WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR APRIL 2023
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Good morning ladies!
Tracey - you've been on my mind a lot lately. I once had a boss that was similar and ended up quitting a job I really liked. I spent a lot of time documenting, it was more therapy for me than anything. As Ginny said, these notes can be discoverable and I didn't care. Anyhow, I knew I was going to quit the job and for several months before I did it, DH and I squirreled away as much $$ as we could to bump up the bank account cushion. Keep sending out those job applications. I feel certain there's a business that's looking for someone like you as much as you are looking for them.
There are some good female bosses, but overall I generally prefer to work for males. The male boss referenced above that was a jerk was a retired Army "bird" colonel. He knew diddly about running a 911 center and was depending on his lacky who was a gossiping snipe for education about it. I had no time for this BS and would confront him and let him know this lackey wasn't doing him any favors. After I left, he got fired and his lackey moved on to private industry and I'm sure reached his level of incompetence there, lol.
But hey, in a sense I was ready to move on anyhow and fell into some neat adventures. So it all worked out.
Karen - I love reading about your life. So many interesting activities and people. Glad to hear your spouse is improving.
Tina and others - what are the foot problems you are dealing with? Mainly mechanical? Mine also really bug me at times. Arthritis in toes on one foot, metatarsalgia on the other, both feet pain in the toes, must be some neuropathy. Hot feet at night, hard to sleep. I know there's some athlete's foot going on at times. I change to different shoes throughout the day which seems to help. I really want to go barefoot in clean white beach sand for a month.
Barbara - have you solved your "going" problem? I rarely have trouble - I eat a lot of healthy fats and have added 1/2 c of pomegranite juice each day. Yes it's high in calories but creates mucous in the gut which the good microbes absolutely love. And I think helps make things slippery/slidey down there. Also I eat an apple every day. In the past when things slowed down I'd drink a cup of Traditional Medicinals "Smooth Move" tea.
As Barbie mentioned, we've had great weather to get outside jobs done. And I've been going at it.
Machka - thank you for the reminder about getting exercise from everyday activities. I think I got more exercise yesterday carrying a moving heavy things than I could ever get in a gym. It did get too blasted hot in the afternoon and I turned on the A/C and took a lot of breaks. Even the chickens were panting.
The chickens remain in their coop until I come out and talk to them, then they rush out and start scratching around and doing their chickie stuff. Last night at around 6:30, the sun went behind the trees and they were in the shade, so I brought out a lawn chair and Rosie sat in my lap and we just watched them for a while. It was great, took me back to the farm. They weren't exactly lambs frolicking but still fulfilled a part of my life that I'd been missing.
Virgin River - I just finished the first book and have a few more in the series downloaded on Kindle. Loved it! I must say, the "bodice ripper" novels have really advanced,
. OOh lala! Cold shower time. I've decided I need a 60 year old boyfriend like Jack who likes to build stuff and would worship me. Not sure where I'll find him tho, since I only go to the Walmart and hang around the feed store. Ya never know....
The sun will soon be coming up and I'll open the chicken coop door. On today's agenda: more weed eating, moving the big mower out of the shop and pulling trash out, planning for my container garden, potting up some tiny lettuce and kale plants... I absolutely love being busy.
So, make it a fabulous weekend!
Lanette
Sunny SW WA State
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We bought our house with a low maintenance yard because we wanted to be able to mess about in the yard but notbe overwhelmed by it. It has served us well. There has always been just enough to do to keep me busy for an hour or two a day in the warmer weather without getting out of control. Working in the yard is a hobby not a chore and I love it. Thanks to Jake's new cardiologist, cardiac rehab, and some new (expensive) meds, he has a lot more energy and has been coming outside with me and doing projects on his own, We agreed to work on separate projects because I am so fussy about how I want things done, that no one could help me to my satisfaction, He needs to rest more than I do, so he brings out a chair and will sit near me and talk for a few minutes while he rests and I work. Naturally that bring comments from neighbors who are walking by who ask if he is the supervisor. I decided to change to a new pattern for a blanket to knit for Project Linus. I am taking my time getting acquainted with it so when I start it will go smoothly. Just like the yard work, I like that what I'm doing is a process not a chore that needs to be completed with a deadline. I knit while riding my recumbent exercise bike and watching TV or while attending a meeting on Zoom.
