WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2023

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  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,278 Member
    Put MFP on my phone so now I can check in when I am not home.
    Heading up to mom's soon. Need to finish packing and cut some roses for her.
    Have a great weekend

    Debbie
    Napa Valley, Ca
  • myvt9v4crh
    myvt9v4crh Posts: 391 Member
    (((Kim)))— Your mom is so lucky to have you. Too bad for her that she has a contrarian attitude and doesn’t realize how lucky she is. Is there a senior center nearby where she might make a friend or two?—and you might have some time for yourself?

    Katla
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,912 Member
    Rebecca,

    Once someone has been incommunicado for as long as Owain has, it is likely that he would anticipate being held accountable for his behavior, and not in a good way, but in a way (dread and guilt) that may heighten his desire to “escape” again, and make it even longer and more difficult next time.

    What would happen if, when he finally shows up, you welcomed him casually, as you would your other sons, and didn’t mention how horrid he has been or how long it’s been or how worried you have been? You’d have to practice your poker face, of course, because you wear your emotions on your sleeve. <3

    I’m just curious how he would react to being treated as if you saw him just last week.

    Karen in Virginia

    I would love to be able to prove that scenario! Most likely he had a month leave from overseas sea duty to his next command, so if he was to come visit, that would've been the time. Now he is at a new command, the low man on the totem pole so he is low on seniority. I think my first response will of course cry like a loon, then hug and keep him close. I could never be casual!😜💖
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,912 Member
    I am minimalistic with what I wear. I have 2 pull on black jeans, 3 long sleeved shirts, 4 short sleeved shirts, and 2 fancier short sleeved shirts. I have 2 exercise pants, and a Capri length jeans. I have 4 pairs of socks, and 4 pairs of undies. I have a fleece pullover, rain jacket, pair of flip flops, swimming suit, pair of clog shoes, and a pair of tennis shoes. That's about it. My clothes in a nutshell. Most is grays, blacks, reds, and blues.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    Tracey
    No he gets upset when Miles wakes him up, so Tracy sleeps on the couch with Miles on top of her and he will toss and turn so she is lucky tto get 4 hrs of sleep a night.
    Kyle leaves around 6:25 in the morning and I get there right after so Tracy doesn't have to get Miles in the car to get Carmine to the bus stop.
    Rich ,Tracys dad had a nervous breakdown when I was 9 months pregnant with Dan ,it wasn't great...thank goodness for his parents who kept us afloat.
    Well its 2 am here and here is hoping I can get back to sleep.

    Can Tracey set up a bed in Miles room?

    The current setup doesn't seem healthy for either Tracey or Miles.

  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,983 Member

    A couple decades ago I tried a variation of the "Zone" diet (Dr. Barry Sears) which advocated eating protein at the start of every meal or snack. It also advocated 40% carbs, 30% fat and 30% sugar. I did pretty well on it, by the way. Her strategy reminds me of that a little. I'm keeping nuts and cheese handy as appetizers.

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State

    30% sugar? Is that a typo? Surely you meant protein.

    I feel like I've really had a handle on my eating this week/month. I have logged every day, getting somewhere in the neighborhood of 1700 calories. I've hit way over 100 g of protein each day and walked at least 10,000 steps. I've even done my 3 minutes of exercise every single day. Once I've done 3 minutes every day for a month, I'm going to up it 3 days a week to 15 then later 30. Right now the 3 minutes is showing me just exactly how far I have fallen from my days of being a gym rat before the pandemic. Furthermore, I've lost over half of the weight I put on during my father's illness last year. The anniversary of his death is June 20th. I would like to have lost it all by then. At least that's my goal.

    I haven't previously shared my worries about my son over the last year or so, but I am happy to report that he is in a new job and much, much happier. He seems to be coming out of his funk, too, which is helping a lot with my own frame of mind. I feel like I do a pretty good job of compartmentalizing it, but it is always there.

