WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR APRIL 2022

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  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
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  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,145 Member
    edited April 2022
    Michele: We use the lawn mower to rake leaves/petals off the lawn. It chops them up nicely for the compost heap. Mind you, with our magnolia in full bloom, we could be doing it every day as the petals fall. 😝
    Katla: (((hugs)))
    Barbie: Manchego is my favourite hard cheese, now that I don’t do dairy.

    Going out early to the opticians, then will go to craft. It’s quite dull this morning, but it’s forecast to clear up again later, so should get some gardening done after lunch.

    🥳🎉 Cheers to those celebrating.
    Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.
    🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

    ☘️ Terri
  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,619 Member
    edited April 2022
    Accountability:
    Chose well: Joe, readings, BP, dogs to powerline, CI<CO, CI<250<CO
    Bonus: sandwiches for hungry prep, 30 mins grooming Tumble, well pet, nail trims.
    Just one thing: back to bupkes
    Workin’ on it: Monday 140.4, H20x5, active 3:32
    Active April
    25: Have a “no screen” night and take time to recharge yourself.

    Katla ((hugs)), safe travels to DH’s appointment. Is there a Dr’s appointment for you in the future? Most especially what Flea said. “We love you and want to see you safe and cared for.”
    Lisa bruises, yes. Hated sports, but dodgeball most especially. Mama taught me the one ball game I could tolerate, “1.. 2.. 3 O’Leary”.
    Machka thanks, the Contour one is the one that most appealed to me.
    Heather, Bravo, Johnny, bravo! Thanks for the Duolingo and “it’s all there” nudge. Gentler than pip’s boot ;)
    Beth Very well said to Katla. Fingers Xd for favorable blood work, whether that is the meds are working, or they aren’t. Doc upped my statin dosage but I’m afraid it’s causing joint pain. Will this make me give up cheese? Nope, but maybe moderate my intake…
    Betsy, Heather, Machka, Annie, Carol, Carla, Allie, Flea et al, wise and caring words to Katla.
    Kim have you checked out this link about upgrading to Win11? It mostly addresses minimum system requirements, but if your USB drive is inserted, the health check MIGHT verify its compatibility? https://support.microsoft.com/en-us/windows/installing-windows-11-on-devices-that-don-t-meet-minimum-system-requirements-0b2dc4a2-5933-4ad4-9c09-ef0a331518f1
    Vicki well done on the gutter cluster. Your new neighbors are lucky to have you!
    Carol Love the image of you porch sittin’ and sippin’!
    Michele remembered every one of those, also Hide and Seek,
    Barbie love the connections you made from cheese podcasts to musicals :love: Good luck with the mammo. If they have hurt you in the past, a NP in Idaho recommended taking an aspirin and applying some lidocaine an hour before the appointment. There I go again, fixing what ain’t broke.


    Lighter, lovelies!
    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    2022: Be still and listen.
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  • ginnytez
    ginnytez Posts: 1,411 Member
    Been reading along. Commenting in my brain but not getting things to writing!

    Heather-congrats on Johnny getting things straightened out. You do have the right to have your monies set up the way you instructed.

    Katia-I don't think our children mean to disrespect us-they make what they believe are helpful comments. It is hard for us to see things from other people's perspective. I think it is good if we are up front and let them know how we interpret their comments and help them know a better way to put the information so we can accept it.

    Julie-good to see you dropping in.

    Viv-welcome back! (Hard to believe I have been here long enough to welcome someone back)

    Allie-congrats on new bed. Hope you sleep better and find it to be a worthwhile purchase.

    Working from home today. Hoping to let antibiotics kick in. This way I can rest if I feel need to.
    Saw urologist yesterday for followup. Had put me on daily antibiotic for recurrent UTI and last fall they determined I had group B strep UTI instead of regular e-coli. Have been feeling under weather last couple of weeks (mainly exhausted). Pushed through because of wedding and knew I had appointment coming up. Yesterday he confirmed an infection (thinks it is break through). Waiting on lab results for type. Upgraded antibiotic for a few days until we know. Scheduled several tests to make sure nothing else is going on. I know this is by far not the worse thing a person has to deal with, but it does make me miserable at times. Oh well, I know it will start improving. Going to research some dietary items to see if they are more things I can do.

    Going to get some breakfast and think about the day starting.