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ART IN BLOOM
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From Art in Bloom...The art piece was made from all recycled materials. The florist used all recycled materials in her piece. She is her friend went on a scavenger hunt to find the right pieces for their arrangement. Someone from next door neighbor supplied the grapevine wreathe. She loved how it twined together like the people hugging in the art work. Her brother created the wood mosaic in the background from scrap pieces.
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This is the florist of the piece I already posted. She said she participates in honor of her mother. Her mother loved coming to this event. As I said in another post she explained where she and her friend found the pieces she used and why. Again the wooden background was made by her brother the wooden platform was to represent cobblestones. I said it fits in with the wood floor of the art institute. Love when we get to hear from the florist and hear their creative process❣️
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Saturday --
Just spent 2.5 hours in the garden!
Digging and hacking with mattock, hoe and shovel.
Weeding.
Watering with water can - carrying it back and forth up into the higher parts of the yard.
And planting 2 new hydrangeas.
I have a feeling I'll be stiff tomorrow.
But it was a beautiful autumn day and I'm so glad I could spend time outside.
Machka in Oz
This is the garden bed I'm working on now.
I dug out the purple-flower weed plant, whatever it was (most likely Prunella vulgaris/Self Heal: https://www.herbcottage.com.au/products/self-heal). Some of it, I moved into other locations around the yard because the bees really liked it and I need something good at spreading for those areas. Whatever this stuff was had really good roots. I'm sure it's a root spreader but the flowers make me think it might also spread by seed as well and the article I linked to above indicates it is. It does appear to need lots of water, which explains why it did so well where it was. It's really muddy there. So I am going to have to be sure to water it more in the various places it is now.
Then my husband and I moved one hydrangea over because they were getting crowded off to the left.
And I planted 2 new hydrangeas.
The hydrangeas seem to do well down in that corner and not many weeds grow up around them.
The low green patch is, I think, a daisy of some sort ... I have to check my plant identification.
I need to plant 4 native bushes and think that I want to move the carnations to do that. So now I need to look up carnations and see what is involved in moving them.
I'd like bushes all along that fence because I think that would be easier to take care of.
Machka in Oz7 -
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Morning ladies
It takes me most of Saturday to recoup from taking care of the wild child during the week..
KJ - the day of the closing on my parents house.I had to do a walk through.I was alone,wish I had Sean with me but I took pictures of every room and stood there for awhile remembering all the wonderful times we had in this house.It was a real tough day...
Kim- All I can say is God Bless you.. its a rough road to hoe,but you got this..
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Margaret ~ The combination of art and floral arrangements is very interesting. I really like the first one as the floral arrangement looks like it was especially made for the art it represented.
Tracey ~ I have read all the comments/advice that have been posted regarding your boss. It does seem to me that she is incapable of owning up to her own mistakes and maybe it is time for HER to leave. Her power over you and those who have already left under her is despicable.
Lanette ~ When you let the chickens out of the pen to free range, how do you get them back in? My dad got us chickens once and it was my job to give them food in the chicken house. They would all run at me and throw the food in was what I did. They didn't last long as I guess it was decided I wasn't being a good care taker.
Heather ~ I am constantly having to look up the meals you are serving. It's wonderful that you have so many sea foods available to you. I follow the page on Show Me Your Pictures un Recipes here, and, I am constantly having to look up the foods they picture.
Going to grand son's baseball game today. So glad to have somewhere to go as I stay in the house way too much! I have done better with my inside walking this week and I am proud of that.
Carol in GA
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Hi, I’m returning to myfitnesspal after a few years hiatus. Turning 50 this year and needing help to keep the menopausal weight under control. I’m hoping this app will help me reach my goals through community, accountability, and some much needed advice. Looking forward to making new friends along the way.7
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Hello @LC4608
Welcome! We are a friendly chatty bunch. Feel free to respond to whatever you choose. We avoid religion and politics. We have women in all stages of weight loss, with many different challenges.
On the first day of each month, Barbie starts a new thread for us, so watch for that. And if you sign your posts with a name and a general location, it helps us remember everyone.
So welcome again, and we look forward to chatting with you!
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Carol, Way to go on the walking. You should be proud! It’s hard to break out of old habits and establish new ones. Have a great time at your grandson’s ball game!
Machka, That garden bed looks really nice!
Lanette, I hope you find your 60 year old guy! He’d be a lucky fella.
Margaret, Love Art in Bloom. Thanks for posting.