    One of my former bridge club members passed away this week. Her funeral was Wednesday. I still play with her niece. I attended the funeral with another current player. She was 84 and had been in bad health for a while, although we didn't realize it was as bad as it was.

    As for clothing, I wish I could be a minimalist with mine, but alas! I am not. During the week, I do pretty much live in workout leggings and a solid, over-sized vee-neck tee. I have leggings in many colors, but gravitate to the black ones. For casual activities I tend to stick to jeans and a sweater in the winter, but I love skorts in the summer. I also have a wide variety of skirts and dresses that I wear to church and other church type activities. I took an online class to learn how to best dress for my body type, and I try to follow those "rules" when I do dress for social occasions. I kind of went crazy went I lost my first 50 lbs and needed new clothes. If I ever succeed in dropping the last 30 or 40, I will take a more minimalist approach to buying my new wardrobe, using my knowledge from my class.

    Speaking of skorts, someone was saying they would like to find some. I can't remember who. Margaret, maybe? I have bought them from several sources, some inexpensive, some quite pricey. I have found Belk is a good place for mid-priced ones and Kohl's has some really good ones for less than $20 when they put them on sale. My favorite one is from Talbot's, but even on sale, it was not cheap.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    kevrit wrote: »
    Sorry about this but it helps me to list things out and talk to you ladies. I know others are in much worse situations, but just a note helps me tremendously.
    RVRita

    Rita - It really is OK to talk to us about where your head is...As Spider Robinson said, "Shared pain is lessened; shared joy increased..."

    Good morning so far... overdid a little outside to finish up pulling all the vetch, so am relaxing this afternoon with food porn--I love the competition baking shows when I just want to chill and relax. The good part about my leaky little sieve of a mind is I can watch the series over as soon as I forget who won the overall. Silver linings everywhere!

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR

    And, as always I pushed it too far, because I decided I'd relieve Corey of one of the grocery store lists tomorrow, since he's getting my oil changed at the dealer. But, I've made it back home again with my feet up, sitting on my heating pad and pain meds starting to work.

    I had some clothes delivered today, and once I opened the bag, I realized that I have very specific clothing that I will buy - For instance, I don't wear prints. Ever. I wear solid colors, both top and bottom. Right now, I'm wearing soft black pants with everything, due to the need for speed when you have colitis. Do you have specific designs that you stick with? Or styles? Are you adventurous with your clothing choices? Just asking.

    Love, y'all,
    Lisa in AR

    I have a variety because I've got different categories of clothing:

    - work
    - casual Fridays
    - home
    - cycling
    - running/exercise
    - garden
    - bees

    Work: dresses, skirts and tops, occasionally capris, as winter comes on I'll wear slim pants. Dark colours on the bottom, brighter colours in solids or prints on top.
    Love the Jacquie dresses and have quite a few: https://jacquie.jgl.com.au/shop/je-womens-dresses-all

    Casual Fridays: Capris, jeans, less formal skirts or dresses.

    Home: Shorts or stretchy pants (used to be called "haram" pants back in the day), tank tops or T-shirts

    Cycling: full kit in summer or long-sleeved exercise tops in winter. Bright colours.

    Running/exercise: knee or full length running/exercise tights with longish tanks or Ts. Bright colours.

    Garden: I have specific shorts or jeans I wear out there with tanks or long-sleeved tops. Older clothes.

    Bees: Light full length pants and a light coloured T-shirt. And of course my bee jacket.


    I'm particular about texture and temperature.
    Texture: Must be smooth to the touch - nothing rough, nothing fuzzy. Polyester/elastane or cotton are good.
    Temperature: Must be cool to wear. Nothing tight around the neck. Prefer sleeveless or short-sleeved unless it is quite chilly.

    This, for example, really appeals to me and I might pop into Jacquie on Monday to see if they've got one in my size.

