WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2023
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(((Allie))) — You are an excellent grandmother, and do your best for your grandchildren. Carmine needs to be able to tryout and choose the identity that fits best. You are accepting, and give Carmine the opportunity to decide. That is a valuable gift. ⭐️2
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Because DH was so upset this morning when we were talking about death issues, I decided to lovingly give him time to vent and explain his feelings before dinner. The truth is, he isn't thinking logically because of his terrible experience with his previous partner, but I held my tongue and let him talk. It is so painful for him. I truly believe he felt a lot better after I gave him the time and space. He didn't want to talk about it initially, but that's just him. I think he feels a bit more heard.
Now for bed.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx6 -
auntiebk this is my page name pmileader2 I live currently in Huntsville, AL have no pictures to post. A bit unsure of how to post and respond. Technically challenged.
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Stats for the day-
Housecleaning etc- 2hrs 2 min 40sec, vacuum, dust, reorganize some of the garage, etc..= 572c
Other- more organization of garage = 30.31min= 142c
Total cal 714
Got a pet grooming kit from OfferUp for $49 bucks! On Amazon for $160.
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The attachments that it comes with. I have already tried the deshedding tool on yogi. Works great8 -
Debbie ... the photo of Destiny ... even with all that she is going through, she is just beautiful ...
Barbara ... TurboTax transferred everything, but then wanted me to do some verifying and then tell them that all was correct. Different from other years.
Karen ... hugs ...
Allie ... I confess that I don't begin to understand this gender identity thing, but I do recognize teenage hormones ...
Went to church and then spent the afternoon with my mom looking at very, very old photos. We were able to identify maybe 50% which was a lot better than I was anticipating and better yet, my mom enjoyed herself.
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Thank you all for the prayers and thoughts for Destiny. They are all welcomed and appreciated.
When they got the call that she needed to go straight to the hospital for another transfusion, they were picking up her third chinchilla so she got to take it with her for her transfusion. I am sure that helped pass the time.
Hugs to all that need them
I used to do my own taxes when with former hubby. Current dh took over doing them when we got married. He does his mom's, our son's , used to do his aunts along with doing ours. He was going to file son's but will wait until the first of April because there is a new deduction/credit/?? for those 25 and over. Son turns 25 the end of March so just putting off filing a week will hopefully help him out. Not sure how much.
Everyone else's are very simple. Ours is more complicated because of the write offs, etc for the daycare business. He usually does ours last. He runs everyone's at least twice to make sure there are no errors.
Things have calmed down for now with MIL. Yesterday,DH have her a hair cut and helped her take a long shower so she felt really good. I warmed up her dinner and the dog's dinner while they were finishing up
She was actually kind of nice- asked how i was healing since the surgeries. I haven't seen her since before they removed the melanoma and had the reconstruction done.
She said it looked good. It is healing but not completely healed yet. Still bits of pain but not too bad. Still have part of the permanant marker line where they cut for the graft.
Have the house to myself this evening. Son got off work, came home and changed and went to his girlfriends house. He will be home later tonight-has to work tomorrow but off on Tues and going to go test drive the car he wants to buy.
Dh is going to the movies(same theater our son's truck was stolen from two weeks ago tonight but his friend is driving, not him). He has to be at work at 3AM so will go right to bed when he gets home.
No school tomorrow so I will have Ezie all day instead of half day. No walk at the wetlands or zumba for me. Will have to do a little extra on Tuesday or maybe find a friend that wants to walk the park tomorrow night to make up for no class.
No clue on what I will do for dinner. May finish up the chili- Already done so just need to warm it up. Had two bowls yesterday. Not feeling like cooking something just for me but may change my mind. It is only 3;30PM right now
Debbie
Napa Valley,Ca
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Just catching up before bed.
Intentions for today:
📍Declutter wardrobe —>
📍laundry✔️
📍family Skype ✔️
📍Latin translation —>
📍prep for gynae appointment tomorrow ✔️
📍solid habits✔️
Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for all those those who need them.
🙋♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.
☘️ Terri
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@Auntiebk- I would have handed him the dust cloth, but he was cleaning and organizing the barn-YUCK!
Allie- I love your support for Carmine/Talia. I think our childhoods were so much easier. The pressures today especially for teens is awful. Continued prayers for the family.
Continued prayers for Destiny. Pets have healing and calming powers.
Machka- I learned today that male bees are kicked out of the hives in the winter. This is to preserve the hive. Unfortunately, most of the males either die of starvation or predators. What a short life for the males.
People were crazy on the highway today! I avoided two accidents! Happy to be home safely.
Spoke with my brother today. He doesn't know that I am planning on being there for his birthday. He is planning on coming here March 18th for weekend. I am planning to join my brother and his friend at the Indy 500 race in May. I have wanted to go for a long time and the opportunity is now. My DH hasn't said yes that he wants to go, but he hasn't said no either. I get that he can't see things well, but sometimes you have to step out of the comfort zone. I AM going! Seats are just above pit row! I am excited. I LOVE spending time with my brother and I like his friends too!
