksgiving) I changed to listening to audiobooks and really enjoyed it.
Better post this before I forget again...lol
Welcome to anyone I may have missed
Michele NC2 -
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Hello.. I’m new here. Looking forward to getting to know you all. My word for the year is Discipline. Looking forward to great things this New Year!
Dtstylist in NWA3 -
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Very small world, Mary! We pass through Rogers every time we head up to Brainerd, which is quite often during the summer. Don't get up to Walker too often though! Yikes! We're in North Lakeville, immediately west of North Park (off Ipava & 173rd) If they're anywhere close, message me. It's really a "small town" and we've been here for 30 years!
Harley would LOVE to say "hewoof" but he's sleeping on Caddie's Christmas present. (which he may not give back. hmmmmmm...
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Making a batch of garlic bread. It requires a cold oven start, so it pretty much is the only cooking thing I'll do until it's done. But we like garlic bread, and this makes three loaves which is six different meals that will get garlic bread, and that makes it easy. I'll put it in the freezer in half-loaves.2
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The only sounds right now are the crackles and hisses of the first warm fire of the winter. A light snowfall is swirling and dancing--
like the dandruff of the gods.
My daughter and her brood headed north at first light, and she just checked in to show me it was sunny and clear where they are now, stopped for gas. I both miss them and was incredibly relieved to watch them go, and to get our lovely, peaceful home back. The chaos level is now back to bearable.
And... for the ultimate in recycling, the wood burning in the fireplace was cut from the massive branch that fell and nicked the roof earlier in the year. We got a face cord out of it in the end, and it will probably last the rest of the winter.
From the frigid forests of Arkansas,
Much love,
Lisa
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question....anyone else want to cry when they are only halfway through starting a workout? Please tell me I am not alone. I said self which means I need to work out. I joked that as much walking, lifting, and standing that I do at work, I was in pretty good shape. WELL.....NOT TRUE anymore! It was just a conditioning workout that even 10 years ago would have been easy. The plus side is I did it! Now...I need to burn a bunch more calories today or my early morning cheesecake munchie will mean I don't get to eat much else today.
Kylia
sweaty in OH (which I have never done before with a work out either)9 -
I saw a rainbow yesterday on January 1! I’ll take it as a good sign of thing to come this year. Got some pictures too!
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We also got our first really cold winter night and snow which was gone by 10am lol. It was 13 degrees at midnight last night. Only supposed to get up to mid 40’s today. Not as cold as some of you, but I’m weather spoiled now! 😃
Not much planned for today. I love quiet days!
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Hi Gals,
Well, the winter holidays are over and usually that means that there is a slow time in my business… not this year! Since June work has been so busy that I have had a hard time fitting in the things I think are important.
I find the fall and winter a time of thoughtfulness – not thinking of the type of thoughtfulness that is being kind and caring (although that is very good) but a time of thoughtfulness – introspection – evaluation – review and looking forward -
- the current growing and coming limitations of my mom are more evident than ever.
- The business is busier than ever
- There are “duties” of the family matriarch that I need to take on or discard as I am soon to be/already am in that role; either truly or behind the scenes
- There is some home business that I need to do – financial review, wills etc
- I will not draw social security (USA’s government retirement) until I am 70. But there are things I can do between now and then to make that all as smooth and best for my taxes. I need to do more research.
- Balancing work time, house work time, yard work time, friends, family and me time.
These are the times that I always think this would be easier with a significant other; but honestly reading some of the things you ladies write makes me think maybe it is better to be alone. It is not that I want them to carry the load, it’s more that I would like someone help look at the decisions from another angle to see if I am missing something. A good financial guy/gal can help but mine doesn’t really know me. And chances are anyone I would hire would not really Know me. And there are many things I would not share easily.
My Christmas Day was good, spent with friends – then I brought my Mom to my home for New Years and we did our “Christmas” celebrations then. I’ll take her home tomorrow. Today I will take her to Fairfield and we will take a friend of hers who is in dementia care out for lunch. This will be only my second time eating in a restaurant since 3/16/20 and I am not really looking forward to it. But we are all fully vaccinated and boostered. It will be fine I am sure –
Thinking of you one and all! Welcome to the newer members.
Thinking of everyone.
Smiles Kim in N. California
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Rita LOVE the rainbow!0
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