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    Right now, I'm looking for a very light-weight, 3/4 sleeve "suit jacket" I could pop over a dress like that if I have to go into a meeting.


    Machka in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    GodMomKim wrote: »
    Hi Gals,
    Ok ladies, help!

    Mom wants to help me – her only “love language is cleaning” so last week I had her clean the top kitchen drawers. Well, they are clean, but they are completely rearranged. I am finding it hard to find things. I don’t know what else to have her do as a chore.

    There is very little I am willing to have her clean outside of the kitchen as I don’t want her going through my personal items.

    She has her scrapbooking here but will not do it as looking at pictures “remind her of better times that will not ever happen again” She thinks it is too cold to be outside, she can’t manage the vacuum and her walker, She can’t do anything that requires her to get down on the floor. Is not computer literate. I had her help make dinner last night it took 90 minutes to make a green salad, which is fine if I plan enough ahead. I tried to suggest that she make dinner once a week, she said no.

    I really need 3-4 hours of something to keep her occupied every day. And I am out of ideas ( No TV, no movies, no music – she does read 2-3 hours a day) And it has to be here. No senior center as it is too embarrassing to be seen in public with a walker.

    Smiles,
    Kim in N. California

    Does she like any crafts like knitting, embroidery, colouring?

    M in Oz
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,079 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    edited May 2023
    It’s Coronation Day in UK. King Charles III will be crowned in Westminster Abbey between 11am and 1pm.

    I remember the Coronation of Queen Elizabeth 11 on 2 June 1953. I was 7 years old.

    We were squeezed into the parlour of the only neighbour in my Nana’s street who had a huge cabinet TV with a tiny screen. As one of the younger girls, I was right in front of the screen.

    It was much more impressive when I saw it in colour at the Saturday matinee at our local cinema a week or so later.

    The coverage has already started on TV. I am watching the style of the guests arriving at the Abbey.

    ☘️ Terri

    Yes ... it's just about the only thing on here so we've watched a bit. :)

    It looks like the King's Procession begins at 7:30 pm here.

    M in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    edited May 2023
    Machka9 wrote: »
    kevrit wrote: »
    Sorry about this but it helps me to list things out and talk to you ladies. I know others are in much worse situations, but just a note helps me tremendously.
    RVRita

    Rita - It really is OK to talk to us about where your head is...As Spider Robinson said, "Shared pain is lessened; shared joy increased..."

    Good morning so far... overdid a little outside to finish up pulling all the vetch, so am relaxing this afternoon with food porn--I love the competition baking shows when I just want to chill and relax. The good part about my leaky little sieve of a mind is I can watch the series over as soon as I forget who won the overall. Silver linings everywhere!

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR

    And, as always I pushed it too far, because I decided I'd relieve Corey of one of the grocery store lists tomorrow, since he's getting my oil changed at the dealer. But, I've made it back home again with my feet up, sitting on my heating pad and pain meds starting to work.

    I had some clothes delivered today, and once I opened the bag, I realized that I have very specific clothing that I will buy - For instance, I don't wear prints. Ever. I wear solid colors, both top and bottom. Right now, I'm wearing soft black pants with everything, due to the need for speed when you have colitis. Do you have specific designs that you stick with? Or styles? Are you adventurous with your clothing choices? Just asking.

    Love, y'all,
    Lisa in AR
    I have a variety because I've got different categories of clothing:

    - work
    - casual Fridays
    - home
    - cycling
    - running/exercise
    - garden
    - bees

    Work: dresses, skirts and tops, occasionally capris, as winter comes on I'll wear slim pants. Dark colours on the bottom, brighter colours in solids or prints on top.
    Love the Jacquie dresses and have quite a few: https://jacquie.jgl.com.au/shop/je-womens-dresses-all

    Casual Fridays: Capris, jeans, less formal skirts or dresses.

    Home: Shorts or stretchy pants (used to be called "haram" pants back in the day), tank tops or T-shirts

    Cycling: full kit in summer or long-sleeved exercise tops in winter. Bright colours.