    Take care all,

    Ginny in Ohio
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,786 Member
    edited April 2022
    Oh Ginny, I know how miserable UTIs are! I suffered from them for most of my life. On Kate UK's suggestion , I have been regularly taking D-Mannose and, so far, so good. I haven't had one since I started. Yours sounds a bit more embedded though. I hope the antibiotics make you feel better. <3

    I was on hold to Saga for an hour, but finally got through. I managed to dye my hair while I was waiting! Completed the medical check and paid the deposit. The bad news is, I thought we were having twin beds, but it turns out the super king can't be changed. Grrrr! They are giving us separate duvets! So, we are all set for 2023! :p

    Going to tune in to the live streaming of the aunt's funeral in a few minutes. DH has had his filling.

    Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,687 Member
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  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,950 Member
    Morning, afternoon or evening, all, hope it's a terrific Tuesday in progress or just completed, whichever it may be.

    Third cup of tea is brewing, decaf these days. Did I mention that I tried caffeinated tea last week? Drank one 12-oz cup of tea on Tuesday and one on Wednesday morning, slept badly both nights. Went back to decaf, slept well on Thursday. Much as I miss it, caffeine must finally go by the wayside. First world problem if there ever was--trying to keep that in perspective.

    I did read everyone's posts, as I always do. I feel part of your lives, and am grateful that you are part of mine.

    TL;DR: Regarding caretaking from both sides of the fence:
    The most striking thing to me of late is that those of you taking care of loved ones are in a conversation here on this thread with those whose children want to take care of them.

    I honestly didn't have a good response to our daughter when she said she will happily take care of us once we get to the Depends years. She was the wildest adolescent, always in some kind of scrape, but has turned into this incredible person who feels that responsibility very deeply. She proved it beyond measure when she came to stay with me when I was so ill nearly two years ago now. I don't know what I would have done without her.

    But my only answer to my daughter's offer of caretaking us was, "Oh good." What else can you say to that statement? I wanted to say "Ew!" but didn't think it was the response she was looking for.

    However, our son would never even consider taking on our care unless he was forced to. He's just not that person. He loves us, don't get me wrong, but it's just not an option for him.

    Unlike Johnny, however, my brother took care of our father for the last few years of the old man's life. When that burden became unbearable, got him into one of the nicer old folks' homes in the area. The staff promptly killed the old man by getting him a drink of water right after he had a stroke - he aspirated it into his lungs and ended up dying of pneumonia a week later.

    I think we were all relieved when he shuffled off this mortal coil, but much respect to my brother, who did something I would have never done by taking on the old man's care - I would have driven him up on top of a mountain somewhere and let him die.

    The old man, not my brother.

    On that lifelong learner thing, I've learned to take a nap when I'm sleepy. Not just because I can, but because my body needs it. One is calling me now...

    Later y'all,
    Love,
    Lisa
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,251 Member
    :)Barbara Pain at a mammogram has never been an issue for me. My distress is the change in my schedule and the need to partly disrobe for the event. The staff is very kind, the rooms are kept at a temperature that is comfortable for me, the the shawl is heated and the process doesn't seem to take too long. I just would prefer to be home with my all my clothes on.
    :) I, too, have found the discussion of concern for aging parents a very interesting one. My parents have been gone for over thirty years and I was involved in care for my mom for only a short time. I have no children and Jake's children text me on my birthday most years and otherwise ignore me.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,786 Member
    This is from the order of service.
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    DH's sister read a poem. We sat on the sofa and sang along with the hymns.
    Irene was a true lady and a real trooper.

    Just found out that the cruise next year was originally going to Murmansk, in Russia. :o

    My brother rang just now to cancel his visit next weekend. His wife has to work. I can’t say I'm sad about it, as I've got my girly outing this week and I'm going to his 70th in a couple of weeks. I need lots of space around exertions! I had washed all the linen though. :p
    DH and I have decided to go to the restaurant on the Bank Holiday Monday anyway. <3

    My hair is dyed and trimmed and we are off to pick up Bea this afternoon. I'm pleased to announce I have lost another half a pound this week. :laugh:

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,687 Member
    edited April 2022
    TL;DR: Regarding caretaking from both sides of the fence:
    The most striking thing to me of late is that those of you taking care of loved ones are in a conversation here on this thread with those whose children want to take care of them.

    I honestly didn't have a good response to our daughter when she said she will happily take care of us once we get to the Depends years. She was the wildest adolescent, always in some kind of scrape, but has turned into this incredible person who feels that responsibility very deeply. She proved it beyond measure when she came to stay with me when I was so ill nearly two years ago now. I don't know what I would have done without her.

    But my only answer to my daughter's offer of caretaking us was, "Oh good." What else can you say to that statement? I wanted to say "Ew!" but didn't think it was the response she was looking for.

    However, our son would never even consider taking on our care unless he was forced to. He's just not that person. He loves us, don't get me wrong, but it's just not an option for him.

