WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2023
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Anniesquats100 wrote: »Pip lol how can making chocolate chip cookies be 100 calories? For me, I would eat several, so closer to minus 600. You made me laugh. You are such an inspiration!
Ask my Apple Watch, that and making the tea, all that standing and walking back and forth.2 -
myvt9v4crh wrote: »Women 50+ Friends—I have no idea how to fix the mess from MFP. I would love your help to fix it if possible. I hope things can go back to the way it has always been and return my ID. Katla & Katla 49 are both okay. I’d love to see Schooner’s photo again. I don’t have the skill to fix it the problem.
Katla
Did u try the suggestion that the peeps on here have given? Log out and log back in with your katla name and password?2 -
Pip—I don’t know how to log out. I am embarrassed.5
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I do not know how to log out.
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I've been thinking about PTSD recently too ...
The 5-year anniversary of my husband's accident is coming up in less than a month. The other day, I was walking along and just casually thinking about that, when all of a sudden I felt all the feelings I felt when I got the call, and in the first couple days hit me like a wave. I became quite dizzy and felt like I was going to throw up. I had to stop walking, hang onto something and do my box breathing.
And then I wondered ... could I be experiencing PTSD? Anniversary-induced PTSD?
Perhaps slightly related ... there's an outfit in my closet that I was wearing on the day of the accident. I've never worn it since. But when I'm choosing an outfit, I spot the skirt now and then and quickly flip past it.
M in Oz
Without a doubt.
I have PTSD.
Mine was caused by a late term pregnancy loss and the circumstances surrounding it. It manifests itself by flashes of memories about small creatures from my childhood that died or escaped and were not found - a tiny frog, a hamster, a rabbit, some kittens. Never the baby herself. Also an increase in sleep disturbance and a tendency to awaken in tears, without a clue why.
It took years for me to realize what it was.
If you are so inclined, read EMDR by Francine Shapiro. I do my own version of the eye movement retraining while deliberately recalling the traumatic events, whenever my symptoms become disruptive, but I’m not sure I would recommend that; it’s probably better to go to a trained EMDR therapist and go through the real process.
I think it’s usually about 6-8 sessions and then you are given some “tools” to use at home once you are done with the retraining.
I think of the eye movement part as something akin to the eye movements during REM sleep. This is my own interpretation, not based on anything but my own opinion. Since sleep is where we process the day’s events for the most part, any traumatic event significant enough to disrupt sleep would logically disrupt the processing. It seems to me the EMDR eye movements done while recalling the events, mimics what would have occurred during sleep, thus allowing the technicolor trauma flashbacks and disturbances to be relegated to the “faded photograph” section where they are not disruptive to day-to-day functioning.
Realizing I had PTSD was helpful. Not everyone with PTSD has the full blown Vietnam-type disturbance that is easy to recognize because the signs and symptoms are so dramatic.
Karen in Virginia5 -
Pip, Annie was making a little joke about not being able to resist eating cookies while making cookies, resulting in calories in the red instead of in the black. She was saying you are the bomb for being able to make cookies without eating several while you were making them.
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myvt9v4crh wrote: »I do not know how to log out.
Katla
OK, Katla, since you are on your phone, the first question is - are you using the MFP app? Do you click on an icon on your phone that looks like this?
Or are you using the search bar on a browser like Safari, Google, etc.?
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All intentions satisfied yesterday. We picked up grandson, and visited a garden centre in the way to DED’s house.
We went to buy our usual seeds for early planting last Thursday and couldn’t get tomato seeds in any if our local centres. Tomatoes are in short supply in the stores because of extreme weather in Mediterranean countries at the minute, so people are panic buying tomato seeds?
‘slanting solar beams
chase dark night shades away
turning drab to gold’
Sadly no golden sunbeams this morning.
Intentions for today:
📍am: prep for Monday Painters
📍2pm: Monday Painters
📍general chores
📍solid habits
Ginny: Good to know that you are on the mend.
Machka: I so agree about lifelong learning. Hence my volunteering as a group leader for my charity. Sharing knowledge and expertise benefits both our members and myself.
Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for all those those who need them.
🙋♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.
☘️ Terri
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KetoneKaren wrote: »I've been thinking about PTSD recently too ...
The 5-year anniversary of my husband's accident is coming up in less than a month. The other day, I was walking along and just casually thinking about that, when all of a sudden I felt all the feelings I felt when I got the call, and in the first couple days hit me like a wave. I became quite dizzy and felt like I was going to throw up. I had to stop walking, hang onto something and do my box breathing.
