WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2023

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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,097 Member
    Prayers sent for Destiny !!!
    I picked up Doris and took her to the chinese buffet i didn't go crazy one small plate and fruit afterwards
    But my back,legs and hips are screaming..they hurt slot.
    I just took some tylenol and I didn't sleep great last night going to Trudys for dinner,but just bringing something to drink,and to socialize
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,897 Member
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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,269 Member
    edited March 2023
    Happy Wednesday Ladies!

    Prayers for Destiny - that the surgery is successful and she can get complete healing after this chemo and have a long and happy life.

    Rita - glad your DH was Ok with selling his guns, great idea offloading things you aren't using anymore. Hope you get your asking price. Always good to have some spare cash!

    Barbie and Viv - Happy Birthday! I haven't celebrated mine (except to close family) for years. I'm eternally 50, lol.

    Barbara - glad you are enjoying the Breath book. I still don't nose breathe as much as I should but I'm more aware of it. What struck me was how the shape of our mouths develop when we mouth breathe instead of nose breathe as infants and youngsters.

    Heather - hope you feel better soon! I'm impressed by your strength and great physical shape. :)

    Annie
    - way to go with the ankle weights. :p

    Karen - so glad you have many opportunities for exercise at your new place. Wow. Who ever designed it did a lot of planning to keep the residents in good shape.

    I plugged the TV in this morning, selected YouTube and did some Tai Chi and Qi Gong. I'd forgotten how much I liked the instructor - Don Fiore - and how it helped with my balance and flexibility. I'd been sort of doing it in the mornings but watching an instructor was beneficial actually following someone, reminders about breathing, etc. Karen, I watched a bit more of the "Upright Health" channel too. I've only had the TV on maybe half a dozen times since DH passed last May.

    So it appears the squirrel problem in the shop attic might actually a bird problem. I think a sparrow has chosen to make a nest there, having found a vent hole that didn't have a good cover. I've set out 4 traps (3 live, 1 snap trap) and the only thing I've caught is one fat mouse in a small live trap. I'll give it a couple more days. My young friend Trev volunteered to go up in the shop attic next time he's here and check it out better and tack in some screen.

    The roofing contractor just left. I'll be getting moss removal on the house, shop and small shed roofs and prevention treatment. He estimated my current roof will last another 4 or 5 years. Next step will be getting new gutters. The current ones leak and look shoddy, they are nearly 30 years old. This will be another step in getting the place back in shape. Grateful I still have tax refund $$ to work from.

    The "kid" (I'm guessing early to mid 30's) who gave the quote was fun to talk to. He's into Dungeons and Dragons and a very personable young man. It was great leaning on his truck and having him tell me about the high points of his life, his hobbies, vacation plans, etc. I guess I'm easy to talk to, lol. My day is much better for having met him. <3

    After a morning of rainy overcast, the sun is out and things seem to be drying off rapidly. I hope to get another crack at using my push mower. Cardio, here we come, lol.

    Have a great evening!

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State


    Hello, I believe this is you that I received a mailed check donation??? If it was, I got it today, thanks sooooo much!!!!!!! I’m now up to $315!!!!!
    By the way, I LOVE LOVE LOVE your handwriting, mind sucks BIG time
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,034 Member


    Intentions for March:
    🔹Maintain weight < 140 (I have managed to stay at the lower end off the 140s)
    🔹Continue with Solid Habit development

    Intentions for today:
    📍Solid habits✔️
    📍general chores✔️
    📍Grocery shopping ✔️
    📍prep for art display tomorrow ✔️
    📍Prep for hospital ✔️


    Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for all those those who need them.

    🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

    ☘️ Terri

    March Action for Happiness:
    1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with awareness and kindness
    2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world.Trees silhouetted against the sky; the appearance of snowdrops in spring; the sound of waves breaking on the shore.
    3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive. I meditate on this each morning when I wake up, and am grateful for each new opportunity to have a good day.
    4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words. Positive affirmations are very powerful. Be kind to yourself, always.
    5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them. We chatted with our girls about other family members, and raised a glass to them.
    6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels. I will do this tomorrow (7th)
    7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day.Resisting the temptation to plan my day. Serendipity reigns today.
    8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and email of your food. ✔️
    9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others. I’m a great advocate of deep breathing, and find this works well.
    10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face.I wasn’t looking forward to going outside this morning as we had snow overnight and it seemed very cold. However, the sun shone in a clear blue sky, and the wind had dropped right down again, and I spent time with my eyes closed feeling the heat on my face before I went into the centre for Latin Study.
    11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee. Always! Gives me calm thinking time.
    12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying. When I tried to do this with DH this morning, he got distracted by a discussion on What the Papers Say on TV. 😝 However, we often have in-depth discussions, usually over lunc and dinner.
    13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today. The sun was valiantly trying to break through rain clouds just after sunrise, but the forecast is for heavy showers, but I’m watching the blue patches in hope that it clears up.
    14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do.Doing the task isn’t the problem 😝 It’s getting started that’s difficult. I sometimes put on my favourite music, or listen to a podcast.
    15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly. Having coffee after putting away the week’s groceries. There is pink blossom on my prunus purpurea, magnolia buds are beginning to colour up, tulips and daffodils in the containers outside the window are beginning to bloom. There are lots of little birds flitting about in the trees. Spring is doing its best to banish the winter cold. This is a regular joy in my life.
    16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity. I am preparing some paintings for a display of my Monday Painters work
    17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.Today it is more like autumn tha spring. There is a thick sea mist. My usual view of countryside is reduced to about 500 yards. Everything looks damp and grey.
    18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down. Took things slow and easy today. Planning to do the same tomorrow as it’s Mother’s Day in UK.
    19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are. My writing desk has a lovely view of the countryside beyond houses. And there are lots of bird life flying about amongst the trees in the neighbouring gardens..
    20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today. My writing, and my art always makes me happy, and sharing it with like-minded people makes them happy. That means that today was filled with focusing on what makes myself and others happy.
    21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else. ’Love Affair’ - Rainbow Valley. (NOW! That’s 60’s)Hubby came home and disturbed me 😝
    22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult. My prep for the art display next week is going well. Most members have already given pieces for display.
    23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them. I am fully in the moment, relaxing, and contemplating what I will have for breakfast, and how I will spend my day. DH has gone out for the day so I am free as a bird so to speak. (My natural bent is positivity. I choose to be happy in the moment. I acknowledge all my feelings, but on the rare occasions when I feel down, I choose to count my blessings, put in some music and dance.)
    24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do. I am grateful for all the pleasure I get from working with my hands at my art and crafts.
    25 Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted. Positive thoughts are so uplifting
    26. Choose to spend less times looking at screens today. Not easy, but I will refrain from being distracted, and succumbing to any unnecessary scrolling. Machka: Not much hope of getting into the garden here as it looks like the rain has settled in for the day.
    27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today. I am planning to distribute as many smiles as I can today.
    28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible. I have rests regularly. But I also get up and walk around often. When I’m tired I fall asleep easily.
    29. Choose a different route today and see what you notice. Not going out today.
    30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
    31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,291 Member
    edited March 2023
    Good evening ladies!

    My dad had a severe leg muscle cramp this morning. I was able to get him to the family practice doctor this afternoon and she thinks it was his compression stockings getting twisted while he was napping. So no real problems in the end.

    We got halfway to the doctor before I realized I was wearing my slippers. Oh well. I missed best-dressed by a mile a long time ago.

    I ate a lot today and I have not yet begun to exercise. I've done this before, where I lose a couple pounds and think "that's good enough." So my effort slacks off. But not this time! I owe it to my future self to keep going!

    I'm a little afraid of the sciatica. At least I called the doctor and made an appointment for it. April 12. So I've got a ways to go to figure this out.

    Have a great day everyone!

    Annie in Delaware
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,034 Member
    Prayers for Destiny - that the surgery is successful and she can get complete healing after this chemo and have a long and happy life.

    Heather: I hope you have recovered from your outing. (((Hugs)))
  • sh0tzz99
    sh0tzz99 Posts: 971 Member
    Destiny is a strong person. I'm not sure I could make the decisions she has made.

    Machka-Sorry you had a terrible, no good, very bad day. Hope the next one is much better.

