Less Alcohol ~ JUNE 2022 ~ One Day At A Time
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Hi, all. I've made a repeated observation about myself that applies now.
observation: Episodes of over-eating/over-drinking are preceded by feelings of IDGAF--a strong disregard for "my why" or my future self well being. Sometimes but not always it's rooted in emotional disturbance. It's a little different from the "I'm upset so I deserve a treat." It's more like, "Why should I care at all?"
right now: I'm feeling strong emotional disturbance. It's only 2:15pm in my time zone, so I have several hours until dinner, what would be my typical time the over eating and over drinking would start. I need to center myself and exercise a little self-care, not slide down a slippery slope that's self destructive (or at least unhelpful to well being).
Advice/coaching appreciated.
Can you get outside for a nice walk? Walks by myself do wonders for me.
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Hi All - I joined this thread a little late, starting June 20, 2022. I'm drinking less for weight loss. My goal is minimum of 3A days per week or less. I've been stuck at the same weight for a while now and want to lose 15 pounds.
Weekly Diary- Monday June 20 - AF - Was very tempted to have a beer at dinner with my husband, but resisted.
- Tuesday June 21 - 1 after-dinner drink (bourbon shot on the rocks)
- Wednesday June 22 - AF
- Thursday June 23 - 3 total drinks, 2 beers with water in between (yay) and a bourbon on the rocks later. Not too bad. I had counted the two beers in my daily calories. The bad thing is I gave in to late night munchies and ate a bunch of almonds.
- Friday June 24 - ? - The weekend is here with 1 AF day left as part of my goals. I'm wishing I had saved one of my AF days for the weekend.
- Saturday June 25
- Sunday June 26
Weekly rolling total: 2AF out of 4 days (Goal = 4AF weekly)
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looneycatblue wrote: »Hi, all. I've made a repeated observation about myself that applies now.
observation: Episodes of over-eating/over-drinking are preceded by feelings of IDGAF--a strong disregard for "my why" or my future self well being. Sometimes but not always it's rooted in emotional disturbance. It's a little different from the "I'm upset so I deserve a treat." It's more like, "Why should I care at all?"
right now: I'm feeling strong emotional disturbance. It's only 2:15pm in my time zone, so I have several hours until dinner, what would be my typical time the over eating and over drinking would start. I need to center myself and exercise a little self-care, not slide down a slippery slope that's self destructive (or at least unhelpful to well being).
Advice/coaching appreciated.
Can you get outside for a nice walk? Walks by myself do wonders for me.
Thank you for responding. Honestly, this is the thing that helps me the most, too. However it is 103F outside at the moment, which limits how much time is practical to enjoy outdoors. Instead I reached out to some friends and made pasta from scratch for dinner. Kneading is kinda therapeutic, but not quite as good as getting outside.6 -
@MissMay - Oh no. I'm sorry to hear about it falling through at the last moment. This is what scares me about my mom's selling her property as well. We have negotiated to the hilt and TODAY I got his credit report, validation that he has the funds to write that big check and his company sent proof of employment and salary for the past 3 years. So crossing my fingers it doesn't fall through.
DID I mention that my mom opened a door that hasn't been opened in years and the frame was rotted through and the door fell off. Yep. Sold "as is". We are fixing the frame before the closing on 6/30.
@globalhiker - Absolutely love your pictures! What a wonderful experience.
@dawnbgethealthy - She is here! Granddaughter #2 in 2022.
New granddaughter! Mom & baby are both fine. Grandma is overwhelmed and doing a little too much eating and drinking but I'll get things back under control soon.
Me with Margot
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Beautiful!3
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Hi, all. I've made a repeated observation about myself that applies now.
observation: Episodes of over-eating/over-drinking are preceded by feelings of IDGAF--a strong disregard for "my why" or my future self well being. Sometimes but not always it's rooted in emotional disturbance. It's a little different from the "I'm upset so I deserve a treat." It's more like, "Why should I care at all?"
right now: I'm feeling strong emotional disturbance. It's only 2:15pm in my time zone, so I have several hours until dinner, what would be my typical time the over eating and over drinking would start. I need to center myself and exercise a little self-care, not slide down a slippery slope that's self destructive (or at least unhelpful to well being).