    Unlike Johnny, however, my brother took care of our father for the last few years of the old man's life. When that burden became unbearable, got him into one of the nicer old folks' homes in the area. The staff promptly killed the old man by getting him a drink of water right after he had a stroke - he aspirated it into his lungs and ended up dying of pneumonia a week later.

    I think we were all relieved when he shuffled off this mortal coil, but much respect to my brother, who did something I would have never done by taking on the old man's care - I would have driven him up on top of a mountain somewhere and let him die.

    The old man, not my brother.

    Later y'all,
    Love,
    Lisa

    I never ever thought of myself as a carer ... but I am now and I think I bring my own personality into it.

    I can also see myself caring for my parents which I never used to envision. I always thought it would be my brother and who knows, maybe he will, but since I became my husband's carer, I have felt more comfortable with the idea of caring.

    The one thing that's missing is this ... who is going to care for me?

    I have no kids of my own. My husband's kids have lives of their own. My brother's kids are far away and have lives of their own. My cousins (who are mostly quite a bit younger than me) have lives of their own. I haven't even seen any of my family for 5 years and some not for 10 years.

    It is a little bit scary.

    In some ways I think I'd rather have a daughter come along and say, "Listen mom, you need to go to the doctor and get an assessment done. You may need to consider moving closer to medical facilities. etc. etc. "

    But then again, all those things are in my mind already and my husband and I have discussed what we've got in mind for the next place we live.


    Machka in Oz

  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,145 Member
    Morning ladies
    Well woke up ,got up fed Alfie did a load of laundry...Tracy had to pick up Carmine early from school with a fever gave him a test negative ,had a fever of 100 this morning and another test negative..so thats good..
    As you know ive been a carer all my life.. guess I always will be.. dont know if my kids will take care of me or not..
    Getting ready to take my neighbor friend up to get measured for a new prosthesis for her breast. Her daughter would take her but she has covid.. so her daughter asked if I would take her,she would like to get it before mothers day and her birthday which are the same day this year she will be 92.. that will be my good deed for the day.
    Already got the laundry done and went over with Alfie and got Homer outside.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,687 Member
    GodMomKim wrote: »
    I have a question for the technical among us - Windows 11 upgrade --- should I do it? will it have any problems with my USB to floppy external drive?

    Kim in N. California

    "Floppy external drive"??

    I upgraded to Windows 11. It's different and a little disconcerting at times but then again, my whole computer system is going through a bit of a hiccup right now and I'm sure when I have the time to sort things out, all will be well.

    After all, what's life without changes!

    My computer uses USB and C ports and Windows 11 seems to work just fine with them.

    Machka in Oz
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,355 Member
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  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    Good morning ladies!
    I had a lovely cup of "real" tea and am just waiting for the caffeine energy wave to wash over me. It's dreary outside, and I need to get groceries before it rains. My knee has been pain- free for a couple days but groceries will be the real test.

    There will be no one to take care of me, either. I have a daughter who is 27 but she has refused to talk or text for three years now. She lives with my ex. It's very painful, especially around Mother's Day which is coming up. We never had a fight so I don't know why she ghosted me.

    I never thought I would be a caretaker either. I was always the career woman. But I retired early for health reasons and my parents had room for me. I didn't think I would stay, and it took some getting used to, but now it is a loving relationship. I was going to say stable, but their needs change all the time.

    I am lucky to have a loving home. They tell me daily how lucky they are to have me here. And my little dog too!

    Annie in Delaware
  • minicooper452
    minicooper452 Posts: 651 Member
    Flea, that is a very good reminder that perspective changes things. As someone who lives further away from my mom, I often defer to my brother and SIL and try to politely ask, "so mom appears to be..." before just blurting out "MOM IS...". I talk to my mom every day and hear things, but I don't deal with the things they deal with every time they see her.

    Still Katla, it's always good to make your feelings known and make sure you are being respected when you're spoken to.

    Can't wait until I'm able to sit on the porch sippin' "with you", Carol.

    Love all those games, Michele, and being able to play outside without worrying about evil people wandering the streets. Thankfully, we still have that in our neighborhood. (I hope)

    And here it is Tuesday in MN and we had a FREEZE WARNING LAST NIGHT!!! WTHeck?!? Yes, they were telling us to bring in our tender plants! OMG! So glad my AT specialist canceled our meeting and I don't have to go out today. lol. I'm getting to be such a wuss!

    Carla, in my sweater and blankie, in MN
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    Carla I hope it warms up there really soon!! We will be heading back to Minnesota in 2 weeks!! There is still 2 ft of ice on Leach lake 😐 stay warm!

