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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,832 Member
    Hi Shattzie! I am a great Norway fan and have visited often on our cruises. We will be revisiting next June. I have been learning Norwegian for a few years and can understand a bit. I can have a very simple conversation.
    Welcome to our thread. :D

    Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • sh0tzz99
    sh0tzz99 Posts: 981 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Regarding introversion --

    I'm still trying to "define" my introversion.

    Various sites list traits, a lot of which don't apply to me.

    This, for example: https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-an-introvert

    Personality traits of an introvert
    A number of factors help shape the unique characteristics that make you who you are, and these factors can also affect the ways introversion shows up in your personality. To put it another way, no two introverts are exactly alike.

    That said, you might recognize introversion in yourself by some of the following traits and behaviors.
    You need plenty of time for yourself -- Yes!
    Do you consider periods of solitude essential for optimal health and well-being? Maybe you find the thought of a quiet night at home positively delightful, whether you plan to spend that time simply resting or enjoying a quiet hobby on your own.
    If time alone prompts feelings of peace and relief, not disappointment and stress, you’re likely more introverted than extroverted.

    Too much socializing drains you -- Yes. And I don't like social interaction. It's highly unlikely I would hang out with friends on Friday because the interaction between work colleagues is enough and has me craving solitude on Friday evening, Saturday and Sunday.
    It’s not true that introverts hate social interaction and avoid it entirely. All the same, you might find yourself needing more time to recharge between events than a more extroverted person.
    Hanging out with friends on Friday might max out your energy, leaving you craving solitude on Saturday to rest and refuel.

    You have a hard time with conflict -- It depends. I don't usually seek conflict, but I certainly can share my opinion.
    Everyday interactions can be draining enough on their own, but what about situations that involve the possibility of conflict?
    Some evidence suggests introverted people tend to have a greater sensitivity to negative evaluation and criticism. You might find it tough to share your thoughts when you believe others might disagree with you or disapprove of your opinion. As a result, you might find yourself avoiding conflict whenever possible.

    You work better on your own -- Yes!
    The mere words “group project” might spark fear in anyone’s heart, but if you find working in groups particularly loathsome, you could certainly be more of an introvert.
    Working at your own pace gives you time to reflect and consider your approach before focusing your energy on the task, without having to navigate group dynamics or tune out the chatter.
    Of course, this doesn’t necessarily mean you have trouble getting along with others. You may just find it easier to concentrate when working alone. That goes for your hobbies, too — introverted people often choose solitary pastimes, like reading, crafting, gaming, or gardening.

    The spotlight doesn’t tempt you -- It depends. Back in my teens, I hated presenting things but then I did a bit of acting and got involved with Toastmasters, and now I usually don't mind being up in front of everyone talking.
    Maybe you don’t mind working in smaller groups, but you always choose behind-the-scenes roles.
    That might mean you’d rather do the research and write up the report than present it, or you volunteer for tasks that keep you away from the crowd. Far from being the center of attention, you’d rather hover on the fringes where you escape notice.

    You prefer a close circle of friends -- I prefer a few low demand acquaintances ... and I'm not that fond of people
    Many introverts have just a small circle of friends, but it’s not because they can’t make friends or dislike people. ResearchTrusted Source suggests, in fact, that high-quality relationships play a major role in happiness for introverts.
    If you’re an introvert, you might simply prefer to have a few close, intimate friendships rather than a large circle of casual acquaintances. After all, you need more time to yourself than an extroverted person might, so you probably have less time to spend connecting and catching up with a crowd.

    You get to know people on a deeper level -- Nope. I can't be bothered to listen and observe from the sidelines. I've got things to do ... and I'm not that fond of people
    If you tend to keep to yourself, you might find it perfectly natural to listen and observe from the sidelines. Watching what goes on around you can give you more insight into others and offer clues to their personality and preferences.
    Expressing yourself not your strong point? You might become a good listener instead, perhaps even develop a knack for picking up on body language and less obvious cues and emotions in someone’s words, behavior, or tone of voice.
    The end result? You learn more about others, which can boost empathy and your ability to offer emotional support.

    You spend a lot of time absorbed in your own thoughts -- Yeah, I suppose. Somewhat
    Maybe you:
    find yourself daydreaming or running through scenarios in your mind before you settle on a plan of action
    need more time to process information and weigh options carefully when making decisions
    do extensive research before making a big purchase or accepting a job offer
    brainstorm a plan of action ahead of major events to prepare for every possibility
    Introverts often have an active inner thought process, so these traits can all suggest introversion.

    You zone out to get away -- I tend to get up and leave but if I must stay, I'm usually making lists or thinking through a project
    Do you catch yourself “escaping” from unpleasant or stressful situations by letting your mind wander or drift to something more relaxing?
    Anyone can zone out, but turning inward may offer introverts a way to leave situations that feel chaotic or uncomfortable. In short, it can serve as a survival mechanism, of sorts.
    This tendency to get lost in your thoughts may leave others with the impression that you’re shy, distracted, or disinterested. In reality, though, it can help you cope in tense or overwhelming environments, from a loud holiday party to a long meeting with several short-tempered colleagues.

    You prefer writing over talking -- Yes!
    Maybe the thought of small talk makes you shudder, but writing out your thoughts comes naturally, especially when you’re dealing with complex or difficult emotions.
    Many introverts take time to think carefully before speaking, so you might have a hard time offering a quick opinion about anything. Writing, on the other hand, allows you to consider your position thoroughly and choose just the right words to express yourself with confidence and care.

    You feel emotions deeply -- I rarely feel emotion, thank goodness
    Some evidence suggests introverted people might experience emotions more intensely and have trouble managing those emotions. This greater sensitivity could help explain why many introverts develop depression.

    Myths about introverts
    We’ve established that introversion isn’t just another way to describe shyness, but plenty of other myths about introversion exist. A few common ones include:

    Introverts don’t like people. In reality, introverted people do benefit from close relationships with others, just like most other humans. They typically just prefer to save their social energy for people who understand and support their needs.

    No ... I'm just not that fond of most people. But the ones below ring true

    Introverts have social anxiety. Sure, some introverted people could also have social anxiety. But that’s thanks to a combination of personality traits, like conscientiousness and neuroticism, rather than introversion alone.
    Introverts are more imaginative and creative. Creativity stems from openness, another Big Five trait. Introverted people with high levels of openness might easily be more creative, but this won’t apply to every introvert.
    Introverts just need to try harder to be social. If you’re happy with yourself as you are and don’t feel the need to change any of your social habits, draining your energy by trying to force yourself to interact with others when you need time alone will probably only leave you miserable and stressed.


    M in Oz

    This is me, spot on.

    Tina in CA
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,293 Member
    Shattzie wrote: »
    Hi
    Happy thanksgiving to those who celebrate. Im new as of today. I have around 80 lbs to loose, and I struggle with my relationship with food, I overeat and binge.
    From today I will pull myself together, I will use MFP as a tool to log my food, so I dont have to feel bad about eating. And Im also surprising myself about this posting, because I am somewhat solitary and introverted, but I feel it would be nice to have somewhere to check in, and get accuainted.
    I apologize for any misspelling, I am 54, and live in Norway.

    :) Welcome. I got help from the women on this thread. I am solitary and consider myself an introvert. This thread allows me to participate as little or as much as I want. I read the thread while I eat my breakfast every morning. I rarely post but I take to heart all I've read. When I started here I decided to stop using food for recreation and entertainment. It has made a huge difference. I hope you'll come back.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA
  • teklawa1
    teklawa1 Posts: 680 Member
    <3
    Betsy wishing everyone a good day.
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,417 Member
    Grateful:
    24. challenge. I am grateful for the challenges I face every day. They make me stronger.

    25. moment this week.
    26. form of expression.
    27. daily use item.
    28. what happen today.
    29. friend/family member.
    30. talent or skill

    Happy Thanksgiving 🍁🍽 everyone!

    RvRita in NM
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    I feel like I should search on polite topics for Thanksgiving conversations! At least I think I'm ready, with an hour to go. It feels like jumping off of a diving board, although I guess some people like that, too.

    I shouldn't be so nervous. I love my family, and they are always kind to me. And I love Thanksgiving. It's just my usual pre-event jitters. As long as I stay away from snacking, all will be well.

    Annie in Delaware
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,417 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
    Morning ladies
    I'll say yes to most of what Machka said,I never used to be that way ..but here I am..
    Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate..and my love to you all..

    Like Allie, I read through Machka’s spoiler it described me perfectly!

    The Better Homes and Garden was my favorite, though I owned most of the others mentioned at one time. Had to get rid of all my books when I moved into the camper.