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Today I am just puttering, catching up on chores and going to Costco. I’ll check on my pottery piece at some point. Maybe I’ll get in the pool for awhile.
This evening we will pick up meals from the Bistro and walk over to the cottage of our friends Tom & Dolly. We will have a pleasant meal on the screened-in porch looking out to the woods, listening to the birds as the sun sets.
Dolly was one of my professors, we discovered, and she is curious and well-read. Tom is a man who truly likes women. Plus he’s really smart and has had a brilliant, interesting life. Both of them are excellent conversationalists.
I love having conversation with people who don’t talk over other people. These people are very interested in what other people have to say. And they have such interesting thoughts and ideas. It will be a fun evening.
Karen in Virginia
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Tracey - One of the things that I learned in a writing class, oddly enough, is that the villain of the story, no matter how awful they are, truly believes they're the hero. I've found it to be true in real life with most people who are horrible to work for or with. They construct their own story on how they are just trying to make people better. The fact that they're making those around them miserable just means to them that their actions are working, like nasty tasting medicine, or the song, "Cruel to be Kind." They also, almost without exception, feel they are completely misunderstood. I always found it completely fascinating how much energy these folks spend on being awful. It actually takes so much less effort and strength to be a decent human being. Unfortunately, also in my experience, they do not change. Keep applying to other jobs, dear heart. We're here, in your pocket.
Worst boss story:My own worst bosses interactions (I worked remotely) left me literally on the floor, in the fetal position, sobbing because I could not do anything that ever pleased that woman, no matter how much I acceded to her demands. I was making six figures, I had 14 people from all over the globe working for me, many of whom gave me incredibly good reviews on Linked In, but the vast majority of my days was spent protecting them from her, or trying in vain to protect myself from her toxicity, and she very nearly wrecked me. I clung by my fingernails to that job until the inevitable layoffs and got a good package on my way out. It took me nearly two years to get over her poison.
Rori - Always good to see you! That smile blazes off the computer screen. Love seeing you loving your life.
Margaret - Love the Art in Bloom photos every year... I especially liked the polka dot one. Absolutely lovely.
Machka - Happy anniversary to being an Aussie, and to finding your way to cycling as your great love! Someone needs to tell my husband that when he sees a number of cyclists on the roadside, that "It's a biker gang!" was only funny once...
Supposed to be cloudy this morning and sunny this afternoon--and a look at the ten-day forecast shows this all the way through next Friday. I got my five pounds of clover seed in, and I'd like to spread them out now, but they need watering for days after, so I think I'll wait until the following week, when there's supposed to be rain for three days. Clover is supposed to choke out the weeds and grass and provide for the bees, as well as be beautiful. Right now, we're growing a heck of a crop of weeds and wild onions. Neither one of us cares about having a lawn, so we'll see how clover works in this climate. Should be interesting.
Guilty pleasures - I have been streaming the first season of "Why Women Kill," a dark comedy-drama on CBS All Access. I started it at the beginning of the week, and got so involved in it that I had to watch the last three episodes of that season last night. It is weirdly hilarious, and kept my attention, not always easy to do. If you remember the series "Soap" many years ago, it reminds me of that while sprinkling a lot more murders (always well-deserved) into the mix. I stayed up until 11 pm watching, something I haven't done in years, and then slept until 8 a.m. There's only one more season, but I plan to enjoy it.
Off to the races, dear hearts,
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
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April 2023 Action for Happiness
Word of the year: Appreciate : today I appreciate hearing kids having a good time laughing.28. Meet a friend outside for a walk and a chat. Not sure about the walk, way too windy, but I will chat outside with a friend.
Exercise goals added
Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week 11/15(100%,100%,80%)
Walk 7,000 every day 26/30 (84%,86%,94%)
6 min HIIT -2x a day start April 1 28/60
Arm weights twice a week 5/10 (100%, 60%hurt my elbow, hurt my shoulder 30%)
Meditation: daily. 28/30 (82%(started Feb)94%)
PT— head. 5/17. Started 4/13/23
Hands 19/17
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 9/8–(100%,100%,0%)
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 9867, 9491,10170, 8706, (7,700,100%-9851,100%—9526,100%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 6/2 —(100%,100%,100%,100%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 35/208/ —(100%,100%,100%)should be 68 by May 1.
