WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2023

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  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 3,886 Member
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    2023 Mindful May

    Word of the year: Appreciate : today I appreciate my air conditioner. It broke last night and it will be over 88 degrees here today.


    Exercise goals added
    Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week 1/15 100%,100%,80%,73%)
    Walk 7,000 every day 4/31 (84%,86%,94%,93%)
    6 min HIIT -1x a day start April 1- 0/31 (93%)
    Arm weights twice a week 0/10 (100%, 60%hurt my elbow, hurt my shoulder 30%,50%)
    Meditation: daily. 3/31 (82%(started Feb)94%,100%)


    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(100%,100%,0%,0)
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 10818, (7,700,100%-9851,100%—9526,100%—-9,559,100%)
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 0/2 —(100%,100%,100%,100%)
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 43/208/ —(100%,100%,100%,50%should be 86 by June1)
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)35/94 (100%,100%,100%,100%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4 (100%,100%,100%,0%)
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 3/25 (100%,88%,100,100)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 18/12 (100%,100%,100%,100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR——4/12—(100%.100%,100%,100%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700, (100%)

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met —-90%
    April met——86.36%
    May met
    June met
    July met — met
    August met
    September met
    October met —
    November met—
    December met—



    1. Do something kind for someone you really care about. I need to think about this and plot! I gave my son a gift card to Netflix. He needed something to make him smile.
    2. Focus on what you can do instead of what you can’t. I will try. Did this.
    3. Take a step toward an important goal no matter how small. I have to think about this. I did not buy beer today. Working on not enabling my DH.
    4. Send a friend a photo of a time you enjoyed together. DONE!
    5. Let someone know how much they mean to you and why. It’s my brother’s 59’th birthday today. Going to call him. We never really call each other.
    6. Look for people doing good and reasons to be cheerful.
    7. Make a list of what matters most to you and why.
    8. Set yourself a kindness mission and help others today.
    9. What values are important to you? Find ways to use them today.
    10. Be grateful for the little things, even in difficult times.
    11. Look around for things that give you a sense of awe and wonder.
    12. Listen to a favorite pieces of music and remember what it means to you.
    13. Find out about the values or traditions of another country.
    14. Get outside and notice the beauty in nature.
    15. Do something to contribute to your local community.
    16. Show your gratitude to people who are helping to make things better.
    17. Find a way to make what you do today meaningful.
    18. Send a hand written note to someone you care about.
    19. Reflect on what makes you feel valued and purposeful.
    20. Share 3 photos of things you find meaningful or memorable.
    21. Look up at the sky and remember we are a part of something bigger.
    22. Find a way to help a project or charity you care about.
    23. Recall 3 things that you’ve done that you are proud of.
    24. Make choices that have a positive impact on others today.
    25. Ask someone else what matters most to them and why.
    26. Remember an event in your life that was really meaningful.
    27. Focus on how your actions make a difference to others.
    28. Do something special and revisit in your mind tonight.
    29. Today do something to car for the natural world.
    30. Share a quote you find inspiring to give others a boost.
    31. Find three reasons to be hopeful about the future.
    RVRita in NM
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 3,886 Member
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    grandmallie wrote: »
    Tracey
    No he gets upset when Miles wakes him up, so Tracy sleeps on the couch with Miles on top of her and he will toss and turn so she is lucky tto get 4 hrs of sleep a night.
    Kyle leaves around 6:25 in the morning and I get there right after so Tracy doesn't have to get Miles in the car to get Carmine to the bus stop.
    Rich ,Tracys dad had a nervous breakdown when I was 9 months pregnant with Dan ,it wasn't great...thank goodness for his parents who kept us afloat.
    Well its 2 am here and here is hoping I can get back to sleep.

    Maybe get Miles a portable crib to put in the living room so Tracy can get more restful sleep? Once Miles calms down and falls asleep, she could put him in the crib.

    On the other hand. Kyle needs to grow up and help her out IMO. MY DH never helped at night, but I would bring the baby to bed, I was nursing, and would let them sleep in my bed until they would sleep through the night.

    RVRita
  • myvt9v4crh
    myvt9v4crh Posts: 391 Member
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    Yesterday was busy. I had an appointment with the dermatologist regarding a problem spot on my right cheek, close to my ear. I haven’t taken the bandage off yet. I plan to leave it alone and wait until the bandage falls off on its own.

    DD & I also bought a new electric shaver for DH. He hasn’t used it yet. It is waiting for him to open & use. I hope he will like it. 🤞🏻

    Katla in Illinois
  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,332 Member
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    :)
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,425 Member
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    kevrit wrote: »
    Sorry about this but it helps me to list things out and talk to you ladies. I know others are in much worse situations, but just a note helps me tremendously.
    RVRita

    Rita - It really is OK to talk to us about where your head is...As Spider Robinson said, "Shared pain is lessened; shared joy increased..."

    Good morning so far... overdid a little outside to finish up pulling all the vetch, so am relaxing this afternoon with food porn--I love the competition baking shows when I just want to chill and relax. The good part about my leaky little sieve of a mind is I can watch the series over as soon as I forget who won the overall. Silver linings everywhere!

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,482 Member
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    GodMomKim wrote: »
    Katla - Keeping track of your own health is critical to be all you can be for DH, your kids, and grandkids.... not always a fun day, but it can help assure more fun days in the future.

    smiles Kim

    This is needlepoint quote important. Thanks for the reminder.💖Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,482 Member
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    ginnytez wrote: »
    Tracey-good to hear you have a supportive doctor. The airline job sounds interesting. I think you have some positives going on-that can make it easier to cope. If you go on sick leave there does the company give paid time off?