    Running/exercise: knee or full length running/exercise tights with longish tanks or Ts. Bright colours.

    Garden: I have specific shorts or jeans I wear out there with tanks or long-sleeved tops. Older clothes.

    Bees: Light full length pants and a light coloured T-shirt. And of course my bee jacket.


    I'm particular about texture and temperature.
    Texture: Must be smooth to the touch - nothing rough, nothing fuzzy. Polyester/elastane or cotton are good.
    Temperature: Must be cool to wear. Nothing tight around the neck. Prefer sleeveless or short-sleeved unless it is quite chilly.

    This, for example, really appeals to me and I might pop into Jacquie on Monday to see if they've got one in my size.

    cjvkidangunm.png


    Right now, I'm looking for a very light-weight, 3/4 sleeve "suit jacket" I could pop over a dress like that if I have to go into a meeting.


    Machka in Oz


    The colours I like to wear and use to decorate my place ...

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    M in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,701 Member
    Today's exercise ...

    Brisk walk on treadmill with a bit of a jog in the middle:
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    Plus rowing:
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    Plus some weights.

    Plus hacking away at a garden bed with a mattock.


    Machka in Oz
  • Rosemarie2972
    Rosemarie2972 Posts: 503 Member
    My closet has clothes of different sizes. A couple of years ago I was a size 18 and purchased capris from the North Style catalog. A few of these were print on the bottom with solid tops. I wore only black bottoms for years but started with print bottoms last year. Now the 18s are tight on me and I am trying to decide what to do. I need 1x's or size 20. The 18w's are too wide for my hips. All my weight is on my stomach. For church I wear black pants and a top. I seldom wear jeans or black jeans...too hot here in middle GA. I haven't worn a dress in over a decade.

    I was planning to try Catherine's or maybe Torrid for size 20. Anyone have any idea where I can find size 20's?

    Best,
    Rosemarie from Georiga
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,296 Member
    edited May 2023
    Beth did they put down rebar to strengthen the driveway if they only put down a base of rock that is not enough for a driveway. Ask him about it. If not why not.

    Rita the latest summit on Pet Summit was about our energy and our dogs energy and how they are connected. Your stress meter is off the charts. Much of what you described you have no control over. What I learned in the summit is what you do have control over is what you do to respond to that stress. One suggestion like Barbie suggests is start with a gratitude journal. I know it is hard when you are in the middle of what you are going through. Take moments to just breathe in the beauty of the nature that surrounds you and breath out all those things you cannot control.

    In that heat is there a place with AC you can visit. Picture yourself calmly driving in your borrowed vehicle reaching your destination. Parking in a place where you know it will not get scratched. Go to the movie, shopping mall, whatever you will enjoy and give yourself at least a 2-3 hour break.

    There is a Bach Flower essence called Rescue Remedy to give to dogs and people during times of trauma. Not all people or dogs react the same to it. It is given to dogs to help them with Fireworks. You have a few of those going on in your life. Rita Hogan was the expert they interviewed about Bach remedies. She said it is not like taking pharma meds. You take as needed. In some cases it can be much more frequent than meds you take. So the Bach Flower essences might help you and your chihuahua. Also with Bach remedies it is good to start taking them before the stressor hits. So if you know something is coming start taking it a day or two before. If you are already in the stress it can take the edge off to help give your nervous system support.

    DH sounds like he is having a hard time too so best to help yourself now. He will have to take care of himself.

    For your son encourage him to reach out for help. There are other jobs but only one him. He is more important than any job.
    Tell him you are working on your own struggles. Tell him about the things you are doing to improve your life and what is working and what is not. Ask he the same. What has worked for him to help his mental health.

    I gave you more ideas than you asked for. If any of them help use them if they don't put them in the I tried drawer and move on.

    I believe in you Rita you will find what works for you. You are not alone in your struggles. Here for you!
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,711 Member
    drkatiebug wrote: »

    A couple decades ago I tried a variation of the "Zone" diet (Dr. Barry Sears) which advocated eating protein at the start of every meal or snack. It also advocated 40% carbs, 30% fat and 30% sugar. I did pretty well on it, by the way. Her strategy reminds me of that a little. I'm keeping nuts and cheese handy as appetizers.

    Lanette B)
    SW WA State

    30% sugar? Is that a typo? Surely you meant protein.


    Good catch! Yes, 40% carbs, 30% fats, 30% protein.

    Lanette

  • myvt9v4crh
    myvt9v4crh Posts: 391 Member
    edited May 2023
    I am watching the Royal Celebration in Great Britain. Prince Charles will be King Charles today. The parade includes a horse drawn carriage & appears to be covered in gold. Wow! It is 7:20 am here in Illinois. ⭐️

    Katla
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,296 Member
    Yes I like Skorts too. Finally getting to wear them now.

    I have a variety of clothes. I like to wear the colors that make me feel good. Because of my coloring I do not have much white and yellows, corals, orange reds are out. I like natural fabrics like all cotton or wool if possible.

    For me it is not so much what I wear but what is my energy level. If I feel good and wear a smile I know I look good.

    Because I wash my clothes on cold, use a vinegar rinse to get rid of excess soap, and line dry my clothes my clothes last a long time so I am choosy when I buy anything new and look for more classic style rather than trendy.
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    myvt9v4crh wrote: »
    I am watching the Royal Celebration in Great Britain. Prince Charles will be King Charles today. The parade includes a horse drawn carriage & appears to be covered in gold. Wow! It is 7:20 am here in Illinois. ⭐️

    Katla

    I was curious about the carriage. It’s giltwood, painted gold and then covered with gold leaf. Queen Elizabeth once said the ride was uncomfortable.

    Karen in Virginia
  • myvt9v4crh
    myvt9v4crh Posts: 391 Member
    I am watching the Coronation of King Charles III on CNN. Congratulations for our British friends.

    Katla in Illinois
  • teklawa1
    teklawa1 Posts: 678 Member
    It's always been T-shirts and jeans with sweatshirts for me. Most of my clothes were black and dark blue... but a couple years ago, I discovered pull on jogging pants (from Costco) and love the big pockets that hold my phone and have no zippers. I have them in black, blue and light gray. The past two years I've gotten away from the dark tops and found I love yellow, purple and red. The brighter colors cheer me up. Most of my tops are solid colors. I've given away most of my work clothes and all but two of my dresses.

    (((Rita))) ...
    (((Rori))) ...
    (((Heather)))
    Prayers for Destiny

    Kim, could your mom scrub and shine your pots and pans? Or maybe oil and dust any wooden cabinet doors? :neutral: It is hard to think of something she can do without messing up your order of things. You are amazing and you're making this work. I admire you.

    Betsy in NW WA



  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    edited May 2023
    Heather,

    Your dining room art display is so wonderful. Love the various pieces you and yours have produced.

    _______________

    I should be able to post a photo of my very first glazed pottery piece (an origami basket-like thingie) tomorrow evening. It will be coming out of the kiln tomorrow afternoon. Keep your fingers crossed! I have no prior experience with pottery. I chose celadon green and added a few sparing touches of purple and red. We shall see…

    I am still working on my embroidery journal but it’s slower work than I anticipated. I’ll post a photo of it soon.

    My spouse is really enjoying the coronation of King Charles. I’m seeing snatches of it as I putter around, cleaning and straightening up, walking the dogs, tending to plants, etc. It’s quite the spectacle! Lots of pomp and singing and ceremony! The crowds are phenomenal - over a million people have gathered in The Mall outside the Palace, despite the drizzle. I see the royal family on the balcony now - and the rain is really coming down now, oh dear…


    Karen in Virginia