    RvRita
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,307 Member
    Happy Thanksgiving!

    Welcome Shattzie

    Watching the Macy's parade too- always watch it- by myself anymore.Remember watching it as a little kid. Got up early to watch it every year.


    I too, miss the big family holiday meals. Spending time with all the cousins. Grandma's house was FULL- full of family and "adopted" family- anyone who wanted to come was more than welcome, and full of love.
    Now, the only holiday I am with my family is Christmas and basically no one comes anymore. This year for Christmas eve it looks like it will be just mom and I. We did that last year. First Christmas eve without dad. It was nice but just not the same.
    Today, we will go to a friends house at 2 but dh has to leave by 3:30 to take food to his mom. He won't change the times for anything. Same thing with mornings- up at 7 this morning(and I really wanted to sleep in) to pick up breakfast and take it to her.

    Got the mini blueberry tarts and some brownies made last night. Will make up the meat/cheese/veggie trays over at Sue's. Rice is soaking and will cook that at 1 so it is still warm.
    Won't be eating anything but the salmon and rice. Mouth is still swollen/painful,especially the front tooth that got jammed but didn't break. The two broken ones are sharp but don't hurt, thankfully. Muscles are still achy but not terrible.
    Will take some pineapple brandy over to share.(skipping the Norco for the day)

    Plan on resting the rest of the day.
    Need to slowly declutter the living room and start with the Christmas decorations.
    Dh will be gone most of the next three days so I can take it easy, do as much as I want.

    Time for a bowl of oatmeal then a long shower.

    Have a wonderful day ladies

    Debbie
    Napa Valley,Ca
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,293 Member
    :) Our festive meal is over. Jake is washing the dishes. There are leftovers for tomorrow. In the afternoon we'll watch a movie we've been looking forward to--"A Man Called Ove" on Tubi. We both read the book recently.

    :) My morning was my usual two hour walk and a meeting on Zoom with special friends.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA

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  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,572 Member

    This morning I did Gilad Cuts and Curves DVD and then took a walk. Honestly, today I’m not going to count calories but try to eat healthily. I know that I’ll have some pumpkin pie, I’ll want to try the chocolate cream dessert I made since I tried doing something different, the sweet potato pie even tho it has sugar on top. Sure hope Jess is ready for lots of leftovers! Guess who’s getting most of the pumpkin pie since I’m the only one who’ll eat it. And the sweet potato casserole. I can rinse the cheese off the broccoli and cauliflower and then eat it that way. I won’t have the mac and cheese so she’ll get it. Oh, I’ll have a bit today, but that’s it. I’ve had oatmeal for breakfast already, I usually don’t have as much. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Kathy Smith Step Workout DVD and then take a walk.

    Rori – this is the FIRST time you’ve gone snowtubing???? We used to do that all the time, going down this one big hill in Montclair. Thanks for the memory Glad you had a good time

    Heather – what a good friend you are, not only to G but to everyone.

    Happy Thursday to all who don’t celebrate Thanksgiving and Happy Thanksgiving to everyone else.

    Yea me! I just made the sweet potato casserole (well, assembled it). I’ll eat it today, give Colby the leftovers, but I know that I won’t eat what was left over. The potatoes with cream and sugar in them – no. So I made too many sweet potatoes. Probably what I should have done was used less milk. Well, I followed the directions. Next time I’ll do it differently. So I threw out the extra that I won’t eat. That was hard to do since I was brought up not to waste food, but I did it

    Heather – you and Johnny are so talented

    Shatzzie – welcome! Penny, she hasn’t been here in a long time, was from the North Pole and I really liked seeing how life was there. Will be looking forward to your posts

    KJ – Vince and Jess thought I should sleep in, too. Everything I read says that you should keep the same wake up time. So that’s what I did

    Jess is doing some of her cooking. I tell you, it’s hard in way for me. Everyone has their own way of doing things. Like to me, I like to clean up as I go along. She just leaves the dirty dishes, etc. She can’t understand why do things ahead of time. I just don’t like to be rushed doing things. Like around 1 I had the table set. We’re planning dinner for 5:30-6. I had a lot of the food made and in the freezer (I do need to learn to take things out of the freezer sooner so they defrost instead of my having to leave the desserts out to be sure they defrost). Heaven help me! I’m doing some stress eating

    We were talking about when we’d go to Jess’ for Christmas. Honestly, Vince would be happy staying home. How can we not go to our daughter’s? I finally talked him into going up there Friday, he wanted to go on Sat. Then to make dinner? That’s just too much for one day. Then he wanted to come home Christmas Day. Really? I finally talked him into leaving the next day. I don’t want to be rushed having dinner so we can leave.