Advice/coaching appreciated.
@ahoy_m8 I am glad you said this because I've been this way for years. Sounds like HORMONES but I am not an expert. Hormones control everything in us. I didn't think so until I took an endocrinology course. Change something in your life to jump-start and re-direct. If your bloodwork is fine and all and your nutrition and hydration is spot-on, this "I don't care" thinking issue could be caused the alcohol you had the day prior (wine devil). Join a class that starts during the time(s) of day you feel this way. Distract yourself. I personally am thinking of joining a gym so I can see myself in a large mirror. This usually helps me re-focus my attention on me. I am also a big advocate of a 30 to 90 day no-drinking fast. It totally changed my head and my thinking in a good way.5 -
@Lilylady3k bless your little one - so cute!
@MissMay sorry to hear the deal fell through but the market is still boiling hot and it will sell. Have you picked your new spot yet? Is it Vegas?
I need to get back to daily tracking. Since my return, 1 AF day followed by 1 bottle fizzy rose and it was not the mini-bottle. @ahoy_m8 I was feeling like you at the time. I didn't care AND I broke my rule - went to the supermarket on a Friday at 6 pm, hungry, tired, thirsty....yes I broke all my rules and paid for it. I should've let my husband go and tell him to buy 1 baby prosecco equal to 1serving. Of course there is always a negative ramification and my scale showed a measly 1 oz weight loss. Crap
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FYI- regarding photos, I know nothing about photography and took pix during the wrong time of day and all, but I did get the newest iphone SE (my phone died the DAY before my trip and I had to just buy whatever the store had in-stock) and wow the picture quality is WAY better than my old SE and better than my husband's 3 yr. old iphone.4
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@ahoy_m8
I totally get that IDGAF thing.
Most of us are trying to drink less, lose weight, make healthier choices etc. We work so hard at it sometimes that we feel like we need a break from being so disciplined.
Your thought process is insightful and inspiring. Pinpointing these feelings is so astute of you. Bravo.
I don't have any suggestions at all, but you having said this will maybe make me rethink times when I am feeling that way.
I find that if I plan my drink/eat days then I can sometimes resist knowing that I can have that stuff the next day or in a couple of days instead.3 -
I'm Dawn
I joined this thread in November 2018. I had my first AF day soon thereafter. It was hard! I stayed with one AF day per week for awhile and then gradually increased that.
I will continue on with what has been attainable for me, 16-20 AF days per month. So trying to keep it to 3A days per week or less.
I am drinking less for weight loss. 20 more pounds to shed still.
Diary Style
Sunday June 19 - AF - Felt like having drinks after digging in the yard all day, but resisted.
Monday June 20 - A bunch of drinks, Mojitos at home and a Margarita out at a Mexican restaurant (which we walked to)
Tuesday June 21 - AF - Still bloated and puffy from drinks and restaurant eating on Monday, so it was a no brainer to be AF. Planned AF until Friday or Saturday or both as A days
Wednesday June 22 - AF - Weight has spiked, so trying to mitigate that with AF days
Thursday June 23 - AF - Planned drinks today and or tomorrow. I was able to bring the scale back down, definitely don't want to blow it : - )
Friday June 24 - 2 drinks. I almost do the drunkorexic thing sometimes. I definitely do not eat healthy food when I have alcohol. I substitute calories for drinks and badder things. Planned drinks Saturday afternoon
Rolling total: 15AF days out of 24 days3 -
Breathtaking. Thank you so much for sharing. And you are quite a good photographer!
ETA: AF so far this week and plan AF tonight. DH has a work event so home alone makes that easier.