And then I wondered ... could I be experiencing PTSD? Anniversary-induced PTSD?
Perhaps slightly related ... there's an outfit in my closet that I was wearing on the day of the accident. I've never worn it since. But when I'm choosing an outfit, I spot the skirt now and then and quickly flip past it.
M in Oz
Without a doubt.
I have PTSD.
Mine was caused by a late term pregnancy loss and the circumstances surrounding it. It manifests itself by flashes of memories about small creatures from my childhood that died or escaped and were not found - a tiny frog, a hamster, a rabbit, some kittens. Never the baby herself. Also an increase in sleep disturbance and a tendency to awaken in tears, without a clue why.
It took years for me to realize what it was.
If you are so inclined, read EMDR by Francine Shapiro. I do my own version of the eye movement retraining while deliberately recalling the traumatic events, whenever my symptoms become disruptive, but I’m not sure I would recommend that; it’s probably better to go to a trained EMDR therapist and go through the real process.
I think it’s usually about 6-8 sessions and then you are given some “tools” to use at home once you are done with the retraining.
I think of the eye movement part as something akin to the eye movements during REM sleep. This is my own interpretation, not based on anything but my own opinion. Since sleep is where we process the day’s events for the most part, any traumatic event significant enough to disrupt sleep would logically disrupt the processing. It seems to me the EMDR eye movements done while recalling the events, mimics what would have occurred during sleep, thus allowing the technicolor trauma flashbacks and disturbances to be relegated to the “faded photograph” section where they are not disruptive to day-to-day functioning.
Realizing I had PTSD was helpful. Not everyone with PTSD has the full blown Vietnam-type disturbance that is easy to recognize because the signs and symptoms are so dramatic.
Karen in Virginia
My waves of feelings usually happen during the day ... and grocery stores are most likely to set them off.
After the accident, it was a long time before I could go into a grocery store without a full-on panic attack. I'm not sure why grocery stores, but that was something my husband and I did together. Grocery stores also have walls and tall shelves to close in around a person, plus strangers who like to get in the way and block exits.
The other day, when I was walking along and just casually thinking about the anniversary of the accident, I was in a grocery store.
At night, over the past year or so (a very stressful year for various reasons), I frequently dream of war. War has broken out all around me, I am a spy or maybe an arms dealer or in some way participating in the war, and I am either about to be captured or have just been captured.
M in Oz8 -
KetoneKaren wrote: »myvt9v4crh wrote: »I do not know how to log out.
Katla
OK, Katla, since you are on your phone, the first question is - are you using the MFP app? Do you click on an icon on your phone that looks like this?
Or are you using the search bar on a browser like Safari, Google, etc.?
Thank you for telling us that, Katla.
Katla, if you are using the button Karen posted above, when you click it, you might get this screen. See the More button at the bottom? I've circled it to help you find it. Tap the More button.
The next screen you might see is this one. Scroll up
When you scroll it up, you'll see the Log Out button. Click that.
Machka in Oz
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PTSD-I think it runs on a spectrum. My random thoughts:While we typically think of the most extreme of the veteran's war experience, we also have a lot of children growing up with PTSD that doesn't get treated effectively. I don't mean the standard child complaint of "my parents are so mean they won't let me . . . "- am talking about those beaten, locked in closets, sexually molested. This leaves a segment of our population not sure how to cope with things and often acting in anger. As our mental health resources have declined we see an increase in acting out as adults that leads to increased violence. Many of us do have a traumatic event that can follow us-certainly Karen and Machka's experience. Thankfully we do not have the daily, repetitive experience and have had assistance in developing coping skills. Always try to reach out to the hurting person instead of judging them-even if you just tell them hello and acknowledge their existence.
Working from home today and tomorrow. Took Covid test this morning-positive line is barely visible. I am just curious as to how long it may take to get all the way to normal, but I understand an ongoing positive test does not mean you are contagious. Will go out for small meeting tomorrow and have a couple on Wednesday.
Rebecca-I do hope there is communication with son. I don't always get to talk to mine as much as I would like-but there is still contact with them in between things in their busy lives. I agree with you that mothers (and most likely dads) don't always show the hurt they feel inside. Looking back, I realize there were times I could and should have reached out to my mother more, but was always "too busy."