    Annie-You've been doing so well! Don't give up!

    It's raining again. I don't mind much, as long as it stops before I need to drive in it.

    Tina in CA
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,659 Member

    Hello, I believe this is you that I received a mailed check donation??? If it was, I got it today, thanks sooooo much!!!!!!! I’m now up to $315!!!!!
    By the way, I LOVE LOVE LOVE your handwriting, mind sucks BIG time


    Pip - well l did mail you a check, but my handwriting is AWFUL!!! :D

    Way to go on the fundraising! Maybe you'll outdo last year <3:p

    Lanette B)

  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,659 Member
    Just got a call from my consultant. I am going into hospital on Friday (possibly for a week). 😱

    Intentions for March:
    🔹Maintain weight < 140 (I have managed to stay at the lower end off the 140s)
    🔹Continue with Solid Habit development

    Intentions for today:
    📍Solid habits
    📍general chores
    📍Grocery shopping
    📍Prep for hospital


    Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for all those those who need them.

    🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

    ☘️ Terri


    Terri - wishing you all the best at the hospital. Crossing fingers you'll get fixed up and can enjoy the rest of spring being as active as you want to be. Will you be on "light duty" (such as no lifting over 10 lbs or similar) for a while?

    Lanette

  • ginnytez
    ginnytez Posts: 1,404 Member
    Mary-I haven't used Frankincense for cognitive function but have mixed with cerave to rub on my arthritic feet. It is supposed to help inflammation. It does provide some relief (I change off what I use so my body doesn't get overly used to one thing.

    Machka-nice little adventure you had.

    Heather-glad you could make it home safely-dizziness is scary. I have had it since Covid but it does seem to be improving.

    Terri-good luck with your procedure. I believe it is some sort of female procedure (since you mention your gynecologist appointments). Happy, successful healing. You will do better since you are I good shape.

    Barbara-I know the driving comment was in reference to the challenge, but I frequently change my routes to keep my mind fresh. Children are our legacy. Many children in every community just need someone who believes in them.

    Debbie-Destiny looks confident and strong. Prayers.

    Rosemarie-I agree with Lanette-I think my husband know. And I still have conversations with him. It helps me to hear what I am thinking (I only do that when alone!)

    Long, busy day. Pinwheel planting went well. Multiple meetings. On phone with and issue with multiple people til nearly 8. Ready for bed now. Start tomorrow with 8 am meeting then maybe get some actual work done!

    Take care all,

    Ginny in Ohio

  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,291 Member
    Good evening ladies!

    Well I ate 1508 calories today. I made sure to eat my diet food, but then on impulse I kept going. But I did exercise it off, for a deficit of 48. Yay for that part!

    Annie in Delaware
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,897 Member
    Just got a call from my consultant. I am going into hospital on Friday (possibly for a week). 😱 Terri

    Will be thinking of you, Terri. A week is a little scary, reach out to us when you can. I will keep you in my thoughts.

    Machka -
    It reminded me of one of my favorite funny men's quotes:
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    Bless your heart, that was an attack of the bad week if there ever was... I'm glad things seemed to have improved since then.

    Bedtime,
    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,046 Member
    <3
  • Rosemarie2972
    Rosemarie2972 Posts: 493 Member
    Grandmallie: I am sorry Carmine is suffering so and have a difficult adolescence. Teenage depression and gender issues are not my area of expertise.

    But I was wondering if Carmine is seeing a child psychiatrist as well as a counsellor?

    You said the pediatrician ordered the Celexa. Wouldn't a child psychiatrist be the one to order this medication?

    I was also wondering if Carmine has a good relationship with the counsellor. Would Carmine prefer to see someone else?

    Just thoughts,

    Best,
    Rosemarie
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,097 Member
    Tracy is hell bent on sending him anywhere but Portland.Right now he cant handle the academics he has.and thats only 1/2 the time.. he picked Carpentry as what he wanted now he hates Carpentry.Tracy has reached out to the school and Carmine can stay after for extra help on Tuesday's, but doesn't.
    He wouldn't do any better at Portland,its just a different change is all
    Rosemarie- they have no mental health coverage so Tracy is paying out of pocket every other week 100.00 for counseling ..she works part time ,and Kyles pay basically keeps them going
    So..i just hope and pray everyday that he pulls through this.