    Kim-hope your mother's attitude change lasts for a bit longer. Proud of you standing up and speaking your mind, Sometimes that is very hard for us to do-especially to a parent.

    Rebecca-at least now you have an idea of where your son is. Strange behavior but also could have nothing to really do with any of you. Sometimes all we can do is stand back and love them and wait for them to find their way. When our YS was tied up in a very bad relationship and making poor decisions I kept telling DH to say nothing and wait because our boy was still in there somewhere-and he was.

    YS did call last night and said we might have to cancel our Mother's day/his birthday cookout Saturday. When I asked what was wrong he said DIL had not heard from her dad in a few days (he lives near them). She went over to check and found him dead. Don't know any other details. I am on standby for whatever assistance I can provide. So very sad.

    Work from home day today.

    Ginny in Ohio

    I'm so sorry for your DIL, my condolences. 🙏
    In regards to youngest sons location, a vague passing of recollection from a sailor in his division saying maybe Cuba is not enough of a solid lead as to our son's whereabouts. So we're waiting for the dept of records/lost sailors to get back with us, after sending info to them. Strange that they can't tell you information on the phone, but you can via the mail. It seems all the same to me.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,411 Member
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    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    Well, my peut-être turned into, Oui, bien sûr, so I set out happily.
    When I got to Kingsway, a big dual carriageway along the seafront, I tripped halfway across the first carriageway, and ended up staggering across the raised central reservation, falling, and landing smack in the far one. By some miracle nothing was coming. I sprained my wrist, scraped my hands and was horribly shaken. Sore ribs.
    I crawled and slithered back to the reservation and some passing cyclists shouted to ask if I was OK. I said I was!
    Then a refuse lorry slowed down and asked if I was alright. He then stopped the lorry and he and a young woman got out and came across. They helped me to get across to the street corner, stayed with me, and rang DH. He came in the car to get me.
    So, I'm at home, icing my wrist, which is very painful. Ribs sore. But what a lucky escape! I hadn't even checked the far carriageway when I set off across the first one, because I always stop in the middle!
    So, I'm let off doing anything much today! :o
    The names of my helpers were Gary and Patricia, so I've emailed the council to commend them.
    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    I’m just now getting caught up. This scared the heck out of me. Made me tear up a little.

    I hope you are much better by now.

    Karen in Virginia
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,482 Member
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    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    We picked up our pots.
    This is my new thrown posy vase, to go with the tea light holder I made before.
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    And the mug with pencils on it is DH'S new one. My square pinch pot is for nuts, to go with the rwo previous ones for olives and chips. The painting is a quick one I did when Edie was here!
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    Also got lots of Italian fennel sausages and meatballs. Unfortunately, because it's summer, they didn't have the tweed cap DH was after.

    I managed it all, despite everything taking me twice as long and being twice as tiring. Even walking along the street, you have to avoid people bumping into you. Buses present their own challenges. This is all a good lesson.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    Love all the pottery and artwork. 💖 So bright and cheerful! You can't help but smile when you look at them!😁
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,482 Member
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    Heather googling "tweed cap, pertaining to food now".
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,482 Member
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    kevrit wrote: »
    Well, I’ve typed quite a bit this morning, so that is better. My therapist appointment went well. It helped my mood and I treated myself after by using their aqua massage chair for 1/2 hour then bought myself a Carmel sundae at Sonic’s. LOL. That helped too. She also changed my meds from a sustained release to an immediate release so it can take more effect when I really need it.

    Just for me, my stressors right now:
    1. My 11 year old chihuahua Brownie is in end stage heart failure
    2. My son is on the verge of another mental breakdown after losing his job
    3. My YDD is fighting with her in-laws (south vs north kinda thing and mom vs daughter-in-law)
    4. My car is 170 miles away waiting for the haunted/alien radio to be repaired and the loaner is a brand new 2023 that I am terrified of scratching.
    5. Last night our air condition went out and it is now 82 degrees at 10:00 am.
    6. DH has been in a really bad mood the last couple days. He doesn’t talk so I have no idea why
    7. I now have rheumatoid arthritis and a ‘trick finger’ that hurts like the dickens if i don’t move it on a regular basis, so at night I am awakened by tremendous pain in my left hand. Going to doc in a couple weeks for this.
    8. I am overwhelmed, worried, anxious, and depressed so gained 2 pounds last month. Trying to correct that and so far am doing ok.

    Sorry about this but it helps me to list things out and talk to you ladies. I know others are in much worse situations, but just a note helps me tremendously.

    RVRita

    Awe hugs my friend, just hugs!💖🤗 .
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 2,980 Member
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    Hugs for those wonderful ladies who need them, prayers for those who want them(both if you would like)

    Heading out for my walk then pick up Ezie from school. Will be heading to mom's as soon as she leaves to spend the weekend with mom.
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 9,735 Member
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    Rita- im so sorry your going through all of this.
    I only have the one bedroom and I dont think she would want to sleep on the couch and she is just as nasty to me as she is to her mother.
    They have a porta crib but just took it down. He falls asleep nursing ,she puts him in his crib..this morning he woke up bright eyed and bushy tailed chatting upma storm at 2 in the morning so Kyle was up both of them were until about 4 until he went to sleep again for a little bit.
    He only napped for about an hour and a 1/2 this morning..
    And he is chatting up a stoem most not understandable. But he is learning alot of words..
  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,411 Member
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    Rori…and I am so sorry for your accident as well. Healing vibes for you and for Heather.

    Karen in Virginia
  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,332 Member
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    B) Just reading along! Good wishes and prayers to all!

    Carol in GA
  • myvt9v4crh
    myvt9v4crh Posts: 391 Member
    edited May 2023
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    :)

    Katla

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