    <3 Mary from Arizona/ Minnesota
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,387 Member
    Busy day day yesterday, I got almost 10,000 steps (shy 250)! Long time since I did that, but good for me. Allergies and tendinitis in my right arm/elbow acting up today. Arm from using grabber to pick up trash 3 days in a row. Good exercise for my heart and legs but bad for my arm. I do have a special brace given me a long time ago for the ‘itis’. I used g to hat and it feels better. Lifelong issue so used to it.

    DS drama has new issue, his landlord is evicting him. For no reason stated. His rent is up to date but landlord said ‘he just wants him out’. Can they legally do that?

    RvRita
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,888 Member
    kevrit wrote: »
    Busy day day yesterday, I got almost 10,000 steps (shy 250)! Long time since I did that, but good for me. Allergies and tendinitis in my right arm/elbow acting up today. Arm from using grabber to pick up trash 3 days in a row. Good exercise for my heart and legs but bad for my arm. I do have a special brace given me a long time ago for the ‘itis’. I used g to hat and it feels better. Lifelong issue so used to it.

    DS drama has new issue, his landlord is evicting him. For no reason stated. His rent is up to date but landlord said ‘he just wants him out’. Can they legally do that?

    RvRita

    Sorry about DS eviction! Being a renter, I believe they legally have to give a 30 day notice, but each state seems to be a bit different. I would have him contact his local housing authority, to know his rights. Good luck to him!
    It made me tired reading all your physical activity friend! Pace yourself👍💖🙏!
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Vickil57
    Vickil57 Posts: 1,894 Member
    Katla--Pray all goes well with your appointments and that you and the children can talk thing out.

    I do remember most these old kids games and the pain that went with them. The worst was when they had to choose teams and I was always one of the last ones picked.

    Heather--Sounds like it was a nice service and happy to hear you and DH watched together.

    Rita--I wouldn't think they could without a valid reason, does he have a lease?

    Got our will typed up this morning and now will have DH go over it with me tonight so we can get it signed. Feel better about that.

    Another windy day, I am so tired of the wind and not being able to do much outside. Temp wise we are in the high 50's to 70. Could use more rain, but sounds like we could get some end of the week.

    Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE <3
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,708 Member
    Hi Gals,
    Rita – Can they legally evict him, the answer is maybe. There are state laws, county laws and city laws that affect that in California… So “maybe” is super dependent on where he lives. But most counties have a office of renters assistance or tenant issues who can tell him (or you) what the rules are in his area.

    Kim in N. California
  • celiajs
    celiajs Posts: 2 Member
    Hi. I am Celia. I live in the Lake Tahoe are in California. This is the first time on the community section of MFP. I once weighed nearly 360 lbs. I lost 160 about 20 years ago. Since I have mostly hovered between 200 and 220, with a trip from 240 to 179 after gastric sleeve surgery. I have been at 211-217 for the last year. Even tracking calories doesn’t seem to get me anywhere like it used to. I decided I must not be honest with myself on serving sizes. Today I decided I would measure everything I eat to be sure. There is a lot of information out there that says it isn’t just calories in and calories out. I want to find out for myself. I am curious and eager to find out what you all are learning.
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Welcome, Celia!

    Karen in Virginia
  • wizzywig
    wizzywig Posts: 1,246 Member
    Don't know where the time has gone today.

    Walked into town with my mum on her mobility scooter, it was hard keeping up with her :) but when she slowed down, it was a little too slow. The sun was shining and it was a pleasant walk, quite a few people in town, we get a lot of visitors/tourists this time of year. On our way home the weather turned cloudy and cold, we were glad to get back. It's the first time we've been in town for months, but mum needed to go to the bank.

    Mowed the back lawn with my coat on :D then went inside and had a rest, I was shattered!

    I mostly sleep on my side, but toss and turn all night. The cat woke me up early this morning, she was licking my eyelids it quite alarmed me :) then of course I had to go to the bathroom, it took me ages to get back to sleep. I hope she doesn't do that again!

    Well I had better go and make something to eat, I need to find something healthy but low in calories to keep within my limit.

    Love to all <3
    Viv York UK
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    Rita hope your son lands in a better place!
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,786 Member
    Ordered a mushroom pizza to share and pick up on our way home. Delicious! Still (just) within CICO. Mainly due to morning exercise and long, long walk this afternoon.

    Bea was in great form. That girl is going to be a leader one day. She was bossing a group of five, some older than her, to make a magic potion. As we dragged her away, she told a girl, 'You're in charge now' :p
    Her energy and enthusiasm for life is wonderful.

    Now relaxing with a glass of red wine. I will pack in the morning. It's only one night.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,950 Member
    Oh, Heather, my heart - that little girl is a world-beater... love the freckles.