  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,611 Member
    Tracy is hell bent on sending him anywhere but Portland.Right now he cant handle the academics he has.and thats only 1/2 the time.. he picked Carpentry as what he wanted now he hates Carpentry.Tracy has reached out to the school and Carmine can stay after for extra help on Tuesday's, but doesn't.
    He wouldn't do any better at Portland,its just a different change is all
    Rosemarie- they have no mental health coverage so Tracy is paying out of pocket every other week 100.00 for counseling ..she works part time ,and Kyles pay basically keeps them going
    So..i just hope and pray everyday that he pulls through this.

    Is Carmine's real father out of the picture? Sometimes when kids live with the other parent, things go smoother.

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,611 Member
    kevrit wrote: »
    I am doing this Happiness calendar for March. Feel free to copy or simply use it if you’d like!

    March, 2023 Action for happiness.org
    RVRita
    1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with more awareness and kindness every day.
    2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world.

    Sky, sand and ocean
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    3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive.

    Yesterday's 54 km bicycle ride and 5 km walk on the beach ...

    4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words.

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    5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them.

    :heart:

    6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels.

    The only plans we had yesterday was a stroll through a neighbouring arty town to look at the shops.

    7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day.

    I do box breathing at some point just about every day.

    8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and smell of your food.
    :)

    9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others.
    Many times.

    10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face.

    Afternoon walk ...

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    11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee.

    Not so much today. But usually. :)

    12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying.

    Haven't talked to anyone other than husband today.

    13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today.

    Love watching the sky. :) Our house is especially well located for that, and at certain times of year, we get fantastic sunsets!

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    14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do.

    Laundry! I don't mind doing laundry. :)

    15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly.

    That's about all I can do today. I haven't done anything which requires effort.

    I looked up the vaccine I had yesterday. Boostrix: diphtheria-tetanus-acellular pertussis (whooping cough). I am set for 10 years!

    But headache, tiredness, body aches, sore joints and nausea are common side effects ... which I am experiencing.

    My doctor also informed me that the antibiotic "cocktail" I've been prescribed will make me feel ill and give me a horrible taste in my mouth. But it is only for 5 days and should do the trick.

    16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity.

    I've been colouring these days because I'm not allowed to do much more. Fortunately, I enjoy colouring. :)

    I've also been putting away laundry and rearranging a closet.

    17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.

    The place is slightly neater and cleaner than usual. That's both unusual and pleasant. February was major house-cleaning month, then we went on holidays so the place is still clean.

    I'm at home, surrounded by things I like.

    There are photos I have taken recently showing on my second computer screen.

    18. Have a 'no plans' day and notice how that feels or If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.

    Today, I casually worked my way through part of the garden, catching up on some of the weeding.
    And we went for a short 10 km bicycle ride.
    And I've been colouring. :)

    19. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
    :heart:

    20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.

    Walking - 3.57 km
    Cycling - 10.27 km
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    21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.

    I have music on all day. Most times I'm doing things, sometimes I'm not.

    More cycling today ...
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    22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.

    I was warmly welcomed back!!

    And immediately swamped with work! It's going to be a challenge but it's nice to have a certain degree of freedom - autonomy!

    23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.

    So many feelings.

    I've just started this new job so there is excitement and nerves going on.

    And it is the 5th anniversary of my husband's accident. I cried a while last night.

    24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.

    Especially typing!
    But I am appreciating getting my left hand back now that it is healed from the bite. I'm mixed-handed or cross-dominant, so I use my left hand a lot and miss it when it's out of action.

    25. Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.

    Being able to move, climb, carry, walk, shovel, squat (to pull weeds) and of course ride my bicycle!
    Granted, I am a little bit stiff from doing some of that yesterday for the first time in a while, but I can still do those things. :)

    26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.

    No worries! I'm heading out to the garden shortly!

    27. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.

    Absolutely! So much to appreciate. :)
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    28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.

    So tired.
    No breaks for a little while.
    Maybe on the weekend.