    Michele NC
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,191 Member
    Karen - that first book was the one my mom got me.. the junior edition...
    Here is Miles first Thanksgiving...rkh044f3acxk.jpg


  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,426 Member
    Stats for the day-

    Walk home to gym- 10.13min, .54mi= 53c
    Strava app = 66c
    Other- 23.44min, PT shoulder exercises, 3 sets of 10 ea, 7 different exercises = 78c
    Walk gym to home- 10.22min, .54mi= 61c
    Strava app = 66c
    Walk w/kids- 2hrs 26min 31sec, 122elev, 3.28ap, 113ahr, 152mhr, chispas walked for 4miles, pushed Lucy entire way, kirby walked w/us for 3 miles, 8.11mi= 832c
    Strava app = 993c

    Total cal 1024c
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    Hello ladies!
    I told a funny story at dinner and everyone laughed. It actually felt good. Maybe if that happened more often I would enjoy people more.

    Meanwhile back to the diet tomorrow, after a marvelous meal today. The way I feel now, I could live on water for a week. First challenge is lunch out tomorrow. I know the restaurant will tempt me.

    And I'm skipping dumbbells tonight. Too bloated. Such is the tradition.

    Annie in Delaware

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  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Rebecca :D:D:D
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    edited November 2022
    My daughter took me to a family get together this evening. I enjoyed it. There was food and conversation with the adults and play for the kids. Everyone had a good time. I am home now and watching TV.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,307 Member
    had a nice meal with our friends.
    DS decided not to go- not having a good day so he stayed home.
    DH went but only stayed a short time(dominated most of the conversations while he was there)
    He left to take dinner to his mom and I stayed there and we played Rummicube- have never played it but it was fun. Used to play rummy with my dad and first hubby.
    I was able to eat plenty with no pain-did have to skip a lot but there was still a lot I could eat. Skipped the Norco so enjoyed a shot of pineapple brandy after dinner. Everyone enjoyed the brandy.
    Teeth are starting to hurt some so may take one before heading for bed. May just take Aleve- don't think it is bad enough for the Norco.
    Looking forward to a quiet three days, hoping to sleep in at least two of those days(dh will be gone)

    Going to watch Survivor and Amazing race this evening beings I recorded them(automatically record every week). I didn't realize what day it was yesterday and forgot that they were even on until I saw a post on FB this morning.
    Have my decaf tea and I am sure my kitten will join me again as soon as I move to the recliner.
    He was so cute this morning. He sure loves to snuggle.

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  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 7,001 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
    I thought I posted that last night

    You did. :smiley:

    Lol it was sitting in my text now still. I don’t know why MFP does that sometimes.
  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,630 Member
    Hope everyone’s Thanksgiving was exactly how they wanted it.

    Interesting review of “The Balance Within” by Esther M Sternberg. The first three paragraphs can be skipped.:naughty: Later the article introduces how the interplay of illness, emotions, stress, memory, hormones, brain, gut, and our parents affect our bodies’ responses. It’s complicated :}
    https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-science-of-stress-and-how-our-emotions-affect-our-susceptibility-to-burnout-and-disease?utm_source=pocket-newtab
    May look up at the library.

    Bit the black Friday bullet and ordered an iRobot Roomba J7 for $349.99 Was looking at an eBay deal on a 980 for $328.88, but shied away when I read the reviews mentioning the screaming jet plane noise. One YouTube review of the J7 was surprised at how much quieter the J7 was. I’ll probably still have to run it while Joe’s working outside, but at least it can be vacuuming while I’m doing something else… like laundry! LOL!

    Biscuits: Carol’s making biscuits from scratch for her dressing and someone else mentioning Bisquick made me think. Best biscuits I ever made were from a package of Southeastern Mills Biscuit mix. Mama used Bisquick for dumplings with chicken and I loved them, but have never been able to reproduce the flavor as she used a pressure cooker and I don’t have (or want) one.