Hugs!
Loves!
Congratulations!
Encouragement!
Welcomes!
Kylia safely in Ohio6 -
Taxes- I use to do mine, but things got complicated when I bought the first rental property with DH. Now someone else does them for us. I just have to get all the paperwork together.
Death preparation- I have been thinking about it lots. My brother even mentioned it today. I am thinking that I need to get started on that. I am thinking that I need to put the important papers in the safe, but then who do I give the code to in the event of needed. I really need to figure this out. I could do a safety deposit box with someone else on the signature card. Dilemmas. It was easier when I had nothing, but life is easier now.
Just last minute thoughts.
CT Calcium Scan in the morning.
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Carla, I’m not sure what it was about the dinner Saturday night that suddenly made me realize that my son has forgiven me for divorcing his father. There have been a few events leading up to it, including his initial overture to talk with me, the tone of texts, good follow-through for things he would normally let slide (making a brunch date, for example, and showing up on time eager to talk). But yes, sometime during dinner Saturday night it dawned on me that he had already forgiven me. I’m not sure how long ago he forgave me, or why, and I don’t really need to know. I trust it. I don’t think I am being naive. I’ve known him for over 45 years, probably better than he knows himself, and I can tell he has forgiven me.
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Lanette,
Griffin will be 17 in May and is, in a word, thriving.He was diagnosed with autism in 2019 when he was 13, after a profoundly miserable life socially and in school, after many misdiagnoses & mislabels.
Not to mention a volatile relationship with his father, who loved him intensely but was so disappointed in him. There was much disruptive behavior from both of them. (And yes, from time to time, I have wondered if my son is also on the spectrum.)
You may recall that Griffin did online public school from home for 7th and 8th grade, school years 2018-19 and 2019-20. I was Learning Coach for those 2 years.
When Covid hit, he was home for a third year with a different Learning Coach for 9th grade (2020-21). He was lonely and hungry for peers, despite his social difficulties. He had very few friends, but fortunately, those he had were fiercely loyal. His younger sister was a rock. He wasn’t an easy older brother, but she is wise beyond her years and hung in there with him despite the misery he caused her.
The fall of Griffin's 10th grade year, he went back to brick & mortar school with his new diagnosis. The public school system here has a ridiculous policy that even with an autism diagnosis verified, children with autism have to start out the year without an IEP in place and stumble & fumble until the teachers, administrators, and counselors all agree that an IEP is necessary, at which time the child is evaluated, usually weeks into the school year. That happened, and everything has gotten better since then.
Most importantly, sometime during his 10th grade year, Griffin accepted that he had no choice but to get through school, and he resigned himself to it. Once he did that hard work, he was able to let go of most of his bottled up anger, and his energy was freed up to make friends, apply himself to his school work, and focus on what he enjoyed. It was a miracle. He now has a group of equally weird and wonderful friends that he spends lots of time with. He doesn’t have to study much to get good grades. His teachers know he is autistic rather than (insert negative adjective here), and his father has accepted and “become the expert” on autism, and so has changed his expectations of Griffin. I would say they have a very good relationship now.
So writing this, I have just realized that this plays into what my son is reflecting on - there is no doubt that his relationships with my DIL and Griffin have been strained. Jilli bravely calls him out on some of his manure, which he tolerates from her. I believe it is bothering him that my DIL is apparently reluctant to discuss difficult topics with him (likely a factor in the delay in Griffin’s diagnosis of autism). I sincerely doubt that he understands why she is reluctant to get into the tough stuff, but I get it.
I suddenly see that if my son is on the spectrum as I suspect, that, as many of you have said, he is probably doing the best he can, and it would behoove me to think of my sweet Griffin when I look into the face of his father (my son), and realize that he has had his share of (largely self-inflicted) misery. It takes courage to reflect on your life and try to figure yourself out. I am not the only person he has hurt - he has hurt his wife, his son, his daughter, some of his friends, and probably a coworker or two. He has hurt my wife and her son and DIL.
More power to him for bravely opening the can of worms.
I am getting over myself and starting to put the past in the past. My son has enough hard work to do without me adding to it. Someday there may be some things I want to say to him, but for now, I am content to let it ride and just be as available to him as I can be. My personal agenda is of no consequence right now, and there is no urgency to pursue it.
I want to thank all of you for having my back as I am foundering my way through this. I cannot tell you how much the feedback and comments are helping me. What would I do without all of you?
Yours Truly, Karen in Virginia12 -
Carol, My heart goes out to you. We have all done things we regret. I betrayed the trust of a good friend in postgraduate school once and paid for it by losing the friendship. I learned the lesson, but I paid a dear price. (((Hugs)))4
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pmileader2 wrote: »auntiebk this is my page name pmileader2 I live currently in Huntsville, AL have no pictures to post. A bit unsure of how to post and respond. Technically challenged.
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