ETA2: But I've had a large appetite for the past 2 weeks. I'm wondering if it is connected to the pretty strong corticosteroid for poison ivy. I've been eating every single maintenance calorie and slightly over maintenance last week... to my best count, which may have been an undercount when there were moments of standing in the pantry just looking for what I could eat fast. I try to account for it all later, but I know it's never as accurate as a planned & plated meal. I'm giving generous assent to eating more under the circumstances, but I'm just trying to keep it on the rails of the planned & plated variety vs. unplanned splurges. It's also hard to sleep. I'm so fidgety, flopping around all night, hard to lie still. I had a HARD nap yesterday, and that felt great.
@ahoy_m8 Dont forget about those steroids. I am on high doses of steroids at least once a summer due to a severe allergy to poison ivy and I am an absolute monster on them. It’s like an out of body experience. I end up taking more anxiety meds while I’m on them. I can’t get enough water and forget about sleeping. I’m not sure where you live but having poison ivy in the summer heat is miserable! Take care!
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Previous week- 5AF and 2A- best week I've had in a long time!
Last week 4AF and 3A - woot!
Week three- 3AF and 4A
This week- 4 AF and 3A6 -
I'm Dawn
I joined this thread in November 2018. I had my first AF day soon thereafter. It was hard! I stayed with one AF day per week for awhile and then gradually increased that.
I will continue on with what has been attainable for me, 16-20 AF days per month. So trying to keep it to 3A days per week or less.
I am drinking less for weight loss. 20 more pounds to shed still.
Diary Style
Friday June 24 - 2 drinks. I almost do the drunkorexic thing sometimes. I definitely do not eat healthy food when I have alcohol. I substitute calories for drinks and badder things. Planned drinks Saturday afternoon
Saturday June 25 - Drinks throughout the afternoon and evening. Nice and hot here, and I got lots done in the yard (although it looks like I barely made a dent. Sunday will be another to work in the yard all day, planning AF
Rolling total: 15AF days out of 25 days4 -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=luFDOhZqo4A
I ran across this video today, Scott Pinyard talking about Liberation so you can Moderate. He is connected with Annie Grace. He made some really good points... making me think that today would be a good day for me to start a 30 days AF. 4 -
Hi all! I’ve been lurking this thread for a few days. What a fun bunch you are! Do you know if there will be a July Drink Less Challenge? TIA!6
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Hi @joans1976 there is a new thread every month. Miss May posts the link so watch out for it. Welcome!
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Hi @joans1976 there is a new thread every month. Miss May posts the link so watch out for it. Welcome!
@ducky133 Ive got this one bookmarked so I will keep my eyes out! Thank you!
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Day 1 / 30 AF
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@joans1976 welcome! Yep, this continues every month- and it is a fun and genuinely awesome group!
@Lilylady3k what a beautiful grand baby! She is sweet and you look so happy!
@ahoy_m8 I get the IDGAF feeling at the end of a workday when I crawl home exhausted, mentally and physically. I can totally see getting it when there is other upsetment in our lives. I always find that connecting to people, plants and animals makes me feel better, whether I’m anxious, bored, or stressed. This usually translates to a a bike ride or walk with my dog on the canal, where I notice flowers blooming, turtles sunning themselves, Blue Herons stalking their dinner, rapidly growing Canada Geese, etc. it always makes me feel better. If the weather is lousy, I find immersing myself in a project like knitting to be helpful. Since I’m pretty lousy at it, it takes all my concentration!
Finally got the boat in the water, and spent most of the weekend adjusting dock lines, cleaning and setting up. We took a lovely sail yesterday and it was all worth it! Hopefully soon we can master backing into and out of our slip- it was not pretty, and we almost hit another boat, a day after hitting one of the pilings. Ugh. Nothing to see here!6 -
Hi All - I joined this thread a little late, starting June 20. I'm drinking less for weight loss. My goal is minimum of 3A days per week or less. I've been stuck at the same weight for a while now and want to lose 15 pounds.
Weekly Diary- Monday June 20 - AF - Was very tempted to have a beer at dinner with my husband, but resisted.
- Tuesday June 21 - 1 after-dinner drink (bourbon shot on the rocks). This was not planned.
- Wednesday June 22 - AF
- Thursday June 23 - 3 total drinks, 2 beers with water in between (yay) and a bourbon on the rocks later. Not too bad. I had counted the two beers in my daily calories. The bad thing is I gave in to late night munchies and ate a bunch of almonds..
- Friday June 24 - AF - The weekend is here with 1 AF day left as part of my goals. I'm wishing I had saved one of my AF days for the weekend. Update: It helped thinking about my goal then also reminding myself that I have one more A day left.
- Saturday June 25 - 4.5 total - Last A day this week (goal). Ate out for breakfast, lunch, dinner and wasn't very disciplined with food and drinks. I'm hoping my 51-mile bike ride will cover the calories. We went to a craft brewery for lunch (1 beer), I had wine at dinner (2 glasses), then to a craft brewery for music (1.5 beers).
- Sunday June 26 - AF - Gained almost 2 over Friday and Saturday (ugh!). I need to stop thinking that burning a gazillion calories on a bike ride will make up for a high calorie day. I'm adjusting my goal. @dawnbgethealthy, agree with you in that that I don't eat healthy food when I have alcohol.
Rolling total: 3AF out of 7 days (YAY! I met my weekly goal which is great, but making adjustments). It really helps to track!
New goal: No more than 3A days weekly (original). I'm adding a glass of water between drinks when drinking more than one, and no more than 3 drinks on a high activity day.5 -
Hello to everyone
Today the cabinet install starts. I will survive.
Yesterday, 2 beers at lunch, complete with pissy waitstaff. I was so close to being a 'Karen' but held my tongue. Thanked the bartender (in front of pissy).....for her great service. Kill'em with kindness, just not directed at pissy, I chose to ignore.
@missmay Sorry about the house sale. You will survive girl. Paint! I will give you 9lbs for free!7 -
@RockinRobyn672
Oh, so burning lots of calories doesn't make up for high calorie days? That could be what I am doing wrong : - )6 -
I'm Dawn
I joined this thread in November 2018. I had my first AF day soon thereafter. It was hard! I stayed with one AF day per week for awhile and then gradually increased that.
I will continue on with what has been attainable for me, 16-20 AF days per month. So trying to keep it to 3A days per week or less.
I am drinking less for weight loss. 20 more pounds to shed still.
Diary Style
Friday June 24 - 2 drinks. I almost do the drunkorexic thing sometimes. I definitely do not eat healthy food when I have alcohol. I substitute calories for drinks and badder things. Planned drinks Saturday afternoon
Saturday June 25 - Drinks throughout the afternoon and evening. Nice and hot here, and I got lots done in the yard (although it looks like I barely made a dent. Sunday will be another to work in the yard all day, planning AF
Sunday June 26 - AF - Always happy to hit my 16 : - ) No plan for drinks days this week as yet other than the weekend. Without a plan I don't always do as well, so I will think about that.
Rolling total: 16AF days out of 26 days6 -
Thanks, all, for the great comments. @dawnbgethealthy I think you totally have my number re: feeling tired of discipline. When I get the IDGAF, it's usually on Sunday after a whole week of being in control (especially if I have had to work hard at that). To @globalhiker's point, I was AF M-Th so it was not an alcohol carryover from the prior day in this instance, but it could be part of what's going on when my willpower is low on Sunday. @joans1976 Good point about the steroids, too. You have my sympathy. They're rough. To be fair, though, I do get the IDGAF when I'm not taking steroids, too. @Womona I almost felt better just reading about your outdoor time. Very pastoral. We're supposed to get a "cold front" which will take us from 100+F down to the 90'sF this week, and that is a welcome respite.
My Friday was not great. I made a pretty dinner with pasta from scratch, and busy hands in the kitchen probably did help (I don't have a machine so it's all by hand). Not as good as outdoors, but something. Had 2 glasses of wine with dinner and then opened another bottle. Always a bad idea. Only had one glass out of that one but ate DH's snack food afterward. Chips and crackers. Unplanned. Interestingly, Saturday was so much easier. DH opened a bottle after dinner and I was content to pass with my watermelon minty soda.
I'm going to watch that Scott Pinyard video later today, so thanks for posting that @looneycatblue. I've heard him podcast with Annie but have never watched a video. I am going to have a think about how to tread a little lighter. Sometimes I say my weight is a battle -- one I am winning! -- but a battle nonetheless. It takes effort. I think if I could figure out how to achieve the same result with less effort, less internal arguing with myself, then I would be less susceptible to the discipline exhaust and IDGAF episodes. Work in progress...7 -
Hit my 12! I've been doing great with aiming to drink no more than 2 nights a in a row this month. Still have the occasion of going over my limit of 2 but thank goodness I've stopped at 3 (something that the old me would never have believed possible)!
June accountability: 12 days AF
Alcohol: 14 days (29 drinks)
Goal: Limit 1-2 glasses per day; 12-16 AF days per month. Aim to drink no more than 2 nights in a row.
6/1 - 2 glasses wine; DH returned to work after a month off and gave a 10 day notice retiring / resigning
6/2 - AF
6/3 - 2 wine
6/4 - 2 beers; Brother in law’s retirement party at Karbach Brewing
6/5 - AF
6/6 - 3 wine
My sister joined us, issues with mom, workers at my house, a little overwhelmed today which is no excuse but it is what it is … not denying that I drank 3 glasses.
6/7 - 2 wine
6/8 - AF; babysit granddaughter
6/9 - 2 wine
6/10 - AF; DH’s last day @ work. He joined me in retirement!
6/11 - AF
6/12 - 1 rum & diet coke
6/13 - 1 beer before 🇪🇸 (Spanish Class)
6/14 - AF
6/15 - AF 📚
6/16 - AF 🎯 (Sporting Clays)
6/17 - 3 wine
6/18 - AF
6/19 - 2 wine
6/20 - AF
6/21 - 3 wine
6/22 - AF
6/23 - 2 Torchy’s Tinis
6/24 - 2 wine
6/25 - AF
6/26 - 2 wine
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1st week- end of May beginning of June 5AF and 2A- best week I've had in a long time!
2nd week 4AF and 3A - woot!
Week three- 3AF and 4A
4th week- 4 AF and 3A.
Week 5 2AF so far4 -
Day 2 / 30 AF
A bit of a struggle, just reminded myself how good I am going to feel in the morning. Took 2 cans of La Cruix sparkling water to get me through it, plus a couple of snacks. 😏7 -
6/27 - 1/2 wine; My son-in-law & I split the last glass of wine in a bottle that was in the fridge. It was like 3 sips! LOL. He went on to drink bourbon & coke. I poured myself a big glass water6 -
Hi All - I joined this thread a little late, starting June 20. I'm drinking less for weight loss. Goal: 3A days per week, a glass of water between drinks when drinking more than one, and no more than 3 drinks on a high activity day. I've been stuck at the same weight for a while now and want to lose 15 lbs.
Week 2- Monday June 27 - AF, planned my meals and followed it, and Peloton workout. My weight is going down. If I can just hold whatever I lose Monday - Thursday over the weekend, that would make me extremely happy.
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Lilylady3k wrote: »6/27 - 1/2 wine; My son-in-law & I split the last glass of wine in a bottle that was in the fridge. It was like 3 sips! LOL. He went on to drink bourbon & coke. I poured myself a big glass water
@Lilylady3k Good Job! It's hard to stop when others continue.6
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