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)35/94 (100%,100%,100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4 (100%,100%,100%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 27/20-(100%,88%,100)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 17/12 (100%,100%,100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR——4/12—(100%.100%,100%,100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25(100%,100%,100%,100%)
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings (100%)
Decided that if I do more than stated I will not grade higher than 100% 2/5/23
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met
May met
June met
July met — met
August met
September met
October met —
November met—
December met—
ACTIVE APRIL
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Commit to being more active this month starting today. I commit to this by adding the exercises from the 6 minute book for over 60’s.
2. Spend as much time as possible outdoors today. Easy! LOL
3. Listen to your body and be grateful for what it can do. I do this during walking meditations every day.
4. Eat healthy and natural food today and drinks lots of water. Yogurt and raspberries for breakfast with 17 oz water bottle and coffee, more to come.
5. Turn a regular activity into a playful game today. Not sure. Joked with hairdresser while getting hair cut. Everyone was laughing and joining in.
6. Do a body-scan meditation and really notice how your body feels. I do this often in my meditations.
7. Get natural light early in the day. Dim the lights in the evening. Morning done. Will do in evening.
8. give your body a boost by laughing or making someone laugh. I will as soon as I can! Did this with friends.
9. Turn your housework or chores into a fun form of exercise. Hmmmm tbd
10. Have a day with less screen time and more movement. I’ll try.
11. Set yourself an exercise goal or sign up to an activity challenge. Already have goals: Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week, Walk 7,000 every day, 6 min HIIT -2x a day, Arm weights twice a week
12. Move as much as possible, even if you’re stuck inside. I will do. Vet this morning then normal day, so will be able to do this.
13. Make sleep a priority and go to bed in good time. Easy Peasy!
14. Relax your body & mind with yoga, tai chi or meditation. I will meditate and try to find time for yoga too. I did all I wanted to do.
15. Get active by singing today (even if you think you can’t sing). I can’t sing but will sing along with music anyway. Sang “When the ants go marching in” during my walk.
16. Go exploring around your local area and notice new things. OOOH, this sounds like fun.
17. Be active outside. Dig up weeds or plant some seeds. I will tend my container garden. I have watered it but need to remove dead leaves from tomato plants.
18. Try a new online exercise, activity or dance class. Not sure if I will have time today. Did not have time today.
19. Spend less time sitting today. Get up and move more often. After the last 2 days, this is a welcome change!
20. Focus on eating ‘a rainbow of multi-colored vegetables today. I did that on Tuesday but will try again today.
21. Regularly pause to stretch and breathe during the day. Ahhhhh. But forgot to do it.
22. Enjoy moving to your favorite music. Really go for it. Going to try to remember to do this. Forgot.
23. Go out and do an errand for a loved one or neighbor. I do this every day in my hosting.
24. Get active in nature. Feed the birds or go wild-life spotting. Will do! I love doing this.
25. Have a ‘no screens’ night and take time to recharge yourself. Did this
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Rita - Many hugs. I'm glad you're working with a mental-health professional, and hope your son is getting the help he needs before he gets to the meltdown stage. I'm so sorry about Brownie--they bring so much to our lives, these four-footed fur babies, it hardly seems fair that they are with us for such a short time. I know you'll make the most of the time you have her. No apologizing for the "pity party"... you know that most of us bring our pain here. It's that hard-to-find place we had always hoped for without judgment, just support, which you've got here in great measure.
Rebecca - Love your food descriptions, always.
Beth - Wish I had some advice--the wild onions have taken over here, one of the reasons I'm overseeding with red clover, but it's all in grassy areas. The only luck I've had in the gravel areas is weed killer, or just yanking them up by the roots. I'm more and more reluctant to use chemicals on anything.
Had one of those wonderful phone calls with my sister yesterday--ones where you know the conversation could only be had with a sibling, the person who's known you all your life, who you've fought and hugged and stood up for and stabbed with a pencil (she deserved it). We seem to go through phases--couldn't stay in the same room with each other without fighting until we were in our 30s, and now in our 60s, we find that we love each other and the things that drive us crazy about the other one just fall away because they no longer matter. Wonder what will happen in our 90s?
Sun's out - time to find my gloves and go make a desultory pass at weeding some of the flower beds. It rained three days straight, so I'm sure they're quite weedy.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
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Barbara ... saw this article and thought of you. Probably not real helpful at this current "impasse" but maybe for regularity in the future! If nothing else, they look like good snack options. https://www.eatingwell.com/gallery/7677400/snacks-to-help-keep-you-regular/?hid=f37c62f021fee43484e447883d096cd3610d95f5&did=8943397-20230429&utm_campaign=daily-nosh_newsletter&utm_source=etg&utm_medium=email&utm_content=042923&lctg=f37c62f021fee43484e447883d096cd3610d95f5
Ohh ... edited to add further info from this newsletter ... https://www.eatingwell.com/article/8043452/olive-oil-coffee-help-you-poop/?hid=f37c62f021fee43484e447883d096cd3610d95f5&did=8943397-20230429&utm_campaign=daily-nosh_newsletter&utm_source=etg&utm_medium=email&utm_content=042923&lctg=f37c62f021fee43484e447883d096cd3610d95f5
And this ...
https://www.eatingwell.com/article/8014089/best-carbs-to-help-you-poop/?hid=f37c62f021fee43484e447883d096cd3610d95f5&did=8943397-20230429&utm_campaign=daily-nosh_newsletter&utm_source=etg&utm_medium=email&utm_content=042923&lctg=f37c62f021fee43484e447883d096cd3610d95f5
Interesting the use of the word p**p ... my mother would never let me say that!
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Worked on my front yard weed and rock project for an hour in the morning and another hour in the afternoon. Making good progress and enjoying the nice weather. Jake worked on weeds in the back. Bessie took a nap Barbie in NW WA 4
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Rita-prayers! So much at once.
I've just been slowly sorting some things and organizing. Got a second walk in this afternoon so I have a bit over 3 miles of work out walk and another 1.5 of general wandering around the house so I should have 5 miles total movement for the day.
Going to get dishwasher going since dinner is over.
Enjoy the evening,
Ginny in Ohio3 -
Rita: Sorry you are in a funk. I hope your son gets disability and onto the right medications. So sad about Brownie.
I admire your continuing to walk when your feeling so down! You are an inspiration to me in that regard!
LC4608: Welcome
Carol: I hope you enjoy your grandson's ball game! We watched a lot of baseball and tennis while John was growing up.
Machka: I admire you keeping the cycling log all these years! I start journals and logs but don't keep them up. I am glad you were able to play with your granddaughter recently.
Ginny: Do you have thyroid cancer? I have a nodule and had a biopsy 4 years ago that was inconclusive and another one recently that was inconclusive. They are going to monitor 1x a year. It is worrisome.
Kylia: Glad you got some cleaning done.
Tracey: What a pain having to look for a job and what a stressful situation. I admire your going into work each day.
I know how difficult it must be. Hang in there. I am thinking about you!
Debbie: I hope you got some gardening in.
Karen: Love the bowl! Love all the activities!
Lanette: You sound busy with cleaning!
Grandmallie: The canvas top to the swing on my deck is torn from the wind. I ordered another top...just polyester but need to figure out how to attach it.
Heather: Glad DH is improving. Edie did a great job with the flowers! What day is the coronation?
Flea: I hope whatever job you take works out! It is nice to have options!
Annie: I hope your computer is working better!
I am sitting here listening to Tom Petty music and it is quite enjoyable. I didn't want to drive today and have spent the day inside. I spoke with a grief counsellor this morning and watched a nephew's graduation on streaming. I also sorted and watered my plants and new dogwood tree. I watched PBS's Catherine the Great and SeaSide Hotel. In between it all I cried and missed my husband. My new reality includes crying jags and I think it might be a year before these subside.
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia
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a gardener's comment on wild onion, - YUCK. pull pull pull, but you have to get the bulb out and it makes "baby bulbs" so the ideal way is to shovel up the soil, and put it through a 1/8 inch sieve and that should make the biggest dent.
smiles Kim
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Stats for the day-
Walk w/family- 1hr 58min 26sec, 3.12ap, 83elev, 85ahr, 111mhr, 6.17mi= 593c
Strava app = 756c
Zwift home spin bike- strava stats- 45.40min, 279elev, 124aw, 19.8amph, 25gear, 110ahr, 131mhr, 15.09mi= 341c
Strava app= 325c
Zwift stats- 45.42min, 281elev, 124aw, 61arpm, 19.82amph, 15.1mi= 325c
Total cal 934
Well went to go see mom since my last visit, 1/1. I let her know how I felt. My sis and one of my brothers was there for support. It’s as good as it gets. You can’t expect much from someone who doesn’t think she ever did anything wrong.10 -
Pip - Glad you got the chance to say what you needed to say, and with the support of your sister and brother.3
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