    29. Choose a different route today and see what you notice.

    Took a different route home yesterday. Noticed that it took way longer than normal.

    Took a different route back to work from Radiology today by getting on the wrong bus. Noticed I was late back to work after lunch.


    30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.

    I feel exhausted and frustrated and frazzled and completely disorganised.


    32. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.

    Machka in Oz
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,712 Member
    edited March 2023
    Big hugs Machka. <3 All the big legal stuff you are dealing with and your worries about the future must be taking it out of both of you. Plus the stress of starting a new, more responsible job.

    I'm in the process of recovering from yesterday. Feeling better, but I'm not myself. I have taken a very rare day off exercising. I'm ready now for the Zoom session starting soon. I've updated my laptop, because I normally do it with my friends on my tablet, because there are only four of us. This will be a bigger group, I'm guessing.
    My friend G got home and spent most of the next 15 hours asleep. She is exhausted from her intensive therapy, including EMDR. (Which i actually think is great).We need to be very kind to ourselves. No one is superhuman. If we don't listen to ourselves, our bodies will tell us, again and again, until it truly breaks. <3 Our culture and upbringing tells us that we need to keep going. But we are not designed for endless stress. We need rest and recuperation.

    OK. Now to find my Zoom room! :p

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,702 Member
    Healing thoughts and prayers for all suffering physically and/or mentally!

    Drive to Detroit was pleasant. There is no change in DH's eye, so that is good. Drive home was not as pleasant. Rain/snow and high winds for first hour , then rain and high winds for next hour and a half, then just high winds the last hour. Cereal for dinner- oh well. Then the alarm was triggered at work, so left for that. SIL was already there. Apparently the police called her, while the alarm company called us. I would have been totally confused if we had gotten there 3 minutes later! Really not sure how that all went down. The alarm company is usually the only one that calls, and they call us. Why don't the police call her at 2 am! Who knows........

    Got my heart monitor results in. It did catch a tachycardia event from what I understand from the report. Funny thing is that shortly after I got the report, they moved my electrical heart doctor appointment up by a week. I now go next Wednesday instead of the 12th. Wait and see......

    Meeting furnace folks tomorrow. We have a faulty part on ours which is causing it to leak in the utility room. That part is no longer available. Supposedly our unit, Lennox, has a lifetime warranty. We have been informed that if we can't get the part to fix this one which is at least 20 years old, then we can purchase a new unit for half price. That was a bit of good news. We need a new water softener, but I reckon that may wait a little longer. I just have to keep rejuvenating it manually.

    Happy Birthdays to late March ladies!
    Thank you for the tips on getting up and down. Still doing well in those areas, but nice to keep doing well!

    I so want to play hookie again today, but know that I can't. I think I will try to coax this day quietly so that it doesn't bite back. ;)

    <3
    Kylia in Ohio
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Irish Terri, Holding you in my heart as you prepare to enter hospital.

    Karen in Virginia
  • teklawa1
    teklawa1 Posts: 678 Member
    Machka thinking of you.

    Debbie, prayers for Destiny.

    (((Terri)))

    Kylia, nice your appointment is moved up and you'll get information sooner. Your drive didn't sound like much fun. Glad you made it safely.

    Katla, I love my library card!! I use it for ebooks but also go to the library often just to browse.

    I went tent camping this weekend and woke up to snow and put my head back in the sleeping bag and slept. I enjoyed being out but sure felt good to come home to my warm house and comfy bed.

    Betsy in NW WA

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,712 Member
    Zoom went well. I enjoyed seeing all the other folks on it, though clearly a couple of them had difficult lives, looking after adult children or others with mental health problems. The level of the presentation was very basic, about how to increase your health and happiness, the kind of thing we talk about all the time. I think a few people got some good ideas out if it.
    I have to fill in a survey tomorrow as a follow up. My takeaway is to make another effort to drink less alcohol. It might help my sleep as well.

    Painting this afternoon. I'm going to sit at the table for DH'S benefit. Don't know how much I will get done, but I have an idea for a picture.

    My take on health is, once you have dealt with the very basics (which not everyone finds easy), two very important things to consider are codependency and boundaries. There are loads of good books on those subjects. I am still learning all the time. :)

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx