WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2023

GodMomKim

Hi Gals,

I am excited to report a good week here….

About a week ago I hit my breaking point with my mom and told her she had to be more thankful for all that was being done for her and all that was going right, for about 30 minutes I rattled off all that was good, all she had to be thankful for and told her how fed up I was with only hearing thank you 3 times in 26 days (who’s counting -LOL) She sputtered about and did some denial, but has straightened up and I am hearing thank you and I appreciate …… I truly think at first it was an act to shut me up but I did not care it made me feel better, and now that she has done it for 6 + days it is beginning to sound more sincere. WIN!

Some of you will remember that during the height of the pandemic I took in a young man I worked with (the ending of his job ended his housing, as housing was a perk of the job) we lived together for 9 months and both really enjoyed it, we did a lot of cooking together and I also got to know his girlfriend.

They moved in together in 2021. They are getting married September 30. Well this Monday they took me out to dinner, I thought just to get me out of the house and away from Mom as they know how hard this is. But it turns out that they wanted me to officiate at their wedding. I have never done this and in fact have never even thought of who does this or how someone was picked…. Just never crossed my mind. I was/am so honored and of course have said yes, so now it is figuring out the ins and outs of the rules, what to wear, what to say…. But so nice to have something positive to think about!

Smiles,
Kim in N. California

LisaInArkansas

Tracey, dear heart - Truly, as said already, no one should be crying for an hour at work just to survive their day. My heart just aches for you. We all want to come up with a solution for you, because every one of us knows that feeling of despair in a situation where we feel helpless to change what's happening. What does Rodger say about all this? Are you able to get time with a therapist perhaps to be able to spill some of this out in a safe place? I'm so glad the massage is really helping your pain.

Heather - Take care of that wrist and don't overdo, woman!

Kim - Woot! Way to go on bowing up to your mom's behavior and helping her correct it! Congratulations, too, on being asked to officiate at your dear friends' wedding. What a lovely request to get from people you care about.

Should have looked at the weather earlier - looks like the storm is going to get here any minute, and I need to go batten down a couple hatches...

Later, y'all,
Love,
Lisa

Whidislander

I have gained weight! I removed my weekly weigh in chart from the bathroom wall, because when I started it 2 years ago I was 249. Now I am 250. So in the scheme of things I have only gained a lb. I got down to 229 in "my heyday" but its back up. I am trying to give myself grace about it all. I have a lot on my plate, pun intended!😜. I am doing ok, just didn't need that darn piece of paper staring at me.
-stop buying carbs ie; chips and cookies
-drink more water, less coffee
-stop buying creamer for my coffee
-go to the gym with husband
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa

kevrit

2023 Mindful May

Word of the year: Appreciate : today I appreciate my iPhone for information.,

Exercise goals added
Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week 1/15 100%,100%,80%,73%)
Walk 7,000 every day 3/31 (84%,86%,94%,93%)
6 min HIIT -1x a day start April 1- 0/31 (93%)
Arm weights twice a week 0/10 (100%, 60%hurt my elbow, hurt my shoulder 30%,50%)
Meditation: daily. 3/31 (82%(started Feb)94%,100%)


1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(100%,100%,0%,0)
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 10818, (7,700,100%-9851,100%—9526,100%—-9,559,100%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 0/2 —(100%,100%,100%,100%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 42/208/ —(100%,100%,100%,50%should be 86 by June1)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)35/94 (100%,100%,100%,100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4 (100%,100%,100%,0%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 3/25 (100%,88%,100,100)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 18/12 (100%,100%,100%,100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR——4/12—(100%.100%,100%,100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700, (100%)

January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met
June met
July met — met
August met
September met
October met —
November met—
December met—

1. Do something kind for someone you really care about. I need to think about this and plot! I gave my son a gift card to Netflix. He needed something to make him smile.
2. Focus on what you can do instead of what you can’t. I will try. Did this.
3. Take a step toward an important goal no matter how small. I have to think about this. I did not buy beer today. Working on not enabling my DH.
4. Send a friend a photo of a time you enjoyed together. DONE!

5. Let someone know how much they mean to you and why.
6. Look for people doing good and reasons to be cheerful.
7. Make a list of what matters most to you and why.
8. Set yourself a kindness mission and help others today.
9. What values are important to you? Find ways to use them today.
10. Be grateful for the little things, even in difficult times.
11. Look around for things that give you a sense of awe and wonder.
12. Listen to a favorite pieces of music and remember what it means to you.
13. Find out about the values or traditions of another country.
14. Get outside and notice the beauty in nature.
15. Do something to contribute to your local community.
16. Show your gratitude to people who are helping to make things better.
17. Find a way to make what you do today meaningful.
18. Send a hand written note to someone you care about.
19. Reflect on what makes you feel valued and purposeful.
20. Share 3 photos of things you find meaningful or memorable.
21. Look up at the sky and remember we are a part of something bigger.
22. Find a way to help a project or charity you care about.
23. Recall 3 things that you’ve done that you are proud of.
24. Make choices that have a positive impact on others today.
25. Ask someone else what matters most to them and why.
26. Remember an event in your life that was really meaningful.
27. Focus on how your actions make a difference to others.
28. Do something special and revisit in your mind tonight.
29. Today do something to car for the natural world.
30. Share a quote you find inspiring to give others a boost.
31. Find three reasons to be hopeful about the future.

RVRita in NM

myvt9v4crh

My daughter has plans for me today. I have mixed feelings about the day. I was up very late last night waiting for DH to return from his doctor’s appointment. He was tired from the long time he was there. He was also doing okay.

Today is evidently my day for a doctor visit. Oh well—

Katla

GodMomKim

Katla - Keeping track of your own health is critical to be all you can be for DH, your kids, and grandkids.... not always a fun day, but it can help assure more fun days in the future.

smiles Kim

fanncy0626

We’re on our way to San Diego to see the grandkids. We are going to surprise them tomorrow morning at their school Grandparents Day. Today we will be going to Old Town San Diego. Has anyone been there? If so any must see places? Any restaurants that we should go to?

Have a great day!

💕Mary from Arizona/Minnesota

evie1958

Kim how wonderful that your mom is “seeing the light”! You certainly deserve her appreciation for all that you are doing for her! Also congrats on being asked to officiate the young couples wedding, such an honour.
Allie I wish I had wise words for you and your Tracey, but I got nuthin…… hope some virtual hugs will help! {{{HUGS}}}

The weather has cooled off considerably from yesterday, won’t be spending much time at playgrounds today, glad we took advantage yesterday!
Not much planned for today. I do have my granddaughter, but she seems to be wanting a quiet day too. I think I’ll just do as much crocheting as she’ll let me! lol
Hugs for those needing them, congrats to those celebrating and welcome to the newbies!
Evelyn, Vancouver Island

cityjaneLondon

Kim - that is a real tribute to your character! Wonderful.

DH on his way home. Dinner is cooked. I've eaten mine. He will have to hang up the laundry. Can't do it with one hand! He also has to go out to vote. He will be knackered.

Painted a very simple anniversary card today. One handed. Not quite what I envisaged, but better than nothing. I've told him I won't be able to wrap his presents!

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

myvt9v4crh

My daughter will be coming to pick me up for a first visit to an MD since we came to Illinois. I understand that this is a woman doctor & I am looking forward to meeting her today. 🌸

Katla

cityjaneLondon

DH home. He has gone out to vote. I have poured him a drink and will heat up his food in the microwave. I call it love.

Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Vickil57

Debbie--Sending prayers for Destiny and her family. So much for one child to go though.
Tracey--No words just big HUGS!!
Kim--So happy for you on both points.
Katla--Good luck at the doctor today, hope she is someone you really like.
I am only working 3 hours tomorrow as our daughter is graduating college at 10. Sure hope she decides to get a job now.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE

dlfk202000

Got messages from dh when I got out of class last night(send during class but I don't check my phone then). He had fixed the sliding glass door-I had told him while he was at his mom's that it was messed up and I would help him when I got home from class. I would have helped before class but he didn't come home until I was leaving. SO, the messages were, he fixed the door BUT left it open, just for a minute and two of the cats got out. He asked son to help and he didn't come help so he was mad.
Got my kitten in pretty quickly- he was sitting up in the catnip. The other I got back in an hour later- same trick as always- open the catio door but close the bedroom window so no more cats can get out. He was in the catio not long after dark so I ran out, closed the door and then opened the window so everyone could go back in the catio. Not a huge thing because I have had to do it too many times. The little escape artists!!
DS was in one of his moods- happens every 3-4 months or so. Just shuts down- sleeps all day/night. It is a lot better than it was when he was in his teens. Now it is just one day and we know to just let him sleep- bugging him just makes it worse. Dh knows that but was still really mad at him.