Karen-Hope vaccine side effects are mild. While my initial doses gave me very strong reactions the last booster was not so bad. I am glad I was fully vaccinated before I caught covid. I can't prove that the shots and the paxlovid are what made my case milder but I I don't think it hurt.
Take care all,
Ginny in Ohio5 -
Went out for my run this morning, as it was a beautiful, if chilly, day. While I was 'running ' along , past the swimming pool, I was passed by this walking man and his two tiny dogs.
Shows you how fast I 'run'.
Had a long chat with G on the phone when I got back. She is off to Singapore tomorrow to see her granddaughter.
I guess I'll work on my new book tomorrow.
Much love to all. Heather UK xxxxxx8 -
Only if you're interested in doing something like this as we go along ...
Feel Good Feb and/or Exercising the Alphabet in FebruaryFeel Good Feb
https://www.actbelongcommit.org.au/programs-initiatives/feelgood-feb/
Exercising the Alphabet in February
In other words, on February 1, you'd walk to a street that starts with A or do an exercise video hosted by someone whose name starts with A or something ... A.
On February 2, you'd go swimming at a Beach or play a game of Baseball or something ... B.
On February 3, you'd go Cycling or Climb some stairs or something ... C.
and so on.
There are, of course, 26 letters in the alphabet and 28 days in February, so you'd have 2 free days if you didn't exercise those days or couldn't fit in the next letter of the alphabet.I have listed several January highlights so that meets the calendar suggestion for February 1...
And I walked to the Asian "dollar store" next to the Asian grocers and bought Art supplies at lunch today. That'll be my A.
Put myself in someone else's shoes --- I've been treating my difficult work colleague with kindness by talking to her about her son, complimenting her skirt, talking quietly and gently to her and so on.
And today, I walked to Bathurst Street to Buy some Books. I also climbed stairs in my Building.
Watch a movie that reminds me of kindness --- probably not tonight!
C is for Climbing and walking on Collins St!
Take a picture of three things that make you happy --
D is for exercising Downstairs!
Rowing - 16 minutes
Walking - 38 minutes
Weights - 10 minutes
Be kind to yourself -- Sleep, gardening and cycling!
E is for Exercising!
Plus we cycled on Endeavour Ave and the Esplanade.
Start a conversation with someone new --- I'm not the sort to strike up random conversations, or conversations at all. But I did chat with a person I met recently and one I haven't seen in a few months today.
And ... F!
Consider a current struggle. Write down two thoughts that bring you comfort.
Hmmm ... A current struggle, like only one? Let's go with waiting. I feel like I spend most of my life waiting.
And a walk to the botanical Gardens through the rose Garden!
Consider and celebrate diversity! Does that include people who look at things completely differently than you do? If so ... woohoo! I've had that opportunity today!
H is for Hobart - walking around. And Hanging clothes outside.
Identify a role model who embodies perseverance and find 2 ways to emulate them.
Well, I don't have role models ... and I've persevered as much or possibly even more than many people I know.
However, today was brought to you by the letter I. I did walk by and around IMAS (Institute for Marine and Antarctic Studies).
Check an item off your to do list this weekend!
YES! I tidied a shelf in the kitchen. I've been meaning to do that for months but finally did it today. There was a large quantity of rubbish on that shelf ... more than I thought. So, much of the cleaning process was just throwing things out.
I've also been dusting our entertainment unit and all the stuff on it.
And I went outside and tidied the area right in front of our front door which involved moving a whole bunch of pots and other garden things to a different location and then sweeping out a year's worth of leaves and stuff. I climbed up and down and up and down stairs doing that.
This evening I made an attempt at digging the area I want to plant things next to my dry stream. I got a new spade which is great, but even so, there are so many roots, I'll need to use something else to break it up.
Just getting rid of Junk and Jabbing the Soil
Make twice as much for dinner and either invite guests or deliver a meal to a friend ...
We're actually doing that sort of dinner thing on Tuesday.
Meanwhile, all my exercise was in K ... Kingborough today!
Cycling:
Heaving a heavy mattock in the garden:
And walking our Kitty, Rhody.
Make a list for the week ahead so you stay focused.
I have one massive ongoing things to do list with the most urgent things at the top.
L
Walking exercised my Legs.
Gardening exercised all my Limbs!
Consider a recent disagreement. Did you extend forgiveness?
Yes.
I don't like being at odds with people.
M
Meandering around Bunnings.
Moving the Mattock.
Express creativity! I finished another version of my Project Plan!! That's as creative as I had a chance to be today.
N = Nowhere
I walked the stairs to nowhere and the road to nowhere.
If you are in line today, let someone go ahead of you. I do every now and then.
O - walking Rhody near home.
The next time someone does something you appreciate, let them know. I did today!
P - Perusing the shops today while it rained outside and Purchasing a few things.
Offer a helping hand to someone such as holding the door for a stranger. I do this now and then ... probably about once a week.
Q is for Queen.
My lunch walk was around the Queen's Domain!
Share about a recent book you read and what you learned.
The recent books I have read have been fictional mystery/suspense, and I have confirmed I like this genre for relaxation and stress relief.
R is for Rocks.
Hauling rocks. Placing rocks.
And walking Rhody.
Show sincere appreciation when someone serves you food or drink. I always thank my husband when he serves dinner.
S is for ... Sifting and Shovelling through Soil. Gardening ... I was gardening.
Compliment someone today. I didn't have a chance today because there was hardly anyone around.
T is for Target!
It was raining again today so I walked through the shops.
Where was I before I was swallowed up by work??
Feb 21 - When you recognise someone is struggling, offer words of support.
Frequently, with my husband
U - Another rainy day so I walked up and down through the shops.
Feb 22 - Ask for help. That's a simple way to express bravery
I frequently ask for help. I don't often get help, but I ask.
V - Vinnies!! I walked to Vinnies ... but didn't buy anything. 3.15 km plus commute walk.
Feb 23 - Encourage your teammates to utilise their unique strengths
Yes, and I thanked so many people today.
W - Walked!! 2 km plus commute walk.
Feb 24 - Reflect on steps you have taken to achieve past goals.
Somewhat appropriate for today.
In brief, I accomplish goals by writing them down and breaking them down into steps. Then I work my way through the steps.
X - marks the spot!
Spotted on my walk today!
Feb 25 - Express gratitude today by thanking someone.
Every day. And this week, I've thanked a lot of people! My husband for doing such a good job cleaning the house and doing garden work. So many people at work for giving me the opportunities and for being so warm and welcoming.
Feb 26 - Think about the upcoming work week. How can you apply teamwork?
By not being there?
Hopefully my husband and I will be able to apply teamwork.
In the alphabet exercise challenge I have Y and Z to go.
Yesterday could have been Y ... Y not go downstairs and row given that it is pouring rain! We'll see if another Y presents itself today.
Feb 27. Send or leave a handwritten thank you note to someone.
This rarely happens. Pretty much the only time I handwrite is when I'm quickly jotting notes at work.
Zipping around a local neighbourhood on our bicycles in a bit of a Zephyr!
Feb 28. Giving constructive feedback is one way to ignite honesty.
Machka in Oz
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I do have one day left, but I have completed the Strava walking challenge:
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Katla ~ How you log out of MFP may depend on what type of phone you have...an iphone or an android phone.
Carol in GA3 -
Katla ~ How you log out of MFP may depend on what type of phone you have...an iphone or an android phone.
Carol in GA
I was just going to say that. Machka’s photos aren’t from an iPhone. I believe from past messages that Katla uses an iPhone. I explained how to log out of the app on an iPhone a couple of days ago.
Okie in the TX Hill Country3 -
terewilliams wrote: »Lisa: Your saying I’m a strong woman made me feel tingly inside. I think you, more than many others. know that PTSD is not just caused from going to war. I have PTSD from growing up in a dysfunctional family. Many others have had other circumstances that have resulted in them having it as well. However, before I wax eloquently on that theme, I want you to encourage your daughter to participate in all the counseling the VA has to offer with or without her husband. I can’t tell you how much it helped me individually as well as us as a couple. If there are local veterans groups she may want to get involved with them as well. Sometimes it just helps to be able to tell someone “My husband acted like a nut last night.” PS, I think its great you know how to use a French Press!
Night Y'all!
Tere in Chester VA
Tere - All of us need to hear that truth from others in our lives, I think--we are all strong women, and the sharing and advice we give and get here supports that completely. I'm so glad you're back! I don't think I've ever looked at it as PTSD, but there is certainly an aspect of that which had me coping with my father's abuse by eating. A lot. Like a lot a lot. Part of my own self-administered therapy was simply talking about it, as well. I never hid that I was abused, or pushed it away and didn't deal with it. It always makes me laugh, though, that when I was in an Air Force technical school in Denver, I saw a psychiatrist for a bit, and she left me with one observation on my father's actions: "Normal people do not settle arguments with guns." Took me a lot of years to realize that bit of advice was from one person in the Air Force to another. By definition, the US Air Force has the biggest guns in the world, and that's how our country settles arguments. Irony to the nth degree, that.