    Welcome @Shattzie in Norway! That was my grandfather’s nickname for Mama.
    Heather the cookbook that started it all was Mama’s copy of the Boston Cooking School Cookbook by Fannie Farmer. Alas, the authors made certain assumptions that the seven year old me didn’t understand. For example, when trying to make fudge, it directed “boil until forms a soft ball in a glass of water” so I poured in a glass of water and waited for it to form a soft ball :laugh:
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    Debbie so sorry to read of your fall and painful results. Please do take it easy this weekend.
    Rori Love the image of you tubing! Can see your smile from here.
    Lanette had to stop watching the Reed Timmer video, started to shiver.
    KJ our thanksgiving dinner was simple. Roast bone-in turkey breast with pan gravy. Jellied cranberry sauce. Bread crouton dressing with sausage, celery and onions. Baked sweet potatoes. Roasted Brussels sprouts with a maple/balsamic/cranberry glaze. Store bought pecan pie. Sparkling wine. Back in the day there would be green bean casserole instead of the sprouts, a dish of green onions, radishes and black olives, green salad, jello salad, candied sweet potatoes, mashed potatoes, dinner rolls, and Mama’s favorite: pickled watermelon rinds. All this for a family of 3 and whatever couple Mama invited to join us. :sick:
    Annie just wait until you weigh the contents of that tablespoon. What a shocker!
    Karen I still have Laurel’s Kitchen and in fact was thinking about giving it to my buddy T who’s become vegan over the past year. Reminds me of the cookbook “Ten Talents” I had and lost.

    Turkey carcass is in the stock pot to simmer all night. Worst chore is picking the scraps and bones but it sure makes good broth!

    Gratitude 22: story=the story of me, how Mama and Papa were lonely for a child and how Pastor Ruhle knew of a child about to be born who needed them.
    Gratitude 23: tradition=Mama’s cookies, Ken’s rum balls and walking through the Azalea Park light display with buddies.
    Gratitude 24: challenge=learning a new dance, especially if I like the music!

    Done:
    11/24: Move: ZERO sets pt, steps: 1723 so far
    Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: almonds, apple, artichoke, avocado, beans-cannellini, beans-garbanzo, beans-green, beets, broccoli florets, broccoli stalk, Brussels sprouts, carrots, cauliflower, celery, corn on the cob, cherries-dried, cranberries-dried, cucumber, garlic, grapefruit, maraschino cherry, mushrooms, mustard greens, onions, orange, pecans, radish, romaine, satsumas, snap peas, snow peas, sweet peppers-orange, sweet peppers-red, tomato-sauce, walnuts, wasabi peas, wheat-pasta/bread. CI<CO=Y
    Live: Joe, readings, NO BP, cooked all morning, that was it. Wt:138.7
    11/23: Move: 2 sets pt, walk from Les Schwab to and from line dance class. steps:7868
    Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: almonds, apple, artichoke, avocado, beans-cannellini, beans-garbanzo, beans-green, beets, broccoli florets, broccoli stalk, carrots, cauliflower, celery, corn on the cob, cherries-dried, cranberries-dried, cucumber, garlic, grapefruit, maraschino cherry, mushrooms, mustard greens, onions, orange, pecans, radish, romaine, satsumas, snap peas, snow peas, sweet peppers-orange, sweet peppers-red, tomato-sauce, walnuts, wasabi peas, wheat-pasta/bread. CI<CO=Y
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, reconciled checking account, took car in to swap to winter tires, made appointment to fix recall and headlamp, dog games Wt: 139.1
    11/22: Move: 3 sets pt, line dance class, Jeopardy walking. steps: 7727
    Fuel: plants (running count for week) so far: almonds, apple, artichoke, avocado, beans-cannellini, beans-garbanzo, beans-green, beets, broccoli florets, broccoli stalk, carrots, cauliflower, celery, corn on the cob, cherries-dried, cranberries-dried, cucumber, garlic, grapefruit, maraschino cherry, mushrooms, mustard greens, onions, orange, pecans, radish, romaine, satsumas, snap peas, snow peas, sweet peppers-orange, sweet peppers-red, tomato-sauce, walnuts, wasabi peas, wheat-pasta/bread. CI<CO=Y
    Live: Joe, readings, BP, reconciled savings and Visa statements, progress on district volunteer reimbursement spreadsheet. Wt:139.5

    Lighter, lovelies!
    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD x8zcp1ya37k1.gif
    2022: Be still and listen.
    November: Move more (7515 steps), fuel better (protein + vegs), live NOW (time with Joe, Tumble and Shadow).

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