Today I am off work.My usual day off. Dh is at his mom's now, going to lunch with Nick today, was supposed to go to the movies with a friend after going back to his mom's for her dinner. Great for me. A whole day to myself. The friend cancelled so he won't be going to the movies. I will enjoy the time I do have.
Plans are working in the garden, need to get things ready to plant or planted. Need to get mom's Mother's day gifts together. I will go up there tomorrow afternoon and spend most of the weekend.Coming home Sunday morning to go to a wedding at 2 for dh's co-worker.

grandmallie

Oh ladies please keep poor Tracy on your thoughts and if your a praying person do that too
She called me in tears ,she asked me to come pick up Carmine because she is out of control ,screaming and yelling both of them in front of Miles and that gets Miles upset..
I told her I could pick her up, but ahe would do the same thing to me..I think Tracy isn't getting enough sleep,work is getting tougher and dealing with a hormonal teenager is rough,I know most of us went through it.But Kyle is at work and she can't keep calling him at work..
So Ugh I just dont know what I can do to help the poor girl out.

minicooper452

Welcome newbies and returnees! (((hugs))) to those who need them.

Rebecca, I just don't even know what to say. I've been reading this and alternating between crying for you and RAGING at how thoughtless he's being. I really just don't understand some children. I'm so sorry.
(Kim, I'm thinking if we ALL gang up on him, we could do some heavy-duty yankin' as Lisa suggests! LOL)

Falling is truly my WORST FEAR! Hope you both heal quickly, Heather and Rori!

I'm so sorry Tracey. I love my job, just really don't like some of the people I work with or work for. I can't imagine what you're going through though. It sounds just horrible and I totally understand not being able to leave. Sending positive prayers for whatever that means for you.

OMGosh Kim!!! What wonderful news on both counts! Such an honor to be asked to officiate a wedding of a dear friend and I'm really glad your mom seems to be trying.

4. Send a friend a photo of a time you enjoyed together... interesting, okay, I'll have to look around and find something.
Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN

Snowflake1968

Heather - I had to Google Hubris. Sometimes those checks from the universe really do “knock us down a peg”, as my grandmother used to say.

Sorry that you have a fracture, hopefully it doesn’t disrupt your cruise. You’ve been so looking forward to it.

Annie - I would change the batteries in the fire alarm to be safe.

Mary - do you have to drink the bone broth? Is there a way to get it without tasting it?

Barbara - I am printing copies and bringing them home. I need to go back and add some notes from conversations too. Very little of this is in writing, she’s too clever for that.
You’ll have those protections for the next storm, then it’s in the right order. 🐎

Vicki - I don’t know how some of these young people ever get started. Rents are astronomical and they don’t make much yet.

Annie - is your home all solar powered?

Rori -glad you don’t have any breaks.

Ginny - what a mess with that explosion.

Kylia - years ago I tried the transition lenses and never did get used to them. I think one reason is because I craft so much and colours need to be true. They turned to easily on me.

Machka - I have never had to have my eyes dilated either. However, DH had to have his done the first time he saw the eye doctor. They were looking for a specific thing that can occur in diabetics.

The stress I’m experiencing at work right now is causing my BP to rise. I’m on a very mild BP med but she may need to up it.

I do not set goals or do To Do Lists.
However, if there is a deadline or something coming up I will meet that deadline. I am pretty neat and tidy so I tend to putter a lot to keep things tidy.

Barbara - I think I would be more than a teensy bit resentful. I worked hard for a long time to lose weight and DH only wanted junk. When he decided to get healthy and start eating better he expected me to change every food brought in the house. I was angry!

Allie - you had me curious, that piece in the Today show is on YouTube. I see what you mean about one looking like Rebecca’s son, but a lot of them looked similar to me. Maybe it’s the uniform and moustaches.

Debbie - Desiree is in my prayers.
I’m surprised, they wouldn’t even do my DH’s eyes unless he could prove he had a driver.
Bluey is actually a kids show I don’t mind. “Tactical wee” is funny!

Evelyn - have a wonderful trip. I was thinking this morning that I wish. Had some skorts. I have to check Costco.
You son is in SK correct?
Security guards are not supposed to donate uniforms, they are supposed to return them to the company for proper disposal. Some have been found in thrift stores and in garbage bins by homeless. I remember getting a call from the police that one of our uniforms was used in a robbery. So sad.