Just info on my soldiers:My daughter and her husband are both active duty Army, she's a staff sergeant and her husband is, I think, a sergeant first class. When he transfers to Hawaii, he's moving into his new duty in the Inspector General's office. My daughter's job when she gets there is up in the air still, but she's been in hospital platoons all over the world, mostly in an administrative role. She also got her CNA last year, so has a wide range of possible positions she can fill. Just as an aside, I do not think the active duty Army addresses PTSD nearly as well as the VA does. They both have about five or six years left in an active capacity before retirement.
Rebecca, darlin', I'm so sorry that the stresses are simply escalating as your youngest son's ship comes closer to port. It may well be too late, don't know how close it is - but is it possible for you and your husband to meet his ship? I wish I had good advice for you, but all I have is many, many hugs. You are loved, my dear.
Apparently there was a tornado warning about midnight last night - I didn't hear my phone going off with the alert, but the wind noise woke me up. I just pushed Corey out of bed to close the window, as rain was coming in. We both went right back to sleep. My daughter called me at 7 a.m. to find out if we had any damage, and the alert showed on my phone when I picked it up. That's the first I knew of it...
Did some searching, and there were a few homes damaged in Oklahoma, but nothing near us that I could find.
I need to de-clutter my office/craft room today. There will be people in the house tomorrow to remove the old shower and put the tub and shower combo in. I am always uncomfortable when anyone is in my house other than my family, but hopefully, it will be reasonably quick. Not looking forward to that at all, but looking forward to Corey being able to take a bath when he chooses. I'm not a bath person - I do take them occasionally, but I end up having to shower afterward in order to feel clean. Baths kinda seem like people soup to me... Urk.
Hope everyone has a good week!
Love y'all,
Later,
Lisa in AR
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(((Beth)))0
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Morning ladies
Over with Miles,he is snoozing..once Tracy gets home ,I will go get Homer out and then run over to UPS to send the shoes back to Amazon. Will see how the rest of the day goes.. we are supposed to get 4-8 inches of snow first real snow we have gotten.. will see if Tracy will be working tomorrow.2 -
I use an iphone. I am confused about how to log out.
My son currently has my Apple Computer, an ancient laptop. It is not in my possession, so the iphone is it for now.
How do I use
myvt9vcrh
What happens next? (I am feeling dumb. How do I log out?)1 -
okiewoman510 wrote: »Katla ~ How you log out of MFP may depend on what type of phone you have...an iphone or an android phone.
Carol in GA
I was just going to say that. Machka’s photos aren’t from an iPhone. I believe from past messages that Katla uses an iPhone. I explained how to log out of the app on an iPhone a couple of days ago.
Okie in the TX Hill Country
True .. mine are from an Android.1 -
myvt9v4crh wrote: »I use an iphone. I am confused about how to log out.
My son currently has my Apple Computer, an ancient laptop. It is not in my possession, so the iphone is it for now.
How do I use
myvt9vcrh
What happens next? (I am feeling dumb. How do I log out?)
Follow Okie's instructions.
Don't feel bad.
Answering our questions helps.0 -
Today's events included gardening, cycling, planning a cycling route in Ride With GPS, and of course reading and colouring.
Hoping tomorrow will be something similar.
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Lisa and Margaret ... thank you for your understanding.
Fell off the IF wagon this past week and made some astoundingly poor food choices, so today is a new day to get back at my goals for a healthier lifestyle.
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myvt9v4crh wrote: »Pip—I don’t know how to log out. I am embarrassed.
Did u try following the instructions that people have given you?
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KetoneKaren wrote: »myvt9v4crh wrote: »I do not know how to log out.
Katla
OK, Katla, since you are on your phone, the first question is - are you using the MFP app? Do you click on an icon on your phone that looks like this?
Or are you using the search bar on a browser like Safari, Google, etc.?
If she doesn’t know how to log out, she probably doesn’t know what a browser bar or a search bar is either
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myvt9v4crh wrote: »I do not know how to log out.
Katla
U said u use an iPhone. So do I. Here is what I see.
When I clicked on the MFP app, I see this
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