Lisa - I’m going to have to find those muddy bites. It’s better than the Drumsticks I’ve been buying. 😂
I have been struggling terribly about denying my cravings so I’ve been getting what I want.
The only good thing is I don’t keep my favourites in the house. I have to be willing to go get them and a lot of times I’m too lazy.

I cried at work for almost an hour yesterday. I’m sure my supervisor is being used as a pawn in a game to make me leave and doesn’t know it.
SHE was in today but didn’t speak or acknowledge me again. I don’t know if it’s good or bad.

For those of you looking for a good show, you could try Alaska Daily. No word on a Season 2 but Season 1 was really good.

I have been complaining since our daughters wedding about my hip and back after falling in the bouncy house. I had started to do a lot better in December/January but the travel day back from NB had me all locked up again and I was in a lot of pain.
Last night I had my 4th massage therapy appointment and I wish I would have tried this route years ago. I am still in a bit of pain but better than I have been in years.
Tonight I was able to cross my legs for the first time!

Evelyn - security companies used to hold pays hostage too. They made that illegal here in AB though. Also, can’t charge employees for uniforms now. I think it’s a positive step myself.

Allie - I think every child and teen does more for others than they do their mothers because they know their Mom will be there.

Poor Tracy - maybe she needs to go to a parenting class to help her learn how to help Miles and Carmine. Carmine needs a lot of love and encouragement. He’s going through a very difficult time.

As many of you know my SIL is transgendered, his mother told me that the anger he went through was petrifying. She is a professor of psychology and still struggled with it. When he finally admitted that he wanted to have the surgeries and they supported him 100% without trying to change him the whole house felt the relief they have a very close relationship now.

I don’t know for sure but from what you have said, they keep trying to make Carmine be something he’s not and isn’t supporting him 100%. He will continue to be angry because he wants to be loved for who he is like all of us.

Annie - I hope your roofing job is only one day. It’s a lot of noise for sure.

Kim - what an honour to be asked to officiate their wedding. I’m glad your Mom is using some manners.

Lisa - as I write this I am at my doctors office to get some advice.

SHE was in again today and I just pretended nothing was wrong. I didn’t give her an opportunity to need to speak to me.

I also had a response from one of the jobs I applied on today. I have to do a pre screening, which I’ll do this evening.

Rodger offered to go to work for me and punch her in the mouth. 😂 Leave it to a man to resort to violence first. In seriousness though, we have reached an agreement that he’ll support any decision I make to get out of there, he doesn’t like how I’m being treated. Financially, I’m just not in a place I can walk without something to go to.

Tracey in Edmonton

evie1958

Tracey yeah, I don't think what the housecleaning company was doing was totally legal, but most of the staff were young women who either didn't know better or wouldn't stand up for themselves. They went thru staff very quickly sometimes, the work was physically harder than a lot of them thought it would be.
Allie, I do feel for Tracy and Carmine and you! As I said before, wish I had some words of wisdom for you!

At the school with the grands, lovely play area for themalthough it's bigger so harder to keep track of them. Need to go reprimand dhd now!

Evelyn, Vancouver Island

grandmallie

Tracey- thats just it,Carmine is so confused she is dating a boy,so she is back to a she,but still dresses like a sloppy boy and still goes by Carmine not Taliah
Tracy is sleep deprived and trying to deal with everything and its getting on her last nerve.. im hoping she doesn't end up having a nervous breakdown like her dad did.
Well good news and bad news..
Bad news first.. got a call from my friend Dave the one im going on the cruise with and his girlfriend, well they are canceling she is back to drinking.. he went over there because Linda's mom fell down and she couldn't pick her up and he is just fed up.
So I guess its me myself and I.
And I got the gaul up and booked a cruise on Celebrity Cruises for Oct 2024 solo again...
Ahhh why not.. its refundable just in case doesn't have to be paid off until July of Next yr.

TerriRichardson112

Tactical wee! 😝 I’m hoping they will become a thing of the past 😝

☘️

pipcd34

Stats for the day-

Walk w/family- 1hr 49min 32sec, 74elev, 3.34ap, 88ahr, 112mhr, 6.11mi= 591c
Strava app= 749c
Zwift home spin bike- strava stats- 14.01min, 39elev, 158aw, 22.1amph, 25gear, 110ahr, 157mhr, 5.16mi= 151c
Strava app= 126c
Zwift stats- 14.03min, 42elev, 157aw, 67arpm, 22.03amph, 5.16mi= 127c

Total cal 742

Made onion soup mix, we’ll c what it tastes like when I add it to sour cream for dip.